So, my DD and I have just moved over 250 miles leaving possibly ex possibly not partner behind whilst properties and business etc. are sorted out and we can make decision as to whether he moves here to be with us or doesn't. We have moved back to where I am originally from and where my DDs father lives, also her grandparents (my m&d) and her auntie and cousins (my sister and neices). Partner isn't my DD's father. My ex husband is. Partner has been with me and DD since she was 18 months old. She saw her father very rarely due to distance and his long term health problems, maybe once every 4 or 5 months, sometimes longer.
We have been here for nearly 4 weeks now and she has seen her Dad every weekend, been spoilt seen the GPs had a lovely time etc.
Tonight after she got back from her dads, we went out for a meal with my parents, my sister & BIL and her 3 kids (it is the first time since we moved that my DD has seen sister and BIL and her cousins) was lots of fun for the kids all very over excited etc.
When we got home my parents came in for cup of tea and I put DD to bed at nine, only half hour or so later than a school night so she wasn't overtired, or so i thought.
Parents left about 20 mins after DD had gone to bed and as they drove off I heard her crying. She said she has been having "bad thoughts" that she can't get out of her head. Involving her doing nasty things to her dad, running him over, pushing him in a river etc. and also she has been worrying that he is going to take her out for the day, forget her, drive off and get a new daughter. She said she thinks it is a "warning" that she hasn't to do these things (push him in a river!). All very sad and she was very upset. She hasn't said any of these kinds of things before and is normally a pretty cool cucumber about everything. Took about half an hour to calm her down and she went to sleep. My mum seems to think it is just a combination of being tired after weekend/over excited at seeing and playing with cousins at meal and the attention she is getting off her dad on a regular basis after not having seen him for months on end. Is she right? Writing it down it makes me sound like a twit who can't cope with normal kid behaviour but this hasn't happened before and I am blaming myself thinking I have "fucked her up" by moving here, taking her away from school/my partner who obviously was her father figure from age of 18 months. Bit and stressed tbh.
Sorry so long. Thanks in advance.
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TakeMeDrunkImHome · 19/06/2011 23:28
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