Tea Room the Eighteenth - the Cricket Pavilion

[thumbwitch]

Welcome one and all to our new abode - a lovely old-fashioned Cricket Pavilion, with decks outdoors and a rather lovely Members' Bar, complete with deep-seated leather comfy chairs and any drink you care to mention.

Our outdoor amenities include the well-tended cricket pitch, kept immaculate by Mellors, our multi-purpose man; a couple of tennis courts round the back for those who prefer the Wimbledon scene; and another multi-purpose pitch (can be used for hosting Fine Lad-style rugby matches, or Little Kickers' football, or the occasional All Comers' Lacrosse Tournament.

Bishops abound, mostly snoozing in the leather armchairs; there are sundry animals around - guineapigs and bison mostly - and of course the Naked Mohawk Babies, fetchingly attired in cricket whites (most unusual for them!)

The cricket pavilion tea room is open to all - those with only one child who need a safe haven predominate but having more than one child is fine - come in, have an egg'n'cress sandwich and a glass of Pimms!

*other fillings and beverages also available.

[JBsmama]

Wow, never mind the breadcrumbs, I followed the spilled booze!

[thumbwitch]

oh well done! I hoped you'd find it ok

Pimms do for you?

[JBsmama]

Ok, linkie please to the "things I hate about MN" thread, I can't find it, want to read what they hate about us :o

(What could there possibly be??? [baffled])

[thumbwitch]

no you don't, it's feeble really, just that a few people don't like the "cliquey" rooms where everyone seems to know everyone else and there are all these in jokes or long-running conversations. Tough nuts, I say - they're just .

I didn't post on it - CBA. It's very long, only about 4 posts that really whinged about it, and only one poster really named our threads - before I got bored and stopped reading!

I think it's called "what don't you like about MN" in Chat somewhere if you really want to be bored

[JBsmama]

Oh ok, never mind, why bother :)

I recently tried Pimm's... it didn't really do anything for me. Is there any Bolly? [hopeful]

[thumbwitch]

Ah you have to have Pimms done properly or there really is no point. Properly in my book is like this:
1 part Pimms to 3 parts dry ginger ale, add cut up strawberry, mint leaf and a few small cubes of cucumber if you like that kind of thing. Leave it for about 5 minutes and then - ta-dah!

Anything that involves lemonade is Just Plain Wrong; and using less Pimms in the ratio means you might as well not bother

[JBsmama]

That doesn't sound like the Pimm's I had - yours actually sounds yummy! The drink I had was rather disgusting, actually... but I'm willing to be convinced. Do me one, will you?





More, please? :o

[Scout19075]

Good morning, new tea room! Fry-ups for anyone?

[MaryBS]

Ooo new tearoom! Hmm... the thought of all those men in cricketing whites. I've always had a soft spot for cricketers, if I were a RC still, I'd be spending serious amounts of time in confession

Fryup would be LOVELY thanks! :)

Wedding was lovely. Didn't do any dancing (dance floor was incredibly crowded!), spent most of my time talking to DH's colleagues and partners.

[CMOTdibbler]

This is lovely

Small ethical dilemma today - oldest nephew has, as far as we can tell from fb, been in a relationship for a couple of years with a lad who has now gone to uni and split up with him. He is not out to family (though to anyone with eyes it has been obv) - so do I say anything ?

[amberlight]

Oooo, I love the new Cricket Pavilion! And it has its own deckchairs!

The Rabbis and Imams seem to have made themselves at home as well, I see, and seem to have invited along a wide variety of other faith leaders for a match later.

CMOT, I'm guessing it's fine to say things to him, but maybe not to his family? Just thinking about the various individuals in my life who know/sort of know/don't know about my particular sexual identity, and how difficult it can be if particular individuals find out.

[Scout19075]

[CMOTdibbler]

I don't want him to feel I am snooping on his fb, and def would never say anything to the other adults of his family (who range from outright homophobic to uncomfortable with anything not in their very narrow comfort zone).

Might just go for a sad face on his status thing - seems non commital but supportive

[thumbwitch]

I think that's a very good idea, CMOTD.

Oooh, an inter-faith leaders cricket match - what fun! I wonder if the Bishops will de-robe for it?

