Tearoom 35: Sun, sea and sand...

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beanandspud Sun 27-Jan-13 20:33:55

This breathtakingly beautiful island has unspoilt powdery white sand beaches, crystalline turquoise waters that wash over pristine coral reefs, and verdant green rainforest.

Scuba diving, snorkelling, kayaking and sailing trips are available and you can discover the island's charms on foot (with or without Mellors the guide) by mountain bike or private island buggy.

For those in need of pampering the spa offers a selection of luxurious treatments to soothe and heal both body and soul.

For dining, enjoy a freshly prepared meal at the tearoom, a picnic on the beach, or a delicious dinner in the oceanfront restaurant with its stunning sea views. There is wine, brew and good company, everybody is welcome.

Scout19075 Sun 27-Jan-13 20:49:53

Hi bean!

The tearoom's distressed leather sofa and chinz armchairs look a bit shabby in this much sunshine - maybe we should get Mellors to dig out the cane garden furniture?

beanandspud Sun 27-Jan-13 20:51:24

Hello! How was your weekend? I was thinking of the Family Scout's trip.

Can I pour you a wine?

Scout19075 Sun 27-Jan-13 20:58:12

Mmmm, wine. Weekend was good. SB started melting down towards the end of yesterday -- too little sleep Friday night combined with long day Saturday and too much excitement led to one overly tired & emotional three year old. Still, a good day. We're not long home and I'm contemplating doing what SmallBoy is (sleeping). How was your weekend?

beanandspud Sun 27-Jan-13 21:12:23

Cheers! Small Bean and I had a fairly quiet time. Cleared (more) snow yesterday and did some jobs. Went swimming this morning and then managed a walk this afternoon when Mr Bean got home.

LBD - I'll see if we can get the sun loungers out as well, and maybe Mellors can mix up a few cocktails...

Jacksmania Mon 28-Jan-13 01:15:33

Oh look, I found some brand new wicker furniture in the Storage Room of Requirement. Let's use that instead. It's got lovely cool cushions, too. And there's a hammock.

<the distressed sofa etc vanish from view and beautiful wicker furniture more suitable to the climate appears>

Oh, and there are Planters Punch and Mai Tais at the bar.

Are we on Maui?

I love it here.

mistlethrush Mon 28-Jan-13 09:30:18

The aspidistra looks as though it likes it here too. I do like what the NMBs have done with the palm fronds. Its such a pity that its on the warm side and with all the work he's doing Mellors seems to have got a bit hot wink

beanandspud Mon 28-Jan-13 10:14:38

<<puts on dark shades to enjoy the view of Mellors discreetly>>

Jacksmania Mon 28-Jan-13 22:55:49

<slowly lowers sunglasses to ogle look >

Hmmm... yes....


mistlethrush Tue 29-Jan-13 08:57:12

These warm climes... its such a bind! grin

Jacksmania Tue 29-Jan-13 17:26:53

May this be the most difficult thing all of us have to do today grin

<sets out breakfast buffet>

I know it's not breakfast time, really, but breakfast can be all sorts of things.

How's everyone today?

TitHead Tue 29-Jan-13 19:13:39

Sounds like bliss. Can I relax in here for a while please?

beanandspud Tue 29-Jan-13 20:11:03

Hello TitHead! Yes, of course you can relax in here, help yourself to breakfast/lunch/dinner.

Jacksmania Tue 29-Jan-13 21:30:59


Is it wineo'clock yet?

mistlethrush Wed 30-Jan-13 08:59:22

JM, you should know that its always wine o'clock if you want it to be.

Breakfast would be lovely thanks. I think I'll have some fresh fruit salad with mangos and pineapple in, then a lovely crispy croissant (if I can get my hands on one before the NMBs run off with them all to try to beat them down into surf boards). And a nice pot of fresh tea too I think.

I have bitten the bullet and got a bike fitting appointment set up with Islabikes... DH was wondering whether it is worth it, given the extra cost, but I would prefer to get DS something that will really encourage him to do cycling (and be suitable for different options) rather than get one that will be OK but less easy.... And of course I would prefer to get something that would last longer and fit him for that bit longer too....

Jacksmania Wed 30-Jan-13 18:32:36

I think a properly fitted bike is a very good idea for anyone, adult or child. I remember struggling on an ex-boyfriend's mountain bike, and when I got my own, was shocked to find that I could fly up hills much easier.

So is 10 am a suitable time for wine o'clock? I feel like I need it intravenously, preferably.

mistlethrush Thu 31-Jan-13 08:42:47

JM - definitely <passes the Merlot> wine

Tea / Coffee for anyone else? I think hot buttered crumpets with honey would be a good option for a grey windy day.

DS doesn't have any school trousers to wear today. hmm Coincidentally I spoke to his class teacher yesterday about the saga of the missing trousers - and commented that the pair he was currently wearing weren't his, and weren't named. However, that pair didn't come home with him either. And I'd mended them before noticing that they weren't his too!!! One pair didn't come home after karate last term. One pair got swapped last Monday after games. Both of his pairs are clearly named, with well sewn on labels. He's gone in home trousers that are roughly the right colour, but have pockets on the legs as its the best we could do.

Jacksmania Thu 31-Jan-13 20:56:31

<snaffles crumpets>

It's grey and rainy here today, too. Has been all week. My mood, honestly, is in the toilet after a discussion with DH on Tuesday night.
Sometimes there are hidden darknesses in a marriage that you never knew about, and when you find out, it leaves you going WTF?

I'm not in a good head space. I feel like I've so much on my plate, and more just got added, and I would love to be able to say that so much of me is busy with trying to keep with this upcoming surgery, whenever it ends up happening, and I would just like to be cut some bloody slack!! But I don't feel I can say that, nor would it help if I did.

Feeling profoundly depressed and lonely today. I show weakness so rarely in RL that when I really feel at rock bottom, it's difficult to know to whom to turn.

Well, that's enough raw honesty for today.
Back to pretending I'm strong and ok.

wine, anyone?

Jacksmania Thu 31-Jan-13 20:57:55

trying to keep ---> trying to deal

Not sure where keep came in. Keep calm, perhaps? confused

Scout19075 Thu 31-Jan-13 21:09:57

<<Passes JM a large wine and offers a hand>>

Jacksmania Thu 31-Jan-13 21:11:41

Thanks thanks

How are you, Scout? How's everything in Scout World?

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 31-Jan-13 21:18:42

Gosh, what a gorgeous location. The sea view is perfection.

I'm sorry things are so grim, JM. Feel free to offload here at any time.

::waves to everyone::

Jacksmania Thu 31-Jan-13 21:21:49

Oh good god now that's cheered me right up grin

What a view. Mmmmmm....

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 31-Jan-13 21:24:03

::Passes JM the binoculars so she can get a better view of the -totty-- marine flora and fauna::

Scout19075 Thu 31-Jan-13 21:30:12

It's up and down here, JM, thanks. I'm not impressed with my new blood doctor and am trying to decide if I should contact my GP and fight the hospital or not. I'm tired of medical stuff ruling my life.

MrScout just got home five minutes ago and is stressing me out. I should have gone to bed ultra early.

Jacksmania Thu 31-Jan-13 21:35:10

Men. Some days, I tells ya... some days...

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 31-Jan-13 21:36:35

Just keeping admiring Mellors the sea view, ladies. Just keep admiring the view.

Scout19075 Thu 31-Jan-13 21:39:35

Unfortunately that particular view doesn't do much for me, Maud. confused

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 31-Jan-13 21:45:05
Scout19075 Thu 31-Jan-13 21:50:47

Dancin' in the Moonlight It makes me think of jamboree/the summer I met MrScout. I can't believe that this summer it will be ten years....

beanandspud Thu 31-Jan-13 21:52:55

<<Tops up wine for everyone...>>

<<Hands around thanks and joins in the dancing>>

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 31-Jan-13 21:55:11

::Throws shapes::

10 years already? Wow. Mind you, because we are Very Old, we have been together more than 20 years. No further comment.

beanandspud Thu 31-Jan-13 21:59:32

Maud - may I join you in the Very Old Club? We have been married 15 years this year and together for 19. I can't quite believe it - in my head I'm still about 26 grin.

mistlethrush Thu 31-Jan-13 22:02:59

I like that song Scout

JM sorry things are tough.

Mistlehound has been barking at me this evening (she was basically mute when we got her... so this is quite a change) but she had everything she needed and wasn't telling me what it was she wanted to do (if it was playing, she wasn't bringing me anything to play with). So she got told to be quiet and has gone to sleep on her bed not next to me... Don't want her to think that she rules the roost though!

MC is learning that, if you concentrate and listen at school, you get praised and rewarded... and its more enjoyable. grin

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 31-Jan-13 22:03:14

Bean - In an almost-Groucho Marx kind of way, you may feel that if any club has me in it you don't want to join, but if you are really qualified for the Very Old Club of course you can! But perhaps you were a child bride?

Scout19075 Thu 31-Jan-13 22:03:29

<<Gives Maud her best Paddington Bear stare>> You are NOT Very Old.

I have had an email asking if I would like to join someone's jamboree team. I haven't decided.

We just wanna have fun.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 31-Jan-13 22:08:06

::Busts some moves::

Release your inner goddess

I am Very Old indeed, Scout.

Scout19075 Thu 31-Jan-13 22:13:37

<<Stamps foot like a petulant toddler.>> I refuse to believe it.

SmallBoy is going to his first birthday party this weekend. <<Sobs>> My baby has friends who like him enough to invite him to their parties. (Okay, to be fair, he would have been invited to his BFF's party in November had we not been in the US but this just feels different/more momentous some how.)

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 31-Jan-13 22:18:11

A thick layer of Max Factor hides a multitude of sins, Scout! ::wink::

A birthday party? What a landmark.

::Joins you in shedding a tear::

I've been feeling quite maudlin in the last few days about how big and grown-up The Girl is getting.

Scout19075 Thu 31-Jan-13 22:31:59

How is the Lovely Girl, Maud?

Bean, in my head I'm still a kid. I always say my inner child is a five year old. At five I was a big girl in that I knew the important stuff like letters, shapes, numbers, colors, how to share, etc., but I was still young enough to play unencumbered and let my imagination run free.

Today my inner child was free to run along the path from town with SmallBoy, pretending to be trains and birds, to pretend we were stomping on biscuits and making them go "CRUNCH!", to play tag ("I'm going to catch you, Mommy! Hahahahahahahaha!"), to go on squirrel hunts and to listen to the birds and say "SB, they're talking to you but I don't know what they're saying -- what are they saying?"

Does anyone have a copy of Grimm's Fairy Tales that they can recommend?

beanandspud Thu 31-Jan-13 22:36:51

Scout, SB will have a lovely time! And trust me, it won't be long before you find yourself moaning about 'yet another birthday party interrupting the plans for the weekend' wink

Small Bean's party is on Saturday, I am stupidly quite nervous about the whole thing.

Scout19075 Thu 31-Jan-13 22:39:43

bean, I already think that about MrScout's family and birthdays. wink

Ooooh, Small Bean's having a party, too? grin Are you having it at your house?

beanandspud Thu 31-Jan-13 22:40:23

Just realised the irony of moaning about birthday parties and then hosting one. blush

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 31-Jan-13 22:43:21

She's still officially lovely, Scout. She just isn't my rosy-cheeked toddler any more. ::sniff::

There's a beautiful version of the Grimm's Fairy Takes with illustrations by Arthur Rackham - you can find images if you google - but I don't know whether anyone sells modern reprints of it.

... And then when they get a bit older there's all the politics about who's invited to the party and who isn't. But maybe that's more a Girl Thing.

beanandspud Thu 31-Jan-13 22:45:22

<<goes all faint at the thought of a party in the house>>

No, we are using a local leisure centre. It is hopefully probably the only time we'll do a whole class party but with Small Bean joining a school where most of the children knew each other already from the nursery it felt important to include everyone until he had established close friends.

I will be ready for a large wine at 6pm on Saturday...

Scout19075 Thu 31-Jan-13 22:51:20

Like this one, Maud?

I remember my brother's first school friends party -- it was just the boys in the class invited. One of them was a PITA and my brother didn't want him but my mom was the "you can't invite all but one" sort. Said little boy punched me in the stomach (I was helping my mom with the party since I was 13). Fortunately I was wearing my scoliosis brace at the time and didn't feel a thing but the little twerp had a red hand.

