To wonder how many different ways you can come up with to say YABU to this

(246 Posts)
atthewelles Mon 25-Feb-13 12:05:24

Just always fascinated by how a post that only seems to have one possible answer ie YANBU can be turned on its head, mis-read, mis-interpreted, taken out of context etc in order that the OP can be told they ABU.

So, to this perfectly obvious YANBU example how many ways can different posters find a YABU angle?

"I was standing at the bus stop yesterday and was first in the queue for the bus. After waiting about twenty minutes the bus came along and was pretty full. The driver said 'one passenger only' and the person behind me pushed me to one side and got on. AIBU to think this was rude, inconsiderate and downright cheeky and to wish I'd said something at the time?"

She might have been disabled and couldn't stand any longer. YABU.

That what OU were hoping for?

Spoonful Mon 25-Feb-13 12:08:44

Well... you do come across as a bit entitled, and aggressive to be honest.
Is this really all you have to worry about?

Unacceptable Mon 25-Feb-13 12:11:17

YABU you don't know anything about that other person. It could've been very,very important for her to have got that exact bus. Why couldn't you just wait for the next bus? I'd just have waited patiently for the next bus, this wouldn't have bothered me at all...have you thought about anger management classes OP?

OldLadyKnowsNothing Mon 25-Feb-13 12:12:58

YWBU to wait for as long as 20 minutes. Think how much closer to home you would have been, and how much fitter, had you set off walking!

ShatnersBassoon Mon 25-Feb-13 12:13:05

YABU. Fortune favours the brave. Or, the bus driver probably had a squint and appeared to be talking to the person behind you who might have lacked the social skills to realise how a queue operates. Cut them some slack, walk a mile in their shoes etc.

Maybe she lived at the end of the bus route and her next bus would be in an hour. She was probably fed up with all the seats being taken up by people travelling a couple of stops (who could get on several different buses).

foxache Mon 25-Feb-13 12:15:47

YABVVU for taking the bus in the first place. How very bourgeois. Why can't you fucking walk like the rest of us? Are we expected to pay for you when you become a burden on the NHS because of your obesity? Selfish and entitled.

Maybe she's a lone parent with no support who would have been (very) late to pick her DC from nursery if she'd hadn't jumped on the bus quick.

Hullygully Mon 25-Feb-13 12:16:21

Maybe her cat had died you selfish fuck

ShatnersBassoon Mon 25-Feb-13 12:16:48

The other person probably felt threatened by your aggressive and entitled nature and sought refuge on the bus.

WorraLiberty Mon 25-Feb-13 12:17:51


She was probably pregnant, dying for a piss and about to burst into floods of hormonal tears.

Shame on you.

SavoyCabbage Mon 25-Feb-13 12:18:41

First in the queue you say but who started this queue of yours. If there were seats, then those people may have been at the bus stop before you started this queue of yours.

Why should you get first dibs on the bus when you weren't at the bus stop first???? Yabu.

atthewelles Mon 25-Feb-13 12:18:50

I am now wondering if maybe she had a syndrome called 'skipping the queue syndrome' and I was being really mean and judgey to just assume she was skipping the queue simply because she pushed me out of the way and skipped the queue?

WorraLiberty Mon 25-Feb-13 12:20:37

Perhaps she can't help skipping and is a product of the patriarchal society we live in?

She grew up feeling the need to skip for men.

gordyslovesheep Mon 25-Feb-13 12:23:09

A sad example of the impact of the obesity epidemic ...fat people taking up all the seat probably ...or something else fatist!

doyouwantfrieswiththat Mon 25-Feb-13 12:23:41

She was the replacement bus driver.

SavoyCabbage Mon 25-Feb-13 12:23:44

Also, in some cultures queuing is unheard of.

Perhaps her husband is abusive and she had to get that bus to make sure she was home on time...

There may have been an emergency with her goat?

Do you regularly let people walk all over you? Instead of focusing on her issues, maybe take a look at your own.

doyouwantfrieswiththat Mon 25-Feb-13 12:25:58

she was hijacking the bus and you were too self-absorbed to notice, you should have called the police.

foxache Mon 25-Feb-13 12:27:59

Maybe your 11 children meant you were unlikely to all get on anyway? Next you'll be asking us to make you a new bus.

WannabeWilloughby Mon 25-Feb-13 12:28:39

I blame your DH for all of this and think you should leave him bus! grin

Yabu to live your life restricted by social constraints such as queuing.

ShatnersBassoon Mon 25-Feb-13 12:32:52

I bet you had lots of shopping that would have taken too much space on the bus. Try cooking from scratch in future, you get less packaging and therefore fewer Iceland bags to carry home.

I bet you weren't really first in the queue. You just wanted to hoick up your judgey pants on here.

Oh and is this all you have to worry about? Some of us have real problems. My dishwasher's making a clonking sound, try thinking about people like me before you post your minor bus winges in future ok.

ShatnersBassoon Mon 25-Feb-13 12:35:05

Yeah, and 100% of my grey was not covered by my hair dye this morning. Think on next time something 'bad' happens in your life.

lougle Mon 25-Feb-13 12:35:38

YABU. The bus driver didn't say 'only the first person in the queue to board the bus'. He said 'only one passenger.'

At that point, it was open to anyone in the queue to deem them self to be the 'one passenger' and the queue was no longer functional because no matter how long you waited in the queue, only one of you was going to get on the bus.'

