D'ya ever wonder... Just wonder?(1000 Posts)
Evening ladies. Since we're at 999 now. Was feeling reflective tonight.
Reflect away Soks......are we having a party tomorrow then for Shabs? She`s not around so lets make plans. OK heres what I can do.
1. put up bunting and balloons
2. get keg of stout
3. pineapple and cheese on sticks
4. order Robmeister look a like stripper.
I'll make a sherry trifle and prawn cocktails
Happy birthday shabs!
Fab new trips, about dh.
Sorry I've been awol, Dec is such a busy month for me, but I have been reading all your messages, just no time to post!
Happy birthday, Shabs!
A new thread already?! We talk to much
I cannot stop sneezing which upsets Artie so I'm stuck in a cycle. Twins woke at 4.30am and refused to sleep so they nattered away in their cot for an hour before Dom decided he wanted out now.
Morning girls xx
Awaiting the arrival of the chicken pox infested Lew
Just thinking of Chicken pox makes me feel itchy! I seem to be a carrier because I've never been ill aside from colds etc! DH had them when I was PG with Aubrey I never knew a man so whiney! He constantly took Ginger baths and salt baths for the first week! Hope Lew gets better soon!
Dad has arrived so I'm going back to bed! Xx
Aw the thread looks all pretty festooned for Shabs.
[pushes in trolley with birthday cake, trills "happy birthday toooooo yooooouuuuu"]
*hunts for fire extinguisher. Just in case.
It's a busy month all round chops, hope you're finding some downtime though.
Dc1's school play this week. Dress rehearsal today. Performances tonight and tomorrow. Thursday is rainbows Xmas party. Friday we're going to see 'what the ladybird heard' on stage, followed by rainbows sleepover. Saturday evening I'm out with friends. Sunday might be tree day. We didn't do it yesterday as dh realised there's a whole heap more tidying needs to be done first.
Mama. Being ill with a teeny one sucks. Hope you are feeling better soon.
Shabs. I suggest connect the dots as a great party game
LOL <<hunts for a permenant marker>> x
for our birthday girl
Happy Birthday dearest Shabs, I hope despite the pox you have a nice day! I remember when mine got it, they were 4, I was going to France for 2 nights with my friend for my 50th, one came down with it the night before, on my b/day the other two erupted, so I packed them up and took them with me...........ee kids eh?
Thank you Trips - got a teenager that wont get out of his pit for college.....even though he is only in for an hour on Mondays!!! Lew is moaning and groaning and DK slumbers on in his pit because he has manflu. What a marvellous 57th birthday
... as if I just woke up! I was only disturbed twice by Artie but she was happy enough to sleep too. Made my way downstairs to find my house so quiet it was eerie. Found all 5 of them passed out in front of the TV with Harry Potter credits on the screen. I've left them all and now Artie and I are going to enjoy some down time
Hope you have a wonderful birthday!
I have a photo somewhere of playing dot to dot with dt2!
He got it when we went on holiday to Amsterdam! Thankfully we had driven, I doubt he would have been allowed on a plane.
☆★♡♥Happy Birthday Shabs☆★♡♥
Hope todsy wasnt too stressfull with CP Lew.
It must be a holiday thing, my 2 came fown with it whilst on hokiday in Hastings!!
Sorry, using my touch pad and not checking spelling!
I have been told by work today I will be on a new contract as of 1st January, I will be on 19 hrs a week and on annualized office type hours, which is good, but I will no longer be expected to cover my colleagues holiday, which I got paid extra for, and, instead of getting paid overtime, I will be on flexitime. I rekon I will be losing about £900 a year
I have no real choice but accept these terms,as so many are being made redundant, but not happy about it.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY SHABS!!!!
and we have a new home for your birthday
ha ha ha ha ha brilliant - thanks Ruby xx
<<pours Shabs a glass of cider, opens Monster Munch and waits......spect she`s passed out on the floor after a brilliant performance tonight of the one and only Robmeister with Olly Murs >>
no I'm still here Trips LOL...<<snaffles the monster munch>>
<<finishes wiping her own drool off the keyboard>>
Oh I saw him Trips - my God I have disgraceful thoughts about him
He was fantastic, so was Olly, what a showman, mind you I am cross with him as I thought he was fibbing when he sad he couldn`t make your party as he was already booked!!
I'm breezing in on my new toy. Cyber Monday gave me a brand new iPad air. Squeal! Now to keep it from the monkeys. They are not touching this one!
Morning. Lovely foggy day here. #3 woke up with freezing hands and feet. Any other hyper mobile dc suffer with temperature.
Morning girls xx
Day two of Lew and the Pox <<sigh>>
I was allowed back on the ward this morning! Oh and Apollo is on CPAP!!!!!
Yay mama and Apollo!
How's the poxy fun shabs?
Soks - M doesn't have a problem with cold extremities if he does get cold, it takes ages for him to warm up again.
Trips/Shabs I have it recorded so I can watch them again, and again and.......
The boys xmas pressies arrived today, I tried to get them a hudl, but they were sold out, but then I went on EBay and both Argo and Tesco were selling manufacturer reconditioned Samsung Galaxy 3 pads for Â£99! They have the full warranty and 12 month guarantee, all accessories and they say they may have slight cosmetic damage, in both cases, the ones I got have very slight scuffs on the back, hardly noticable! I just have a few more little things to get, and I will be sorted
Bubby - That's a great deal you got there!
The kids are getting 4 presents each, 3 little ones from us and 1 big one from Santa. Decided to get A a doll's carrier like mine for her "baby" we were gunna get her a pushchair but saving that for her birthday. K is getting a proper drawing table for his room, not idea on the twins! Help!
Also, had K in tears today after school. He has a friend in school who's parents are Jehovah's witnesses so when this little boy said that he doesn't believe in Santa. K thought he meant Santa had died and was with Grandma in the stars.... broke his heart poor thing. Tried to explain it to him and I think he understood, he's still stumped how someone cannot believe in Santa because "everyone like Santa, mama!"
It does take a while for them to feel truly warm again. Even bundled up in layers and so on, they've been frozen from walking to school and back. Whereas 4 was toasty warm. Taken to having snuggles on my lap a lot more and I'm sure it's so they get warmer. Think I'll be keeping a close eye on things. I've a list as long as my arm to ask gp next time I see her. I'm sure she'll thinking m nuts but niggling doubts with #2 have got us a paediatrician saying there are significant concerns and autistic traits so I can't be all wrong or paranoid.
That is a good deal on the galaxy pads. I'm a convert to apple. Terrible I know but everything works so well together. I can even do my spreadsheets and things now so have no need for the windows laptop. The dc are pleased as it means they get to share my old iPad. I've deleted everything They can cause trouble with and loaded up games and educational apps. They're thrilled.
Sok - She may think your nuts but at least you're not ignoring what's there. I'd rather ask a million questions! I hope you get everything sorted and your little soklets feel warmer and cosey more!
Someone pass the matchsticks!
Dc2 crawled into our bed sometime around 1am apparently.
