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DH refuses to use cloth - anything I can do??

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My cloth story - we decided before 18mo DS was born that we were going to use cloth. Ironically, DH was more adamant than I was. Once DS had arrived, I did two really good nappy trials with some very helpful ladies, but it was all too overwhelming with everything else going on, DH decided pretty much from the day the nappies arrived that he hated them and we went permanently to 'sposies.

In the past six to ten months, I've been reintroducing cloth (Tots Bots Easyfits as I remember liking these best from the trials I did) and feeling much more enthusiastic about them as I'm more used to how to keep it simple and leak-free. DS is at nursery FT during the week where they use disposables on him, so, really, it's only weekends that DH would have to use the cloth, although my preference would be no disposables at all when at home. I assemble all the nappies, putting liners and boosters in place, after washing so they're ready to use but DH Just. Won't. He says they're a pain in the arse and that's the end of it. I think his main issue is removing a pooey nappy because it involves a trip to the toilet to get rid of the excess, while also having to deal with flailing toddler legs. I use flushable liners and dry pail to make it as easy as possible.

I've tried the environmental/cost arguments on him and they don't work. Is there anything in the process itself that I could make easier to win him over??

Thanks in advance!

hoppingmad Tue 19-Nov-13 22:43:44

Noaddedsuga - cloth nappies are way easier than you seem to think (especially if you use easyfits with disposable liners). It barely takes a moment of your time.

Pop the liner and contents in the toilet and the nappy in the pail. No different to putting the disposable in the bin really.

I have 18 month old twins and would've spent a fortune on disposables. Instead I spent less than £200 on cloth. Don't knock it till you've tried it smile

It also only takes minutes to put on a wash or peg out a few nappies. Plus the patterns are very cute smile

NewBlueCoat Tue 19-Nov-13 22:55:17

I find it extraordinary that he would refuse to such a degree.

I use cloth. my dh was hmm about it before dd1 was born. reckoned I'd get fed up dealing with it (note the 'I' there!) and it would be an expensive fad.

9 years and 3 children later, it was the best £200 ever spent. and dh is as fine with it as me. he whinges about the types of nappy sometimes (prefers one type over another, both are available usually, dpeending on where we are in the washing cycle)

imo, by the time you've opened a shitty nappy (disposable or cloth) and cleaned the shitty bum, then dropping poo in the loo is hardly extra effort. it's not as though by not using cloth you never deal with shit.

would he agree to eg a 4 week trial of cloth only, and really give it a good go. and then after that you could talk about whther to continue or not?

he would have better experience to weigh it up, and you might be more open to his opinion if you felt he had given it a good go, maybe?

TheThirdHare Wed 20-Nov-13 00:29:30

I love the way MoreBeta leisurely browses MN yet he can't find 5 minutes to put a load of nappies in the machine grin

mrsmartin1984 Wed 20-Nov-13 00:38:21

Clearly people who are that against cloth don't know how easy it is. People seem to think I spend by days scrubbing shit. Well I don't. I haven't however had to clean up a poo that's exploded out of a nappy. Because cloth nappies are better at containing poo. So who's scrubbing shit now?

BeCool Wed 20-Nov-13 01:11:50

Who buys the disposables for home? If it's you just don't stock them at home? Might go and buy some himself but chances are he will simply use what is available.

I flush poo in disposable nappies before binning them btw.

holidaysarenice Wed 20-Nov-13 01:18:23

Just do it weekend about. That's a compromise.

Or u do nappies he does nights.
Or don't buy any disposables.

FoofFighter Fri 22-Nov-13 10:37:21

If it was so much work then people wouldn't do it would they?!

It's been proven time and time over that cloth is not more expensive, yes even allowing for washing! (btw early studies had people always boil washing them and also ironing them when working out the costs per wash!) You can save at least £500 on first baby, more if you go on to use again for more babies, another £250 if you also use washable wipes.

It takes me no longer to change a cloth nappy than a dispo - it takes me 5 mins to shove the nappies in the machine, 5 mins to unload it, and ten mins to hang it up - twice a week. The washer does all the hard work.

Really wish people who have no idea would keep their "views" to themselves!

SliceOfLime Sun 01-Dec-13 17:08:16

I can't believe people have bothered to comment, just to say that they think washable nappies are a waste of time. Well, whatever. Clearly you are more important and intelligent than I am, because I spent 2 years doing an extra 2 loads of washing a week. Yes, the five minutes it took me to put the nappies in the machine, and the 10 minutes it took to hang them out to dry... What an eternity! If only I had that time back...! Hmm, i dont think it will be one of my deathbed regrets wink

OP , what about your husband putting the pooey liner in a nappy bag / bucket / container on the changing table, finishing the nappy change, then dropping it into the loo afterwards (or leaving it for you to do - nice, but there you go!) And it is definitely worth asking your nursery to use the washable nappies, lots do these days and easyfits are about as easy as a nappy can be. You would just need to provide them with a big wet bag for the dirty ones - worth an ask at least?

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