Spoonful Mon 25-Feb-13 12:39:28

Anyway, why didn't you specify the gender of anybody in this story? PC gone mad I say.

sneezingwakesthebaby Mon 25-Feb-13 12:39:35

YABU. Maybe she didn't want to conform to this imaginary queue you had started. Not everyone queues. Gawd.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

WannabeWilloughby Mon 25-Feb-13 12:42:00

grin at lunatic

gordyslovesheep Mon 25-Feb-13 12:44:27

Yabvvu you should learn to respond to the needs of others ...saying NO and imposing rules is very damaging to personal development

Try sitting down and talking calmly to the other person next time

GrowSomeCress Mon 25-Feb-13 12:44:30

You don't take priority just because you're first in line! Entitled and selfish, she was very obviously disabled.

YABU OP wink

HerbyVore Mon 25-Feb-13 12:46:19

Would it have hurt you to ask her yourself ?

Does no-one talk to anyone anymore, you never know you could have made a difference to her day and even made a friend.


TalkativeJim Mon 25-Feb-13 12:46:34

Being preoccupied with queuing is a very British thing so I actually find your post quite racist OP - YABU!

noblegiraffe Mon 25-Feb-13 12:47:08

The current economic climate means we all have to make sacrifices. There simply aren't enough seats on the bus for everyone to get one.

chocoluvva Mon 25-Feb-13 12:49:35

I feel very sorry for that person behind you in the queue - she must be so stressed and unhappy to have behaved like this.
YANBU to rant here, but in RL you have to suck it up.

GrowSomeCress Mon 25-Feb-13 12:55:47

In fact I can't believe you've made this thread at all, just so judgey, mind your own business OP

nurserytea Mon 25-Feb-13 13:01:24

What a mean minded miserable thread.

The person behind you was probably the bus driver's wife and he had forgotten his sandwiches for lunch and she pushed you to one side and jumped on the bus to give him the sandwiches.
But of course you had to take umbrage and walk off muttering about people skipping the queue.
Is suppose you would prefer people to starve rather than you have to wait a few extra minutes to get on the bus.
I am very tempted to report you OP as my DH is a bus driver and I am finding this thread very upsetting.

chocoluvva Mon 25-Feb-13 13:04:51

My dishwasher's making a clonking sound too - approximately every 45 seconds. Mine's a zanussi - what make is yours, SPB?

Sorry to hijack your thread OP!

LangenFlugelHappleHoff Mon 25-Feb-13 13:11:06

spoonful you got there before me...

lougle Mon 25-Feb-13 13:13:07

Could there have been a person on the bus bleeding profusely, so she pushed you out the way to apply her 'The White Company' pillowcase as a tourniquet?

GrowSomeCress Mon 25-Feb-13 13:13:33

lougle grin

Sorry choco I was lying for effect
shock at outing oneself as a troll

SolomanDaisy Mon 25-Feb-13 13:21:09

yabu for relying on state provided public transport. Take some responsibility for your own life, get a job and a car and stop expecting the rest of us to subsidise your transport arrangements. You're not entitled to a place on a bus FFS.

nurserytea Mon 25-Feb-13 13:22:46

YABVVU. Maybe that poor person had amnesia and completely forgot they hadn't been at the bus stop first.

Or maybe their annoying and interfering MIL hadn't bothered to collect the DC from nursery like she promised so the passenger had to dash there and collect them herself.

Or maybe her bridezilla friend was having a panic attack at the cake shop because the icing wasn't the same shade of pink as the bridesmaids dresses and she had to get there asap to calm her down.

Why on earth would you just assume she was 'skipping the queue'??? What a ridiculous assumption to make.

lougle Mon 25-Feb-13 13:22:56

Perhaps she had pre-paid a ticket, meaning that she in fact had a seat on the bus, just hadn't taken it up yet. You, meanwhile, only wanted a seat on the bus.

Lottikins Mon 25-Feb-13 13:25:09

YABU. He was the driver!

chocoluvva Mon 25-Feb-13 13:27:14

I know you were lying for effect, SPB grin I was entering into the spirit of this mock discussion by trying to stage a mock hijacking of it. My dishwasher is fine - and it's not a zanussi. Glad you're not really having clonking though. Not on a monday!

magimedi Mon 25-Feb-13 13:27:19

I have reported this post as YABVU to have made me laugh so much & I want it put in classics!

Yabvvvu for making me look a fool grin

lougle Mon 25-Feb-13 13:29:44

YABU. Such a first-world problem hmm

chocoluvva Mon 25-Feb-13 13:35:13

Ooh - I feel mean now - see what a hornet's nest you've stirred up, OP. I hope you're feeling proud of yourself and your attack on 'middle class' MN'ers with our 4x4's. You've really offended, SPB. I am considering reporting this thread. I luffs SPB - waves at SPB. It's people like you, OP who give MN a bad name.

Tyranasaurus Mon 25-Feb-13 13:36:47

YABU if you'd needed a seat that badly you could've just asked one of the other passengers to get off

MortifiedAdams Mon 25-Feb-13 13:37:00


She made it a queue, before her you were just a woman standing in the street. You needed her. Dont be so ungrateful.