At 4, dc3 was screaming her head off. She even managed to get herself upside down in cot, legs stuck in bars!! She was absolutely frozen! So I hauled her into our bed for a little while as she wouldn't settle at all. Got her just about warm before she decided it would be fun to roam all over the bed. So she ended up back in her bed, just as cold as when I picked her up and screaming her head off again. Off to get some more fleecy sleep suits and wheat bags today. Can't find my hot water bottle and tbh I think she would benefit from having something in bed rather than just taking the chill off the sheets. Have also cranked up their radiator.
Morning girls xx
Oh you brought back memories for me Mini!!!
Used to dread night time with my twins! Expressed milk for Gareth and BF Dan......the amount of times I have woken up still with Dan using me for a dummy and Gareth with the bottle just out of his mouth.....both needing changing (the days before disposables) - just the three of us in a stinky, milky bed LOL. Eventually I had to stop sitting up in bed feeding and sit on a chair with them. The tiredness is beyond anything else I have ever known.
......and, as for our Tom...........<<silent scream>> the worst sleeper I have ever, ever known. He is still rubbish at sleeping!!!!
Oh Ms Trips!!!!
<<wipes small amount of sweaty excitement from her top lip>> Just had a delivery from postie - thank you so much - The Robmeister has arrived!!!!! My Gawd I could maul with his 'bits' xx
Hope you had a great birthday Shabba,
<<strolls in with a black forest gateaux>>
Waves to everyone.
Hope you are all okay, have been a bit melancholy in the run up to Christmas but bearing up.
Delivers trays of nuts, twiglets, choccy brazil nuts and mince pies.
Hey, Charleymouse! Any chocolate nuts on there, I love those!
Took Artie out with dad today, needed a few bits and bobs and I needed the fresh air! One lady commented my "husband" and I on our beautiful daughter. My dad was pleased that he looked young enough to have another child
which brought up a subject I was not ready for!, after telling her the truth, she tried to flirt with him. It was embarrassing.
Tonight Artie and I are spending the night with Apollo, he had a wobble this morning but he had a few hours on IPPV and then went back to CPAP
Charliemouse how very lovely to see you esp as you bear gifts of my very fav kind............choccy nuts!! It is good to have you around, do stay a while.
Shabs............which month is the best?? Happy drooling
Spent a lovely day up at primary school to help out with the Nativity. There is a particular little boy that I adore, he is also the naughtiest. He got changed into his costume and said
"Mrs Peace do you like my velvet cloak? I am a king and I am a very very bad king (pulls fierce face) and when the baby Jesus comes out I am going to strangle it first then stab stab stab it with my sword coz I don`t like babies". ...........walks off! I will remember this day if I read his court case in 20 years time!!
<<thumbs through the calendar>>
February <<swoon>> hands in pockets, bright red jacket on........
June <<double swoon>> cheeky grin, lovely white shirt on.....
December<<faints clean away>> one hand up in the air, head back, black jacket with glittery bits in.....
Dear God above, he needs the love of a short,
fat curvy much older woman.............
Fantastic to see you Charley - like Trips said 'stay around a little while' - I have missed seeing you on here xxxxxxxxx
My dad told me today that he's seriously thinking of fostering and considering adoption. He says that he has so much love and life to give. He says he has an empty house so why not offer it to a child who needs what he has to freely give. "I will never love another woman but my heart will always have space for a child." My dad could always surprise me, dad is only 43 so... I'm still gobsmacked!
Oh and Apollo is 3lbs!!
Your Dad is only 43! << faints>>
<<stabds up and prepares to catch Shabs and Trips>>
That lovely MM - he is so young and, although obviously no-one will ever replace your mum, it would be great if he could find someone one day to love. How old was your Mum when she died MM?
Hope you are ok Charleymouse xxx
Hello charley mouse. Good to 'see' you. Feel free to offload here if you need a friendly ear.
Mama. That is lovely. You do make me feel old though! Your dad is just 4 years older than my dh! It sounds like your family has so much love to give and anyone sharing even a small piece of that would be truly blessed.
Work are still piss arsing about. How many months now?
And dh has also had to tell the school what's going on in case they see anyone odd hanging around - it's not just dd1 who it affects as another child has parents who work there too. It's all getting really quite serious.
Anyway, today I am getting things ready for rainbows Xmas party tonight and for the sleepover tomorrow. 50 gingerbread men to bake! Also have to go and get a new tyre as one of mine has a massive bulge, then pick up a tutu for dd1 which I bought last night and she can wear to her party tonight. It's a rainbow coloured one
Such a busy day. And tomorrow taking the bigs to the theatre!
Rubs, my mama was 37. She passed away 2 weeks after my gender scan with K. Pancreatic Cancer. Dad threw himself into us and dotes on everyone but I constantly worry about him. I want him to find happiness again but he refuses to acknowledge the subject.
I'm all for him fostering/adopting
especially since his process started 2 week ago! I just wanted him to be sure, I'd love a younger sibling and would offer love to any child young or older and would welcome them into our family opening
Hope you have fun baking, Sok!!
Soks you feel old??? Then I am positively Neolithic!
......and I am only about 3 years behind Trips
Morning. I neeeeeeed sleep! I actually think I'll get more sleep with 50 odd girls than with my own small children.
Dot baby was awake and screaming for 4 sodding hours. FOUR HOURS!! I did sleep through some of it. Dh and I took turns to pass out from exhaustion!
Ps. It sounds harsh but as soon as I picked her up, she was happier so I had to be cruel mummy trying to work our if she needed anything other than me.
Oh, and it sounds very confusing but I'm really not liking the absence of names so am reverting to nicknames from when the babies were tiny. So we have biggest, bigger, big and dot baby. Dot baby is dtd as she was teeny even though older than Big.
Good morning. I weighes myself today and I'm nearly 6lb away from my prepregnancy weight! And I've only been playing Ice Hockey and runs cycling around the block! Happy.
Busy day, today!
Hi Charliemouse <<waves>> Hi All
Mama, your dad is younger than my dh, and dh is 6 yrs younger than me! That really makes me feel old But good luck to him with the fostering idea.
Soks- hope the party goes well, but the thought of 50 screaming little girls makes me want to curl up in a corner and hide!
Nearly finished Christmas present shopping now, just dh's to pick up, and something for neices and nephews, they are all aged 15-19, so difficult to buy for now, last year i got them each a watch, but have decided to get gift cards this year instead, I will get those High Street ones you can get at the Post Office.
Also sang in my last pre Christmas concert tonight, so finally will get the time to start decorations and putting uo the tree tomorrow.
er almost 5 years Shabs.............we must have been time warp twins
Morning stupidly set my alarm........
<<lifts up one tired eyelid>> Been awake hours and hours but laptop playing up.....would have been faster to write you a letter each and deliver them by hand
Oops! Typo. 30 girls. But still...
We had a blast. Took biggest and bigger to see what the ladybird heard yesterday morning. Missed the start of the hour long show by half an hour! The theatre suggested we come back for the afternoon showing, so we did some shopping (how much did I spend in hotel chocolat!) and then back.
Whizzed home and threw stuff in car for sleepover (only got there an hour and a half late for me (half an hour after girls arrival time).
Girls went to bed around 10. Asleep mostly by 11. Inc biggest. I think she was one of the first asleep. But then dot baby had been awake and very loud from 11pm-4am the night before. I had a reasonable night's sleep. Managed best part of 6 hours up disturbed. Let everyone else get up in the night then did my bit from 6
Hope you're all having a lovely weekend.
