(Sorry, long, I think I'm mostly using this to think some things through!)
DS is only 7 months old. Previously I'd only really wanted one child, but then when we started trying for #1 I got pretty broody and kind of thought we might go for two after all. However, pregnancy really didn't suit me (hated first and third trimesters), the birth was Not Good (although probably not bad enough to put me off doing it again if I really wanted) and as much as I love DS, the last 7 months have been horrendous. DS bless him has been pretty difficult, but I think mostly it's just been my failure to adjust to the massive lifestyle change. I teetered on the edge of PND and DS thinks sleep is for the weak, so still not feeling 100%. Basically, I can't imagine ever doing this again, particularly with a toddler underfoot, and the thought makes me feel a bit panicky. Also, DH is 48 (I'm 32) and starting to feel it, he would realistically be over 50 by the time we had another. Plus I actually feel relieved that we have a (apparently) healthy little boy and feel like having more would be pushing our luck, which I know sounds a bit ridiculous but the labour nearly went very wrong, so bit more conscious of potential problems.
So we'd been talking about DH getting a vasectomy, which he is quite keen to do. Hormonal contraception has never really agreed with me, and I don't like the idea of having anything done that I can't undo myself, IYSWIM? So no implant or coil. Today I had to take the MAP as I realised in my sleep deprived state I'd missed a pill (first time in over 10 years!), so something more permanent appeals.
But...I'm conscious that 7 months is hardly any time at all in the grand scheme of things, and I know most of the people in my life will think it's too soon and we'll change our minds when he's older. So did anyone out there have a situation similar to ours and go through with it? Did you regret it or not?
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LadySnapcase · 27/02/2014 21:28
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