About four weeks ago, DD (6) came into my room one evening and asked if we could take her teddies to the charity shop. I asked why, and then she burst into tears and said she had too much. I asked her what had brought this on, and why she was upset, and explained to her about some people having more than others (just to clarify, I'm a single who works full time for pittance, and although I guess to some extent I spoil indulge DD sometimes, she is by no means spoilt and certainly doesn't get everything she wants). I gave her lots of cuddles, explained how each teddy is important, but if she wants we'll pack some up and take them to the charity shop, along with some clothes (which I do anyway). Nothing more was said about it ....
Until tonight.
DD just suddenly said to me she didn't want her DS anymore (xmas pressie from my mum) and that I could have it if I wanted. When asked why, she burst into tears again and said that she didn't play with it much (not true, whilst not on it all the time she picks it up every now and again, and takes it to breakfast and afterschool club occasionally too). I gave her lots of cuddles and kept asking what had brought this on again. I asked if it was something she'd seen or heard. She kept saying that there was nothing wrong and she didn't know why she was upset. I kept saying that she could tell me anything at all and I wouldn't be angry, I kept telling her that it helps to tell someone if you're worried about something and perhaps I could help. She kept saying nothing was wrong. I did probe a lot and in the end she said that she thinks that she's got too much stuff. I explained how some people have more than others and reminded her of what some of her friends have (mentioning people both better and worse off than us) and explained how in life there is always going to be people better off and worse off than us.
I don't know where to go from here though. DD seems to be ok now, but I do wonder if sometimes it plays on her mind. I also worry about the fact that she wouldn't talk to me initially either. She's an extremely mature 6 year old, who is very very switched on and bright (sorry not bragging just want to give you a picture of who she is). It's been just me and her since she was 1, and I do worry that I've treated her more like a friend than my child. I always say how we're a partnership and we work together, but we always have fun together. I just don't know what to do from here.
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GreatBallsOfFluff · 11/07/2011 21:37
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