What's the loveliest thing that anyone has ever said to you and it really registered?

(290 Posts)
Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 10:57:19

Feelgood please....no mervin' or talking about bum and banjos.

<<feels the draft of 1000's running out of this thread's door>>

MikeOxardInTheSnow Wed 23-Jan-13 11:02:38

When dd was newborn my lovely mw said she thought dh and I would be great parents. And we are!

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 11:04:15

Oh that is a lovely thing to say.

Do you reckon she said that to everyone Mike grin

JoandMax Wed 23-Jan-13 11:07:42

My uncle who has in the past been a difficult man, somewhat standoffish etc sent me a letter after a family Xmas do to say he thought my children were delightful, I was a lovely mum and he was so pleased I was happy! It made me a bit weepy

WorraLiberty Wed 23-Jan-13 11:07:55

"You're an atrocious cunt Worra but I like your shoes"

And to be fair, they were great shoes.

daddyorchipsdaddyorchips Wed 23-Jan-13 11:09:15

I met DP not long after I'd split up with my fiance. It was an amicable split but I wasn't ready to get into anything serious. So he waited. Quite a long time.

When we finally got together, I thanked him for sticking around.

He said he'd have waited forever for me and it would still have been worth it.

<boak> wink

My cousin recently told me that my personality was becoming more like my (dear departed) Mums as I got older. This is the greatest compliment anyone could give me.

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 11:09:29

Ahhhhh great shoes and being a great parent.....enough to warm your cockle for sure grin

Yes I register the "great mum" ones.

Psammead Wed 23-Jan-13 11:09:45

"You have hair like spun silk"

Said to me by a colleague who was notoriously blunt and a bit scary. I'll always remember that.

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 11:10:02

Oh these are really lovely.
<<wibbles>>

SureFineWhatever Wed 23-Jan-13 11:10:40

Husband's cousin's husband hmm said I was a 'really lovely mum' the other day.

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 11:11:02

Psammead....I think that colleague probably had a crush on you....did they clean out your bin ever?

WorraLiberty Wed 23-Jan-13 11:13:25

He said he'd have waited forever for me and it would still have been worth it

May I suggest you remind him of this the next time you're taking ages to get ready and he's pacing and staring at his watch? grin

Psammead Wed 23-Jan-13 11:15:09

No she didn't!! She just looked up from her work - we sat opposite each other - and the sunlight was sort of shining right on my hair, which is a bit reddish, and she just sort of sighed, said it, and went straight back to work. It was the genuity I remember. I'm not confident in my looks, but I like my hair now!

Sunnywithshowers Wed 23-Jan-13 11:17:08

When my DNephew was 6, he asked my DSis for my phone number. Because 'If you die, she can look after me.'

My favourite compliment ever. smile

SirBoobAlot Wed 23-Jan-13 11:18:34

I saw an ex a little while ago on the bus. We'd had a bad break up - neither of us were well mentally at the time, and it could have only ever ended in tears. Anyway we were sat next to each other on the bus chatting, and I blurted out, "I'm sorry." He smiled at me, gave my hand a quick squeeze, and told me that he only remembered the good bits. We went past a fountain that we used to meet by, and DS was talking about it, I said, "Yes that is the fountain, well done", to which ex smiled and said, "Yes, it's the best fountain in the world!"

I'd carried around the upset and embarrassment of what had happened for years, and it physically lifted the weight. We're both happy now - I'm with DP, and he got engaged over Christmas - and it was just so nice. Also fought against my filters of ''If I upset someone once they will hate me forever''.

EllenJaneisstillnotmyname Wed 23-Jan-13 11:18:35

In a school report in the sixth form, 'Margaret, as her name implies, is a pearl in our midst, whose lustre never dims!' Didn't appreciate it at the time, but it was rather nice, wasn't it? Not at all creepy!

I had a customer tell me at work that I was wonderful and that I'd made their day with how helpful and nice I was to them, and thank me for sorting them out.
Its such a simple thing but it made me a bit wibbly because so many people are rude to you when you work in retail

valiumredhead Wed 23-Jan-13 11:20:13

My dad visiting me in hospital after having ds and he said ' I could't be prouder, I really couldn't' <sniff>

ShowOfHands Wed 23-Jan-13 11:20:45

I watched a crap film with dh about some people who resorted to cannibalism whilst stranded up a snowy hill. I asked him afterwards if he'd eat me if I carked it in that situation. He said he'd lie down next to me, hold my hand and die himself as it wouldn't be worth going on. I think perhaps he just thinks I'd be full of gristle and bones...

I did overhear a conversation not meant for me once and the absolute love of my life at that time (aged 17, didn't know he knew I existed) said to his mate "showy's the sort of girl you could take away for a weekend, spend all your money on her and just be grateful if she even let you hold her hand for five minutes". And let's be clear here folks, I'd have let him hold more than my hand. That meant a lot actually. I'd adored him from afar since we started secondary school and was so desperately in love with him that I couldn't even look directly at him, let alone speak to him. We became friends later, still friends now, and he admitted to me one night (he was tipsy) that he'd spent 7 years of school/college steeling himself to speak to me but was frightened he'd blurt out 'I love you' and I'd cry with horror and he'd have to open his wrists immediately. It made me feel very special. High School was shitty and I felt very unloved.

JustAHolyFool Wed 23-Jan-13 11:23:07

"You're one of those girls who thinks they can act like a bitch because they're pretty."

At the time I thought I was a right minger, so that perked me up.

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 11:24:22

That's it I've gone <<wails>>

Sooooo warming.

I'm a whisker away from calling you all huns ...

daddyorchipsdaddyorchips Wed 23-Jan-13 11:28:26

Worra I'm afraid it's quite the opposite where we are concerned. I can be ready and sitting enjoying a glass of wine and he'll still be faffing around deciding which colour shirt to wear!

steppemum Wed 23-Jan-13 11:31:23

I have realy struggled with our ds at times, and often feel like a crap mum

One of my friends told me I was her mummy mentor. (she asks my sdvice lots on parenting issues) When I laughed and said but I am hardly a good role model, look at how hard I find ds, she said, that is why you are my mummy mentor, I watch you dealing with him and you are so wise, I hope I am like that as a mum too.

it was possibly one of the nicest things ever said to me.
Still not sure it is true (had majorly crappy morning with ds this morning) she doesn't see me shouting when I am at the end of my tether, but I treasure it.

A friend (who'd I'd only known a couple of moths through work as a nanny) told me (after I said that I didn't know if I'd have kids...I don't reckon I'll be very good at it as at least I can hand my charges back...was slightly jokey!) I absolutely had to have children, it would be such a waste of me if I didn't

I realise most people would be hmm about it, but it's genuinly one of the nicest things ever said to me

DD 2.5 has just started saying 'I loves you sooo much' smilesmilesmile and 'mummy you're luffly' gringringrin

My auntie earlier this year told us our 2 DC do us proud. I felt like saying 'wait til the terrible twos really hit' grin

Pagwatch Wed 23-Jan-13 11:38:42

I don't have much confidence about a lot of things. I had a crap education but I feel I have some common sense.
Ds1 had been to his interview at Oxford.
When he came back he was raving about two of the women he met there.
He said 'they were great. Other than you and my English tutor at school they are the smartest women I have ever met. You should have gone to uni mum - you have no idea how brilliant you are'

I still fill up thinking about it and it made me feel much braver about things.

A girl on my course told me that she is always pleased to see me because I am so smiley and it makes her feel happy. I am going through an awful time at the moment and thought I was wondering around with a face like a boot. Her comment made me feel a lot better and I think I make more an effort to be that smiley person now.

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 11:46:10

Pagwatch! <<beams>>

Pagwatch Wed 23-Jan-13 11:48:14

smile

I still get dewy eyed.
Especially as like mst teenage boys he ended to look at me as if I was a slug with legs
grin

A 4 yr old ds once entered the bathroom while I was waxing my very hairy calves and asked me what was I doing. I said "I am waxing my hair, ds" and he said "Oh why? it is beautiful", while stroking my (very hairy) calves...

It still warms my heart, bless him.

DuchessFanny Wed 23-Jan-13 12:01:57

My parents have each seperately told me i'm a ' fantastic Mum' which made me wobble a bit ( always worried i'm getting it horribly wrong )

And just lately was in the presence of two friends when one turned to the other and said " Duchess has delightful children, happy and kind and polite " nearly bawled there and then !

Children stuff, it will stay with me forever ... another one though which made my day, week, month, life ! My best friend and i were talking about our DHs and i admitted i've never felt good enough for him, even though he has never been anything but absolutely lovely to me, when she said " really ? because one night he told me that he couldn't wait to marry you so he could show you off, and couldn't possibly imagine life without you , you're the love of his life " i started crying there and then !!

DeafLeopard Wed 23-Jan-13 12:03:01

Sobbing at some of these

A friend "You are the kindest person I know"
DDad "You're turning into your Mum, you have unbelievable patience and love for your children"

And last week DN was off nursery and given the choice of dsis taking the day off work or spending the day with me, she chose me [preening Auntie]

Pagwatch Wed 23-Jan-13 12:03:10

grin at Franca
<<strokes her hairy calves>>

daimbardiva Wed 23-Jan-13 12:05:22

Yesterday, the chairman of the board of the company I work for told me that, if it wasn't for me, he genuinely believes we would have gone bust 18mo ago.

I am still speechless as this had not even crossed my mind before.I was just getting on with my job. smile

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 12:09:15

Blimey !

TheMaskedHorror Wed 23-Jan-13 12:11:35

'I can't believe you're a real person!' Dh in a tipsy stupor when we first started going out grin

ApplePippa Wed 23-Jan-13 12:15:37

We had a long hard struggle to conceive DS, and due to fertility issues he will be our only child. He is autistic with severe speech delay.

Last spring when DS turned 3 I was really struggling with the fact that I'd never heard my own child call me "Mummy" - something that everyone else just seems to takes for granted. I was talking to a very wise and lovely lady ay my church, and expressing frustration that I felt I had been waiting forever to be called Mummy. It was a small thing, but just mattered to me - a lot.

She patted me on the shoulder and said, "Apple, he calls you Mummy all the time. You just don't hear him yet". Needless to say, I burst into floods of tears.

But I held onto her words through some difficult times! I still well up when I think about it.

<Happy ending>
DS finally said "Mummy" three days before Christmas.

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 12:23:15

Apple <<snot tears!>>

SirBoobAlot Wed 23-Jan-13 12:26:33

Oh Apple I'm crying now!!

ShowOfHands Wed 23-Jan-13 12:28:59

Oh lordy <sobs>

ApplePippa and Paggy have ruined me.

Meggle, this thread is terrible. You must have it deleted. How's 2013 treating you?

CharlieSilver Wed 23-Jan-13 12:30:07

DP and I were in town and we were mucking about a bit and giggling when an old lady came up to us and said "What an absolutely lovely couple you are"

Was very sweet.

DuchessFanny Wed 23-Jan-13 12:31:30

Apple !! crying now !

Pagwatch Wed 23-Jan-13 12:32:33

Oh Apple!

<<wipes nose>>

When I went to see my nephew play a gig he introduced me to his band. The drummer shook my hand and said "So you're the awesome auntie."

Was very chuffed smile

TrainersNotHeels Wed 23-Jan-13 12:38:42

After a long labour ending up in an emergency c-section, my lovely MIL when she arrived at hospital tore her eyes away from dd just long enough to look at me and say 'I am so proud of you'.

She is fab in so many ways but I'll never forget that smile

Apple that has made me well up - so so so lovely.

