tea room 36 - Teh Alpine Chalet

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UniS Tue 07-Jan-14 23:15:53

Welcome to the Tea rooms newest incarnation. A cozy log cabin with a roaring log fire, comfy chintz sofas and a dedicated man about the house, our Butler, Mellors. Out of the windows you can see sparkling white snow gently drifted up under the green Christmas trees and bright blue skies. Children can all be packed off to play healthy outdoor stuff while we stay snug n warm in here with our mulled wine, tea,artisan hot chocolate and other beverages served in mugs, glasses or buckets.

The usual rules apply - no fisticuffs. And no messing with the aspidistra.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Tue 07-Jan-14 23:44:17

This is lovely, UniS.

::chucks another log on the fire::

beanandspud Wed 08-Jan-14 01:50:10

Very lovely!

<<snuggles under a blanket and watches the world go by>>

Scout19075 Wed 08-Jan-14 03:50:17

Is there someone to take SB before I lose my marbles? He's had me awake for over two hours for no good reason and I'm grumpy.

mistlethrush Wed 08-Jan-14 06:07:59

Nice tearoom Unis!

I feel your pain Scout - DH woke me up on Sunday night at about 3 ish... he got up at about 3.30 and then went back to bed in the spare room. At 5am I got up because I could hear the radio from DS's room and DH's audio thing from the spare room - both very quietly, but just enough to stop me getting back to sleep. This morning I woke up early thinking about what I need to do before leaving for a Hearing for work today... not the ideal start!

Scout19075 Wed 08-Jan-14 08:16:10

He was awake for over four hours in the end and it took me another 30/45 minutes to get back to sleep for about, if I'm lucky, two more hours of sleep. I have a massive headache now....

UniS Wed 08-Jan-14 20:17:07

Send small boy ovr scout. I'll take him for a long bike ride to wear him out.

WooooHOOOO, I passed my Cycle coaching qualification. I am now a Level two cycle coach- hurrah. SO I can stop using the phrase " trainee coach " when I write letters for parents of kids doing bike club .

mistlethrush Wed 08-Jan-14 20:48:46

Congratulations Unis!

Scout - I hope he has a better night tonight.

MC still had his light on at 8.05 - having gone to bed early as he was tired. [facepalm]

Donki Thu 09-Jan-14 22:42:59

<<Door opens and a long grey nose pokes in, followed by some long ears>>
<<Retreats briefly - and returns dragging a large hay bale>>
<<Fluffs up hay in the corner and lies down>>

Excellent work UniS. The Tea Room now has a resident cycling coach.

I hope that SB is sleeping soundly tonight Scout!

I should be in bed (I am exhausted after 4 days of unnacustomed brain exercise!) but I want to be awake if there is any chance of seeing the Aurora! Although the initial impact of the CME was much weaker than expected.

Donki Thu 09-Jan-14 22:43:25

<<Gets up and polishes the Aspidistra>>

mistlethrush Fri 10-Jan-14 08:47:19

Donki - how was the course apart from trying to fit a quart into a pint pot? I hope the start to term has gone as smoothly as is possible.

Donki Fri 10-Jan-14 17:31:55

Just on the way home, now. Course was very good, especially the lecture on Cognitive Control and language development. I had a really interesting chat with the researcher afterwards, too.

Donki Sun 12-Jan-14 17:13:46

<<Stamps hooves outside the door to get rid of snow>>
<<Comes in and looks round>>

Blimey - it's quiet in here!

<<Puts delicious warming soup out and a buffet tea>>

<<Looks suspiciously at the Aspidistra to make sure that JM hasn't nobbled it>>

<<Curls up on the sofa in front of the fire, accompanied by loud twangs as the it really isn't up to the weight of an equid!>>

beanandspud Sun 12-Jan-14 19:53:49

Shufty up Donki!

<<pours wine and snuggles up on the sofa next to Donki>>

I'm trying to finish assignments but I need a break. Mr Bean has been fab today entertaining Small Bean but I'm ready to relax for an hour.

Donki Sun 12-Jan-14 19:57:49

Hi Bean!

Someone else with assignments grin

I hope they are behaving!

Donki Sun 12-Jan-14 19:59:49

Just been watching The Hogfather with the YD.
He wants to watch Wee Free Men next. Such a pity it doesn't exist...

mistlethrush Mon 13-Jan-14 14:26:37

MC likes the hogfather. Have you come across the radio series with them? We've been listening to them for a couple of years (on and off of course) and MC enjoys them - Guards, Guards!, Mort, Wyrd Sisters. There's also an animated version of Wyrd Sisters.

Donki Mon 13-Jan-14 15:17:15

Interesting MT
I will keep my eye out for the radio series. The YD likes listening to stories on CD.

UniS Mon 13-Jan-14 17:36:46

boy and I have listened to wee free men on CD. boy loves it. now having hat full of sky as bed time story.
unis finds a corner of the sofa and wriggles in. my feet ache.
had a ski lesson this morn, worked v hard on technique for 3 hours! then took the boy out on the slopes for another few hours after lunch. he has got quicker than last year.but we had a route finding cock up on way back to chalet. ended up walking quite a way in ski boots.
fingers x ed for snow in the alps tonight.

How lovely that you are all still here! Have been out looking after Aged Parent and had no time for anything. Particular low point tonight, so no motivation to do all the things I should be doing and loitering in the chalet ....
... Wriggle is sitting next to me pretending she has no belly button. Not sure why.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Mon 13-Jan-14 19:54:09

Hello everyone!

::pours wine for anyone in need::

Donki Mon 13-Jan-14 20:00:14

《Waves from haypile》
I am playing on my phone supervising the YD's wash-and-teethbrushing before bed.

The YD had his first riding lesson today (well,apart from pony trekking preparation in the summer). He seemed to enjoy it - although it is a bit of a challenge logistically.

Expensive too - but quite frankly anything active that he will have a go at (and isn't Minecraft) is worth a go!

mistlethrush Mon 13-Jan-14 20:11:11

I've decided its too expensive for me - unless I can find someone that would like their pony out every now and then in exchange for some holiday looking after and shoeing money... Pity as MC had a natural seat when he has ridden on short pony rides - even down to the heels down.

MIstlehound is back to normal exercise wise again. She had a wonderful run yesterday.

LBD lovely to see you - sorry to hear you've been busy with aged parent troubles.

Remind me what kind of hound is Mistlehound ....
Ironically, living here so rurally, we have two friends with ponies who keep offering riding, but no time with various responsibilities ....

mistlethrush Mon 13-Jan-14 21:12:11

She's a lurcher - we've had her for just over a year now. CMot's also adopted a lurcher too!

I remember now when you adopted her. Do lurchers run away a lot- after rabbits or just overly independent? Apart from that worry, I have always liked the idea of lurchers.

mistlethrush Tue 14-Jan-14 09:25:14

We didn't know whether we'd be able to let mistlehound off the lead because when we got her she'd been in the pound 3x and the last time her owners didn't bother to get her out again. So - we thought either she ran off when hunting or escaped. However, that's turned out to be really far from the truth. She's very good - she does have the most wonderful runs if there are suitable dogs to run with - and will go fast and far in a large loop, but will come back to us. When out in the countryside, we can take her to where there are rabbits and she'll hunt them (hasn't caught a thing mind you) but keeps an eye on where we are and keeps moving in generally the same direction. She will come away when there are still rabbits to hunt too, although she's not particularly keen to come. I think that the breeding they have has a significant impact on their return qualities - saluki crosses can sometimes decide that they just don't want to come back and be happy to have a stand-off for an hour or so. Mistlehound is just too friendly and keen to please to do that. On holiday she's happy to be out and walking for 14 hrs or so with short stops for meals. At home she gets about an hour and a half or so of decent walk and is quite happy to spend most of the rest of the day asleep, unless you want to play with her when she's happy to oblige.

She sounds lovely. I have two hours off work and wish it would stop raining so that I could take Lebeauchien for a walk without a snorkel and flippers. Failing that, will make AP a cup of tea and think about tomorrows lessons.
Tea all round, anyone?

mistlethrush Wed 15-Jan-14 15:27:41

Yes please LBD. I think I would like a slice of parkin with it too if that's OK?

Donki Wed 15-Jan-14 20:47:00

Oooh! Gluten free parkin. Please may I have some too?

《Makes a fresh cauldron of tea》

Scout19075 Wed 15-Jan-14 21:35:05

Ooohhhh, tea. I could use tea. I'm so cold. I hate how damp winter is here.

Donki Wed 15-Jan-14 22:19:08

Help yourself Scout

mistlethrush Wed 15-Jan-14 23:36:14

Parkin is definitely gluten free.

Scout, there are plenty of warm drinks... and soup with homemade rolls that mc has been modelling grin

Scout19075 Thu 16-Jan-14 15:20:51

What's Parkin?

mistlethrush Thu 16-Jan-14 16:22:20

oooh Scout you're missing out - its lovely gingerbread, somewhat sticky, and is a northern tradition, it has oatmeal in it which gives it a 'different' texture and helps it store for ages - don't know whether this recipe is any good as I've not tried it - but its along those lines.

Donki Thu 16-Jan-14 20:10:35

School parkin was the best. I think it is Lancashire that makes a kind of ginger biscuit and calls them parkins (heresy)

Scout19075 Fri 17-Jan-14 10:03:04

Hospital clinic waiting rooms are very interesting for people watching.

mistlethrush Fri 17-Jan-14 19:27:18

Hope hospital visit went OK and waiting wasn't too long.

UniS Sat 18-Jan-14 17:15:00

oh bugger. I think I have lost my car and house keys end route to or
at the rl alpine chalet. aaaaaaaarggggh.

mistlethrush Sat 18-Jan-14 18:45:12

I hope that someone finds them and you get them back confused

Donki Sat 18-Jan-14 20:59:22

<<Puts out consolatory bucket of hot chocolate (with optional rum, brandy and cream) for all in need>>

I hope you get the keys back UniS
Scout - I hope the hospital visit went OK.

We have a mouse! (Or possibly mice)
Slither the cornsnake is clearly not earning his keep...

mistlethrush Sat 18-Jan-14 21:00:32

But you'd need to let him out to earn his keep....

Donki Sat 18-Jan-14 21:36:12

True MT grin

Donki Sun 19-Jan-14 22:04:36

I am sure that Slither would think me unreasonable - I can just imagine the thread in AIBU

AIBU to think that my owners are completely unreasonable to expect me to keep the house free of mice, when they won't let me out of my vivarium? grin

End of the weekend hot chocolate and bread and butter pudding (left over from tea) on the buffet.

UniS Mon 20-Jan-14 20:58:00

is it safe to come in?No snakes about??

that bread pud was good.
no keys found yet. bum.I think I shall have to go to lock smith during my lunch time on get some replacement keys cut. I'm currently using the spares.

skiing was good. had a couple of private lessons along with dh . instructor made us work hard on ironing out bad habits but it paid off and I was def skiing better afterwards.

Scout19075 Tue 21-Jan-14 09:55:57

<<Sets out a breakfast buffet for all those who'd like something to eat and drink.>>

Bad luck with the keys, UniS. I lost a car key to our old car and about six/seven years on MrScout will still give me grief about it if I say I don't have my (car) key with me.

We went to the Midlands over the weekend for our annual trip to the potteries for Christmas present shopping in the sales. Spent Saturday doing Boy-centric things. You know you're a regular, even if only once or twice a year, when some of the volunteers on the Steam Train recognize you.

SmallBoy was playing this morning and talking about brothers and sisters. I asked him if he'd like one and he said "Oh no!" I watched him this weekend watching families with siblings playing with each other and couldn't work out if he was envious/wishing he had a playmate in the form of a sibling or if he was just wishing he was brave enough to go and join in. Over Christmas he seemed happy enough to have his cousins to play with but he seemed relieved to be by himself again when they left/we left their house. I'm hoping it's just he was just wishing he could join in and then leave again.

Hospital on Friday was fine. Some good-ish news given so am feeling a little less bitter at the whole British medical system/process. Round two, which I was expecting wouldn't begin until mid-2015 (like May/June/July) based on previous conversations, will likely start between November 2014 and February 2015 (with things most likely starting in December or January). At least now that I have a more solid time frame I can begin to prepare and plan. The doctor said round two, with the three drugs, is very "rough" (her words, not mine) and "takes a lot of will power and dedication." As much as I wish I could have sorted it out years ago, when SB was little, in a way I'm glad he'll be five when I start -- so much more independent and self-sufficient and doesn't need a beady eye on him 24/7. Like now, he's been sitting at the kitchen table for nearly 90 minutes on his own, playing with his Lego. The only input he's needed from me has been to take flat pieces off of the base or other pieces. Otherwise he's been making his own creations and playing. I realize I am lucky that way -- that he likes to play on his own but when he wants to play board games he won't let up until someone plays with him.

mistlethrush Tue 21-Jan-14 10:11:36

I'm glad to hear that you've got some idea of timescale now - and its not stretching out indefinitely.

I think 5 will be so much easier than 2 or 3 Scout - he will actually have a concept of the fact that you're not feeling well, and you'll be able to explain to him that you will get better but its going to be quite a long time - and he should be able to retain that info and hopefully be OK about it - and also understand that you're not playing as much because you can't. I don't think it will be easy - but I do think it will be a little bit easier than if he was younger.

That was one of the things that really scared me when my levels didn't drop quickly after mcs post DS - I worried that the mp I had before DS was coming back and couldn't imagine how I would cope with chemo AND DS as a toddler at the same time.

UniS Tue 21-Jan-14 18:02:40

And small boy will have started school, which will bring its own raft of challenges but hopefully will allow you a few hours "off" 5 days a week to sleep/ feel rubbish in peace.

Donki Fri 24-Jan-14 06:17:39

Good luck with it all Scout .

mistlethrush Mon 27-Jan-14 08:54:42

UniS - have you managed to sort the keys out?