Tyranasaurus Mon 25-Feb-13 13:38:34

Also, why has noone questioned the driver's decree that only one passenger was allowed on

nurserytea Mon 25-Feb-13 13:44:52

I really can't understand why people get so worked up about things like this. <pointless interjection but sounds all lofty and superior>

chocoluvva Mon 25-Feb-13 13:46:21

You sound quite controlling OP.

chocoluvva Mon 25-Feb-13 13:53:24

Also, YABU for wishing you'd said something at the time - the only acceptable thing to have said would be a tirade of nasty swearing and everyone knows that language like that is only acceptable on MN.

nurserytea Mon 25-Feb-13 14:00:41

I really hope MNHQ remove this thread. Some poor, disabled, amnesiac woman who has to dash to the nursery to collect her children while also saving the life of a passenger who is bleeding to death; hijacking a bus; coping with a clunking dishwasher'; and remembering to bring the bus driver his sandwiches is being villified for not letting some lazy arsed, whingy, self entitled OP on the bus ahead of her.
Definitely Mumsnet at its worst sad

TheVermiciousKnid Mon 25-Feb-13 14:13:51

And where were your children while you spent ages gallavanting about at the bus stop? Huh? Huh? Won't somebody think of the children. sad

TheVermiciousKnid Mon 25-Feb-13 14:14:55

In any case, you have really upset me with your stealth boasting. Where I live we have to phone to book the bus, they don't just turn up. You don't know how lucky you are. sad

nurserytea Mon 25-Feb-13 15:08:25

Hands OP a grip.

vladthedisorganised Mon 25-Feb-13 15:21:15

Oh thank you OP.
I'll have you know I am a person who regularly steps (I resent the innate prejudice of the word 'pushes' as I believe it to be elitist) past people to get on the bus. I actually did the very same thing this morning.
I deeply resent your implication that I'm some sort of peasant because I took my own, equal place in the queue and just happened to step past you to get on the bus. The fact that there was only one place on the bus is hardly my problem but you're being so judgemental...
I bet you describe it as the "head" of the queue as well, just part of the hierarchy that you middle-class snobs try to impose on us on a daily basis.
I'm going to cry.

FlouncingMintyy Mon 25-Feb-13 15:24:07

She was probably on her way to her dm's funeral. At least you have a mother, you should try and appreciate while you have her sad.

BlameItOnTheBogey Mon 25-Feb-13 15:27:12

YABU for not knowing how to drive and therefore being inherently selfish. People who can't drive are a drain on others.

fluffyraggies Mon 25-Feb-13 15:29:46


What's with this capitalist concept of first anyway - live and let live man. Peace.

<drifts off in cloud of smoke>

BlameItOnTheBogey: it's even worse than that, I'm afraid. The OP clearly has the gall to not be well paid enough to own a car, drive it into town and pay for the parking. Such a drain on society. If she wanted a seat she should make sure she can pay for her own private transport. Or, at the very least, a taxi.

atthewelles Mon 25-Feb-13 15:34:36

Okay, so I can't drive. But that's because I spend so much time walking a mile in other people's shoes sad.

Here, have my very first biscuit OP - not only do you post about having been angry at a more deserving case than you getting on the bus, you then try to pull the drip feed card with your non-driving and "...spend so much time other people's shoes" comments. You really should have mentioned these facts in your OP, bit suspicious they only emerge when no-one is agreeing with you.

Oh, and, YABU. grin

And I bet while you're off in their shoes they're having to wear some fluffy slippers you keep in a basket by the door for guests.

TheVermiciousKnid Mon 25-Feb-13 15:45:57

YABU. Leave the bus.

atthewelles Mon 25-Feb-13 15:53:02

Well, yes, SPB I like everything dainty in my house and I don't like people who skip queues. So what?

shockers Mon 25-Feb-13 16:08:34

Actually, he was delivering a vital organ, in a cool box, for emergency life saving surgery and NHS cutbacks meant he couldn't afford a helicopter, but you were so busy feeling offended you didn't even notice his cool box did you? Well... did you?

People like you make me so cross.

mackerella Mon 25-Feb-13 16:22:16

Are you new, OP? <head tilt> Interesting first post on MN...

Anyway, I note that you conveniently forgot to mention in your OP that the queue skipper was using a wheelchair and you were obviously the kind of selfish arse who would refuse to fold up your massive, tank-like pram, so it's no wonder she felt she had to push past you to get the only wheelchair space on the bus...

TheOriginalSteamingNit Mon 25-Feb-13 16:25:47

YANBU to wish you had something at the time, if you would have liked to.

Yabu don't need a reason

CrapBag Mon 25-Feb-13 16:28:19

YABVU, she clearly has SN rather than just being a rude entitled member of society.

MrsKoala Mon 25-Feb-13 16:42:54

I think its discusting your DH let you take the bus while he has the car? Is he always so EA?

MrsKoala Mon 25-Feb-13 16:43:32

Marks place

MrsKoala Mon 25-Feb-13 16:43:55

<Get's popcorn>

No is a complete sentence you know OP. why didn't you say no to her?

I'd have told her to fuck off to the far side of fuck and when she got there to fuck off some more.

MrsDeVere Mon 25-Feb-13 16:50:29

If you had simply worked harder and made the right choices in life
You wouldn't need to get on a bus in the first place.

I am SICK of people whining that they have a hard life simply because they are too lazy to get off their arses and get a decent job and rich parents

Damn it, never mind a car, by now you should own the bus company.

And as a side issue, are you always this passive aggressive?

Interesting that the OP hasn't been back for a while...

FeistyLass Mon 25-Feb-13 17:04:43

YABVVU, you're assuming the other person was a mind reader. How was she supposed to know you were waiting for that bus? You might just have stopped for a rest or may have wanted a different bus.
I think you have deeper issues and suggest you post in a different part of MN that deals specifically with transport-linked neurosis. It's not all about you op.

MrsKoala Mon 25-Feb-13 17:12:37

Is this a reverse aibu?

Was the other woman also breastfeeding in an aggressive manner?

TheVermiciousKnid Mon 25-Feb-13 18:21:18

I think MrsKoala has got it. YABU for posting a reverse AIBU.

