4 year old Son constantly hyper ADHD?

[Lauz1786]

Hi guys

I'm after a bit of advice and see what you all think. My son is 4 years old and has always been a hyper kid. He is due to start school
In sept and I'm worried that he may have ADHD. I feel like I can't talk to my hubby about it as he thinks I'm being rediculous and says he's "just a boy" plus he works a lot so is t around for the bad days but I just feels there's something else. His symptoms are:

1.Constantly talking, running and climbing.
2.Zoning out at random times for about 2 mins
3.throwing toys down stairs (for fun)
4.not listening to instructions at home and nursery

1. As soon as he wakes up he's full of energy and constantly on the go
   

6.laughs when being told off
7.fast talking
8.spontaneous random behaviour such as running into roads, putting toys into bins
9.difficult falling asleep/staying in bed
10. Doesn't pay attention to story's being read to him he well interupt me reading and change his mind
11.spitting to get attention
12. Doesn't take part in group activities at nursery would rather play alone or with one other.

I'm exhausted just watching him any tips and advice would be appreciated I've rang the docs but have to call back in morning for a apt.

Thank yoy

[ADHDMumofThree]

Phew, it sounds like hard work. I would definitely raise your concerns with your GP, you may find that you get fobbed off because of his age but it's worth at least discussing it.

Usually doctor's like to wait until a child has been in school for a while to see how they behave in a classroom setting, whether they're able to make progress with their work and how they respond to structure, it's uncommon to get a diagnosis before then unless they have an older sibling who also has ADHD.

You will get plenty of people just saying 'he's a typical little boy' but you are really the best one to judge whether you feel that it's more than that. All three of my kids have autism, and two have ADHD and I just felt that there was something different about them from quite early on. I couldn't understand why other people made parenting look so easy, and thought that it was just me, that I couldn't discipline my child properly. It really didn't help my self-worth and I became so exhausted trying to keep up and look like the perfect mum.

Have a look online for the Connor's questionnaire to see some of the symptoms that they look out for. This is one of the tools that is used to diagnose ADHD, the parent and the school each fill one in and they compare the results.

As it may be a bit early for a diagnosis prepare yourself for a long wait but also trust your instincts. There is no harm in looking up tips for parenting ADHD children and seeing if they help you to gain some of your life back!

[Lauz1786]

Thank you for your tips and advice hon, I well defo go gp just don't wanna make a fuss if it turns out to be nothing

[user1466962809]

I could have wrote this myself about my 4 year old although he is rather good at nursery and doesn't run into roads. Other than that most of the above apply to him. Every time I tell my partner I think maybe ADHD he shuts me down very quickly. I tried to speak to a health advisor once she said he was fine and minutes later he threw a toy at her.

[user1467448567]

I work with children with MH difficulties. I feel your pain, but would agree with ADHDMumofThree you're unlikely to get a diagnosis pre school. Positively though, if he does settle there it will be more re assuring for you, hopefully

[FlissMumsnet]

Hi Lauz1786,

Welcome!
Hope your GP was helpful, if you'd like to talk to more parents who may know how you're feeling, i'd suggest starting a new thread in parenting..

Goodluck

[keepingyourcoolparenting]

It sure does sound exhausting. Raising children is hard work!
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[jude1960]

some of this seems to be attention seeking. they seek attention in all the wrong areas sometimes. perhaps he is feeling left out? or asking for you or daddy in all the wrong ways