Tell me about a perfect moment from your life :)

(251 Posts)
CheerfulYank Mon 17-Feb-14 09:01:12

I just had one, all snuggled up in bed with DS (6) and DD (8 months). We're so warm and cuddled up while it's freezing outside. They're both sleeping on their stomachs in their cozy pajamas and I love the sound of their sleepy even breathing. smile DS doesn't have school tomorrow (President's Day) so no morning rush ahead of me. It just struck me as a wonderful moment I should try to remember...DS looking so little while he sleeps, DD's chubby baby hands on my pillow.

It got me remembering a night I spent once when I was 21, lying in a field and drunkenly talking to a boy. It was the most gorgeous summer night, with a breeze and a huge moon and the smell of grass everywhere, and it really seemed like I would be 21 forever.

Just little moments like that, that you keep and remember, times when you wouldn't trade your life for anything. smile What are some of yours?

DrankSangriaInThePark Mon 17-Feb-14 09:09:09

Mine is my user name. smile

I was 19 (can there be anything better?) and in Spain. On my 3rd or 4th date with a beautiful boy, on a warm spring evening who took me down to a river (rather than a park) with bottles of this and that, and later, "when it got dark, we went home".

I still, 28 years later, think of that night as one of the best of my life.

Subsequently, that spot became "my spot" in that town, where I would go and sit on a wall and think. And now, 28 yrs later, the joy of street view means I have been back, if only in my hand. And zooming in, on the wall opposite where we sat that night, is some fab graffiti, the quote from (IIRC) Appollinnaire "Come to the edge" he said, "We are afraid" they said, They came to the edge, he pushed them, and they flew. So many of us are afraid, and yet we all have the potential to fly"

The screenshot pic of that graffiti is now my FB cover pic, because it was always one of my favourite quotes, and to see it written, all those years later, in that very spot, is just very serendipitous, because that was how that night felt.


DrankSangriaInThePark Mon 17-Feb-14 09:09:49

head not hand. Hand would be weird. grin

BulletForMySandwich Mon 17-Feb-14 09:11:53

When dd was born we struggled with fb the whole first day, the second morning I woke with her at six, cuddled her and she latched straight on, fed and slept on me for ages! It was so perfect and I wanted to stay there forever! She never latched on that we'll again and we had to stop a few days later....

AuntieBrenda Mon 17-Feb-14 09:12:03

I was travelling in th

RudyMentary Mon 17-Feb-14 09:13:58

In my perfect moments I have always been alone.

This troubles me at times

AuntieBrenda Mon 17-Feb-14 09:14:55

Let's try again!
I was traveling in the USA and camping somewhere hot in a national park - went to lots if them, can't quite em ember which one!
All my companions had gone off somewhere and I was lying just outside my tent, one foot dangling over my knee, staring out at the beauty all around me.
It was so peaceful and beautiful and quiet - and I was 23 and the world was mine for the taking.
Youth really is wasted on the young! I loved being in the USA

vichill Mon 17-Feb-14 09:24:41

My daughter had a health scare when first born and had to spend 4 days at Alder Hey (thankfully a false alarm). After the all clear, we drove back home on a glorious summer's day Elvis' I just cant help believing came on the radio and I swear she squeezed my hand knowinglywink. I felt true elation.

Rissolesfortea Mon 17-Feb-14 09:27:31

On honeymoon in Kenya, standing on our balcony watching a glorious sunrise over the Great Rift Valley. It was so quiet and peaceful it felt like we were the only people in the world.

Sortyourmakeupout Mon 17-Feb-14 09:33:57

Six weeks before my dad died suddenly, he cupped my face in his hands, looked me straight in the eyes and said "I love you sortyourmakeupout, and ill die with your name on my lips"

vitalia Mon 17-Feb-14 09:36:18

Gorgeous summers day, having a picnic in a deer sanctuary with dh and 20mth old ds.
Ds running round freely, comes running over to us and unprompted with the biggest smile says 'I'm happy'

I felt enormous love for them both, and thought how lucky we are to be healthy and happy.

He's 5 now and I'll never forget it.

magimedi Mon 17-Feb-14 09:36:34

Sort - I now have something in my eye.

What a lovely memory to have.

ZuzuandZara Mon 17-Feb-14 09:37:11

Sounds gorgeous OP smile

Your second bit about lying in the field immediately reminded me of a gorgeous book that I haven't thought of for years called Seventeenth Summer by Maureen Daly. I think you need to read it!

ihatethecold Mon 17-Feb-14 09:49:39

Mine was last year in Barcelona with my dh.
The sun was shining, we went to the beach.
We have never been to a beach without the kids.
We swam, sunbathed and just enjoyed each other's company.
Then we drank so much sangria and listened to people singing and dancing in the hidden corners of the gothic quarter.

I felt so content and happy.

longingforsomesleep Mon 17-Feb-14 09:55:34

Lots of perfect moments with my kids when they were babies.

One springs to mind when they were pre/early teen and I'd made them all come for a walk with me in the snow. They all grumbled about going but the place we went to was very hilly and they found things like cardboard boxes, an old 'for sale' sign etc and spent hours sliding down the hills screaming with delight. They all still fight and don't do much/anything together but for a couple of hours they worked as a team and had an absolute ball.

It was fantastic watching them.

DrankSangriaInThePark Mon 17-Feb-14 09:58:48

That's lovely sort. smile

TobyLerone Mon 17-Feb-14 09:59:14

When DD2 was born, 6 weeks ago, I gave birth kneeling over the back of the bed. The mw passed her up through my legs and she literally found my boob and latched on immediately (the baby, not the mw!)

It was amazing.

DontWannaBeObamasElf Mon 17-Feb-14 10:02:50

Last night. BabyElf is full of cold and woke up upset. I took her through to our bed and she just lay there for ages looking into my eyes and smiling.

ots Mon 17-Feb-14 10:06:40

When DS was born.
Our room looked onto the lake in the hospital grounds. DS was born in the early hours of the morning, beginning of May.
DH was sitting cuddling DS when he was a few hours old, and I was relaxing on the bed watching them. As the sun came up the midwife came and opened the blinds for us.
At that moment, a mother duck walked past followed by 3 ducklings. It seemed so apt and really was the perfect moment.
I just got goosebumps writing that smile

Sortyourmakeupout Mon 17-Feb-14 10:20:55

Thank you magi and drank.

these are lovely.

Great thread op.

Sitting on a makeshift bridge over a noisy brook with a nearby farmer's dog I've known since I was a kid chasing around in the water. It was sunny and I was reading Claudine at School and every two minutes he'd come up on the bridge and give me a doggy smile and snuffle for a stroke.
That happens every time I go there, it's a gorgeous place. Getting muddy with a dog, it's the best. And the reunions with those dogs are part of the reason I keep going back to that place. Rolling around in the sunshine with this mad overexcited adorable creature. I really want my own dog.

My hamster falling asleep in my hand smile

Rolling down a hill with my little cousins and seeing the tracks we made in the grass and then seeing a little mouse pop out of a hole in the ground.

*In my perfect moments I have always been alone.

This troubles me at times*

How come it bothers you?

Theas18 Mon 17-Feb-14 10:56:17

Don't laugh. To me this was more romantic than all the Valentines flowers and chocs...

Went out for the day with mates last Saturday. DH home doing child taxiing and housey stuff.

He'd not only cleared all the washing but hand washed all my hand knit socks and put them on the radiator.

Not only does he loves me he knows how to look after my lovingly crafted knitting smile

tiredbutstillsmiling Mon 17-Feb-14 11:03:36

DD is nearly 3 but I loved the moments BFing her. She would always wrap her hands around my fingers and state into my eyes. Beautiful.

Even though she can have MAJOR tantrums she still has beautiful moments. A few mornings ago she claimed in bed with DH & I, stroked my cheek and said "mummy you're pretty, I love you".

Almost makes up for the fact she had a screaming fit in a restaurant we went to y'day for DH's birthday!

tiredbutstillsmiling Mon 17-Feb-14 11:04:02


CaptainFabulous Mon 17-Feb-14 11:04:33

DH and I finally arrived at our hotel on our honeymoon after 24 hours of hungover travelling.

We dumped our bags, got changed, sat on the hotel terrace, metres away from the beautiful, sparkling Med, toasted each other with ice cold beers and then sat and read the guest book from our wedding.

We howled with laughter, had lumps in our throats at some messages, and just sat there, aglow with our amazing good luck.

Then we went back to our hotel room and made DD. grin

30SecondsToVenus Mon 17-Feb-14 11:07:38

Chirstmas last year I was on the sofa holding 4 month old dd2 watching a film. Dd1 came and sat next to me and both girls were just looking up at me smiling while Christmas music played out through the TV. I remember my heart melting and I felt like the luckiest woman in the world. A few weeks before that I had attempted suicide and was feeling lower than I could ever have imagined. It was that moment that changed my life around and made me realise that no matter what was going on in my life, I had 2 beautiful little girls who needed me more than anything and adored me regardless of what I looked like. I will always remember that moment even when I feel low again. I honestly would not be here without them and I'm in a much happier place now

2008. On honeymoon, with DS, DH and DD in my tummy. We had a brilliant time in the sun then came back to the bloody recession and our business on its knees, haven't been abroad since or so carefree...*sigh

magimedi Mon 17-Feb-14 11:17:56

When DS got married, last year. Lovely DIL & to see them so happy & setting out together was just wonderful. It felt like the culmination of being a Mum.

MothratheMighty Mon 17-Feb-14 11:22:43

Getting off the train after leaving a truly hated boarding school for the last time, stepping into a golden and beautiful city that I loved at the height of a hot summer and going spontaneously to an all-night Shakespeare marathon instead of going home.
I did phone home to say so.
I have had several perfect moments in my life, and I hold them as talismans against the many bad ones.

Mine was with a coworker, We had been friends for years, but something had changed between us in recent months. We met for a pint after work to talk.

We discussed all the practicalities of why we couldn't be together, my dcs and the fact that I was moving away, the fact he wanted dcs, and I didn't want anymore etc etc: All the things to do with why us being a couple was a bad idea.

So having had this sensible, frank, grown up discussion, we decided that we'd stay friends and not pursue anything more.

We finished our drinks, walked out to the car park (where it was dark and drizzly), and I kissed him goodbye on the cheek, saying I'd see him tomorrow at work.

It was sad. He was gorgeous and lovely and kind. We had so much in common, but it just seemed the odds were stacked against us.

I turned to walk to my car, and as I did he caught my hand, spun me back to him, saying, "I can't just let you walk away" and kissed me.

The rain started pouring down. And there we were, stood in a carpark (without coats) snogging the faces off each other grin

I swear everything slowed down.

Now we're happily married. Have just had a baby together. And could not be happier. He left his job and moved to be with me and the dcs.

That kiss goes down as the most romantic thing that's ever happened to me. A snog in the rain in a carpark after work. Who knew?

Slh122 Mon 17-Feb-14 11:28:58

Lying on my hospital bed on a dimly lit ward, in a silent bay, at about 1 am watching 6 hour old DS sleeping. I kept thinking 'wow, is he really mine?' I just laid there for about an hour and watched him.

TheRaniOfYawn Mon 17-Feb-14 11:31:52

I live this thread, especially because it's made me realise I've had so many perfect moments that is hard to choose.

NearTheWindmill Mon 17-Feb-14 11:31:56

Meeting a divine man at a ball and being swept off my feet a few days later - smoked salmon sandwiches, champagne, listening to the band in a London park and the frisson of excitement as his hand touched mine. That was the first and only time I ever fell in lust.

At another ball meeting DH and knowing he was "the one" and a few years later when he proposed in the rose garden of a London Club.

When dd was born after a quick and easy labour with an apgar score of 9+ pink and screaming. She was our 5th pg and our family was complete with 2 children.

Opening the front door of the house that was our London home for more than 20 years and knowing it would be our home.

Our wedding day I was very very calm and everything was very easy because I had no doubts at all and the sun shone and it was magical. Simple magical not like today's extravaganzas.

walterwhiteswife Mon 17-Feb-14 11:42:47

the day I found out I was pregnant. I was told I wouldn't concieve naturally

MorrisZapp Mon 17-Feb-14 11:46:10

About fifteen years ago I had to travel on a ferry to Rothesay on the Isle of Bute to see a client. The weather and scenery were eye wateringly beautiful and clear. The client was a dear old lady who called me 'Miss Morris'. A local kid chucked her bike down and walked me to the address I needed. A piper played as I got back on the boat. The whole thing was like living in a magical dream, and I got paid for it.

MovingOnUpduffed Mon 17-Feb-14 12:12:28

I have a few, but the best was 2 months after leaving my ea twat of a husband, when I was still pretty devastated. The week before, my best friend of 7 years had confessed that he had been in love with me since we were 17. I was trying to work out what to do with this unexpected turn of events, and we went out to a vintage themed night at our local favourite bar, just as friends.
I was that perfect level of drunk where everything seems possible, looking out over all the people dancing, watching my friend walk back to me with drinks from the bar. He looked up at me and grinned, and I just knew he was my future. It took me a while to tell him this, and to sort out the aftermath of my marriage but I was right. We're getting married this year.

DennyDifferent Mon 17-Feb-14 12:29:40

Last summer, we took our play tipi and a picnic to the park after a lovely uplifting church service. DS playing in the tipi and then running off to play in the park, his first bit of independence. The little boy we were having for respite showing me how to make a tripod out of twigs for the disposable camera we had bought him for his stay. He was over the moon about it and it was a day of warm, sweet breezes, laughter and then a huge water fight and bbq when we got home. That is my perfect summer day. Oooh, thank you for making me think about that on a day like this.

behindthetimes Mon 17-Feb-14 12:31:48

Lying on a large flat rock in a beautiful place with a special person for hours, opening my heart and having it treated in the most gentle way. That day and person changed my life forever, in ways I couldn't have then imagined. I always remember that day as a turning point.

