Bad behaviour of other children at nursery

(9 Posts)
Apfelbunny Sat 19-Nov-16 11:30:51

My 3yr old attends a good nursery and thoroughly enjoys it - which is great.

Except they're now displaying really bad behaviour (and saying things we've never said around them) and attributing it to another child who they say hits them alot.

I have mentioned it to the nursery who have assured me they'll keep an eye on things and generally intervene and enforce an apology from the one doing the hitting - which is fair enough, I accept this is part of how relationships develop.

The thing thats bothering me is that the other day when I was picking my child up this other child was repeatedly tugging at my child's toy (i was holding my child and he was beginning to look concerned), I told this other child to stop and politely asked them to stop, of course thry ignored me and continued to try to yank this toy out of my hand. He eventually let go and I gave the toy to my child.
There was a nursery worker present, however they were busy telling me what they'd been doing that day with the kids.

So, what should I of done, I obviously wasn't going to shout at someone else's child...

The whole incident has bothered my child to the point they wont stop talking about it and they no longer want to take their comfort toy to nursery.

Should I just leave it, or mention it to the nursery? The kids can't be separated because they're both in the same age group.

Whatthefreakinwhatnow Sat 19-Nov-16 11:33:45

For starters I'd stop with taking tussauds to nursery, endless source of fallings out i my experience!

As for the behaviour, I see it as typical toddler behaviour but if you are concerned raise it.

I afraid there will be years of this to come, my 9 year old still has friendship dramas!

Whatthefreakinwhatnow Sat 19-Nov-16 11:34:23

tussauds?! toys! oops autocorrect!

Apfelbunny Sat 19-Nov-16 12:22:33

Thanks, the toy was a comforter thing that always travels to nursery and this is the first issue we've had.

Think it was more of an eye opener because this child was trying so hard to yank it off an adult.

DearMrDilkington Sat 19-Nov-16 12:26:53

Normal behaviour for a 3yr old. I really wouldn't take his comforter to nursery, it will end up lost or taken home with one of the other children.

JeepersMcoy Sat 19-Nov-16 12:30:51

We always sent a comforter into nursery with dd. It was never a problem! I would just of held the toy higher so they couldn't reach it to be honest. It seems like pretty standard behaviour to me and not something to be overly concerned about.

insancerre Sun 20-Nov-16 09:26:43

Some 3 year olds have few boundaries and do things other 3 year olds do
Just like some 3 year olds still have comfort toys and get carried around by their parents
Its all normal behaviour for 3 year olds

insancerre Sun 20-Nov-16 09:27:51

*Don't do

Apfelbunny Sun 20-Nov-16 10:06:13

I think maybe I found it odd because I cant imagine my 3yr old doing something like that. Yes, they have naughty moments - im not saying mine is perfect, but they also wouldn't snatch off an adult with another child egging them on.
As for comforters, if they're having an off day they like to cuddle up to something familiar at nap time.
(I dont know how anyone other than a muscle bound gym bunny could carry a toddler any distance! Ive even seen people in town carrying 5-6 yr olds! Mine doesn't generally like being held or cuddled unless they're really tired)

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