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Live Webchat with Lauren Laverne on Oxfam's Mother Appeal, Thursday 30 January 2 - 3PM

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KateHMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 29-Jan-14 16:34:20

We're delighted to announce that the legendary Lauren Laverne will be joining us for a webchat on Thursday 30 January in support of Oxfam's new Mother Appeal, which hopes to raise over £10 million. Oxfam says, 'the appeal aims to celebrate mums around the world by giving them the lift they need to empower their families and change the future.' Keep your eyes peeled for more information about the campaign coming up on Mumsnet over the next few weeks or to find out how you can get involved, go to www.oxfam.org.uk/Mother-Appeal.

With a career spanning from 90s indie band Kenickie to broadcasting and journalism, Lauren has had a successful and varied on-screen career presenting TV shows from The Culture Show to Style on Trial and covering music events, including Glastonbury and The Mercury Prize. She now hosts a daily show on BBC 6 Music, is a fashion columnist for The Observer and a regular contributor for Red Magazine. We're very happy to welcome her to Mumsnet.

We hope you'll join us to talk about what we can do to help and support mothers worldwide, to lift them and their families out of poverty for good.

Thanks,
MNHQ

nicolatequila Wed 29-Jan-14 17:18:27

I'd like to do something to help, if I organised an event do you have any tips on what works best, how did you get your friends to attend?

Pamandeggs Thu 30-Jan-14 07:18:52

Hi Lauren, sounds like a really good cause. What made you decide to get involved. I'm a busy mum too, how can I get involved?

Mignonette Thu 30-Jan-14 08:53:17

Hi Lauren

What has interested me most has been research and writings on the impact that poor or no access to sanitary protection has upon school age girls. Research has shown that attendance falls off because they have no way of managing menstrual periods discreetly and hygienically, often in cultures where females may find it harder to be open about periods.

Access to education is transformative. Impediments to this must therefore be a priority especially considering the already weakened position of women in many countries.

Will Oxfam be doing anything about this?

Mignonette Thu 30-Jan-14 08:54:38

Posted too soon.

How can Oxfam empower Mothers (and Fathers) to help their daughters cope with menstruation and gain access to sanitary protection?

GirlWithTheDirtyShirt Thu 30-Jan-14 10:30:03

Frantically trying to think of a deep and meanigful question, when all I really want to ask is if I can come out and play with you and Caitlin Moran one day.

Actually, I have a question, you're obviously busy - more than full time job, couple of kids, husband etc, etc. Where do you find the headspace for things like this cause? Or to find new music? Or to form actual opinions? I'm either working or flopping on the sofa in front of Real Housewives on TiVO.

marshmallowpies Thu 30-Jan-14 11:22:21

I am also struggling to think of a real question, but wanted to say that Lauren's radio show was a real life line to me when I was at home the first few months with my baby: I am not sure I could have got through it without her friendly voice as company!

I'm also an oxfam volunteer so here is my question: what's the most fabulous thing you've ever found in a charity shop? Or something you've donated & wish you'd hung onto?

kelso1234 Thu 30-Jan-14 11:37:34

Do you shop in charity shops? If so, what's the best thing you've ever bought and why?

mostlyharmless Thu 30-Jan-14 12:10:15

Hello Lauren, I'm listening to you right now, very excited you'll be joining us later.

You seem to have a feminist point of view, would you agree? How has this changed/developed since becoming a mother?

This looks like a great cause.

MrsArthurWellesley Thu 30-Jan-14 12:11:48

Squee! I think Lauren is fab smile

Lauren, you've done some pretty exciting things in your career. I've recently become a mother myself and thing I struggle with most is never being my own person - especially at the moment while my baby is so small and the little bugger won't take a bottle Did you find it hard to adjust to having to give up certain aspects of your life when you had children? I'm sure you'll probably say it was worth it in the long run smile

ScienceRocks Thu 30-Jan-14 12:13:29

Huge fan of Lauren Laverne here, since the early kenickie days (punka is still a favourite tune if mine to dance round the kitchen to).