I have a big birthday next year. I want a party. I haven't had a party since I was a kid.

Scout19075 Thu 31-Jan-13 22:57:48

On Saturday MrScout is going to a Guiding event that I am not. SmallBoy and I are going to go to the cool independent toy shop not far away from Guiding event to pick out a birthday present. He's already told me that G wants "Train tracks presents." Does that sound familiar?!?!?! grin

mistlethrush Thu 31-Jan-13 23:11:17

You see Scout... that birthday was several years ago for me so I don't know what you're complaining about!

MC is 8, yes 8 !!! soon.

And the Tearoom Tshirt was a 4.

This is the first one we're going down a size and aiming for a select handful.

Jacksmania Fri 01-Feb-13 00:54:42

How can MC be 8 already??

I suppose the same way that JB can be 5 in two weeks...

mistlethrush Fri 01-Feb-13 08:37:30

Not quite 8 - I still have a 7yo for a bit...

People are a bit surprised when they realise as he's so tall.

UniS - we're in the next size of shoes up again!!! Need any more trainers?

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Fri 01-Feb-13 09:04:03

Err, yes, Scout. I should have checked Amazon first. And you should certainly have a party!

::leaves some hot buttered crumpets on the buffet and heads for work::

Scout19075 Fri 01-Feb-13 20:37:54

I think I might be toilet training SB next week. I'm going to need some hand holding.

I bought him a SB toilet which he seems to love -- regularly putting it on the toilet, moving his step stool so he could climb on and sit. I've also listened to him as he's done all of this, talking about using the toilet and wearing "Big Boy Pants." I've asked him in the not-to-distant past if he wanted big boy pants and always got a resounding "NO!" but when I asked him today he said "Yes!" We were at Tesco getting veg so I took him to the boys section and he picked out a pack then proudly walked around the store with them in one hand and a magazine in the other, talking about his pants. He's ready to at least try, isn't he?

beanandspud Fri 01-Feb-13 21:05:11

Good luck Scout! We used a toilet seat for Small Bean rather than a potty and he did really well. Be prepared for lots of accidents on the first few days and it should get better after that.

Small Bean has had a lovely birthday! He went to bed an hour ago and we can still hear him chatting away to himself. He loved his bike and we went out for tea tonight where he was such good company. My baby has grown up...

Scout19075 Fri 01-Feb-13 21:07:41

SmallBoy seems very happy with his toilet seat. And proud that he can get up & down himself.

What time is SmallBean's party? Is he excited?

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Fri 01-Feb-13 22:49:10

Yay for Small Bean's happy birthday.

It sounds as if SB is ready for toilet training. At the time, I misinterpreted what "ready" meant and I waited until The Girl would spontaneously take herself off to the loo, as her friend did. In retrospect, we could have done it much sooner. But the benefit of doing it quite late is that it doesn't take very long. Some of The Girl's friends were according to their smug mothers our of nappies the day they were two, but were not reliably dry for months after that.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Fri 01-Feb-13 22:50:37

And grin at SB walking around the supermarket talking about his new pants.

mistlethrush Sat 02-Feb-13 09:32:58

Sounds hopeful Scout. MC had been using his potty in the evenings for quite a long time before we actually 'went' for pt properly... I was planning on taking a week off work in the summer after his 2nd birthday -but he beet me to it and we 'did' PT over aweekend when my mother was also around. I think it helped with MC that he was in cloth nappies. He was still pretty small though so we didn't get much warning for sometime.

Sunny Saturday here - brew for anyone?

Jacksmania Sat 02-Feb-13 17:00:35

Good luck with potty training, Scout - we waited quite a while, too (JB was three, as well) and had it sorted pretty quickly. With a few accidents, but that was no big deal.

It looks like the sun wants to shine above, maybe through, the fog today. That would be good. It was actually warm enough to sit under our tiny coveted porch in the back (in my coat) and read for a bit and start planning more of the garden. And I finally planted my alliums, and put up the bird house. We're ready for spring!

Jacksmania Sat 02-Feb-13 17:01:21

The coveted porch should actually be the "covered" porch - but I did cover it before I had it!

Jacksmania Sat 02-Feb-13 17:02:04

I mean I coveted a covered porch.

I think I should quit now! grin

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 02-Feb-13 20:05:39

A covered porch does indeed sound covetable!

Scout19075 Sat 02-Feb-13 21:39:11
ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 02-Feb-13 21:41:19

What's wrong, Scout?

Scout19075 Sat 02-Feb-13 21:57:14

A Guiding event today has left me feeling flat and low.

Scout19075 Sat 02-Feb-13 21:59:14

bean, how was Small Bean's party today?

beanandspud Sat 02-Feb-13 22:31:59

Scout, what happened? That doesn't sound like you.

The party went well (I think). I was a bit taken aback by a number of parents that left their children and went - bearing in mind that I don't know the children and they don't know us at all. Small Bean had a fantastic time and thoroughly enjoyed himself. I do feel a bit exhausted and certainly not planning to do it again for a while. I think some people are naturally good at dealing with large numbers of small children and I'm not one of them.

I have a RL wine on the go, can I offer anyone a top up?

Scout19075 Sat 02-Feb-13 23:10:18

I don't think I could "drop and run" if I didn't know the mom. Glad Small Bean had a good time -- I was thinking about you & him this afternoon! The party SB is going to tomorrow is for families/anyone in the family who wants to attend so the whole Scout Troop is attending. SB is very excited. I really must wrap G's present tonight as I promised SB I would.

Guiding thing -- I'm sure it was all in my head but I very much felt like people made very strained very small talk with me because they felt they had to out of politeness. It was like because I no longer have a unit I wasn't worthy of being spoken to because most conversations lasted two/three sentences and they drifted off without even a goodbye/see you later. Very odd. Like I said it probably was all in my head but I felt very invisible.

Jacksmania Sun 03-Feb-13 03:24:18

A very wise friend smile told me this week that if it seemed a big deal in my head, it probably was a big deal. I don't have any words of wisdom beyond that, Scout - only to say that if the people at the guiding event are really that shallow, that you're not worth taking to unless you're guiding a group, then that's short-sighted, awful, and small of them. You ate so much more than that, and if they can't see that, it's their loss.

Jacksmania Sun 03-Feb-13 03:25:11

You are - not "ate"!!! Bloody phone. Sorry blush.

Scout19075 Sun 03-Feb-13 19:46:49

grin at JM's "You ate so much more than that..." I know I was/am a Girl Scout and we sold a lot of cookies.... Gosh I miss Girl Scout cookies. Mmm, cookies.

SB's friend's birthday party was just what I needed today -- families getting together, everyone chatting, eating, playing, even though most of us didn't know many other people there.

UniS Sun 03-Feb-13 20:09:07

Failing to read back before posting, slight faux pas I know, but thank you for the "dancing in the moonlight" and yes, I too qualify for the very old club! DH and I will have been together 21 years in 10 days time! Was not a child bride, but he was my teen age sweetheart :-)

Been off line , playing in snow in the mountains ( alps). Had a fab week with DH and boy. I never expected to have such a fun powder skiing day with 6 year old! but the boy turned out to be a real powder puppy. He skied with us for 7 hours yesterday! did some baby off piste stuff and fell over and laughed lots in deep deep powder.

UniS Sun 03-Feb-13 20:18:41

Maybe my inner child is also 6.

Trainers- Yes please MT- I expect the geox ones will be in use shortly, as his new ( to him ) snow boots are a 1... eeeeek, my baby has big boys feet! Must check his school PE trainers at half term, also his tap shoes.

BOy goes back to school tomorrow with an appallingly spelt holiday diary, hope his teacher takes time to fathom it out! There turned out to be 3 year 2 boys staying in the same chalet.. and all 3 mums insisted on "homework" before tea time. hurrah. It was quite sweet to see them sat at intervals along the dining table " writing" ( and day dreaming) each afternoon. They also had a blast in kids club together.

mistlethrush Sun 03-Feb-13 22:08:42

UniS - DS has just gone into 3.5 (where's the facepalm smilie when you want it???)

I had to put the dog and the boy in the bath / shower on our return from our walk this afternoon. Dog smelt of eau de bog - and boy was just filthy (wearing shorts). grin

Jacksmania Sun 03-Feb-13 22:56:46

We do need a facepalm smiley smile. I'd be using it a lot.

Thank you to everyone who held my hand this week. Was a bad week, headspace-wise. For my next birthday, may I please have a normal brain?
Thank you.

Organising taxes this afternoon. DH is out watching the SuperBowl, and DS is at grandma's, having a SuperBowl party grin. I suspect the football will be on in the background only, but much fun will be had by all. I'm enjoying the peace and quiet, although I do wish I could spend it in a different way. While I love getting/ being organized, taxes is not what I want to be doing today.

beanandspud Sun 03-Feb-13 23:26:42

<<waves at everyone>>

Glad you're feeling better JM and welcome back Unis! That sounds like a great week of skiing, can't wait to take Small Bean.

Hope that you are feeling a bit better Scout - it rather reminds me of years ago when I took DH to a work's Christmas party. A number of people asked him which branch he worked out (assumed that he must work for the same company as a lot of couples did) and then when they found out he worked elsewhere they just blanked him. Not surprisingly he declined the next invitation.

MT, your description of MC and MH in the bath together made me smile grin. Now that the weather seems a bit more settled let me know if you still fancy a treehouse expedition!

mistlethrush Mon 04-Feb-13 08:54:08

Treehouse expedition - definitely - will have to check with DH to find out when he is next rehearsal free of a weekend afternoon - he's been out playing every evening, most weekend afternoons for weeks from the feel of it - which means that MC and I can't leave the dog for that long a period (we're up to an hour twice a day now, without anything untoward happening, so making very good progress, but not going to push it as we don't want it all to go backwards). Thinking about it... might be possible on a Sunday morning even if DH is playing in the afternoon - he can look after the dog in the morning.... <ponders>

Skiing - glad it went well UniS - I'm afraid that's one of the things I've never really felt I wanted to do - if I wanted to hurtle around in a barely controlled way, I chose to ride a horse instead grin

We currently have a complicated jigsaw on the kitchen table - its not that many pieces (500) but its quite challenging so we're going at it as a family - DS is doing pretty well, which is encouraging to parents who both like (and are pretty good at) puzzles

Jacksmania Mon 04-Feb-13 18:19:56

We love puzzles! My MIL is addicted, and we got started on them two years ago when we were in Hawaii. JB is really very good at puzzles, as he is at the small fingery Lego.

We've given MIL a couple of photo puzzles for Christmases and birthdays, she loves them. We always pick a picture of JB at a special event, and get it made into a puzzle.

wine, anyone?

UniS Mon 04-Feb-13 19:34:54

wine please. Thank you.

shock is kinda face palm emoticon like.

Jacksmania Mon 04-Feb-13 21:27:30

It is, isn't it. grin

UniS Mon 04-Feb-13 21:33:12

Chocolate any body?? I'm bravely resisting in real life, but fear my self control may not last the evening.

oxeye Mon 04-Feb-13 23:42:26

:grinxeye wanders in dragging the George Clooney cut out behind her::

hello my dears! found you in Maui, that is a turn up for the books!
I am in the Very Old Club and have been with DH for 20 years ...<sigh> and my boy is going to be 7 this year - where is the time going?

I think it is melancholy time of you tbh, all passing years and missed chances - or that's how it seems
UniS did you pull boy from school for a week?
Mistle, let me know about the Islabike fitting, I am thinking of taking boy for a weekend to get a bike for him too!
love and hugs to all, I've read back but am too late to comment much, save I agree Scout, those who don't talk to you nicely are missing out themselves....

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Tue 05-Feb-13 09:18:25

Lovely to see you and gorgeous George, Oxeye!

mistlethrush Tue 05-Feb-13 09:47:00

brew and kisses for Oxeye and Maud! Oxeye - fittings are only during the week which is a real annoyance. So we're heading down at half term and going to get a travel lodge the night before so its not too much travelling in one day - and we can do more than travel and have bike fitting. DS would, of course, be fine, as he would happily watch his DVDs for hours on end - but I think it would be an unrealistic amount of driving for me.

Horrible, cold, snowy and windy morning - although the sun has now come out. brew anyone?

UniS Tue 05-Feb-13 19:00:13

We did a Islabike fitting with Boy at a bike show ( nearly 4 years ago! ) for his 2nd IB , this time round I tried him on someone elses and then bought a 2nd hand one, its IB number 4 for him this birthday . eek - now I KNOW i'm a bike snob.

