Hi all, I've joined mumsnet because I want to hear what some others think about my little story.
So my daughter who's two and a half has been going to this nursery since March and I've been having a few issues with the staff or maybe I'm being dramatic. I haven't brought it to their attention because I don't want them to take it out on my girl when I'm not around and I'm not sure if I'm just over thinking it.
After the settling in stage I wasn't given any leaflet or instructions for what I need to bring in for her other than being told to bring a rain suit and boots for outside play. So obviously i put the normal things in her bag. A few weeks after her starting the staff seemed very upset that I didn't know I had to bring in sheets for her to sleep on and said I was told to bring it in (all with a shitty attitude) but no one told me.
When she first started I was only going to put her in for two afternoons but manager gave me a few good points that it would be nice for my girl to spend the whole day there and they would be more flexible if I had to swap a day for whatever reason. So she's there two whole days a week whilst I go to work. Putting their flexibility to the test I asked to swap a day as I had been asked to work a different day. They allowed it but then sent me an email saying I should not change her days because the staff cannot plan her day effectively, I understand they have to plan but I'm still a bit pissed they gave me different information at first and then were shitty when I did what they said I could.
(Hats off to you if you're still with me)
So my girl comes home and is excited to tell me about one of friends in nursery she always plays with. When I was dropping her in for the day I was speaking to one of the staff and the little girl my daughter says is her friend walked past with her dad I said to the staff that my daughter really likes that girl and she seems really sweet. The staff said (I quote) " well you don't have to look after her all day". I was pretty much gobsmacked and didn't even respond to this. I understand staff have their opinions but I thought why would you slag off peoples children to me! This member of staff has actually left now, she was my girls key person too.
So yesterday, I was asked to fill out one of them forms about anything new happening in my daughters home life and new events coming etc. So I was writing that my girl has begun using the toilet more independently and told the staff as I was writing. The staff member pretty much barked "why didn't you tell us?, how long has she been doing this?" I was a bit surprised but laughed it off and said she's been doing it for a few weeks she's been using the toilet all day when at home and around people she's close, I put her in nappies when we're out or when she's having fun so there's no accidents and she tells me when she wants to go to the toilet anyway or uses her nappy. The staff carried on shouting you should have told us if she had a wee or poo accident we would change her what do you think we do all day? I got three of my own kids I think I know what to do. Again I laughed it off and said well I wished I had a manual that tells me how to be a good mum. She carried on to say your confusing her, poor girl etc. I could feel my blood boiling and just ended up saying you know what I'm used to family or close friends looking after my girl as a favour when I go to work and try to put as little pressure on them as possible and I've had the same attitude with her coming to nursery because sometimes I forget I actually pay you. She shut up after that. I suppose I should have told them sooner but I was hoping that my girl would be comfortable enough with them to tell them she wants a wee on the toilet since she does with everyone else she trusts. At the same time I didn't expect that response. I pretty much feel like shit and feel I've been judged at my parenting skills. To top it off the nursery manager was in the room and I could see she felt awkward but even made a few comments herself.
I've noticed that a couple staff have left and in my girls class there's different staff than usual, now my girls begun crying whenever I leave her there but then again lately she has become more clingy.
Anyway, am I being dramatic? I'm not the perfect mum I bring my girl in late sometimes when I'm not at work since I like to have a lazy morning with her, a few times I showed up half way through lunch. I understand that's irritating for the staff so maybe they are a bit pissed at me from that?
I was thinking about changing nursery but then feel bad as my girl has her mates there now and seems settled.
Any thoughts? Sorry for the babbling lol.
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Sashie1 · 06/05/2015 14:27
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