ThreeBecameFour Mon 17-Feb-14 12:32:32

In a camper van in Spain with friends, on the way to Tarifa, Spain. Beach bum days.

A number of moments on a road trip on the Pacific Coast Highway from Francisco to Los Angeles over a few days with the love of my life (Sadly it was not meant to be and we married other people a few years down the line). The tension, the excitement and the amazing scenery, the feeling of utterly falling for someone no holds barred and listening to Saint Germain most of the time. It was a very special time.

Drinks at sunset in Mykonos with my DH.

On a boat trip in St Lucia on honeymoon watching dolphins and whales with my DH. Similarly kayaking in St Lucia and seeing star fish on the bottom of the sea in amazingly clear waters.

A number of moments having good times with good friends.

A number of noisy family meal moments with my family. All crazy people but funny funny times.

The moments my dd and ds were born.

Thinking of all of these makes me smile and feel fuzzy. Thanks OP!

LookingThroughTheFog Mon 17-Feb-14 12:39:33

A couple of weeks back, on a day when the rain had crept back for a few hours, my daughter learned to fly her kite on the top of the south downs.

The absolute job on her face was utterly beautiful.

CPtart Mon 17-Feb-14 12:40:43

Standing alone on a walkway overlooking the Indian Ocean in the Maldives and watching in awe the unbelievable array of sealife swimming peacefully about in crystal clear waters.
I will never get over the magic of those islands.

SirChenjin Mon 17-Feb-14 12:45:10

Lying in my hospital bed, with our gorgeous, unplanned DS2 asleep beside me, just a few hours old, waiting for DH to arrive with DS1, DD (7 and 9 at the time) and my DM who were to meet him for the first time. I remember hearing them coming into the ward, and then the look on their faces when they got to hold him for the first time was just wonderful.

DM died 2 years ago on Saturday and I miss her so much - but that day is one of my happiest memories sad

normalishdude Mon 17-Feb-14 12:47:25

when I first heard one of my own songs played on the radio.

noddyholder Mon 17-Feb-14 12:50:22

When my don got an unconditional offer from a uni where there were 700 apps for 60 places. He is dyspraxic and teachers said he would probably not get there.Horrifically disorganised and on the day of interview train left at 1 and at 12.15 he was in a kodak shop printing out photos. He shoved them in a plastic sainsburys bag and put his hard drive with his short film in his pocket. I kept quiet all the way there but when we arrived and saw all the other interviewees with their work professionally mounted etc I thought thats it he has no chance. Went home and the next day he had an unconditional offer I was just so happy smile

SayCoolNowSayWhip Mon 17-Feb-14 12:51:24

Tobylerone - Congratulations on your DD2! thanks

30seconds, hope you are ok now. It's lovely to hear that only a few weeks after being at the bottom of the pit, you are on the up. Hope it continues.

This is a fabulous thread and as a pp has said, has made me realise how many wonderful moments I've had, and how hard it is to choose the one perfect one.

The most recent one though, similar to another pp, this morning I was sitting on the sofa with 3yo DD snuggled up under one arm, and 11 month DS cuddled on my lap, and we were all still in our pyjamas, just having a cuddle, none of us moving or having to be anywhere, and although I had a hundred things to do, I didn't want to do or be anywhere else but there.

ephemeralfairy Mon 17-Feb-14 12:54:55

The day I got the letter to say I'd got a place on my massively competitive, over-subscribed drama school course. I have never felt prouder.

(I don't have kids BTW)

ephemeralfairy Mon 17-Feb-14 12:58:08

After that, it's riding a horse across the plains of Mongolia as the sun was going down.

Apatite1 Mon 17-Feb-14 12:59:15

Marrying my husband. Who was trying manfully to hold back his tears, but failing miserably. I'm not a cryer, but he sobs even when he's happy!

DontWannaBeObamasElf Mon 17-Feb-14 12:59:32

As soon as our daughter was born I turned to look at my boyfriend. He was sobbing and looked so in love with her. I'll never forget it.

cornishcreamtea Mon 17-Feb-14 13:00:49

Sitting on the side of a grassy hill on Lindisfarne island in Northumberland with my late DH. It was summertime and we sat with his arms around me just looking at the sea glittering and listening to the seagulls above us.

I have been widowed for 10 years now but that moment has stayed in my mind like a snapshot.

Mamafratelli Mon 17-Feb-14 13:02:41

Have had lots of perfect moments but the most recent one that sticks in the mind was a ridiculously hot summers day last year.

We went to the river and had a picnic, both dcs splashed in the river and then we got a big ice cream from the cabin. We did nothing all day and by the time we got home the kids flopped into bed. It was perfect.

Mamafratelli Mon 17-Feb-14 13:03:27

What a lovely memory cornishcreamtea

Mishmashfamily Mon 17-Feb-14 13:03:47

Holding my dd2 in my arms the first time after being told for ten years I could not have children.

Sitting on my dps knee, in Cuba looking out to the sea in a very posh hotel. It was our first holiday together . Looking back at the picture we both
look so beautiful because you can see so much love in our faces. He is my prince after so many poisonous toads!

MrsMarigold Mon 17-Feb-14 13:04:27

When my DS was born, it was a beautiful day - in the morning I was in labour and saw the sun rise and thought at the end of the day I will have a baby. When the sun set, the light was beautifully soft, DS and I were alone in a four bed ward at UCH and it was very quiet, my DH had gone home and so had my MIL and SIL, I looked over at DS and was filled with joy. I've got tears in my eyes just thinking about it. DH got a lump in his throat when he overheard me telling DS about how happy I felt on the day he was born.

shakinstevenslovechild Mon 17-Feb-14 13:07:35

16 years ago, the day my 6 week old ds got out of hospital, finally it was just me and him, no staff, no machines, no glaring lights and hospital smell. I picked him up, without having to ask if I could take him out of his incubator, and without having to scrub my hands, and held him so close to me, he snoozed in my arms as I sang the nursery rhyme I loved as a child to him and he made little cooing noises as he dozed. So very, very perfect.

He died 5 weeks later, I will never have another perfect moment in my life again sad

halfwildlingwoman Mon 17-Feb-14 13:07:55

The morning I woke up in my own bed after bringing DD home from the hospital. DS, then age 3 climbed in for a cuddle and I had both my little ones in my arms and DP downstairs making breakfast and chatting nonsense to the cat. I remember thinking then, I have never been so happy.
Another one was at my first proper gig with my best mate. We were 17 and my dad had dropped us off at the NEC. When our favourite song came on we turned and grinned at each other. We still remember that night, 21 years later.

halfwildlingwoman Mon 17-Feb-14 13:08:57

shakingstevens, god I'm so so sorry for your loss and if I'd seen your post I wouldn't have written mine. I'm so so sorry.

PedantMarina Mon 17-Feb-14 13:09:53

Loads, but one that doesn't involve DP or DS is:

Was leaving Ex and returning to the UK. Had a 8-hour layover in Toronto airport. Although I probably had enough money for an hotel, I just didn't want to for some reason.

I walked into the airport bar and the bartender said "we're closed", and I was about to just fall in a heap and cry, but he said "you can have a drink on the house - I just can't sell you one" with a really sweet smile. He and the one other customer took care of me: getting me and my large bags down to Left Luggage just in time before it closed, then told me which was the quietest part of the airport. And they were right! I wasn't disturbed all night. Slept with my head on my carry-on bag and started my new life fresh in the morning.

Hazelbrowneyes Mon 17-Feb-14 13:10:14

Last July, a warm evening sat out in the garden with DH. We sat snuggled on a chair together, bottle of fizz and just cuddled for hours looking up at the stars. Was truly lovely.

My garden features a lot in my happy memories. One of my favourites from last year was sat out in the sun reading a book, DH was playing on the ipad, one chicken sleeping under my chair, one under DHs and one sleeping in a plant pot next to us. Not a special moment at all but for the first time in a while I felt completely at peace and so unbelievably happy with my lot.

DontWannaBeObamasElf Mon 17-Feb-14 13:10:38

Oh Shakin. What a beautiful memory, I am so sorry.

RealAleandOpenFires Mon 17-Feb-14 13:10:40

Listening to the heartbeat of my son @ the doctors I wished that I had taped it, watching him being born and holding him just a few minutes old.

(Dammit, I think that I've something in my eye after reading this thread)

EmotionalCrotch Mon 17-Feb-14 13:19:55

The first time I held DS there really isn't anything quite like it. I still relish every cuddle I have with him, he'll be 5 soon and I still sniff and kiss his head when I cuddle him.

I always hold fond memories of when I first met DP. Out first night/weekend together was the best time ever. We went camping up on a hill in 1995, it was scorching hot, we had Enigma playing and there were these huge dragonflies darting all over the place. We lay on the grass just talking and getting to know each other. We sat drinking wine into the early hours of the morning. There were loads of stars and shooting stars, it was the best night of my life. Everything was just perfect. I still smile thinking about and my heart swells over how much in love we were. shame after nearly 19 yrs things are bit shite but I will always cherish that night. We tried to recapture it about 7 yr ago but it wasn't the same. That magic wasn't there.

<sits staring into space with a dreamy expression on ones face>

impatienceisavirtue Mon 17-Feb-14 13:24:33

The pure joy on my other DC's face the day their little brother came home from hospital - something that he very nearly never did. The way they threw their arms around him. I swore that day that I would never ever let a single day go by without remembering how lucky we are to still have him in our lives.

Every day with him after that has been a blessing. The thing that was wrong with him is generally fatal, or lifelong. He kicked it in about a year and a half. He totally gets away with blue murder now. I DGAF, as I remember that precious day we got to bring him home.

Absy Mon 17-Feb-14 13:31:07

This is MEGA lame compared to the others, but it was one day at work. I'd just had lunch, and was sat at my desk and felt perfectly happy. It all went to shit the next week, but I had that.

Another was a day I spent with DH and a friend, mucking about. Also, the night of our wedding was awesome - not what I'd imagined but perfect and so happy in a different way.

MrsMarigold Mon 17-Feb-14 13:41:30

shakinstevens, that is beautiful I'm so sorry.

I've become really tearful on this thread.

tiredbutstillsmiling Mon 17-Feb-14 13:43:43

shakin, what an emotional memory but so beautiful.

ThisLittlePiggyStayedHome Mon 17-Feb-14 13:49:04

The first time dd was sick enough to worry me, she was not quite two years old and had been miserable for a couple of days. It was just a cold type thing, with diarreah thrown in for good measure, but it didn't seem to be lifting and she'd been pretty listless that day, had a fever going to bed and I was concerned enough to call the out of hours doctor. She told me to keep an eye on her overnight and bring her to A&E if the fever went past a certain point.

I stayed in dd's bed that night, awake for most of it fretting and checking her temperature, but dozed off at some point before morning. I woke up to the sound of dd laughing, and opened my eyes to see her sitting up in bed with her hair all wet, the fever broken, the bed and me covered in white tissues as dd emptied a box's worth of them, throwing them up in the air one at a time and watching them float/fall back down while she giggled and clapped at each one.

It was a moment of pure gratitude.

MazzleDazzle Mon 17-Feb-14 13:49:45

I was heavily pregnant and it was late spring. It was the first really warm day of the year with not a breath of wind. The weather held such promise. I remember thinking, "God, imagine if we get a summer like this." (We didn't!). Anyway, me and my DD, who was only two, went to my home town and headed to a tiny, sheltered beach to build sandcastles. We were the only ones there. We then dawdled through the village her chubby hand in mine, stopping off for a bag of chips which we ate outside, followed by an ice-cream cone as the sun began to set. It was precious, just me and her and for once, she wasn't winging and complaining and I wasn't in a hurry. As I looked at her little face dripping with ice-cream, I thought, I'll never have this time again, just us. When the baby arrives everything will change. I want to remember this day for ever. And I have!

Tournesol Mon 17-Feb-14 13:50:04

This is such a beautiful thread, it is making me really teary!

I feel blessed to have had many perfect moments but two that spring to mind.

Travelling in my youth with my now DH, we were on Fraser Island in Australia camping. We got up early and went to Eli creek, a cool, clear stream with a strong current. We jumped right in and let the current carry us all the way down the creek, laughing, chatting and marvelling at the beauty.

Last summer in Pembrokeshire, watching my DC playing in the sand on the most perfect little beach, their faces so intent on what they were doing. It just made my heart swell.

ThisLittlePiggyStayedHome Mon 17-Feb-14 13:51:28

shakin I started writing my post ages ago and then had to do some work and just came back to it and posted. I'm so sorry for your loss and didn't mean to be insensitive with my post. x

shakinstevenslovechild Mon 17-Feb-14 13:56:15

Oh I'm so sorry, I really didn't mean to make anyone feel bad.

I am loving reading all the perfect moments on here and I may be getting a little teary at some of them too so please, please don't feel bad for sharing yours.

Thank you everyone flowers

Armi Mon 17-Feb-14 13:57:47

Nearly two years ago when DD was about 8 months old. She and I went to our local NT property one sunny March morning. It was just warm enough to be Spring, the sun was out, there was a warm breeze and I pushed her for ages along paths through seas and seas of daffodils. She looked at me and I looked at her and I thought,'Blimey, I really do love you.'

I'd really struggled to adapt to being a mother (I wonder now if I'd had a touch of PND) and seemed to spend DD's early babyhood in a state of near panic, despair and floods of tears. That day I felt the sun was coming out, literally and metaphorically.

urbanturban Mon 17-Feb-14 14:08:30

Gosh these are so beautiful.......making me quite teary actually (although I am loaded with a cold and a cough and that's probably why I am so over emotional today!)

I've never suggested a thread be moved to Mumsnet Classics, how is it done?! I think this collection of beautiful moments deserves to be kept for posterity......