Nice to see you again oxeye.
I spent this morning creating a living willow structure for a friend. We had a couple of snow flurries while we worked, but nowt that settled. hopefully it will help desquelch part of her garden in time. As well as be a fun thing to play in and around.

Scout19075 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:16:47

Do you think an uncoordinated boy could manage a balance bike?

mistlethrush Tue 05-Feb-13 21:28:31

Scout - he didn't look any more uncoordinated than MC was at the same age... and he LOVED his balance bike. The best option, if you can, is to find a child that is good at balance biking to show him how to do it - following someone around the park on one afternoon made more progress than he'd made in about 3 months previously (but even then it was much better than a bike with stabilisers).

Scout19075 Tue 05-Feb-13 21:57:46

He can't scoot, as much as he tries. He can do about two foot-swoops and then just walks his scooter around. He's only just figured out how to "monkey walk" in the swimming pool (he couldn't do it last term and watching him at lessons last week it looked like he couldn't do it but swimming with me on Monday he was doing it). His friend does have a balance bike but friend is a good two inches shorter than him so I don't think trying his would help much.

mistlethrush Tue 05-Feb-13 22:06:37

He won't 'get' it immediately - its a different type of feeling. Effectively they just continue walking to start with - but sitting down. As they get better they take longer strides - then find that if they push of with their feet they can actually get a bit of speed up - which means they can then take their legs off a bit.... You don't want a 'big' one though - because they do need a low saddle to give them enough 'spare' leg to do the strides.

Scout19075 Wed 06-Feb-13 17:46:55

Cold and bored waiting for MrScout to come out of work. And now I have to pee. angry

Jacksmania Wed 06-Feb-13 18:50:16

Can't help with needing to pee, Scout grin

But I can offer the full Buffet of Requirement and Fully Stocked Bar.

And a full-on yum view of my favourite Avengers character. Goooooooooooood morning!!!!!!!

mistlethrush Wed 06-Feb-13 18:59:22

There was me thinking you meant these characters

Bolly anyone?

UniS Wed 06-Feb-13 19:43:44

I think JMs pick is hunkier.

yes please to aice warming "vin chaud" to sip while I warm up on in the sun on the beach. feeling chilly in RL. Something to do with a full days work in a barn, even with 6 kw of heater going It wasn't warm.

Jacksmania Wed 06-Feb-13 19:44:55

Oh yeah, he's a hunk grin

<heart beats a bit faster>

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Wed 06-Feb-13 21:54:55

Crikey. Those are some biceps. John Steed is more my era too.

Scout19075 Wed 06-Feb-13 23:19:28

OMG, I nearly burst earlier, waiting for MrScout to come out. After hours his office is locked and you can only gain access with a badge. It was too much like hard work to get SB out of his car seat, get his coat on and bang on the door in hopes the security guard would take pity on me. It never seems to be the same security person two days in a row (I have to buzz to be allowed into the car park) so it's not like I have built up a "relationship" with the guards (not like when MrScout worked at his former company and couldn't drive for a year I got to know the security guys at his old office VERY well because, bless him, time keeping is not MrScout's strong point).

We went to Forest School this morning. Does anyone know if they make thermal socks for small people? SmallBoy is finally wearing his wellies but they're not very warm and (eek, he seems to be following my footsteps) two pairs of socks didn't seem enough and he was crying with cold feet.

<<Waves to oxeye, who she realizes she missed saying "hello" to before>>

mistlethrush Wed 06-Feb-13 23:56:54

I got MC some nice thick wellie socks in M&S

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 07-Feb-13 09:16:28

And I got The Girl some thermal socks in Primarni.

UniS Thu 07-Feb-13 18:45:25

insoles might help small boys cold feet. Farm suppliers often have small size boot socks.

Hows you all doing? I've had a lovely lazy day in the TR swinging in a hammock as teh sun shines... in RL it's been cold and a bit wet, I've washed the greenhouse ( got VERY cold hands) and been for a bike ride ( and tea n crumpets) with a friend.

Scout19075 Thu 07-Feb-13 20:44:35

I'm scared -- tomorrow SB is going to wear big boy pants for the first time. Ack!

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 07-Feb-13 20:48:42

It'll be fine. Are you staying near the washing machine at home?

Scout19075 Thu 07-Feb-13 21:02:02

Yes, staying at home. Dryer bit of the machine is playing up so will go to the launderette tomorrow night or stupidly early Saturday morning.

SB has said he'd like to wear pants tomorrow when I asked. I've told him we'll have an at-home day -- we'll do some more Pp projects (we're doing activities/coloring/making things for each letter in the order of Jolly Phonics), we'll practice using scissors and cut & paste lots of things, do puzzles (he's really got into puzzles lately and has been doing a 36 piece cardboard one that goes on a board with no picture to look at -- he'll do it, tip it over and do it again), watch trains & Cbeebies and generally have a good day in with lots of sitting on the toilet. What he doesn't know is I'm armed with sparkly stickers and chocolate trains.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 07-Feb-13 21:03:54

Stickers and chocolate treats are just what you need!

Scout19075 Thu 07-Feb-13 21:05:16

He got a chocolate train for his first swim class this term. I have two boxes less that one he ate after swimming of them.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 07-Feb-13 21:07:57

Aw. If you keep up the constant reminders about the loo, it'll go fine, I'm sure. And then you can have a chocolate feast.

Scout19075 Thu 07-Feb-13 21:12:05

He likes climbing up and sitting on the toilet but seems to only want to do it fully clothed. Chocolate's ready. I need to dig out the stickers.

Scout19075 Thu 07-Feb-13 21:13:18

Oh, the train at the first swim was because I knew how nervous and excited he was to go into the pool with just his teacher & friends. He was very brave and listened well so I thought he deserved a surprise reward.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 07-Feb-13 21:15:12

But maybe he will want to sit on the loo partially-undressed when his big boy pants are at stake? Fingers crossed.

Scout19075 Thu 07-Feb-13 21:18:46

That's what I'm hoping, especially since he said he wants to wear the red pair (red is his favorite color).

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 07-Feb-13 21:24:00

Oh, bless him. Have you got lots of spare pants ready?

Scout19075 Thu 07-Feb-13 21:30:09

It was a 7-pack. I think I also got a pack in the US but need to try to remember where I put them if I did get them.

UniS Thu 07-Feb-13 22:58:22

If you run out of pants he can always go comando.

mistlethrush Fri 08-Feb-13 00:32:50

good luck Scout!

oxeye Fri 08-Feb-13 01:58:42

::waves at scout::
good luck with pants. I found Oxboy liked to stand to wee, that was the break through - ideally outside

Scout19075 Fri 08-Feb-13 04:25:10

Shame it's so cold or we'd go commando outside all day. If nothing else it would give my neighbor a chuckle. (She's a nurse on a ward at the YOUT hospital so naked bums wouldn't bother her.)

beanandspud Fri 08-Feb-13 09:18:30

Good luck Scout and SB!

brew and pastries are on the side on this chilly Friday morning.

Scout19075 Fri 08-Feb-13 10:23:35

We have failed at the first hurdle. He sat bottomless but I didn't have to bribe him, oh no. Got the pants on him. Kept saying we're going to the toilet after breakfast. He was resisting. I went, was just going to get him and remind him again of the bribe and he did both in his pants and wasn't the least bit bothered by it. Got him on the loo bottomless and gave him the reward sticker for being bottomless on the toilet. (Sticker for sitting bottomless, chocolate train for something in the toilet.)

The fact he wasn't bothered by the wet pants isn't promising, is it?

He's currently bottomless playing with his car and lift track thing, oblivious to his half nakedness.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Fri 08-Feb-13 10:34:51

It's too soon to say, Scout. This is just a minor setback. Would it better to say "we're going to the toilet right now" rather than in so many minutes or after such and such a thing? He's probably too little to have that sense of time.

Scout19075 Fri 08-Feb-13 10:38:14

That's what I did but he made a huge fuss about "I don't want to!" that feared a huge meltdown to get on the loo.

beanandspud Fri 08-Feb-13 10:39:49

Don't panic Scout! The first day Small Bean went to nursery in 'Big Boy Pants' I collected seven pairs of wet pants and trousers at pick-up. The next day it was down to just a couple and by the end of the week he was pretty much dry.

Keep popping him on the toilet every 30 mins of so, lots of stickers for just sitting on the toilet, lots and lots of praise every time he does something.

And just remember, it's not the final chance. If after a few days you decide that this isn't the right time you can always make a choice to put the pants away for a few weeks and try again.

But stay positive - it will be fine.

Scout19075 Fri 08-Feb-13 10:56:43

Oh, I know it's not a do-now-or-never sort of thing. I'm perfectly willing to put him back in diapers if needed. It was the lack of upset at wetting himself that made me hmm as I thought he'd hate being wet (given things like he doesn't like picking up a lot of finger food, like fruit, preferring a fork).

We're now sitting watching videos on the computer. He's still naked from the waist down. He's having a cuddle, sitting on a towel that's been folded many times. I'm going to start going for the every half-hour on the loo, protests or not.

Scout19075 Fri 08-Feb-13 10:58:09

SmallBoy is loving this. I think we've now watched it a dozen times.

Scout19075 Fri 08-Feb-13 11:54:02

Any tips for getting him to stay on? He suddenly doesn't want to stay and he doesn't want a sticker. I've sung, counted (he lives counting, so it's not me being mean), offered to read a story....

Scout19075 Fri 08-Feb-13 12:22:42

Oh dear. I've just had sobbing of "I don't want to sit on toilet! I don't want to be big. I want a nappy.". I think that's us for the day the. sad. No point in stressing him out.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Fri 08-Feb-13 13:30:54

Yes, that's enough for one day. Try again tomorrow?

Scout19075 Fri 08-Feb-13 13:33:50

I told him we'd have a couple of nights sleep and try again next week. He said that was okay. He said he's happy to have his nappy back on.

mistlethrush Fri 08-Feb-13 15:09:08

MC got used to sitting on his potty at bedtime (before bath) and having a story whilst sitting (that was a regular nappy filling time anyway) and it got him used to the concept of sitting for a bit and doing something (although I'm now a bit hmm about the reading as he'll sometimes take AGES on the loo in the evening and you go up and find he's smuggled a book in and has read most of it rather than get on with it, have a bath and then read in bed...). But he was really quite small when he was doing this.

We also had a padded loo seat that dropped onto the loo which helped too - more comfortable and less cold I think....

I'm sure he'll get it, just not today.

UniS Fri 08-Feb-13 19:04:02

Now you remind me, yes, boy was "used " to sitting on his potty before we potty trained. He (like MC) was a regular kind of boy , so I got into the habit of parking him on the potty for a bit after breakfast while I read a story, saved a bit of washing.

We are currently fighting the dreaded thumbsucking with the aid of YET ANOTHER sticker chart. We have been here before... its not going well so far. Dentist visit in a week, I don;t want to have report that he's going backwards... but I may have too

Scout19075 Fri 08-Feb-13 20:21:07

He's been on the loo seat/toilet almost every day since we brought the toilet seat home. Perhaps I need to get him on it bare-bottomed more (as in, once a day). I just hope today hasn't put him off.

UniS Fri 08-Feb-13 20:44:02

Sure you havn't done any harm. There is always another week to try.

beanandspud Fri 08-Feb-13 20:47:13

Don't worry Scout, they all get there in the end and there's absolutely nothing to be gained by getting stressed over it. One of the things that Small Bean liked was the idea of being like Daddy to use the toilet. Not much fun for Mr Bean who probably preferred not to have an audience though smile

Picked Small Bean up from school tonight and his first question was whether we could go out for tea. Phoned Mr Bean who was on his way home and we went for an impromptu Italian meal which was lovely!

Friday wine anyone? I have a RL glass on the go. Does anyone have plans for the weekend?

Scout19075 Fri 08-Feb-13 21:35:11

I still love that he's called MrBean. grin

No, definitely not worth getting stressed over -- him or me. And I was very calm, as was SB, until he got worked up about being put on the toilet again. He wants to be a big boy like daddy but he doesn't want to, if that makes sense. MrScout is used to the audience by now. He grumbles about it sometimes but my "I deal with it all day, every day, suck it up" usually shuts down his moans for a day or two.

Not sure what Saturday holds but Sunday we're going out for pizza with the Seniors. How about you?