Wow, Apple, you made me break out the tissues, <sob>

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 12:41:08

Hey SOH ...good...although laid up on the sofa as I'm feeling a bit fluey...how is the rugger monkey?
Feel the love eh? <<grabs another kleenex and reads Apple's post again>>

Bearfrills Wed 23-Jan-13 12:45:00

Such a small thing but at the weekend we had a good 5-6 inches of snow and I needed the shop. Its a quarter of a mile away and normally takes me nothing to pop there and back on foot. I had 17mo DD in the buggy and 3yo DS in the sledge, walking pushing the buggy in front of me and pulling the sledge behind by tying the rope around my waist. It took me an hour to walk there as the snow was just churning up under the buggy and I kept getting stuck.

A woman passing smiled at me, smiled at the DCs and told me "you've got a heart as big as a lion's".

It made my day grin

Oh, and more romantically, when dp was pressing his suit, so to speak, he wrote me an email which was so full of compliments it took my breath away.

He wrote "Whenever you're in a group of people, you are always at the centre. Not because you want to be, but because people will naturally put you there. I've never met anyone like you."

I was feeling very down on myself at the time and had anxiety, so his words gave me so much confidence.

Bless him smile

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 12:47:44

Gah ....SOH is right......no more.

[Grin]

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 12:48:40

Trainers....wow your .MIL sounds like a treasure!

everlong Wed 23-Jan-13 12:52:19

Dh always says I'm the best wife he's ever had.

I'm the only wife he's ever had. So not sure if it's a compliment or not!

Ds 21 always says that as mothers go he's got the best too..

Deluded fools!

FreedomOfTheTess Wed 23-Jan-13 12:52:49

When one of DS1's (13) teachers told me that DS1 is a "fine young man" and he is a "credit to you."

DS1 was born when I was 19, his father did a runner faster than Usain Bolt, and if the Daily Hate Mail is to be believed, DS1 should have been on a fast track to yob-hood.

It's nice to be a living, breathing example that having a baby as a single teenager isn't the end (as the DM would have people believe).

FreedomOfTheTess Wed 23-Jan-13 12:53:23

NB: I can't take all the credit, DH has been in DS1's life since he was a toddler!

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 12:55:10

grin

Borntobeamum Wed 23-Jan-13 12:55:33

I have 3 amazing children and 3 totally amazing grandchildren, with our 4th overdue.
I was sat reading with them one day in the library, and the librarian came over and quietly said, you know, you were born to be a mum.

I've never forgotten her kind words.

raininginbaltimore Wed 23-Jan-13 12:55:51

I've had a difficult 6 months, dd has reflux and is very high maintenance. I was talking to my CPN about how awful I felt, and admitted that it felt unfair that some people had "dream" babies etc. Bascally why me, why us.

She said maybe it wasn't a punishment as such, but maybe other people wouldn't have coped with the hospital admissions, screaming, lack I sleep . Maybe I have dd BECAUSE I am so patient, so resilient an able to cope.

Made me feel warm.

ToriaPumpkin Wed 23-Jan-13 13:01:50

When I announced my pregnancy with DS a friend told me "You'll be a great mum, let's face it, you've been a mum to most of us for years."

cjbk1 Wed 23-Jan-13 13:09:17

My colleague let slip that my boss thinks "you're an excellent (dental) nurse" this is from a man who's NEVER happy smile
other than work; my longtime friend once said "you're one of those annoying people who looks good in photos"
both shallow I know wink

performancegirl Wed 23-Jan-13 13:13:31

After being together with my DP for about 3 weeks he said to me' i've had other girlfriends but you make me want to build a house and protect it'. He was a little drunk at the time but is the most lovely romantic thing anyone has ever said to me smile smile

NanoNinja Wed 23-Jan-13 13:20:33

Applepippa - that's so lovely!

Mine - my grandad had dementia and towards the end of his life really only knew my dad. I remember visiting him in a home - I must have been 18 or so - he clearly didn't recognise me or my siblings. But he told me I had a lovely smile. Has stayed with me 18 years later.

More recently, I was in hospital after having had my DS, struggling with breast feeding a week after the birth, no friends or family (live abroad), crying on an hourly basis. A lovely midwife told me that I would be a great mum, that I had the motivation to keep going. Was exactly what I needed to hear. Still well up thinking about it.

When it became clear that my DD has special needs a friend of mine told me that she would thrive in our family.

I know she meant it and it wasn't too soppy and she didn't tell me that we had been chosen [hmmm], simply that if she had special needs that she had luckily been born in to a good family.

I still think of it often when I am down.

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 13:28:51

Princerogers I was told almost the same.

spiderlight Wed 23-Jan-13 13:30:00

In a taxi recently, DS was gabbing away to the taxi driver about all the different vehicles we passed and the level crossing and everything else under the sun. The taxi driver turned to me when we arrived at our destination and said 'You've obviously read to this child a great deal - his vocabulary is extraordinary and he's made my day' grin

t0lk13n Wed 23-Jan-13 13:30:44

Thank you Miss it was a really great lesson. Said by three lovely girls who had been homeschooled and were now in a class full of naughty children. I always think of them when I am being told no or worse!

My DH - he rarely says anything lovely, because he isn't big on expressing himself.
We were at his DF funeral and I was singing one of the hymn's he was too choked up to sing and just stood holding my hand tightly. When the hymn had stopped he looked at me and said "You sound like an angel". I (who had been holding it together till that point) burst into tears.

I know it doesn't seem much, but that was 10 years ago and it still makes me well up.

iMe Wed 23-Jan-13 13:37:03

A guest we had on NYE told me I was a great cook....had just served up a 3 course dinner, so that was a nice compliment to receive.

IcouldstillbeJoseph Wed 23-Jan-13 13:39:28

When I was suffering v v badly with PND my HV came for a visit (and promptly marched me to GP), I was in a total mess. Crying so much I was just slobbering onto the carpet like a dog and just rambling on and on in a depressed way. I felt like the worst mother on this earth.

She touched my hand and said "I've been where you are". I know that will sound like nothing to most people, but it was the best thing she could have ever said. It meant so much to know she really understood. She went on to tell me that 30yrs ago when she had her 2nd baby she was depressed and no one helped her. She said that's why she's a HV now as she never wanted anyone to suffer similarly. She saved my life that day - no exaggeration.

greenandcabbagelooking Wed 23-Jan-13 13:50:34

Being told by a group of friends " you're the kindest person here". I blushed so much. I don't think I'm any more kind than average...

Wilts sobbing on a friend's shoulder about something or other she said "there is nothing you could do that would make us not love you". Isn't it my mum who's supposed to say that kind of thing?

singaporeswing Wed 23-Jan-13 13:53:52

My Mum's stepsister turned to my Mum at their DF's funeral, after spending 5 days constantly together watching him die, and said "I never wanted a daughter, I was always happy with my son, but I wish I had a daughter just like her" and pointed at me.

No DC yet for me, but my Aunt on my Dad's side said to me 10 years ago after spending all day looking after my severely autistic cousin - "you will be the most fantastic mother - you're already the most fantastic cousin."

She is such an inspiration to me, so that is one of the best things anyone could have ever said, meant so much coming from her. Especially as that side of my family aren't particularly sentimental or open with their emotions.

LaQueen Wed 23-Jan-13 13:55:32

My BF once said 'I ask myself how LaQ would handle this, and then I do the same' when dealing with her children.

We regularly had people comment on how polite and nice natured our DDs are, their (very good) table manners always used to invite compliments, especially from older people.

DH to me: 'If I had to be a woman I'd want to look and be exactly like you.' smile

I love this!

My first long term boyfriend and I were doing a tour of the island I was born in with my cousin. Boyfriend was sitting in the back of my car, cousin passenger and I was driving.

A little later when we strolled along the beach at dusk he stopped and said to me 'chaos, I have never noticed before how absolutely beautiful and expressionate these big brown eyes are'. It's always stayed with me.

AmberLeaf Wed 23-Jan-13 13:57:35

After finishing my year 10 work experience aged 15, the lady I worked for wrote in my report 'Amber has restored my faith in youngsters' My Mum was well proud!

About my three children, a retired teacher friend of my Mums said, 'they have impeccable manners and are a real credit to you'

My autistic sons paediatrician said to me 'you clearly have a great understanding of his needs and are so in tune with him, he is lucky to have you as a Mum' she may have said that to everyone, but I don't care! it helped.

* meant to say, he was seeing me look in rear view mirror!! killed the sentiment now, haven't i!

idococktailshedoesbeer Wed 23-Jan-13 14:07:38

I adore my two little nieces who live in Italy. A couple of years ago the older one, who was about five, asked me not to have any children of my own because she was worried I wouldn't have as much time to play with them. I thought that was really sweet. grin

permaquandry Wed 23-Jan-13 14:11:41

I've gone... (Box of Kleenex have too).

What a lovely thread. I've actually had lots of wonderful compliments (I have deluded wonderful family and friends), however, I'll always remember my middle dn describing my hair as 'golden'. Very shallow, I know.

My dc say the loveliest things, youngest told me 'you're the best mummy I've ever had' I didn't point out that I'm the only mummy they've ever had. Same dc also told me 'you're not pretty, you're old'......

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 14:14:33

Hey don't speak too soon...someone will call Jennifer Aniston a hoor in a minute grin any thread can turn naaasty !

EauRouge Wed 23-Jan-13 14:14:55

"You're a really good bass player", said by a guy I was in a band with. I remember it because one of the guys from my previous band said (behind my back) that I wasn't as good as I made out I was angry

ShowOfHands Wed 23-Jan-13 14:14:59

Rugger monkey is marvellous. She is ballet monkey today though. I enjoy the contrast.

You know how people tell you all the time your dc are beautiful? It's clearly true; they have a breathtaking mix of cultures and heritage and both take a lovely picture. But what strikes me when I see pictures of your babies is how they have these astonishing personalities. I see a lot of pictures of people's dc on FB. It's always 'here's a child in some snow' or 'another child in some spaghetti' and they're beautiful because they're children but your dd and ds look like who they are iyswim. Your dd in particular has this amazing eccentricity and wisdom which shines out. And your ds is always so open and honest in his expressions. Lovely looking dc and not just aesthetically.

I know this thread isn't about saying nice things now but you've been through a bit of a crappy 2012 I know and I've been meaning to say for a while that your pictures cheer me.

Sorry you're illing. Hope it sods off soon.

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 14:26:27

Crumbs. blush

When I had my DD, we were just about to be discharged, baby in car seat etc, when my lovely midwife bustled up, gripped my arm and said "Now, I know I haven't got anything at all to worry about with this one, she's off to a lovely home". Made me feel so much more confident, as I was having a major internal panic about not being able to cope!

IvantaOuiOui Wed 23-Jan-13 14:33:02

When I met my now husband we lived far apart and had a one off meeting then couldn't see each other for another couple of weeks. He is a very quiet type not used to declaring his feeling but he wrote me a letter saying "things feel strangely incomplete without you." I still have it.

SocietyClowns Wed 23-Jan-13 14:33:06

Also a mw one, funny how things like that stick in the memory. My mw said something like 'You've got a lovely one there' when I'd just had dd2. It made me beam smile (I'm sure she wouldn't go around telling women they have an ugly one there or something, but she really sounded like she meant it).

dh once told me that I always look fantastic when I first wake up which also made me smile (and there was me thinking I am not human until I've had a shower, put on make up and have had a coffee).

QuickLookBusy Wed 23-Jan-13 14:46:16

We recently got all the family video films we had taken when the dds were younger, put onto cd. DDs, 19 and 22 hadn't seen them before.

We had a film feast on Sunday, just DH, DDs and I. It was really lovely.

Later on dd2 came and gave me a cuddle and said she had always remembered having a happy childhood, but watching the videos had amazed her.