McNewPants2013 Mon 25-Feb-13 18:23:09

yabu, why didn't you get a taxi. I bet your a very rich and don't really need to use the bus.

HazeltheMcWitch Mon 25-Feb-13 18:23:47


HazeltheMcWitch Mon 25-Feb-13 18:25:00

Shag, biscuit's been done already.

In that case - FGS, OP, how do you know you're not invisible? In which case, how the jeff was she expected to see you? hmm

PastaBeeandCheese Mon 25-Feb-13 18:31:17

The OP will be back any minute to drip feed that it was a parent and child bus and the pushy person didn't even have a child.

Ullena Mon 25-Feb-13 18:39:12

YABU - it was your own fault that you failed to notice the zombie horde that the other person had spotted and was clearly avoiding. How dare you be so lacking in basic zombie horde avoidance skills, OP? It's people like you that turn minor outbreaks into full on apocalypses! angry

RalphGnu Mon 25-Feb-13 18:54:32

Maybe her cat had died you selfish fuck


RalphGnu Mon 25-Feb-13 19:00:44

Here we go, the OP likes everything 'dainty'. Some of us can't help being hefty oafs with dead cats and a penchant for public transport, you know. Why don't you take that entitled attitude of yours and fling yourself to the far side of fuck, you cunt.

lougle Mon 25-Feb-13 19:00:49

Maybe she had to get to a particular telephone box before a certain time in order to meet the demands of her Child's captor

(has watched Ransom too many times)

Maybe they were from a culture that does not queue?
Ignorant and racist OP

lougle Mon 25-Feb-13 19:03:09

Maybe, just maybe, she had a man with a stump chasing her, pretending to be a policeman...

oh no, that's The Pelican Brief.

ouryve Mon 25-Feb-13 19:05:07

If you'd made use of that big pink thing in your head, you would not be wondering this, now. You would know for certain.


ThreadWorms Mon 25-Feb-13 19:05:54

Ywnbu to feel annoyed.

But you already knew that so Yabvvvu to start a thread about it here. This is AIBU, not somewhere to have a moan.

Can't believe you're not riding a horse, you environmentally unaware fuckwit.

LadyBeagleEyes Mon 25-Feb-13 19:13:22

The sheer concept of queueing is so British, and you sound a bit pathetic Op
If you live on the continent you 'll find that the French or Italians don't bother with all that malarkey, which makes for a far more tolerant society.
Learn to push and shove or you'll never make it in this world.
It's everyman/woman for themselves these days.
There is no such thing as society.

almapudden Mon 25-Feb-13 19:20:33

OP, I am the woman who 'pushed' past you, as you so rudely termed it. It might interest you to know that I have a very serious debilitating condition called crowd-blindness. I also have low self-esteem and it's people like you who make it so difficult for me to leave the house every day.

I hope you're proud of yourself. I am literally shaking with anger and shame sad

Snazzynewyear Mon 25-Feb-13 19:21:56

She'd probably come straight from counselling aimed at making her more assertive and had been told to practice her skills, thus you were colluding in her continued oppression by thinking you could just get on the bus. How can you be so selfish? If you're not part of the solution you're part of the problem.

foxache Mon 25-Feb-13 19:24:16

Are you young?

beautyfades Mon 25-Feb-13 19:31:58

This is why i love mumsnet! I do not think YABU, if someone jumps the queue that is wrong, is it not?

LondonMother Mon 25-Feb-13 19:33:39

YABVVU, OP. The other person was clearly a spirited child whose parents wisely let him/her do exactly as s/he wished. You're the kind of person who probably doesn't like it in restaurants when children use waiters carrying scalding hot food as a slalom run, aren't you?

TheVermiciousKnid Mon 25-Feb-13 19:36:39

Are you in Scotland?

OldLadyKnowsNothing Mon 25-Feb-13 19:58:55

What's with the Scotland comment, you some sort of racist?

<starts bunfight>

TheVermiciousKnid Mon 25-Feb-13 20:01:32

Stop bullying me! angry

<picks up bun to throw>

<eats bun>

SirBoobAlot Mon 25-Feb-13 20:03:00

Why didn't you get on an earlier bus? Jesus, some people are so disorganised, and then expect other people to make their lives a priority.

ChaChaDigregorio Mon 25-Feb-13 20:10:20

Personally I find this whole thread unreasonable. Who are you OP to judge other people's judgements of reasonableness? YABVU.

I don't think the OP deserves such a flaming.

Nest of fucking vipers the lot of you. angry

HerbyVore Mon 25-Feb-13 20:15:21

There's so much bullying on this thread...
you should all be ashamed of yourselves sad

MrsDeVere Mon 25-Feb-13 20:23:02

Not this old subject again
OP there is a search function on MN you know.

I don't believe this really happened did it OP? hmm, was the wasp on the bus? Did the lady trex her way onto the bus?
You're very confident for a new poster arncha?

<not troll hunting, just concerned>

butterflyexperience Mon 25-Feb-13 20:30:23

Bah haha
Please put this thread into classics smile

ThreadWorms Mon 25-Feb-13 20:35:47


Smudging Mon 25-Feb-13 20:50:49

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

vladthedisorganised Tue 26-Feb-13 10:03:32

This is awful. The OP clearly has a compulsive queueing disorder and everyone seems to have turned on her. Nasty thread.

Not of course that I'm defending the OP's attitude to the woman who got on the bus: clearly she was entirely within her rights to do so and frankly we have no right to expect otherwise.