Thank you all-will have a think and come back and post my own perfect moments! thanks

MrsSippie Mon 17-Feb-14 14:13:30

Ridiculously simple. I was about three months pregnant with dd2 (dc3) and it was my birthday. DH and I had arranged to meet at a pub and then go on for a meal. I cycled to the pub, and as I was locking my bike up, I saw him outside, looking for me. He didn't see me for a minute or two but kept looking up and down the road for me. I just remember thinking 'he loves me, he really loves me'. He saw me and grinned so broadly, it really made me teary. I don't know why that has stuck in my mind for nine years but it just has <snivel>

Dangling my legs over the edge of a junk in Bai Tu Long in Vietnam. It was the end of our honeymoon and there was the most incredible sunset. An eagle was dipping in and out of the water and it was so peaceful and beautiful. Like heaven.

And dancing at my wedding, spinning round watching my dress kick out - I felt a bit of a goon in the morning but at the time I was so full of joy.

Wonderful thread OP, but all these beautiful (some so sad) stories are making my eyes leak... smile

DayZ Mon 17-Feb-14 14:20:07

What a wonderful thread.

I have a few but the most special...

Hearing DD1 heartbeat - 12 weeks pregnant, we were in Cuba and i'd had heavy bleeding, they suspected baby was lost. They saw me quickly but the 10 minutes wait felt like forever and the moment we heard her heartbeat and the doctor said, 'baby is there and happy'. That moment will never leave me.

Night my DH proposed, it was totally unexpected and beautiful. We just stood and watched the sun set, feeling completely in love.

Thank you OP, this has seriously cheered up my Monday!

BeaWheesht Mon 17-Feb-14 14:25:08

I had a horrible pregnancy but when ds was born it was amazing and when we took him home it was Christmas Day and there were fireworks going off everywhere . It was lovely.

Also my wedding day was amazing I just felt so so lucky and in love.

Also whale watching with dh, felt so amazing and surreal to be so close to these huge creatures.

Also when dd was a few months old and I just suddenly felt like she really was mine. I always loved her but when she was born I had a bad time physically and then ended up with PND and felt very guilty that I hadn't been filled with the same elation as I had when ds was born. When she was a few months I just remember looking at her and realising I had just as much of a bond with her as I do with ds and it just made me feel so relieved and happy.

BeaWheesht Mon 17-Feb-14 14:27:28

Oh and when very pregnant with dd the midwife couldn't find her heartbeat and was calling for a doctor and scanner when I asked to try because I could feel how she was lying and there it was like a thousand horses clip clopping along.

HesterShaw Mon 17-Feb-14 14:32:24

Ah those moments of ecstasy which are so common in teenage and early 20s years and become fewer in number but more precious as we get older.

I was with a man I absolutely adored and a couple of good friends in the sea in West Wales in 1997. I was 22. We were fooling around on a couple of surfboards and I looked around and the people I was with, the sea, the cliffs and the hills, suddenly acutely aware that I needed to savour every nanosecond, because this time would never come again. That was my most memorable one.

I had one a few weeks ago. Clear, sunny winter's day, I was in the kitchen making breakfast for me and the girls (4 and 1), they were in the living room.

I was just going through the normal weekday morning checklist when I heard them laughing. I've no idea what they were doing to make each other laugh, but first one would laugh, then there was a pause, then the other started.

It was just beautiful.

Greatnorthrunner Mon 17-Feb-14 14:32:26

When dc2 started school it was a lovely warm week.
I walked with dc3 in the sling to pick up dc1 & 2 from school. (We normally went in the car)
We walked home along a path i walked many times as a child. Dc3 was big enough to walk part of the way home. The sun was glistening through the trees, birds were singing and the children were walking and chatting happily to each other.
I felt very blessed (& still do)

HesterShaw Mon 17-Feb-14 14:35:28

Shakinstevens I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby x

MorrisZapp Mon 17-Feb-14 14:43:30

So true Hester.

When I was 15, my boyfriend was away on holiday with his family. One evening it was warm and wet, post summer rain kind of atmosphere. I was at work in the local cafe. When I came out, I heard my name and turned round. There he was. I can still feel my knees giving way, and touch and smell him.

Oh to be there again, where every sensation is so magnified. I'm happy in middle age, and love my boring life. But... Omg.

Dingleinthevillage Mon 17-Feb-14 14:46:21

Standing in a little courtyard garden in Sri Lanka (OK I smoked then and was having a quick one) when all these little fireflys started flying around me! It was like being in a Disney film!!

Got a bit obssesive about fireflys for the rest of the holiday...until I thought I saw one down by the beach but after creeping up on it in silence discovered it was the cigarette end being held by a very big, and shocked, security guard holding a fucking great gun! We both did that scream like in E.T but luckily he didn't fire.

A couple of years ago it was my birthday. My children were off school as it was the Easter holidays and DH had taken the day off work. After lunch at home we decided to go out for the afternoon.

We went to a local country park and started walking. The DCs ran on ahead and my DDs (teens) were looking for log pile houses and playing Gruffalo with their little brother who must have been about 4. DH and I were strolling behind them, holding hands, much to the disgust of our DDs grin

After our walk we went into the cafe and drank tea and ate cake. It was smashing.

MySweetPrince Mon 17-Feb-14 15:05:42

In the early 80's..with my boyfriend....came out of a gig at our local venue on the coast and it was one of those perfect, clear calm nights. Sat on a bench looking over the sea towards the French coast with a full moon reflected in the shimmering waters of the channel and I remember some coloured lights above us gently moving in the breeze. I thought then - I want to capture this moment and remember it - we were cuddled together on the bench, not speaking, it was one of those times where we felt so comfortable and at peace in each others company. BF is now DH of nearly 30 years.

poopadoop Mon 17-Feb-14 15:08:02

One of mine was sitting on a sofa with my then 20 mo ds, feeding him orange segments, shafts of sun coming through the window. He said 'thank oo mama' and gave a little giggle after each segment. Not sure why it made me feel so happy other than he had spoken no words at all before that, and it just felt like he was starting to be part of the world.

EddieReadersglasses Mon 17-Feb-14 15:20:36

My wedding day was pretty amazing, nothing fazed me it was perfect although probably lots of things that didn't matter went wrong

The birth of each of my Dcs. Ds1 of course as it was the moment I became a mum and my life changed forever.
Ds2 because he looked at me with those big dark eyes and I fell in love. Ds3 because it was the most perfect labour and I thought at the time my last
Finally the birth of dd. I fully expected to have another boy so when mw held her up and I said it's a girl I'd never been so shocked and delighted in my life. I spent the next hour on a high telling her all about equality and being strong and independent blush while dh looked on bemused. Then we took her home to meet her big brothers and they each fell in love with her and melted my heart. I've never felt so lucky and happy in my life and I couldn't ask for any more than my 3 amazing boys and one amazing girl grin

Kasterborous Mon 17-Feb-14 15:24:59

Hearing my DD do her first cry just after she came out of my c-section. I heard her before I saw her. After five years and six miscarriages I couldn't take the grin off my face grin grin grin

ErmICantThinkOfAName Mon 17-Feb-14 15:28:56

Hiding under Bournemouth Pier on a boiling hot day with the man I loved so dearly at the time. He was laid down on the sand and I was laid with my head on his stomach whilst he played with my hair. We had just decided that we couldn't see each other any more but neither of us were quite ready to break the spell and go home.

A few minutes later we got up and silently got a taxi back to the station. We went through the barrier together then stood at opposite ends of the platform and got into different train carriages. I have never seen him since but I will always remember that perfect moment that marked the end of our 11 week, 3 days and 4.5 hours long affair. It was the perfect summer...

When my grandmother was dying I would stay over at the weekends to look after her. I climbed into her huge double bed in the morning. We held hands and had eye contact for ages that said she knew I loved her and I knew she loved me and that only we understood how much and how close we are / were.

I love this thread too, because it's reminded me I need to start living more rather than holing myself up. Bit numb at the moment.

CheerfulYank Mon 17-Feb-14 15:41:27

I'm so glad I started this thread, and so glad people are enjoying it! These are so lovely they've given me chills. I think it's beautiful to have moments like these to hold onto.

Shaken flowers, thank you for sharing your memory of your DS.

Another of mine...13 or 14, in the dead of winter. My dad had made a fire in the wood stove and I was sitting by it, reading James Herriot, with wool socks on my feet, and Dad brought me a cup of hot sugary tea that tasted like oranges and spice. I just felt so warm and cared for.

Also the moment my pnd with DS started to pass. He was 4 months old and I was rocking him to sleep when I realized I loved him down the depths of my being. I sang that song that goes "button up your overcoat/when the wind is free/take good care of yourself, you belong to me" to him for a bit, shakily, and then he went to sleep in my arms and I cried and cried with relief.

CheerfulYank Mon 17-Feb-14 15:43:37

Oh Sauce that is beautiful. My grandmother died on Christmas eve this year and I hadn't seen her in over a year. sad

Devilforasideboard Mon 17-Feb-14 15:48:10

Seeing DS's tiny wee heart beating away on the monitor at our 7 week scan after nearly 4 years ttc.

Holding same DS skin to skin and watching the sun rise on his first full day in the world.

Every day as he has his evening bottle snuggled up on me and I look down on his utterly perfect baby face.

overitalready Mon 17-Feb-14 15:50:44

When i left my arsehole ex. Me & my dd were in the car & she looked up at me with tears in her eyes & stated 'we can do what we want now mummy, i love you' Made me realise i had done the right thing 100%.

When i knew that no-one else was going to love me like my now oh. I realised this moment when we were laying on Bognor beach throwing stones into the air on a boiling hot day.

When he confirmed this on xmas day 2 years ago. I was crying because i thought he didnt like his present, went into the garden to calm down & stop the tears. Come back inside into the living room & he was on two hes to old for 1 knee knees with an engagment ring & dd sat beside him shouting 'well mum?' I said yes grin

When i later asked dd if she was happy with me being engaged & she said 'only because i was engaged to Mr Overit to be of course

I love them.

Just thinking of the moments after DS (DC2) was born. It was also amazing when DD was born in the pool and lifted up onto my tummy for a few moments in the water. But then she was given to DH to hold whilst I got out and she cried for a bit before I could get her back and settle her at the breast (after being weighed as well, which she wasn't happy about at all)
So, understandably, I wasn't quite so confident in how to settle DD straight away as she was my first and there's a lot to take in.
But with DS (DC2) I was an experienced and confident tiger mother and put in my birth plan that he could only be weighed after I'd given him a good cuddle and he was more settled. So I got him straight up and onto the boob and both he and I were wonderfully happy and content smile
- sharing a lovely, peaceful hour or so with no disturbances, before perhaps I went for a shower and we slowly got ready to go home thanks

Absy Mon 17-Feb-14 16:10:09

I've thought of another one. Last year we went to Japan to Kyoto. We'd taken the shinkanzen in the morning, and arrived early afternoon so went out for a walk to view some of the temples before it got too late. We were walking around one near our hotel, and it started raining like crazy. Given it was all outdoors, we could hardly stay so we jumped into a taxi and I picked another temple off the list nearby, and asked the driver to take us there. He took us up the hill to this road with lots of traditional style houses and cobbled streets, and told us we had to walk the rest of the way. We arrived at kiyomizu dera which sits in a forest at the top of the hill. It was just amazing - the rain softened, there was a mist over the hill and it was so quiet. It also smelled amazing - of incense and rain. We just walked around stunned for about half an hour. It was the best.

Not so much a perfect moment, but the last time I felt perfect peace: The morning of my sons' funeral, my youngest son, my partner and I were stood with him in his coffin, just the four of us for one last time at home and together.
All our friends and family were outside waiting for us and you could honestly feel the love and support.
That was perfect peace and calm, I won't ever feel that again.

Absy Mon 17-Feb-14 16:20:13
RighteousSausage Mon 17-Feb-14 16:21:06

This will sound silly but about a year ago I had a very vivid bad dream, in which I made the decision to leave my then fiance for another man. I will always remember his face in the dream, looking me in the eye and saying "goodbye nickname ". When I woke up he was at work and I spent the whole day feeling sad. We had a huge hug as soon as he got home and I told him about it, he made me feel better. The dream kept coming back to me though and upsetting me every time.

A few months later we got married. The sun was shining, the sky was clear and there was a warm breeze. As I walked down the aisle on my dad's arm to meet him I could see the emotion on his face. As I joined him he smiled, looked me in the eye and said "hello nickname " and everything was perfect.

I've not had the dream since.

PoirotsMoustache Mon 17-Feb-14 16:21:59

The day my DS first smiled at me. He was just on 6 weeks old, I was sitting up on the bed with him on my knees, and I was chatting and singing to him and he just looked up at me and gave me the most beautiful smile.

A few months after DP and I got together, he was round mine for the evening. After dinner and putting my DS to bed, we sat on the sofa and listened to his favourite music, with my head resting on his chest and his arm around me. It was pure bliss, and I knew then that he was the man I wanted to marry.

Hugs to you (((( mumof2teenboys ))))
Hope you can still feel that love and support from all around you.
Perhaps one day you might find such peace again, in some future moment thanks

HomeIsWhereTheGinIs Mon 17-Feb-14 16:42:30

I love this thread. What a lovely idea.

Mine was with DH back when he was DP. We went away for the first time together to a cottage on the coast for the weekend. One night we made mulled wine and bundled up (it was cold) and sat outside at the picnic table in the garden drinking the wine and talking. We saw a shooting star and I knew that I'd never been happier and that this was the only man I would ever love. A close second is the speech he gave at our wedding. He's usually very reserved but when he told me that he loved every minute with me and thinks that any time spent apart is time wasted, my heart swelled. Being in that room full of people that we love, with the man of my dreams in front of me, was amazing. I wish my mother could have seen it, it's the only thing that could have made it better.