Lauren, I am really pleased you are using her wellknownness (I hate the word celebrity) to such good ends. A campaign to end poverty in women worldwide is worthy indeed. A little closer to home, I wonder how you view the situation many women find themselves in after they have children, whereby they are the main caregiver and while they may work, it is often at a much lower rate than their partner. How can we stay financially independent at this time, and indeed how can we get back onto a financially indecent footing, having stepped off the full time career ladder in the interests of the family? This situation leaves many women trapped in abusive or unhappy relationships, leading to depression, anxiety and other problems in the longer term.

Thank you!

MrsArthurWellesley Thu 30-Jan-14 12:15:16

I'd also like to know what NN Lauren will be using, given that there's a poster with the NN laurenlaverne confused

Or maybe Lauren is hiding in plain sight wink

Plonkysaurus Thu 30-Jan-14 12:22:58

Lauren, listening to you right now, chatting with the silky-smooth Jared Leto. I was outraged awhile back at the possibility of the BBC Trust closing 6Music, and signed the petition. It must be amazing to know you're there not because of your bosses, but because of a dedicated listener-ship. I work from home so 6Music really feels like a lifeline for me!

Anyway. You're a proper northern bird. What would you get from the chippy? (if you say curry sauce I'll be devastated).

hotcrossmums Thu 30-Jan-14 12:34:13

Hi Lauren,
I love your show.... been a SAHM and a p/t student for the last 4 years so you have kept me company/ sane while I've (almost!) completed a diploma course and done all the chores involved with small kids!
Give us some of your favourite songs that celebrate motherhood.. which one best describes the dilemma of the modern mum? Which song would you play to raise awareness of this campaign? Who do you think in the music industry are good role models as mothers in that they manage a career and good parenting?
Thanks for all the good music!

MickeyPB Thu 30-Jan-14 12:35:37

Hi Lauren,

Do you think that motherhood has influenced the kinds of jobs that you've been approached for? I've seen you reading some CBeebies bedtime stories recently and I think I heard your dulcet tones narrating on Tee and Mo (who are amazing, by the way!). Do you enjoy doing this kind of work as much as your role as the nations favourite superstar DJ?

Thanks smile

teaandcustardcreams Thu 30-Jan-14 12:53:21

Hi Lauren,

What's the best piece of advice your mum gave to you?

HotCrossPun Thu 30-Jan-14 12:59:06

Do you consider yourself a feminist?

Crumblemum Thu 30-Jan-14 13:36:24

There's a LOT in the news about broadcasters who used their position to take advantage of people in years gone by. Is this still a problem in the industry or have you been able to progress without coming up against this sort of thing?

PS - are you a Mumsnetter?

Crumblemum Thu 30-Jan-14 13:38:42

Oh am I allowed another question.... What is Jimmy Carr actually like? Sometimes he really makes me laugh, other times ....

BananaHammock23 Thu 30-Jan-14 13:52:55

Hi Lauren. Just wondering how you feel about the No More Page 3 campaign, and whether it's something you support?

JustineMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 30-Jan-14 13:55:36

Lauren's in the building [excited] so we'll be starting shortly.

KateHMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 30-Jan-14 13:56:51

Hi all,

Lauren has arrived! Everyone please join us in welcoming her, she'll be answering your questions in a minute.

We'd like to add that this is indeed the real Lauren Laverne, thank you so much to the lovely MNer who has relinquished her LaurenLaverne username!

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 13:58:12

HELLO EVERYONE I'M HERE A BIT EARLY (yes I'm THAT COOL) so I'm just going to start now, OK? Right. Let's go.

Mignonette Thu 30-Jan-14 13:58:35

Sits waiting expectantly whilst listening to Calvin Harris, Mazzy Star and Trampled By Turtles- Lauren has to have a musical accompaniment.

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 13:58:45

Yes, of course!

HotCrossPun

Do you consider yourself a feminist?

JustineMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 30-Jan-14 13:58:56

Can I ask a nosy question Lauren... I think I seen you say you use Mumsnet - are you a MN lurker or do you actually have a username and post (obviously not trying to out your username anything grin)

And congrats on the Oxfam campaign - it's a great cause and we're very happy to be involved.