UniS Mon 27-Jan-14 09:43:37

have had new house keys cut and accept that I won't be getting the original ones back. they is proper lost. Still working up to getting replacement car keysad sad .
any body care for a cuppa and a biscuit to ease us into Monday morning. I need to finish my tax return
today's project.

mistlethrush Mon 27-Jan-14 10:21:27

Cuppa and a gingernut I think is in order... and 'quick finishing tax return' thoughts winging their way to you.

UniS Mon 27-Jan-14 12:05:11

Tis done. finished and submitted. Hurrah.

Bad news is that the friend who was going to pop in for tea has had a rubbish night with ill child. Good news is , Tax return is thus finished a little earlier so I shall go and knit n natter this afternoon.

Quiche for lunch as no bread till I bake more ( which will be done at tea time, we're having pizza)

Good call on the gingernuts MT.
Hows MC finding year 4 and cubs etc. boy has just started going to Beavers ( cubs is full for time being) and finds it all rather tiring.

mistlethrush Mon 27-Jan-14 12:47:17

The good thing about DS's cubs is that it runs after school - so I pick him up at 5.30 so its not a late night at all. Generally I think he's enjoying it quite a bit - went to a 'trading post' event yesterday and they did quite well so he was pleased at that. He's got an event at the outdoor centre in May - I'm girding my loins to go and 'help' with some of it as, from the sound of it, that is required and might be the best way of ensuring general safety (akela and baloo are quite elderly). So I think that might be 'fun' hmm But its not too far away and won't be the £££ that the London trip would have cost!

Donki Mon 27-Jan-14 22:23:34

Well done UniS!

MT - A major disadvantage of DS's Scouts is that it finishes so late that he struggles in school next day. This is not helping his anxiety/dislike around school - but I'm hoping that he will get used to the one late night a week, and the scout leaders did make an effort to make it more accesible for him last week.

[NOTE: post edited by MNHQ to remove what seemed to be a RL name]

UniS Mon 27-Jan-14 23:41:18

Not sure how boy will cope with Beavers in eth summer if he carrys on with bike club, one late night a week is hard, two is a nightmare. I think he will prefer bike club to beavers/ cubs but who knows.

Scout19075 Tue 28-Jan-14 10:06:30

All of this Scouting talk reminds me that I need to contact the BSA group that said SmallBoy could join. If they got their Lion Den up and going SB can join when he's in kindergarten but since they go by school year (and not age) I don't know if it would be this September or 2015 (if in the States he'd be the youngest in his class if he started in 2014 or the oldest in his class if he started in 2015 -- and most districts in the States are flexible with the start ages of kindergarteners and you don't have to skip kindergarten and go straight into first grade if you delay entry). Knowing what my brother did in Tigers and Weeblos and Cubs I think SB will enjoy it as long as the leaders don't ask for too much coloring in (he HATES coloring in) but if they do all of the other fun things -- making things, cooking, running around/games, fires, being outside, etc. -- he'll be a happy SmallBoyScout. Then again I have said I would stay and help with the Den/Pack so I'm sure I can steer things so there's not too much coloring in.

Yay for UniS and her completed forms but boo for still-missing keys.

Swimming day today -- hurrah! Half-an-hour where I get to sit down and talk to other adults with no pre-schoolers under foot -- double hurrah!

Scout19075 Sat 01-Feb-14 21:15:21

Jimmy can't really sing but Stomp and Paul are cool

I feel like singing and dancing around like a fool like my teenage self but there's no where for me to go and do it so I'm just going to play videos instead.

UniS Sat 01-Feb-14 21:35:30

You play scout.

mistlethrush Sun 02-Feb-14 08:27:50

I picked MC up from the university where DH had a rehearsal yesterday - as I was waiting for them to get out I was looking around and saw a uni cycle chained to the entrance railings... not something you see everyday! I just hope they weren't cycling about with an instrument on their back as well.

UniS Sun 02-Feb-14 22:06:19

Be alright if it was a piccolo or something like that. Trumpet etc I think I'd carry the case in one hand rather than in my back pack, but a big enough back pack would be OK. Or maybe it was the conductor, a uni would be fine if all your transporting is a baton and a score.

UniS Wed 05-Feb-14 10:05:06

any one flooded out yet. come and shelter in the tea room and drink tea.

Scout19075 Wed 05-Feb-14 10:10:05

We had rain overnight. We're currently in the middle of a sunny spell that's only meant to last an hour or so and it's meant to rain again until tomorrow. It's very windy, too. I hope SB's hanging bird feeder (currently hanging from a fence post around the wildlife area across the street) survives.

Are there any breakfast rolls/muffins/donuts? I'm a bit peckish this morning.

mistlethrush Wed 05-Feb-14 10:18:48

I think that there's something cinnamony around Scout. We've just got wet here... lawn a quagmire but not much surprise.

Scout19075 Wed 05-Feb-14 14:32:08

Bah, while certainly not flooded like lots of the country we are definitely soggy. I miss the summer. It's so windy, and coming in at such an angle, that out mailbox flap thing in our door keeps getting caught and banging. Scares me every time.

UniS Wed 05-Feb-14 21:31:12

Bah, the roof (slates) blew off the top woodshed and smashed the roof ( poly carbonate) of the middle woodshed. , DH has restacked the wood to keep it as dry as poss but I have roof repairs to do tomorrow or soon. House roof OK AFAIK, but will be doing inspection in daylight tomorrow. Work roof is leaking in an assortment of spots, landlord came and inspected today, with builder in tow, maybe he will be fixing it ...

mistlethrush Thu 06-Feb-14 08:39:15

UniS - good luck with the roofing - hope it goes as smoothly as possible, and that nothing's missing on your house roof. I wonder how long landlord will take to sort out roof at work?

My next door neighbour departed in an ambulance yesterday morning - I spoke to her cousin, who is a lot younger than her, and I believe the only relative she has - he's about 2 hrs away. No one has phoned him, and the careers she normally has in haven't been in touch... Bit worrying. She (ndn) remembers our house being built in 1926 - and when they moved in they had a cess pit and gas lighting - now all on mains etc of course, and the stream running down the road has all been piped in etc.

Scout19075 Sat 08-Feb-14 09:51:44

Another wet and blustery weekend. Bah. Though, from the sounds of it, things are a lot worse at home. Much rather have their snow than our rain, though!

Donki Mon 10-Feb-14 08:33:14

We are relatively lucky here - no flooding anyway.

mistlethrush Mon 10-Feb-14 09:08:05

Our lawn has almost submerged - but that's just a high water table...

UniS Mon 10-Feb-14 13:07:41

sandbags round the door at today's customer. snow at home yesterday. wonder what I'll see each morning as its been so variable recently.

UniS Wed 12-Feb-14 21:36:10

Oh dear- the boy has made a valentines card for one of his classmates. The one who I was told ( by another girl in the class at a birthday party) has a crush on boy.

Argggggh - just hope girls father doesn't take it badly.

UniS Wed 12-Feb-14 21:36:35

cos hes a BIG tall farmer.

mistlethrush Thu 13-Feb-14 09:14:53

This time last year, DS got a crush on a girl he went to holiday club with... Every sentence had her name in it and he was clearly head over heels... But he's not seen her since so she's been forgotten again! grin

Donki Thu 13-Feb-14 11:00:09

The YD says sadly that S (A girl he was friendly with at playgroup, in nursery, and reception) is still his friend, but she doesn't like him any more....
He had such grand plans for getting married to her.

UniS Fri 14-Feb-14 10:45:42

phew. valentines card delivered to girls tray and no fall out so far. half term has started. boy is deep in Lego this morning.

Scout19075 Fri 14-Feb-14 10:47:22

On Tuesday, after swimming, SB and his friend were playing in the changing room and all of a sudden she sat on the bench next to him and declared, "SB, we're best friends, aren't we?" SB looked at her, thought for a second and said very sincerely, "Yes, we are." And then they scrambled down from the bench to play with their pennies on the floor (they had been playing a rolling/catching/football type game with pennies across the floor before SB stopped to sit on the bench and have a drink).

Ahhh, to be four when friendships were uncomplicated!

Scout19075 Fri 14-Feb-14 10:55:23

At home (elementary) schools have parties for Valentine's Day. Most kids give a card to everyone in their class (little cheap cardstock type cards with cheap little envelopes that never stay stuck). Cards get put into a mailbox and then all of the cards are delivered during the party. I'm going to assume by posts here and around MN today/this week, this sort of thing doesn't happen in the UK? I miss the cheesie little cardstock cards. I used to give them to my Girl Scouts along with a chocolate or lollipop of some sort. I'm thinking of asking my Mom or my sister to pick up a box in the after V-day sales for SB and I to collect at Thanksgiving so he has them for next year.

Scout19075 Sun 16-Feb-14 08:49:52

Is that really the sun I see through my bedroom window?!

Donki Sun 16-Feb-14 10:21:31

We have some sun here - but also some very grey clouds.

UniS Sun 16-Feb-14 12:39:57

yay sunshine here too. family uni are going to go for a bike ride.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sun 16-Feb-14 17:39:11

Yay! A sunny day here too. Quite unprecedented.

mistlethrush Sun 16-Feb-14 17:58:38

We had a lovely sunny day today too - we delivered mc to grandparents (half way distance) and had a pootle round a NT property at the same time - nice walk in the sun for a change - and snowdrops out in the wild...

UniS Sun 16-Feb-14 23:02:12

Only got one wet foot each cycling through a BIG puddle on our way to take tea at the local castle. Actually boy didn't even get wet socks as his trainers are waterproof, but DH and I were both wearing "proper" cycling shoes which are largely mesh uppers.
Was good to be out on my bike, feeling very unfit tho as the boy was dropping me on every hill .

Scout19075 Mon 17-Feb-14 21:27:07

I've been on an 80s cheese fest and thought I would share.

I'm taking SmallBoy for a splash at the pool tomorrow and we're meeting up with friends. Also need to do some errands, etc.

Found out this evening that my high school friend who lives in Canada is definitely working out the details to go home for Thanksgiving in November. Fingers crossed she can swing it -- we haven't seen each other since graduation (high school) but we chat on-line several times a week and I so want to see her.

mistlethrush Mon 17-Feb-14 21:48:15

I've not seen anyone from school since I left - apart from one person 2 years above me who shared a house when she did a masters at Uni and I was in my 3rd year....

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Mon 17-Feb-14 22:05:05

::throws 80s shapes, since those are all she knows::

Scout19075 Mon 17-Feb-14 22:07:33

SB's Godmother is a friend from high school. I do occasionally run into people from grade school and high school when I go home (small suburban town and a lot of people from my grade school still live there or in the neighboring towns and they're parents' live in the town we grew up in). I have really only maintained proper friendships with the two mentioned friends from high school. I have some of the grade school and high school friends on FB but rarely have proper chats/interactions with them.

Stockhausen Mon 17-Feb-14 22:11:36

I nearly posted in here today, having a big only child wobble... but have come out the other side now... I think smile

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Mon 17-Feb-14 22:22:14

I'm glad your wobble is (probably) over, Stockhausen, but feel free to talk about it, if it is not.

Scout19075 Mon 17-Feb-14 22:41:25

Hello, Stockhausen. Pull up a chair to the fire and get comfortable.

Stockhausen Mon 17-Feb-14 22:42:36

Thanks smile

Scout19075 Mon 17-Feb-14 22:44:17

To celebrate CBeebies Dinosaur week. SB was enthralled today but not nearly as much as he was by Stargazing week.

UniS Tue 18-Feb-14 08:47:07

dinosaur week! by eck, TV is getting more interesting.
took the boy to the theatre yesterday to see an am production of Oliver. Boy enthralled.

mistlethrush Tue 18-Feb-14 10:04:13

Mistlechick can sing ALL of the songs from Oliver, although he's not seen it. He can also sing ALL of the songs from Joseph. And most of them from Return to the Forbidden PLanet. And Little Shop of Horrors blush. He's gone along to quite a few G&S now - and can sing some of those too blush

Hello Stockhausen - I've certainly wobbled about the only child thing - but DS is happy, sociable and has lots of friends and does lots of things he wouldn't be able to if he had a sibling, so I don't think he does too badly.

Coffee and walnut cake anyone?

UniS Tue 18-Feb-14 17:16:41

yes please. one of my favourite cakes.
I found out the expensive way that listening to internet radio on my phone is not a good solution to no internet at work. ouch.... £15 a day is too much for a dose of radio 4

mistlethrush Wed 19-Feb-14 10:15:37


Can you download things onto something instead UniS - even if that means you get everything a day late?

Scout19075 Fri 21-Feb-14 20:20:03

I have had a weird ol' day on Facebook and have had the following links on my wall today: Cheesy 80s video, Rapping News Anchor and Jazz does Metal. I have very eclectic friends. grin

UniS Fri 21-Feb-14 22:06:48

Yep- That was a weird day scout !

Who's been to see teh Lego movie this week? I have a new earworm - Everything is awesome.

Using mobile data for long period of time will NOT be happening again, I will be taking a battery radio with me next time I visit that particular customer. The run of poor net connection continued at a different customer the following day who was suffering from a flooded BT exchange, and thus no phone line or internet. Tho their staff member had forgotten about the second phone line which is not BT and was working when I reminded them of its existence.

Key woes continue- I have managed to break off in the lock one of the house keys cut 4 weeks ago to replace the lost on holiday set. Bum, £84 quid for lock smith to come and replace lock ( he did manage to remove key remains but pointed out that it was probably the sticky lock mech that had caused break.

But off set a bit by key joy- My lost keys have been found , behind a freezer in the boot room of the chalet we stayed on on holiday. All of them - house and car, are being posted back to me , hurrah. So glad I held off paying £200 for new car key.

Scout19075 Sat 22-Feb-14 16:00:50

We saw it during the preview weekend. It was <ahem> awesome.

Thumbwitch Sat 22-Feb-14 16:08:44

<<Peeks around the door>>
Hello! Long time no see - just saw you pop up in Active and thought I'd pop in and say hi!
I don't really belong in here any more but it's lovely to see you all here.