And I have a phobia of bus queues, I didn't pass my grade six cor anglais and I insisted that everyone brought a gold-plated toilet brush to my baby shower, WHY IS EVERYONE JUDGING MEEEEEEE?

grin (Can we put this in Classics please?)

atthewelles Tue 26-Feb-13 10:03:34

Thanks for all the bitching helpful points of view. I can see now that I was wrong to assume that someone skipping the queue was skipping the queue simply because I saw them skipping the queue.

I will try not to be so judgmental in future. [blush[

atthewelles Tue 26-Feb-13 10:04:14

blush even.

chocoluvva Tue 26-Feb-13 10:06:42

Anyone else noticed that the OP has flounced off?

OP, Did you mean to be rude?

Oblomov Tue 26-Feb-13 10:17:59

Why didn't you get on the bus and push her off with all your might, shouting "you think you can come here, claim benefits, but taking my place on the bus is just a step too far, you b*tch, now F*ck off".

nurserytea Tue 26-Feb-13 11:17:49


If you read over your post it is very me, me, me. I was standing at the bus stop, first in the queue, the person behind pushed me to one side. Really, its all in your language and I'm not surprised the person behind you picked up on your totally selfish vibes and decided to give you a taste of your own medicine.
Maybe try looking beyond your own needs now and again and your relationships with other people might improve. I'm saying this to be helpful, you understand? smile <polishes passive aggressive halo>

TheVermiciousKnid Tue 26-Feb-13 11:20:24

YABU. And there really was no need to go to the Daily Mail with your 'story' - complete with picture of you with sad face and the bus driving off into the sunset. Pathetic.

atthewelles Tue 26-Feb-13 12:08:35

I am very upset that people think I have 'flounced off'. I am not a flouncy off type of person. I am actually normally quite easy going and live and let live, but this experience has really upset me and I wish I hadn't posted now as you have all made me feel awful. I got half way to the bus stop this morning and had to go home in tears. I think I will have to hide this thread. sad

lougle Tue 26-Feb-13 12:29:24

Do you think someone should contact MNHQ? Perhaps they can send the SWAT team police or ambulance.

OP, please do get in touch again to let us know all the juicy gossip that you are ok.

We are concerned about you now sad sad

lougle Tue 26-Feb-13 12:31:04

Perhaps we could set up some sort of collection for the OP so that they can avoid that bus stop in future? Perhaps a 'taxi fund'?

chocoluvva Tue 26-Feb-13 12:53:32

OP, YABU to have posted in this forum - this is what chat is for. You need a thick skin for AIBU. But it's great that you've taken some of the points on board. [pat on the head emoticon]

Read the posts and take the advice. It's simple: lookout for zombies and cool boxes at all times,be less self-centered, have some sympathy for disabled queueers, don't be frightened to assert yourself, but suck it up when required, remember that pregnant women are always bursting to go to the loo, don't be constrained by cultural norms such as queueing (remember that MN'ers who don't live in Britain are wiser than you), improve your communication skills, don't make assumptions, never forget that most people aren't as lucky as you, get to know the bus timetable for your region, try not to appear so aggressive (possibly consider covering your tattoos?).

You have taken the first step to being a better person queuer/MN'er by acknowledging that you were completely in the wrong. smile

chocoluvva Tue 26-Feb-13 13:04:51

OP, OP, are you alright?

atthewelles Tue 26-Feb-13 13:06:43


lougle Tue 26-Feb-13 13:08:07

It's been an hour since the OP last posted.

I'm really worried about you now, OP. Please come back and tell us you're still breathing ok.

Does anyone know aththewelles on another section of MN?

Perhaps we need to report again, I hope MNHQ see this <tremble>

lougle Tue 26-Feb-13 13:09:25

Oh x-posts with the OP!!! I'm so relieved you are ok, if sad.

atthewelles Tue 26-Feb-13 13:10:09

I told you! I've hidden the thread, so I can't hear you anymore <peeps around curtain to make sure am still centre of attention>.

Blipbip Tue 26-Feb-13 13:13:21

I suspect that this pregnant, grieving, disabled, obese, queue jumper probably did you a favour as you were certainly about to get on the wrong bus anyway.


TheVermiciousKnid Tue 26-Feb-13 13:21:39

Look at all the sockpuppets! Disgraceful.

chocoluvva Tue 26-Feb-13 13:23:02

Are you in the North West? I know a good counsellor who specialises in OCD who would be able to help you with your 'dainty' compulsive behaviours.

If you're in the South East there are loads of driving instructors. (I can't speak for scotland though).

You can run but you can't hide unless you're a peeping tom-.

Hang on, you ARE a peeping tom, lurking there behind your curtains. You are trying to make fools of us with your endless drip feeding. I'm getting bored with this thread now anyway - it's going round in circles now.

atthewelles Tue 26-Feb-13 13:24:50

<louder sob> <peeps cautiously around curtain>

ginslinger Tue 26-Feb-13 13:28:04

Only on Mumsnet could anyone think that this was a problem

TheVermiciousKnid Tue 26-Feb-13 13:29:49

I can't believe you wasted your time, and more importantly our time (and most importantly my time), by posting about such a non-issue. Have you got nothing better to do? I suggest you get a life.

chocoluvva Tue 26-Feb-13 13:33:24

Maybe you'd be happier on a different forum - you know the one I mean smile

Also, you asked if YABU "to wonder how many ways...". I notice that you haven't counted the ways. I don't mean to be unkind, but I'm extremely busy - I don't really have time to dispense advice like this - I'm going to get my ears threaded in an hour and I've a bun in the oven going brown (hope DH doesn't notice as he's a ginger man) - and TBH, you're coming across as a teensy bit ungrateful with your loud sobs. Remember, MN is not a soap opera.