My back hurts...........feeling worn out already, why do we do it every year? Night all xx
DH had to take the ABC quad today as A had a few night terrors and was exhausted and the twins were just refusing to walk so we had manuver the contraption
which I love around cobbled markets and 4 different bloody hiking trails just to visit my cousin and drop off some stuff because DH thought the fresh air would be nice! It took an hour each freakin' way with multipke drops due to feeds and K walking so slow. I forgot to wear my walking boots so my feet are sore. Only to return home to find the HV on our step who I greeted in a lousy manner and proceeded to glare at for disturbing a sleeping Artie because she wanted to check her over and test reflexes (?) . I was not impressed. Such a lousy day but brightened up by being allowed to stay with Apollo overnight and do his nightly feeds.
Hi Mama, HV always seem to turn up at the wrong time
Trips, Shabs, I feel too old as well .Finally finished sorting out mums flat today, plus DBinL came and helpd DHclear most of the ruined conservatory of stuff ready for the builders to come end of January, plus finished putting up the outside decorations. Cooked and served lunch and finally sitting down watching polar express with a cup of tea, rice pud in oven ready for tea. Absolutley knakered now!
Even argued with the HV about baby products too. She thinks I should be using the Simple brand as it'd gentle on their skin but I refuse because of the amount of chemicals in the stuff so I showed her which I use (Organtic babies range) and she went off on one how it's an unknown brand and what may work on a babies may not be the same on a preemie's skin. So I full blown ranted, she legt quite frazzled and DH just found it hilarious.
Been quite over here. Dad took the kids swimming with my cousin and then to a safari park. DH and I lazied at the hospital haha.
Grrrrr fed up with dh................bloody big time. I could swear in my bestest poshest Kent accent I could. I hate Sundays...............
Oh, Trips! Would like my sock full of pennies to hit him with?!
A-team had their first fight today. Artie tried headbutting and face whacking while Apollo thought screaming in her ear and niping her would be perfect payback. Funny to watch but two crying twins just before quiet time was not. When he comes off CPAP Artie will be allowed to crib sharr with him
Do you know how much longer Apollo will be in hospital Mama? I`ll take a pair socks please, double whammy !!
They say mid January so Apollo will be transferred to over to Germany after the New Year where his new care team will take over.
I've gor plenty of socks you can borrow! .
Morning...........another day in Paradise
Same here Trips [peed off emoticon]
More steriods for Apollo and more bloody tears from me. Another arrest but after a few touches to his stomach he was back full force. He was one really light sleeper - a nurse nearby sneezed, he startled awake and had a full on tantrum. Both twins fell asleep on me Artie accidently hits him and he wakes and has another tantrum. Doesn't help that the light still hurts his eyes either.
I'm dying for some sleep!
Oh Mama so very stressful for you, hope you get so much needed sleep tonight.
I am cream crackered, spent 2 days decorating the house, little to no help. Kids come home from school and one eventually says "oh I see you`ve put some lights up!"
<<crawls into her cell and finds Shabs in her place>>
Oh mama! Hope you get some rest.
Put the tree up Sunday afternoon. The bigs had great fun decorating it. I've lost a whole bag of baubles and the tinsel so we made do with the big baubles I don't normally use (came free with the tree), two sets of lights and the more delicate ones which are stored separately. It came together surprisingly well. Better still, it's still standing! Dot baby has only tried to explore it once, and I think they were actually after the pine cones accidentally left underneath.
Off to bed! Yay! DH is home with the kids and I have just got both Artie & Apollo off to sleep. We tried latching Apollo today, bit fiddly and tricky with CPAP but after taking our time he finally latched and drank at 4pm for his first official feed. He took to it so much quicker than Artie, it took her days to actually have a feed, he just latched and fed within a day! So now I have to wake up to feed both for the first time tonight
Morning girls xx
Anyone got any spare wood? Looks like I will need to build an ark here by the end of the day - the rain is bouncing down and, according to the weather forecast, it will be like this for the entire day!!!
Sounds horrendous Shabs! It's just frosty here and a little windy.
I feel like the walking dead. I haven't felt like this since Kvothe was a newborn. Artie woke 3 times last night, Apollo woke every hour and every time he needed nursing. The nurses were great and really helpful but had to tell them to bugger off and that I'll call them if I need them when they kept hovering. Still gutted I can't take him home soon.
Real storm brewing up here, lashing of rain and strong wind......could be worse I suppose, I could be laying in hammock under the coyol trees on my friends desert island in Lake Nicaragua...........
Have had gale force winds and rain all day - tonight we ended up with hailstone for about half an hour mixed with a small amount of snow
Today is manic! Packed up the last of our stuff and it's now on it's way with DH and his car to Germany to help his dad with the final touches, he'll be flying back on Saturday. We're living like hobos we're all sharng
Oh wow mama! Remind me where you are for Christmas?
Our Christmas wine arrived today. Happy, happy! Might have to crack some open while we wrap presents.
Hope everyone isn't too stressed with the forthcoming festivities.
Hi girlies - mama, sounds as if you are going to have an unusual Christmas to say the least!
Soks- pass the corkscrew please
Shabs, we had gale force winds and horrendous rain here overnight, thought we were going to lose the last of the conservatory roof
Trips - hope things get better for you there, you can leave them all to it and join us, if you like.
Dh went back to work today, GP wasnt too happy, he now thinks he may have a prolapsed (slipped) disc , but his boss said that if he goes back today on seated, light duties, he wont be on SSP over the holidays.
I have my new contract, to start in January.
James played his guitar in the school soul band and Mike the drums in the swing band at the Christmas concert last night, and both very well, both were the youngest performers in their groups. <<proud Mum emoticom>>
Last of pressies arrived today, so will be wrapping tomorrow, going to do food shopping Sunday, we both got Â£50 gift cards from work (unexpected bonus in my case) which will help.
We are in England for Christmas. We are literally all sleeping in one room, Artie is in her carrycot, twins in their travel cot and the eldest two are in with DH and I. Let's just say the nights are never boring!
The final removal vans are coming on the 27th, and we'll be spending the night at my dads, and then DH will be driving down with the four kids on 28th. I'll be staying til Apollo is transferred.
What wine have you decided on?
Morning Shabs, morning girls............woke up with a stiff back and neck, good start. Spent 8 hours shopping y/day, took my poorly brother so it was twice as much work! Today I am helping him get his decs up, do his bedrooms for his family coming down. Got 7 coming here all day Sunday, dh`s family from London..............feel exhausted at the thought of it all. Right, time to get up!
oh..............was it something I said? Where is everyone?
Hope you had a good day, Trips
Today was K's last day at school, his class wrote him leaving cards and got him a box of chocolates that he shared with the class. And then had his Christmas party during the afternoon. He absolutely loved it. A had her own Christmas party at nursery but had to leave early wirh her as the crowds and music set off her anxiety. She did however get to see Santa and gave him a curtsey. It's strange that they won't be returning to school until August. We'll be sending in their school applications just after the New Year for the best chance at places.
Bought my dad another Xmas present today. It's a photo album which I put in photos of him and the DC and the only one I have of him and Apollo.