She said she really appreciated how much patients I had with her and her dsis, that I was a gentle and loving mum and she hoped she will be like me when she has children.

It made me cry!

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 14:48:00

Quicklook ....how amazing you got to hear the words every mother wants to hear.

champagnesupernova Wed 23-Jan-13 14:49:55

From a school report:
"champagne's zest and enthusiasm for life is infectious."

QuickLookBusy Wed 23-Jan-13 14:55:49

Ah thank you Meggle

VitoCorleone Wed 23-Jan-13 14:56:46

A few months ago i was walking up the street with my youngest in his pram and some guy stopped in his van and said "i just had to stop and tell you that your absolutley gorgeous" then he drove off.

Another time some guy id seen around a few times said to me "you get hotter and hotter every time i see you, sometimes i cant take my eyes off you"

Both of those made my day!

YouOldSlag Wed 23-Jan-13 14:59:12

When I was dating an ex ( and had zero self esteem) a lovely female friend of his said "You've got such a beautiful face. It's really beautiful, such lovely colouring too".

That was fifteen years ago and it still makes me smile. I had never ever thought I was even pretty until she said that. God bless you Lisa. You made such a difference to me.

PS DH tells me he loves me every single day. That's lovely too.

izzybobsmum Wed 23-Jan-13 15:00:00

My mum is usually very critical of me, everything from my weight, to my hair, and how tidy my house is.

A couple of years ago, my dad had to have a quintuple heart bypass. It was in winter, and we had quite a lot of bad snow.

I took time off work to take my mum to visit him. We had to go by train as the weather was so bad, and she's hopeless with train timetables etc. I packed a flask of Gin and Tonic for the way home, and generally tried to be helpful.

About a month later when my Dad was recovered, he and I did a sponsored walk for the British Heart Foundation. Me, my dad, mum and DH went out for a meal afterwards, where they told me I was a wonderful daughter.

It meant so much to me to hear my mum say that. I've tears in my eyes as I type this!

She's back to bugging me about my weight now though :-)

When I was a teenager I had massively low self-esteem. I felt really fat, and used to wear black baggy clothing to try & hide my figure. I hated my looks so much. Anyway, one day when I was about 14 I was in a supermarket & an old lady asked me where the ham was. I didn't know & she replied 'well, you might not know where the ham is, but you're a very beautiful girl!'. I looked bemused and she added 'you're lovely!' and walked off. Her words meant so much. The first person ever to say I was beautiful, and 20 years later I still think fondly about her!

Pinot Wed 23-Jan-13 15:03:43

ooOoo such a warming thread. Like central heating for my heart.

From a grumpy Uncle, when I had a 2.4 y/old and an 8months old "You have truly exceptional children" blush And he whispered it as he's never ever been known to give a compliment.

From a MNer who, when I was v upset about a misunderstanding, told me I was the last person she would imagine purposefully hurting anyone as I had a big heart. Made me sob like a baby that did!

Oh and once my DS2 and DS3 had a fight (almost to fisticuffs) as DS2 joked I had farted and it stunk hmm grin (I hadn't acksherly - I was making egg sandwiches!!) and DS3 wouldn't accept I could be smelly as "Mummy smells like flowers and roses". Now, "flowers and roses" is our special saying to each other.

ApplePippa give your DS a squeeze from me later, would you?

HecateWhoopass Wed 23-Jan-13 15:08:32

My grandad once told me that I had a heart as big as a bucket and that I was just like my grandma.

Considering he worshiped the ground my grandma walked on, I mean I seriously have never known a man more in love with and devoted to his wife - I have never in my life been paid a bigger compliment by anyone. I didn't deserve it, but it felt lovely that he thought that of me.

Mehrida Wed 23-Jan-13 15:26:17

Years ago on my way to a night out I had to dash into Sainsbury's (no idea why).

As I approached, the Big Issue seller outside was trying to entice anyone to buy his last copy so he could go home. A group of city types were just taking the piss and he looked so downtrodden. I detoured over, bought his last copy, wished him a good weekend and ran into the shop.

Didn't think much of it other than 'what am I going to do with this?'. As I went in the door I heard him very politely putting the blokes in their place and saying 'that was class, you might have plenty cash but that girl had real class'.

Put an extra wee spring in my step.

Wouldn't be saying that if he'd seen me at closing time but however.

ApplePippa Wed 23-Jan-13 15:27:32

Pinot - I will. Though he'll probably shout "no touch" at me (see how well his speech is coming on now smile).

Wishfulmakeupping Wed 23-Jan-13 15:29:47

It's something a child said when I was about 18 so about 13 years ago now but it's always stayed with me as I've never been terribly confident in my looks at all if that even how he meant it but anyway...I was waiting for a friend outside my local one afternoon- a Woman and get little boy were waking past (he was probably 5/6) he stopped tugged on his mum and said something to her- she giggled turned to me and said her son had asked whether I was a real life princess
Still makes me smile now

We often get compliments about our children's behaviour when out and about, in restaurants or cafes etc. It's often after a meal where I've only just managed to keep their behaviour under control and am feeling at the end of my tether with them, so is always a lovely thing to hear.

DD gets a lot of compliments about her looks, usually from elderly folk (she is pretty in a very traditional, 'English rose' sort of way). If people then comment on how much she looks like me, then I'm beyond flattered!

HannahsSister40 Wed 23-Jan-13 15:42:01

I was staying in a hotel and the friend I was with was taking my photo with her very impressive camera. A guy working in the hotel asked if I was doing a modelling shoot! And when my husband asked me to marry him, he said he couldn't wait to have children and if we had daughters, he knew they'd be as beautiful as me. We have three daughters. They are far far more beautiful!

Madcaplady Wed 23-Jan-13 15:45:26

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MooMooSkit Wed 23-Jan-13 15:45:44

Mine will all sound shallow but I got severely bullied in school from ages 10 - 14 about my looks so bad that I left when i was 14 to be home tutored as i was suffering panic attacks about even going in a class room. I was called ugly, a man, all sorts, I felt like the ugliest person on the planet and even till this day I still think I'm awful but a couple of things stand out.

My brother, who is two years younger than me and rarely expresses emotion/feelings to family once said to me over a meal when we was talking about who we looked like (mum or dad) and he told me I had a flawless face. I never said anything but I felt all choked up.

Since school I've had a few compliments but one really stands out to me when I was pushing the pushchair through town a man stopped me just to tell me he thought I was absoloutely gorgeous. I had PND at the time and could of burst into tears.

In a shopping centre once I was sitting on a bench and stood up and was facing a guy a couple of feet away and started walking off and he run after me to say "i was waiting for you to turn around as i thought you would have beautiful eyes and i was right, they are stunning" i was so blush but could of hugged him, especially as it was only two or three years after the bullying stopped so was fresh in my mind.

Visiting my dad's house once he had his facebook open with a message to an old friend just general convo but the bit i saw was him saying how proud he was of me and what a great mum i was. smile

Madcaplady Wed 23-Jan-13 15:46:14

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MamaGeekChic Wed 23-Jan-13 15:46:49

A lovely colleague of mine (and friend) told me I should let my guard down a bit and allow more people to see the real me as he thinks my idiosyncrasies are adoreable... I've no idea why but I remember the conversation that day almost word for word.

EarlyInTheMorning Wed 23-Jan-13 15:47:43

I often hear that the mums at school and my DC's teachers refer to me as 'the pretty one with the lovely clothes'. I'm in my early 40's so this is nice to hear smile

Locketjuice Wed 23-Jan-13 15:55:48

After having ds other half looking all watery eyed and gushy looked over and said I'm so proud of you
... Was very cute and stuck in my head

twinklestar2 Wed 23-Jan-13 15:56:30

That I was a 'real tonic' - from one of my old work colleagues.

Ashoething Wed 23-Jan-13 15:59:38

When I had my first dc at 24 weeks I didnt get a chance to see him as he went to sbcu and I was in theatre with a retained placenta. When the midwife eventually took me down in a wheelchair she announced me as baby X's MUM-a mum! I hadnt thought of myself as a mum up until that point.

Sadly my ds only lived for 10 hours but I have never forgotten that moment.

shhhgobacktosleep Wed 23-Jan-13 16:10:38

My father and I have always had a difficult relationship, however he has a great relationship with my dh and they speak almost daily. Father and I rarely speak but dh told me that in conversation with him last week he referred to me using a term reserved only for my mother smile Mum died 10years ago, father adored her (still does) as did everyone who met her, she was the loveliest person you could ever wish to meet. I am always being told I am like my mum but father using that term made me believe he does indeed love me and I'm a nice person.

My DS (9) and I every night before bed:

Me: Night - love you.
DS: Night Mum, love you more.

And every so often "Mum, I love you more than chips, chinese rice & sweets" !!! grin

yfuwchhapus Wed 23-Jan-13 16:27:47

You are lush mummy because you keep all the noise down, drive slowly, always happy and look after me all the time. My DD says this to me several times daily..she has ASD.

She will then say, I hate noise...it hurts my ears, I hate going fast because its dangerous, I don't like sad faces and I hate other people.

This little saying is probably the reason I have never left her overnight, weekends etc since she been born.

Sidge Wed 23-Jan-13 16:31:38

Two things come to mind for me; a friend said to me recently "Sidge, you are incredible. You've had so much to deal with lately and you just get on with it; you are a wonderful mum and a fantastic friend and your children are a credit to you."

And the bloke I've been seeing for a couple of months said last week that he felt like he'd won the jackpot meeting me. Given that my marriage broke down due to my husband's ongoing affair with a 26 year old I had the self-confidence and self-esteem of a newt so his comment made me feel lovely smile

Poledra Wed 23-Jan-13 16:36:19

Sitting in a cafe with my DDs, 4 and 2yo eating cake and baby DD3 bfeeding. I was just chatting with the children, and trying to keep them from making too much noise or mess! An older woman came over from another table on her way out and said: 'My dear what wonderful children! And a wonderful mother. I've been watching the way you actually listen and talk to them. I'm a retired midwife and I miss the babies so much - can I just say forget the housework, forget all the unneccessary chores and keep doing what you're doing? It's over in a flash, though it might not seem like that now.'

I took her advice - my house is a tip, but hopefully my children are happy smile

blueemerald Wed 23-Jan-13 16:36:43

I'm training to be a secondary school teacher. One of my low ability set kids asked a tough question today. I told him the answer and started to explain why as best I could for him. I ended with "do you see?" and he paused and said "not really Miss, but it's ok, I trust you." made my heart melt (and I explained it again, with a diagram/example and he got it!)

AmelieRose Wed 23-Jan-13 16:47:51

When I first started teaching, I had a very stressful lesson with a very difficult class and was close to tears afterwards.

A very experienced and grumpy colleague - who never spoke to anyone and hid behind his newspaper in the staffroom - I didn't think even knew my name - told me that I was a natural and that I had such a lovely calm presence that the children looked forward to coming to my class.

He never really spoke to me again but it didn't half make my day and stopped me being so hard on myself smile.

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 16:49:18

Oh these are so emotional and heart warming. It's great to see a steady trickle on here.

Thank you.

Thistledew Wed 23-Jan-13 16:53:51

When I (white, middle class) had spent all day sorting out a problem that my client (ethnic and religious minority) had been battling with, and I had got her and her family a positive and life-changing outcome, she simply said "Thank you, Sister". When "Sister" is normally a term that she would reserve for someone close to her of her in her own minority group. The meaning behind it meant a lot to me.

tonythepony Wed 23-Jan-13 16:57:56

My DM was asking me why I was still single recently, she said "I just don't understand, you're not even that ugly..." aaah mothers eh hmm grin

My colleague recently referred to me as "sunshine itself". It sounds corny but I thought it was nice.