Blipbip Tue 26-Feb-13 13:35:44

YANBU you are insane.

Do you not realise that fate has intervened here, this is the way that your day was supposed to run it was predestined is that a word? to be this way and to question your destiny is clearly insane

Blipbip Tue 26-Feb-13 13:37:14


crashdoll Tue 26-Feb-13 13:39:37

Has anyone declared this a first world problem yet?

Also, at least you can afford the bus, OP, some of us can't!

TheChimpParadox Tue 26-Feb-13 13:40:52

FFS OP - Get a grip !

RalphGnu Tue 26-Feb-13 13:55:34

Wow, OP. Do you know how lucky you are to have curtains?

My neighbour, Sharon, hasn't been able to afford new curtains since her free goat ate the last pair. The light shines in on her 50 inch plasma tv something chronic.

On OP you need to be strong. YABU to get upset. I can't believe your tolerate this behaviour. You simy must LTB (leave the bus stop).

<been do e but felt the ned to repeat emoticon>

atthewelles Tue 26-Feb-13 13:59:01

<Realises no one is paying me any attention. Comes out from behind curtain and wanders casually into room, flicking hair and looking 'sad'>

ItsAllGoingToBeFine Tue 26-Feb-13 14:01:37

<marking place>

KatyTheCleaningLady Tue 26-Feb-13 14:15:07

This is an awesome thread.

MyFabulousBoys Tue 26-Feb-13 14:16:19



atthewelles Tue 26-Feb-13 14:17:10

<lips starting to tremble ominously again>

Blipbip Tue 26-Feb-13 14:23:07

trolls, sock puppetry, poo anyone?

Marking my place for deletion message grin

atthewelles Tue 26-Feb-13 14:29:04

<takes big warning breath>

Sallyingforth Tue 26-Feb-13 14:32:11

Totally unreasonable to post it on here.
Much better to have unfriended her on Facebook. - after posting pictures of her getting on the bus on your wall.

lougle Tue 26-Feb-13 14:35:59

UCM is that you??

TwoPoundCharityShopShoes Tue 26-Feb-13 14:37:11

MN at it's worst sad

RobinSparkles Tue 26-Feb-13 14:37:48

<Hands OP a hard hat>
<munches popcorn>

Chucks biscuit

atthewelles Tue 26-Feb-13 14:40:09

<Waaaaaaaaah Waaaaaaaaaaaah. Runs back behind curtain>

Maryz Tue 26-Feb-13 14:40:25

I have reported you all for being such bitches shock

RobinSparkles Tue 26-Feb-13 14:41:54

OP, if you spend so much time "walking miles in other people's shoes" why couldn't you walk instead of getting the bus?

Why do you wear other people's shoes? You sound very selfish and grabby! I'd be pissed off if you wore my shoes because I bet you stink. Everyone knows that only smelly people take buses anyway!

lougle Tue 26-Feb-13 14:42:21

<pulls curtains open triumphantly and hoiks teeny tiny bosom>

We can still see you, you know hmm

RobinSparkles Tue 26-Feb-13 14:43:40

I have reported this thread for being offensive to pushers.

OP, for example, is a twat.

lougle Tue 26-Feb-13 14:44:52

Ahem...*RobinSparkles*, I think you mean:

The OP is behaving in a manner that some might describe as 'being twattish'.

atthewelles Tue 26-Feb-13 14:48:53

Fuck of lougle and leave me alooooone.

I've had loads and loads of PMs telling me I'm wonderful so there!

lougle Tue 26-Feb-13 14:53:56

This is so typical of AIBU

OP: AIBU blah blah blah
One million, one hundred thousand, one thousand, one hundred and one posters: YABU
OP: But, but, but...I really A(N)BU
Everyone: Y*A*BU
OP: Oh do get lost.

Have many imaginary friends, then, OP??

chocoluvva Tue 26-Feb-13 14:56:29

OP, are you a journo? I'm sick of journo's shamelessly mining the wealth of riches that is the MN community instead of getting out there in the real world and doing proper research. (Unlike you I didn't let the trials of daily life get the better of me going out and about into the real world when I plastered on a fake smile and headed off on my donkey to get my ears threaded earlier. My brand-new 4x4 was slightly scratched and I'd broken a nail, but I didn't turn round and go straight back home like you then whinge about it on this interminable thread.) I'm saying this for your own good - you need to grow a pair.

I always spot when 'posters' are really journos because I am an astute mother of three teenagers. Wait till yours are teenagers - boy, will you be in for a shock!

Also, sorry to be long-winded, normally I'm really concise, but has it never occurred to you that the person who shoved past you yesterday might have been deeply embarrassed by you staring at her hairy legs? She might not have been able to get out to aldi's for a razor for all you know.

lougle Tue 26-Feb-13 14:58:19

I feel a bit dirty now sad I spent time and energy on this thread, all for nothing, because the OP's a tabloid journo.

This thread is typical of what's going wrong with MN recently. It used to be such a nice, supportive place but now it's full of selfish entitled people like the OP. It's a sign of how broken Britain is that no-one even cares enough to let someone get on the bus. You should be ashamed of yourself OP, the country is going to the fucking dogs and it's all your fault.

OverlyYappy Tue 26-Feb-13 15:04:03

OP clearly has some passive aggressive issues going on imo

chocoluvva Tue 26-Feb-13 15:05:54

I know. I let two people hitch a ride on the back of my donkey and neither of them has even written me a thankyou letter. It makes me feel quite stabby.