I had some wonderful moments as a late teen but the moment this thread made me think of was a few years ago where I was just sitting outside our then house with a toddler ds3 playing nearby and the other three pottering around happily doing their own things. The sun was shining and em lived in the middle of nowhere and I was talking about how it wasn't really silent.
I wrote a blog post about it at the time as it was just so perfect.
I finished it with the line... "These must be the whispers of the Gods"
From the lines. Let us be silent, that we may hear the whispers of the gods- Ralph Waldo Emerson

ScarletRedRose Mon 17-Feb-14 16:46:32

thanks for Shakin and mumof2teenboys

Mine was in the wee small hours, 2 days after DS2 had been born. DS1 was very poorly after he was born and subsequently died aged 3, so throughout the pregnancy I'd been very nervous (slight understatement!) and the hospital had been over cautious and whipped DS2 up to Special Care.
He'd been up there for the 2 days being observed and although there was nothing really wrong with him they were reluctant to let me take him home on day 3 when I was being discharged.
I got called up to Special Care around 11.30 that night and was told the doctors had just finished their round and that not only could I take my beautiful, precious second son home the following day but he could come downstairs and be with me on the ward.
I didn't sleep a wink. I held him in my arms whilst smelling his sweet, downy little head watching the night turn in to day giving silent thanks to his big brother for sending him to me.
Tears in my eyes as I think of it.

Ohwhatfuckeryisthis Mon 17-Feb-14 16:57:10

One with kids (of many) one without.
Perfect late spring day, dtwins were about 4 weeks old. Ds was almost 2. Under trees in local park, twin 2 asleep on my tummy, twin 1 watching the light through leaves. Ds1 collected bunch of buttercups and held them under babies' chins to check if they liked butter. grin
Without. After a few bumpy years, dh and went to Barcelona for my big birthday. Sitting at beach bar in afternoon sun, giggling at two blokes posing in white budgie smugglers, dh held my hand and said he loved me more than he ever did.
Excuse, me something in my eye.

Allegrogirl Mon 17-Feb-14 17:30:01

Driving through a pass in the Atlas Mountains withe the desert ahead of us in our Saab soft top. We'd nearly split up after many years together as DH was scared to have children. After 5 months apart he got his head together and it was out last adventure before TTC.

More recently helping DD1 with her lego and DD2 with a jigsaw at the same time without me shouting or DD2 pinching pinching her sister's lego and thinking 'I'm actually a pretty good mum'.

Elderberri Mon 17-Feb-14 17:48:39

With quivering heart, I reached inside the brown paper bag and withdrew the soft white loaf. With a passionate urgency I sliced through the soft virgin body, two perfect slices. I trembled as I reached for le creuset butter dish, inside the rich texture of organic butter, with unrivalled joy I spread it thickly. Now the ultimate moment of indulgence, very god from heaven, A packet of walkers salt and vinegar crisps. I adorned that golden butter coated bread with a shower of sharp and tangy crisps. As those two pieces of bread came together with the crisps in between the crunch that I heard was exquisite.

With fevered anticipation I raised that sandwich to my mouth, and bit down into, that soft creamy butter laden bread, tantalised with salt and vinegar crisps, my mind exploded with the myriad of stars, perfection.

NoStalker Mon 17-Feb-14 17:59:15

I've been lucky enough to have many, but one springs to mind.

I'd been very depressed, tried to kill myself and we were still going through the aftermath of it all, when me and DH went for a midnight walk outside one night. It was November, I think. We were talking about silly little things, just trying to get used to being together without that enormous worry and guilt again. We walked out of town, to where the streetlights disappeared, and walked along a country lane in the middle of fields, quietly. It was a misty, foggy night, but the moon was bright. The layers of mist looked like a lake of silver in the dark, and the whole world was utterly beautiful and fragile, and I was with the person I love, and I knew I wanted to live.


ToffeeOwnsTheSausage Mon 17-Feb-14 18:04:46

BertieBotts flowerscakewinebrew. Not having such a great time atm either so thought a shared cake and an ear if you want it was in order.

Pickles79 Mon 17-Feb-14 18:07:28

What a lovely thread

Mine is when my friend, who I'd been madly in love with for four years, came back from working abroad and told me he loved me and I was his soulmate. He's an intensely private person but held my hand and said this in a pub surrounded by mutual friends. We walked back to mine holding hands and kissing... I have never experienced a feeling like it.

(Didn't end well - he got cold feet at the age difference, broke my heart and I moved 200 miles away. Still see him a couple of times a year and whilst I'm certainly not hanging around waiting for him, I do think we will probably come back together later in life.)

CheerfulYank Mon 17-Feb-14 18:15:44

Oh NoStalker. That's lovely.

Well I do love salt and vinegar crisps, Elder smile

Purpleknickers Mon 17-Feb-14 18:32:13

Having lived in the shadow of silent disapproval for years and coming home to discover my now XH had flitted whilst I was at work and right in the midst of DS's GCSE's I was afraid to tell my DS the truth about his fathers absence in case it devastated him.
when I finally did 3 days later his first questions were are you ok mum? Followed by does this mean we can finally get another cat? I knew then that we were going to be ok ... And we are smile

DrankSangriaInThePark Mon 17-Feb-14 18:35:54

Lovely thread, and huge thanks to those who are sharing their most special intimate moments of loss. flowers

KickassCoalition Mon 17-Feb-14 18:54:20

I think I was 16 and I will remember this until I die.

Running through the Nottingham Square in the rain with the beautiful boy who sat next to me in orchestra.

We were late back from break and it was dark and raining. I seem to remember there being no-one else there and he swung me round by the hand, caught me up against him and kissed me.

We were both soaked and I remember the rain running down my face as he kissed the life out of me right in the middle of the square.

I remember everything as clear as a bell- the light on the wet slabs, the coolness of the air and just that very moment being absolutely, completely perfect.

I'm glad I got that moment because everything got really fucked up after that and I'm pretty much still recovering from it 20 years later.

I don't know where he is now but I hope he is ok. He was so lovely.

fishtankbrain Mon 17-Feb-14 19:03:31

Back story: moved with DH from London to a beautiful but pretty rural backwater where we knew nobody 8 years ago. Friends and family thought we were a bit bonkers. Had DS1 and DS2, had some tough times in our relationship, but persevered and came through. Made, after a bit of time, lots of really good local friends. Lost weight, got very into a sport with some new friends.

The moment is the day before our 10th wedding anniversary. Parents due to arrive the next day so that we could go away for the night. Feeling fitter than I had for years. DH rings at 3.00pm to tell me that he's got the new job he's been interviewing for and that he can have a month off at home before starting. 3.45pm - go to DS1's parents' evening at our lovely local school and get told he's "amazing" and doing incredibly well at everything. Walk out of school being wished "happy anniversary and enjoy your weekend" by my new friends. Perfect Autumnal afternoon bathed in warm sunlight and everything looked beautiful. As I walked back to the car, I just thought "we won, didn't we?" - all the hard work of the previous years had paid off and here we were in a life which we had made for ourselves and which we loved, surrounded by people who cared about us and whose company we enjoyed.

WhatWillSantaBring Mon 17-Feb-14 19:38:00

Boxing Day a few years ago, we got taken out on a mates boat to dive one of the best dive sites in the world. It was a glass out (I.e. Mirror calm seas) and on my way back to the boat, I saw a bull shark sitting watching me- my first shark in over 300 dives.

The moment DD learnt to talk... It was a real lightbulb moment and I saw the bulb flash in her head as she said "rabbit".

Sitting drinking beers on the beach on my first night on a tropical island. I loved it there so much I stayed three years. grin

Blueberrymuffint0p Mon 17-Feb-14 19:38:18

Mine was 3 years ago. We were on holiday in West Wales, it was an indian summer and we were on a beautiful secluded beach. The sun was setting but it was still warm. I was sitting up on a sand dune watching dh and my ds who was 18months at the time running away from the waves.

I've had many many years of ill health, times when I've thought I'd never have a family or lead a 'normal'life
We could only have one child but in that moment I watched my husband and son and just felt complete (very corney I know!) but I felt healthy and content and just thought wow after everything I've been through I've managed to end up here and I felt so lucky. What ever life throws at me in the future I've had that feeling and I'll always remember being on that beach.

NoStalker Mon 17-Feb-14 19:47:02

I think it's curious and wonderful how so many of these stories of perfect moments are tinged with such sadness.

BigPawsBrown Mon 17-Feb-14 19:49:25

First date with my DP, who I'd been lusting after all year long (we met at law school). It was June 4th and we went to a park on a perfect summer's day and watched all the Canada Geese on the river.

The day I got my job as a lawyer (and it meant my law school fees would be paid). I tipped my head back in the bus stop and felt the August rain on my face.

The day the first literary agent I submitted to wrote back and asked for the full manuscript. I was giddy.

The night my DP and I got together. We were 18, met at University living in the same halls of residence. We had been friends ever since we started uni 4 months before, but I had stayed with my BF from home.

I split up with him, and went on a night out with my DP-to-be. As we sat surrounded by friends in the grotty bar downstairs in our college building, I smiled at him and he smiled back. His face lit up- he had held a candle for me since we met and hoped something would eventually happen. We went upstairs and spent the whole night talking, laughing, listening to our favourite songs and making love. It was magical.

The other one was the day after getting the court verdict on the man who sexually abused me when I was a young teenager (he was sent to prison for a number of years). I slept for 15 hours, and then went for a walk on my own through the university town I lived in. It was a beautiful spring day and it just felt like the beginning of a new life.

Rubybrazilianwax Mon 17-Feb-14 20:10:42

I have a terrible memory so most of the ones that come to mind are recent.
Dh had our 5dc out for a walk a few Saturdays ago. The house was so quiet, which it rarely is. I had soup on the hob. Then they all come in through the back door, the noise unreal. Wellies kicked off and absolutely freezing. Just watching them all sitting round with bowls of soup, no one complaining it was one they didn't like. Just all of them healthy and happy made me think I am one of the luckiest people on earth.
Also some perfect , now hazy memories of a starry night on a lanai in Maui with then boyfriend (now Dh)

Clawdy Mon 17-Feb-14 20:48:14

Sitting on a beach in Skerries one summer night many years ago,looking out to sea while the boy I was with sang "She Moved Through The Fair" beautifully. Never saw him again after that week,but will never forget that.

Sillylass79 Mon 17-Feb-14 20:50:55

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

WaitingForMe Mon 17-Feb-14 21:08:34

When I told DSS1 I was pregnant. I was so scared as he's a funny kid with several issues. This slow smile spread across his face as though it was the best thing in the world. I will never forget that smile, it's imprinted deeper than DS's first smile.

"All so fleeting, all so perfect" That's so true Sillylass

Sounds like you all have lots of fun smile

sassytheFIRST Mon 17-Feb-14 21:13:59

Watching my kids watching a show at Seaworld. Their faces and bodies told how spellbound they were.

Eating at a tiny Greek taverna, late evening with my husband, then walking barefoot along the sand.

HesterShaw Mon 17-Feb-14 21:17:52

sassy next time take them to see dolphins and orcas in the wild rather than in a torture chamber.

They, you and the dolphins will have an even better time.

The dolphins off Cromarty Point in Scotland (east coast) are amazing and come in so close to the shore

LePetitPont Mon 17-Feb-14 21:33:22

Such a gorgeous thread thanks Definitely something in my eye frm reading through damn those pregnancy hormones

Mine is on our wedding day - walking up the aisle with my mum and dad, seeing all our friends beaming at me, sunshine streaming through the stained glass window.... and seeing my gorgeous husband to be, beaming at each other then clinging on to each other for dear life as he whispered to me: "you look beautiful". Le sigh.

sassytheFIRST Mon 17-Feb-14 21:34:06

Hester, thanks for that. The show in question was sea lions. And they were most spellbound by the warmup act - a man dancing.
But you just keep on judging...

BotBotticelli Mon 17-Feb-14 21:34:42

Having the most perfect meal with DP (now DH) outside a small taverna on a back street on a lesser-explored Greek Island. The sun was setting, a large Greek family were sat at the table next to us with kids of all ages playing and dancing between the tables, the food was simple but delicious, my skin smelled of sunscreen and my DP's face was all freckly.

More recently, putting some classical music on our iPod Dock when ds1 was about 4mo...he was such an unsettled unhappy little soul as a newborn, crying all the time, and when he heard Canon in D start up he stopped crying, looked at the iPod in shock and then smiled with this look of absolute wonder on his face and I remember thinking, well, yes, that would be how your face would look the first time you heard beautiful music smile

Weegiemum Mon 17-Feb-14 21:38:13

I think my perfect moment was the evening we got engaged (21 years ago).

Dh took me to the bench we always sat on, in the park we went to (The Meadows in Edinburgh) and asked me to marry him (and you have to know we're both Christians) "in the presence of God and all the angels around us".

Wedding was beautiful, the days my 3 children were born were unforgettable, but that was my supreme moment.

HesterShaw Mon 17-Feb-14 21:45:06

Doesn't matter what animals they are. And yes I do judge Seaworld, harshly, like many others in the world do. I'm not going to apologise for speaking out about it.

But I really don't want to derail a lovely thread.

yummytummy Mon 17-Feb-14 21:46:25

You are all so so lucky. Thankyou for sharing. But I dont think my life has had a perfect moment so far

joanofarchitrave Mon 17-Feb-14 21:54:02

Thank you everyone for this thread flowers

I've posted about this before. The week after I left my first husband and went to stay with a relative, I went on my own to a second-hand market in the city. I got up early, had fruit for breakfast, bought a newspaper and read it in silence on the train to the market. I spent the whole morning and a chunk of the afternoon pottering round the market. I bought a couple of tops, a book or two and a set of table mats, all of which I still love 14 years later. I did all this without a moment's stress, without having to plead or bargain for time without an immediate end in view, without having to eat or drink anything I didn't want to, without having to talk about stuff I didn't care about, without arguing or a burning knot in my stomach from not arguing, without anyone resenting me for reading. I cannot describe adequately the sense of holy peace and happiness I felt that day.

BotBotticelli Mon 17-Feb-14 21:54:49

Oh and I just remembered: singing 'silent night' quietly into ds1's ear as I paced up and down the post natal ward with him at 3am when he was 12 hours old. It was 2 weeks before Xmas and snow was falling outside.