My favourite compliment though is when people tell me I'm good at my job, I'm a nurse and its nice to know I'm still good at it.

Molepom Wed 23-Jan-13 17:35:08

"You're a grafter and a good mother"

From 2 different people on two seperate occations. I will always love them for that, that small sentence gave me a massive boost in self confidence just when I needed it most.

I have one.

When the last Take That tour was on, I was going to see it with my best friend. I was chatting on the phone to my younger brother (a trendy London dj) and I mentioned I was going to see them. He replied "What do you want to do that for? It's for thirty something women with kids. confused)

I'm 36 and have 3 dcs but I was thrilled he didn't put me in that box. He just saw me as me. smile

MoodyDidIt Wed 23-Jan-13 18:57:46

when i was 17, my lovely auntie said how pretty i was and how lovely my skin was

i came from a household where we were never, ever complimented, so had grown up thinking i must be ugly, or at best, very plain

expansivegirth Wed 23-Jan-13 18:58:27

My daughter loves my moustache more than any other bit of me. Does that count?

After my 11 hour labour (following a 24 hour induction), DP told me I did so well and that I made it look really easy, which made me do this face hmm but his heart was in the right place.

My MiL told me she really liked me and thought I was fantastic for her son. Probably would have meant more if she wasn't wankered and hadn't spent the last 8 years being a total bitch to me.

HV last week told me I wouldn't be eligible for a smear as I'd have to wait until I was 25. As a sleep deprived 29 year old with a 4 week old baby I took it as the ultimate compliment!

scottishmummy Wed 23-Jan-13 19:01:36

I really value work feedback,it means so much
a simple thanks,does suffice
someone once said,^thanks for getting it^ and I did

NuclearStandoff Wed 23-Jan-13 19:02:11

Quite often get complimented on the dc's excellent manners and good behaviour - and occasionally people say it must be down to their mother.

Makes my heart burst with pride.

NuclearStandoff Wed 23-Jan-13 19:05:57

A very, very long time ago a stranger on a tube train wrote me a poem. he handed it to me just as he got off. I almost threw it away without reading it as I was afraid it might say something horrible or upsetting. But it was lovely, about my nice eyes, etc. I'm not the world's most confident or attractive person so it really boosted my morale.

I wish I had kept it.

BubblesAndBeans Wed 23-Jan-13 19:08:36

During my pregnancy with dd, i was having a little emotional meltdown in my boss' office (as you do) and he said: you will make a bloody brilliant mum.
That really lifted my spirits no end smile

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 19:11:17

Awwww ...I got asked on the nightbus if I was a ladyboy once.
Made my night.

drummerswife Wed 23-Jan-13 19:15:44

i popped to see my elderly neighbour this morning to make sure she was ok and to see if she needed anything.she was waiting for a taxi to take her to the hairdressers so i stayed until it came and chatted with her.as i was leaving she said to me 'i wish you were my daughter your so lovely and kind'.i know from chatting in the past that she lost 4 babies through miscarriages and never got to become a mum,she would have made a super mum aswell.

BaconAndAvocado Wed 23-Jan-13 19:23:44

DH tells me I'm the most beautiful woman in the world every day.....think thats after the slap has been put on.......

But seriously, he is very lucky to have me grin

BaconAndAvocado Wed 23-Jan-13 19:24:28

Megglevache, your ladyboy comment has made my night grin

Hobbitation Wed 23-Jan-13 19:35:04

One chilly evening in February 1999 just in front of Holborn station, DH, who was 'just a friend' then told me he was in love with me and he would go to the ends of the earth with me. Definitely one of the most romantic moments of my life, though I think I looked like a shocked goldfish at the time smile

CotherMuckingFunt Wed 23-Jan-13 19:38:01

Last week dh told me that my face looked so happy and beautiful when I talked about the baby I had been asked to nanny that he wants me to turn down the job and try for another one of our own.

Pinot Wed 23-Jan-13 19:41:04

Awww Cother! <<sooooooo broody>>

BeaLola Wed 23-Jan-13 19:49:39

My DS who we adopted last year has said some really lovely things which after years of being a Mummy in waiting have meant the world:

Mummy you are in my heart forever

after a rubbish day & telling him I would try better at being the best Mummy he looked at me , gave me a hug & said but Mummy you already are the best Mummy.

& the one that makes me laugh is when I was getting ready to go out & he said Mummy you are really lovely but you do look better with clothes on !

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 19:55:58

[grin ]

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 19:56:43

grin even

WantAnOrange Wed 23-Jan-13 20:06:49

I am currently on maternity leave and let go of my childminding contracts, thinking its not fair to expect parents and children to come back to me after they've settled elsewhere. A couple of weeks ago I bumped into a parent who asked me when I'm starting work again, and can I please text her the exact date so her LO can come straight back to me. Doesnt sound like much but I really doubt myself when working with parents so it means the world to me that she would choose to bring him back. I miss the little dude too....

A little girl I have childminded for years asked if she could come to tea at my house more often because "WantAnOrange is the best cook in the world". When she left me her mum said "she's going to miss you, you've been like another mum to her". She also wrote me a card herself (she's 6) that perefectly summed us up, it said "I had fun at (WantAnOrange's) howse", and that was all grin.

It's no good, I want them back......

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 20:10:29

Orange how lovely you sound.

CotherMuckingFunt Wed 23-Jan-13 20:12:47

I know pinot. I've been nagging him for suggesting a third for four years so fuck the face bit - the baby bit is the nicest thing anyone's ever said to me ever!.

cocoachannel Wed 23-Jan-13 20:13:04

One of the nursery staff told me that DD 'has the happiest soul' the other day. I liked that a lot smile

Hobbitation, DP and I met for our first date at Holborn station in January 1999 and several times in the next couple of months. I wonder if our paths crossed with yours!

I had a boyfriend who was tactless to the point of rude and once when I was in a bout of depression he said "I don't understand how you can ever feel sad, when all you have to do is look in a mirror to see how beautiful you are." I will always think fondly of him for that.
I've had a bad couple of months self-esteem wise and two things have happened that were really lovely. DP and I bumped into an old boyfriend, who was a really lovely man, but I was such a fickle commitment phobe when we dated that I flitted off rather and didn't give him a chance. Anyway, we had a pleasant evening catching up and when we left, he shook DP's hand and said "Well done mate, you're so lucky."
Last week I had a genuinely life-changing one. I have been a teacher for ten years and recently I have been totally disillusioned and unhappy with the whole thing. A lad with dyslexia in my class delivered an amazing presentation and afterwards sought me out to thank me for everything I had done for him. Think he may have saved my career!

Oh and I just about held it together at apple's post but BeaLola, that has tipped me over the edge. Sobbing now.

Think life would be so much nicer if we could say nicer things to each other each day. Loved the story about the bloke on the tube who gave someone a poem. We should raise our sons to be like that!

WantAnOrange Wed 23-Jan-13 20:25:50

Megglevache Im not really, children are just easy to brainwash wink.

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 20:27:32

Good point Orange....as you were smile

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 20:30:15

Elinor..wouldn't it be freaky if poem tube boy was at Holborn too ...ooooh...

When a really great friend gave a personal reference to SS saying she'd changed her wishes with her solicitor so that I would look after her children if her and her husband died.

Skyebluesapphire Wed 23-Jan-13 20:34:11

After DD was born in 2008, my H said to me

"I love you more than ever now have had our child"

It was lovely.

Fast forward 4 years later he walks out after getting obsessed with OW and claims he has been unhappy for years..... Now XH.

But it still remains the most lovely thing that anyone ever says to me even if its no longer true...

AlwaysReadyForABlether Wed 23-Jan-13 20:36:23

This is very minor compared to some of these. A colleague of mine left last week and she gave me a Little Miss Sunshine mug because she said that's how she sees me. Made my day especially as I'm being treated for depression just now and don't always feel very sunshiney.

HardlyEverHoovers Wed 23-Jan-13 20:36:57

Was having a conversation with one of my best friends who I really love and think is super cool and always feel grateful that she's my friend. She was about to go on hajj (once in a lifetime pilgrimage that Muslims do), and was very emotional and asking me to forgive her for anything she had done wrong, and she told me I was the nicest person she has ever known, and coming from her that meant sooo much. And I've never told anyone about it before!

emsyj Wed 23-Jan-13 20:45:54

I took a job at a place where a friend of mine had worked previously. Relationship with this friend is weird in that it is very close, but very un-huggy, never say anything nice to each other etc - and sometimes she can be an unbearable bighead. So when a former colleague of hers, whom I knew her to have been very socially friendly with, said, 'Oh X told me you were coming to work here! I've heard so much about you' - I was bracing myself for her to say, 'X says you drive a beat-up old car/X says you never stop eating/X says you're late for everything' (all of which were/are true, and she'd said to my face before - so I was really shocked and almost burst into tears on the spot when she said, 'Yeah, X said to me you'll really like emsyj, she's just really... kind'.

2wwmadness Wed 23-Jan-13 20:46:43

My marriage broke down when I was pg with my DS. He's 9 months old and my ex husband hasn't seen him since he was 8 week. I've done it all by myself. Re-located built a life and a home for us and we are happy.
In the nail shop (my friends own it) over Christmas treating myself. They play with the baby, we were all chatting and there was another )posh) lady in there and we were having a chat all together about me training to be something new and as I was leaving she asked to get a note out of her purse. Her nails were wet so unthought nothing of it and did it. She said
"Now go but something for your son, something he doesn't need, you are lovely and a great mum"
I burst into tears. The fact she knew nothing about what I had just been through and how hellish the past year was in parts and just saw how happy my son is and that we are good people just caught me off gaurd. Other people see me and him as "a family" and not a broken one.

LadyBigtoes Wed 23-Jan-13 20:53:22

After having DS MIL said to me "you are so relaxed with him... I can feel the beta waves coming off you." I was probably just knackered hence blobbing in a chair holding him all day but it was nice.

My (old, fusty and hard-to-please) tutor at university one day said "You write like a dream!" I always wanted to be a writer but didn't think it was actually possible - that gave me the confidence and now I am.

Once I had some somewhat drastic red highlights put in and was a bit embarrassed by how bright they were. DS exclaimed "Mummy! Your hair is fantastic pink!" After that I just thought, what the hell smile

And DD aged 2 always gives me little compliments that melt my heart. "Mummy, I like you. You are nice." "Mummy I like your boobies. I want grown up lady boobies like you." grin

CocktailQueen Wed 23-Jan-13 20:54:24

Recently? I've just had a horrible time at work with a complaint against me, so this week it was lovely to get some great positive feedback from a new client who thinks I'm the bee's knees!

scarybiscuit Wed 23-Jan-13 20:57:10

An autistic lad in my DD class said that i smell of rainbows.... made me have a damp eye...

PPT Wed 23-Jan-13 20:57:43

A bit creepy... but one of my husband's colleagues and I were chatting about 6 years ago in a bar on the beach in Brighton (a very casual work do!)... we'd been talking about worky type stuff for a good 20 mins, and I took off my sun-glasses and he said, in a very genuine way "you have got the most amazing eyes".

Now, probably he was being a creep- but it blew me away and made me smile

PerchanceToDream Wed 23-Jan-13 20:57:50

I know she was just meaning the colour and the shape she'd made but it was so flippin' lovely... The other day, on my lap, facing me, 23mo DD held out my long, blonde hair like a fan around my face and said "Mummy, you are the sunshine."

And I guess when DD was about 6 months (OK, I WAS fishing, I have to admit), I said to DP do you think I'm a good mum? He came back with "you're a great mum. I knew you were going to be good but I had no idea you were going to be this brilliant." blush

MadamFolly Wed 23-Jan-13 20:58:22

On a residential trip one of my students was really homesick and weepy in the middle of the night so I reassured her and sent her back off to sleep.

