To kick these people out?

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CompletePushover Fri 10-Jan-14 18:24:54

7 yrs and this is my first AIBU, and I'm so cowardly I've name changed grin

So... After years of renting crappy places dh, the 4dcs and I have finally bought a lovely house.

It's great. Needs loads of work doing on it. Lots of potential, completely neglected and now ours. The people who had it before us had some problems and had criminally neglected their animals. The house comes with a field.

Now begins the lovely story. A few years ago Some people passing by saw how neglected the horse in the field was and took it upon themselves to look after it. They did amazing things, built him a shelter, bought him food, trimmed his hooves, all of it.

The horse is a stallion and unbroken but of nice temperament. But it means he can be flighty.

Move on a year and one of the group has taken on most of the care and bought their own horse who now lives rent free in the field.

Two weeks before completion the owner tells us we will be inheriting a cat and that the horses are staying (he's gifted the stallion to the other horse owner)

So... We panicked until lovely horse person came to our door and seemed very nice, and we said they could stay until Easter and then we'd see (rent free).

This all seemed ok, but there have been annoyances: There's no where else to park but in our drive, when we want to wander around the field with the dcs we have to struggle through two horses and it's a nightmare, and now finally we have bought out longed for dog and I can't walk him on my field without someone with me because I can't carry a baby and a puppy and fend off the horses on my own, in December we were told they use one of our sheds for feed, And there are other people who are part of the group who have not introduced themselves to me, but who go on to my field regularly.

So this evening we've let the horse owner know that beyond the end of march we want our field back. At the moment I've used it twice since we moved in and I want to use it daily.

They're not happy. I tell a lie, one is not happy, the other is completely understanding.

I know they did a good thing, I know they put work into the field (shelter and fencing) but I also know they've had free pasture for 18 months in return, and I think it's become a picnic spot for them all.

AIBU? And should I be growing a backbone, because I'm already trying to think of a way to section off some of it, which I know would only end up delaying the inevitable? I'm also worried because I'm in no way insured to have this all going on on my property.

I want nice things for the people who have done good, but at the same time I want to enjoy my home. I also have PND and desperately want to be outside but can't cope with being around people. Just to throw that in there.

whois Fri 10-Jan-14 18:26:24

It's your land, you can do what you want. I think giving until March is VERY reasonable.

CompletePushover Fri 10-Jan-14 18:27:11

I've already been told 2 1/2 mths is too soon.

CompletePushover Fri 10-Jan-14 18:27:28

I think it's loads of notice

sebsmummy1 Fri 10-Jan-14 18:29:19

You are being reasonable.

Quoteunquote Fri 10-Jan-14 18:29:28

You given them plenty of notice, stop wording what they think.

I would make sure you put it all in writing,and take legal advice.

DameDeepRedBetty Fri 10-Jan-14 18:29:29

You aren't being unreasonable at all. It's your property freehold to do with as you wish, and you've given them lots of notice.

Don't back down, if they start hinting about paying rent, just keep saying sorry, you have other plans for the field, and don't feel pressured into extending their permission beyond the end of March.

If it was just the nice horse lady, I'd think about maybe setting up a proper rental agreement, but this other woman sounds like an entitled cow and far better to just get rid.

MsLT Fri 10-Jan-14 18:30:09

You've given them notice. 2.5 months should be enough. Put it in writing.

Thatisall Fri 10-Jan-14 18:31:35

Yanbu stick to your guns, stay polite and see what happens

CompletePushover Fri 10-Jan-14 18:32:04

I am such a wuss

Pollydon Fri 10-Jan-14 18:33:07

It is, YANBU.

CompletePushover Fri 10-Jan-14 18:33:53

You don't think these people deserve to be rewarded for their good deed?

CSIJanner Fri 10-Jan-14 18:34:33

YANBU - they've had 18months free for their horses, which they've repaid in making the field safe. The savings they've made on stabling have probably more than compensated - you've given them 2.5 months notice which is more than adequate. In fact, you've only cut the notice period down by a few weeks. They would have / should have expected notice being given the moment the properly exchanged hands tbh

likeit Fri 10-Jan-14 18:35:03

You are being completely reasonable and if you're honest with yourself you know you are too. Best of luck, stand your ground.

CSIJanner Fri 10-Jan-14 18:37:52

FYI - average stabling costs

The lowest stabling at £345 plus hay £45 per month means that for 18months, you've saved them £7000. Do not give into the guilt.

CompletePushover Fri 10-Jan-14 18:38:10

Thanks oh power of mn. I know no is a complete sentence and all that, but I'm not good at it.

Anyone would think I'd just shot a horse by the reaction

soupmaker Fri 10-Jan-14 18:38:12

Is there anything in writing by way of any agreement? If not, you are being reasonable. Can you get someone else to deal with the unreasonable one? Stand your ground and don't think that coming to some sort of compromise will work.

starlight1234 Fri 10-Jan-14 18:38:33

You sound very reasonable..make sure it is all done legally....2 1/2 months is plenty notice

CompletePushover Fri 10-Jan-14 18:39:34

CSI that's a good way of viewing it smile

Something tells me that they will be seeing it as I am now costing them this amount.

I really hope I'm wrong and it was just shock and that it all becomes amicable.

CompletePushover Fri 10-Jan-14 18:41:10

Soup, nothing in writing so I could walk out there and open the gates if I wanted to (I'm not going to!)

I think reasonable one will be working as intermediary from here on in. She really was stressing that any issues it is ours and they must do what we want.

soupmaker Fri 10-Jan-14 18:43:10

Good luck. You have every right to enjoy your field.

kat0406 Fri 10-Jan-14 18:49:20

I wouldn't feel indebted to them whatsoever, I would be of the opinion that they did those good deeds for the previous owner - not for you! You owe them nothing!

CompletePushover Fri 10-Jan-14 18:50:56

So no one thinks I'm the evil new person coming in and meanly kicking them out?

That's what I feel like.

This can't be a unanimous AIBU. That's ungodly.

CompletePushover Fri 10-Jan-14 18:51:33

Kat, I'm too nice

RafflesWay Fri 10-Jan-14 18:52:21

I think the previous owner should have had the necessary conversations with these people - he/she was in no position to tell you or them that the horses would be staying after completion! What a cheek!! I appreciate their disappointment but they should take up any grievance with previous owner IMO. YADNBU op and good luck. You sound lovely by the way.

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