Another night at the hospital with Apollo abd Artie. Feels so weird to tandem feed them especially when I have the CPAP to contend with but it works.
Also bought my mulled fruit punch from H&B for Christmas. I love the stuff especially warmed up like mulled wine.
Tomorrow we are taking the twins to see Santa and then pawning them all off on my dad as he wants to take them to the farm so we can spend quality time with Artie & Apollo. I need sleep. G'night
Missing DH so much, I cannot wait for his plane to land in a couple of hours!
Dom fell asleep on Santa. Cutest thing ever. We had a bittersweet family photo, gutted that Apollo isn't included but we made sure to take a few Christmassy photos at the hospital.
Home from the hospital and about to pass out with Artie
Evening girls..............stood at the stove all day cooking! Got the inlaws here tomorrow, arriving at 11am............I need a drink just thinking about it! Night night xx
Won't be on over the holidays due to moving and Apollo's transfer so I'm gunna wish you all a Merry Christmas & Happy New Year! See you in 2014!
Merry Christmas Mama- good luck to your DH with the move, and hope you have a very good New Year.
Morning girls...................yes just gone 3am! Wide eyed and legless, had a lovely day yesterday with Harrys family, er unfortunately I over indulged and now feeling the consequences. Blame it on sil`s homemade truffles!!
Mama wish you luck with the move, and hope your new life in Germany will be a very happy one. xx
Morning girls xx
@ Trips.....the relatives are not the ones from up t'Norff are they?
Mama - Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year - hope the move goes well and you are soon settled xx
All the best for a smooth move and transfer mama.
Trips, sounds like you are getting into the spirit of Christmas?
Manically getting last few things done here and then hoping tomorrow is a quick whizz round for cleaning and then relax. Hmmm.
Got twins new glasses today. They look super cute in them. Pink pair and blue pair but otherwise identical! Just wondering how long it will last before one of them breaks theirs.
Broke into the wine last night. We have a lovely ice wine (red) and another red which are both served straight from the fridge. They are the only two reds I know I like, and I didn't know about the ice wine until we went to a wine tasting. Then we have some bottles of white, which taste a bit like apples. And we pushed the boat out and got the children some fruit juices from the same company. They are delicious. But very much a treat juice.
All in all looking forward to a merry Christmas. Hope everyone is having a lovely time and the weather isn't putting too much of a dampner on things. It's blasted blowy here today. They're advising not to travel the main road to our village as the wind is so strong you could be blown off into the river. And I quite believe it having driven it this morning
Afternoon All. Blowing a hoolie here too. I had to go to the local farm shop to collect the salad stuff, and couldn't belive how wild it was outside.
Miracle of miracles, the boys have voluntarily tidied and vacuumed their rooms, even cleaning their poor fishes tanks out
I've run the vacuum around the place, and cleaned the bsthroom and kitchen., and even remembered to get the gammon out of the freezer to defrost, and am now about to sit down with mulled wine for an early alcholic boost.
Evening all.............finally got back go sleep at around 6am, woke at 8am and by 9am walked into town.........40 mins brisk blow along the beach! Quite scary out there still, going to be a wild night. I had wanted to go to the cemetery today but couldn`t face it in this weather. Double cross with dd, whats new? She went to Canterbury last Frid after school broke up, took £10 Christmas gift money she wasn`t supposed to. Spent every penny she had and bought a cd. Just seen it in her room, yep......I`ve got it wrapped up for Christmas for her..........grrrrr! Can`t be bothered to send it back to Amazon, she really drives me nuts! Must say I am not really looking forward to Christmas dinner, just us so like every Sunday, dd hates roast anywayso she`ll sit with a slice of turkey and a yorkshire pud, nothing else. None of the kids eats Christmas pudding or mince pies.................you do wonder why you bother. I expect you younger Mums think I am being miserable............its just after 35years of doing it the novelty wears off!! Are you with me on that one Shabs? No it wasn`t the Norven lot Shabs, it was the Muswell `ill mob!! Night all xx
Surprise! I have spare minutes to myself before chaos breaks out tomorrow plus I can't sleep at having to sleep with the window slightly open listening to the rain because I'm sweating to death but worried that I'm making Artie cold but she feels warm and snug so...
Trips, you're not miserable at all! And I have all this to come!
None of the kids like Xmas pud, neither do I but DH tolerates it so instead I make Baked Alaska with Choc sauce! We're also a Vegetarian household so we have roasted veggies and yorkshire pud instead of a roast. Twins are still picky eaters so will just have mash and fruit with carrot sticks (sounds disgusting but they love it
I have weird children ).
Morning girls xx
Know exactly what you mean Trips....I am terrified of girls to start with!! They know their own mind and everything - give me a daft lad any day LOL
Ive got Lew overnight on Saturday so Dan & Em can go out and celebrate Dans (and Gareths) 32nd birthday. I know this will sound very mean but I dont want to do it!! BUT I will and pin on a smile.
Wish me luck....going into our local town to get birthday cards, for Dan & Grace, for my Mum to write out!! She asked me to get 'separate cards for Dan & Gareth rather than one that says twins on.' I haven't and I will get into trouble if she remembers that she asked me.
So far beyond tired that I feel sick <<pins on smile before she goes out>>
Shabbs and Trips, I don't think either of you are being miserable or should feel forced to smile. It's easy for those around to not understand or forget why there are sad times. It took until I left home to learn why my dad was never the most bearable person at Christmas.
We're just picking up the last bits of shopping which didn't come on our delivery yesterday, dropping presents off up friends and relatives and then home to tidy up again!
Kids are between excited and grouchy. So much going on and so little routine today. I've never been a stickler for routine as I don't think it helps when things suddenly change. But Bigger doesn't cope well without knowing the days itinerary. And dot baby likes their sleep time even now.
Shabs/Trips - I agree with you both, I am struggling to get into the Christmas spirit here too.
I rushed around tidying this morning as my ocd big bro was bringing his new lady and her boys over to us. All I could see was the mess my 2 seem lo leave in their wake wherever they seem to go!
Luckily, when they arrived, the house was relatively tidy and she is lovely, so much nicer than his "everything has to be perfect" former wife! We were actually able to relax in their company and have a bit of a laugh, and my 2 boys took her 2 (11&12yrs) upstairs to their now tidy room to play without me dying of shame.
Now going off to visit mum. At least I am not doing the cooking tomorrow as we are all hoing over to younger bro's for lunch, I just have to take a sherry trifle (which I will make tonight) and some wine
Don't you just love Xmas eve... All my plans to be sorted and sitting down with a snowball or two and some chocolate have been blown. A friend came over to drop presents off, stayed for a chat. As he left, another one arrived - same thing. She's lovely but can't take a hint so nearly 2 hours later, after we've fed the dc, bathed the babies and put them to bed, she's still here. Can't exactly say bugger off as we've not seen her in ages. But some warning would have been nice! I've still got masses to shove up in the loft. Dh seems to think it will fit in my car. But even if it did (it won't), it's got to go in the loft anyway so why put it anywhere else first when it's only going to have to be moved again when we need my car.
Oh mama, you have my sympathies.
just to make you green with envy, we are sat down with dips, picky bits and a rum and coke watching Wreck it Ralph whilst the gammon cooks!!
