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Hands around neck at nursery

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aideesmum · 28/05/2008 14:19

My ds was very upset last night - was very tired so tearful anyway. He told me a child at nursery had his hands around my ds neck and hurt him. I told the nursery staff this and no-one knew anything about it. Should I be worried that no-one had even noticed this? My son wouldn't make this up!

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mother2two · 28/05/2008 16:54

Yes, I would be worried.

Something similar happened at my dd's previous setting. I took her out forthwith when the staff told me "we didn't see anything, we didn't hear anything, so we don't think it's serious. Besides, she didn't have any marks and bruises when we checked."

Needless to say, I didn't return my dd to that setting. Just thinking about it makes me .

She now attends a wonderful nursery school. Because the children are more 'mature' and have better speech, any child that tries to hurt another child is swiftly reported to the nursery teacher, who is very good at dealing with these things. The nursery school also has a 'buddy' system, when the older children look at for the younger ones.

The staff at my dd's previous setting were basically telling me that my dd had made it up. I didn't appreciate this type of behaviour from the staff.

A month after attending the nursery school full time, my dd confided to the nursery teacher what happened at the previous setting. Action was taken, because I'm informed via the grapevine that things have changed at the previous setting. Whether it's because of the things my dd told her nursery teacher, or because there was another perhaps more serious incident at the previous setting, I don't know and I don't think I'll ever find out.

What I do know is that I did the right thing in changing settings.

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hercules1 · 28/05/2008 16:57

Sorry, but I think you're over reacting. Children do all sorts of thing to each other.
"She now attends a wonderful nursery school. Because the children are more 'mature' and have better speech"
That's one of the oddest things I've ever read on mumsnet.

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clarinsgirl · 28/05/2008 17:01

I don't know your child, but my DS (3) makes up stories all of the time. Its not that he's lying - he's just very creative . Can you really be sure that the event actually happened???

I would ask staff to keep an eye out for anything but would be inclined to do nothing else at this stage. Just my opinion.

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aideesmum · 03/06/2008 11:52

Update - The nursery spoke with my ds to find out what happened and he told them the same as he told me so I know he didn't make it up. Anyway I am happy with their reaction to the situation and yes I know this is what children do but thought it best to mention to the nursery.

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