Mignonette Thu 30-Jan-14 13:59:15

Calvin BISHOP. Not Harris. blush

mostlyharmless Thu 30-Jan-14 14:00:51

"Yes, of course!

HotCrossPun
Do you consider yourself a feminist?"

Excellent answer grin

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:01:56

teaandcustardcreams

Hi Lauren,

What's the best piece of advice your mum gave to you?

My Mam always gives the best advice (which is part of the reason I wanted to help Oxfam launch the Mother Appeal celebrating Mums) but the most useful advice was just BE NICE. Which doesn't mean being a pushover, or unambitious, but really means be kind and polite. It's also a lot more fun than being cool, edgy or in fact most other adjectives.

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:04:00

MickeyPB

Hi Lauren,

Do you think that motherhood has influenced the kinds of jobs that you've been approached for? I've seen you reading some CBeebies bedtime stories recently and I think I heard your dulcet tones narrating on Tee and Mo (who are amazing, by the way!). Do you enjoy doing this kind of work as much as your role as the nations favourite superstar DJ?

Thanks smile

I guess it has - or maybe that's just part of getting older...All I can say is I'm really enjoying the work I'm doing at the moment, so if being a Mam has helped bring that about I have yet another thing to be grateful for smile

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:06:24

JustineMumsnet

Can I ask a nosy question Lauren... I think I seen you say you use Mumsnet - are you a MN lurker or do you actually have a username and post (obviously not trying to out your username anything grin)

And congrats on the Oxfam campaign - it's a great cause and we're very happy to be involved.

I probably tweet and link back to threads more than I post, but I do post sometimes and found MN an invaluable resource when the boys were little. At 3am when they're up with a temperature you know there will be people who have been there and shrunk the t shirt up and posting. It is a GREAT site. (I have posted advice to other mums in these types of situs as well, which is a lovely thing to be able to do when you've come through it!)

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:07:03

BananaHammock23

Hi Lauren. Just wondering how you feel about the No More Page 3 campaign, and whether it's something you support?

Yes I do support it! I have tweeted in support already, I believe I may have referred to their campaign as 'the tits'.

Munxx Thu 30-Jan-14 14:09:40

Hello Lauren. I met you at a party in London in 1998 and you told me you liked my handbag. You made my week!

Anyway I wondered what music you and your children dance round the kitchen to? We have 6music on mostly and I am cultivating two mini indie kids!

Hey Lauren - very interested to see you supporting this campaign. Can I ask - why this one, specifically? What drew you to it? And its aims are so broad - do you think the goal is achievable?

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:10:06

hotcrossmums

Hi Lauren,
I love your show.... been a SAHM and a p/t student for the last 4 years so you have kept me company/ sane while I've (almost!) completed a diploma course and done all the chores involved with small kids!
Give us some of your favourite songs that celebrate motherhood.. which one best describes the dilemma of the modern mum? Which song would you play to raise awareness of this campaign? Who do you think in the music industry are good role models as mothers in that they manage a career and good parenting?
Thanks for all the good music!

Ooh this is a GREAT question (and thank you for listening!) it's an interesting time in the music as the scene is so diverse - people from all walks of life/age groups making music. There are TOO many great songs about motherhood to choose from but I think I'd say Etta James' 'Tell Mama' is my favourite because it's not actually ABOUT motherhood (or doing slightly cliched mum-as-saint thing). She IS the mama and she's sexy and cool and in control. And I like that!

hotcrossmums Thu 30-Jan-14 14:11:51

Good choice Lauren! Let's get Craig to play it on the funk and soul show next saturday (my second favourite show after yours of course!)

I just want to say that I love 6Music and really enjoy listening to you LL smile

kittykitty Thu 30-Jan-14 14:12:44

Just looking at the long list of things you do made me feel tired! So I'm intrigued to know what your work/life balance is like - do you think you've got it about right, or are you like the rest of us, desperately trying to do it all but feeling guilty at the same time for not being the perfect mum.

woeface Thu 30-Jan-14 14:12:47

Hello Lauren and thanks for coming on.
My question is about Twitter - I wondered whether you thought it's been a Good Thing for women?
On the one hand, the experience of Caroline Criado Perez etc, and hideous abusive misogyny.
On the other, it feels as though it's somehow easier to hear women's voices loud and clear on Twitter than anywhere else (apart from MN of course - why I love it so).