UniS Fri 08-Feb-13 23:10:52

I intend to sort some wood out this weekend, by thinning two of our trees in a big way... should keep us warm for a night or three next winter.

MIGHT go for a bike ride on sunday, or might not do, the waether forecast is rather wet, so I may wimp out. only done about 24 miles this week, not quite what I'm aiming for.

mistlethrush Sat 09-Feb-13 09:30:42

I'm taking mistlehound racing (rather informal, but fun!).

Jacksmania Sat 09-Feb-13 17:10:57

Morning brew
We're having JB's birthday party today. It's going to be nuts. There might be as many as 25 to 30 kids there - all but two from his preschool class, and everyone of his little friends from outside preschool. I was thinking maybe half would RSVP and we'd have about 15. shock Guess I was wrong. Some parents have to bring older or younger siblings and that's ok... but, wow. Fortunately it's not at ours I'm not that insane, it'll be at the little gym where he does karate, they do birthday parties and all the clean-up!!. Might need wine after.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 09-Feb-13 18:37:49

::Puts Mellors on standby for wine and deep tissue massage::

Jacksmania Sat 09-Feb-13 18:47:32

Possibly I should have one now for preventive effects?

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 09-Feb-13 18:50:44

The wine or the deep tissue massage? Heck. Why not have both? How many hours or minutes until partaaay time?

Jacksmania Sat 09-Feb-13 20:18:54

Oh, why not indeed? Two more hours smile

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 09-Feb-13 20:24:15

Here's Mellors, proffering the wine in one hand and the essential oils and fluffy white towels in the other.

mistlethrush Sat 09-Feb-13 20:45:09

Hope it goes well JM!

wine anyone?

mistlehound enjoyed racing again today... only trouble is that she's fighting to get away from me at the start so much that she always has a bad start...

beanandspud Sat 09-Feb-13 21:41:00

Good luck JM! Here's another wine to hide under the party bags and the pile of gifts...

UniS Sat 09-Feb-13 22:37:24

Is that dog racing as in chasing after a bundle of rag being wound in REALLY fast on a long line. bonkers mass start see which dog gets the rag first stylee. or is it more formal?

Lilac and Willow trees thinned out today. small pile of firewood, big pile of twiggy bits to shred in a week or two. Still have apple and elder to do. Neighbour is making noises about have 3 sycamores to get rid of... have said we would be happy to help.

mistlethrush Mon 11-Feb-13 09:25:12

UniS - we take over a (rather down at heel) greyhound racing 'stadium' (hahaha) and race round the track with a lure whizzing around the edge on a channel.... There will be simulated coursing later on in the year at some events, which we will also be trying with her! I now know why she's a failed worker - 'OOooh there's a stick, look it flies, and I can pounce on it and toss it again and pounce on it and .. oh you said squirrel - no, can't see that, Looook my STICK !!!!. If you get her to come to you (no, I'm not coming to you with my STICK) and hold her head and point her in the right direction, she sometimes manages to spot the squirrel..... grin Not that that is a problem when racing - although she's so busy struggling to get away from me that she gets a really bad start and always leaves the start about 2 lengths behind the others anyway! (She doesn't care she's not first, and we're not worried - she loves taking part and the rest doesn't matter!!!)

Scout19075 Tue 12-Feb-13 20:49:19

Maud, WINGS registration is open. smile

JM, happy birthday to JB for tomorrow. grin

SB and I went to the playground today. There was a bit of snow on it still -- SB was not impressed with it.

Scout19075 Wed 13-Feb-13 18:33:24

Gah. SmallBoy has pink eye again. This is the second time in his short life. I've only every had it once and that wasn't until I was 23/24. The GP thinks his never ending cold triggered it. Gah! He hates the drops and I'm so squeamish about eyes anyway....

mistlethrush Thu 14-Feb-13 09:13:46

Oooh I hope it gets better soon Scout.

MC is officially a cub sprout. I have first 3 badges to sew on (large sized sweatshirt)(I can't believe the size of sweatshirts some people have bought - hardly big enough now... I'm hopeful the one we've got might just last through....<searches for anti-rack to minimise growth overnight>)

Jacksmania Thu 14-Feb-13 17:29:02

Norovirus hell here.

Back to puking household.

mistlethrush Thu 14-Feb-13 22:23:33

I'm sorry to hear that JM - are you all afflicted? I hope you feel better soon.

I remember when I was quite little (6?) my parents and I were all ill with something like that - and I got better before they did - and got sent off to the (quite nearby) small shop to buy wheetabix ... with a 50p and was told to get some chocolate with the change - was only 2p as it was an enormous box!!!

Jacksmania Fri 15-Feb-13 16:24:47

I had it Saturday night (ugh), and have been feeling off for most of the week. JB had it Weds night but was bouncing around again by Thurs am hmm. DH is suffering today but has neither D not V just a massive grump on but is miserable nonetheless.

And my laptop is in the hospital with a pinched nerve cable that means the screen doesn't work.

What a week.

May I please have a new one?

Jacksmania Fri 15-Feb-13 16:25:06

Not --> nor

UniS Fri 15-Feb-13 19:28:46

One "new " week coming right up after saturday & sunday. Hope its a better one for you JM.

beanandspud Fri 15-Feb-13 21:23:33

<<waves at everyone and sends a new week directly to JM>>

Sorry I haven't been around much, this has been a crazy week.

Took Small Bean for a curry for tea tonight, he was a star! We used to be regular customers but rarely go now that we have a small person but definitely something we will do more often on a Friday night.

Jacksmania Sat 16-Feb-13 01:19:51

Oh, curry!!! Yum. I want some. Or Thai food.
(Must be feeling better.)

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 16-Feb-13 20:40:58

::Sends new week to Jacksmania::

Would anyone like some virtual wine?

Scout19075 Sat 16-Feb-13 20:46:25

Ooooh, yes please, Maud! <<Waves glass around.>>

It would be bad to drink RL wine with a sore throat, sinus headache (my face hurts) and clogged ears, wouldn't it?

JM, was JB not well for his birthday?

bean, isn't it great when they become good company? MrScout is starting to realize that SB is good company/fun/a conversationalist once he gets going. They were having lovely banter in the car today.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 16-Feb-13 20:51:15

::proffers wine in Scout's direction::

Today, I have mostly been gardening. It's really lifted my spirits.

Scout19075 Sat 16-Feb-13 20:58:37

Soaring spirits are good, Maud.

Today we went to the windmill for lunch and then bought some birthday presents (all three of MrScout's sisters have March birthdays).

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 16-Feb-13 21:02:05

::Opens the jumbo pack of twiglets::

That sounds like a lovely outing. I have only been as far as the garden society's sales hut today.

Scout19075 Sat 16-Feb-13 21:10:31

I need to go to the shop for necessities (milk and ice cream being the biggies) but I don't feel like moving.

Maud, question for you regarding Guiding -- have you tried to get into Go! this week?

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 16-Feb-13 21:13:03

I did some Go!ing earlier in the week and I still hate it, but not as much as I hate Join Us.

Can you put off the shop until the morning? It's late, you're not well and the sofa is comfy.

Scout19075 Sat 16-Feb-13 21:17:55

Did you have problems getting into it? I had issues all week and only managed it mid/late Friday afternoon and was so paranoid it would boot me out that I worked at warp speed and made mistakes I can't work out how to fix and got the impression that people in my district thought I was making it up. Oh well, it's done.

I'm actually on my bed, with my legs under the covers. I might get MrScout to go (we are actually out of milk so do need that for cereal in the morning).

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 16-Feb-13 21:22:57

I just got into it without any problem. Being unable to rectify mistakes without going through the helpline is one of its worst features, I think.

beanandspud Sat 16-Feb-13 21:27:59

<<Coughs rather loudly>>

Did someone mention wine?

<<Proffers glass>>

Scout19075 Sat 16-Feb-13 21:28:09

It spent most of the week allowing me to log on and then telling me there was a problem so to log out and try again. And mid-week, when it did let me in to make changes it told me I wasn't able to make changes as I came on from an unauthorized machine. I mean, WHAT?!?!? This is the only computer I've ever accessed my Go! information from.

I told my superusers (who also happen to be my co-Division Commissioners and who are high-up in the district and county chains as well) of my mistake and I'll let them sort it out. It only has to do with dates, nothing major.

YAY! MrScout is going to the shop so I can stay and MN so I don't have to leave my warm, comfy bed.

UniS Sat 16-Feb-13 21:29:16

wine for you and me.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 16-Feb-13 21:32:40

Welcome to the twiglet and wine party, Bean and UniS.

Scout19075 Sat 16-Feb-13 21:37:47

Mmmm, virtual wine is the best!

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 16-Feb-13 21:42:54

::Sips her wine demurely::

beanandspud Sat 16-Feb-13 21:50:26

<< Hic! >>

We have had a lovely day. Small Bean had a great swimming lesson and swum a width without stopping for the first time smile.

The boys went to watch rugby this afternoon and then some friends came over for tea. It was so nice to see the children playing together - no tears, no strops, lots of sharing and nice behaviour. I know it won't be like that every time but Mr Bean and I had a real 'proud parent' moment.

UniS Sat 16-Feb-13 22:53:46

prefer real twiglets to virtual ones... unless its twiglet surprise of course.
well done the small bean.

DH is grumping gently because I am going out tomorrow morning and leaving him with boy. and I shall be doing the same on Monday morning. - DH is off next week. I didn't realise he found it hard work having the boy all day... oh how my heart bleeds.

mistlethrush Sat 16-Feb-13 23:29:28

!!! Unis grin. DH will choose the dog over the boy anyday!

Jacksmania Sun 17-Feb-13 17:28:05

Oh lovely, a bunch of new weeks grin

Previous week went as follows: Sat 9th JB's birthday party. I had noro that might. Didn't get out of bed all dag Sunday. Dragged myself around Monday as DH was back at work. Went back to work myself Tues, feeling rather weak-ish. Weds, JB's birthday dinner. JB ill all night. Back to his normal self Thurs a.m. but then DH ill Thurs and Fri. We all finally had a good day yesterday!
I don't need a week like that again, ever.

mistlethrush Mon 18-Feb-13 20:57:15

Anyone care to share a glass of wine with me? Actually, mine's a mug as I'm camping out in the lovely budget hotel with mc so MNing on a dial-up dongle, having bought a bottle of wine so that I have some hope of some sleep at some stage despite mini and the traffic noise.....

beanandspud Mon 18-Feb-13 21:57:11

I'll join you MT - cheers! wine. Mugs of wine takes me back to my student days.

Hope you have a good day tomorrow.

Scout19075 Tue 19-Feb-13 08:47:50

Warning: moaning about to happen

SmallBoy decided that Mommy would just LOVE to share his pink eye. Gah! Eyes make me squeamish at the best of times, never mind putting eye drops into my own eyes. I cleaned some spectacular gunk out this morning.


MrScout is back to wearing his glasses, just in case. They're not the right prescription since he tends to only wear them in the house so now I'm worried about him driving in the fog in them.


Jacksmania Tue 19-Feb-13 14:59:56

Gah indeed!!! I loathe pink eye. ((((((*HUGS*)))))) for speedy healing.

Scout19075 Tue 19-Feb-13 21:04:18

Is it me or is MN worse this half-term break than previous ones?

mistlethrush Tue 19-Feb-13 21:05:07

wine anyone? Long journey done.

Bike ordered - they recommended the 24" and said the 26" would require another 7 months approx....But there seems to be plenty of room to extend the 24" so that should be fine.

Mistlehound very pleased to see us - I think that she likes the attention she gets....

CMot's DS and mine managed to end up friends - they appear to be remarkably similar in character, so this was pretty good going!!! They both managed to get extremely muddy... but they'll wash....

Scout19075 Thu 21-Feb-13 11:31:58

Gah, and so it begins, SmallBoy is becoming a boy -- he just announced "Mommy, I farted!" shock Seeing as it's not a word he would hear at home I can only guess he heard it at soft play yesterday. <<Faints away>>

brew anyone? I feel flat and need a pick me up but suspect it's too early to put SB to bed and start on the wine.

Scout19075 Thu 21-Feb-13 11:35:16

That should be "SmallBoy is becoming a BigBoy."


Scout19075 Thu 21-Feb-13 11:55:48
beanandspud Thu 21-Feb-13 19:03:44

We have a Small Bean with a wobbly tooth shocksadconfused.