I have a few but one that I will always remember was the first time I held my twins together. They were born at 34 weeks and were in the NICU for 2 weeks. It was day 5 when I got to hold them together and it was a perfect moment. I remember the way they smelt, how soft the tops of their heads were and how wonderful it felt to hold one in each arm. I put my face between their heads while they slept on my chest and I could feel their tiny faces on each of my cheeks.

One of my favourite things is cuddling them together now.

JumpJockey Mon 17-Feb-14 22:04:52

Pre-kids, would be when DH and I were performing in a concert with 6 very good friends (several of whom went on to be godparents for the dds) singing one of the loveliest pieces of music I know (alas the only recording on youtube is us [!] so would completely out myself), we did a great performance and all the 8 members of the choir were really well in touch with each other, lots of smiling at each other as we nailed some tricky passages. And just as we finished the final alleluia, a clock in the room chimed the hour telling us we'd timed the performance to perfection. A small thing, but so satisfying!

Post-kids, one evening last summer staying at a friend's house in France, glass of wine in hand, chatting away with very dear friends we only see once a year. Friends who owned the house came out with a hosepipe to do the flowers, and pretended not to realise she was spraying the dds who ran about laughing hysterically. Just one of those lovely summer moments.

LondonInHighHeeledBoots Mon 17-Feb-14 22:13:08

Sitting round a bonfire in my friend's garden the first night of 2nd year of uni, drinking cheap rum while one of my friends played guitar and sang. We were young and stupid and knew it all, and were all just so free.

When DH and I got together, I was at a party at his house and had popped outside for a smoke, came back and he was waiting for me in the kitchen alone. I gave him a 'friendly' hug, looked up at him and thought 'fuck it' and kissed him. Waking up with him the next morning was wonderful (its not got old 5 years later!)

Walking up the aisle to him was the most surreal experience of my life, and a real 'moment'.

ShabbyChic8 Mon 17-Feb-14 22:19:38

Loving this thread. I have a few.

I was 21 and on holiday in Greece, we had taken a boat trip to a small island and we dived into the water and swam to shore. I sat in the shallows running my hands through the stones and with every handful I drew up there were these tiny and perfectly formed shells! loads of them! They were so beautiful, I kept a tiny shell in my purse for years after, until the purse got stolen.

Also our last holiday before DC was born, I was lying in a hammock at the top of the communal lodge in the Amazon jungle in Peru. I was sipping a Pepsi Max from a glass bottle (tastes better somehow) and watching a fruit bat fly round and round and up and down the stairwell. It was warm, there was a gentle hubbub from downstairs and I was a million miles from any form of responsibility. It just felt perfect in every way.

redrubyindigo Mon 17-Feb-14 22:24:15

Ooooh God, yes, yes, yes, yes!!!!

Sorry? What did you ask?

DalmationDots Mon 17-Feb-14 22:25:38

Lovely thread
For me what sticks out is being aged 18/University age...
meeting my first serious boyfriend aged 18, the innocent kissing to our hearts contents blush
aged 18 at uni, having broken up with said first boyfriend due to the distance...I then met a wonderful boy who, while it was not meant to be anything more (and we found that out the hard way) we had some wonderful, long and deep conversations late into the night in my university halls room.
Last day of university, aged 21, when we went to the big landmark and watched the view before releasing helium balloons. And just generally university living in some incredible old halls, being in such a beautiful city, walking past amazing architecture everyday and the feeling of the world being at your fingertips (and it wasn't even oxbridge).

Then there are all the children ones but I could go on for days....

Sat outside a beach cafe on the island of Aitutaki eating breakfast when the owner came out and said he'd had a booking but they had cancelled, did we fancy a free trip around the lagoon on his catamaran? Of course we did, so had the most amazing day exploring the uninhabited islands, eating coconut fresh from the shell and then to top it off I was lying with my hand trailing in the water when this massive turtle swam right under the cat and brushed against my hand. Best day ever.

YoHoHoandabottleofWine Mon 17-Feb-14 22:39:11

DS2 was born at the end of a month-long dry spell. I was sitting in a hospital bed next to the window with my warm and snuggly baby. It was late afternoon or early evening and raining and all the birds were singing with joy. The air smelt of that smell you get when it rains for the first time in ages.

DS1's birth was long and awful, DS2's was a joy. I was on a high that he had arrived safely, and the birth had been amazing, my family was complete and I never had to do that again!

ChrisMooseAlbanians Mon 17-Feb-14 22:50:29

The night I first slept with stbDH. It was funny and sweet and gentle and wonderful and I knew he was the one for me even then.

I can't really remember much after DD was born as I was so ill but the night we were all allowed home together was so lovely. My mum had been in and cleaned the entire house and my family had left me a table full of sunflowers and presents and cards. DR sent me to bed to get some sleep not long after we got in but it was so perfect.

LosingItSlowly Mon 17-Feb-14 22:58:40

Almost dying and seeing God.

I'm actually an agnostic, but hallucination or not, it was one of the most beautiful and profound moments of my life. The feeling of absolute awe is one I'll never forget.

riverboat Mon 17-Feb-14 22:59:02

Going backwards in time...

DP asking me to live with him, on my birthday on a v romantic bridge with city lights of Paris all around

Being in the kitchen with my best friend and housemate, singing to Cher while we cooked dinner and drank wine

Eating dinner in Indian restaurant with my parents who I hadn't seen in a few months, getting tipsy and catching up.

Funny that the first one is something special and out of the ordinary and the others are fairly everyday moments that just stick in my head bad being really happy.

Tommetipsy Mon 17-Feb-14 23:35:04

Last summer I took my girls camping and we all woke really early and went for a walk in the forest. It was so quiet and still. We saw deer and a fox and it was a bit misty and we ate blackberries for breakfast. Walking back to the campsite I could really feel their little hands in mine and I will always remember that feeling.

Another is seeing my gran for the very last time. She was very ill in hospital and we were leaving the ward and I was last out and I turned back and we smiled at each other and it felt like she was saying off you go girl and live life to the full.

Another one is when my best friend was back home (lives overseas now) and we all ended up eating pizza and drinking beer in my garden letting the kids stay up late and just all being together and feeling so happy.

scotswayhay Mon 17-Feb-14 23:43:50

Orkney Islands, sitting on a little stone bench tucked out of the wind with my own little spot of sunshine watching the wind make patterns on the fields of long grass. Perfect.

Thisvehicleisreversing Tue 18-Feb-14 00:24:10

Just 2 weeks into our relationship DH took me to Scotland because he knew it was somewhere I wanted to go. It was August bank holiday 2000.

We'd left at 5 in the morning to make the most of our time there. As we arrived in the beautiful town of Inverary and parked the car by the loch side, the sun was shining and I could hear bagpipes playing in the distance. It was perfect and I was so overwhelmed that a man could do this for me just because of an off the cuff remark.

That weekend was full of lovely moments. Carving our initials into the bridge on the grounds of Inverary castle, eating the best steak in a cosy corner of a restaurant, and deciding that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together.

WallyBantersJunkBox Tue 18-Feb-14 01:41:30

I was made redundant 5 years ago in May, DS was 4 and my DH was away with the MOD for 3 months.

On a spur of the moment I booked a trip to the Maldives for DS and me. Three weeks away. Just the two of us.

On one of the last nights we wandered down to the beach and DS sat between my knees with a torch. We sat in the breeze watching a Hermit crab dig his little sand home for ages. DS holding the torch on the crab and giggling every time he emerged to fling a bit of sand.

I just remember feeling so free of stress after a hideous few months, blissfully happy, burying my nose into his soft (slightly unruly) golden hair, listening to him chatter away about the crab under the stars with the water breaking on the pure white sand and no one else around.

Perfect evening.

dodi1978 Tue 18-Feb-14 08:25:13

Two such moments in one night:
- seeing DH cuddle and talk to DS just after he was born, while I was still delivering placentas and being stiched up.
- staring at his tiny plastic cot a couple of hours later, in the early hours of the morning, in the antenatal ward after everybody, including DH had gone

BigBoPeep Tue 18-Feb-14 08:37:49

This thread's making me well up!

I have lots, but most of the biggies feature husband and daughter which makes me realise how he's made my life 'come alive' so to speak?

Most of my honeymoon was absolutely perfect, one big perfect moment! The daughter-looking-into-the-eyes-while-breastfeeding thing was very special too!

everythinghippie29 Tue 18-Feb-14 09:25:26

Oh this thread is just beautiful. I'm sat here, cheeks covered in happy tears.

So many lovely, touching experiences here.

Its made me think of so many great times in my life.

Heady, ridiculous teenage love.

The last summer of university, roadtripping to Wales with my best friends, just an amazing time that also felt so bittersweet as I knew real life was around the corner.

My time sleeping in a travellers stage in Nimbin, seeing a platypus in the wild and waking up to wallabies, wild turkeys and that beautiful cool air that preempted another beautiful clear day, evenings spent in my back garden with a cold beer watching the rainbow lorikeets whilst I lived in Australia.

When they placed my son on my chest after a horrible pregnancy I remember feeling in absolute awe that he was here, like I couldn't quite believe that we had done it it was just an emotion I had never felt before.

When I was 14, taking my horse up on to a hill top, all alone. irresponsibly taking my riding helmet off and throwing it on the ground, and galloping him across the hill with the wind in my hair. The sun was just beginning to set and the sky was on fire.


(See I do like horses)

So many with the dcs I can't even begin.

Contemplates Tue 18-Feb-14 10:56:05

On holiday with my closest friend, feeling so hopeless and low because the career I had always dreamt of and worked so hard for, was turning sour (a group of bitches had decided to single me out for their special treatment, and it was bringing back too many memories of the school bully).

It was March and the day after we arrived it snowed heavily. We walked in among the beautiful backdrop of mountains, through a stream and small woodland.

Being keen on photography we were snapping the most incredible views - everywhere you looked there was sparkling ice, soft mounds of snow on pebbles in the water, broken gates looking perfect against the thick grey sky and peachy sunset, it was just magical.

And then suddenly we saw the fattest robin chirping loudly at us in the nearby branches. The little fella hoped from branch to branch, following us all the way through the woods until we came to a big lake. About halfway we stopped and offered him a biscuit which he took from our hands. We still have the photos of a chubby little robin sitting on our hat/shoulder/hand. It was like being in another world and for that moment in time nothing mattered. I felt untouchable.

Contemplates Tue 18-Feb-14 10:58:18

By the way I went home and tackled the bullies formally, which made them run for the hills, and thankfully my work life settled down again about a year later.

vladthedisorganised Tue 18-Feb-14 11:11:18

Three spring to mind.
One was at a festival: my favourite band were playing, the sun was shining, and my boyfriend (now H) and best friends were all moshing like insane people teenagers. It was an 'all's right with the world' feeling.

Another happened when I was travelling with DH - we stopped at a fairly remote location and climbed to the top of a hill that overlooked a tiny village in a valley. As we were admiring the view, the call to prayer sounded and the sun came out from behind a cloud.

Coming back home from an illegal rave in my late teens, covered in mud, soaked to the skin and watching the sun rise over a field as the fires from the rave burned out. The colours in the sky were amazing.

Fishandjam Tue 18-Feb-14 11:35:11

Another solitary one. Several years ago, I was sitting outside at our rickety plastic patio table pricking out seedlings (a very meditative thing to be doing anyway). It was a warm afternoon, the birds were tweeting, the breeze was rustling the trees etc. Eventually I put down my pricking-out pencil and just sat there in a sort of trance. I had no idea of time passing - DH eventually came out to say "You've been sat there absolutely motionless for about 20 minutes, are you OK?" I have never before, or since, felt so at peace.

middlethird Tue 18-Feb-14 12:02:33

What a beautiful, sad, wonderful thread... well done OP.

I have two grin

Husband and I travelling, we got to a hostel at about midday after travelling for days, we were knackered. We had amazing, sleepy, kissy sex and fell asleep for a few hours. We got up to explore the local beach at about 4ish... he took a photo of me from behind, waves crashing, hair all over the place - it is a stunning photo. Anyway, a few weeks later in another town I realised I'd missed my period, we conceived on that day... it was happening as we walked down the beach and we got a beautiful photo.

The other moment was after being in labour with DD2 for days, a became completely and utterly aware of my body just at the moment I needed to push. It was euphoric. It's the only word I have. I was in awe of myself and my new daughter. It was amazing...

TulipOHare Tue 18-Feb-14 12:22:26

Mine was so simple and fleeting but I know I will remember it forever.

Was walking down a pleasant country lane to the supermarket with baby DS in his sling. He usually had his head turned to one side or the other, looking at the scenery. It was spring so there were daffs etc around, very pretty, soft sunshine. And he just all of a sudden looked up at me with this look of perfect contentment and love. He looked in my eyes and I knew exactly what he was feeling. It is hard to describe but it was utterly gorgeous and amazing.

checkmates Tue 18-Feb-14 12:29:16

Nearest I get to a perfect moment is that hazy time just before I fall asleep at night.

Oddly enough another one from Fraser Island!

Camping near lake McKenzie and was sitting by the embers of the camp fire when 3 brumbies came into the clearing, we stared at each other for 3-4 minutes and then they turned and left. smile

Animation Tue 18-Feb-14 13:33:17


Oh wow - that WAS a great moment!

Have read as far as yours on page 2.

Lovely warming thread.

diamondlizard Tue 18-Feb-14 13:41:27
LaQueenOfHearts Tue 18-Feb-14 13:43:11

Oh, yes...many... hello CY by the way mwah mwah

When I had just turned 19, and had just started going out with my ex. We'd only had a few dates, but I was already so in love with I walked up his street a warm wind was blowing me along, and I swear my feet didn't touch the ground, I was so happy. Later that night, we sat on the old fire-escape outside his bedroom window, listening to music, while he smoked cigars, and we watched a huge August moon rise over his garden. I remember thinking 'I don't want to be anywhere else in the world, right now'

Few months later, in a tiny hotel room in Paris, sharing a bath with my ex - it was a really warm evening, so we'd opened the window, and outside, someone started playing a saxophone, it was so romantic - a few minutes later, a huge thunderstorm broke as we shagged each other into a coma lay on the bed, and I felt like I was starring in an art-house film smile

Our wedding day, as I walked into the ceremony room, DH turned around to watch me walk down the aisle - and the look on his face, made me catch my breath, and the rest of the world just fell away.