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:13:22

Crumblemum

Oh am I allowed another question.... What is Jimmy Carr actually like? Sometimes he really makes me laugh, other times ....

He's fantastic. He's extremely clever and interesting and also interested in other people (not ALWAYS the case with standups). I'm fascinated by the way he writes his jokes (punchline first!). I think it makes him quite an ambiguous character on-screen which is a very interesting idea. IRL he is straightforwardly lovely.

OmNom Thu 30-Jan-14 14:14:23

Hello

Just wondering what your experience of being a woman in the media/light entertainment has been, in terms of how men treat you, whether you think women are taken seriously and given the same opportunities as men, how you see older women's careers going (ageism and the like) and whether you think things are going in the right direction?

ChazMax Thu 30-Jan-14 14:15:24

Hi Lauren,
Great to have you on Mumsnet and really great that you're involved with Oxfam.
Can I ask, what's your favourite word and what's your least favourite word?
Thanks

JoFeline Thu 30-Jan-14 14:16:02

Hi Lauren,

I am about to become a Mum (due on Tuesday), I have always looked up to you as a role model since I was about 14 and had a massive Kenickie poster in my room. You seem to have a good work/life balance and this is something I really want to achieve, I would love to know your best piece of advice on how you keep that balance.

Jo

eggsandham Thu 30-Jan-14 14:16:12

Hi Lauren. Thanks for coming on here. I think I'm right in saying that I've seen you tweet quite a bit about politics - can I ask what you think of the coalition and whether you'd ever consider going into politics in some way?

UpOverAndOut Thu 30-Jan-14 14:16:33

Hi Lauren,

If you weren't working in radio/TV/writing/generally being wonderful, what do you think you'd be doing instead? Did you ever imagine yourself as something completely different?

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:16:42

Pamandeggs

Hi Lauren, sounds like a really good cause. What made you decide to get involved. I'm a busy mum too, how can I get involved?

It so is! All the details are on oxfam's site at www.oxfam.org.uk/mother-appeal. You can donate (cash or old stuff to your local Oxfam shop), get together with friends to hold a fundraising event, or shwop your used or unwanted clothes in M&S. Also - all the cash Oxfam raise (up to £5 million) will be matched by the UK government, which is pretty exciting. Good luck!

UpOverAndOut Thu 30-Jan-14 14:17:09

And if I can ask a cheeky second question... what's it like inside MNHQ? grin

DinnersAllWeek Thu 30-Jan-14 14:18:18

Hi Lauren,

So pleased you've come on to MN - totally made my week.

If you had to pin down the key points to being a celebratable mum, what would they be? please say feed them biscuits and don't iron anything

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:19:26

JoFeline

Hi Lauren,

I am about to become a Mum (due on Tuesday), I have always looked up to you as a role model since I was about 14 and had a massive Kenickie poster in my room. You seem to have a good work/life balance and this is something I really want to achieve, I would love to know your best piece of advice on how you keep that balance.

Jo

Gin, basically.

I'M KIDDING. I mean it's just one big juggle for everyone, I think. You just have to decide what matters to you and pursue that and be prepared to let other things go. I also try to be fully 'in the moment' (sorry for using that phrase, but) and focus on what I'm doing at any given time, because as a Mum you're always, ALWAYS not doing another thing that quite urgently needs doing. One of the tough aspects of the gig.

Good luck with your lovely baby! X

HereComesYourMam Thu 30-Jan-14 14:20:04

I have this image of you and Caitlin Moran and Grace Dent all round each other's houses on a regular basis necking wine and bitching about fellow celebs and out-quipping each other. Please tell me this really happens. And can I come.

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:22:07

UpOverAndOut

Hi Lauren,

If you weren't working in radio/TV/writing/generally being wonderful, what do you think you'd be doing instead? Did you ever imagine yourself as something completely different?

I always planned to do medieval history at university (again, REALLY COOL) so I'd probably have gone down that route. My Dad is an academic and I always imagined that is where I would end up. One of my best mates has been going to Birkbeck as well as working for the past few years and it's really inspired me. I think I might apply when the kids are older. I'd probably study literature or language rather than history, though.