I saw her in school a while later and she said I was a really kind teacher. I wibbled and had to try not to tear up.

PPT Wed 23-Jan-13 20:59:02

scarybiscuit- I am loving that... smelling of rainbows, think i've now got damp eyes!

BestIsWest Wed 23-Jan-13 21:04:38

We were in a restaurant in Portugal and at the next table were a very elderly Portuguese couple. They were still obviously in love, alternately talking and laughing together and sitting in companionable silence. DH looked at them for a long time, then turned to me and said "That's what I want" .

I couldn't speak.

Mind you perhaps he was taking about their Steak Portugese.

Bit odd this but I was a miserable bullied severely depressed teenager, I got hideously drunk one night and self harmed to badly an ambulance was called, I was fine but chucked in a police cell to sober up (a questionable decision I feel but ho hum) I could hear the police officer talking to the counsellor that had just arrived and he said 'she very polite and so pretty, you won't believe it when you see her' its the first time anyone without ulterior motive called me pretty and it genuinely helped me. Isn't life strange

greenfolder Wed 23-Jan-13 21:08:11

I run courses for NEET teenagers in a deprived area. I had one girl who at the start of the course never said a word. She told me that she had been bullied at school and that every time she spoke she got jeered at - for being a swot if she answered correctly and for being stupid if she got it wrong. The course was 8 weeks and by the end of it she did a presentation to the rest of the class. In the feedback session she told me that I had made a total difference to her confidence and her life- she went and signed up on the spot for a full time floristry course. I still see her every so often and she never hesitates to tell me what a difference i made. It makes it all worth it (and FWIW they were a lovely group who all supported each other that made the difference really)

Sunnywithshowers Wed 23-Jan-13 21:12:22

More damp eyes here too.

Pan Wed 23-Jan-13 21:12:42

"Hasn't he got lovely cheeks. And so much hair!".

I was 20 mins old. It's been down hill since then. grin

josiejay Wed 23-Jan-13 21:13:18

Midwife after my horrendous, loooong and traumatic birth..."you were amazing, so calm and you never stopped saying please and thank you! Your baby is going to have lovely manners!"

StoicButStressed Wed 23-Jan-13 21:17:28

<warns all to brace themselves & get tissues> DS1 (21 last Dec) & who has been through a lot (understatement) sent me a text last Oct. It said:

Random, but thank you for raising me with self-esteem and respect - randomly thinking about it and so many gay people would have caved under it, but I never did! Thankyou xxxx

I cried and cried and cried and cried.

StoicButStressed Wed 23-Jan-13 21:22:03

On less profound note (& day before my then 6 weekly Toni & Guy top-upgrin), same DS1 aged 5 was standing on my bed cuddling me as I stood on the floor so he was a WEENY bit higher than me. And he said: "Mummy, you have such BEAUTIFUL golden hair.... apart from that dark stripe down the middle"

Out of the mouthes of babes huhsmile?

StoicButStressed Wed 23-Jan-13 21:26:43

Perchance 'You are the sunshine' - OMG that's just gorgy beyond words <gets tissue again!> And GreenFolder - what a frickin testimonial to you is that? Would BATHE in that if I were you x

fantashtic Wed 23-Jan-13 21:27:32

When I told my dad I'd fallen in love with woman (i was sobbing in a coffee shop and couldn't get my words out) he said, with such feeling, 'oh, my darling. Is that all you've got to tell me? I'm so very happy for you, you're the best daughter anyone could ask for.'

Can't think about it without crying.

elfycat Wed 23-Jan-13 21:27:34

I've always though of my eyes as a rather dull grey. I was on a liveaboard dive trip in the red sea One gorgeous day with amazing sea, as the group were kitting up to go diving. One of the other women turned to me and said 'Wow, your eyes are the same colour as the water. They're amazing'.

PackItInNow Wed 23-Jan-13 21:35:17

Last night DH whispered those 3 little words that I longed to hear..........."Here's the remote" wink

persimmon Wed 23-Jan-13 21:37:36

A colleague once told me I was "pure gold" - mind you, this was the day I left so it may have just been relief on his part..
Another colleague said I looked like a "goddess" when walking in bright sunshine.
Damn, why didn't I marry one of them?! grin

defineme Wed 23-Jan-13 21:38:11

Dh met an ex pupil of mine from my 1st year of teaching. She is now head of faculty in the subject I taught her, but what made me most proud is that when she married she didn't change her name because I hadn't! I couldn't believe someone had made such a personal decision because of me.

Most of the kids where we work don't know dh and I are married and when dh mentioned it to a lovely 6th former last week she said 'But she's really pretty!'-cheered me up!

Dryjuice25 Wed 23-Jan-13 21:44:08

"If I was single I'd take you on" This said to me by a builder today who is doing double glazing after I said I am not dating anymore!
Its his birthday on Friday and he jested on about how a cake would be nice from me and the kids. Cant work out whether he was joking or not. But that made my day though.

Primadonnagirl Wed 23-Jan-13 21:45:46

This thread makes me determined to tell more people the nice things about them..my best comments are
FromDH : We were having meal with friends and I was talking when he said "sorry to interrupt darling but I just have to tell you how healthy and glowing you look" Everybody was gobsmacked.
From niece aged 7 whose parents had just split up: Auntie P , your my mummy now...I was 18 at the time..
from a male colleague : I just had to tell you that I heard all the team discussing what fantastic skin you have
and finally I always choke whenevr my 2grown up step daughters refer to me and their Dad as "their parents". ..their Mum is still alive and they get on well so it's as if they just see me as an extension which is lovely.

Dryjuice25 Wed 23-Jan-13 21:46:37

An ex who also called me his "butterfly" everyday for the whole time we dated. Will never forget that

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 21:49:54

<<sigh>>

This is brilliant.

<<weeps a bit more>>

JackieandJudy Wed 23-Jan-13 21:52:36

Can't compete with most of these. However, ds1 did once tell me that I was even more beautiful than the big ant he'd just seen in the garden ...

Zappo Wed 23-Jan-13 21:53:07

Just a simple one.

I was walking down a very busy street in a town where I live wearing DD1 in a moby sling. I was nuzzling her head and cuddling as I walked throughthe throngs of people on the pavements.

An old man just walked up to me and said "Now that is a beautiful sight"

lovethesun1 Wed 23-Jan-13 21:55:15

Oh apple thank you for posting that. I am in that exact situation,feeling like that, & not quite at the happy ending. But we are getting there. Have v moist eyes smile

My friend told me that herself and her dp were thinking about having kids and her partner had said they must have me over more often as I am "the best mum in the world" blush
I also had a resident in the nursing home i work in refer to me as her angel whenever I was on duty. I loved that, she was my favourite patient ever smile

cuppateaanyone Wed 23-Jan-13 21:57:16

Between about 5 and 15 I was pretty overweight, can still remember the comments from other kids 'my mummy says you don't need any more dessert because you're fat'. Skip a year, now a size 12, new top, new jeans and en route to a disco ( I am that old) when guy me and my girlfriends had hung out with a loads the year before stopped me and asked me 'who are you, how do you know Claire?......he literally did not recognise me.....

Had just got ready to go out with DH for a meal & DS (2.10 at the time) said to me " ooh mummy you look like a princess" ... I really didn't! but it melted my heart anyway.

GingersarealwaysToms Wed 23-Jan-13 22:17:27

THis happened years ago I was living in New York where life is very polarised and I was at the southern end of the pole. (Skint, not getting where I wanted to in my career, etc)

I was walking along a side street in the same clothes I wore every day and an elderly doorman, wearing full regalia including top hat, said to me in an Eastern European voice "such a pretty face". Just that. It made me feel good because I had so little sense of self. I know this is shallow but it stuck with me.

Also it's nice to see this written down because when I caught sight of myself in the mirror this morning (without meaning to iyswim) I nearly jumped away in fright I looked soooo haggard.

MandiandPops Wed 23-Jan-13 22:20:25

Fellow school mum asked if I was going to have a fourth baby soon because our family was always lovely and calm and happy and we looked like we should have another one. This was reiterated by the midwife of the 3rd dc too but dh doesn't agree wink
Boss also said I was a good mum coz my kiddies actually want to spend time with me. grin

twinklestar2 Wed 23-Jan-13 22:23:09

My friends 6 year old was told my her mum and dad to draw a pic of me and oh when we were visiting. The little girl said 'whenever you draw twinklestar you have to draw a big smile'.

:D

audlangsyne Wed 23-Jan-13 22:25:00

I have had some lovely compliments over the years. One I just remembered from this thread, when I was severely depressed, a boyfriend asked me how I felt:
Me: 'Like a stone'
He: 'Well, a very, very pretty stone then'.

And a colleague once told me I was like an onion, with lots and lots of layers - a very interesting person. I liked that because it was a nice way of complimenting someone who is very private actually (about myself).

PoppyWearer Wed 23-Jan-13 22:25:18

When I was 17yo twenty years ago, yikes! and preparing for university interviews, my form tutor told me that I have a beautiful smile and that I should smile more, and make sure to smile in my interviews, as well as in life in general. (To be fair, I was a vair serious/introverted teen.)

I still remember that today. My DCs have my smile, and have been trying to tell DD every day that she has a beautiful smile (which she does).

baffleddad Wed 23-Jan-13 22:42:57

would you like a cuppa.. i was well chuffed. (im a builder)

rosiesmartypants Wed 23-Jan-13 22:45:13

My DH told me last week, that I was the best example of 'pay it forward' that he's ever met.

Megglevache Wed 23-Jan-13 22:47:22

Baffledad you'd love working here then...I make tea and bacon rolls and have even had exceptional builders stay for slap up Chinese :-)

steppemum Wed 23-Jan-13 22:50:37

baffledad I kept my builders well supplied with tea and coffee last week (they were seriously fab too, really nice guys, broke al the stereotypes, I would highly recommend them, but you would be hard put to get him as he is booked up weeks in advance - wonder why!)

ChookKeeper Wed 23-Jan-13 23:08:09

Just before Christmas DH and I went to DD2's last parents evening of year 11.

One of her teachers (in a subject she is dropping after GCSE) who had also taught DD1 thanked me and DH for turning up to every parents evening over the years. She then said that our DDs were such a credit to us and she wished whatever it was we did as parents could be bottled for her to use when she had her own children.

We are naturally very proud of our DDs but it was lovely to have someone give us credit for their upbringing.

Ellie092 Wed 23-Jan-13 23:11:58

My partner said he would be my penguin smile when penguins mate they stay together forever <3

cory Wed 23-Jan-13 23:14:39

It was dd when she was about 4. We had been spending the afternoon in the park and were walking slowly down the long hill in the rain pushing little brother's pram, a wet dark nasty afternoon, and we were singing at the top of our voices to keep those little legs going, because otherwise I knew she would just sit down in a puddle and refuse to go on, and suddenly she stopped and turned towards me and said "You are the right mummy for me".

It is hard to hang onto sometimes, dd and I have been through some rough times, second suicide attempt last week. But I can still hear that little voice.

FayKnights Wed 23-Jan-13 23:24:06

I've only read a few of these and I'm in bits already! Great thread Meggle.
A colleague once said to me that people always like to be around me because I make them feel good. I was so touched as I was bullied at school and always had a bit of a complex about whether I was likeable.

ots Wed 23-Jan-13 23:28:22

I was at a bus stop with DS (then 18 months). I was having a rubbish day and was on the verge of tears. DS was crying as he was fed up of sitting in the buggy, so I gave him a book to try and keep him amused. An old lady sat down next to me and said "you're doing really well, look how nice and healthy he looks!". She probably just said it cos she could see I was getting stressed, but I've never forgotten it smile

Jellykat Wed 23-Jan-13 23:52:48

An ex once said to me that when he lost me, he lost the best thing he'd ever had.. he was a real support to me after that, but died suddenly 8 months later, otherwise who knows what might've been..