I know it's only a tooth but strangely it feels like a big milestone. Am I being a bit soft that he's growing up too fast?

mistlethrush Thu 21-Feb-13 19:27:33

MC was the first to lose a tooth in his class - in reception. Some of his year have only just lost the equivalent tooth - its very variable!

Scout19075 Thu 21-Feb-13 20:24:47

bean, I'd say it's a milestone worthy of a wobble. (Ha!) Would a wine help?

Scout19075 Fri 22-Feb-13 17:01:28

Definitely wine time here. Roll on bedtime (for SmallBoy)!

We're not long home from the swimming pool and he's begging for snacks forgetting about the oodles he ate at the pool while we were getting dried & dressed and I can't make his dinner cook any faster.

mistlethrush Fri 22-Feb-13 17:22:49

Swimming always seems to make them very hungry...

DS was very disgruntled at having to go to sports camp for the day today. I'm not sure what he thought he was going to do all day if he didn't go.... We shall have to sort something more acceptable out for Easter and the summer hols!

Scout19075 Fri 22-Feb-13 17:51:06

Oh yes, I know. He eats loads after half-an-hour lessons so I packed a full lunch for today. He's just wolfed a plate of pasta and is now having a dessert. I expect a plea for something else soon.

Scout19075 Fri 22-Feb-13 20:51:20
beanandspud Fri 22-Feb-13 21:23:49


Swimming always makes Small Bean hungry although at the moment I struggle to fill him, he seems to be constantly hungry.

We have successfully survived/juggled/enjoyed half term - phew!

Scout19075 Fri 22-Feb-13 22:21:55

Fresh Prince

Yay for half-term survival!

What's everyone up to this weekend?

beanandspud Fri 22-Feb-13 22:30:33

Top up wine Scout?

We have quite a busy weekend, friends over tomorrow for my birthday 'celebration', swimming and party for Small Bean tomorrow and then Sunday will be a rush of getting uniform ready for Monday, reading school book, checking spellings etc...

What about the Scout troop?

Scout19075 Fri 22-Feb-13 22:37:21

Ooooh, bean, when's your birthday?

Scout Troop is off to pub lunch on Sunday with friends -- the same friend's who's birthday party we went to at the beginning of the month. SB and their three year old are fast becoming friends and both talk about the other and have similar interests (trains!). But like typical three year old boys they fight then are off on the floor playing with trains/cars/trucks like they hadn't just been bashing each other. Not that they bash each other often but it does happen over trains/cars/trucks. As long as they don't use the toys to hit neither my friend or I stress about it too much as we know it's part of growing up.

beanandspud Fri 22-Feb-13 23:07:32

Birthday is tomorrow, another year passed and all that...

I recognise the trains scenario as we have similar with Small Bean and one of his friends! The collapsing bridge and resulting major train disasters are a regular emergency here!

Scout19075 Fri 22-Feb-13 23:40:30

Happy Birthday, Bean! (gets in there early)

When we went to buy a birthday present SB choose an engine that he has for G because he loves it so thought G would like it, too. Turns out G loves it almost as much as SB whew, what a relief.

mistlethrush Sun 24-Feb-13 09:57:16

Late Happy Birthday!

We've had MiL staying so on-line time limited!. DH has had gastric flu.... All go in our house!!!

UniS Mon 25-Feb-13 21:30:51

Happy Bathday bean.

thanks and biscuit biscuit biscuit and wine wine for you to get this party started

I was off line in Cornwall last week. MiL would have a hissy fit if I had been on line on a a phone when I could have been "sociable". Thankfully knitting IS socially acceptable. so I knitted a lot .

mistlethrush Mon 25-Feb-13 22:50:45

grin Unis. I ended up going to bed VERY early on Sat pm!

I'm on the wine tonight as it appears to be easy my stomach ache.... I don't know why I have it - very unusual....

Scout19075 Tue 26-Feb-13 10:09:11

SmallBoy is unwell. Seems to be a lot of it in the three-year old set (of my FB friends). Know how I know he's unwell? He didn't even want to hold/play with a train in bed this morning. shock He's asleep again, cuddled up next to me on my bed. I dare not move (earlier this morning he fell asleep and I got off the bed to get drinks he woke up). Sick bucket at the ready but I think sleep is what he needs.

mistlethrush Tue 26-Feb-13 10:38:36

I hope he's feeling better soon Scout - he must be ill if he's not interested in a train!

None of us have been fully fit over the weekend, and DS is still somewhat under the weather - didn't help having a nightmare last night and he woke up tired and grumpy this morning.

Bike in box in hall, awaiting assembly!

UniS Tue 26-Feb-13 21:30:57

bike in uncles garage, waiting visit from boy on birthday weekend.... I won't be there but expect uncle will take a photo of boys face.

Boy is having an Islabike Beinn 24 inch .

mistlethrush Tue 26-Feb-13 22:01:36

UniS - that's the size we've got for mc. He's lost 3 or 4 months out of it but the 26 is just that little bit too big still - and he really needs one.

UniS Tue 26-Feb-13 22:49:35

Last tried boy on a Beinn 24 a couple of weeks ago and he fit - just. I bought this one 2nd hand ( from some one on MN) back in November, figured that boy would grow into it and he has his current bike till that point.

We are taking 3 boys mountain biking on sunday!!! eeek. This is boys birthday treat.

mistlethrush Wed 27-Feb-13 13:10:30

Will the other 2 be able to keep up? grin

With new mistlehound, I think we'll be loading the bikes up and finding some nice off-road routes we can go - she'll be able to lope along very happily (our last one had got too old to the extent I was thinking of a trailer for her!)

UniS Wed 27-Feb-13 14:57:40

will they keep up... possibly not. but its only a 4 mile figure eight loop with some nice twisty single track ,, but nothing toooo steep or technical. one of them I think will keep up out of bloody minded determination, I have flapjacks for bribery.

Scout19075 Wed 27-Feb-13 21:07:51

Oh my, there was a bright yellow-orange ball in the sky today. It was AMAZING.

SmallBoy ran practically the whole way to Tesco -- he was so excited about the sun and the promise of a new magazine.

Good luck, UniS!

I was on my feet most of today, including "racing" with SmallBoy to & from town -- my whole body just hurts.

beanandspud Wed 27-Feb-13 22:44:52

Yay to small boys with new bikes! grin

Boo to illness! Hope everyone's feeling a bit better.

Thank you for the birthday messages, we had a fun weekend and I had a very soppy moment when I opened my card from Small Bean to find he'd written 'I love you mummy' all by himself with no prompting <<sniffs>>

Mr Bean is away so I am in bed with a hot chocolate and mn - all rather nice! Roll on Spring though, the weather here today was just lovely and I feel the need for some more spirit-lifting sunshine.

UniS Wed 27-Feb-13 22:48:21

you know that rotten stinking cold that is going round ? Boy had it last week, now MrUni and I have it. yurk.

Boy was only running on about 60% power for half of half term, now I see why.

On teh plus side... boy on 60% was probably less annoying to granny, who really prefers children to be placid and fall in with her ideas of "what to play" . Sometime he will notice that she has favourites and its no longer him now there are smaller cuter grandchildren around.

Scout19075 Thu 28-Feb-13 16:54:33

Give me strength to deal with a hungry, tired, tantruming three year old. He's done nothing but eat/beg food but now he won't have his dinner and is screaming at me to "don't talk" even though I'm not.

Scout19075 Thu 28-Feb-13 17:11:26

Now he's a sobbing mess and nothing I do is right.


Scout19075 Thu 28-Feb-13 17:13:12

Goodness knows.

I need wine.

Scout19075 Thu 28-Feb-13 17:39:03

After nearly an hour he's finally had his dinner. WHEW!

UniS Thu 28-Feb-13 18:44:23

scout- you need wine and the choc box of requirements.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 28-Feb-13 18:55:12

::Tops up everybody's wine::

Scout19075 Thu 28-Feb-13 20:08:35

SB considered doing the same thing regarding dessert (dessert is usually only offered on days like today, where all he wants to do is eat). Managed to advert it. But it took him about 30-45 minutes to stop rolling around & chatting and just go to sleep.


I booked my biopsy today. <<Nervous>>

beanandspud Fri 01-Mar-13 02:25:03

(((((hugs))))) Scout. Hope tomorrow (today?) is a better one.

Scout19075 Fri 01-Mar-13 05:51:20

How are you feeling, UniS?

Bean, what were you doing seeing that hour?

mistlethrush Fri 01-Mar-13 08:56:22

Sorry it was a bad one Scout. Sometimes, if I couldn't stem the eating before supper I would simply bring it forward a bit (if that was doable) or change course and do something that he could eat that was 'proper' then and there, just to try to sidestep the problem. Although on that sort of day, he was sometimes just tired - he still has similar evenings now!

Abandoning all this weekend for rehearsals - DS is going on a cub day-trip to a chocolate trip and chocolate making followed by a party. Not sure what they're going to get up to on Sunday apart from dog walking and perhaps karate. We shall wait and see how things go - sometimes DH is brilliant with him and sometimes it all goes wrong.

Apple and cinnamon muffins and steaming brew anyone?

beanandspud Fri 01-Mar-13 09:54:19

brew and muffins sound lovely MT!

Scout, I felt really lousy yesterday and went to bed at 7pm with Small Bean. I was then wide awake at 2am and ended up listening to old episodes of desert island discs and reading mn blush. Got another couple of hours sleep from 4am-6am but I feel wrecked again today.

Roll on 4pm when I can switch off my PC, pick up Small Bean and put my jammies back on.

mistlethrush Fri 01-Mar-13 12:26:33

I go through sessions of sleeping peculiarly - and have given up worrying about it, simply get up, make a cup of something and go and put on animal documentaries on the TV or something - which I often then drop to sleep through at 5am ish...

I was woken up on Tuesday night by the dog - I've been in the spare room due to DH being violently ill on Friday night - and we've both needed to catch up on some sleep so I've stayed there this week - dog has had her bed at the bottom of the bed, and I woke up to my toes being licked grin Somewhat surprising at 2am... and even more so given the bed is a divan so fairly high, and she was still lying down - she just has a VERY long neck.

Scout19075 Fri 01-Mar-13 17:03:11

Dinner was super-early tonight due to not much lunch being eaten but knowing SmallBoy was hungry. He looks so tired... I think it might be early bed, too. We're having a cuddle, watching Alphablocks.

Scout19075 Fri 01-Mar-13 19:01:43

Blimey, I thought I was chatty when I got going... SB is in bed talking for England!

UniS Fri 01-Mar-13 19:38:02

On the mend thank you. the lurgy is retreating and I may venture up to the pub later.

Bless him, boy has twigged that his birthday is on a day that is significant for someone else in the family, and is asking if he can "have his birthday a day early" so its not on the same day as X.

beanandspud Fri 01-Mar-13 20:14:24

Glad you're feeling better Unis, a medicinal drink might be just what you need?

Get used to the talking Scout, Small Bean still talks non-stop - he has so much to say that he frequently goes to bed chuntering away.

Can I pour anyone a Friday wine?

Scout19075 Fri 01-Mar-13 20:45:26

He's been talking as he winds down in his bed for a while, but it's usually been just a few minutes -- tonight it was closer to half-an-hour.

I was told today how lovely and confident SB is. Confident. grin Friend was also impressed how I give him money and let him go up to the counter and ask the lady behind the till for what he wants (I'm in sight, mind) and how he asks "May I please have xyz?" then hands over the money and holds his hand out for his change. He then runs back over to the table with his treasure (cookie) and change.

I feel like crap (stupid cold) but watching him ask for his treat and having my friend praise him to me made me feel good.

I think I might have a brew, if that's okay, bean? I can't get warm and I must be ill because I actually want a tea and I tend to only drink tea with cream tea.

Jacksmania Sat 02-Mar-13 16:24:05

Good morning all (morning here) - I've just read back a bit and I'm sorry so many of you are feeling crap and have had the lurgy sad

wine or brew as required for stomach aches, colds, headaches and other woes.

Scout, I'm sorry blush I've missed it, but you said you booked a biopsy? Biopsy for what? I've sent you some teaser emails of North Americsn Easter chocs, if you need a care package. ((((((*HUGS*)))))

bean, happy belated birthday (about a full week late, sorry)

I feel like I've been stupidly busy but when I look back I've accomplished nothing, just work and the daily grind. It all feels a bit hamster-wheel-ish.
The main thing on my to-do list is getting my taxes done, which I've been procrastinating rather successfully... and a few million other things...

