We have an only dd, 5. I was raised as an only, and my adoptive parents (now dead) cut themselves off from their families. I do, however, have contact with my bfamily - including a bsis and bbro. Dh has a huge family. All our sibs are in the US except my bbro who in Asia. Dh's parents are on the west coast US - so seeing them is yet another separate trip (they don't fly).
Since dd was born, we have been to the US 4 times. I just don't know if we can keep this up. And we hoping to go to bbro sometime. It eats all our time and especially money - and we wouldn't be doing this if it weren't for dd - so that she can see her cousins and grandparents (although none more than every 2 years). Dh is not very attached to family - they keep in touch on FB and he didn't used to go over that much.
No-one comes here. My Sil also won't fly and my bsis has her own similar time/money problem trying to get the family over to Asia (and no, a stopover is not likely for various reasons).
I just don't know if it's all worth it. We're taking a year off from the US trips to put some money into the house. But then we won't have seen anyone for over 2 years. It's not cheaper to do the east and west coast in one trip - it's slightly cheaper to get returns from London for each.
Is anyone else tying themselves in knots and doing all the running to keep their only in touch with cousins? I sometimes think it would be simpler if we just flat out couldn't afford it. But it does seem like we are always digging ourselves out of the post-trips hole at the end of the year.
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Acinonyx · 02/11/2010 14:32
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