Scout - I still have the t-shirt, I'm just allergic to post offices and things, but I'll get it to you one way or another, even if I have to bring it with me to the UK at Easter and post it there!

Is the Lego movie really that good? We saw the trailer for it when we went to see Frozen and discounted it - might have to rethink.

UniS Sat 22-Feb-14 17:57:27

its a pretty good entertaining movie. not an earth shatteringly great movie but fun. Spot on for kids of 7-10 I'd say.Catchy tunes and a nice twist in the tale at the end.

beanandspud Sat 22-Feb-14 21:10:50

Hello all!

Half term is here finally, seems to have been a long time since Christmas holidays. Hoping to see the Lego movie at some point as I think Small Bean will love it.

Thumbwitch it's good to see you, will you be 'up North' over Easter?

<<Pours wine and serves cake for everyone>>

UniS Sat 22-Feb-14 22:47:37

ohh cake. thank you I seldom turn down cake

mistlethrush Sun 23-Feb-14 19:40:39

TW, add 'oop north' into schedule if you can! Would be lovely to see you even if only for a brief cuppa. And you are very welcome to stay put here, I hope you realise that... We're far from exclusive...

MC has been at my parents for half term - unforunately my mother managed to break her arm on Tuesday - luckily he was remarkably well behaved and quite helpful...

Thumbwitch Mon 24-Feb-14 01:46:39

Will see how we go - if it works, will try to add it in again! It's a bit harder travelling with the little one as well, he gets restless if he doesn't sleep, so long journeys are a lot more hard work. But will stay in touch and see how it goes... smile

mistlethrush Mon 24-Feb-14 15:41:11

The green place just north of us you visited last time we saw you would be particularly pretty at Easter... although I think there might be some muddy patches.

Donki Tue 25-Feb-14 20:34:54

The Donki household had an enjoyable end to the half-term - went and stayed in a Forestry Cabin with some friends. Back to school today (training day yesterday) - the YD had a two hour long meltdown last night repeatedly telling me that he would rather die than go back to school.... and another hour of it this morning before I managed to get him out the house. It left me utterly exhausted sad
Part of the problem is that the hard drive on the computer has died - so he cannot play on his beloved Minecraft.

It would be lovely to meet you Thumbwitch, if you make it Ooop North.

We also saw the Lego Movie. The YD thought it was brilliant - and both the DH and I enjoyed it too.

Donki Tue 25-Feb-14 20:37:14

Mistlethrush - sorry to hear that your mum broke her arm. I hope that it heals well. (I was watching one of your namesakes on the bird table today until it was chased away by a sparrowhawk - eeek!)

mistlethrush Wed 26-Feb-14 09:14:23

DS had a meltdown last night - it must be catching Donki. He had some mathletics to catch up with - but he had a whole lot of problems which he was set when he was ill that are really quite difficult (and he hasn't been shown how to do them at school so we've had to show him how to do them at home). If he'd concentrated and stopped sobbing, groaning and gnashing his teeth it would have taken 30 - 40 mins - but it took about 2.25 hrs and he missed choir as a result - he wasn't prepared to not finish it. He was pleased that he had finished it at the end. Some of the ones he had to do were very easy in ocmparison and he swept through them really quickly. We had to do tag-team parenting to cope with the frustration...

Hope YD has a good day at school today. What's the verdict on the computer - is it dead for good or is it salvageable?

Donki Thu 27-Feb-14 12:35:39

The hard drive is dead for good - so he has lost the world that he spend hours on, but has now managed to "let go" of it and started building a new world (and is being more careful about back ups - a learning experience!)

Donki Thu 27-Feb-14 12:35:39

The hard drive is dead for good - so he has lost the world that he spend hours on, but has now managed to "let go" of it and started building a new world (and is being more careful about back ups - a learning experience!)

Donki Thu 27-Feb-14 12:37:15

After another set of stressors landed on me, I have now been prescribed antidepressents (very cautiously by the GP since last time we tried them I could not tolerate the side effects) and been signed off work (and my course).

mistlethrush Thu 27-Feb-14 12:42:16

Sounds as though we need a RL brew with no children Donki....

Thumbwitch Thu 27-Feb-14 14:08:34

Not yet sure if I'm going to HG or not, still waiting to hear back. I might make it as far as Nottingham if I don't go all the way up; but that's not really far enough, is it. Well - if I do make it that far, I'll certainly try and fit in another meet-up smile

mistlethrush Thu 27-Feb-14 16:29:17

What are you waiting to hear back about? If it is accommodation I'm sure that can be addressed...

Thumbwitch Fri 28-Feb-14 09:40:09

Noo, not just accommodation - the friends I see in HG might not be there on a convenient weekend, or they might come south to see me instead.

mistlethrush Fri 28-Feb-14 10:01:54

That's completely unreasonable of them Thumb... can't go travelling south just so we can't see you!!! grin

UniS Mon 03-Mar-14 22:06:42

Hurrah for a day day on Saturday, it was soooo nice to see the sun again.

Boy was racing - I was organising races- Dh was generally helping out and being a star. Then we went bike helmet shopping for the boy, who has managed to wear out a bike helmet, rather than out grow it. Tho I realized it was over 4 years old and thus due for replacement soon anyway.

Any one care for a glass of wine and a game of beetle?

mistlethrush Mon 03-Mar-14 22:12:45

DS hasn't managed to grow out of his bike helmets as he's been in an adult size since he was 2 blush. His new (ish) one is now much better fitting than his old one became though!

Sounds as though the bikes have all been out at the weekend - DS and mini CMot's too!

UniS Mon 03-Mar-14 22:56:59

The worn out helmet was a youth size, the new helmet is same size, same manufacturer and almost the same design. Why change something he likes.

Quite an Islabike gang in the tea room aren’t they.

mistlethrush Mon 03-Mar-14 23:02:37

Yes, they are!

If the helmet fits and suits, why change it. DS just has a big head blush (and I'm responsible! blush) (I have a significantly larger head than DH!)

Donki Sun 09-Mar-14 03:19:25

The greatest depths of hell are reserved for those who knowingly betray family and children.

'D'H has told me this evening that he has been having an affair and is thinking of leaving for the OW.


mistlethrush Sun 09-Mar-14 08:54:01

Oh Donki, so sorry to see this. I'm stuck in every evening this week, but you are very welcome to come over and have a brew and a chat.

UniS Sun 09-Mar-14 09:33:26

oh donki, I'm sorry to hear that.
Rant away if you need to.

Unis pours a bucket of carrot wine

teafortwo Sun 09-Mar-14 12:23:38

OH FUCKITY FUCKITY FUCK, FUCK, FUCK, FUCK.... Donki.... how can Mr Donki be sooooo stupid to not want you, lovely lovely lovely you!!!!!! You are the loveliest Donkey I have ever met in the whole wide World....

x x x x x <<Scratches Donki between the ears and strokes nose lovingly then notices Donki is chewing her Mardi Gras Venician mask that she is yet to remove, tops up bucket of carrot wine and finds the espeially cozy donkey blanket - the one for wrapping only the dearest of donkeys with much much love...>> x x x x

Donki Sun 09-Mar-14 17:44:27

I didn't rant at him - and I didn't throw him out. I think he expected me to - and half wanted me to/half feared I would.

If he is going to leave us, I'm not doing the work for him.

I did say that if he walked out on YD there wasn't a hell deep enough for him.

And I said that if we wanted our marriage to survive, we would both need to work hard, and it would be difficult, but I thought possible, to get past this.

I also told him he wasn't a teenager who could think with his balls... he was an adult with commitments and responsibilities.

It is a work colleague half my age...

Neither of us slept much - The YD and I went to my God-daughter's 4th birthday outing at a lambing event near York today. It is amazing how alone you can be in the middle of what felt like the entire population of North Yorkshire.

The distraction was useful. And I got much needed hugs from my friends - who offered to hit H over the head with a frying pan...

The ear scratches and carrot wine are much appreciated.

H has gone to talk to OW - after a long chat with another friend of his who I think hit him over the head with a frying pan as much as you can by phone...

I don't know what is going to happen.

Donki Sun 09-Mar-14 17:45:54

Sorry about the mask - I was a bit distracted.

Donki Sun 09-Mar-14 17:49:22

Ooops reported post as the YD's name was used.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sun 09-Mar-14 18:04:37

Oh, Donki. What a horrible situation to be in. It sounds to me as if you are taking exactly the right approach. Dont do the work for him and don't tolerate any adolescent posturing. You could do a alot of damage with a le Creuset.

All the best to you and the YD.

::ear rub::

mistlethrush Sun 09-Mar-14 19:24:51

I'm glad that you have had a good day out and away from things Donki. I anticipate you have reported your post so it will disappear. I have at least 5 different frying pans of different sizes and shapes if you need any additional ones...

Donki Sun 09-Mar-14 21:20:00

I quite fancy borrowing Maud's le creuset...

He's just come back from seeing OW. Maybe he's made his mind up what he's doing and what his life expectancy is

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sun 09-Mar-14 21:28:53

Le Creuset is very heavy and even the small milk pan would give a very satisfying thwack

I wish I knew what to say, Donki. I'm glad you got some comfort from the outing to the farm and that you have local, supportive friends. I am holding you and the YD in the light.

::further ear rub::

Scout19075 Mon 10-Mar-14 07:50:29

<<Joins the queue, though late, to offer Donki her Le Creuset>> I have several pieces including a grill pan which is so heavy it could do some damage to MrDonki a house if dropped that you're welcome to borrow.

<<Offers a large bucket of the finest carrots East Anglia has to offer>>

UniS Mon 10-Mar-14 09:41:13

I have an eight year old! Where did he come from? I'm sure I only had a seven year old yesterday.

mistlethrush Mon 10-Mar-14 09:52:30

Happy birthday to UniBoy!

It's scary isn't it!

Donki Mon 10-Mar-14 10:11:24

Donki looks up and breaks into a rendition of Happy Birthday to UniBoy!

《Have you ever heard a donkey sing?》

Donki Mon 10-Mar-14 10:17:51

It was pointed out to me last night that there it is a common pattern for people (especially men) who are depressed, especially if they have low self esteem and are recently bereaved, to self medicate by having an affair. It is an enormously powerful psychological positive feedback loop.

And any biologist (or sound engineer, or nuclear physicist) knows where positive feedback loops lead...

I must say that the word 'positive' has never fealt to be less appropriate...

Donki Mon 10-Mar-14 10:18:55

Please excuse poor grammar, typos and spellings. Brain is struggling to stay online.

Stockhausen Mon 10-Mar-14 10:24:10

I'm so sorry Donki sad

mistlethrush Mon 10-Mar-14 10:24:27

It's perfectly readable Donki - worry not.

'If' he does decide to stay he's going to have to do some serious work on himself.

oxeye Mon 10-Mar-14 10:38:21

I have not been around for a long while but stand shoulder to shoulder with my Le Creuset raised ready to help Donki as best I may. I am so sorry
<and little wave to everyone else!>

Scout19075 Mon 10-Mar-14 10:43:58

Happy birthday, Boy!

<<Offers Donki an ear rub and a extra large bucket of carrot juice>>

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Mon 10-Mar-14 11:25:48

Happy birthday, Boy!

Glad to see you joining the le Creuset-wielding throng, oxeye.

I did think it sounded like some sort of midlife crisis, but even that would be an explanation and not an excuse.

::clasps oxeye to her ample bosom and uses remaining arm to stroke Donki's ears::

Donki Mon 10-Mar-14 11:48:02

Definitely explanation, not excuse.
But it helps me to think about what to do ie look after me and the YD.

And no excuse for OW.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Mon 10-Mar-14 15:21:40

No, no excuse at all for OW but she is young and no doubt thinks she is in luuuurve.

Donki Mon 10-Mar-14 16:24:04

Do you think that rattling H's brains with the le creuset will help them to work better? (Hopeful)

Donki Mon 10-Mar-14 16:27:48

And thank you. The image of everyone standing shoulder to shoulder wielding the le creuset frying pans has brought a smile to my face, and helped enormously. I was particularly taken by Maud's description of the small milk pan making a satisfying thwack!

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Mon 10-Mar-14 17:08:44

It's the least we can do, Donki.

I fear the problem at the moment may be that H's brain is under-employed and he has, as you said, been thinking with another part of his anatomy.

Have you ventured onto the Relationship thread where (sadly) situations like yours are all too common? I know that they would urge you to go and get legal and financial advice covering all the possible outcomes.

My le Creuset is red, so it wouldn't show the blood

Donki Mon 10-Mar-14 23:03:44

I was privileged to meet Mistlehound for a very therapeutic licking and chat with Mistle this evening. Thank you! The teas were very fine too. And as everyone knows, tea is a universal panacea.

Donki Mon 10-Mar-14 23:31:23

I realise that it is probably not a good idea, but I really want to meet OW and
1) explain why DH was so vulnerable - and the mechanism involved.
2) appeal to her better nature by explaining what is at stake... and making myself 'real' to her.

Rationality always works, right?

Donki Mon 10-Mar-14 23:34:28

Reported post for naming names again. Aaaargh! Brain like a sieve at the moment.

mistlethrush Tue 11-Mar-14 07:38:04

I don't think that meeting with her and telling her that he was vulnerable and that her continued chasing of him is not helping the situation would be a sensible course of action Donki. I do think that MrD needs to acknowledge what is at the root cause of this whole sorry saga (likely depression) and get that sorted out -which means going to the Dr - not easy I know but needs must.

Anytime a brew is required, do give me a ring. If DH isn't 'out' anyway we can always sit in a different room (we would be nearer the kettle in the kitchen...)

Donki Tue 11-Mar-14 08:24:09

I know MT - but a bit of me thinks that if I just explain it right, she will do the right thing! I suppose partly it's how helpless I feel to have any influence on an outcome that is so desperately important to me. Partly an innate (and irrational) conviction, that my viewpoint is so obviously the only one that if I get the explanation right so that she/they understand, then they'll be bound to do what I think is right.