UniS Sun 03-Mar-13 20:12:54

evening all - enjoying your lunch JM?

Bike ride birthday bash has passed off peacefully. Only one crash and that was Boy trying to overtake fast on a narrow section. Boys then tucked into vast pieces of cake and guzzled fizzy pop before we sent them home tired and happy.

We went to the pantomime yesterday...

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sun 03-Mar-13 20:28:02


It's behind you, UniS!

UniS Sun 03-Mar-13 22:45:59

Oh no it isn't

mistlethrush Mon 04-Mar-13 09:53:57

Oooh yes it is... and its probably MC desperately trying to keep up with Boy on his new bicycle! grin

Scout19075 Mon 04-Mar-13 20:20:33

There are some lovely elderly people in my town and there are a few fruit loops.

This morning there was a man pointing at me and hissing at SmallBoy "Go back with that woman! Over there! Or someone's going to come and grab you! They'll grab you! They'll grab you and take you away!" hmm I did tell him to back off but I don't think he heard me.

But on Saturday a woman kept chatting and playing with SB at the coffee shop and she gave him a pound coin to "go and buy some sweeties." (We did go to the sweet shop next door and SB bought some chocolate mice, his favorite from the sweet shop, with his coin and happily tucked his change into his pocket.)

UniS Mon 04-Mar-13 21:49:15

ahh, fruit loops., along with trix, the only cereals I know that turn the milk purple.

Scout19075 Mon 04-Mar-13 21:54:08

I don't like Fruit Loops or Trix, but Lucky Charms was always my choice of cereal at Girl Scout camp.

UniS Mon 04-Mar-13 22:00:29

what do lucky charms look like? and do they have random sweeties in?

Scout19075 Mon 04-Mar-13 22:11:11

Lucky Charms has marshmallows in it.

UniS Mon 04-Mar-13 22:27:55

That looks like my kind of cereal. I miss count chocula .

Jacksmania Tue 05-Mar-13 02:32:13

I personally like the new cinnamon toast cereal horrid chemical pile of sugar-, it's my own little diabetic coma in a bowl grin

Scout19075 Tue 05-Mar-13 07:56:47

I used to eat that dry as a snack.

mistlethrush Tue 05-Mar-13 09:21:40

Hmm... you always know a cereal is bad news if you can sit down with a packet and eat it on its own, dry.... blush

Talking of which, twiglet surprise anyone?

Scout19075 Tue 05-Mar-13 10:16:49

SmallBoy eats Cheerios dry as a snack.

Jacksmania Tue 05-Mar-13 15:12:56

Erk. JB has pinkeye and a rotten cough. Happy days...

Which means no preschool tomorrow, so if MIL can't have him, I will need to take the day off. hmm

mistlethrush Tue 05-Mar-13 15:16:01

MC is off school today too - but DH says that he's going back tomorrow because he's been unreasonably chirpy today grin

UniS Wed 06-Mar-13 19:19:28

Surely "eaten as a snack" is a good thing in a cereal. Means its OK to have for breakfast when you run out of milk, or need to make an early start in the car.

mistlethrush Wed 06-Mar-13 19:40:19

UniS - we have a place we can leave DS's bike in our 'porch' bit of the hall - but it would be ideal if we could hang it from the handlebars on a high bit of wall that's perpendicular to the side wall - do you know whether there are any good brackets to get for that job?

Scout19075 Wed 06-Mar-13 19:48:49

Oh yes. The days we have to take MrScout to work SmallBoy gets a baggie of Cheerios and a bottle of milk in the car for breakfast (he's like me and can't/won't eat when he first gets up so we'd have to wait around for him to eat).

mistlethrush Wed 06-Mar-13 19:53:54

we would have to just provide the cereal in the car - we have done the marmalade sandwiches for an early start - that feels very 'holiday' ish

beanandspud Wed 06-Mar-13 19:58:00

Small Bean has been 'dumped' by the girl that he was definitely going to marry sad. She has decided that she will now marry his best friend instead which he is a bit sad about.

Don't worry too much though as apparently he has already found a replacement and there's also a Y2 girl who has said she will wait for him smile.

The trauma of being 5yrs old!

Anyone for wine?

Scout19075 Wed 06-Mar-13 20:32:50

Poor Small Bean! sad

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Wed 06-Mar-13 20:43:26

Yes please to the wine.

::waggles large glass and proffers a bowl of Twiglet Marengo::

UniS Wed 06-Mar-13 21:41:23

These sort of things might suit your bike storage area MT. IF you need to lock the bike to something at the same time, add a rawl bolt with a large eye, alongside at a suitable height to get a cable lock or length of chain through bike wheels and frame and eye bolt.

[[http://www.edinburghbicycle.com/products/gear-up-off-the-wall-1-bike-vertical-rack ]]


ohhhh - wine and twiglets, yes please.

Scout19075 Wed 06-Mar-13 21:45:03

I'm craving a pizza.....

beanandspud Wed 06-Mar-13 22:02:12

:: Tops up glasses and orders pizza for Scout ::

mistlethrush Wed 06-Mar-13 22:26:02

<brings pizza>

Unis - thanks, that looks a possibility - we were thinking the other way round, but that would help too....

beanandspud Wed 06-Mar-13 22:32:24

MT - has MC recovered and gone back to school?

:: sneaks a piece of Scout's pizza - the slice with goat's cheese and red onion::

mistlethrush Wed 06-Mar-13 22:38:31

Yes. I actually think it was primarily stress induced - something we're going to talk to his (lovely) teacher about on Monday... he's not looking forward to his school outing tomorrow as his class teacher is not going and the music/RE/history teacher is going in his place - and it sounds as though all she does is shout at people.... He was getting told off (shouted at) for fiddling (fair enough) so sat on his hands to stop himself fiddling and got shouted at for thatapparenly... not filled with positive feeling about that!

He would have had today off too if I'd given him the chance, even if it meant missing tomorrow - something that just shows me how big an issue this is in his mind, even if its not actually a big deal in reality.

I'm also not happy that this has effectively meant that I'm going to have to source out of school music opportunities rather than rely upon them to provide opportunities such as choir and junior orchestra.

Jacksmania Thu 07-Mar-13 18:42:29

Poor MC sad - shouty teachers would make me shouty - at the teacher, see how they liked it. Not really, I wouldn't do it, but I'd sure want to.

Could I have a refund for this week? Or cake? Lots of cake? Or Galaxy Cake Bars? Everyone is in a low level grump, including me.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 07-Mar-13 19:27:07

Behold! Here comes Mellors with the cake tray of requirement!

Scout19075 Thu 07-Mar-13 20:35:12

Does Mellors do packing? Otherwise, can someone give me a swift kick to get moving?

Scout19075 Thu 07-Mar-13 22:39:41

I learned something new just now -- Bonnie Tyler is Welsh. Who knew?

UniS Thu 07-Mar-13 23:06:55

I hope Mellors does packing, coz I'm after you in the queue scout. Can he do mine tomorrow.

mistlethrush Thu 07-Mar-13 23:21:48

As long as he's finished in time to chauffeur me Unis....

I must say, I saw his year one teacher in the car park at school and was very tempted to tell her that she'd made his whole year miserable... But I restrained myself. Perhaps when he's a bit further on!

Jacksmania Fri 08-Mar-13 17:35:23

Yeah, maybe a few more years of distance would be good.

I always swore to myself that if I ever saw that cowbag ;actually two of them) who made my final year in nursing school hell, I would go e her a piece of my mind. Sadly I never have.

beanandspud Fri 08-Mar-13 20:41:20

Boo to shouty teachers! Hope MC is ok, that's awful when one teacher is putting him off going to school. Hope you get it sorted.

Just to give you an update on Small Bean's love life wink... He has a new girlfriend in Year 1 who he now sees at after school club. All is well in his little world smile

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Fri 08-Mar-13 22:55:48

We knew SmallBean would soon be snapped up!

Scout19075 Sat 09-Mar-13 07:16:56

Oooohhhhh, get Small Bean, going for the older girls. wink <<Nothing wrong with younger men/older women, she says, eyeing MrScout.>>

Right, who wants to place bets on when SmallBoy has his first meltdown? He was up until nearly 10 p.m., with only a 15 minute nap around 4:45 p.m., and has been up, awake, and bouncing to come downstairs to "play with trains" since 6:45/6:50 a.m.

Scout19075 Sat 09-Mar-13 22:18:50

What's your favorite (chemical) reaction/s?

Scout19075 Sun 10-Mar-13 09:00:45

Happy Mother's Day!

Jacksmania Sun 10-Mar-13 20:26:07

Happy Mother's Day flowers.

And, of course, wine.


Scout19075 Sun 10-Mar-13 21:43:58

Apologies for the novel, JM!

mistlethrush Sun 10-Mar-13 21:49:17

HOpe the melt down wasn't too bad Scout!

Have you made the model from the train museum (I think you got one too?) - MC made one with his grandparents and its really good and he clearly enjoyed making it and wants to go back for some more!

Good concert at the weekend (playing) - and both mistlehound and mistlechick were pretty well behaved....

Jacksmania Mon 11-Mar-13 04:32:44

Thanks for the novel Scout smile - very interesting, will reply as soon as I can flowers

UniS Mon 11-Mar-13 18:39:27

tea? or wine?

mistlethrush Mon 11-Mar-13 21:15:08

Wine, definitely.

Scout19075 Tue 12-Mar-13 16:32:08

Any chance of a wine and pain killers cocktail? Owwwww.

UniS Tue 12-Mar-13 19:37:22

Mellors is coming over with fluffy white towels and essential oils to ease all your aches and pains, scout.

Oh, and wine obviously.

Scout19075 Tue 12-Mar-13 20:09:08

I fell roller skating today. Ouch. My wrist and elbow are still buzzing a bit.

beanandspud Tue 12-Mar-13 20:35:53

Ouch Scout, that sounds painful.

wine here please! I am full of cold and feeling sorry for myself.

Scout19075 Tue 12-Mar-13 20:42:01

SmallBoy stood there and said "Oh dear, you falled down!" Then he chuckled a bit. But a bigger boy (probably about 5-6) kept falling down and SB kept asking him if he was okay. hmm No sympathy for me.

Poor bean.... would a blanket help as well?

beanandspud Tue 12-Mar-13 21:06:19

Yes please to blanket.

::slightly pathetic emoticon::

Sorry, shouldn't chuckle at lack of sympathy from SB - Small Bean would be exactly the same.

Jacksmania Tue 12-Mar-13 22:56:36

<offers blanket, and Tylenol to all and sundry>

I'll have some wine, thank you. It's that kind of a grey and rainy day. Brrrrrr.

Scout19075 Wed 13-Mar-13 00:35:50

<<Tops up everyone's wine and pain relievers of choice>>

I think I need to take some in RL before bed.

Mom rang tonight. She reminded me of when my sister was younger and she fell on her wrist -- it wasn't until the next day they realized it was broken so I had lots of "You take care, check it again in the morning, etc." Even MrScout was told to check my wrist in the morning. <<Rolls eyes>>

We're due at Forest School in the morning and I really don't want to go -- it's cold and there's a dusting of snow on the ground. Small Boy HATES the snow and I'm a wimp when it comes to cold.

mistlethrush Wed 13-Mar-13 09:15:31

Hope its not as bad as you were expecting - its cold here but lovely sun. We had waxwings in the garden last night and this morning!

Scout19075 Fri 15-Mar-13 12:31:28


mistlethrush Fri 15-Mar-13 14:08:03

Phew... I hope Mellors has the wine ready for post school run...

Scout19075 Fri 15-Mar-13 15:17:29

I don't have a school run -- can I have wine now or do I have to wait, too?

beanandspud Fri 15-Mar-13 20:36:59

What a day! wine here please!

Scout19075 Fri 15-Mar-13 20:37:59

Everything okay, bean?

beanandspud Fri 15-Mar-13 21:36:19

Hi Scout! Yes, all is ok.

Just had a really busy week and then a mad day that involved leaving at stupid o'clock to get to a meeting 150miles away, then trying to get back to pick up Small Bean to go to a party which was stressful given that he's had enough by 6pm on a Friday night and is a 'meltdown waiting to happen'. By the time I got home I realised I had 'missed' breakfast and lunch and had survived on two cereal bars and black coffee all day!