Friend just left. Necked tea and now to finish.
Hope you all have beautiful, peaceful days tomorrow. Love to you all from all the minisoks, dh and I.
Can someone please tell me son that Santa doesn't come if you're awake. That's one bad thing about sharing a room with the DC. He keeps proding me and asking if Santa has been. So I resorted to sly tactics and moved him and DH downstairs to sleep on the sofa. He's a heavy sleeper so DH and I don't have to worry about disturbing him to bring the presents down!
Night all. Hope you have a great Christmas. Love, K, A, the twins, the A-team and DH & I xx
<<Trips tiptoes in..............trips over presents scattered over shag pile, slips on a mince pie an finds Shabs tassels under the sofa>>
Ladies..............after a sad trip in the pouring rain to the cemetery, I came home, showered and dh made mulled wine, door bell went and it was my brother, sil, two nieces and baby, had a lovely 2 hours..........it was just nice.
I want to wish you all Peace and Happiness, Health and Wealth (well it wouldn`t go a miss) and say thank you all for your amazing friendship, for all your support and for all the laughs..........love you all....................Merry Christmas! xx
Lovely message Trips - sounds like you had a really good night. Merry Christmas everyone, hope it is a good one. xxx
<<waves to everybody from under a heap of paper, brussel sprout peelings, and Toms beloved Ellie Golding singing on top note>>
Merry Christmas xx
happy christmas everyone!!
Presents have been unwrapped, turkey is in the oven, kids are playing fifa with dh and I'm off for a run. Hope you all have a lovely day with your families xxx
Happy Boxing Day everyone well day was as I thought.........friends came for a dink which was lovely. Then there was a tantrum, dh!! So then I went out to my brothers for a drink, walked home and watched Downton. Hope you all have had a fabulous day. xx
Goodbye house! Everything is packed and gone. Just watched the last van leave. I didn't think I'd get emotional over a house but I remember bringing K through the front door for the first time and thinking that this house had become a home. All the DCs firsts were here. I grieved for mama in that bedroom with DH right beside me. It's finally sinking in that I'm not only leaving the home we made but I'm leaving my only family behind and oh, bloody hell I promised I won't cry! I have no doubts and I'm excited about a new start but it's just so overwhelming. I look a state sat here on the step, Artie strapped to my chest, crying my eyes out. I don't wanna hand the keys over to my dad just yet.
Happy Christmas lovely ladies. Hope it was filled with good times
LG&T is that really you! Really really lovely to hear from you, where have you been? Hope you are all ok, life is good, please update us! We have lost so many of the old crowd, FG, Mars, Momma etc, be lovely to have a reunion!
Morning Shabs, morning girls..............hoping for a much quieter day with less cooking!! Enjoy. xx
Sorry Mama I hadn`t read your post. Did you have to leave on Boxing Day perhaps would have been nice to have ended Christmas in your home. So when is your dh and other dc`s leaving for Germany? Are you staying with your Dad until Apollo leaves hospital? It will be an exciting new beginning for you all. xx
Trips, they leave early morning on Saturday. We didn't have to pack up today as it was gunna tomorrow but we decided if we finished today we could enjoy the last day together before we split for the move. I'll be staying at the hospital until the transfer instead of my dad's but dad will be visiting us daily at the hospital.
Did you have a lovely Xmas?
Happy Boxing day Ladies. Hi LG&T
Mama- so sad for you to leave your old house, but im sure your new life will be wonderful and full of surprises.
Trips - Hope today is good for yoy
Shabs- enjoy your day too, I know yesterday was very hard for both you and Trips.
Soks- thanks for the lovely Christmas message.
Yesterday turned out well in the end, after a shaky start. I woke to M crying over his stocking gifts, I thought I would treat them as a little more grown up, so had included smellies, a book, some chocs and a video each, but not a larger pressie from "santa" as I had done in previous years He thought he had been "bad" (he knows I buy the gifts, not really santa, but we all preserve the illusion) and didnt deserve one, I forget they are more immature than their age sometimes. After they opened their main pressies, which were a total and wonderful surprise to them, and I explained I had spent a lot on that, rather than several smaller, less expensive gifts, he was fine.
Went to lunch at DBros, which tbh, DH wasn't looking forward to, and much to the surprise of DH, we all spent a wonderful, laughter filled afternoon. Home in the evening, boys engrossed on new pads, DH on new XBox game, and me left in peace to watch my programmes. No cooking involved in the whole day, bliss!!
Sounds like you had a wonderful day, bubs.
Our day started at 5.30am with a trip to A&E. One little 5 year got too excited and why trying to run to the tree and got his foot trapped in his blanket and went head first whacking his head on the fireplace. He needed it gluing and we were home within an hour! I went to visit Apollo while DH stayed with K. He gets his clumsiness from me .
The kids loved their presents from Santa. I also loved my present, DH bought me a promise ring and an invitation to my own promise ceremony to renew our vows in 2015, he planned and booked the whole thing! .
We had my dad and my cousin and her dd over foe dinner and then dad took the DC to his so we could spend time with Apollo, then headed back for the party. It was fun and lovely!
Sounds like you've all had lovely times. We've had ok times. Dealing with bigger and major meltdowns has occupied much of our time. I can honestly say I can't wait until the holidays are over. Sadly neither it appears can he
Sounds as though you need a <<hug>> soks. I find it a very stressful time. Hope you are ok. xx
Aww poor you soks xxx Hope everything calms down for you soon.
It's been very quiet here, mostly lazy days! Quite nice after a rather hectic year and to have some time just to chill together.
Bloody x-box booming out from the boys room, dk allowed their friend to s/over..........lovely.............
Just as a final insult for 2013, our shower went wrong and blew the main house fuse this morning! Had to wait for uk power network to come and replace it, they finally arrived at 9pm, but now we have to replace our electric shower - roll on 2014, it must be better!!
Morning girls xx
Danny & Gareth are 32 today!!! Wish so much they were both here - imagine the party.
Happy birthday to your boys, Shabs!
The hardest thing I've done is watch my family leave me behind. This morning was horrible. The twins knew something was up and wanted nursing constantly, K was really quiet, and A was her usually quiet self, a bit oblivious. Once in the car and the twins realised I wasn't coming, the screamed which set off A and K was crying quietly, bloody broke my heart. Just got a call from DH, they're now in France and he's only just got the kids sleeping. I feel awful but I have Apollo & Artie for company. My dad is heartbroken though...
Happy Birthday to two very special boys............lets hope there has been the most wonderful party upstairs! xx
Another noisy night.............dd has a friend to stay as the boys did last night, all she is doing is showing off. Very cross with her and Thomas, both went to Canterbury today just for the sake of it with friends. They had £30 Christmas money and have blown £20 of it today on rubbish, mainly food and drinks, ds also paid adult fare instead of asking for a childs return, over £7. Makes me cross because they don`t get a lot of pocket money so they could have bought something nice with it. Also it was given by my brothers and three of them means £30, tenner each. Lot of money!! Kids !! Hope you are ok Mama, won`t be long until you are all together. xx
Morning girls xx
Had Lew overnight - he is still asleep!!! Mind you his normal bedtime is 7pm and we all watched 'Up' together and he thought that it was hysterical that I cried.....then him and Uncle Tom had sausage rolls and garlic bread (weird combination but they wanted a party!) even though he brought his camping bed he wanted to sleep downstairs on the sofas! So we did - and I just woke up on the smallest sofa It was 10 before he fell asleep and had asked his 1,000th question of the night....
