We have one DS age 6. We both love him so much but he has been hard work and can be quite challenging. We went through a period of about 2-3 years of going round and round in circles about whether we would like to have another and not being able to decide.
It then got to the stage where we thought, life is settled and calmer now, I was getting older and the age gap would be too great. I have even got as far as sorting out baby stuff ready to be sold. I'm on the verge of getting my career back on track and I enjoy the time I have to myself.
However, recently, I been having panic stricken thoughts about the fact that perhaps we should have had another. I have a bit of regret that I'll never have a daughter and can get quite fixated on other people's girls-I love looking at their girly bedrooms and clothes.
From a practical point of view, the age gap etc. and having no family nearby to help, it's madness but sometimes I think, should we just try and see what happens? Common sense then kicks in and I start thinking about how hard the early years are etc.(I didn't enjoy them either) and I think nooooo.
This has been the trouble all along-I've thought too much about it instead of just going for it-and now I think I'm regretting it. Has anyone else felt like this and decided to go for another?
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motherof1 · 12/09/2010 12:09
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