On Padstow beach, watching DH and the DDs laughing and paddling in the surf - we had the beach to ourselves, and there was glorious sunshine and a warm wind, and I thought 'I could live in this moment forever'

I don't believe in God, or an after life - but I think hope when you die, that in the last second your brain takes you back to a time when you were most happy, and that last second lasts forever, and it's that that we call Heaven.

That moment on Padstow beach is my Heaven.

LaQueenOfHearts Tue 18-Feb-14 13:47:44

Ooooh, oooh, just remembered another...

Pregnant with DD1, and we were in the Lakes for the weekend. Very frosty night, and as we walked to our cottage we stopped and DH pointed out the constellations for me (astronomy geek that he is) as we were looking up at the stars, I felt DD1 move for the first time smile

Animation Tue 18-Feb-14 14:36:51

This time last year I instigated a split with DH and moved into a flat. We were in a rut at the time, as have been together 20 odd years. But by April we found it too hard to be apart ...

I remember this moment on our first drive out into the countryside after 3 months apart his work van - not the car. Had made a flask and sandwiches. What I noticed was how the spring sun was so warming and seemed to sparkle and spangle all around - on the road, on fields and daffodils. We drove in silence - he kept squeezing my hand, and I remember this surge of relief and gratitude, and thinking to myself - thank you God!

Absy Tue 18-Feb-14 14:59:57

Another one - my first year of working I was working full time (in a temp job) and studying in the evenings (I did that for two years and it was freaking AWFUL). Anyway, I was on a temp contract where I was paid by the hour, which meant I didn't get paid for holiday leave, so I hadn't taken any (and my previous "holiday" had been with ex, and he broke up with me a few days in so I had to spend a very awful week with him and his parents pretending everything was awesome. Not the best holiday). August bank holiday was coming up, and I knew I wouldn't be paid anyway, so I thought this was a chance to have a break before the term started again. I talked to one of my best friends (who lives in Tel aviv) and she said - DO IT. So, I booked the tickets. My manager (who was and continues to be beyond amazing) paid for my cab to the airport, and I arrived at one in the morning. When I arrived I had an answerphone message saying that I'd been offered my role as a permanent one (with the salary I asked for and a promotion). I went to sleep happy. The next morning, went out to meet friend - it was gorgeous and hot, and we met on the street. She took me to the marina to the boat she was living on at the time, sat me down, handed me an ice cold beer and said "your holiday has now started". It was amaaaaaaaaaaaazing.

Animation Tue 18-Feb-14 15:19:55

By the way I went home and tackled the bullies formally, which made them run for the hills, and thankfully my work life settled down again about a year later.

Contemplates - glad you told us that bit! Was worried.

Showy Tue 18-Feb-14 15:22:06

When my Grandad died he had been in pain and struggling with lung cancer. He had lost his voice some weeks earlier and on the beautiful, crisp and cold morning of the day he died, he looked past his family and smiled. He uttered one word. "Mama?" His Mum had died 45 years earlier. I know it's a sad one but in many ways a perfect end to a very tough time.

When dd was 3, on Christmas Day she paused at the table in front of everybody to make a Christmas wish. We all thought it was going to be 'I want a cake' or 'more presents' but she declared she wanted Grandma to get better. My Mum had recently been diagnosed with cancer. It was perfect in that my tiny 3yo dd had summed up what everybody wished for that Christmas. 17 days later, my Mum received surgery which was a 100% success and on the same morning, I found out I was expecting another baby. That was an important day.

On the day my waters broke with ds, I was so emotional. I knew I was likely to end up with another emcs and was saying goodbye to a now 4yo dd and leaving her with my Mum so I could go and give birth to her brother. I had all those feelings of will I love this baby as much as my beautiful firstborn, will my dd ever forgive me for ruining her life etc. DD had been out for a walk that morning and found a penny. She gave it to me. She said I must keep it with me the whole time I was in hospital and it would mean she was with me. She also made up a song about how much she loved me and her unborn brother and sang it to me. I can't type the words or I'll howl but I left her that morning with tears in my eyes. Next time I saw her, she came racing across the postnatal ward with flowers and a balloon, beaming. Seeing her hold her little brother for the first time was one of my most cherished memories. She started school 4 days later and I will always look back at the day her brother was born as the end of a beautiful era. She's nearly 7 now and when I talk to her about that day, she remembers bits of it with such clarity. While I was off labouring and subsequently in theatre having an emcs, it was a beautiful September day and she drove a tractor for the first time, went swimming in a lake and ran through woods with some friends playing hide and seek. Then her grandma shouted out to tell her it was time to come to the hospital to see her new brother. It really was a Shirley Hughes type day. I hope she remembers it always.

Showy Tue 18-Feb-14 15:32:03

Oh and for sheer shmaltz, 2yo ds woke up this morning (in my bed, again, <sigh>), snuggled up to my side and whispered "mine belong RIGHT here" and he kissed my shoulder. Not perfect, it was 6africkingm, but it'll do.

BigBoPeep Tue 18-Feb-14 15:37:28

Oh I love waking up to a loving toddler every morning - she's cheerful and will say 'hi' and be all cuddly and kissy, it's lovely and I know it won't last forever!!

devoncreamtea Tue 18-Feb-14 15:40:13

Seeing my children's faces for the first time (of course!) but also 2 amazing moments - when my 2nd daughter was born (new partner) and realising how fantastic it is to share the wonder of a new person with someone you love. We were lying on our bed just blissfully gazing at this little creature.

The second when my 3rd daughter was born after only 12 month gap - bfing both babies at once (bonkers) and them holding hands. So perfect.

hairtwiddler Tue 18-Feb-14 16:18:01

Last summer, arriving at pitch black camping field and walking back to our tent. Sky packed with stars. One hand for each child, little voice of D's pipes up, "Mummy, I really really love you". 'Twas magic.

The most perfect moments ever in my life were giving birth to my 5 children and seeing their faces for the first time. I stared in awe for hours with each of them, amazed at the pureness of seeing a new life be born into this world, a new beginning, a new chapter, and I had created them inside of mesmile

DoctorTwo Tue 18-Feb-14 17:05:55

About 5 o'clock one Saturday morning my cat climbed into bed with me, which wasn't unusual in itself, it was a regular occurrence, but this time she only settled briefly before starting to fidget. She then span round completely, so I sat up and removed the duvet to see that she'd given birth in my bed. I scooped her up and put her under the bed together with the new kitten and sat and watched as she pushed out another three kittens.

rabbitlady Tue 18-Feb-14 17:28:01

my daughter not dying from pph. when they wheeled her back into the room, after hours in theatre, cosied up in a bear-hugger, seeing her smile (weakly) at me.

bfg daughter to 4yrs 3 months. being exceptionally close with the little one, co-sleeping, cuddling forever.

seeing her beautiful face when she was born, the black hair in backwards-6s curls and thinking 'oh, here i am again' because she was exactly as my mum has described me.

waking up next to my new born baby, day after day, and 'falling in love' with her again. every day. amazing.

being full of milk! so long ago...

granddaughter running to meet me at the door, inviting me in, wanting a grandma-cuddle. being a 'donkey' and a climbing frame for granddaughter.

when daughter went up to be confirmed and the family stood in support.

daughter walking herself down the aisle to be married. beautiful, gothic, capable.

every time i see daughter and son in law being happy together. we prayed for that boy and God sent hm.

in the monastery at gorton when the universe opened before me.

my nde.

seeing pulp at manchester apollo and having an out-of-body-one-with-the-universe experience.

a bit sour but - when unpleasant newly-ex raised his arm to hit me and i was able to say 'go on then, hit me, and i'll see you in court'.

every snuggly cuddle from my baby, now and always.

blush you just asked for one, didn't you? sorry. got carried away. cried a lot, too.

AyUpMiDuck Tue 18-Feb-14 17:58:17

One of many: On honeymoon in Goa at a fish restaurant. A family of four singers stood next to our table singing the Carpenter's On Top of the World. I was so happy and so moved by their singing I could not stop crying and my new dh was so lovely about it.

Another: taking 10 day old ds home after his stay in SCUBU at and feeling that everything was just right even though dh hadn't tidied up or done any laundry the whole time - it didn't matter I was so chuffed to be home with ds.

CheerfulYank Tue 18-Feb-14 18:13:21

Oh God Showy, that "Mama?" about did me in! Have actual tears.

LaQueen! <squeeeeezes> it's been ages!

I'm so glad I started this thread! I almost didn't, I was finding it very hard to say what I meant in my OP. But it's really stayed with me the past few days...I've been more tuned in, more on the lookout for the next beautiful moment iyswim.

A few more from me, because why not smile Visiting my then fiancee (now DH) at grad school. He had a close circle of friends and they were all so excited about literature and philosophy and life in general, and I remember sitting in his apartment with him while he read, my bare feet with bright red toenail polish across his lap. I was thinking of everyone I'd met that day and their enthusiasm was so contagious and I just felt...on the brink of some great idea if that makes sense.

Floating in a lake in the dark when I was a kid...the stars were so bright, the water bathwater warm and like black silk.

My babies being pregnancy with DS was a surprise and I think I was shocked the entire time, from the second I got a positive test to the second he was born, much more easily than I'd thought, and they held him up sort of upside down, like a catch from the sea. I kissed his hot, damp little head and he looked like one of my father's baby pictures come to life. I was never more surprised in my life than when I produced an actual baby in that hospital room!

Then DD, who was planned and expected, but who was much harder to actually give birth too. I knew she was a girl and was nervous about that's hard being female in this society sometimes, and my mother and I have an often difficult relationship. But then she was finally. FINALLY out, a fat flushed little bear of a baby, with black curls all your very her head, and she gave me the most forthright look, right into my eyes, and I stopped worrying instantly and said "Oh THERE you are" like I knew her, like I'd been waiting.

CheerfulYank Tue 18-Feb-14 18:15:24

*over her head. Honestly, autocorrect. hmm

DivorceGoddess Tue 18-Feb-14 20:36:55

Me, my DS and DD cosied up in bed for a morning cuddle before the day starts, its the connection of love, support and knowing that whatever stuff happens that day, that it started with love <3

WipsGlitter Tue 18-Feb-14 20:41:24

Summer 2012. Took the kids to a local beach/beauty spot. Practically deserted. Sunny. Warm. Paddling. Picnic.

I actually did that thing where I made myself take a mental "remember this moment".

Back2Two Tue 18-Feb-14 21:07:38

Thanks for a lovely thread cheerful and everyone.
Some of these are so poignant and simple and lovely. And sad and happy.
I'm all shivery in a nice way.

theluckiest Tue 18-Feb-14 21:11:19

What a lovely thread.

We were on holiday in Northumbria. Weather was shit. We walked up to Bamburgh castle and the sun appeared from nowhere. And it was HOT! So we went to the beach. Had no towels, no beach stuff. DS1 stripped off to his pants and DS2 to his nappy, we spent the whole afternoon larking about on the most perfect beach overlooked by the castle.

Then went for a gorgeous dinner at a local pub.

So far, so perfect?

On the way home, we drove along the coast. I have never seen a sunset like it. DH stopped the car, I climbed to the top of a sand dune and just remember saying, 'WOW! Oh wow!!!'. The perfect, deserted beach and the sea looked like it was on fire from the sunset with the castle silhouetted in the distance. I have never felt so utterly alive and happy.

JoyceDivision Tue 18-Feb-14 21:20:16

In summer when we sat on the beach eating icecreams, me, dh, dd and ds... all sat quite withbit of general chit chat... ds (4) pauses eating his ice cream, seemsto gaze at it and says 'Mummy, i think you're delicious... I think I'll have to eat you all up'


Top marks to DD (6) who stopped, considered how ds had stolen the moment and said 'Er, mum,I think you're delicious too' had me laughing at teh brilliant token gesture!

Lovely thread smile

I have a few, but my favourite moment would be this: I was sat on a mountain in France holding my dd3, then aged 11 months. We were told she would likely never leave hospital at one point, nevermind the country. The mountains stretched into the distance and I watched my older girls playing in the sunshine, laughing loudly. In that moment I was so utterly grateful for my life and out-of-the-blue the thought came to me, 'I bet Heaven feels like this, and I'm sure it's a beautiful place.'

My dd3 died less than 2 months later. When it all feels too much, I bring that day to my mind. I hope to feel that gratitude for life and peace again one day.

theluckiest Tue 18-Feb-14 21:47:08

Thought of another one...actually I just asked DH and he said this (which is one of mine too!!)

We travelled around East coast US for our honeymoon. For one leg of the journey we stayed in a mountain resort. It was Nov and bloody freezing. Being bonkers Brits on holiday we decided to go for a swim in the outdoor pool. In November. (Mind you, it was heated so we hadn't completely lost the plot.)

Just us, inky black sky, millions of stars with the steam from the pool rising around us and silence. Then it started to snow. Huge fat flakes covered us as we laughed & kissed. And kissed a bit more. Magical.

LaQueenOfHearts Tue 18-Feb-14 22:10:47

Another one - though I've told this before on Mumsnet.

When I met DH, I was nursing a very, very badly broken heart - at the grand old age of 21 I really didn't see the point in living the rest of my left over, life sad

Met DH several times in the student club - but on our first proper date I slept with him (totally innocent, well nearly) and I had such a vivid dream - that DH and I were walking, holding hands, across this vast prehistoric landscape. And, in the dream I knew (like you can know things in dreams) that we were the only people for thousands of miles around. And, it felt perfectly safe, and I felt perfectly content.