'Can you imagine touching lava?'
'Where do you think the lost city of Atlantis really is?'
'How long does it take to fly to Mexico?'
and on and on and on and on and on................
Have you watched Atlantis Shabs, finished last night, me and Thomas loved it. Well finally got to sleep at 3am, bloody girls. Dk buggered off to his allotment at 11am only just retd, kids all drifted down for b/fast between 11-12pm, I have cooked a piece of pork for tonight, prepped everything else and am now going to walk over the hill to see a friend and her 3 manic dogs, dk who moans we are never invited anywhere won`t come, so on my own I will go. And when she asks me if I want a cup of tea I am going to say no, I need a beer!
Had sad news last night, my very last uncle died here in Deal, my Dad lovely brother That's going to be two funerals in January.
Right off out in the sunshine. xx
Haven't watched any of it Trips - couldn't cope with Lew's million questions if we did!!
Very sorry to hear about your Uncle. Somehow this time of year makes things like that doubly sad. xxxx
No spoilers, Trips! But was it good? Still catching up, on Ep.9 at the minute, kids take all my free time! Haha. Sorry, to hear about your dad's brother. Awful news
Wearing my beautiful necklace that DH bought me for Christmas, it's a taxidermy bat skull set in cameo. It's beautiful and I miss him. How I managed 4 weeks while PG, I'll never know!
Apollo is a little worse for wear today, his temperature keeps dropping so he's swaddled and his incubator temp has been turned up slightly. His lips are tinted blue, but though his heart rate is really low but normal for him, so he needs more tests and hope to stabilize him before the transfer or they'll have to postpone it. Urgh.
Shabs - Im sure both the earthly and heavenly parties were a riot.
Trips - I hope you survived the rest of the triplets holidays. My two have already spent their Christmas money, it burned a hole in their pockets so they spent it on Halo stuff on Friday.(its an xbox game).
Mama- it sounds as if it was heartrending seeing you family off, I hope Apollo picks up quickly so you can all be together again,but it will be even sadder for your poor father.
We bought a new shower unit yesterday, and DH tried to fit it today, but the fuse blew again, and he reckons that the wiring needs replacing, yet another bodge we have found made by this house's previous owner. He was a builder, but I now wouldnt trust anything he built to stand for long!
Now we have no hot water at all, as our boiler packed in a couple of months back, and we cant afford to have either fixed atm
Kettles and pans of water for the moment to fill the bath I reckon.
We went to the panto in Ipswich yesterday, It was a great show, but let down a little by the bloke who played Cpt Hook , he was DI Burnside in The Bill, and, compared with the rest of the cast who were all from Kids TV, his acting was very flat. The boys say they did enjoy it, but they didn't show it much, typical teenage destain for anything which might be perceived as fun by their parents.
Yes it was vey good Mama, a few twists and turns!! Hope Apollo is ok, such a little soldier bless him.
Off to Canterbury in the morning to sort out my kitchen plans, the fitter has had a look at the design and is not happy with some of it! Been such a nightmare before it even goes in!!
Hoping for a decent nights sleep............one ds round at friends for the night so all quiet.................bliss! xx
x post there Bubbs! Two of mine cannot save a penny, like our they have spent their money already and really have nothing to show for it! Their brother is the opposite, counts it every day to see if its grown!
Ah, watched the final episode. I was not expecting that. Apparently she has a heart after all, however small. However, I still cannot look at Hercules without imagining him in a thong from The Full Monty.
Ever watch a film with actors from your area and you find yourself asking yourself if you really sound like that? I cannot watch Kez without thinking. My mama knew one of characters and it was filmed at my old school! My mama's accent really did sound like that and I do most of time!
Tomorrow dad is stopping all day at the hospital with me. And already planned for visits next year Dad has also heard from SS and his fostering process has begun xx
Morning <<surfaces from under piles of toys>>
Evening all.................rain rain rain..............got soaked today and more forecast tomorrow. Went to Canterbury today with dk and James who after me saying he`s the careful one with money spent £50 today on new clothes for himself, he likes to choose his own, saves me a fortune! I was looking for bargains as now I`ve got dks b/day on the 17th and the trios on the 27th!! Really cross, saw a leather bag in M&S reduced to £25, dk needs a new small shoulder type bag. Just looked at it an its not a shoulder bag a all but a wash bag...........£25!!! So back that goes tomorrow. No plans here for tomorrow night, what are you all up to? Feel abit sorry for the kids really, we aren't fussed and last year didn't even stay up until midnight, but at almost 16 they want to do something. Transport is such a problem, taxi here won`t ake bookings on NYE. An ideas?
Maybe a few fireworks in the backyard, Trips? Is there something local going on that's cheap?
We had family round as a kid and had a few fireworks in the garden. Since the kids were born we have the tradition of having my dad and cousin over and playing family games while the kids play or sleep and bring in the New Year with sparklers. This year however my dad and I will be spending a quiet night at the hospital watching Apollo fight for another day with us, DH is also spending it having a movie night with the DC. I miss them so much.
Lets hope 2014 brings us new hope and happiness
Morning girls xx
We are going to a friends tonight. Totally and utterly dreading it!!! Best friend Chelle usually has a party but her brother is doing it this year - they have a really big family so there will be approx 13,000 kids there well it feels like that anyway!!
When the twins were 3 days old it was New Years Eve. That day they discharged as many mums and babies as they could from the maternity unit. Ended up just myself and one other lady. That was also the day that Gareth was transferred to the local childrens hospital. I remember lying there at midnight listening to the boats at Salford Quays sounding their 'horns' (or whatever makes a noise on a boat) at midnight....I crawled under my blanket and sobbed. I still struggle with NYE.
Right off to my parents house - Mum says her kitchen looks like a bomb has hit it!! So will try and sort it for her. xx
Smiles from the threshold of the year to come,
Whispering 'it will be happier'...”
― Alfred Tennyson
Here's some hope for all of us x
Ha ha tried to post an hour ago and it said MN was not accepting any new thread posts!! Tut Tut MN!!
So what I was going to say is
Happy New Year to all you amazing, wonderful ladies............and hers to another year of "d`ya" ..........and come back FG!! XX
Happy new year!
Hope that 2014 brings you health, wealth and happiness.
<<Clambers over festooned bodies and liquor choccies>>
Wishing you all the very best for the new year.
Lots of love
Already not looking good for 2014. Was determine to be more financially sorted this year. Woke up to a negative bank balance and no wages - should have been paid 9 weeks owed money on the 31st. Payoff from work not expected until the 31st jan. And then I feel I'm being optimistic given I was dismissed in August. Was it too much to ask that one thing be truly behind me as we entered the new year? Instead it's being dragged out further.
Morning girls xx
Happy New Year to you all (good to see you Charley.)