Catrin Wed 23-Jan-13 23:59:25

My Very Strict, non-affectionate dad a few months ago...
I have had a lousy time over the last few years, ending most recently with an impending divorce. Told my dad in a moment of teariness that i was so sorry for disappointing him. He looked at me like this shock and said "but love, I could not be prouder of you and how you have coped and what a wonderful mother you are."

BollyGood Wed 23-Jan-13 23:59:43

Dd aged 6 and I love playing on moshi monsters together. She sent me an animated message the other day with a star dancing and saying ' you are a superstar!' Underneath in brackets she had written 'because you definitely are and I love you' Made my day, a simple but unexpected message grin

jodipickled Thu 24-Jan-13 00:02:02

The new chairman of the youth club were I teach young people observed my lesson and told me I was 'inspirational'. I often feel like an imposter in my work life and this felt like a huge confidence boost, especially as we all try so hard as a team to inspire the young people and it was nice to hear that he felt I was succeeding.
My dad, a man of few words, told me that my children are a credit to me and dh. (They are pretty amazing I I do say so myself)
My best friend, out of the blue at the end of a very ordinary telephone conversation said "can I just say that you are my best friend in the world, I love you so much and I hope you know how much I value our friendship." (She can be quite emotional but I know she meant every word and it's lovely to hear)

jodipickled Thu 24-Jan-13 00:02:38

Oops where not were ( can you believe I teach literacy!!) haha

ProPerformer Thu 24-Jan-13 00:02:58

This one may sound silly to most people but it meant the world to me: (sorry will need a bit of background)

I managed to get a pre audition singing/coaching lesson with a singer/actress who I really admire and have done for years! (I got it through a mutual friend.)
. Anyway, I didn't get the part and was upset etc and she was totally lovely and said she was proud of me anyway cos of how far I'd come in the lesson etc. But the bit that got me was when I thanked her for her support and help in my new year soppy speil and she said:
"Don't put yourself down. Hard work will always pay off in the end. Keep it up, I have confidence in you."

Coming from someone who I really admire and look up to as a singer that really meant a lot!! Infact, even just the offer of the session meant more to me than would be possible to ever say - to take that time, for nothing, for a friend of a friend who she only knew to nod to..... That sticks with me the most and always will. smile

ManyMoons Thu 24-Jan-13 00:21:36

Meggle, amazing thread. I have wept at many of these.

Have namechanged for this as it would out me if others who know this story read it under my usual MN name.

I was a terrible swot and horribly geeky when I was in high school. Zero self esteem and thought I was very ugly looking (think glasses, 'big' nose' etc)

When I was 15/16 a neighbour had a party and she had invited an old friend of hers. A wonderful friendly man who I got chatting to.

A few weeks later I got my GCSE results and told my neighbour (who is still more like family than my mum's neighbour)

She told the old friend of hers as he had asked to know what I had got (top of the year!).

His response was: 'She has brains as well as beauty'

I know it sounds properly weird really written down but there was such honesty in his voice. It lifted me beyond anything I'd ever known. NO ONE had ever said I had beauty.

That one comment made me realise I wasn't quite the odd looking thing I thought I was. And actually, even if I was, then someone might still see something in me. Even if it was a throw away line. I am more confident now, even 16 years later because of it.

He will forever be a hero for that (probably passing, but life changing) comment

AngryBeaver Thu 24-Jan-13 00:58:08

When I was about 25, (not that long ago wink) I had to go into a "workmens cafe" to pick a butty up for a colleague.
I looked out of place in my skirt and blouse (worked next door) and felt uncomfortable standing in the queue with all the buiders.
All of a sudden a gang of guys at a tabl, all wearing hard hats and hi vis jackets burst out into a chorus of "Isn't she lovely, isn't she wonderful!"
They weren't being pervy, just nice!
I was beetroot red, but very flattered smile

Dh often says nice things to me,in his Irish lilt "Look at ya standin' there,you're gorgeous so y'ar!" Makes me go all twirly!

I suppose the ones that mean the most though, are when people compliment your children and tell you that you're a good Mum.

AmIthatWintry Thu 24-Jan-13 01:28:29

Woman on the till in M & S a few months ago told me I smelled lovely smile

And DD, when I picked her up from after school club tonight told me I looked lovely today, but "you always look beautiful Mum". Bless her

When I was going to pick up my divorce papers at Court, I asked the security man where I had to go. He replied, "who would divorce you?" incredulously. I replied, "I'm divorcing him". It really made me feel better. I always wonder if he says that to anyone going to that part of the Court. What a lovely man.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Thu 24-Jan-13 02:11:40

I stayed dry eyed, touched and moved but not reduced to blubbing tears until cory's post at 23:14:39.

OP what a great thread.

May09Bump Thu 24-Jan-13 03:21:07

My son was born with a facial birthmark over half of his face - I loved him from the second I saw him. A week after his birth I'd been dwelling on the cruelty kids face at school (bullying etc) and the reality that he would probably face it hit hard. I was crying curled up with my husband asking basically why him (I know there are much worse things in the world), and he replied because we love him and we would know what to do medically. Instantly I knew he was right, stopped sobbing and he is now the most bossy, independent and confident 4 year old I know.

I have told my husband how much this meant - but he will never ever realise what a weight lifted off me.

cuillereasoupe Thu 24-Jan-13 06:28:18

Someone once told me I look like the lovechild of Johnny Depp and Isabella Rossellini. It's not even faintly true, but even so, grin

controlaltdelete Thu 24-Jan-13 06:45:39

I've had lots of lovely things said to me that I remember when I am down.

When a guy in my class at uni dumped me and another guy (Italian) sent me a letter telling me not to worry and that I was a beautiful rose! How sweet!

Everyone is always telling me what a dreadful northern accent I have and make comments about being working class which I find hurtful and a lovely American lady I used to work with sent me a letter when she left telling me I was "one classy lady".

When me and DH nearly broke up and my DDad told me that "he would have done anything to go out with someone like me when he was younger".

My older brother who told me that I am one of the most stunning women he has ever seen. I am totally average, but he seems to think I am lovely!

My friend who had cancer sent me a letter telling me that when she met me, she was in a really dark place (just diagnosed) and that I was a breath of fresh air in her life and very positive to be around. That is my favourite...lump in throat.

I try to remember these things when my DH's family take pot shots at me hmm

I got told by my line manager in three different jobs, in different companies, that 'you light the office up when you walk in', 'you are such a positive, cheery person, you're a good influence on the team' and 'the workplace is a lot happier when you're around'. That all meant a lot to me as I was bullied terribly by the mean girls at high school and it wasn't until my early twenties that I regained my confidence.

issimma Thu 24-Jan-13 08:11:43

"You kiss like a goddess" from a boy in a club a long long time ago grin.

gallivantsaregood Thu 24-Jan-13 08:18:38

My BFF's hubby told me that my son is not disabled. He is ENABLED!!! Biggest compliment ever.

Bumblequeen Thu 24-Jan-13 08:23:36

"You are beautiful". Said by my ex manager. Growing up I never ever felt remotely pretty let alone beautiful.

A guy at work once said "Are you seriously not married? I bet you have received many proposals". Nope not one until I met dh!

"You are the most beautiful bride I have ever seen and I have been to many weddings". Family friend.

"You are focussed and know where you are going in life".

"You genuinely care about people"

Katnisscupcake Thu 24-Jan-13 08:29:24

I have two...

I overheard my DH telling my SIL (his DSis) not long after DD was born, that I had taken to Motherhood like a 'duck to water' and that I was a wonderful Mum. Believe me, just hearing him say that to someone else was as wonderful as if he had said it straight to me...

A bit grim, but I've always had bad skin. GPs have tried everything and nothing has worked. It always gets me down. Whenever I get upset about it if I've had a flare up, my DH says 'it just means there's more of you to love'. Gross, but lovely at the same time smile blush.

I think it's things the DC's have said that have really registered most.

Like quite recently I was just sitting on the sofa with DD and for some reason ( I am quite soppy with them) I said to her "You're lovely" and she said "You're lovely too" right back at me smile

Stinkyminkymoo Thu 24-Jan-13 09:01:57

I love my mum but she can be quite hyper critical. After having had my dd who's 5 mo DM told me that I was such a natural mother but she's not surprised as I'm so good with animals hmm!.

I was worried I wouldn't be very good at it, so hearing this coming from her was such a boost.

Eliza22 Thu 24-Jan-13 09:12:31

Years ago, when I was working in oncology (chemo ward) you got to 'know' patients well....sometimes over 12 / 18 months plus whilst they were coming in for treatment. I knew a man who all those involved with him were rooting for because he was only young and had two young kids. Time went by. He got (slightly) better, he got worse. This went on, for some time. One admission, he looked shocking and he said "I hope you're here, if anything happens to me". I remember thinking "No! I DON'T want to be here, if you die". But I was. I held his hand and cried. I'm about to cry now.

It was, in a way, a compliment. All the staff were desperate to lose this man after knowing him, so long.

TrampyPants Thu 24-Jan-13 09:12:43

The other day, ds and I were getting off the bus when the woman behind us stopped me and said "your son is wonderful, he's so funny and articulate and charming - you must be a fantastic mother" I will try to remember that at the next meltdown.

My old boss (I was a restaurant manager and we were expanding so he wanted me to train all the staff for the 4 other pubs) once said to me that I was a rare woman, men fell in love with me after 2 minutes and women wanted to be my best friend.

A man stopped me in the street once to tell me that I was perfection. I wasn't wearing a scrap of make up.

Eliza22 Thu 24-Jan-13 09:14:00

Sorry... "Desperate about losing this man". You KNOW what I mean. X

Oh and when I was about 20 I had a bit of a Highland fling with an older man during a summer spent on a Scottish island blush

One time (as we were just driving along) he said to me "you could have any man you wanted" Now, this is far from the truth I'm sure, but was a nice thing for him to say to me don't you think ?!

A random old woman in a supermarket told me I was a good mum (because I was telling them off firmly but civilly for arsing about) grin

And the chair of Governors (not long after I became a governor) told a mutual colleague 'Hmm Santa is very clever, isn't she' I know it wasn't really a compliment but it still made me smirk. It was blatantly a - Shit we will have to watch that one kind of a comment.

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Thu 24-Jan-13 09:52:43

DH and I were at the Ask Restaurant in Guildford when DS was about 3. A woman came up to us and said what a lovely boy DS was and that he was a real credit to us smile.

DH also admitted after a few dates that I had surpassed his car as his most favourite thing in the world grin. He even used to met me smoke in his car. I have not smoked for nearly 9 years and if ANYONE EVER dared smoke in my car, they would be shot at dawn.

I was so horribly jealous when my younger sister had a baby and I was so keen to have one, too. I was single and lonely at the time. I was in tears on the phone to my dad when he told me she was in labour and I said I wished it was me (i know, it's silly, but that's how I felt). My dad said to me that it happens to the best of people, and I was one of the best. smile.

notcitrus Thu 24-Jan-13 09:56:40

My now-MIL when I'd met her a few times: "I really hope MrNC is good enough for you, because you're great. It's wonderful having you in the family. I can't wait for you to have children! Not right now, obviously, you're a bit young. But when you're ready. Don't let him pressure you. Have another glass of wine."

And this is why we happily put up with all her exasperating eccentricity!

Alliwantisaroomsomewhere Thu 24-Jan-13 10:02:38

Notcitrus, I want your MIL as my MIL!