I think I am just feeling sorry for myself, still have a cold, Mr Bean is away and I'm kind of feeling the pressure of juggling lots of things. That sounds really pathetic written down when so many people have much bigger things to worry about.

How is the Scout Camp?

Scout19075 Fri 15-Mar-13 22:05:45

bean, get thee some dinner!

If it worries/stresses you then it's a worry/stress. Please do not apologize for your feelings.

We had a week of not being in most of the day from breakfast until dinner or bedtime. Today was the only day we had nothing and while I considered taking SmallBoy swimming I decided we needed a PJ day. We spent the day coloring, doing dot-to-dot pictures (SB loves them), building Lego, playing with trains, playing alphabet/phonics BINGO and gorging on CBeebies. Despite doing nothing he was still asleep within five minutes of the lights going off.

The next two weeks don't look any calmer.

I think I might go to bed soon.

UniS Fri 15-Mar-13 22:52:53


got very wet n muddy at work today, expect to do so again tomorrow. off to bed now, need to leave home at 6.30am tomorrow, start work at 7. eeeeeeeek.

Scout19075 Sat 16-Mar-13 21:29:34

It's Saturday night and I feel like throwing some shapes -- who's with me?

UniS Sat 16-Mar-13 21:58:28

my shape is mud angel.

Scout19075 Sat 16-Mar-13 22:29:39

Nice. grin

Jacksmania Sun 17-Mar-13 00:16:13

I am unhappy today. My tummy hurts for no good reason I can think of, except I've been on a diet, and went out for dinner yesterday and may have indulged too much cheese fondue, anyone? and that doesn't seem like a good enough reason for a belly ache today blushgrin

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sun 17-Mar-13 13:11:01

Commiserations to all who are feeling poorly.

::Vogues over Sunday lunch::

mistlethrush Sun 17-Mar-13 14:49:10

UniS recommendation on bike was great. MC has his (a bit early for his birthday) and is loving it. It is already muddy (as it should be).

And he can cycle up hill!!!

And its lighter than his old one for putting in the car (and will still fit if part of the back seat is down)

And mistlehound likes haring over the field after him (although she can go MUCH quicker than he can cycle)

HOpe everyone has a relaxing Sunday. MC and I are - DH is out at a performance.

Scout19075 Mon 18-Mar-13 23:09:21

Aqua Aerobics isn't as low impact as claimed -- oh my poor, aching muscles.

UniS Mon 18-Mar-13 23:19:42

Boy likes his new bike, it looks massive for him still, but I'll get used to it. Not tried it in the car yet.

mistlethrush Tue 19-Mar-13 22:44:57

We swing the front wheel round 180 degrees and then it fits no problem. DS doesn't look 'small' for it in the least - I think that he could probably have had the 26 small but it would have been 'big' for him rather than really comfortable like this one.

He's happily cycling up hills that he's not been able to get up before and getting the idea of the gears pretty well....

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Thu 21-Mar-13 20:08:57

I haven't been to Aqua Aerobics for months but I do like it because I m the youngest one there and feel quite sprightly, for once.

UniS Fri 22-Mar-13 11:20:01

Hat off to you full time working parents. I'm finding it bloody hard to sort out Easter holiday childcare , transport and the sports stuff that boy wants to do around my working 2 or 3 days a week.

mistlethrush Fri 22-Mar-13 11:43:16

Luckily, living where we do, we have the benefit of access to several different holiday clubs - so most holidays one or other of them will be operating. Mostly we send DS on sport ones - although there's a 'hang out' one where he seems to spend all day building lego... hmm. Luckily he has got used to going from early and its sort of run of the mill for him - and not something to be worried about or anything.

Nice weather we're having! I'm at home with a cough, so at least I'm not going to go out in it.

UniS Fri 22-Mar-13 14:22:10

yeah, work being in teh middle of nowhere doesn;t help. Have sorted 3 days with childminder& 2 sports days ( doesn't run all week, only certain days). but CM can't collect from sports days and they finish at 3pm. grr.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Fri 22-Mar-13 18:05:56

Yes, holidays can be tricky, but we are lucky to have access to a very good Playscheme which is open from something like 7.30 to 6.30 (not that I would dream of leaving The Girl there that long, but at least it is flexible).

UniS Fri 22-Mar-13 19:03:47

ohhhh, have found interesting looking play scheme in the forest not too far from work!!!! Forest school type stuff. might investigate that in May half term, got Easter covered already, 3 days with CM, and working 2 bank hols so DH can hold the fort.

beanandspud Fri 22-Mar-13 21:39:28

Hello all!

So far I have been using the school holiday club which Small Bean really enjoys thank goodness since I have no other options . It is a nightmare though trying to sort out the odd days and I am lucky that my work is fairly flexible and my boss is very, very flexible. Small Bean finishes on Tuesday and doesn't go back until the 16th April shock.

Is everyone ok? Haven't been around much and just catching up.

Jacksmania Sat 23-Mar-13 21:37:09

Hi all. We've not been having a fun spring break week, poor JB is completely miserable with seasonal allergies (still that bloody alder pollen) and fevers and cough and snotty nose and now he's been saying his legs hurt the last few days - growing pains? Or what?
Just not a happy boy.

And I'm tired and stressed and need to get my taxes done before we meet with the accountant on Tuesday, so am logging off and going to do that.

Happy weekend everyone. flowers

UniS Sat 23-Mar-13 22:24:58

Really really looking forward to a lie in tomorrow. havn't had one of those in weeks thanks to training or working weekends.

UniS Sun 24-Mar-13 18:29:04

woke at 8ish, at 8.10 the boys proximity sensor went off and we were joined by a human missile.

mistlethrush Wed 27-Mar-13 09:02:02


I got a bad cough / cold - off work Friday until yesterday, completely floored at the weekend. Unfortunately MC has caught it - I had to get up twice in the night to give him more cough linctus and pain relief and he's off to the Drs this morning with DH sad

Scout19075 Wed 27-Mar-13 15:19:24

Today's scheduled biopsy postponed. Argh.

UniS Wed 27-Mar-13 19:09:54

argh scout, thats just not fair.

I think you may need wine and the choc box to help you get over that.

UniS Wed 27-Mar-13 19:27:19

\ /
/ \
\ _/ for you MT, hope you feel better soon.

Jacksmania Thu 28-Mar-13 18:25:29

wine and flowers for everyone who needs them.

Scout - sad and angry

MT - how are you and MC today?

<inserts [feeling sorry for self] emoticon>
I had a sebaceous cyst excised from my back yesterday - very sore today. Surgeon was a very funny and nice man and super-quick but said "I would be surprised if you had any discomfort later, if you do, just take some paracetamol" - angry - I am so sore.
Going to the Vancouver Auto Show with DH later, not looking forward to walking around clambering into and out of cars.

On the plus side, it has been a week of gorgeous weather. Reminds me why I live here smile

UniS Thu 28-Mar-13 18:50:11

Unlike our week of freezing cold temps and snow then JM, er, have we got Canada's weather then? do you want it back??

Jacksmania Thu 28-Mar-13 20:28:10

Not a bloody chance. But thanks grin

beanandspud Fri 29-Mar-13 19:56:47

Still bloomin' freezing here - brrrrrrrrrrr...

brew, wine and thanks to all unwell Tearoomers.

Good news though, Small Bean managed about 20 yards 'solo' on his bike today. Hopefully with a lot of practice over the weekend he'll get the hang of it and be off!

Loving these...


UniS Fri 29-Mar-13 21:00:20

THink I'm getting the hang of this weather.

got up, got dressed
Thermal long johns, jeans, Thermal top, T-shirt, fleece and gillet. Went and hung washing on line. Got into car to go to work, saw temp was -1. Thought, oh, didn;t seem tooooo cold. Then remembered what I was wearing.

Got to work - unheated large barn. put on another hoody and overalls, hat and gloves.

Scout19075 Fri 29-Mar-13 22:40:11

I have had an absolutely shit two weeks -- new week/new month/new season can't come soon enough for me!

On a positive note, though, SmallBoy was presented with his Ducklings 2 (swim certificate) in class yesterday. He, and the little girls in his class, were all beaming with their certificates in hand. SB is definitely proud of his.

UniS Fri 29-Mar-13 23:04:32

ohh ohhh, proud swim mom corner. may i join you scout. Boy ( and all the rest of his group strangely) have passed Stage 4, as there are still 4 weeks of swim term to go, they have started work on stage 5! So yesterday off they trooped to "explore the deep end".

Scout19075 Sat 30-Mar-13 09:31:45

Well done Boy and friends!

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sat 30-Mar-13 14:30:43

Brrr. It's still so cold here.

Happy smile everyone.

UniS Sat 30-Mar-13 19:36:17

cold out of the sun, quite nice in it today. Boy enjoyed an Easter egg hunt with a bunch of other "onlys". Clues set by an older "only", who says our "onlys" are not sociable little people.

Good morning all! Just popped in to see what was going on. At the moment I see myself more as 'carer for elderly parent' than 'mother of only child'. sad Only child is getting, perforce, more empathetic and caring.

If we are sharing swimming, Wriggle shot through Level 1 in about 3 lessons and is now joining Level 2. We are proud.

Wriggle has now come bouncing downstairs, having tired of Grandmother Sitting with CBeebies, so I have to go now.

flowers to all.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Mon 01-Apr-13 11:56:23


::bosom, clasp, bosom, clasp::

The Girl has done lots of organised activities over the years but never swimming classes, so I have no idea what level she's at, but she can stay afloat!

Enjoy the bank holiday, everyone!

Staying afloat is, of course, the whole point of the thing.

It's just that swimming lessons are The Thing at our school and all her friends do them.

Childrearing certainly runs in regional / temporal fashions: I was trying to explain bread sticks, humus and butternut squash to AP yesterday, to someone who raised her children on potted-meat sandwiches, uncutup apples shock and eating what grown ups eat.

I spent the bank holiday with friends, strawing down calves, dragging a dead calf out of the bull pen, watched by three bulls standing inches behind us and then eating thick steak sandwiches. Decided not to make the links.

mistlethrush Tue 02-Apr-13 12:12:31

Mistlechick and I have been hacking away over the weekend (still) and people have been avoiding walking near us as a result - I don't blame them.

Its been a bit of a car crash of a weekend with MiL admitted to hospital up here mid-week last week - we're now waiting to find out what sort of cancer she has and whether the prognosis is bad or really bad. So DH has been spending lots of time in and out and sitting with her (understandably), mc and I haven't been to see her because we are not yet well enough. DH had to go down to her house to sort out some things too which hasn't helped - and I'm trying to give some semblance of normality to mc in amidst it all.

Scout19075 Thu 04-Apr-13 14:23:41

What the <<BLLEEEEEEPPPPPPPP>> is up with the snow flurries?!?!?!?

UniS Thu 04-Apr-13 19:26:17

you had them too?

Bitter cold here today. Thankfully I was teaching indoors and boy picked indoor sports.

Scout19075 Thu 04-Apr-13 21:53:32

WHERE is spring?!?!?

Scout19075 Fri 05-Apr-13 09:48:10

Oh, hello Mr Police Officer, what are you doing at my house? Eek! Good thing I was dressed (though wild haired, a bag of rubbish by the door waiting to go out to the bin, and a three year old pushing saying "I want to say hello!").

mistlethrush Fri 05-Apr-13 09:50:49

What was that about Scout?

Lovely sunshine here at the moment.

DH working at home, thank goodness - DS ill, MiL discharged last night to come and stay whilst they try to decide what sort of cancer she has and work out what treatment they're going to give her.

Scout19075 Fri 05-Apr-13 10:01:02

Our ill car out front had a windshield wiper stolen and it appears MrScout reported it but forgot to tell me. I've had more police contact in my seven and a bit years here than my 30 years in the US. Still freaks me out a bit. Also have had lots of contact with powerful government people who helped determine my status despite being a citizen now I still worry about the Border Agency knocking on my door saying it was a mistake.

mistlethrush Fri 05-Apr-13 10:25:56

Glad it was nothing serious at least grin

Scout19075 Fri 05-Apr-13 10:57:21

Blimey, CSI are going to be coming by to dust. shock

Scout19075 Fri 05-Apr-13 11:04:14


Anyway, Friday wine anyone?

MT, how's MC? and your MiL?

<<Waves>> to LaBelle

mistlethrush Fri 05-Apr-13 11:09:09

MC went to bed complaining of a lump in his throat that meant he couldn't swallow - and he didn't manage much supper - and he was sick this morning so certainly no sports camp.

