UK Female MNers - please take a survey about chores and tasks at home - £50 to be won! NOW CLOSED

[AnnMumsnet]

Here at MNHQ we'd love to know who does what in your household.

If you are a UK Mumsnet user who is female AND who has at least one child at home AND who has a partner who lives in the same house as them please take a few minutes to complete this survey.

As a thank you, all respondents (who leave their details at the end) will be entered into a prize draw for a £50 voucher for the store of their choice.

Here's the link again www.surveymonkey.com/s/SVWHGD6

Thanks and good luck


MNHQ

[Holfin]

Done - made my have a good think about who does what actually

[LeMousquetaireAnonyme]

All done, as I suspected DH does not enough around the house!

[UnderEstherMate]

Hmm, perhaps I don't give DP the credit he deserves. I think he might actually do more than me!

[AnnieLobeseder]

As I suspected, we do equal actual physical work, but I do all the organising and arranging, despite frequent requests for him to use the brain god gave him more often.

[Bicnod]

Done. I wish I could print it out and show it to DH - especially the life admin/organising stuff...

[MrsHathaway]

Well that was depressing. Apparently I live in the 1950s.

[Itsfab]

Mostly all done by me but that is part of the deal. He can earn more so I am at home as we wanted one parent at home. There are things I never do - anything financial and there are things he rarely does - school runs, but works for us and both are happy.

[spiffysquiffyspiggy]

Done. I do all finance and organising he does all the boring shit housework. I ticked he does most of it because I do occasionally put washing in the machine rather than scattered all over the floor. Very occasionally I remember to take it out and hang it up. Not necessarily on the same day though... Reality is he does 99.9%

a perfect partnership (you're not going to ask him for his opinion are you? )

[Blondieminx]

Done.

I do the majority as I work part time and DH is full time. He also seems to take longer to do some tasks

[GiantGraspingCeramicFist]

Hmmm, we split things equally and both work full time...no wonder we're so knackered atm!

[CrimsonPermanentAssurance]

Are you getting sponsorship from divorce lawyers HQ?

[PlentyOfPubeGardens]

There's no space to put what chores older DC do.

[BettyBolognese]

Well that's a bit depressing actually seeing it there on screen. How have a I managed to be responsible for all of these things and still have to go to work. :(

I want to be DH.
We are so having words later!

[blueberryboybait]

I was confused by the thing mentioned - 'ironing', what is this thing and how does it work?

I am amazed how much DH does around the house which balances with how much child based stuff I do.

[NecesitoDormir]

I thought we are more equal than we actually are. :(

[AnnieLobeseder]

It did trouble me that the last section, which asks if your partner doing more work would have X effect, was coming absolutely from the assumption that men aren't doing enough. There was no option for "this doesn't apply because my DP does his share". I know there was a "this doesn't apply to me", but that's very broad - there could be any number of reasons why that didn't apply.

Now I realise that chances are very high that most people's DPs aren't doing their share, but it seemed wrong to skew the survey that way.

[Curlyweasel]

done. we too shall be having words later.

[BittersweetSymphony]

Done. DP seems to do more physical chores around the house, while I do more admin things.

[GiantGraspingCeramicFist]

Annie yes, I felt that too.

[mjmooseface]

Urgh, I do EVERYTHING! And it's all my fault...

ONE remark made yonks ago about how I wanted to look after my family and look after the house, how I saw it as my job and I'd be so happy to do that...
Husband works 27.5 hours a week. And yes, it's physical work. He does work overtime sometimes, too. But I just wish he would do SOMETHING around the house... Give me a break from doing everything for everyone! lol

Although, he has just started doing a few bedtimes a week. So that's progress. And I did just break a lawnmower and he vowed to do it in future... Maybe if I break a few more things...?! :P

[Thurlow]

I agree with Annie. That was actually a bloody negative survey at the end. It didn't apply to me at all - but what bothered me more was that there wasn't really an option to say that.

The last few questions operated almost entirely from the perspective that an OH must need to do more, in some way or another.

Also, our working hours will have skewed the results - the childcare questions (bathtime, bedtime etc) were orientated around the idea that the mother (as in, most people filling this out will be women) are doing the bulk of the daytime childcare. I don't - DP does, because of his hours. But my survey answers will make it sound like I do more because it only really asked about bedtime and bathtime, which I do purely because I get home at that traditional 'dad' time of 6.30 and so do the evening routine.

You needed more 'other' sections because you're going to get some rather skewed results from this.

[toothlessoldhag]

I think this needs context: I do more admin because I'm at home more and because I'm more financially literate. This doesn't mean that my DH doesn't do his bit elsewhere (in fact, I wish sometimes he'd lower his standards for tidyness and just relax!).

n.b. I've answered the bedtime and bathing and similar questions relating to younger children as we used to do things when DS was younger (with DH doing much more of this than me).

Again, taking time off and 'Being the first person called if there’s a problem' may be skewed, as in our case, to one partner, simply because they have a more flexible workplace. I can easily work from home if needs be, DH cannot ever do so, because of the nature of his work.

[dobedobedo]

Done. We're pretty equal except when it comes to admin and childcare stuff. I do 99% of that.

[Thurlow]

Good point, toothless. We're the same - DP just doesn't do a job where he can dump and run, whereas I do. Doesn't mean he a) doesn't want to help or b) think it's a mother's job.

The more I think about this survey, the more it seems that without the context of what hours you and your DH work etc, it's a bit pointless.

[WhispersOfWickedness]

Yes, I found some of the questions a bit skewed if you don't take into account how much work each person did out of the home (although this question was asked later on, so hopefully it will be taken into account)
Anyway, I was a bit worried starting the survey, considering DH does next to no housework (I am a SAHM for context ), but he came out of it surprisingly well!! Looks like he does more than I thought he did