Last night was much better than I expected......ended up with my friends two little grandsons attacking me with plastic dinosaurs and Tom wandering around the house with them keeping them amused....was suprised at how great he was with them - they are 3 and 2....and I sat all night with my friends son (he is 13) he has autisim and severe learning difficulties. He can quote entire scripts from 'Only fools and horses' 'Benidorm' and 'The Royal Family!!' He is a fantastic lad. I said to him 'Tommy while you are at the buffet will you bring some sandwiches for me please?' Without turning his head he gave his normal sentance 'You can kiss my arse Shabbs!!!!!!!!!' LOL LOL LOL - I know you shouldnt laugh BUT............
Yes laugh Shabs.............laugh more
How is everyone this windy wet day? Going to hibernate though should go out as the cat is out of food!! Could do with a nice film to watch, telly has been rubbish over Christmas. Have a relaxing day and very glad you enjoyed yourself last night Shabs . xx
happy new year everyone
I dont post here very much as my twins are all grown up, but i remember how hard it was
there is a lovely lady in this thread who could really do with your support I have asked her to come over and speak to you wonderful lot, but might be nice if you could help her out
Happy New Year everyone. And we can celebrate with <<<big drum roll>>> heating and hot water in our house!
I looked up the problem online, found the probable cause, we bought the parts yesterday at screwfix, and this morning my clever DH plumbed in a new diverter and it all works! Cost Â£55 for the part, Â£17 for pipefreeze so we didn't have to drain the whole central heating down, and voilÃ , its fixed! Saved us Â£100 on a plumber
We had a quiet family celebration in our house. went for a meal at local carvery (a Groupon offer, family of 4 two course meal for Â£30) then to cinema to watch Catching Fire (Hunger Games) which was very good, then home to board games, snacks and dips, and went upstairs to watch local fireworks.
where dis all those accented A's come from
Tomorrow is transfer day. I'm a nervous wreck and unable to sleep. Apollo still isn't stable and if he isn't stable by this afternoon his transfer will be cancelled. Fingers crossed for him! He has an MRI, ECG, ultrasound scans tomorrow
Decided to bedshare with Artie, tonight. I cannot believe she is 13 weeks old aka 1 month adj! So surreal. I keep staring at her and watching her nose twitch when I touch it.
How is 2014 treating you ladies?
Morning all, still raining, all through the night..........forecast until Mon. Mama fingers all x`d, how exactly is it going to work, do they take him by ambulance? Where in Germany will you be living, you have probably told me once! Awake early........another long day, might start taking decs down. Another Christmas done an dusted, they come and go so quickly!
Hoping Apollo behaves himself so you can transfer Mama. Does he have to be stable for a length of time or if he stabilises will they let him go?
Onwards and upwards today. Taking the decorations down and spring cleaning commencing.
Trips, long and short of it without going into detail. He will be moved by ambulance to plane, plane to germany, ambulance to hospital. Hence why he needs to be stable for travel. Lot of planning!
We'll be moving just outside Frankfurt but Apollo will be going to a children's hospital in Berlin.
My God they have come such a long way with babies like A. I remember Gareth being transferred just half a mile to our local childrens hospital....took them over an hour to make that journey. 4 police motorcyclists surrounding the ambulance and the slow crawl. Good luck to you and your family - I hope you are all settled, very soon, in your new home. xxx
Didn't see your post Soks, til after I checked back! He has to be stable for a period of time before travel so that he's less and more stable for the change in air pressure. And to cover their backs and for insurance purposes agreed to by both hospitals.
He's starting to stablize but his heart rate keeps going out of whack so they're going to increase his beta-blockers.
Artie threw up on me this morning and she smiled just after. She's gunna be so like her big brother Dom!
Last post from England!
Apollo stablized around 2.15pm 45 minutes before the deadline! He's still stable and sleeping like a log for the first time since off the high vent. He's on high doses of everything. He's being prepped at 6am and will be on our way at 7am on the dot!
Woo hoo mama. Wishing you all well on your journey to rejoin your family. Will you and Artie be travelling with Apollo?
Oh Mama I would be so scared and probably have stayed in the UK until he was out of any danger, you are in incredibly brave........I feel a bag of nerves just thinking about it.........its daunting though I know he will be in safe hands. Gods speed. xx
Morning girls xx
Hope everything has worked out for you Mama.
We're here and settled! Saying goodbye to my dad was truely heartbreaking, I won't see him now until my birthday
I would like to thank ADAC and their amazing staff who reassured me and talked to me through everything and explain what would happen.nd They also took the time to watch over Artie too. The incubator was massive and bloody scary. On board their was the pilots, a paramedic, a Neo nurse, a neurologist and a cardiologist plus me and Artie. It was a scary, surreal situation but friendly and calm.
Apollo will stay in Berlin for his heart assessment where they will decide if he would benefit from the pacemaker operation now or later. The staff are friendly, lovely but intense and very proffessional and it's so weird hearing German where ever I look. Talk about culture shock!
DH starts work on Monday so the family are taking over care of DC until Apollo's case has been reviewed. 5 hours away from kids and it's awful.
Oh well done Mama. I'm so glad to hear you all arrived safely. Especially with the weather warnings which were given for the east coast yesterday.
Taking dot baby for a hair cut today. It grows so fast. Poor poppet can hardly see for it dangling in her eyes.
Rain rain rain......just back from my brothers, 3 hours housework cleaning up after his familys visit. Its not fair the way they leave it. I only do it to help him as he s so good to me and the kids. Thomas got up at 5.30am and has walked 4 miles to a wood to go airsofting with 9 of his mates, chucking it down,must be mad! Oh had better go, dd is on the pc filling in her online application for 6th form and all I can hear is "how the hell do I know"!
Sorry I have been away. Laptop has crashed! A tyical end to an wwful year.
Mama - Wow! what a journey.Glad you are over there and everything seems to be hoing smoothly. Mama, your little Apollo, is a little trooper!
Trips- didnt they clear up after themselves at all, even though they knoe how unwell your DBro has been and how much stress you have been under? How ungrateful and thoughtless of them
I spent yesterday afternoon at my friends house. She is the one with 10yr old id boys, as well as her two girls, 12 and 14. She is really struggling with the behaviour of 1 of her boys, they are fighting all the time (no surprises with that) but one is very destructive with it, and flys into horrendous tantrums whenever he is denied anything he decide s he wants. yesterday, I drove her down to the nearest town to get a few bits, and he went berserk because I couldn't take him as well, (I had no room in the car) so while we were out he destroyed 2 of his brothers Christmas presents! Mind you, she bought loads of sweets whilst out, and, despite his awful behaviour, she gave him some! I couldn't belive it!
Hi Bubbs, how I wish we were all within walking distance of each other, I could really do with a good friend right now to sit and pour out all the anger and frustration that's in me.
I end up feeling its me, feeling that I am the selfish one who always gets her own way, but believe me I don`t.
Ok heres whats going on.