Donki Tue 11-Mar-14 08:26:00

Being near the kettle is alwayd a good thing. Maybe I should bring the galvanised bucket. [Grin]

Donki Tue 11-Mar-14 08:28:09

Also I just do not understand the mindset of someone who chases a married man with family commitments.

mistlethrush Tue 11-Mar-14 09:19:03

Donki, if you did meet her and explained I feel that it would make your H even more of an attraction.. more 'forbidden' - and therefore make it even less likely that she will stop. I think H needs to think about the sort of woman she is and what this is likely to result in in the future if he does decide he 'loves' her.

Can you get his mum to help him to see someone about his depression? Again, I really don't feel that you should be the instigator for this.

If you need an excuse to be out so that he has to do child care duties, let me know. It will soon be light enough to go for a stroll if DH is in and can do the child care our end. Mistlehound might have to stay on the lead if we go anywhere other than round our normal route because she turns into a different beast at twilight and turns deaf. And of course its too dark to get her to see sign language either grin

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Tue 11-Mar-14 10:31:23

Donki - I tend to agree with Mistle. It's very likely that the OW is immune to any arguments about doing the right thing. She has probably convinced herself that she understands and appreciates H (whereas, she has no doubt told herself, you don't). As Mistle says, H needs to work on the underlying things that led him into this situation.

Donki Tue 11-Mar-14 14:53:52

I am sure that you are right. I have made an appointment for me with Relate to help me to process my feelings and to decide what I need to do. DH (and despite it all he is 'D' - that is the problem) is invited to join me if he wishes. Not to work on our relationship (that will come later, if he decides we still have one) but to work out where we both are in all this and what we need to do. I do not know if he will feel able to come or not.
I am also starting to work my way through the Relate website to help my thinking - and will invite (not pressurise) DH to do the same. It might lead to more productive conversations rather than us just reflecting pain at each other.

Life can be so crap at times.

I had never realised that the term 'heartbreak' is not in the least metaphorical. It is a precise description of the sensation in my chest.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Tue 11-Mar-14 15:52:28

Oh, Donki . I can only agree. Life can be crap at times. Well done for arranging the Relate appointment and working through the website. Look after yourself and the YD.

Donki Tue 11-Mar-14 15:56:14

And H has just texted to say that he will be "out" tonight - despite the fact that he has had to come nearly back home to go to the dentist and will then have to travel right across Leeds.

I can't believe that he is doing this to me and the YD. He KNOWS that the YD needs a stable and predictable routine.

Donki Tue 11-Mar-14 16:20:06

Fucking Bastard - and he hasn't let me know if he will be back so that I can tell the YD if he will be around in the morning.

The YD needs a stable and predictable routine. He has ASD.

I shouldn't have to feel that I am protecting him from his FATHER

mistlethrush Tue 11-Mar-14 16:22:34

Don't rise to it Donki, don't rise to it...
Do what you need to protect YD - but don't put any expectations on H which could be construed as 'moaning' or 'demanding' etc - it will just play into OW's hand.

Donki Tue 11-Mar-14 17:06:09

And I hope that mumsnet edit the YD's name out son.... brain like a seive at the moment

Donki Tue 11-Mar-14 17:06:36

sieve even blush

Donki Tue 11-Mar-14 17:07:33

and 'soon' not 'son'

Donki Tue 11-Mar-14 17:15:07

And breathe... MT that is why I am ranting on here and not at 'D' H

mistlethrush Wed 12-Mar-14 09:03:53

Hope you and DS got out of the house after a calm morning Donki.

We've currently got ear issues - DS has antibiotic eardrops - the trouble is he knows they hurt. When he was little we just did them. I'm not doing that now - he needs to agree to have them - and he knows he needs them but just can't bring himself to have them and then breaks down into a big snotty wailing lump... sad Have referal letter for pediatric ENT consultant though so we're going to bite the bullet and see if they will do the graft for his ear drum and hope that this doesn't happen again...

teafortwo Wed 12-Mar-14 11:31:24

Ha ha ha ha ha ha maybe I am being a superbitch here BUT I SOOOOOOOO love it that Mr D has to travel across Leeds to see OW. I am sorry but travelling across Leeds post dentist appointment sounds sooooooo very very very UNsexy!!!!! I am imagining him making the journey across with a goat, on a rusty bike with a chain that keeps falling off, with a puffy mouth with bits of cotton wool flying out, heavy traffic and various tearoomers jumping out of hedges to bang him on the head with their frying pans. It all sounds rather much like a George Formby film plot!!!!! Does he happen to clean windows for living???? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sfmAeijj5cM <thinks that this bit in "the tearoom the movie" is going to be totally EPIC and brilliant and good.>

teafortwo Wed 12-Mar-14 11:34:06

MT sorry about your ear problems - ears are horrors when they go wrong.... : (

UniS Wed 12-Mar-14 11:58:18

hello tea. did the clanging of frying pans wake you? Care for a cuppa while you're here?

unis puts the artisan mugs and a large teapot in a wooly cozy on the distressed coffee table.

mistlethrush Wed 12-Mar-14 12:02:23

Is it distressed because it is being used for tea and not coffee UniS? grin

Donki Wed 12-Mar-14 12:12:18

Hello everyone
Just stopping for a brew. I do wish there was a galvanised bucket emoticon!
Got the YD out calmly but sans homework - sseveral issues with the homework about which I collared the teacher (well, TA - it was teacher's morning for PPA).

Unnaccessible for the YD due to Asperger's (no differentiation)
Framed as a competition - so the YD felt that there was no point trying, since he couldn't win.
A task that the YD would be overwhelmed by even when no other stressors in life. (Due to ASD issues)
I did not have the energy at the moment to force the YD to do a task so fundamentally ill suited.

We will see what they say.

Going out for a walk with DM and then do some gardening - things that will help me to feel better. (Doctor's orders!)

Donki Wed 12-Mar-14 12:14:15

And thank you everybody.
Mistle, I hope that Mistleboy's ear gets sorted - ear problems are so painful. And pain (and hearing loss from ear infection) can make it very hard to concéntrate... (Teacher of the Deaf hat on)

Scout19075 Wed 12-Mar-14 12:29:21

SB and I are at the hospital, having our packed lunch, waiting for The Teddy Bear hospital. He is very excited. And hungry. He's eating with gusto and I fear for our grocery bill.

Will check in later when I'm on a decent keyboard.

Donki Wed 12-Mar-14 21:40:20

《Puts out a fresh pot of tea and a variety of biscuits》
《Fluffs up hay pile and then curls up in it with a large bucket of tea》

H is introducing the YD to Red Dwarf before he goes to bed so we are all sitting in the living room and I am trying to prerend life is normal.
It is not easy - and my stomach is all knotted.

mistlethrush Wed 12-Mar-14 22:00:35

DS will come out with inappropriate bits of Red Dwarf at the most embarrassing times...

Donki Wed 12-Mar-14 23:30:48

I remember a group of boys aged 12 (year8) in one of my science classes who were completely astonished that I knew what they were giggling about in one of my lessons when they started to salute each other like Rimmer. grin

Donki Thu 13-Mar-14 07:17:49

Does the priesthole need dusting?

mistlethrush Thu 13-Mar-14 07:20:18

It does look a bit cobwebby down there. Can I pass down some brew and cake ?

Donki Thu 13-Mar-14 08:04:42

I think I will dust it first and then take down supplies so that it is ready when I need it. But cake and tea fir breakfast sound good smile

Donki Thu 13-Mar-14 08:06:28

It is hard watching DH go to work because OW is a colleague.

Donki Thu 13-Mar-14 08:07:45

Hmmm pine flavoured breakfast... I meant 'for' blush

mistlethrush Thu 13-Mar-14 09:09:03

What does H do again? What's the job market like in his field?

(DH - IT - is waiting for his next contract extension - job works well for us as he spends most of the time working from home. Boss made a mistake earlier this week and wiped over 40k individual cells making all information think it was one person (or vice versa) - DH wrote something in 30 mins that put it all right again... I think that the contract will get renewed!)

Donki Thu 13-Mar-14 10:01:08

He is a clinical cytogeneticist in a hospital. There are only a few labs in the country - very few job opportunities, especially with current budget cuts, as they are not 'front line'. Not that the doctors could actually do their jobs without the diagnostic scientists...

mistlethrush Thu 13-Mar-14 10:34:41

Not exactly the sort of thing you can 'work at home' on either.

Have you got a walk and some gardening lined up for the day Donki - lovely to be out on a day like this. Whilst you're off, I know of a dog that would be happy to join you!

Have you got any elderly neighbours with dogs that would like them walked? My mum used to do this a lot - now they have various friends that use them as doggy day-care on occasion, and sometimes have dogs staying over. They only take on the nice dogs though.

Donki Thu 13-Mar-14 11:20:55

I'm going over to a friend's for lunch today snd getting a hair cut. Will leave you a message later in the RL tearoom.

Thanks for being therr. It means a lot.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 13-Mar-14 14:14:06

That sounds like an excellent plan, Donki. Hope you get some enjoyment from your day.

mistlethrush Thu 13-Mar-14 16:54:38

Going to be in a bit late this evening Donki - but will check in as soon as I am.

Donki Fri 14-Mar-14 07:08:55

Another day!

《Puts out an assortment of juices, fruits, cereals and full english breakfast on the buffet, together with an assortment of croissants etc》

Meeting with the YD's school today and shopping. At least it will keep me busy (although I have to hide my ears under a hat and stuff my tassley tail down my trousers or I get very odd looks).

Donki Fri 14-Mar-14 07:10:03

And gardening

mistlethrush Fri 14-Mar-14 07:16:08

Donkies are very good at weeding.

Looks as though it might be another decent day too.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Fri 14-Mar-14 07:31:30

::tucks into delicious breakfast::

Yes, it looks like a lovely spring day here, too. Hope you get to feel the warmth of the sun, Donki, as you get stuck into the weeding.

Donki Fri 14-Mar-14 17:22:33

It was a bit bracing in the garden!
(rubs hooves together and blows on them)

Donki Fri 14-Mar-14 17:27:48

H away tonight - this means he does not see the YD.
This infurates me. angry

However he has now modified his plans somewhat and will return tomorrow morning so that we can set off to go away for the night and have a bracing day and a half in Robin Hood's Bay.

If he lets us down with this I will be LIVID.

mistlethrush Fri 14-Mar-14 22:02:26

Frankly, 'a bit bracing' was an understatement! After yesterday it was really cold!!!

If he lets you down, I suggest that you 'stuff him' and take DS anyway...

Donki Fri 14-Mar-14 22:56:21

Oh we're going, with or without H.
(I notice he's lost the 'D' tonight)

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Fri 14-Mar-14 23:03:28

Good for you, Donki.

:grinffers late night ear rub and a galvanised bucket of tea::

Donki Sat 15-Mar-14 07:31:21

Thank you Maud

The ear rub was very soothing and helped me to sleep!

《Puts out breakfast buffet- including a selection of delicious pastries from the local French patisserie!》

I hope everyone has a good weekend. And we don't freeze.

Donki Sat 15-Mar-14 07:32:53

《Carefully picks all the stray pieces of hay off the buffet and hopes no-one notices》

Donki Sat 15-Mar-14 07:33:07

《Carefully picks all the stray pieces of hay off the buffet and hopes no-one notices》

Donki Sat 15-Mar-14 07:33:07

《Carefully picks all the stray pieces of hay off the buffet and hopes no-one notices》

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 15-Mar-14 08:24:59

::tucks into a delicious pain au chocolat::

mistlethrush Sat 15-Mar-14 08:31:13

<Sweeps up a few bits of stray hay and multiple posts ;)>

Donki, I hope its not TOO freezing. Pity the spring weather didn't continue into the weekend.

DS is singing in a concert this afternoon. Mostly The Beetles.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 15-Mar-14 09:10:31

It did just occur to me to wonder whether it would be helpful if the redoubtable Mellors were to thwack Mr Donki with the le Creuset have a man to man chat with Mr Donki.

Hope everyone will have a good day.

Donki Sat 15-Mar-14 09:15:07

There must have been a lot of stray hay!

Ooooh! Do you think Mellors would oblige?


ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 15-Mar-14 09:17:13

I am sure Mellors, as the perfect gentleman, would be willing to help and support you, Donki.

mistlethrush Sat 15-Mar-14 09:23:15

Is it just me or is FB down at the moment?

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 15-Mar-14 09:45:04

FB is working fine for me here.

Donki Sat 15-Mar-14 10:34:11

<<Hands Mellors a very large Le Creuset>>

However he has just texted to say that he will be back in time to go out with us.

<<swaps for medium size Le Creuset>>

Donki Sat 15-Mar-14 10:34:31

(FB fine here)

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 15-Mar-14 10:46:25

Ah, so you think Mellors should make a more forcible intervention than a solemn man to man chat?

UniS Sun 16-Mar-14 07:36:08

mrllors could push him into s muddy spot I know. one of my colleagues fell in yesterday and was plastered up to his thighs.

I did not push him. I was no where near.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sun 16-Mar-14 10:18:30

That sounds like a very good option, UniS.

Donki Sun 16-Mar-14 17:03:05


Oh for the days of having big brothers and dark alleys. Although my sister could do a good impression...

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sun 16-Mar-14 17:05:29

Hello, Donki. How was Robin Hood's Bay?

::Oh I do like to be beside the seaside emoticon::

Donki Sun 16-Mar-14 18:24:58


I was glad we weren't camping (trying out a 'camping pod' - although this place calls them gyosy cabins)

Tents would have ended up in Holland. The westerley wind meant that the cliffs offered quite a lot of shelter. And today was very sunny. A good weekend albeit with painful moments and underlain by a deep sadness.

The YD loves Robin Hoods Bay - did lots of digging.

(And I hope we have established a rule of not texting OW when around me/YD. I pointed out that I had not texted him whilst he was there)

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sun 16-Mar-14 18:30:45

Well, many aspects of that sound good. I certainly hope you have managed to set a rule of no texting the OW in your company. Anything else would be beyond endurance.

