reason to worry or being over anxious?

[readyfornum2]

DS started at nursery when he was 11 months old and absolutely loved it- no tears when dropping him off infact he used to toddle off and not look back and when Daddy picked him up he was often annoyed at having to leave

DP and I have recently relocated to near my parents and so DS wasnt in nursery for about 3 months, I have started him at a leapfrog nursery that got an excellent ofsted 4 weeks ago and he isnt settling infact if anything he is getting worse about it- the first few times he went in happily but when we picked him up he came running and headed for the exit.
Yesterday when I dropped him off I had to coax him in and play with him for a couple of minutes and then he cried when I left and when I picked him up he was sat crying,then today as soon as I took his coat off he started crying and it got worse as we went into his room I spent a few minutes trying to comfort him and then one of the staff took him and I went to reception and watched on the monitor. After 10 minutes of cuddles he finally calmed down and started playing.
He only does two days a week

Should I be worried and look into a different nursey for him or is he getting older and clingyier? I have never known DS to be like this and am really worrying that something is wrong at the nursey.
Also last week he was at the tail end of a cold and when my mum picked him up they said that he had been unsettled all day and upset-surely they should phone me if he is like that?

[Washersaurus]

Have you had a chat with the staff to see how he is doing during the day?

DS1 went through a short phase like that when I picked him up/dropped him off but otherwise they said he was fine during the day.

[MightyMoosh]

Yes as a nursery nurse I know just how many childrena re the same- cry at drop-off and pickup. occasionally cry too if see other children dropped off or picked up at different time. Its age too- from around 1y they do tend to be clingier but trust me this has nothing to do with parenting- some parents just end up with clingier kids! never yet seen a facter in clinginess- even the most cossited and coddled darling may not cling.

If the staff say he is happy during the day trust them- would you want to look after a screamer all day? why would they if there was a chance saying something to you would help! Its just an odd phenomenom, there to make parents feel bad, and the staff- as parents react the way you have-is there anything wrong with nursery.

Its obv up to you wether you move him, but give it longer if poss, imagine how you would feel if you move and the same thing happens!

Hope that helps.

[Twinklemegan]

My DS started at nursery for 1 day a week when he was about 7 months. He was fine and loved it. Then we moved.

After a couple of month's break he has started at a new nursery at the age of 17 months. What a difference? He has found it much harder to settle and the first three times the nursery had to phone us half way through the session to go and get him . However, the last time we did that he was actually quite happy when we got there and played around us. Today he went and was happy all day.

So I guess I'm saying that it is probably her age making it harder for her to settle rather than anything else. HTH.

[Lazylou]

Agree with MightyMoosh. It is largely dependent on age and also you lo has had a bit of a shift in his routine, added to recent illness which may have upset him a bit. I would ask the staff at the nursery and see what they say and I also agree that nursery staff will do whatever they can to make the task of looking after the children that bit more easier.

[readyfornum2]

Thanks all for your replies I have spoken to the nursery and they say he was fine after I had gone and went on to have a good day so I guess he is just settling in again and missing mummy after 3 months of being with me!

Im gonna stick it out and see how things go because like Mightymoosh says if it isnt the nursey itself I could make the problem worse by moving him again

[Lazylou]

Good idea! I'm pleased you have made a decision, because often the indecision is the worst! Good luck with it, hope your lo settles back in nicely