When I woke up, DH was still asleep, and I looked at him and thought 'Oh, so it's going to be you' - and he woke up, and smiled back at me - and I suspect he was thinking exactly the same thing....that was a perfect, spellbinding moment.

At that moment, we didn't even know each other's surnames, but I think we both knew we would be together for the rest of our lives.

LaQueenOfHearts Tue 18-Feb-14 22:17:12

And. Every. Single. Time. DD1 curls up next to me, and says 'I love you more than my heart, Mummy' melts me, every single time.

She first said it when she was just a toddler, and snuggled onto my lap...nowadays she's this gloriously tall 10 year old, with endless legs who simply can't fit in my lap anymore, but she still has a damned good try.

And, I never, ever, ever want her to stop trying to cuddle up on my lap, ever smile

Fannydabbydozey Tue 18-Feb-14 22:41:23

One is etched onto my heart.

The scene:
On a family camping trip in France on the Ile de Re, six months after my then six year old had a stroke. Who knew kids had strokes? I certainly didn't at that time. Me and my boy were sat watching the sun go down on an Atlantic beach, the wind whipping his hair about and his eyes shining with happiness. I was watching him rather than the sunset because he was the more beautiful sight to me. He'd just been taken off warfarin and put on aspirin and finally his right sided weakness was going. It was an incredible moment. Makes me well up thinking about it. Whenever I get stressy about rubbish I think of that moment and count my blessings.

Fannydabbydozey Tue 18-Feb-14 22:44:38

Cup of tea that was incredibly moving sad thanks

I was helping a little boy in a school. He had reading difficulties. He had just about given up. He was years behind.
I don't know what changed, but over a period of about six weeks he got closer and closer and then one afternoon he 'got it.' It was incredible. He just took off. It was like a wall had fallen down. He surprised himself completely and then he looked round the library where we had been working and he said quite matter of factly, 'I can read anything in this room.'

I did like that moment.

GoodnessKnows Tue 18-Feb-14 23:13:15

When the surgeon told me, two weeks ago, that the tumour they'd excised completely was cancerous - and that it's low grade with clear margins.

NearTheWindmill Tue 18-Feb-14 23:27:37

On cup >>>hugs<<<<

NearTheWindmill Tue 18-Feb-14 23:28:02

That was supposed to be "oh". Sorry.

Dilidali Tue 18-Feb-14 23:30:07

Tonight. Good food, a large group of friends around the table. I nearly didn't join them. I was sitting there and thought: I'm so happy!

madeofkent Tue 18-Feb-14 23:37:28

What a lovely thread.

Quite a few really but shall just pick a couple.

DS has slight asperger's, not that I knew it at the time. He wasn't affectionate, which was upsetting. He was fine with being cuddled, but would never ask for attention or a cuddle. When he was just one, he was wandering around the sitting-room late one morning as I sat down with a cup of coffee, which was when we normally looked at books. It was as if he was looking for something, he just wandered and poked and looked fretful, and didn't want books. Then he suddenly looked at me, considered, clambered up on the sofa next to me, stroked my leg, stuck his bottom up in the air and his head on my lap and fell asleep! I felt immensely honoured, and sat there with my arm around him, scared to move, for an hour. I know that probably seems strange to most mums, but he hadn't fallen asleep on me for months and I don't think he ever did again.

When he gives me a hug every time I see him, I still feel privileged. He is away at uni. He is very reserved, so it's a big deal for him.

Breast-feeding the babies at night, looking at the stars and seeing their dark eyes watching me, wondering if there were other mothers out there also feeding at 3am, stroking their silky skin.

DBH having to deliver DS at the hospital as there was an emergency and I was doing ok, so they left us. He was so proud of himself, and cried when he had the baby in his arms - which felt odd because he saw and held him before I did! But I have that picture in my mind of him holding DS in his arms and crying, and knowing that he would always love him and would be a good father.

The beach is a recurring theme on this thread, and we love to go at the very end of the holiday, on the last day because everyone else is sorting out school kit and panicking. It's always nice weather on the last day, too. Perfect moments of peaceful warm beaches, DD reading and DS building huge sandcastles, DBH doing handstands in the sea and me slowly wandering along and collecting white pebbles and shells. Then to a really nice pub for tea. It's the perfect peaceful lull before the storm, and the day on which I probably take the most photos so that I shall remember those days when the children have both left home.

LizzieVereker Tue 18-Feb-14 23:49:40

Bit ordinary compared to some of the others, but...

Every morning, when I get out of bed, I think "Are the children all OK? Is there money in the bank to pay the bills?" and each time I can say yes, I feel so very blessed, Each time I can say yes is perfect, because we have had times when the answer was no.

And when I was on my first teaching practice, at a difficult school, with very difficult Year 9s, trying to teach them Macbeth. One especially tough lad was working in a group when he started crying, really wracking, snotty sobs. I thought he'd hurt himself, but when I went to see he said "Miss, Miss, I can do it! I get Shakespeare! I thought it was just for posh people! " Magic.

And when we told DS1 we were having DS2, I was worried - he'd been an only child for a long time. He looked amazed and then said "Oh! Oh! I prayed for a baby brother!". We all cried.

Lovesabadboy Wed 19-Feb-14 00:00:55

Mine is very similar to yours - also in Northumberland, last summer on holiday.
The weather was perfect all week and it was such a beautiful area. We also visited Bamburgh and that beach, so I can imagine what it was like for you.
DH, DD1(then 16) and DD2 (13) and me all decided to get up early to see the sunrise over the beach near to our cottage.
We drove to the beach and walked through the sand dunes which had mist hanging over them and rabbits skittering about.
We all sat on the beach together, in absolute awe as the sun came up over the North Sea.
It was utterly silent apart from the lap of the waves and the call of the waking birds, and the sunrise was absolutely stunning.

We all stood there just staring and absorbing such a special moment all together.

It is a moment that I know DH and I will never forget and I hope that my girls remember and talk about forever.

Another time I remember watching the sun come up was when I had given birth to DD1. It had been a horrible 31 hour labour and we were finally in peace, alone ,after DH had gone home. I couldn't sleep as I was totally euphoric and so I stood at the window of the maternity ward,with DD in my arms watching the sun rise on the frosty November morning (also my birthday). I remember talking to the heavens - 'talking' to my mum - who had died 10 months earlier - knowing, somehow that she was part of this very special moment...the arrival of her grand-daughter on the same day as the arrival of her daughter (me), 29 years earlier. It was a bitter-sweet time, but I was so calm and so happy at that moment, that it has always stayed with me.

Some lovely stories on here, thank you so much for starting the thread OP.

funnyperson Wed 19-Feb-14 01:18:14

Dad's face lighting up when he recognised the voice of an old friend whom he hadn't met for 15 years at his 85th birthday party. Dad is blind. It made all the hard work clearing out and redecorating their cluttered sitting room and sorting out the guests and food and carers worthwhile. Hearing his happy voice while I was in the dining room dishing up was just perfect.

madmomma Wed 19-Feb-14 07:54:07

Falling asleep in my first love's arms. He used to wait until I was asleep before he let himself go to sleep. He loved me so much at that time, and even though I'm happily married to someone else now 20 years later I've never felt so adored since.

My last baby used to like being kissed to sleep. It was so delicious to kiss and kiss and kiss her while she shut her eyes. Heaven.

Back2Two Wed 19-Feb-14 08:14:56

Mine are all to do with tiny moments with my boys.

I've said before...I had awful PND with both boys. It manifested itself in anxiety....terrible anxiety that something (everything) was wrong with them.

I obsessed over their "disabilities" and "diseases" for the first months of both their lives. I'll never get that time back and I will always mourn it and feel guilty that I didn't give them what I "should" or could have done if I hadn't been so ill.

I can remember when the darkness (the only way I can describe that awful world of my PND) turned into light though. And the contrast was so extreme that it was wonderful and intense and kept on giving! I was so amazed to be happier and to want to be here that the feeling kept on knocking me over all day every day for ages.

So, every time I get one of those tiny moments of intense joy and love when I look at them or watch them together it always feels like a bit of a surprise still and I sometimes feel a surreal happy thought ...."where did YOU come from?"

atthestrokeoftwelve Wed 19-Feb-14 08:29:45

Sitting on a Stupa in Borobodur in Eastern Java, watching the sun rise over the misty tea plantations and volcanoes with my lover.

My first time in the tropics eating dinner in the Seychelles watching turtles on the beach.

Swimming with dolphins on Christmas morning in Bali.

Watching the stars on christmas eve breastfeeding my newborn at 2am.

Driving up into the Turkish mountains with a hotel manager I was having a holiday fling with. Gorgeous scenery and so far removed from anything I had ever done in my life before.

matana Wed 19-Feb-14 12:12:44

This thread has made me feel really nostalgic - and realise i've led a pretty enchanted life with so many perfect moments! I can't choose, but there have been loads - funnily enough, many when i was at school and from my childhood! It's true what they say - youth is wasted on the young. Makes me really understand what it means to live every moment like it's your last.

HomeIsWhereTheGinIs Wed 19-Feb-14 12:29:30

I'm addicted to this thread. I just can't stop coming back and I've nominated this for Classics.

It's like chicken soup for the soul. And there's a sense of peace on it.

jessplussomeonenew Wed 19-Feb-14 12:52:19

Just today I had a scan and had my first ever sight of the baby I had feared I might never conveive - tiny and perfect and doing somersaults when I laughed with joy and relief.

DontWannaBeObamasElf Wed 19-Feb-14 13:07:58

Aw, Jess that's given me such a warm feeling.

Pipachi Wed 19-Feb-14 14:34:30

First waltz with DP. It just felt so right... didn't have to think about the steps.

caramelapple Wed 19-Feb-14 14:55:01

When I was 6 my mum and dad transferred me into a German speaking section of an international school in Holland. My dad was in the RAF and we lived abroad for most of my childhood. Anyway at first, as you can imagine, I hated it. Every Sunday I was a nightmare, pleading with them not to go back. After a while I got used to it when I made some new friends and understood the language.

Until recently I probably wouldn't have said that was my perfect moment but we are going through the adoption process and this makes you look at life changing moments. Only now I am grown up do I see what they did for me and appreciate it.

My mum and dad did something for me that I can never repay them for but I can pay it forward. If we hopefully get through the hell that is the adoption process my DH and I would not hesitate to do everything to ensure our child will have the best education we can get. thanks

walterwhiteswife Wed 19-Feb-14 15:35:51

taking ds who was nearly 3 to see the tweenies live who he adored. his little face when they came out on stage was amazing I sobbed like a fool!! it still makes me well up five years later! !!

worldgonecrazy Wed 19-Feb-14 16:00:29

I am blessed to have had a million perfect moments. Sometimes I just think "wow, life is so amazingly brilliant and I am so blessed".

A birthday party, when I looked around and felt so good to have friends.

Realising that I was a sleepless mum, not because I had a fussy child, but because I couldn't stop myself gazing at her all night.

Family days snuggled in front of a log fire.

Fabulous meals in stealth-boast-worthy restaurants with a man whom I adore above all others.

But mostly my perfect moments come from the realisation that my family is a rock upon which I build my foundations, and the roots that tie me to this earth. As family go, they're pretty amazing, even when they're driving me nuts.

Being 16, swimming off a cliff on a Greek Island. So much shite was going on in my life then, but the sea was perfection.

Drinking whiskey on the landing with my wonderful housemates, still not quite able to believe we managed to buy this house together.

Sunday mornings, when all three of my DDs climb into bed with me for a giant cuddle and they spend ages kissing each other in turn.

minouminou Wed 19-Feb-14 16:20:51

Getting accepted onto a v decent indeed journalism training course...almost 2,000 applicants for 20 places.

Dancing with a weeks-old DS to "A Horse with no Name".

Taking DS to a local cafe for a gingerbread bunny, two days before DD arrived. Like a PP, I knew this was the last time it'd be just me and him. I treasured that morning right up until I threw up just down the road the cafe (had HG both pregnancies, although I think this particular upchuck might have been labour gearing up). Two teenage boys eyed me and my bump with great concern until I told them it was par for the course...

More recently, the moment the plane left the ground to carry me and DS to Israel. It was his first flight and a weird sort of (genetic, rather than spiritual, as we is well athiest, innit) homecoming for me (and DS, obvs).

Gazing at DD as she's (slowly) transformed from a small ball of rage into a slightly larger ball of utter gobshite. I shouldn't laugh when she rags on DS, but she's so sharp and she gets him every time.

TwoNoisyBoys Wed 19-Feb-14 16:52:22

Since being with my new DP after splitting from Ex'D'H I've had many perfect moments......more than I had in sixteen years of being with ex!

The one that sticks out the most was last summer.....I'd been bought a really beautiful picnic hamper (thanks DM!) and we went to M&S in the morning and loaded up with lovely nibbles.....then we walked for AGES along a muddy, spiky beach before he dragged me up a path where I got my hair caught in overhanging branches grin......then it opened up into a little enclosed field. The sun was shining, it was hot with a gentle breeze, and we sat on my picnic blanket in the dappled sunlight under a big tree. We ate loads, and laughed and sang songs and then had a little doze with his head resting on my tummy. I just felt so peaceful and LOVED.

It was bloody PERFECT smile

thegreylady Wed 19-Feb-14 17:06:43

Eating boiled eggs with dh on a balcony in Sicily looking over to Mount Etna
Seeing the Eiger
Being told my cancer hadn't spread
My dd's wedding day was full of perfect moments
I am old and there have been too many to post. I have been so lucky.

Wincher Wed 19-Feb-14 18:02:55

I had one just yesterday. My Dh and two DSs were all in bed together in the morning and Dh was telling them a story (made up rather than from a book). They were both (aged 3.7 and 5 months) gazing at him with rapt adoration. It was lovely to watch.. It was so lovely to see my three boys all so happy together.