Has MrDonki indicated how much longer he intends to remain in this sort of foot-in-both-camps limbo?

::Proffers galvanised bucket of tea::

UniS Sun 16-Mar-14 18:54:51

ohhh. how was the camping pod? I'm thinking of bookingnone for a few days camping with the boy in summer. Dh can't take leave in July or the first 3 weeks of August sad sad so boy and I will do stuff with out him mid week.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sun 16-Mar-14 19:28:09

I've just googled 'camping pods' and realised that's what they had at the campsite we went to last year. On a cold and blowy night they looked very inviting.

Donki Sun 16-Mar-14 20:11:07

<<Slurps tea noisily>>
Thanks Maud that really hit the spot!

He has not idea how long he is going to sit on the fence try to have his cake and eat it

We are going to Relate tomorrow night - I well see what that brings. But I increasingly minded to say that whilst I am not going to throw him out I do need him to make a decision.

The camping pod was great - a tent would have ended up in Holland! It would have been good for wet weather too, and DH could stand up easily in it. The YD thought it was fun.

Donki Sun 16-Mar-14 20:12:53

Ooooh! And we saw a toad on the first night as we walked back from the village up the hill to the camp site.

Donki Mon 17-Mar-14 08:12:20

<<Puts out breakfast buffet - with a large bowl of nice warm porridge with a jug of cream and some sugar>>

I have broken my little toe this morning. Got out of bed and caught the DH substitute hot water bottle with it.

Surprisingly painful for a minor injury. I have strapped it up and will see how I get on. I can't imagine that the doctor would do anything different...

Donki Mon 17-Mar-14 08:12:49

(So much for going for some walks!)

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Mon 17-Mar-14 08:16:01

Ouch! Poor Donki!

::tucks into bowl of porridge::

mistlethrush Mon 17-Mar-14 09:20:13

I wonder if some Arnicare cream would help any potential swelling? I would certainly try to cold compress it for some of today. I agree with the prognosis from the Dr - unless it's a big toe, they are unlikely to be interested in it. (A friend managed to break a toe when she was singing (solo) once - she felt it go...)

Donki Mon 17-Mar-14 09:39:05

Arnica is a good thought MT

I managed to hobble to school with the YD smile

I am full of trepidation for tonight....
(Travel is sorted: we will now take the car to the railway station, train into town then get a taxi up to Relate)

Donki Mon 17-Mar-14 09:44:27

(Mind boggles - how do you break a toe singing? Unless of course your friend kicked a prop or something)

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Mon 17-Mar-14 09:45:59

Yes, arnica and a pack of frozen peas sounds good. And sending you positive vibes for tonight, Donki.

mistlethrush Mon 17-Mar-14 10:09:17

She was 'gripping the floor' through her shoes with her toes...

Donki Tue 18-Mar-14 07:13:32

Typical. Yesterday was one of 'those'days.
Broken toe
Relate cancelled the appointment (counsellor ill -fair enough)
Went to the YD's transition IEP review and the person who said they wouldn't be there (senco from secondary school) was. Not bad in itself. Indeed good - but H wanted to see him and hadn't booked time off.
YD refused to go riding because we were waiting for MiL to arrive as YD-sitter for the evening.

It had it's good parts too - met two gorgeous kittens and saw a good friend.

《Puts out breakfast buffet - with fresh fruit salad and left over cherry pie from yesterday.》

mistlethrush Tue 18-Mar-14 07:20:44

How's your toe feeling? And have you got another appointment set up?

Scout19075 Tue 18-Mar-14 09:02:28

I was thinking about you last night, Donki. I hope you're okay this morning.

Donki Tue 18-Mar-14 11:04:32

We have an appointment with Relate on Wednesday.

My toe is ok if I rest it - which is only a problem because I could really do with going and doing something physical to work off the pent up emotions.

H is 'out'again tonight - so will only come home around 6.00pm tomorrow.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Tue 18-Mar-14 11:19:32

I'm glad you're not having to wait too long for the appointment, Donki.

Could your toe cope with swimming?

mistlethrush Tue 18-Mar-14 11:19:53

GRRRRRRRRR (Holds hand)

Donki Tue 18-Mar-14 12:22:46

That's worth thinking about Maud. I think my toe would cope with swimming sooner than walking - but that right now it just needs to stay still. What told me it was broken (apart from the pain) was crepitus...

Donki Tue 18-Mar-14 12:25:53

Thanks MT. I find it really hard to cope with when he goes to work and I know he is going to see the OW. Words fail me when I try to think of words to describe her. I just want to howl in an inarticulate rage.

mistlethrush Tue 18-Mar-14 12:55:27

Its totally and utterly understandable Donki - frankly I don't know how you're being so restrained, although I know that at least some of it is for YD's sake - and the rest because you believe that the man you love is still there, somewhere...

Have any of his friends managed to speak to him at all about this?

Donki Tue 18-Mar-14 13:30:12

One good friend has told him he is a fool. He hasn't talked to any of the others.

And probably won't. He will be afraid of what they mighy say.

It will be yet another set of conversations that he files under "too hard".

mistlethrush Tue 18-Mar-14 13:33:17

Have you contemplated booting him out and telling him that he can come and look after YD at certain times and then off? It might make OW's place seem less attractive - and possibly make him seem less attractive to OW too (hopefully).

Donki Tue 18-Mar-14 14:11:28

I have certainly considered telling him to bloody decide and get it over with ... but that he still has to do his share of parenting.

Donki Tue 18-Mar-14 14:15:50

If H chickens out of coming home tomorrow (because DM will be here) before the Relate meeting, I will be angry

To say the least.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Tue 18-Mar-14 15:11:42

I'm a fairly weak swimmer, but I find it physical enough that it takes my mind off other things.

I can see, Donki, why you might want to boot him out. This splitting his time between two homes must be agonising for you. Could you set a deadline, or might that just propel him towards the OW?

Donki Tue 18-Mar-14 16:23:29

I just don't know, Maud

One of the hardest things is feeling so powerless in this situation.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Tue 18-Mar-14 17:06:51

Yes, I think that's what is so difficult. Setting a deadline would give some of the power back to you, but it might precipitate a decision you don't want.

Donki Tue 18-Mar-14 19:01:30

I will wait and see what happens tomorrow night. Which may just be me going back by myself to sort my own feelings out and decide what I want to do.

Donki Wed 19-Mar-14 12:40:59

《Puts out soup, cheese and assorted rolls - and butter on the sideboard》

《Stokes up fire》

《Starts to dust the aspidistra - and then wonders where Mellors and the NMBs are...》

mistlethrush Wed 19-Mar-14 13:04:25

I saw them all on frying pan duty Donki.

Donki Wed 19-Mar-14 13:07:48

How on earth do the NMBs wield a frying pan?

I have had a lazy morning resting my hurty hoof and playing a silly (and old) computer game to take my mind off things.

mistlethrush Wed 19-Mar-14 13:10:26

Have you had a go at the 2040 game? There's a thread somewhere....

Some of the NMBs have got hold of those single 'fried egg' or 'pikelet' pans that are tiny. The rest appear to have rigged something up out of strings and whisks and things that aims to drop rather a large one in an arc so that it hits the back of the head firmly....

Donki Wed 19-Mar-14 13:10:49

(Master of Orion 2 before you ask blush )

Donki Wed 19-Mar-14 13:12:53

《Grins at antics of NMBs》

Hmmm must look 2040 up. It must be 2 years since I played a silly computer game... I don't usually have time.

Donki Wed 19-Mar-14 13:14:09

I know just where the NMBs could rig up the large frying pan...

Scout19075 Wed 19-Mar-14 13:44:48

Anyone care for a four year old today? Free to a good home....

Honestly, his laziness and "I'm fed up" to every suggestion today is driving me slightly insane. I've given in and put on his new Octonauts DVD but definitely feel guilty about it!

Donki Wed 19-Mar-14 14:07:26

I'll swap you for a Minecraft obsessed school anxious 11 year old....

Scout19075 Wed 19-Mar-14 14:29:35

Is YD really 11?! I don't know why but I thought he was like, I dunno, six or something. EEK!

I'm not sure how I'd deal with school anxious but I could probably handle the Minecraft side of it okay.

I think SB's "problem" today is we've been on the go every day since last Tuesday and today is the first day we have nothing planned -- no activities, no friends, no adventures -- and he just wants to watch Octonauts (MrScout found Series 1 on DVD for £6 so 24 episodes for practically nothing) and/or CBeebies. He doesn't want to do anything else, even things he loves doing like watering the plants, repotting seedlings, going for a walk to take the recycling and collect sticks, gluing & sticking projects, nothing. I'm just letting him get on with his episodes and trying not to think about all of the television viewing today.

I really thought I'd get him with the stick collecting today. We came home from swimming yesterday with a bag full of them. We got a new little gas-canister-less camp stove for Christmas, and I got a new flint and steel, and SB knows this spring/summer we can use it to make lunches (sausages, toast, etc.) but that we need sticks to feed it. He also knows that if we collect enough sticks we're going to build a den/house for creatures either in the corner of our back garden or under one of the front hedges. We have a growing pile of sticks under our ladybug and bee houses. MrScout just rolls his eyes but I thought by agreeing to a den it would give SB's stick collecting a purpose (rather than just a four-year old boy's love of sticks when going out for a walk.

Scout19075 Wed 19-Mar-14 14:33:58

I should add that these episodes are on three disks -- I'm not putting SB in front of 24 episodes straight through!

mistlethrush Wed 19-Mar-14 14:34:04

We had a stick 'called' 'Birdie' in the garden for a while, carefully brought home (it must have been special as we nearly always manage to leave them in the park!) - but the dog ate it blush

Donki Wed 19-Mar-14 14:42:25

The YD still collects sticks too. Nowadays they are pressed into service as Real Life Minecraft tools (although he is deeply unimpressed by his inability to mine stone with a wooden 'pickaxe' - "it works in Minecraft, mummy")

Scout19075 Wed 19-Mar-14 15:02:07

My brother used to be obsessed with sticks, too, and used them for digging. I can remember when he was four or five he was constantly being told off for digging a hole (with the sticks) in one part of my parents' front yard. My brother insisted he wasn't doing it . My dad came home from somewhere late one night and saw an opossum digging in the very spot where my brother was forever being told "Don't dig there!" Needless to say they never blamed my brother again.

Donki Wed 19-Mar-14 17:55:22

Keeping my ears crossed for tonight's appointment at Relate. (Well, donkeys don't have fingers)

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Wed 19-Mar-14 18:22:33

I will keep all fingers and toes crossed for you, Donki. As will Mellors and the NMBs.

Donki Wed 19-Mar-14 18:54:48

Keeping my ears crossed for tonight's appointment at Relate. (Well, donkeys don't have fingers)

Donki Wed 19-Mar-14 18:57:12

I hit back on my phone - and it repeated the post. There are days when it really annoys me...

mistlethrush Wed 19-Mar-14 18:58:38

I hope he got back in time to go.

Donki Thu 20-Mar-14 07:16:01

He did. I think it was useful, although we are no further forwards. Now there is a 10 week wait for the next appointment...

I just have to hang in there... but have no idea what the outcome will be.

mistlethrush Thu 20-Mar-14 07:19:04

Donki can you set some 'rules' and reclaim some time where you are not 'on duty' at home and get out and do something?

Donki Thu 20-Mar-14 08:06:55

We are going to try and do that tonight. It may be tricky as DH doesn't think having designated "me time" nights will work - he thinks it would bemake it too inflexible and not allow for 'life' (illness, whatever)

Scout19075 Thu 20-Mar-14 16:23:40

Donki, you are a far more patient woman than I am -- I'd have kicked MrDonki with my hoof by now if I was you.

Today has been a much better day regarding my mood and SB -- we've been outside for a walk (and errands), spent some time "doing the gardening" (watering our seeds & seedlings which are all in pots) and taking pictures of the flowers that have started to grow in our large stone council sponsored pot across the street.

For those in the know -- are beer, lager and ale the same thing or different beasts? I have a recipe calling for beer and since I don't drink beer, ale or lager in general I don't have a clue what I'm looking for.

Donki Thu 20-Mar-14 20:02:25

They are variations on a theme...

Donki Fri 21-Mar-14 06:46:33

I don't think lager would work as well as ale or beer.

mistlethrush Fri 21-Mar-14 06:48:10

I agree. Lager is quite different

Scout19075 Fri 21-Mar-14 06:50:54

It's an American recipe, if that makes a difference....

Donki Fri 21-Mar-14 08:02:20

I am not really an authority on American beer (or indeed British beer) - although I believe it is more lager like than the British stuff.

Donki Fri 21-Mar-14 08:02:28

I am not really an authority on American beer (or indeed British beer) - although I believe it is more lager like than the British stuff.

Donki Fri 21-Mar-14 08:02:28

I am not really an authority on American beer (or indeed British beer) - although I believe it is more lager like than the British stuff.

Donki Fri 21-Mar-14 08:03:56

Definitely not an authority then.... blush

Must remember not to click 'back' on my phone after posting.

Scout19075 Fri 21-Mar-14 08:10:17

grin at Donki.

Scout19075 Fri 21-Mar-14 08:56:04

Does anyone want SmallBoy today? He's been non-stop since 6 a.m. and I just want silence.

mistlethrush Fri 21-Mar-14 09:00:30

Scout - I once drove for 90mins before I realised that I didn't even have the radio on because the quiet was blissful!

Scout19075 Fri 21-Mar-14 09:07:51

I don't have access to the car today. Weekend car journeys are full of SB and MrScout speaking Geek. I just want to cry at the non stop of his "Mommy...Mommy...Mommy!!!" today. Everything is "What's this?" and "What's that say?" but every sentence has "Mommy!!" in it somewhere.

mistlethrush Fri 21-Mar-14 09:11:46

We still get that... although he gets the wrong parent quite a bit so it goes 'Daddy... um... Mummy.... ?' and he won't ask the question without having an answer to that first (so I have started saying 'no' blush) then we have a go at doing the same to him... MC... MC? MC? MC? and he laughs and it all starts again!

