Hi,
I am probably overreacting but...
My 1 year old has just started nursery, it's her 3rd week, she's in for 2.5 days as I'm working part time.
As for all mums, leaving her there was soooo hard, there were tears, hers and mine, although I did my crying on the way to work not in front of her!
Every time I picked her up or rang for a check up, I have been told "yes she's absolutely fine". There have been days when I've seen her face when ive picked her up and she looks like a little orphan child, bags under eyes from exhaustion etc. She is getting bits of sleep but not much!
Then I spoke to her key worker for the first time today, she's just been allocated one today, who said that she likes to be honest with parents, and she said that yes my Dd has been crying. I panicked and as,ed how much and she said she had been crying for me well more shouty crying. This has made me really upset as I know she's teething at the moment so will be in pain.
I am feeling guilty that I have to work, I'm used to being at work now and am enjoying it but I'm worried about Dd.
It is a brilliant nursery so I trust them as much as I would do any stranger to take care of Dd, plus it's a farm which she loves, when she's not crying.
The feeding lady at hospital said that separation between mum and the baby too soon can damage babys brain and emotional intelligence. Surely this is nonsense.
The nursery staff are lovely but I don't know who I can trust. I don't know if I'd rather know or not know if she's upset, I can't do anything about it after all! The key worker also said she's getting used to things and does settle by being distracted.
I suppose I'm looking for reassurance as I'm feeling guilty for leaving her. Especially because of the mixed messages from nursery!
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MusicMum18 · 10/05/2016 15:18
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