TheVermiciousKnid Tue 26-Feb-13 15:06:17

You know (that's all of you!), your computer/laptop/tablet/phone/abacus does have an off switch. Use it.


LadyBeagleEyes Tue 26-Feb-13 15:10:51

I can't believe this thread is still here. Has it been reported?

Maryz Tue 26-Feb-13 15:37:58

The really scary thing about this thread is that I have seen every single reply here posted earnestly on some thread or another recently.

It is scarily true.

lougle Tue 26-Feb-13 15:50:37

OP, could you be described as hairy of hand?

lougle Tue 26-Feb-13 15:51:16

Aha....I've got it.

Everybody scroll up to the top of the page. Look right.


ThreadWorms Tue 26-Feb-13 15:55:36

Op, can you please repost using proper grammar, punctuation, paragraphs and without the use of text speak? Maybe then I could read it and actually answer your question.

For not posting in the preferred format yabu. This country is going to the dogs!!!

I know op hasn't done this burning keeping with the thread and all that grin

ThreadWorms Tue 26-Feb-13 15:56:18

but in keeping

YABU for having a first world problem.

Some people don't even have bus routes to worry about.

DameFanny Tue 26-Feb-13 16:10:23

Yabu OP. I snorted at the second reply and nearly choked on a flapjack. I COULD HAVE DIED. sad

Blipbip Tue 26-Feb-13 16:16:41

someone needs to get their post deleted for breaking MN talk guidelines for this to a real AIBU

<taps foot and awaits volunteer>

chocoluvva Tue 26-Feb-13 16:17:29

Sorry, I haven't read all this thread so apologies if it's been mentioned already, but you are just mean to judge the person behind you in the queue for having a greggs carrier bag - there might NOT have been a sausage roll in it for all you know.

atthewelles Tue 26-Feb-13 16:17:34

Yes, Olivia hasn't even come on and said 'ahem' or anything. It's just not faaair!

atthewelles Tue 26-Feb-13 16:18:24

Actually, all joking aside, I've just been on another thread and it reads exactly like this one. Except they're being serious.

Blipbip Tue 26-Feb-13 16:19:47


Blipbip Tue 26-Feb-13 16:20:28

oops I need to get over there then

TheVermiciousKnid Tue 26-Feb-13 16:20:50

<puts on Olivia mask>


chocoluvva Tue 26-Feb-13 16:23:09

Which thread?

GrowSomeCress Tue 26-Feb-13 16:25:22

Maryz I know, I thought the same thing! I wonder what those posters think of this thread grin

Shaky Tue 26-Feb-13 16:29:04

OP you are just attention seeking now.


<hands OP box of grips>

SirEdmundFrillary Tue 26-Feb-13 16:31:52

You're not unreasonable, it's horrible to be pushed, there might have been all sorts of reasons why she was being like that so I'm not sure whether saying something would have been a good idea. It depends.

foxache Tue 26-Feb-13 16:47:45

RobinSparkles Tue 26-Feb-13 16:49:17

Message deleted by MNHQ for breaking talk guidelines.

RobinSparkles Tue 26-Feb-13 16:53:06

"Actually, all joking aside, I've just been on another thread and it reads exactly like this one. Except they're being serious."

Erm hmm <points to talk guidelines>
You are aware that you aren't allowed a thread about a thread about a thread about a thread?


DameFanny Tue 26-Feb-13 17:16:39

Message deleted by MNHQ for taking break guidelines.

TwoPoundCharityShopShoes Tue 26-Feb-13 17:17:06

OP i drove past your bus stop, presumabley as this was happening, i could have picked you up but I didnt want peasant grime in my 4x4... YABU dirty bus wanker let that be a lesson to you

TheVermiciousKnid Tue 26-Feb-13 17:29:17

Message deleted by MNHQ for breaking wind.

RobinSparkles Tue 26-Feb-13 18:09:14

TheVermiciousKnid, that's just plain rude and out of order! angry

TheVermiciousKnid Tue 26-Feb-13 18:18:49

blush It was the dog! Honestly!


I'll give it a go. <cracks knuckles>

Well I would've given you a lift, but it would've meant leaving my dc in nursery, driving you home then turning around driving back & picking up my dc. And all this in a thunderstorm. And i know that no one in their right mind would expect hat! Right?

<wonders if anyone gets this or you all think I'm nuts>

babies grin grin - actually, how did that one end?

OP - if you're not prepared to accept the really good, if robust, support, you've received on this thread, then I really wonder why you bothered to post in the first place.

Orwellian Tue 26-Feb-13 19:44:16

YABU. She was probably a disabled lesbian Labour voting Muslim. Now go flagellate yourself!

MagzFarqharson Tue 26-Feb-13 20:07:56

How can you be so insensitive OP?

She was more than likely rushing back to confront the man washing his van on her private driveway. Unlike you OP, she has grown a pair.

So yes, YABU!

Blipbip Tue 26-Feb-13 20:14:17

babies grin I was saving that one for later, has it gone already? shock

BinksToEnlightenment Tue 26-Feb-13 20:42:38

She sounds very troubled. OP can you print this thread out and give it to her GP?

Also, you need to volunteer yourself as the local Mumsnetter to go with her. Prepare your hand for a good long holding.

Is she ok OP?

<head tilt>

RobinSparkles Tue 26-Feb-13 21:00:06

I don't know why you lot are bothering to feed the troll!

zoobaby Tue 26-Feb-13 21:04:24

Well it's pretty obvious that you should just LTB, innit? [since this is the one and only time I'll ever advise that course of action then I think it's also biscuit worthy].

Maryz Tue 26-Feb-13 21:08:04

The troll-hunting and troll-hunter-hunting on this thread is a disgrace.