This is all dependent on me finding my A Level certificates, obv and I've no clue where they are. So.

JoFeline Thu 30-Jan-14 14:22:57

Thank you x

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:24:48

HereComesYourMam

I have this image of you and Caitlin Moran and Grace Dent all round each other's houses on a regular basis necking wine and bitching about fellow celebs and out-quipping each other. Please tell me this really happens. And can I come.

It happens! Not as often as we'd like (as Caitlin always says 'too much life') but it happens and those are my best nights. My friends (I mean all my friends, not just those lads) are crucially important to me. Twitter is brilliant because it's this fascinating room you can just pop your head round the door of. There's always someone you want to talk to in there.

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:26:16

UpOverAndOut

And if I can ask a cheeky second question... what's it like inside MNHQ? grin

Exposed brickwork (in a good way), steel columns painted dove grey. Attractive people tending the mainframe in sharp outfits. THERE ARE SOME DUDES ALSO. Quite a lot of stationery. Shall I steal some pens?

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:27:44

ChazMax

Hi Lauren,
Great to have you on Mumsnet and really great that you're involved with Oxfam.
Can I ask, what's your favourite word and what's your least favourite word?
Thanks

My favourite word to say out loud is ululate, written down it's skiing. Or maybe elephant (which looks like an elephant) or bed (which looks like a bed). My least favourite word is harder, I like most words. I'm not keen on 'youngsters'.

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:28:23

kittykitty

Just looking at the long list of things you do made me feel tired! So I'm intrigued to know what your work/life balance is like - do you think you've got it about right, or are you like the rest of us, desperately trying to do it all but feeling guilty at the same time for not being the perfect mum.

DEFINITELY B. x

AuroreH Thu 30-Jan-14 14:32:19

Hello Lauren and Mumsnet people,

Lauren, if you could change/add anything on the mumsnet website, what would it be?

Thank you!
Aurore

Mignonette Thu 30-Jan-14 14:32:26

That seminal novel of the 80's called 'Lace' wink had a scene in where one of the characters (Tom) handed Kate a card with 'Fuck Guilt' written on it.

I try to hold onto this when the going gets tough.

nowit Thu 30-Jan-14 14:33:30

Hi Lauren,

Does this campaign cover families in the UK too?, sadly I see more and more people saying that they are struggling to make ends meet and feed their DC.

Obviously there are many many people much worse off around the world and I would be happy to be a part of this but it's sad that poverty exists in this country too.

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:34:18

OmNom

Hello

Just wondering what your experience of being a woman in the media/light entertainment has been, in terms of how men treat you, whether you think women are taken seriously and given the same opportunities as men, how you see older women's careers going (ageism and the like) and whether you think things are going in the right direction?

I think things are a lot better than they were. To be honest 'BITD' sexism was so normal you didn't even really notice it! It was just how things were (I remember a colleague at an old workplace who would shout 'whattup bitches' as his greeting to female colleagues). I think we're in the middle of this strange, occasionally awkward and probably quite disconcerting for some people (but ultimately REALLY NECESSARY) phase where people are becoming aware of, highlighting all these things and calling them out. Things have to change. But I believe they are going in the right direction.

I have experienced sexism, seen a lot of ageism (and I imagine my turn is coming on that front soon). I think myself incredibly lucky that I'm not doing my job 40 years ago. Annie Nightingale - CLANG- told me a mindblowing story recently about turning up at clubs with her records and literally not being allowed to play. They just wanted her to stand there, like a mannequin. Maybe wave. URGH.

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:37:01

nowit

Hi Lauren,

Does this campaign cover families in the UK too?, sadly I see more and more people saying that they are struggling to make ends meet and feed their DC.

Obviously there are many many people much worse off around the world and I would be happy to be a part of this but it's sad that poverty exists in this country too.

The UK Aid match money (up to £5m) goes to projects in Zambia, Tijikistan and Bangladesh but the rest of the money is going to Oxfam projects all around the world (based on need)

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:37:35

AuroreH

Hello Lauren and Mumsnet people,

Lauren, if you could change/add anything on the mumsnet website, what would it be?

