My dd is just over 3yo and has just started at nursery. We had three short visits where I stayed with her and although she enjoyed these sessions she didn't move very far from my side. On the last visit she was more confident and I distanced myself but stayed in the background. First session when she was left was last Thursday; she did really well, no tears. Next session was following day (these wont be her usual days but nursery advised that sessions close together might help her settle) she wasn't so keen this time and had a few tears but nothing too dramatic.
Tuesday this week I dropped her off and she was quite upset, staff had to pick her up and she was crying when I left. Ok when collected though and appeared to have enjoyed herself. I have just got home from dropping her off this afternoon, she was really upset. Staff offered a cuddle but she was having none of it and reluctantly agreed to draw but didn't want anyone to sit with her!
I have a few questions if anyone can offer some advise:
-She will go for two sessions each week. I feel that this is enough but am now wondering if it will just take longer for her to settle. Would it be better for her to go more often?
-do I stay with her for longer or is that just prolonging the distress (I have always felt it was better to start as you mean to go on so as not to confuse her)
She is a quiet child out of the house and a bit timid. She has not been left with anyone other than my parents who have looked after her for three mornings since she was two. The rest of the time she is with me. She is the youngest of three and completely different at home (noisy, confident, chatty etc).
My oldest was the same and never really enjoyed nursery, just got used to going and got on with it although he was ok starting school. Middle one never looked back and settled easily.
Sorry this is so long, just waiting for the nursery to ring to let me know she is ok !!
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mumofbeauties · 12/09/2013 13:28
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