Mumnset Towers must be on the [gin] asleep again hmm

jinsymaw Tue 26-Feb-13 21:23:38

Op you sound very entitled! Hate that sodding phrase! Haha, do luv the pearl clutching though. Dirty mare, that let young bairn piss int potty ( Pizza Hut thread) dirty b@@:-.,"ds!

Ring the police on the non emergency number.

Have you rang the police yet OP?


OMFG!! That's the last time I give advice, she hasnt even come back to update and we've all been really supportive to the OP even though she's being Unreasonable and doesn't want to hear it!!!

I'm reporting this thread!!!

Arf @ Alex

CaptainVonTrapp Tue 26-Feb-13 22:15:42

Where I live (not the UK, someone unnamed and mysterious) it would have been absolutely fine for the second person in line to have got on the bus (possibly naked).

So, you guessed it, YABU.

Thinking about it, I think we've all been extremely reasonable on this thread by giving the OP exactly what it wants she wanted. So, I am now going to say

[takes deep breath] YA*N*BU OP.

Hmm - that didn't go entirely the way I meant it to blush

Maryz Tue 26-Feb-13 22:36:37

ffs, Moonlight, can you not see what is right in front of your nose?

This is a reverse aibu, and the op is actually the queue skipper with the personal problems who has a God-given right to get on the bus hmm

fluffywhitekittens Tue 26-Feb-13 22:59:19


Blast, you mean I just fed the troll OP? blush blush blush

[Goes off to name-change in shame]

Penance, I meant penance! [more blush'es]

Shaky Tue 26-Feb-13 23:43:45

Jeez, YABU, will anyone think about the goats

Blipbip Wed 27-Feb-13 08:18:45

Honestly OP? is this the most important thing in your life?

Well aren't you the lucky one hmm

I have got better things to waste my time on

atthewelles Wed 27-Feb-13 10:05:46

I have spent all night behind that sodding curtain and not one of you came to see if I was alright. Just in case any of you are worried (not) I'm fine and am now going to hide this thread again and go back behind my curtain in yet another attempt to make you all feel guilty.

I might even flounce off, and then you'll all be really sorry <hopeful>

WorraLiberty Wed 27-Feb-13 10:14:09

It's been roughly 9 minutes since the OP threatened to flounce.

By now she must have been inundated with PMs begging her to stay....

atthewelles Wed 27-Feb-13 10:20:18

<In muffled voice from behind curtain> Yes, I have and if I hadn't hidden this thread I would be coming back on to quote some of the lovely messages I've received. But I've hidden the thread so I can't hear what any of you are saying.

OverlyYappy Wed 27-Feb-13 10:38:10

I had to log off early and go o bed due to this thread, then couldn't sleep *at all*as this thread has been going round in my head all night, I do hope OP gets some help [sad [sad sad

<hides thread>


vladthedisorganised Wed 27-Feb-13 10:40:24

Nurseries are teaching are kidz 2 wait in queues some of u might be offended by this but I speak as I find and Im not being funny but Ive seen children hiding behind curtains in nurseries to which just shows the sorry state our country is in these days.
RU OK OP????

atthewelles Thu 28-Feb-13 10:58:42

Thanks for the inventive replies everyone.

After 233 posts, I think all the usual type responses have been covered:

The posters who get the wrong end of the stick and criticise the OP for something she never said;

The posters who come up with wild and wonderful scenarios to excuse an inexcusable action;

The posters who latch on to some minor detail in the opening post and try and make the thread all about that;

The self righteous posters who twist, turn, rattle and shake everything in order to show how unoffended, tolerant and PC they are;

The posters who try and make the OP feel bad for starting a thread about such a trivial subject when there are people with far worse problems in the world;

and, of course, the poster who goes to the trouble of opening the thread and logging on to superciliously tell everyone she has no interest in the topic under discussion confused

LadyBeagleEyes Thu 28-Feb-13 11:16:34

grin OP.
It was a most excellent thread, it should go into classics.
Then when threads do go that way, we can refer posters to it.

atthewelles Thu 28-Feb-13 11:19:44

That would be great LadyBeagle. Who decides which threads to save as classics?

LadyBeagleEyes Thu 28-Feb-13 11:25:28

I've no idea, atthewelles, I'm sure someone that knows will come on and tell us.

SandraBullock Thu 28-Feb-13 11:26:22


It was me . I have a living to make , you know . I was contractually obliged to board that bus and drive it at over 60mph for 98 minutes . YABVU. Just because I am an actress doesn't mean to say I don't have feelings.

Were you the woman who knocked over my fiance as well?


RobinSparkles Thu 28-Feb-13 11:37:35

Atthewelles, I think you just report your original post to nominate for classics. I have done so grin.

LadyBeagleEyes Thu 28-Feb-13 11:41:14

Just 'reported' it too Robin.
Thanks for info.

atthewelles Thu 28-Feb-13 12:09:20


chocoluvva Thu 28-Feb-13 13:28:18

AIBU to think this thread was fun? smile

RebeccaMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 28-Feb-13 13:32:52

YANBU - We have moved this to classics now grin

TheVermiciousKnid Fri 01-Mar-13 10:31:15

You are all unreasonable. I am the only reasonable person. On the planet.

Almost true fact.

BinksToEnlightenment Fri 01-Mar-13 20:04:18

I've only just seen the Sandra Bullock post. Genius grin

Trills Fri 01-Mar-13 20:06:30

I am glad this is now in classics because obviously you were not asking if you were being unreasonable to wonder, you were just asking people to come up with ways to say YABU.

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