He's gone to school in PJs today. We journeyed to school with him crossing his fingers that today really was the day - because if I took him home to change into school uniform and drive back he would be late to school.... (Not that he's ever been late to school and he's had 2 days off this year for sickness so not exactly poor record).

Scout19075 Fri 21-Mar-14 09:17:29

I could cry.

Told MrScout today I want a night alone in a hotel for a decent nights sleep and silence.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Fri 21-Mar-14 09:25:33

Oh, Scout. Four year olds can be relentless. Is it getting you down that much?


mistlethrush Fri 21-Mar-14 09:27:40

Have you got a playground (with equipment in it) that you can walk to? How about soft play - anything where he will run around like mad on his own and let you just sit for 20 mins with a coffee?

Scout19075 Fri 21-Mar-14 09:38:45

I have been thinking about the park later. The sun has just come out so want to let it do it's thing for awhile since it rained last night otherwise the playground is no fun.

I think I'm a hormonal mess. I really need to go to GP but am a chicken can't cope with the thought of more appointments/possible tests right now.

He's now playing cars in the other room and I'm only half listening while I sort out my pasta sauce.

Scout19075 Fri 21-Mar-14 09:51:11

And if I could sleep I would be really happy. Have to say this isn't boding well for Round Two but at least with that I get lots of support

UniS Fri 21-Mar-14 10:50:52

sympathy scout.
american recipe requiring "beer" should work OK with larger or ale ( pale ale, Indian ale etc) bitter would be OK for a savoury recipe but has a stronger taste

off to pick up boy from school. he had a playground spat yesterday that resulted in another child's teeth breaking skin on boys hand. looked fine last night, red and puffy this morning... off to see minor injuries nurse late morning just in case.

Donki. thinking of you. hope mrdonko comes round to the idea that you want / need a night a week to go to the gym, choir, mothers meeting, salsa class or what ever it is that floats your boat.
Dh is out every x night for choir, I'm out every y night for dance. If either of us want to do something on the others night out a baby sitter needs to be found or a swap arranged. good luck with your negotiations.

Donki Fri 21-Mar-14 18:15:24

Thinking sleepy thoughts at you Scout
I remember the days of being so sleep deprived I felt ill [sympathy]

UniS Fri 21-Mar-14 20:11:01

Yea, mini holiday booked for next weekend.

Boy is racing and sensible SiL and family are staying near the race location so we are going to make a weekend of it.

Just have busy week to get through first. A sewing Bee, a first aid course, school bike team racing at county finals, a work day and then.... relax.

mistlethrush Fri 21-Mar-14 21:42:10

Sounds very good Unis.

We're going to have to put DS's saddle up A LOT - he's been growing like a weed again.

Donki Fri 21-Mar-14 21:59:27

It sounds like fun UniS, after a hectic week!

Scout19075 Sat 22-Mar-14 07:01:08

Sounds good, UniS.

I resorted to bribery last night and I'm not ashamed to admit it and it seemed to work. sB stayed in his bed all night. Still woke up once (it's been 12:22 every night for a week!) but was content enough to have a hug, kiss and stars put on (his little constellation projector) to go back to sleep in his bed not mine where he stayed until 5:53. Wahoo! So, in a little while we will walk to town for some of his favorite treats from the sweet shop -- chocolate mice. His staying where he should meant I had nearly eight hours of sleep with only one interruption instead of ten or more. I feel almost human! MrScout never hears him so on nights I just can't face it I still wake up to wake him up. However, SB likes to be on my side so I'm the only one kicked and climbed on.

SB was so excited that he stayed in his own bed and woke up to a half moon shining through his window. He went to look for me downstairs and thought I was lost (no, just in bed). We're curled up with cheerios and alphablocks and I feel human.

mistlethrush Sat 22-Mar-14 07:11:53

Very good news Scout.

It's always me that wakes up too. On one occasion when DH didn't get up quickly enough and I encouraged him rather rigorously (we were at my parents when DS was really little - in a different room) and he hit the floor blushgrin.

On the 'joining in bed' scenario - I have, on occasion simply swapped beds and slept in his as its so much easier than trying to share (he's always on my side too) - it's much better since he's gone into a full-size bed.

Scout19075 Sat 22-Mar-14 07:26:26

SB has a cot bed that he's nearly grown out of that won't support me. We'll be swapping to his big boy normal single size bed soon and I can't wait so I'll have some place to go.

Scout19075 Sat 22-Mar-14 21:38:02

Please tell me that most children know how to queue up/take turns/wait their turn/don't budge in front and/or take over. Please tell me we've just been really unlucky on our last two outings to child-centric places and that most kids are lovely....

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 22-Mar-14 22:49:12

Most kids are lovely but some have overindulgent parents who turn a blind eye to unacceptable behaviour. And if the child has been encouraged to think they are the centre of the universe and to have to regard for others, it's not a pretty sight.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 22-Mar-14 22:50:25

... Have no regard ...

UniS Sat 22-Mar-14 23:10:34

sadly however the peasants are revolting....

Scout19075 Sun 23-Mar-14 00:13:56

It was chaos today. Even SB had a bit of a "WTF?!" face after the umpteenth time where he had been queueing/waiting patiently for his turn and someone barged in front and/or took over when it was his turn. Other SB sized people I could forgive -- they're little and learning -- but the number of school-aged kids (and not YR kids but kids who had been around awhile) doing it to SB was shocking. What's even more shocking was that we were at a major event at YOU, not somewhere like our local soft play pit. By no means am I saying he's an angel and he had moments of over-enthusiasm but either MrScout or I reined him in, reminded him of the "rules" of behavior when out-and-about-at-an-event (queue, share/take turns, don't push out of the way, say "thank you" to the person helping, etc.).

Donki Sun 23-Mar-14 07:20:50

It's not a frequent occurrence - but when it has happened waiting for the mini zip wire at the adventure playground when the YD was younger, a parent often takes on martialing the queue...

Sometimes me blush, but also others.

Scout19075 Sun 23-Mar-14 07:33:44

We tried but often to no effect. If it was at the playground or somewhere play-like locally I get much more bulshy American on them (despite stereotypes most Americans I know are polite/well mannered/quiet/respectful/have a strong sense of right & wrong and teaching our children these things. Just felt strange at such a large, high-profile event held at Ye Ol' University, organized by YOU and run by students and academics of YOU, to have so much of it.

Ah well, I guess we'll have to get more vocal next time.

Second night in a row SB stayed in bed until 6-ish. Wahoo! I did get asked to stay for a few minutes when he thought there was a monster by the door but he went back to sleep after a couple of kisses and snuggles and reassurances. He says he doesn't want his behavior modification reward bribe today.

mistlethrush Sun 23-Mar-14 08:32:36

I must admit, on zip wires I have been known to marshal and make sure that the queue is worked properly - and that children don't simply have a couple of goes without going back. MC knows all about queuing and would not think of pushing in.

Donki Mon 24-Mar-14 06:42:22

《Puts out the breakfast buffet with fresh orange juice, cereals and fruit》

《Watches Mellors doing his morning exercise routine and practising frying pan manouvres》

《Dodges the ensuing melee as the NMBs follow suit》

Does anyone else think that the NMBs may be related to Feegles?

Scout19075 Mon 24-Mar-14 07:14:18

Don't know who/what Freegles are so cannot comment.

When does a series become a pattern? And when does a pattern become a habit?

Donki Mon 24-Mar-14 08:23:01

I don't know, Scout - but I hope it neans that SB slept later again... smile

Scout19075 Mon 24-Mar-14 08:53:33

Still up in the six o'clock hour, which is normal, but another night in his bed. He did wake up around 3:30 with a concerned "Mommy?" -- his calendar by his bed had fallen off into his bed in the night and he was worried it wasn't hanging up. It's an American reuseable school calendar so a bit too big to faff with while half asleep so we're going to sort it out today.

UniS Mon 24-Mar-14 09:27:48

nmbs defiantly have a touch of feegle about them. the kilts and ginger hair are the give away.


Donki Mon 24-Mar-14 09:42:08

That explains a lot. And the feathers tied into their hair...

mistlethrush Mon 24-Mar-14 09:44:58

And the war cries!

Scout19075 Mon 24-Mar-14 15:57:51

Anyone fancy some late afternoon brew? The temperature changed while we had our lunch and we went to the park one layer fewer than when we went to Tesco and boy am I regretting it!

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Mon 24-Mar-14 17:05:18

That would be lovely, Scout. I can offer some cake of requirement, which is any flavour you want it to be.

Donki Mon 24-Mar-14 17:35:30

brew and GF carrot cake

What more coukd a Donki ask for?

《sighs contentedly》

Scout19075 Mon 24-Mar-14 18:14:37

Mmm, cake. I can offer some fruit and biscuits as well. SB won't notice his bedtime snack is missing.... Oddly he gets fruit and one biscuit for dessert/bedtime snack and he thinks it's the best.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Mon 24-Mar-14 18:16:29

How are things today, Donki?

::tops up galvanised bucket of tea::

Donki Mon 24-Mar-14 19:46:56

DH arrived home about 6.00 pm - the YD very glad to see him, and is trying to get DH to play minecraft with him.

I am going out to see Mistle!

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Mon 24-Mar-14 20:07:58

Good for you!

Scout19075 Mon 24-Mar-14 21:30:45

Sounds like a good evening to me!

Since everyone here has children older than SB I have to ask -- how did you, or your children, get rid of their monsters? It seems like everything I try ends up with a variation of "that didn't work, Mommy." I'm at a loss. How do I permanently get rid of these bastards monsters?

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Mon 24-Mar-14 21:45:01

Oh no, is SmallBoy plagued by monsters? We never had them here, so I haven't got any useful suggestions. Maybe you should post in Behaviour?

Scout19075 Mon 24-Mar-14 22:33:48

He has been for a little while but sometimes it seems like he only is when it's convenient, if that makes sense. Tonight I tried to do a "tell the monsters to go away" thing and he said they weren't there yet. So I said I'd go outside to tell them to go away from the house and leave us alone and he thought that was silly. But somehow I've now been roped in and promised to do it to go into his room before I go to bed and chase all of the monsters away (keeping in mind SB will be asleep) so he can stay asleep all night.

While SB has stayed in his own bed for the last three nights (wahoo! a major feat!!!) he has still woken up once every night, twice in a panic about monsters (the third was last night and the damn calendar falling on him).

UniS Mon 24-Mar-14 22:42:01

what does SB think will keep them away?

boy briefly ( and it was only once or twice) felt the need to shout " go away monsters" at bedtime. Hes more often felt the need to frisbee a kiss to daddy when daddy is working away, but it Has to be frisbeed in eth right direction, so I end up working out where Denver is in relation to our house etc.

Scout19075 Mon 24-Mar-14 22:57:49

I'm not sure he knows, to be honest. A lot of times it seems to be about me being there and that's it. This evening he thought there might be a monster in the toilet (goodness knows where that came from because it's not happened before) so I went in and said "Good bye, Monster!" and flushed the toilet (which it needed to be flushed anyway because SB forgets to half the time).

He went through a week or two of "needing" me to go to the toilet with him because of monsters but one night I was cooking and couldn't go with him and when I told him that he went up with no problem and he hasn't tried to insist I go with him since.

Scout19075 Mon 24-Mar-14 22:58:53

I like the idea of Frisbee-ing a kiss. grin Very cute.

Scout19075 Mon 24-Mar-14 23:00:31

Oh, and monsters seem to be at twilight when he needs the toilet but doesn't want to go by himself or the middle of the night if he wakes up. Actual bedtime/going to sleep doesn't seem to be plagued by them.

mistlethrush Mon 24-Mar-14 23:03:23

MC had some 'friendly monsters' that frightened away the nasty ones. He must have been around two when we 'got' them - we started out with Freddie (normally some variation on green /and ) then immediately Jessie came to stay too (normally pink/and). They would normally stay in the wardrobe and jump out and frighten away any nasty monsters. But they were normally invisible (particularly to school teachers a bit later on). There was one memorable walk when he'd got frightened of foxes (a friend's dog was attacked) and we walked around the park, me holding his hand and pushing the buggy. In the buggy was sat 'baby Jack' who was holding Jessie's hand - and DS was holding Freddie's hand (very obviously!!!) grin

Everynow and then I did have to ask them to look after DS at night time (out loud in DS's room) but they were fairly helpful and used to do as I asked.

Donki Mon 24-Mar-14 23:15:53

The YD was worried by monsters.
He had a nightlight, and I had a firm rule that no monsters scarier than mummy were allowed in the house (because mummy would scare them away)

My old teddy bear was also dragged out to help his own furry friends protect him.

Having a small light on downstairs so that tge stairwell isn't completely dark is also important.

I have heard rumours of a monster repellant spray (water in a hand held spray bottle) that some parents have found efficacious. Didn't work for the YD.

Scout19075 Mon 24-Mar-14 23:35:05

He already has the door open to sleep. His head faces the door, the door goes to the hall/landing where the landing window is and we have a lamppost just outside of our house (at the corner of the grass where our driveway starts so it's not directly outside of the window but still shines in). We use that as the "nightlight" though I have thought of getting him a Lego brick nightlight because I think he would like it. SB likes me to "help him be brave" but I never know how/what he wants me to do and he doesn't seem to want to/able to tell me. His bed is covered with stuffed friends -- maybe I should try telling him that all of his bunnies and teddies and other friends keep the monsters away because monsters are allergic to bunnies/teddies/cuddly friends (oddly SB understand allergic despite not having allergies himself).

Scout19075 Mon 24-Mar-14 23:40:09

I'm not sure friendly monsters would work -- I tried something similar at the start and got told off for it ("there's not such thing as friendly monsters!").

Though the spray bottle might work. SB loves spray bottles. Maybe I can rig up the squirt bottle I've saved for the water table into something....