Elderflowergranita Thu 24-Jan-13 10:15:40

Last night, when I popped in to Ds1's bedroom to say goodnight, he said "Please give me a hug, you're such a great mum".

He's almost 14, and 5ft 10, and his comment meant the world to me.

I shall try to remember during the next showdown!

Fecklessdizzy Thu 24-Jan-13 10:19:56

DS2 had to read out a poem he had written to the school in which he announced to the breathless multitude that his Mum " had a good brain and a heart like a fruit cake ... " and DP told me my eyes were brighter than Ducatti headlights back when we were courting ( properly silver-tongued lot, my menfolk! grin )

Megglevache Thu 24-Jan-13 10:20:02

Yes I agree what food for the soul your lovely stories have been. I've laughed out loud and cried little snot tears at others. (Corey ..what a great inspiration, your little girls voice in your head

To the:
Pmsl at "who'd want to divorce you?"

Megglevache Thu 24-Jan-13 10:21:28

Gahhhhh ...heart like a fruit cake....she smells like rainbows....

<<has a little tearwee>>

And on my wedding day someone (a man I'd had a few dances with - but just a family friend) told me I was the most beautiful woman in the room ! That was rather charming of him I thought, and the sort of thing a girl remembers smile

runnyhabbit Thu 24-Jan-13 10:43:38

There was a mix at school yesterday which meant ds2 missed the bus home (yr1) After the initial panic, spoke to the school and picked him up. When I got to the school, the TA was very apologetic and said we knew it was our fault because you are always on the ball blush
I always feel like I'm running around like a headless chicken, so that made my day smile

flamingtoaster Thu 24-Jan-13 10:46:46

At our wedding reception DH and I were welcoming people and when two of his friends and their two boys (none of whom I had met previously) congratulated us one of the boys (then 8) shook my hand, beamed at me and said, "I think you look beautiful". It was just so incredibly natural and sweet of him. Sadly he died during his sleep when he was 25 due to epilepsy.

(Wondering if this thread is being sponsored by Kleenex, sniff.)

EyeoftheStorm Thu 24-Jan-13 11:00:39

As a child and teenager, I was miserable friends-wise. Always the third wheel, always someone falling out with me, never fitting in.

My DM told me it was because I was so independent and wouldn't go along with the crowd.

I have built my whole adult self around those words. I have a lovely husband and DCs, have travelled and lived around the world, have loads of kind, supportive friends. I am happy in a way that that miserable child could never have imagined in the trenches of school.

Just a few words from my DM, she may not even remember saying them, but what if she hadn't?

Megglevache Thu 24-Jan-13 11:06:32

Yaaaaaay...big up to lovely parents who sometimes say those few words that can carry us...
I hope you will tell them what you've written.....they might need to hear it too.

Great thread Meggle - you must be really proud thanks

< damn, last Kleenex in the box ! >

DoingItForMyself Thu 24-Jan-13 11:38:26

Aw these are all lovely!

I've had the lovely comments about my DCs' impeccable behaviour in restaurants although not in the last few years! which always made me so proud.

My lovely DP of 4 months said yesterday "I love all your faces, even the cute little newborn mole face in the mornings, when you can't open your eyes".

He also said that he loved coming 'home' to me, that its bliss - he says that about 3pm he starts to feel a bit jaded and then he remembers that he's coming here after work and it makes his day smile

EyeoftheStorm Thu 24-Jan-13 11:40:03

Meggle I have sobbed my way through this thread. I'm off to see Les Miserables tonight - there aren't going to be enough tissues in the house. But at least my heart will be warm.

Tuliprosa Thu 24-Jan-13 12:19:04

Meggle I'm surprised no one seems to have picked up on the fact you are completely taking the piss, but it made me laugh anyway.

daddyorchipsdaddyorchips Thu 24-Jan-13 12:23:12

2 things from when I moved, aged 21, from my hometown (in Scotland) to London (the streets are paved with gold, you know), all by myself:

very emotionally closed Mum: "You are so brave. I wish I'd been as brave as you and done something like this when I was your age. I love you" (first time I can remember her telling me she loved me as an adult).

My best male friend, who I'd recently helped through a very horrible and messy break up (she broke his heart by cheating): "I don't know how I would have gotten through these passed few months without you. You are my hero. I am so proud of you."

<weeps>

Megglevache Thu 24-Jan-13 12:23:38

Tuliprosa, I was at the start yes. I was feeling really rotten (poorly) yesterday and wanted cheering- the bit about the ladyboy is true and of course piss taking- but my other posts thanking mumsnetters for their stories were/are genuine as has the blubbing been grin

DuchessFanny Thu 24-Jan-13 12:28:49

I've already told you all about my kind, polite ( just peeeerfect i think !) children and my DH loving the bones of me, but another one that made me feel better about myself was a compliment given to my DH from two of his friends ... their wives are both tall, blonde and slim ... i am the opposite and quite often feel URGH ! in their company . One night DH was out with their husbands when they said " but Duchess is gorgeous, inside and out" made me fell like a nice person and pretty - winner !! grin

OwlLady Thu 24-Jan-13 12:33:42

one of my ds's friends mum said

'I really like you, you really don't care what people think of you, do you?'

confused and tbh I think she meant it nicely but I had only met her once before briefly

Megglevache Thu 24-Jan-13 12:35:06

Can I just say I love SOH's comments about my children- they have really stayed with me. Thank you Toots. And you were spot on.

Megglevache Thu 24-Jan-13 12:35:48

Oh OWLady- you sound like my kinda bird! grin

DuchessFanny Thu 24-Jan-13 12:38:06

ooh ooh, i have GOT to tell you these too from a very proud Mummy ...

My eldest DS, was told he is an 'absolute pleasure' and a testament to our parenting, still makes me well up, especially as he's turning into a stroppy teen !

My middle DS getting ' kindest boy' in the year when he was in Foundation school, awarded from the head ( i cried !) and last year his teacher said ' he is wonderful, you are doing a good job !'

My youngest DS ... had his teacher/parent meeting and she is a bit scary and stern, when she said " he is a total star ... an inspiration to the rest of the class" quite literally thought i would burst with pride .... That's MY BOY i wanted to shout !

Aren't we all lucky to have these moments ? !

dotnet Thu 24-Jan-13 12:41:02

When I was in my early 20s and in my first job, a bloke in our office, a good friend, younger, he might have been 22 - set up a laddish prank with his best friend from the art department. The pair of them did a 'survey' among the men (or at least, the approachable men with a sense of humour) to elect a 'Miss (name of company)'. A couple of days later, survey completed, it was announced that I'd won!
The whole thing was just very jokey and my pal and his best friend would have rooted for votes for me, as we got along so well - but it made me feel great. I'm a bit reserved, not a great mingler, and although I was good looking then, I was never outstandingly pretty.
I still smile and feel happy when I think about it!

toomanyballs Thu 24-Jan-13 12:51:01

met one of the Mums from school in the queue for the loo down at our local pub,She said " we are so jealous of you, you turn up with no make up and perfect skin, looking fantastic with those gorgeous legs " I had no idea that was how people see me, just thought I rocked up in dog walking jeans and looking like I have crawled through a hedge!

I used to run a girls' boarding house at a school and one summer I threw a party for the house to say thank you for being so lovely and as a well done for working so hard for their exams. My head of house and her deputy spent weeks making sashes for every girl in the house-they did it in secret and I was the only one who knew. They were lovely and said things on them like 'Miss Smily Eyes' and 'Miss Clever Clogs'. They presented them to all the girls and everyone was v touched and I was so proud of them for coming up with such a lovely idea and making each of them really personal to each girl. Then they turned to me and said that they knew I was going to be a great mum (I was just about to go on maternity leave) as I already was to all of them, and gave me a sash that said 'Mrs Love'.

It still makes me well up!

My MIL took me to one side after dh and I had told her we were getting married.

MIL: Are you sure he's good enough for you? He's very difficult you know and you are such a beautiful person.

I was so shocked that it took a few days for the compliment to sink in. Dh is very difficult but he's worth it and I wouldn't be without him. Even MIL has relaxed, convinced that he's not going to drive me away. smile

minderjinx Thu 24-Jan-13 13:09:41

I childmind. One of "my" little girls confided " I have an imaginary friend at home. Here I don't need her". Even my DH, who is not a sentimental soul, remarked afterwards that if anything ever happened to her parents, we should adopt her.

iamwhaticallpregnant Thu 24-Jan-13 13:13:20

Apple made me weep.

A casual man i was seeing 5 years ago said "sleeping with you is like being in a car crash". He said this was a compliment and it always stayed with me. 7 years after we first met we are now having a baby and will get married soon after. When we finally got properly together he kept saying "I can't believe (my full name) is with me".

I am a teacher (always been around a size 14 with big hips and weight conscious) and a teaching colleague said that a group of ours (girls of 14 to 16) had said "Who is iam ? the English teacher with the amazing figure?

I saw a random man in the city centre who I didnt remember at all and he said hello and then turned to his friend and said "best teacher I have ever had". Any teaching ones mean a lot.

All of these are lovely and I am inspired to now pay some huge compliments to people today - you never know what it is going to mean to people!

myalias Thu 24-Jan-13 13:13:29

A few years ago I bumped in an ex bf who I hadn't seen for 20 years and he said the thing he loved about me most was my intelligence.

Sunnywithshowers Thu 24-Jan-13 13:24:05

I'd been dating my DH for a couple of weeks and he went out with the lads. I had a drunken phone call from the pub. 'Would you ever marry again?' (I'd had a horrible first marriage)

We didn't marry for another 4 years but it was still lovely. smile

CentreYourCheese Thu 24-Jan-13 13:24:58

When I was in my mid twenties, I hated everything about my life (crap relationship, job, house) and was on a real downer. Used to pick up my friend's 5 year old from school occasionally - Friday before Mother's Day he came out clutching a card that he had made for me that said "Happy Mothers Day for Friends". I still have that card and he is now a hulking 21 year old. He also told me a couple of years later that when I had a little boy he would come to my house and show him how to play Lego and tell him that he had a lovely Mummy.

mummyplonk Thu 24-Jan-13 13:32:35

Coming home from school DS(6) says "when I grow up I'm going to buy that house (points at next door) then I can still see you for cuddles every day", sniff.

Rolf Thu 24-Jan-13 13:54:05

"you were incredible" - from the midwife who delivered DC4 following a precipitate labour, unplanned homebirth, undiagnosed breech, and a knot in the umbilical cord. It could have been catastrophic but was the loveliest, calmest day I've ever had, and yes I was incredible and so was she smile. She said it as we settled down in the ambulance afterwards.

lemonmuffin Thu 24-Jan-13 13:56:13

What a lovely, lovely thread. I'm in bits reading it.

My sister and I have both written plays and had them performed in theatres. There was a month where we both had a show within a couple of weeks of one another. Mine had already been on, and my parents, DH and I were at the theatre to watch my sister's show. When it had finished, Mum came up to me and my sis and said "How did I produce such amazing, talented, beautiful daughters? You make my heart swell with pride"
It was very difficult not to cry (in front of lots of people I work with!)

DH got in from work one night, and I was in bed, virtually asleep. He must have been feeling a bit philosophical, because as he got in, he said "You are my constant. You complete me"
It's pretty out of character, and I wasn't sure if I'd dreamt it or not, but it was rather lovely to hear.

goldenbaygirl Thu 24-Jan-13 14:06:34

These are so great! If only we could remember the good things more often...

When I was around 25 I had just broken up with my boyfriend and was shattered and so so sad. The little 3 year old boy I babysat for loved to bake. One day I set up things in the kitchen to make a cake with and stood him on a chair next to me. He put his tiny little arm around my shoulder and looked at me, gave me a kiss and said 'lovely Golden'. Made me feel so loved just when I needed it!