[AandO]

Yes, it might be nice for him to see some support from a family member and 'grown up' CMOT. A sad face sounds like a good idea.

Erm....as I've lived in Ireland most of my life I've never actually seen a cricket pavillion, nor have any idea of how cricket works!! How do they know who is on what team as they all wear the same outfits?!!!

I had pimms once, and hated it! Could Mellors perhaps whip me up a mojito instead?

[ASmallBunchOfFlowers]

This is lovely, Thumb.

I agree about the sad face, Cmot. I think some low-key support is just what's needed.

I had been thinking of posting about my FB dilemma but it looks to me as if FB themselves have resolved the problem by booting the person off the site. Eek.

How about some hot buttered crumpets to accompany the breakfast fry-up? They seem to have a suitably cricket pavilion vibe.

[thumbwitch]

A&O - it's a bit like baseball in that you have one team whose members are all on the field at once and the only members of the other team on the field are batting. Difference is that there are 2 of them, not one, one for each wicket; and instead of running around bases, they run back and forth between the wickets, scoring one run for each distance. Both batters have to run at the same time and both have to reach the opposite 'crease' for a run to count.

[AandO]

A bit like rounders then? We played that at school.

[MaryBS]

Rules of cricket:

You have two sides, one out in the field and one in.

Each man that's in the side that's in goes out, and when he's out he comes in and the next man goes in until he's out.

When they are all out, the side that's out comes in and the side thats been in goes out and tries to get those coming in, out.

Sometimes you get men still in and not out.

When a man goes out to go in, the men who are out try to get him out, and when he is out he goes in and the next man in goes out and goes in.

There are two men called umpires who stay out all the time and they decide when the men who are in are out.

When both sides have been in and all the men have out, and both sides have been out twice after all the men have been in, including those who are not out, that is the end of the game!

:o

[ASmallBunchOfFlowers]

Thank you, Mary. I can see why you're so keen on cricket and cricketers.

[AandO]

Met up with one of my closest friends last night. Her dp is hitting her. I feel so upset and so completely shocked. He seems so nice, laid back, he's even a surfer - not my sterotype of a violent man. She is not yet ready to leave him she said, although she knows that is what she has to do. She still loves him, and says she can't make herself leave. They have only been together about a year and a half, and the hitting only started a few months back. But obv before that he wasn't exactly nice to her. Well, supposedly he was before they moved in together. I don't know what to do. I suppose I can't do anything except listen to her, and be there for her. It took her 13 years to leave her dh...lets just hope it doesn't take any where near that long with this guy .

[AandO]

The men who are in are out

[thumbwitch]

Mary - I have seen that before - where? I know you have lifted it from somewhere!

A&O - sorry, I got you confused with scout there. Rounders is of course more like baseball - but the similarity with cricket is limited to what I mentioned in my last post.

[MaryBS]

I just googled "rules of cricket funny" thumbwitch :o. Which reminds me I must google the "offside rule explained for women" - I promised it to someone...

AandO, just listening and not judging is best I think. You can never tell by appearances - even the strongest marriages have their problems. There is always the risk if you tell her he is a bastard and she should leave him, then in the heat of the moment she could say to him "well AandO said...", and then it could make things worse. She has to leave him if he is hitting her, but only she can make that decision - just be there for her if and when she does, its scary and there are so many perceived obstacles to leaving. Given she's had problems before, its important though that she doesn't think its because its her that all these things happen.

[thumbwitch]

A&O that is - did her H bash her too? (see that, a bit of Aussie creeping in there... everyone here gets "bashed")
I don't understand how someone can continue to want to be with someone who hurts them physically - what are the benefits? I expect most of the time she has to be careful not to wind him up in case he goes into one, so treading on eggshells the whole time - that's no way to live your life. Surfies are quite often into pot-smoking and machismo image, maybe that has an impact on his attitude as well. Not that I'm trying to find excuses, just to offer reasons why a surfie might be a woman-hitter.
I think you just have to offer her unconditional support for now - but without pushing her, indicate ways in which she can get out of this very damaging relationship. Offer her escape strategies (but not every time you see her or she'll stop talking to you about it). So :( - hope she realises that she is worth more than that.