Sorry if I sound like a moany, self indulgent cow. Just need to get this out..
I have a fantastic 4 year old boy, conceived through Ivf/icsi as my DH had very low sperm. For ages before he was born I thought I wanted two kids but after horrendous birth and early difficulties getting into the swing of motherhood (post natal depression and just adjusting to the demands of motherhood ) I realised that maybe one was perfectly ok...and I had genuinely settled on that.
However my DH wanted another so we went through ivf again which was tough this time round as I was put on steroids which made me spacey, ill and depressed. The ivf utterly failed when my DH failed to produce sperm on the day andthe frozen samples we had deposited four years ago yielded no usable sperm. I was sad and shocked to find this but my DH was utterly devastated.
I took one day off work to recover mentally and physically and to be honest I have spent the last few weeks since it happened propping up my DH as I feel so sorry for him. I thought I was ok. Meanwhile I've been moody and snappy at work and only tonight I realise that really I'm very sad, hurt, disappointed and angry about what happened. Not with my DH but just the whole thing...I had, during the ivf, begun to day dream about another cuddly baby and a sibling for my son but now it's all gone forever. I suppose it's only really hitting me now and it's completely shit. We told no one in our family, circle of friends or work places about this as my husband is very ashamed of it so it feels like I'm in some sort of secret mourning which probably doesn't help either.
Maybe someone else has gone through this? Thanks.
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nervousnelly1001 · 01/03/2016 21:09
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