Lovely thread,
All the DC's births were perfect moments but I think the 1st born is special, I remember DH and I staring at this little mite and DH said 'she's ours' and we suddenly felt all grown up! We were only 22 ourselves and didnt have a clue about babies grin
Also, last year on a particularly hot evening, I was laid in the garden on a sun lounger after a family BBQ and the sky was so clear with stars and the air was so warm,I lie there for a while in wonder of the universe!

SkaterGrrrrl Wed 19-Feb-14 20:18:43

"Coming back home from an illegal rave in my late teens, covered in mud, soaked to the skin and watching the sun rise over a field as the fires from the rave burned out. The colours in the sky were amazing."

I'll bet they were ;)

CheerfulYank Wed 19-Feb-14 20:38:02

Is this little thread really in classic? shock

Not a perfect moment, but a good one. smile I'm so excited that I'll be able to read it over again when I need a bit of a boost.

LittleCutiePie Wed 19-Feb-14 21:02:02

Sortyourmakeupout that was beautiful

cantpooinpeace Wed 19-Feb-14 21:10:37

When DD1 came to meet DS1 at the hospital, still on a natural high from the birth it was simply my best moment ever. Tops everything smile

LittleCutiePie Wed 19-Feb-14 21:16:20

A few of my perfect moments.

Childhood - one of many camping trips to Kerry in Ireland. It rained so much and there was muck everywhere on setting up camp but then the sun came out (kind of) and we had a fabulous holiday. So much laughter and high jinks among the kids.

College - walking around campus and stopping every few mins to chat and laugh with friends. Best time ever.

Adulthood - gazing all night at my babies, stroking their hand while I breastfed them. The cuddles, the smiles, watching them absorb everything around them.

I'm truly greatfull for everything I have. Feel like ringing up my parents right now and telling them how thankfull I am for my happy childhood and for setting me up well but I don't want them to think there's anything wrong!

Does anyone ever get all gooey with their parents and tell them how greatful they really are? We love each other to pieces but don't really say it much.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Wed 19-Feb-14 21:23:38

I have my perfect moment every night. Sounds really silly but looking into my DD's room and seeing her sleeping all peaceful and angelic is perfection to me smile

I've always loved looking in on her and giving her a kiss and imagining it going into her dreams.

Promise I'm not always a soppy bastard.

SecretWitch Thu 20-Feb-14 00:31:56

At an old farm house in Maine. Many university friends gathered together to celebrate graduate degrees of various kinds. The music was loud, the food was superb. The weather was clear and warm. My first husband and I danced until the sweat poured off us. I knew that night was special, golden. I makes me cry now as 20 years gone, the love has gone, the dream no longer exists. But for one precious night, all was perfect in the world...

minouminou Thu 20-Feb-14 16:00:36

Thegreylady said:

I am old and there have been too many to post. I have been so lucky.

Can't say much better than that, really.

atthestrokeoftwelve Thu 20-Feb-14 16:04:06

Snap minouminou- I could list hundreds. I have been lucky too.

CheerfulYank Thu 20-Feb-14 17:14:10

That's what I thought too! That has really resonated with me GreyLady, thank you.

I always think of my life as a rather ordinary thing, or am sometimes jealous of people with more. But...really, the extraordinary good fortune of finding someone to love with all my heart, who loves me the same, and easily getting pregnant, and finding a little house we could afford, and knowing all of my grandparents (even though they're gone now, I had all four of them until my teens), and having parents who really stuck it out together, having that stability of "mom n'dad" all my life...and to top it off, having those moments that are so perfect I remember them always.

I am blessed beyond measure, really. <soppy git>

LaQueenOfHearts Thu 20-Feb-14 18:51:56

Back2 your post about recovering from PND, really struck a cord.

I had severe PND after DD1. Those first few months, were just like falling down the deepest, darkest, blackest hole ever, yet never reaching the bottom.

I can still clearly remember the first time I actually felt anything resembling love for DD1. She was 5 months old, and we were on holiday in The Lakes. DH was rowing us across a lake, and suddenly I got really worried - wondering how long I could tread water, holding DD1, if the boat capsized confused

Then I started smiling, and ended up tearful - because it was the first time I'd been worried about her wellbeing, and bizarrely it felt lovely.

To this day, I can easily get tearful when I think how fiercely I love DD1, because it was so hard won.

feelingdizzy Thu 20-Feb-14 19:02:20

I watched my 2 kids leave the house the other to walk to school the other day , as they walked they were laughing and chatting and looked so carefree and so beautiful.
Another recent one was at work I teach children with autism , I was doing row- row the boat with a 4 year old child who was non-verbal, he suddenly looked at me and smiled and began to sing along, he had never said a word before I cried the whole way home, a job that can make you cry with happiness has to be a good thing.

ggirl Thu 20-Feb-14 19:25:57

Not happy but a truly memorable and amazing moment.
I was with a dying patient in his home who had no family..waiting for Marie-Curie nurse to come and sit with him over night.
I was holding his hand and he looked earnestly into my eyes and smiled..he passed away seconds later.
I shall never forget that.

CheerfulYank Thu 20-Feb-14 22:58:23

Oh ggirl, he must have been so relieved to not be alone!

LaQueen me too..I was protective of DS and knew, abstractly, that I loved him. But I didn't really feel it til he was about 4 months old... and I just sobbed. And he was older...nine months or so, because it was spring, and I was walking in the sunshine and saw some tulips blooming, and they were gorgeous. And I realized that I was happy. And pretty much have been ever since. smile

Bluemonkeyspots Fri 21-Feb-14 10:07:54

Mine was when dc 1&2 were 2&4 years old (we have since had two more dc but they were not here at this point)

We had went on a camping holiday to see the d day landing beaches in France. I was a bit unsure with dc being so young and not able to appreciate the enormity behind it but dh had always wanted to go so of we went.

One day we had been at one of the more famous beaches, was really emotional (my grandad fought here) and dc had behaved brilliantly in the museum and while looking around.

We moved onto another beach which was totally deserted, miles and miles of beautiful clear sand and water. It was scorching that day and we had no swim wear in the car so both dc stripped naked and ran around the beach and in and out of the water shrieking and having the time of their lives.

I was sat watching them and reading the history behind this beach at the same time. During the landings there would have been dead bodies of young men lying everywhere and they say the sea was red as far as the eye could see.

It was so emotional knowing that just over 60 years before, which is no time at all in the grand scheme of things people died on the exact same spot to give us this freedom. Was also wondering if my dgd would have been one of them and how amazing it would have been for him to know during that hell that his great grandchildren would one day be living a free life perhaps literally walking in his footsteps.

funnyperson Sat 22-Feb-14 06:09:47

Blue Monkey I have a lovely photo of DD age about 3 years old running happy on those beaches and I remember thinking the very same thing as you: that those who died must be smiling to see their descendents free and happy on that spot.

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 22-Feb-14 06:17:24

When my DD started calling me "mummy" age 7.

When she recently started looking right into my face.and grinning and giving me a big cuddle (she has severe autism).

When she said "uv oo" and made kissing noises.

When our wedding car couldn't park outside our reception venue and I walked along Princes St in wedding dress.

I have millions.

scarffiend Sat 22-Feb-14 22:51:24

So many. I feel I've had a charmed life. First one without kids is when dh (then dp) & I went to Tasmania when we stayed in Melbourne. We did a drive & stop kind of tour, stopped in the town beside wineglass bay (stupidly beautiful place) and he decided that we would get up to see the sun rise. Got up at 5am, watched the sun come up, there are no words. Went back to our rented cottage, made love & slept until it wa time to tackle the bay itself.....where wild dolphins played & I swam with them. That day will be with me as perfection until the day I die.

Since having our dd, life affirming moments are frequent. Breast feeding her in the middle of the night was always blissful. Now she's a toddler, the joy is in watching her learn about the world.

airedailleurs Tue 25-Feb-14 22:04:30

this is all so lovely...

my first perfect moment was aged 6 in infants school. I was sitting on a table in the classroom next to the boy I was "in love" with, who was strumming a guitar and singing "those were the days" (still one of my favourite songs) to me...meltingly romantic!

Loads of moments with my DD, especially while bfing, and once out in the woods in the park when she was about 2, it was a beautiful sunny day and she was walking a little way behind me, I turned round and watched her as she stretched out her arms and beamed "I'm in the world!", she was so full of joy!

Finally reaching the stage where I don't need to worry about money after years of stressing and

Suddenly and totally unexpectedly falling in love with a beautiful man and it's mutual...

couldthisbeit Thu 27-Feb-14 15:13:45

(Unashamedly sobbing a little into my cuppa as I read this)

I am lucky to have so many moments that changed my world, some for moments, some forever.... A standout has to be from the moment my ds1 arrived into the world, after a tough and scary labour where my birth plan wnet out the window as I finished telling the midwife about it. Through the 15 hours I kept saying, please let DP tell me what the baby is, it was all that was keeping me going. I was lucky to have my mum and sister in the room too, along with DP, thanks to a wonderful midwife who bent the rules on a quiet night. We had had 4 miscarriages, and I had never dared dream that the moment would come where I became a mum. As I did, my dear dear mum (at the business end!) bellowed 'it's a boy!'DP (head end) stood opened mouthed and speechless.
My dear mum suddenly passed away 14 months ago and we had often laughed about that moment, she said she couldn't help it as ds's (ahem) danglers were so big she just blurted it out. As a mum of three girls, an Irish Catholic one at that, She said she had never seen such a thing!
She had such a special bond with ds1, and as I sit here feeding ds2 who she never met, I feel so sad that I won't have any more perfect moments with my mum.

something2say Tue 17-Jun-14 21:57:18

Such a beautiful thread. Have read it from beginning to end.

Sadly I had a very physically abusive childhood. A thing it has taken years to set to rest.

But fifteen years ago, the couple that I lodge with started calling me their surrogate daughter. It started out as just one of those things people joke about, but then they always said I could go to them for Christmas, they have been there when I bought my flat and when I break up with men. I will never have an idyllic childhood and my mother used to shout that she wished I had never been born. I will ne'er know what the love of a mother would feel like, bit I did come close to that when my surrogate mother was faffing with my curly hair one Christmas morning, and I felt like her youngest child, where I was the unwanted middle before.

Haggischucker Sun 29-Jun-14 10:22:22

My favourite was waking up in a luxury hotel overlooking ayres rock with the sun rising and a gently snoring DH next to me. Absolutely beautiful and felt at peace, lay for an hour taking it all in smile

Thecircle Sun 29-Jun-14 10:37:41

Ds was born 2 weeks before Christmas and was 6 weeks prem.

He was struggling and we were relying in blood test results to find out when he could go home.

On Christmas Eve morning the nurse in charge came into our room and said "so how about you get this boy ready so he can go home and wait for Father Christmas"

I'm crying now just remembering the joy I felt, the nurse have me a massive hug and kissed my forehead.

I was rooming in and it was early so it was just me and ds alone together.

I remember bf'ing ds with happy splashing down on him.


Thecircle Sun 29-Jun-14 10:38:23

Happy tears!

MyUsernameIsPants Sun 29-Jun-14 11:05:24

I felt pressured into BF DD and wasn't enjoying it at all.

One morning I sat down on the sofa to feed her. I started watching tv and looked down at her.

She was holding on to my finger and looked at me with her big beautiful blue eyes. It just hit me that I was her world at that very moment. It was just me and her and only I could do this for her.

She's nearly 10 years old now. I can't have anymore children (I didn't know this back then) and I feel so sad that I didn't enjoy those precious moments with her. I remember exactly what was on the tv, what we were wearing and that look on her face. I'll never forget it.

Another time was with DP. We started out FWB. This went on for 2 years. I broke off the 'relationship' because I fell in love with him and he had too many issues to commit to a proper relationship.

I didn't see him for 3 months. I bumped into him one day so we went for lunch. He sat there looking at me with a strange look on hos face. Anyway, I went home and cried because I missed him so much.
The following morning there was a knock at my door. I opened it to find him standing there looking completely exhausted and unshaven. He asked me to not say anything and let him speak because he was nervous and shaking like a leaf.

He told me he loved me, wanted to be in DD's life (not his) and wanted to marry me and grow old together. The 3 months of NC made him realise how much I meant to him. The day before at lunch he wanted to just blurt out he loved me but couldn't out of nervousness.

We sometimes go to that same place and sit at the same table.

It was the most romantic moment of my life when he said that to me on the doorstep.

We are planing our wedding now smile

MinionDave Tue 01-Jul-14 13:22:38

Christmas Eve, 3 or 4 years ago. DS was 5 and DD 4 I think, so just at that perfect age for believing in Santa.

We had put out the baileys and mince pie and went outside to have a walk in the snow with our torches. It was lovely hearing the snow crunch under our feet and DS and DS chattering away so excitedly.

We got back to the house and decided to sprinkle the reindeer dust over the front garden. DH was hiding around the back and started to shake sleigh bells (I'm a percussionist smile) - just at that moment, and we couldn't have timed this if we had tried,one of those Chinese lanterns flew overhead and the orange glow from it looked exactly like Rudolph's nose! I'll never forget the look on their wee faces, and the way the started shaking the glitter more frantically grinit was perfect.

goodasitgets Tue 01-Jul-14 13:58:53

Boxing Day a few years ago. I went for a ride with my horse very very early in the morning. It was spookily quiet and all I could hear was his breathing, and the frost crunching under his hooves. Absolutely freezing but we rode without seeing a single person, came home and I had a cup of tea while watching him eat his breakfast
It was just so so perfect and quiet. That was my last Christmas ride on him, he was put to sleep in the summer. I can always remember how the saddle felt that day, and his neck under my hand, and see his ears pricked in front of me

Gem124 Wed 23-Jul-14 11:46:40

A running joke was that we all had to have left home by the time we were 28. 3rd of 5 I was still there at 27. Met DP 6 months before turning 28 and stayed at his most nights. We decided to make it official and spent my last night as a 27 year old at my parents. Left home on my 28th birthday with him. We got home and he put my favourite song on and I had a few tears as we danced. Felt like a whole new, perfect chapter starting :-)

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