Scout19075 Tue 25-Mar-14 06:54:55

Well, SB managed to stay asleep and in his own bed until about 5:10/15. Then he deemed it too light for his stars, wondered if it was morning yet and has been pestering for breakfast since 5:45. I suspect hunger woke him and he's tucking into cereal with gusto while I prop myself up and use toothpicks in my eyes. No mention of monsters waking him so this is good.

I'm dreading the time change....

mistlethrush Tue 25-Mar-14 09:10:51

It goes in your favour this way - he will be waking up at 6.15 instead...

If we manage to meet up at any stage in the future, I'll get MC to introduce his friendly monsters grin

Donki Tue 25-Mar-14 12:37:53

Bloody Hell!
H is planning (can't say thinking because if he had actually applied brain to the problem, we wouldn't be in this situation) to speand Saturday night and ALL of Sunday with OW.

[Enraged scream]

And now if I point out that it is Mother's day he will feel that I am just trying to make him feel bad.

Scout19075 Tue 25-Mar-14 12:44:18

Donki, I am on my way with my LeCruset grill pan and SB (who is very good at jumping on people and causing damage). I don't swear normally but f*ckin' hell MrDonki is taking te biscuit.

Scout19075 Tue 25-Mar-14 12:45:37

Donki, can I offer you some carrot cake and special brew

mistlethrush Tue 25-Mar-14 12:49:16

Why the hell should he not 'feel bad'. Complete **

Donki Tue 25-Mar-14 12:51:22

A very large bucket of restorative tea that will scald MrDonki when I throw it at him would definitely go down well. And some wonderful GF banana bread. Or preferably a brick I can hit MrDonki with.

Donki Tue 25-Mar-14 12:53:13

He *ought*to feel bad. BUT it just pushes him more to OW.

Donki Tue 25-Mar-14 12:54:31


Any chance of SB wearing hob nail boots or crampons?

mistlethrush Tue 25-Mar-14 12:55:48

DH has rehearsal on Wednesday evening Donki...

Donki Tue 25-Mar-14 13:03:41

The YD has scouts on Wednesday evening Mistle - but thank you for the invitation.

I found out how long he was planning to be out for when I suggested that I might take DM to a concert at the Minster, and he said he might not be back in time (and reminded me that we are meeting friends online at 8.30 pm...)

mistlethrush Tue 25-Mar-14 13:07:04

It starts at 6.30 so I think it will probably be over by 8ish.

I think that he should probably come back and pick DS up at 10am so that you can spend the Day with your Mother and have a bit of time for yourself. If he can't see that that's a reasonable request on Mother's day of all days, there's no hope.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Tue 25-Mar-14 13:35:57

Good grief. MrDonki really is blinkered, isn't he?

::Joins Scout in the Mobile Le Creuset Rapid Response Unit::

Scout19075 Tue 25-Mar-14 14:31:13

Has MrDonki done anything for his own mother?

Donki Tue 25-Mar-14 15:16:16

I haven't yet said anything about MrDonki's plans for Sunday - but I have just sent a text to remind him to send a card to his Mum for Sunday (as I would have to anyway if she is to get a card...)

I will wait to see whether he asks me why on Earth he should send his Mum a card - or whether he has an Oh God! moment, or indeed notices at all.

Donki Tue 25-Mar-14 15:18:57

《Watches, with some satisfaction, as the NMBs join in on frying pan drills and manouvres...》

Scout19075 Tue 25-Mar-14 17:22:52

Perhaps I'm moody but in your current circumstances, Donki, I wouldn't have texted to remind him to get his mother a card and let the chips fall where they may (from MrDonki's mum) from the lack of gesture/card. It does make me wonder how many people have to remind their spouses of things like Mother's Day, birthdays, etc.

SB had swimming today and then we took the kids to soft play after (the kids get free admission to soft play after their lesson so it's a cheap "playdate" for us). I feel very weird about next term. I'm not sure if it's me being hormonal/moody or not. Oh well.

Oh, what's a crampon?

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Tue 25-Mar-14 17:35:49

Me too, Scout. If MrDonki were married to me, he wouldn't get a text to remind him about Mother's Day and all home services such as washing of socks would be suspended too and he would be sleeping in the shed. Donki - you have a more generous heart than me.

Crampons are useful for mountain climbing and kicking MrDonkis.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Tue 25-Mar-14 17:37:17

Sorry, Scout. Meant to ask why you feel odd about next term. Is it because SmallBoy's friend will be starting school?

Donki Tue 25-Mar-14 17:55:43

《Eyes garden shed speculatively》

Donki Tue 25-Mar-14 20:05:13

The YD is furious about tomorrow. His class is the only one in KS2 whose teacher is not on strike. He has been stubbornly maintaining for the last week that he won't go to school tomorrow...

Scout19075 Tue 25-Mar-14 20:06:25

Donki, will the school open for one class?

Donki Tue 25-Mar-14 20:08:55

Yes - (and 2 classes in KS1/FS)

Scout19075 Tue 25-Mar-14 20:09:14

Maud, SB's BFF starts school in September. It has to do with swimming classes/schedules and babysitting.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Tue 25-Mar-14 20:09:33

I have heard of schools which will be part-open tomorrow - I guess support staff who aren't in the NUT will be there. The Girl's school will be shut and so will the others closest to us.

Scout19075 Tue 25-Mar-14 20:10:19

Why do I predict no work will be done but lots of playing/videos?

Donki Tue 25-Mar-14 20:24:23

Year 6 SATS preparation is what I predict...

Scout19075 Wed 26-Mar-14 08:48:20

Well that doesn't sound fun. What if there are siblings -- dies one have to go in while others are at home? Does the unauthorized absence rule apply if a parent keeps the one home with the others?

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Wed 26-Mar-14 08:53:38

I think so, Scout. As far as I can see, if a child's class/school is open, then it's an unauthorised absence if they don't attend, even if siblings' classes are shut.

What are you doing today?

Scout19075 Wed 26-Mar-14 09:40:49

<<head explodes at the logistical nightmare for parents of more than one child and the ensuing sibling squabbles>>. This might be reason 1,576 why I'm grateful for an only.

SB is on his last Alphablocks episode and then we're off to town to go to the library before it shuts (closes at lunchtime on Wednesdays) and it rains (supposed to rain from lunchtime). Rain means we don't need to go watering today, so I've ticked that off the list. I think this afternoon we're going to "do stickers" (that's finishing working our way through the Alphablocks magazine to normal folks) and some cutting/gluing/sticking projects. SB's lambs look lonely so we have some ladybugs and bees to make. Have flowers and bunnies, too, but will do those closer to Easter.

How about you, Maud?

mistlethrush Wed 26-Mar-14 10:10:09

Scout - have you done the 'bug house' that you stuff stems (eg old cow parsley stems and the like) into an emptied out, washed out, bottom cut off 1l plastic milk container and hang it up for the bugs? DS loves making things for bugs and its good for wildlife and I'm sure mini Scout would also enjoy similar (and poking about in bark for monkeypeas etc in the summer)

Scout19075 Wed 26-Mar-14 10:17:02

oh, no, haven't tried that MT. Thanks. We have a bee house and a ladybird house in our front garden but those were bought/presents. We're still stick gathering for our den as well.

SB and I are currently in a standoff over ripping off toilet paper from the roll.

mistlethrush Wed 26-Mar-14 10:28:18

Similar ideas here - but for pop bottle exchange card for milk bottle and use stems and straws etc to stuff it instead...

Scout19075 Wed 26-Mar-14 12:48:55

Thanks, MT, I'll have a look on my computer in a bit (on phone now). We got caught in the rain not far from the house on the return trip. Brr, the rain in Scoutshire is cold today! We're about to have leftover sloppy joes for lunch to warm us up.

Scout19075 Wed 26-Mar-14 12:49:29

How are things today, Donki?

Donki Wed 26-Mar-14 16:39:10

Saw the doctor again today - she has increased the dose of Citalopram to 20mg (she has been cautious, introducing it slowly) and signed me off for another 4 weeks. Which is all well and good, but I worry that my school will lose patience.... although they have been very supportive so far.

I am so angry with MrDonki about Sunday - although it turns out that DM is away and can't make the concert at the Minster sad

I want to go out somewhere with the YD during the day. And I may ask demand that MrDonki comes back earlier so that I can go by myself!

An unlucky SafeStyle salesman called just as I was going out to the GP - and caught the rough edge of my tongue. I don't feel too guilty as when they came round last time - and MrDonki agreed to let them give us a quote, it took trading standards to stop them making aggressive phone calls afterwards.

Donki Wed 26-Mar-14 20:49:30

Well, I decided that sitting there seething would be ridiculous. So very calmly and quietly I told MrDonki how angry I was.

I got a sheepish 'sorry'


<<Gets out a large vat of red wine, which by Tea Room rules of requirement will not interact in any way with the Citalopram>>

Scout19075 Wed 26-Mar-14 21:19:51

Has he said anything about Sunday, Donki?

What did the YD end up doing in school today?

mistlethrush Wed 26-Mar-14 21:36:33

Donki I'll give you a lift home if that would help - remember you need to pay for parking when ever you park in the centre - evenings and weekends too sad

Donki Wed 26-Mar-14 21:42:47

Thank you for the offer Mistle but I usually park by the West Yorkshire Playhouse if we are in town in the evening - it's reasonable from 6pm on - which I hope gives me time to get to the Minster.

How much is the concert and can I get tickets on the door?

Scout The YD had a completely normal school day, lessonwise. The school was eerily quiet though.

Once we had dealt with his anxieties over only one of his friends (the most annoying one) being around (solution, come home for lunch so that he got a break from annoying friend), he went into school very calmly. Much better than yesterday!

Donki Wed 26-Mar-14 21:47:09

MrDonki might be remorseful about Sunday, but he is not actually doing anything to change arrangements. He has offered to take us out for Saturday lunch, but my emotions are all over the place at the moment, and I don't actually know what I want....

... besides beating him silly and killing OW

mistlethrush Wed 26-Mar-14 21:48:35

details here - there's always room.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Wed 26-Mar-14 21:50:06

::Mellors puts the le Creuset frying pan into his rucksack and checks the train timetable::

mistlethrush Wed 26-Mar-14 22:09:11

Just imagine the NMBs infesting the 'quiet' coach grin

Scout19075 Wed 26-Mar-14 22:14:56

SB and I can join the Le Creuset army, though I'd recommend we wait until the morning or I will have a very grumpy SB to contend with and wouldn't be able to focus on the task at hand.

Donki Wed 26-Mar-14 22:33:06

SB can always wear the hob nailed boots... :-D

mistlethrush Thu 27-Mar-14 07:10:44

MC can wear his (size 6) rugby boots to help out.

Scout19075 Thu 27-Mar-14 07:34:02

Actually, Donki, let me at MrDonki -- I'm so grumpy I'd probably shred him to pieces with little effort.

Donki Thu 27-Mar-14 08:37:28

MrDonki is trying to make amends by taking us out for Saturday lunch...

I felt much better after telling him how I felt.

I said I was surprised how angry I felt - and pause and said that on reflection the words 'surprised how angry' should be replaced by 'absolutely fucking livid'. All said in a quiet and calm tone of voice!

'Twas more effective because I rarely swear and I never use the F word.

Even though I didn't shout, it has helped me to deal with my feelings.

but I still want to shake him until his brains rattle - and kill the OW

Donki Thu 27-Mar-14 08:40:19

So MC and SB are welcome to come and stomp him in heavy and spikey footwear

- and I have been eyeing up cross country mud studs to put in my donkey horse shoes before I unloose a few double barreled kicks aimed at just below waist height.

Donki Thu 27-Mar-14 08:41:30

And if you still feel like shredding him, I could tell you where he works.. grin

mistlethrush Thu 27-Mar-14 08:53:47

It's beautifully sunny this morning - I hope that you can go for a stomp in the countryside and get some frustration out!

Donki Thu 27-Mar-14 09:23:31

Going out for a (cautious) stomp with a friend and their dog smile

Scout19075 Thu 27-Mar-14 11:05:47

I am beastly today. MrDonki might not survive!

Donki Thu 27-Mar-14 19:51:19

Trying not to be too grumpy with the YD thia evening.

Donki Thu 27-Mar-14 22:23:40

I survived the YD's friend coming round and both of them Minecrafting obsessively, and getting the YD to bed without losing it, but am definitely rather umm irritable this evening.

Perhaps getting more than 4 hours sleep a night would help? I just can't seem to stay asleep at the moment.

Maybe Mellors could give me a good withers and ear rub to relax me.

《Drags in a bale of lavender straw to see if it helps me to sleep》

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 27-Mar-14 23:15:18

Yes, lack of sleep is bound to aggravate the situation . You have my sympathies.

Can Donkis climb onto massage tables?

::Mellors packs a huge bag with folding massage table, soothing oils and fluffy white towels::

Donki Thu 27-Mar-14 23:20:48

《Lays self down with a contended sigh》

At least I'll get some of the knots out and smell nice, even if I don't sleep...

Donki Thu 27-Mar-14 23:23:09

It doesn't help that MrDonki is "out" again.

If he is not careful in his existential swithering he will have made the decision by default, assisted by Donki's hooves at a little below waist height.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 27-Mar-14 23:33:56

Argh. That's not good (by which I mean the swithering and the going out. The hooves to the groin may not be good in the strictly legal sense but no jury of your peers would convict you).

Donki Fri 28-Mar-14 08:18:50

Good Morning!

《Blearily puts out breakfast buffet with a huge vat of strong tea (decaff for those who need it)》

《Sweeps fragrant lavender straw back into a neat pile》

It smells nice, but it's a bit scratchy compared to a nice soft pile of meadow hay.

mistlethrush Fri 28-Mar-14 08:49:58

Donki try these - might take a day or two to kick in but they definitely help with stress - a big Boots would have them or a health food shop possibly.

