Do any of you with one child find this difficult or is it just me? (By definition, if a parent organises play for their child, then it takes a lot of the fun and spontaniety out of it.)
Background: my 6 yr old dd is an only (and it's looking increasingly likely that it will stay that way). Not what we wanted for her but fortunately she is very sociable, loves school and does loads of after school-activities.
Following a few things dd said to me today, I just feel she needs a bit of spontaniety and a bit more 'low key' fun.
Her school is quite traditional and structured, as are all the out-of-school clubs. It's all enjoyable stuff (riding, ballet, piano) but at the same time it is all quite planned and controlled and mostly involves following instructions and behaving etc.
We have friends over to play once a week or once a fortnight if I'm stretched, but even that is quite structured because of time limitations and homework and supper etc.
I watched a couple of siblings playing together at a friend's house a few days ago. They were just lolling about and giggling - sometimes just playing together totally quiet and absorbed - and it was all low key and calm and didn't involve complicated arrangements or time deadlines.
How can I replicate this for dd? Or is this a totally unrealistic expectation ...? And if it isn't possible, should I be worried about it? I look back on my own childhood and feel she is really missing out.
Sorry - this post is very poorly expressed (tired) - not sure what I AM asking really - some practical suggestions would be good I suppose - I'd be interested to know how others handle this issue ...but I also just wanted to get it off my chest I guess....
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"Spontaneous" play with other dc - not so spontaneous for only children?
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StillCounting · 02/02/2010 23:32
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