I have a wonderful dd who is just turning 2 and is the light of our lives. Both DH and I love being parents, but I don't think either of us have a yearning to have more, except to give her siblings.
A bit of background - my dh has a transplant organ, he is very healthy at the moment and of course, I hope it will always be that way. But when he gets ill, it obviously can be quite severe. I want to give my dd everything she needs to be a healthy happy child (by everything, I don't mean things, I mean love!). You could argue that she could potentially have more to deal with when she is older with having one parent who has a high chance of being ill anyway, but then you can flip that around as we cope really well with things as they are even when dh is not in full health and can keep things on track. Having dealt with a lot, my dh does need some time out sometimes (just an afternoon for some golf, but I think that is very important to his happiness) and I appreciate the time out he gives me in return.
But I am driving myself mad with the thought that I am being selfish in not having another. I am not looking for people to justify having one just for the sake of solidairty or seeking any sympathy. What I would really valuable is some honest help in understanding what factors are really important to a not just a happy child but a happy adult too. Hope you can help me!
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ljhooray · 16/02/2009 22:04
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