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Moving nurseries - needing reassurance!!! Help!!

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michelle1976 · 26/11/2007 17:04

Hello, I'm new here so please be kind!

DS has been at the same Nursery A since he was 10 months (he is now 4), 2 days a week, and DD has also been going since since the same age (she is now 16 mths), but I'm not entirely happy with the situation becuase:

  1. DS has always been quiet and fairly shy, and his time has been a little turbulent but especially last year, when he was moved into the pre-school room unexpectedly when just 3(I had been told they would wait until he was 4 as he's a September baby and would get bored with 2 years there), found the older kids hard to handle. I kept encouraging him to go but he wasn't keen and was having lots of toilet accidents (had been trained for ages) which I put down to DD being born. Nursery said he was fine and just not keen on all the noise. Later turned out accidents happened when a particular child X threw a tantrum - although staff played it down at the time someone recently let it slip Child X had to be restrained and even hurt staff sometimes so understandably DS would have been worried. Toilet accidents stopped the day child X and others went to school and he seems reasonably happy now.


  1. DD quite happy as very confident and settles anywhere but keeps being sent home with illnesses (fair enough) but also e.g. allergy rash, reaction to MMR etc so in last 3 months I have had 50% of time off work. Also seems to be no keyworker system (I don't know who DD's is anymore, previous one left!) and when I was concerned about DD's speech and asked if she spoke much while there, no one seemed to know


I have found what seems like a lovely Nursery B just round the corner from where we live now. We looked round it initially but went for Nursery A as it was much bigger and shinier, B is much smaller. But now I do not like the fact that A is a huge chain of nurseries, continually being taken over, and just seems about being a big business. So DD is moving before I get sacked (!), but I am worried about moving DS with only months before he starts school. He says he doesn't want to stay where he is if DD is moving, and has looked round Nursery B and likes it, but I still worry it will be too unsettling. Although he has started two mornings a week at playgroup as well this year and is absolutely thriving there. I think maybe if I've lost confidence in my carer, for whatever reason, I just shouldn't be leaving my babies there, but can anyone reassure me that I'm not making a big mistake?!!

Sorry for huge post.
Michelle x
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lemonaid · 26/11/2007 17:12

Reading your post I was inclined to say move your DD but leave your DS there rather than unsettling him.

But if he thinks he wants to move, then I'd be more inclined to move him -- he's four and while you can't let him make all the decisions it seems reasonable to give him some input here. And the playgroup will give him some sense of continuity.

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nurseryvoice · 26/11/2007 18:19

How did they know Ofsted were visiting? just curious as Nurseries get no warning.

and back to the topic
yes if your ds wants to move then I would move him.
good luck

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michelle1976 · 26/11/2007 19:37

Interesting re Ofsted visits and sending home!! I sometimes wonder about the numbers, DD seems to be in a variety of rooms when I pick her up, depending I think on where the spaces are that day. This is why I don't have the slightest worry moving her, because with that and with the amount of time she's had off I'm sure she can't have bonded with anyone there!!

I think I was just worrying about DS wanting to move then missing his old place, but have just found out tonight that the one nursery nurse he is really fond of is moving to a different room after xmas anyway, so that makes it an easier decision.

The place has been taken over a few times by bigger and bigger chains and the t&c's have changed so often that I had to ring up to check current notice provisions. Manager said "oh are you thinking of leaving? well can you let us know when you make your mind up", so clearly not really too bothered!!!

Thanks for comments
Michelle x

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