Does H realise that he is actioning his way out of options? In his present state of mind it might need spelling out for him (preferably with a frying pan, but that probably isn't legal). With all this 'woe is me' attitude he probably hasn't thought about what you might be feeling. angry

mistlethrush Fri 28-Mar-14 08:50:39

Oooh and there's a fantastic acupuncturist in C.A. so not too far.

Donki Fri 28-Mar-14 09:17:57


I will look for your other suggestion when I go shopping later.

Justa suggested Melatonin.

Donki Fri 28-Mar-14 09:21:44

Thank you Mistle -and everyone else too. The Mobile Le Creuset rapid reaction force is much appreciated, and brings a smile to my face when I picture you all, frying pans at the ready grin

And frankly, the NMBs are just terrifying!

UniS Fri 28-Mar-14 11:01:59

good news from dh. he has had an all clear on the test results. no idea what the problem was but he's not worried any more. hurrah.

Donki Fri 28-Mar-14 12:54:10

Oh, wonderful!
So pleased for you.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Fri 28-Mar-14 23:30:57

That's great news, UniS.

Donki Sat 29-Mar-14 08:20:02

《Puts out special weekend breakfast buffet with full English as well as fruit, croissants, cereals, porridge with cream, and anthing else which might be wanted.》

What have the NMBs been upto now? They are all crashed on the sofa with their mini frying pans and smell suspiciously of whisky...

They also appear to be covered in war paint.

UniS Sat 29-Mar-14 08:47:41

it seems the nmbs have been on maneuvers. Donki , do plants in you garden look a bit battered at ankle height?

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 29-Mar-14 09:27:57

I think the NMBs have been practicing their formation frying pan swinging.

::tucks into buffet::


Donki Sat 29-Mar-14 16:07:46

Now that you come to mention it...

I had been blaming rampaging squirrels grin

mistlethrush Sat 29-Mar-14 20:01:09

Donki - sorry, it was mistlehound. She is trying to rid the city of blackbirds. A one dog mission. We have a track in the garden - and one of my borders at the bottom seems to have lost its hellibores, snowdrops and things at the moment as its where she skids to a halt in a flurry of mud and lawn...

Donki Sat 29-Mar-14 20:03:53

Now if Mistlehound could rid our garden of very fat wood pigeons...

Jacksmania Sat 29-Mar-14 20:55:37

Am I too late to join the line of Le Creuset-equipped Tea Roomers willing to beat some sense back into Mr. D?

I have just read back and caught up.

Donki, I am so sorry sad
<offers gentle head rub and hoof polishing>

Also, apologies for being absent for so long. flowers

Jacksmania Sat 29-Mar-14 20:57:12

I don't actually own any Le Creuset but I do have a very heavy cast-iron Kitchen Aid Dutch oven that will do the job nicely. Like Maud's, it's red, so blood stains won't show...

Donki Sat 29-Mar-14 20:58:20

Actually if mistlehound could morph into a ravening hell hound you could set her on OW and MrDonki...

mistlethrush Sat 29-Mar-14 21:00:54

I'm sure she'd be happy to cover them in mud (and pond water), hair and lick them a lot...

Jacksmania Sat 29-Mar-14 21:14:18

I think shoving them head-down into a cow flop sounds a whole lot better...

Donki Sat 29-Mar-14 21:18:27

Jacksmania All Tea Roomers are welcome to join the serried ranks of the Le Creuset Mobile Rapid Response Force.

It is a crack team with a fearsome reputation.

Jacksmania Sat 29-Mar-14 21:35:20

^ excellent grin

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 29-Mar-14 22:42:05

Lovely to see you again, Jacksmania.

Have you managed to make a plan for tomorrow, Donki?

Donki Sat 29-Mar-14 23:41:49

Go to Meeting in the morning.
Friend of the YD coming in the afternoon/me gardening
Go to Mistle's concert in the evening (with DM if she gets back in time)

Remembering to change the clock.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sun 30-Mar-14 00:24:43

That sounds like a great plan for all concerned!

Scout19075 Sun 30-Mar-14 07:36:29

UniS, good news regarding MrUniS. Fingers crossed for no re-attempts at scaring you.

Donki, it sounds a lovely day planned. I hope you are able to enjoy yourself.

JM, lovely to see you, MrsJM! How's the young JB enjoying six?

Maud, I was going through something at home and came across the package I had for Girl that I was supposed to send in the summer. D'oh! I'm going to repackage it (I remember there was a note in there wishing her good luck for the start of big school) and will get it out soon. D'oh!

D'oh, and MT, just remembered I still need to go look at your link.... Mistlehound is on a one dog mission to clear the birds and I think SB is on a one small boy mission to gather all of the sticks along the path to/from town. He spotted a rogue stick and a couple of leaves in YOUT on Friday and couldn't quite understand why I said "NO."

Spent part of Friday in YOUT doing some window shopping. We were in the JL Toy department (we spend some time every trip to YOUT there -- a promise to go there to look means SB will go anywhere else I want) and were overrun by a class of French exchange students. Several of them were trying on clothes (the kids clothing is next to the toys and there's a changing room in the toy section) and some had articles of school uniform. Whether they realized they were uniform or not, I don't know, but they were trying them on like they were high fashion. (I don't think they did realize because they had uniform bits with non-uniform bits and had them on together.) It did make me laugh, though. SB was confused about why all of these big kids were running (and they were RUNNING) through the store instead of walking. I guess we're coming into exchange student/program/class trips time so I'm bracing for more hilarity when out-and-about in YOUT.

Happy Mothering Sunday, all!

Donki Sun 30-Mar-14 08:12:17

Happy Mothering Sunday!

Donki Sun 30-Mar-14 08:50:55

I see that Mellors has put out a sumptuous breakfast of requirement.

And I think the NMBs must be responsible for the floral decorations.

Those really are very nice bunches of dandelions, celandines and coltsfoot

...so thats where my daffodils went - I thought the slugs had eaten them...

Wild garlic is really very pretty
《opens window for freash air》

How sweet :-D

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sun 30-Mar-14 09:53:44

Happy Mothering Sunday everyone!

Scout19075 Sun 30-Mar-14 10:47:03

SB is really into this Mothering Sunday business.... grin

Donki Sun 30-Mar-14 13:00:17

MrDonki has just phoned to ask YD to go and buy some flowers for Mother's Day. No warning. No going through what is involved. He has never gone to the shop by himself (I am working on it - in a familiar place he will point to something and proffer money with an adult for back up)

I am damned if I am organising my own ruddy flowers...

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sun 30-Mar-14 13:14:52

Quite right, Donki. MrDonki needs to make some effort here, beyond making a phone call.

I'm glad to hear SmallBoy and MrScout are acquitting themselves well.

Scout19075 Sun 30-Mar-14 13:23:38

SB keeps giving me hugs and kisses (he is generally huggy/cuddly but he's stingy with kisses on a normal day). He also asked MrScout "Are there eggs here? (We're at PiL). And do we have all of the other ingredients so I can make Mommy a cake?!". MrScout does not cook, let alone bake, but I just melted at the thought of SB forcing MrScout because he wanted to make one for me. (BTW, it didn't happen but I love the thought process of my four year old.)

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sun 30-Mar-14 13:48:47

Aww. That is lovely.

Donki Sun 30-Mar-14 13:49:12

Awww! SB is gorgeous.

The YD came to Quaker Meeting without a fuss so that I could go.

And then gave me a very long cuddle before he curled up on the floor reading his book.

Home now - and he is playing Minecraft whilst he waits for his friend.

Scout19075 Sun 30-Mar-14 16:23:02

Is the YD not Quaker as well, Donki? Apologies, I don't know much about Quakerism which is a bit shocking, really, when you consider where I'm from. I only know one Quaker IRL, though I haven't seen her since I was 17-ish (and she was a few years younger) -- she wasn't someone I was really friends with and she was seriously messed up so when I left the Girl Scout troop I knew I wasn't going to keep in touch so I never really asked her too many questions to learn more.

Apparently the cake conversation happened yesterday but MrScout told me about it today on the way to the pub (SB was riding with my PiL because he likes the adventure of being in a different seat/car).

SiL with the brood popped around a little while ago. They were here for all of seven minutes and seem to have wound everyone up so much it's taken an hour for a couple of us to climb down from the ceiling Bah.

UniS Sun 30-Mar-14 19:33:47

apparently... dh asked boy if he was going to make a card on numerous occasions and boy did not. About 10.30am dh remembered and promoted boy to wish me a happy mother's day. After more ptomting Boy wrote me a card on the beach in letters two feet high.

Handily , mothers day is a festival I can take or leave with equal indifference.

Donki Sun 30-Mar-14 21:12:02

Scout The YD self identifies as a Quaker - but doesn't like going to Meeting too often. He is a couple of years older than any of the other children at our local meeting - but not old enough (nor mature enough) to join the teenagers.

Jacksmania Mon 31-Mar-14 19:00:15

One day late, but Happy Mother's Day to all flowers. Ours isn't until May some time smile

I am working frantically to finish a crocheting project that must be mailed off today, after which I will require A Large Glass of Something.

Will be back.

Meanwhile, I'm leaving a sumptuous buffet with everything on it, and maple syrup.


Donki Mon 31-Mar-14 19:40:08

Carrots in Maple syrup.

《Fluffs up a pile of meadow hay with lavendar oil sprinkled over it》

Aaah! That is much more comfortable than lavendar straw!

Thanks JM

Donki Mon 31-Mar-14 19:48:58

Lavender blush

UniS Mon 31-Mar-14 19:54:34

Ohh Maple syrup candies. Thank you JM, descrumptious

I see your Lavendar and I raise you a lavendarlek - its purple shouts exterminate in a devon accent whist waving a sink plunger at you and it can't climb stairs, but in spite of all that it thinks it very scarey. It might just be one of the monsters from smallscoutboys bedroom....

Donki Mon 31-Mar-14 22:35:24


Donki Tue 01-Apr-14 06:59:27

Morning all!

Donki Tue 01-Apr-14 07:01:15

The maple syruo candied carrots were a special treat yesterday. They helped me cheer up no end.

I felt very down yesterday, so they were much needed.

mistlethrush Tue 01-Apr-14 07:25:48

MOrning Donki...

April fools on MC fell flat. He didn't comment on the fact that I was eating breakfast and he wasn't. Just burst into tears sad

UniS Tue 01-Apr-14 08:15:27

Think I got boy good n proper.
Looked at my text messages, " one from school, year 3 , no teacher avalible today, school cancelled."

Donki Tue 01-Apr-14 08:51:34

If I tried that with the YD, I would never get him to school afterwards.

Donki Tue 01-Apr-14 09:18:26

Got MrDonki good and proper too - 7.15 (so a bit late anyway, but he is a real slug in the morning), I went in and screeched "aaaargh! It's quarter past eight"
He was vertical with panic before he looked at his watch...

mistlethrush Tue 01-Apr-14 09:19:04


Donki Tue 01-Apr-14 09:20:04

Oh yes.
[evil grin]

Scout19075 Tue 01-Apr-14 09:21:00

Well done, Donki!!!! grin

Donki Tue 01-Apr-14 09:24:35

(Poor MC, how did he cope when you explained Mistlethrush ?)

Scout19075 Tue 01-Apr-14 09:27:54

I want to know how UniS's Boy coped....

I don't get the British obsession with April Fool's Day.

mistlethrush Tue 01-Apr-14 09:28:06

(he sobbed a bit more, went and got breakfast (ready for him in the other room) and got on with eating it)(Roll on the easter hols, he's suddenly hit a wall of exhaustion)

UniS Tue 01-Apr-14 09:36:27

ERM, boy was rather cross and a bit tearfully when I told him he DID have to get his shoes on and go to school. got him hook line and sinker. He had cheered up a bit on the walk to school , hearing about his friends making fake sick to fool their mum and admiring another friends fake broken wrist bandaged up .

Donki Tue 01-Apr-14 09:42:25

The YD is really tired too - and stressed/anxious because they are having another practice SATs week. He couldn't get to sleep for ages on Sunday night (and very clingy at bed time). Was late to sleep last night - and then woke up in the middle of the night for a while.

Of course MrDonki's idiocy is not helping the YD's anxiety levels either.

Donki Tue 01-Apr-14 09:57:44

I highly recommend the "King's College Choir announces major change" on youtube.

Absolutely brilliant!

Donki Tue 01-Apr-14 18:01:19

MrDonki "out" again tonight.

I need to find something to do to take my mind off things...

UniS Tue 01-Apr-14 19:00:21

KIngs College LOL Thank you Donki.

30 days of biking ( cycling) starts today. Its face book thing I'm doing.,. Today I did a 14 mile round trip on my bike to get to a meeting, a demo of an electronic hymnal... interesting, but somewhat pricey.

Jacksmania Tue 01-Apr-14 19:02:05

<ponders if changing the lock on the front door would be rather too much of an April Fool's joke on Mr. Donki>

[evil grin]

Donki Tue 01-Apr-14 19:15:41

If it wad just me, I might 'forget' and put the security chain on when he is next due home...

But the YD would wax wrath and be very upset if I locked MrDonki out.

Jacksmania Tue 01-Apr-14 20:21:52

Hmmm... distressing the YD is not an option.

Donki Wed 02-Apr-14 01:25:30

Gosh it's quiet in here at night!

Well apart from the NMBs snoring.

Scout19075 Wed 02-Apr-14 07:06:52

I was up around 12:37 tending to SB who I'm not convinced was awake. I promptly fell back asleep. I woke again around 5:12 to a panicked "Mommy! Mommy! Mommy!" over and over followed by a desperate"I need the toilet!" <<sigh>> I wish he would just get up and go in the middle of the night rather than call me and tell me about it. He's perfectly capable of doing it all himself. It also meant that was us up for the day. <<bigger sigh>>

Breakfast anyone?

Donki Wed 02-Apr-14 09:26:24

Scout, the YD is still doing that at 11! sad
We have done everything I can think of to give him the confidence to go by himself in the night. There is a night light on the landing and a small light on downstairs so that the stairwell isn't dark.
Fortunately he doesn't often need to get up in the night for the toilet now.