MiL - very pale (unsurprisingly). Still not properly diagnosed - they know she has cancer but don't know what yet - quite how she can have been in hospital for 8 days and they still don't know I really don't know.... Anyway, I've got antibiotics for the cough - but she's been told to keep away from me and I was feeling rotten last night and coughed if I moved much - so kept my distance. Not a great situation.

So sorry to hear about your problems, Mistle. Are you close to MiL and therefore feeling personally devastated or indirectly just trying to keep everyone else going? Not sure, from personal experience, that it is impossible to keep things 'normal' for a 6 or 7 year old. I read a book about children grieving, which said that they 'puddle jump' in and out of grief and anxiety. I suppose the thing to try is to make sure that there are plenty of positive things for him to escape to when he can. A nasty bug won't help.

But it must soon be spring, mustn't it???

<<Waves>> back to Scout and her policeman. How lovely to have someone coming to dust.

Scout19075 Fri 05-Apr-13 21:41:38

CSI didn't come -- at least that I could tell. SmallBoy and I were out for about four hours today -- we walked to the park, played, walked, played Pooh Sticks and walked home -- and I couldn't see any dust. I'm hoping maybe they'll come tomorrow so that SmallBoy can help get in the way and make fingerprints.

mistlethrush Fri 05-Apr-13 22:00:08

Generally speaking I get on remarkably well with MiL. So, yes, upset for us as a family - because she was moving up back to near us and was planning on being a bit more hands-on with helping with mc. Upset for DH because it just him coping - his brother hasn't even managed to get a card here yet - or flowers - as he's on the continent I can understand the not visiting... Sad for DS because MiL is the only hands-on grandparent on that side of the family - FiL lives 40 mins off and we rarely see or hear from him. My parents are very hands-on grandparents and regularly have him to stay on their own - but, still....

He's got horrid earache this evening - he was sobbing in pain - 111 put me through to a clinician and they said call back if things don't improve but the pain killer should work... initially I wasn't happy, but after 30 more mins it clearly did start working better and he ate some supper, then has gone to bed and sleep which is a relief.

MiL is having to try to stay away from us - even though she is discharged to here - what with me being on antibiotics for the cough and DS now apparently il again - luckily the spare room is spacious (is the largest room) and we've managed to sort out a table and chair, comfy chair, and will get the computer set up on a computer desk tomorrow, so its not just bed alone.

beanandspud Fri 05-Apr-13 23:05:28

Sorry that I've not been around very much. Can I offer anyone brew, wine or homemade bakewell tart?

MT, sorry to hear about MIL, I hope the weekend goes ok, it sounds like one of those 'take it a day at a time' times. <<hugs>>

Not much to report from the Bean house. Small Bean has 'discovered' computer games so we are having the 'how much screen-time is appropriate' dilemma at the moment.

mistlethrush Sat 06-Apr-13 06:49:04

Bean - we've only recently given in to allowing any significant degree of screen time - and that's limited. MC doesn't have a DS either. Stick to your guns if you want to -i doesn't seem to adversely affect how well they can cope with computers as DS seems to be a whizz at them, even though he has hardly touched them at home.

Scout19075 Sat 06-Apr-13 07:27:50

Eek, SmallBoy has a LeapPad2 tablet and an old-style LeapPad that looks like a games console (the first was a present from us on his birthday the other was a gift, the same year, from a friend in the States who was so excited I didn't have the heart to tell her about the one we gave him). He goes in waves of wanting to play with it and not bothering. He's playing with it now -- doing pet tricks by tracing the letters (a skill which he's been trying with paper and crayons/pencils) -- but he hasn't touched it in about six weeks (bar the occasional game while I'm babysitting in the half-an-hour before swimming, when I gave each of the tots a pad for 15 minutes because it's too loud to have stories read). I also don't tend to leave him alone with it, though being a LP tablet he can't go anywhere online with it and is limited to the games on it or his game cartridges (which he knows how to change and put the finished one away). He'll use the computer to email (practice spelling the five words or so he can spell) but I haven't let him play any games on it --and he's always with MrScout or me.

It's a hard balance but for me, right now, the fact that he wants to practice writing on it is fine --because we had four hours outside playing yesterday.

I have so much to do this weekend I don't know where to start!

Can I offer anyone an American-style breakfast?

mistlethrush Sat 06-Apr-13 15:26:10

Mistlechick is feeling very sorry for himself. Its his birthday today, but he's got an ear infection (it had perforated a bit this morning and was leaking) and we've had to go to the out of hours Dr (at least this time it was a nice one, not the old git we got last time that shouted at us both)(I took DH along for support just in case this time!) and he's got antibiotics. So now 3 of us (me, mc and the dog) are all having different medicine 3x a day.

Oh poor you. sad Lots of ear infections down here, too.

Maybe a special un-birthday celebration when you are all better?

mistlethrush Sat 06-Apr-13 21:07:21

We're definitely going to have another 'special' day, and we've discussed that with him - but its still not 'his' birthday.

beanandspud Sat 06-Apr-13 21:43:54

Poor Mistle Family sad

Scout19075 Mon 08-Apr-13 15:33:33

<<Warning: Am about to lower the tone a bit.>>

<<Another warning: Proud mom moment.>>

For some reason SmallBoy has been desperate to do a pee on the toilet today nothing to do with the chocolate train reward for first pee and first poo on the loo, oh no. We were out for four hours today but before we left and when we got home I encouraged him to sit on the toilet. This afternoon we were singing a silly, made up song about pee/peeing on the toilet, pretending to eat lollipops using an empty loo roll tube, and just being silly. Well.... we didn't get a pee out of him but he managed a poo! I was shocked but SB was very VERY proud of himself and looked at me like I was a loon at the fuss/praise heaped on him and mid-event was asking for his chocolate train. hmm

Fingers crossed it's the start!

Scout19075 Mon 08-Apr-13 15:33:49

MT, how are the things there today?

UniS Mon 08-Apr-13 22:46:38

Choc box of requirements for you Mistle. sympathy to MC for feeling rotten in the holidays AND on his birthday, double whammy..

Hurrah for big boy poo in loo scout.

Not QUITE as busy in Chez uni this week as last. but bike club 4 mornings, swimming one afternoon, Work one day ( and childminder for boy). Another bike race on Saturday, and I'm going for a long bike ride on Sunday.

Boy raced yesterday and managed 4th . He IS still getting used to his 24 inch wheeled bike, so bike club this week should help.

Scout19075 Tue 09-Apr-13 13:06:43

Right, so how long do I have SB sit on the toilet for each time? I've missed two pees (one a big one) but have have caught all his poo since yesterday. That said, though, as I'm typing he's just done a (first) pee in the loo. He's sat as long as 15 minutes and as short as 5.

He just cheered himself for doing it in the right place.

mistlethrush Tue 09-Apr-13 13:16:34

Choc box very welcome. I'm still coughing. MC missed holiday club yesterday but drove DH mad by bouncing off the ceiling, so he's there today. MiL back with us and slightly more positive following a word with a consultant - they still don't know what it is but doesn't sound as though its short months. So planned move back on and asap.

MC loves his bike - might have to find a local children's bike club and see how thing progress.

UniS Tue 09-Apr-13 23:11:57

bike club this week is challenging... I hate paper work, and I have to turn in a perfect set of paper work for this week as its being assessed. grrrrrr.

Kids are fun tho, have a "new rider, just of stabilsers who is making great progress, really nice to see. AND its a child who will tell me if they don't understand what I've asked them to do. Hurrah.

mistlethrush Wed 10-Apr-13 09:21:17

What are you doing in your bike club UniS, and where is it based? MC would love to do something like that - and his school grounds would be a perfect location I would have thought... <ponders>

UniS Wed 10-Apr-13 19:18:41

Bike club this week is my practise coaching for a level 2 coaching certificate with Britsih cycling. I have to do 6 progressive sessions with the same group of riders. So, after talking to a couple of parents of likely children and looking at my available time and theirs. We are doing an Easter Holiday crash course for beginner/ intermediate cyclists age 5-7. Just a group of 6, as only have 1 tennis court of hard flat surface to use. The school playground is much steeper! and has obstacles.

Mistle - in your area (ish) take a look at this lot www.aireboroughxs.co.uk/Activities/Easter+Activity+Week and these www.leedsmercury.co.uk/7.html

found using www.britishcycling.org.uk/clubfinder

UniS Wed 10-Apr-13 19:21:38

and these guys too [[ http://www.otleycycleclub.co.uk/coaching.html]] look similar to Boys "normal" bike club rather than my holiday club.

mistlethrush Thu 11-Apr-13 09:05:20

Oooh one of those looks particularly relevant - meets just up the road sometimes...

[Needs to get bike serviced and fit for purpose by the look of it]

Scout19075 Fri 12-Apr-13 19:55:30

SmallBoy has done it!

<<Does the Snoopy Happy Dance around the tea room>>

He's done it!

UniS Sat 13-Apr-13 20:09:15

well done small boy... does this mean he had a whole train full of choclate carriages and a chocolate loco.

Scout19075 Sun 14-Apr-13 23:02:37

Biopsy tomorrow -- eek!

mistlethrush Mon 15-Apr-13 08:18:46

(((Scout))) and a brew waiting for you when you get back.

Scout19075 Mon 15-Apr-13 14:25:07

It would be naughty to lay in bed eating chocolate post procedure, wouldn't it?

Scout19075 Mon 15-Apr-13 17:23:16

It is very difficult to eat sweet corn when you're not allowed to sit up.

mistlethrush Mon 15-Apr-13 22:20:44

I'm sure chocolate would be easier.

And I've brought you a straw for your wine

Scout19075 Tue 16-Apr-13 13:51:59

Chocolate was definitely easier to eat laying down. I ate that while confined to my side. Hospital decided to feed me dinner since I was still there (very kind, as well, since they interrupted lunch to do the procedure and I felt to queasy to finish it after/before they came to collect the plates).

Scout19075 Wed 17-Apr-13 16:37:01

Today SB has consistently telling me when he needs the toilet. Even when we were at soft play he came over to tell me. WAHOO!!!!!!!!!

Scout19075 Wed 17-Apr-13 16:43:25

Oh.... I should mention that he's been in "big boy pants" since Friday and mostly dry but it's been me saying "let's go to the toilet."

UniS Wed 17-Apr-13 18:47:27

Hurrah for small "big boy" pants.

mistlethrush Thu 18-Apr-13 09:08:37

That's really impressive at soft play too Scout - its so easy for them to get so engrossed in playing that they don't realise they need to go - until its too late (been there, MC's done that!). Even now he will sit and squirm if he's doing something he doesn't want to stop - and then does a manic dash.

Scout19075 Thu 18-Apr-13 17:23:42

I was fully prepared for accidents due to not wanting to stop playing when I asked about the toilet/not wanting to stop playing so didn't pay attention to the signs -- I had three pairs of trousers, two pairs of pants and an emergency pull-up with me. To be fair, he mostly told me about the toilet when he was already over with me/the rest of the table (as in, "I need a drink....oh, I need the toilet!"). And this morning, while I was still half-asleep, he put his stool in front of the toilet, put his seat on the loo, had his pj bottoms down and was trying to work out how to undo his (night time) nappy when I asked if he was okay he said "I NEED THE TOILET!" I'm going to have to get night time pull-ups so he can do them himself (was just trying to finish up the open package of nappies I had) because I don't see him being night dry for a while yet. It's like swim nappies -- I had two or three and wasn't confident he'd tell his teacher he needed to go (it's one thing to tell me, another to tell an adult you only see once a week), so put him in one for his class today. He was okay with it and was happy to go back into pants after.

The US is having a rough week this week. I'm not impressed with the fact the background check for arms bill has been defeated. In fact, I'm p**sed off. I've been thinking about home/the US a lot lately dreaming of a bigger home with loads more land for a heck of a lot less money than here but things like that make me glad I'm not there at the moment.

::Waves in a friendly manner::

mistlethrush Sat 20-Apr-13 22:14:05

Sloshes some wine towards LBD

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud Sun 21-Apr-13 20:12:15

::Waves at everybody and clasps LaBelleDame to her ample bosoom::

Hope you're making a good recovery from the procedure, Scout.

Please come and join my Sunday evening dancing thread.

Have now TWICE lost long post I have written. No longer going to share (wasn't interesting) but am enjoying wine and bosom clasping. grin