Its funny how the right thing said at the right time can mean the world.

I am going to try and say more nice things to people, including strangers!

millie0210 Thu 24-Jan-13 14:08:00

My daughter said she loved me, but she had just started talking and I could not understand her ( she was only about 18 months at the time)

A lady on the school run came up to me and said she liked a picture of mine, and that my business name always makes her smilesmile.
That made my daysmilesmile.

MadamGazelleIsMyMum Thu 24-Jan-13 15:16:08

When I was at uni, in my first term, a girl who I had befriended tried to kill herself. I found her, and did what needed to be done while we awaited the professionals. I don't think I did anything that special, just what anyone else would have done.

I got two letters the next day, both of which I still have. One was from the warden of the hall, praising my courage and behaviour in a potentially lethal and difficult situation. The other was from a friend who described my ability to cope as awesome. I think of them both whenever something tough happens, to remind myself of my strength.

Back2Two Thu 24-Jan-13 15:19:03

cory your post got me too.

LuigiB Thu 24-Jan-13 15:56:52

I was watching TV with ds (6) last night, the programme was about a girl whose parents couldn't come to her school project presentation and how disappointed she was.
ds said to me 'I know you would be there mum, you could come', it meant a lot to me as I have worked fulltime since he was 16 months quite often feel guilty for it. I try and juggle things around so I can make it to his plays or trips or presentations, sometimes I can and other times I can't. Feeling a bit teary now as I always want him to know that I will be there for him, and that I love him so much.

mollymole Thu 24-Jan-13 16:04:38

during last summer a woman working in a shop that i pass on my way to work came out and said to me that I always dressed nicely. she made my day !!

CuttedUpPear Thu 24-Jan-13 16:16:29

I've brought up my kids on my own, both of their DFs were violent to me and we have always struggled for money. I worked every hour I could and impressed to my DCs how lucky we actually are, because in another age we'd have been in the workhouse or worse.

When my DD was in year 11, I was talking to her history teacher during Parents evening. She told me that "If only I had a class full of PearDaughters, I would be happy".

I walked out of there on a cloud. smile. It made me feel that everything i had done was worthwhile.

Years later DD admits that at Parents Evenings she carefully steered me into conversations with only the teachers whom she knew would say nice things about her. hmm

However since she is now doing a History degree at Uni she is forgiven! grin

TakingTheStairs Thu 24-Jan-13 16:28:44

So many tears from this thread. Cory I really hope your DD finds the strenght to battle on.

I'm lucky enough to have a great DH that is very kind to me, but apart from him I have had a couple of random things stick in my head that others have said.

A friend was telling me about a new girlfriend and how much he liked her. He said that she was "a keeper" because "she's just like you Taking, you could take her anywhere and into any different situation and you know she'd be fine". I was really flattered by that.

And the other is that one of my younger cousins sent me a beautiful letter about a year ago. Her godmother had passed away a year or two before, and in her letter she told me that I was so kind and she loved me so much and would I please be her new godmother. She was 11 years old at the time and her parents told me that it was entirely her idea and she showed them the letter after she had written it and asked them to post it to me. So sweet .

Timepasses Thu 24-Jan-13 17:53:16

An ex colleague of mine told me it would be very easy to fall in love with me. As I had a huge crush on him it was like music to my ears.
Due to circumstances at the time etc we never took it further but I still think of him fondly nearly 20 years later smile

cheeseandchive Thu 24-Jan-13 18:03:27

absolutely love this thread.

One of the compliments that has always stuck with me was my boss of my Saturday job when I was about 16, she was a friend of my mum's and told her that "cheeseandchive is brilliant with people, whenever she talks to a customer she always makes them feel like they're the only person in the room". That meant so much to me and I still remember it if ever I'm feeling a bit glum about not being good at much!

4hoursanightisnotalright Thu 24-Jan-13 18:10:16

When I was about 8 and super geeky with buck teeth and all sorts (with a super cute and gorgeous sister) my babysitter's Mum said that she could tell that when I grew up I would be a real beauty. It was such a kind thing to say to such an awkward little girl and I will always remember how amazing I felt and also how differently I looked at myself in the mirror afterwards. Also a totally random old lady came up to me on a bus when I had 2 kids under 2 crying and bawling and just said 'you are doing a great job darling, it isn't easy but you are lovely with your kids' I just burst into tears for about an hour afterwards. Bless her!

nightingale452 Thu 24-Jan-13 18:10:38

20 plus years ago when I'd been working abroad as a holiday rep after jacking in a college course and suffering severe depression, a group of us on the ferry on the way home were passing round our passports laughing at the awful passport photos.

Someone looked at mine and said "it doesn't look at all like you...I know why, I've never seen you not smiling!"

It made me realise I'd completely got over the depression, and it's still the nicest compliment I've ever had.

MrsReiver Thu 24-Jan-13 18:18:24

I was in the supermarket a couple of months ago, feeling stressed and full of pregnancy hormones. DS (8) had been messing around and generally being a bit of a silly boy, I stopped and gave him a wee talking too - nothing too serious as he wasn't being "naughty" just full of silliness.

Anyway as we moved on I clocked this older lady watching me, then she started to come over. I assumed she was going to tell me I should have been harder but she leaned over to DS and told him "I've been a teacher for many years, and you are a very, very lucky boy. You have a wonderful mum there, she's doing a brilliant job"

DH was very confused when he came back from the loo to find me sobbing my heart out in the shampoo aisle being comforted by this lovely lady and DS.

Yama Thu 24-Jan-13 18:41:58

Mine is from almost 20 years ago.

At 15 I had major spinal surgery and wore a body cast for a year. I also moved school directly after the op.

Three years later, when we were leaving school my friend said "You know Yama, I have always admired you. You never once complained about your condition.'

It meant a lot.

Tuppence2 Thu 24-Jan-13 18:52:56

At my gran's funeral I wore a pair of 6 inch black platform heels as they were the only decent shoes I had... My mam's cousin came up to me, took one look at the heels and whispered "You're nana always wore heels when she was younger. You pull them off as well as she did"
It made me smile and cry at the same time because although my gran helped my mam raise me, I always felt closer to my grandad than her, until that moment. Sine then, I've realised gran and I are scarily (brilliantly) alike

GoLadyEdith Thu 24-Jan-13 18:53:32

These are wonderful. I've gone all misty eyed.

I've had a few lovely things said to me but the one that sticks in my mind is when I was confiding in a wise friend how worried I was about teenage ds - mental health, school exclusion problems etc., all while dealing with a life threatening illness of my own. She said "It's tough just now but he will be ok, he will get through this, because you are an amazing mother, just the kind he needs."

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Megglevache Thu 24-Jan-13 19:01:19

<<intrigued>>

Thinkingof4 Thu 24-Jan-13 19:17:50

I was at a toddlers music/singing type group and had my 3 pre-schoolers with me. Two little ones on my knee, big one sitting cross-legged beside me. We were all singing and joining in but it was always a bit of a struggle esp if baby got grizzly.
Anyway at end of class as we were about to finish another mum told me she thought I was "so maternal"
It sounds a bit strange but I felt it was such a lovely compliment as I genuinely feel being a mum is the best job in the world

iamwhaticallpregnant Thu 24-Jan-13 21:43:33

Oh my god Cory - I would do anything to be able to help. You have made me rethink how I speak to my mum about my depression.

MooMooSkit Thu 24-Jan-13 23:31:08

Me again...

When I was a student nurse I had got to know a dying patient over about 6 weeks of a placement, I had to wheel her down to the discharge lounge as she was going to go to a hospice. I was very fond of her and when I went to say goodbye she grabbed my hand and told me she'd never forget the care I gave her and she'd remember me forever.

I did a small bit of modelling a few times and some of my photos were on a popular page but I wasn't aware they were anything big but when i was at work someone came up to me and said "are you moomooskit?" so i said yes and they told me how beautiful i was and i'd encouraged them to get into modelling. I never really kept it up (my own self esteem issues) but it still meant a lot to me. Hope she did start modelling.

On the way back from school last week, DD said, out of nowhere "You know what mum? You're like Mary Poppins, practically perfect in every way!".
One that stuck with me is years ago when DH was in hospital, we were in the middle of building work, and I was barely holding things together, someone came up to me at work and said "You're amazing, I don't know how you deal with all the things you do and still come into work smiling every day!" Oddly, up to that point I hadn't even considered that I was anything special, I just smile a lot as I'm an optimistsmile.

BumsyClugger Fri 25-Jan-13 11:56:22

I have a neurological disease affecting the bottom half of my legs and arms which affects the way I walk. (As one friend at school so nicely put it, I walk like a puppet hmm ) After years of bullying at school and stares and comments when out walking, I was very self conscious about my walk.

A few years ago, a guy I was seeing on and off (though he was more just a very good friend by that point) was talking to me on the phone about how we hadn't seen eachother for a while, and jokingly said he couldn't remember what I looked like. Then he said "No, I can. I can picture your eyes; I can picture your smile; I can picture the way you walk..."

I cut him off, thinking he was going to be funny or hurtful, saying "Yeah, we'll leave that one shall we?" He said "What? You walk like you're on a catwalk. It's really sexy."

From then on I walked with my head held high, and honestly have not noticed any staring since then (probably because I don't care anymore). And have actually had a few more comments about my 'sexy wiggle' since then.

I don't think he will ever understand just what that one comment did for my confidence, and my life. In fact I've just got back in touch with him, so I may have to thank him.

Megglevache Fri 25-Jan-13 12:05:13

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MrsPennyapple Fri 25-Jan-13 14:49:29

My friend told me she'd never have got her degree if it weren't for me. Probably sounds like nothing, but it means a lot to me. She was in an abusive relationship and attempted suicide before eventually getting out of the relationship and coming to live with me - all this happened whilst she was studying for her degree. She was so ground down, a shadow of her former self from before this relationship. She was convinced she would fail her degree, but she passed, and I went to her graduation. I have never been so proud. Watching her gradually return to her old self was amazing.

Also, another friend told me I was inspiring, which I thought was a massive compliment. I just thought I talk about knitting a lot!

Mummykindnessrachel Fri 25-Jan-13 22:32:22

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mummyplonk Fri 25-Jan-13 23:17:02

^wow something so lovely got deleted, I hope.

My brother once said to me at a very hard time in my life "even if you wAsnt my sister I would still be friends with you as you are one of the nicest people I know" ThAt wAs 15 years ago!, have never forgotten that.

MrsPennyapple Sun 27-Jan-13 16:53:58

Twas only a blog link that got deleted.

RubyrooUK Sun 27-Jan-13 22:39:31

Two things said relatively recently have really meant something to me.

When I was about six months pregnant with DS2 and feeling really, really unattractive, I went out for a work lunch with someone who flirted outrageously with me. He said how my DH must be terrified of being married to me as I was so beautiful.

That wasn't the nice bit as he was just some drunk man who was a bit odd and possibly sleazy. I came home and told DH about it and he said "you see, you always think that you're ugly when pregnant because you don't have your normal figure and you lose all your confidence. And the truth is that you're just gorgeous whatever and all that guy saw was a gorgeous woman."

<mists up a bit>

And the other lovely one was DS (2.5). When bathing him, I asked what was his favourite bit of the weekend - he was very spoilt as we went to the museum, zoo, he got new toys...he's had a blast. He said "being with mummy and daddy".

<full on emotional weeping>

RubyrooUK Sun 27-Jan-13 22:51:36

Also one of my teachers at high school once said to me when handing back a bit of work: "Thank you. It's people like you that make me so happy and proud to be a teacher."

I was obviously a right swot.

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