Thank you!
Aurore

Avatars. Some of the usernames are just TOO GOOD not to have a picture.

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:41:56

DinnersAllWeek

Hi Lauren,

So pleased you've come on to MN - totally made my week.

If you had to pin down the key points to being a celebratable mum, what would they be? --please say feed them biscuits and don't iron anything--

Two great tips, there - I can't remember where our iron is (I think it might be under the stairs). I guess I'd say that if you're a loving Mum, if you're doing your best and your kids are broadly happy - THAT'S IT. You're doing it right! That is the gig! I think sometimes we put so much emphasis on doing everything the right way that we take the joy out of being a parent. You don't have to be perfect for your kids to grow up to be functional humans. If I had bigger boobs I'd print this on a t shirt (as it is I think I might run out of room).

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:45:08

woeface

Hello Lauren and thanks for coming on.
My question is about Twitter - I wondered whether you thought it's been a Good Thing for women?
On the one hand, the experience of Caroline Criado Perez etc, and hideous abusive misogyny.
On the other, it feels as though it's somehow easier to hear women's voices loud and clear on Twitter than anywhere else (apart from MN of course - why I love it so).

I agree with you! I often think that the piecemeal way it operates (you can dip in and out whenever you have a sec) caters perfectly to busy women/mothers. It kind of mirrors the way I interact with my friends anyway? Online misogyny and abuse is obviously horrendous to witness but we will only stop that by overpopulating the medium and tweeting reasonable, polite and lolsome thoughts of our own. There are way more of 'us' than 'them'. They're just loud.

I also think (to an extent) it is what you make it. If your timeline is getting you down, change who you follow!

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:46:54

mostlyharmless

Hello Lauren, I'm listening to you right now, very excited you'll be joining us later.

You seem to have a feminist point of view, would you agree? How has this changed/developed since becoming a mother?

This looks like a great cause.

It has increased! It does when you get older and actually understand things, doesn't it? grin

memagog Thu 30-Jan-14 14:54:18

You have fab taste in fashion, what are your fave sites and will you be doing anymore of those oxfam clothes auction in the near future?

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:54:23

MrsArthurWellesley

Squee! I think Lauren is fab smile

Lauren, you've done some pretty exciting things in your career. I've recently become a mother myself and thing I struggle with most is never being my own person - especially at the moment while my baby is so small and the little bugger won't take a bottle Did you find it hard to adjust to having to give up certain aspects of your life when you had children? I'm sure you'll probably say it was worth it in the long run smile

Hello! I totally recognise that feeling - it is a huge adjustment and (to be honest) I'm slightly nonplussed by people who claim to have sailed through it. I think the thing to bear in mind (particularly during the stage you're at - been there!) is that none of it EVER stays the same. It is a process of continual change and letting go (bizarrely combined with MASSIVE responsibility). I often think that parenthood is one big ego-eviscerating exercise in losing control. Your heart is on the outside once you have a baby (as one of my aunties says 'you're only ever as happy as your unhappiest child'!) but equally it takes you right back to who you are. I'm sure you can experience these things without having kids but I'm not sure I would have. I have found resources I didn't know I had and become a person it never occurred to me I might become and for that (as well as many other things) I am very grateful.

Additional practical advice: be kind to yourself, sleep when s/he sleeps!

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 14:54:56

MissBeehiving

I just want to say that I love 6Music and really enjoy listening to you LL smile

Thaaaanks! XXX

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 15:00:33

GirlWithTheDirtyShirt

Frantically trying to think of a deep and meanigful question, when all I really want to ask is if I can come out and play with you and Caitlin Moran one day.

Actually, I have a question, you're obviously busy - more than full time job, couple of kids, husband etc, etc. Where do you find the headspace for things like this cause? Or to find new music? Or to form actual opinions? I'm either working or flopping on the sofa in front of Real Housewives on TiVO.

Question 1: Obv, you can. Come to Soho, follow the sound of cackling and the scent of cigarette smoke (hers) and you will find us.

Q2: There are only 24 hours in anybody's day, so I try to fill mine with things I care about. I have an ongoing working relationship with Oxfam and a couple of other charities and they're very important to me. I'm honoured that they would ask for my help and grateful that they can help convert what is essentially a fun but (arguably) silly aspect of my job (being slightly well-known) into something of practical use!

That aside, I do as much as possible of all of the above in my pyjamas, which helps. You're never really WORKING when you're in PJs, right?

VikkiMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 30-Jan-14 15:02:17

UpOverAndOut

And if I can ask a cheeky second question... what's it like inside MNHQ? grin

Like this, UpOverAndOut!

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 15:06:49

ScienceRocks

Huge fan of Lauren Laverne here, since the early kenickie days (punka is still a favourite tune if mine to dance round the kitchen to).

Lauren, I am really pleased you are using her wellknownness (I hate the word celebrity) to such good ends. A campaign to end poverty in women worldwide is worthy indeed. A little closer to home, I wonder how you view the situation many women find themselves in after they have children, whereby they are the main caregiver and while they may work, it is often at a much lower rate than their partner. How can we stay financially independent at this time, and indeed how can we get back onto a financially indecent footing, having stepped off the full time career ladder in the interests of the family? This situation leaves many women trapped in abusive or unhappy relationships, leading to depression, anxiety and other problems in the longer term.

Thank you!

This is obviously a tough one. I work with Refuge as well as Oxfam and what they do to support women and children who have managed to escape abusive relationships (or are attempting to do so) is brilliant, but the amount of need is horrific. We need to help women (and men) experiencing the problems you mention, not just charities but the government, too. All of Oxfam's research shows that supporting vulnerable mothers is not only morally right but also of economic benefit! If they are helped financially the statistics show they will go on to bring up kids who can contribute a greater amount to their country's GDP.

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 15:09:09

marshmallowpies

I am also struggling to think of a real question, but wanted to say that Lauren's radio show was a real life line to me when I was at home the first few months with my baby: I am not sure I could have got through it without her friendly voice as company!

I'm also an oxfam volunteer so here is my question: what's the most fabulous thing you've ever found in a charity shop? Or something you've donated & wish you'd hung onto?

Thank you so much for listening. Also - I just donated 70% of my wardrobe to Oxfam! It is being sold at Gemma Cairney's 'Rumble in the Jumble' in March. God help me! It was actually really freeing and brilliant to pass it all on, but I am somewhat mourning the size 6 (I mean WHAT THE ACTUAL F) Marc Jacobs dress that is a little...er...CLINGY now. That had to go but I waved, plaintively.

LaurenLaverne Thu 30-Jan-14 15:10:58

Guys I am going to see my lads. Thanks so much for the lovely chat! If you want to find out about/join in with Oxfam's Mother Appeal, all the info is at oxfam.org.uk/mother-appeal. X

memagog Thu 30-Jan-14 15:14:11

Yey great news on the rumble!!! With bells on! I loved your rave show the other day total flashbacks xx

KateHMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 30-Jan-14 15:17:40

Lauren's got to be off now sadly <weeps>, thank you all so much for your great questions!

MNHQ thanks

ViviPru Thu 30-Jan-14 15:46:02

HOW DID I MISS THIS?! angry

<self flagellates>

marshmallowpies Thu 30-Jan-14 17:27:50

Thanks for answering my question Lauren! squee *does happy dance*smile

ScienceRocks Thu 30-Jan-14 18:38:44

This is the first time I have had a question answered on a mn chat. And from the lovely Lauren Laverne too. This has made my day smile

TheGirlWithTheArabStrap Thu 30-Jan-14 23:56:12

I'm the poster that used to be LaurenLaverne, mumsnet asked really nicely if I would let the real Lauren use my username. Glad to see Lauren is just as ace as I thought she would be! grin

ItsATIARA Fri 31-Jan-14 20:30:24

Aw, wasn't she lovely.

Slightly double-takey that the person who asked her if she posted on MN was JustineMN [CONFUSED]. Surely if anyone knows exactly who everyone is it would be Justine? I imagined that she knew the sexual peccadillos, favourite deodorant and sleeping position of half the women in the country and has it flash up in her memory palace when she meets them like that bloke on Sherlock?

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