3 months ago dks niece and her husband (they have adorable 6yr old twins) asked us if we would be interested in going to Florida in Aug 2015 with them for Michaels 50th b/day. Dks sister would come too. Great, all for it and dead excited after the last grim 6yrs. So I have started looking at 7 bedroom villas, flights, tickets etc and come up with an approx. cost............bloody expensive. But dk said we deserve it. Fine. Then today I get an email from his niece to say their best friends would also like to come, we have met them once, seem ok. Told dk and he instantly said that's it, we are not going. He thinks they have no right to have asked them. They never said in the beginning it was family only, they obv want a group of people to share the holiday with. So I suggested to him we get two villas, side by side we get our privacy, probably during the day we would end up doing different parks to them anyway as our kids are so much older etc. We could still have nice evening together, it would be fun. But no, he says its spoilt now, he doesn't like them (hardly ever spoken to them) and he knows what it would be like, us 4 women would get together and be silly and he`ll feel left out, and its not fair on our kids!!!!
I would like to bloody well go without him.
Honest opinion please.
Honest opinion. Tell him to stop being so bloody selfish, this could be a nice break for all of you and he has no right to have a hissy fit seeing as you were also invited not the ones who suggested and invited people. And like you said you could get two villas and you don't have to spend everyday with them. Tell him to suck it up and you're not gunna turn down what will be a lovely holiday for you and the kids because he's got the monk on. Just my two cents.
Ladies, can you put a thought to the universe tonight for Apollo. I just need all the hope I can get because I'm really struggling here.
Mama. Thinking of Apollo for you. And also of you, wishing you strength.
Sending every positive vibe to you both, it must be so hard, he has come along way, a little fighter xx
Mama- sending out the prayers for your little Apollo, keep fighting little man. â¡â¡â¡â¡â¡â¡â¡â¡â¡â¡â¡â¡â¡â¡â¡â¡â¡â¡â¡
I don't know if you sre religious or not, but, despite everything, I am, so hope you don't mind.
Ahhhhh - the funny symbols is the site transposing my heart symbols - that was a line of hearts Mama xxxx
Trips- in my opinion your DK should either suck it up or stay at home on his own, and you and the kids go and have a great time!
I'm not religious but I wouldn't begrudge someone their faith and right now I could do with some of that faith. I've never prayed before so pray on Apollo's behalf for me <3
Trips - just wish it was me and thee (and our kids can come as long as they behave themselves) going on a really small adventure. My hubby, of 35 years told me not to come home from my friend chelles house.......seems like I am cocky and arrogant......OOOOOOOOOOOOOOh who the fuck would have thought it LOL.
Bloody Derkster! Is it jealousy d`ya think? See I keep making allowances for dk, he`s had a bloody rough time over the last 6 years and of course we don`t know if and when the cancer will come back. He I know is also embarrassed using a pool etc with strangers because of all the horrible scarring from the surgery. But deep down I feel he would still be anti, its just him, he is not very sociable unless its on his own terms. And this is also where the age gap comes in, I still want to have fun and be silly, I love company. Maybe I won`t when I am the same age, for now its frustrating.
Mama how is Apollo today bless him? x
Trips, have you tries talking to him about it, there's no excuse for behaving like that towards you. If he's embarrassed or self conscious about how he looks then there are plently of things he could do. You both shouldn't dismiss a holiday when there are things that can be worked out.
Now it's morning and I can breathe with DH beside me. Apollo heart rate dropped to 24bpm, he was blue, floppy and unresponsive then while the care team were working on him, he went into cardiac arrest - his heart just stopped. It took a while to get him back - longest 2 minutes of my life. however his heart rate just kept on dropping, they said he went into heart failure and I had to make the decision whether we keep on resucitating him until his temp pacemaker could be fitted or sign a DNR. They have no idea if has any brain damage and even if his pacemaker is fitted successfully they don't know the quality of his life. I didn't sign it. I couldn't. He r.arrested twice and had another c.arrest. he had a temp pacemaker fitted at 4am and was put on the ventilator his heart is doing better and his colour has returned and his gases look okay. His pacemaker op is scheduled for 5.30pm. So much for his week assessment. Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers xxx
Mama- hope that fitting of the pacemaker has gone ok, prayers still continue as we wait for news. xxxxxxxxx
Apollo is out of surgery and in recovery. The surgery had a few complications but was successful and lasted just over 2.5 hours, he gad a dual chamber pacemaker fitted. It's heartbreaking to put my son's life in some stranger's hand. Despite being debriefed about before and after op. I wasn't prepared for the amount of wires, tubes and machines. He will remain on a high vent until his heart and lungs have had time to recover. So, far he's doing well and his care team are pleased. So am I! Not out of woods yet but they're positive
Great! I was on tenterhooks here waiting for news from you. Lets hope for his continuing improvement.
Oh Mama how on earth are you surviving all of this, how is your dh coping?
been lingering but not had much to post really, been so quiet here.
mama, that is fabulous, well done Apollo! He is such a little fighter xx
shabs & Trips, your dhs need kicks up the arses. Trips, he hasn't really given u a proper reason for not going. I'd be very tempted to let him sulk home alone. Do u think if u booked it he would change his mind eventually? He should be proud of his scars, after being through so much! No one is going to think badly of them. Or, he could easily wear a tshirt. He sounds a lot like my dh really - just not really very sociable!
Kids are back to school today, whoppee! It has been really nice having the family time, but I do think they are getting a bit bored of being stuck in the house, especially with this lousy weather. I'm looking forward to being able to spend longer at the gym wihtout having to worry about rushing home again
I think surviving is the correct word. I feel drained and tired. I can't even cry anymore, I hear bad news or I see his sats drop I just think, "not again". Silly and irrational as it is I can"t bring myself to talk to him or touch. I'm scared he'll feel cold and that his little hand won't grasp my finger. When the nurses touch him I become panicky and want them to stop. Saw the social worker & counsellor and I just didn't want to talk to them. I wanted them to go away - they eventually left. For the first since they were born; DH & I couldn't comfort each other.
DH says he's fine and tries to stay positive but I know it's hard on him, before he had his 10 week to be there all the time and wasn't farto visit when he was working. Now he's back at work and 5 hours away from us. It's his first day at work and he's exhausted from being here all day. He doesn't have the time he desperately wants with Artie and Apollo and it hurts him badly. He confided in me that he's starting to feel like a part time dad towards them. That kills me but I don't know how to fix it.
Haven't slept. Can't sleep. Gotta sort out childcare today and make the 5 hours journey home to see my kids just fly back with Artie tonight. I need sleep! Zzzz
Mama- its so hard , I know. My dh was only just over a hour away when my 2 were in high dependancy, but, at times, that seemed like a million miles, especially when a crisis happened, which it did on a number of occasion, but, even then, they were not as poorly as your little lad. Later, when M had his lung removed at 2yrs, dh was able to be with me for support and help with J, I must admit, I don't know how I would have managed without him.
It will be ok in the end, and he will soon feel like a dad again when hebis dealing with his little Apollos future nappy explosions
I am sitting here feeling guilty for moaning about their behaviour after fighting so long to keep them here in the first place.
Thanks, Bubs I'm sure I'll be moaning when I'm home! As awful as it sounds I can't wait to pawn Artie off on DH so I can a few child free moments!
Talked to my dad today, he thinks I should step back from Apollo and the hospital and go explore the City for a few hours. It's not a bad idea but I feel like I'm abandoning him after just a big operation. I told a nurse off today for talking to Apollo. How bad is that? I feel like a jerk. However guilty I felt it was refreshing and their smiles were theraputic. K has draw a picture of Apollo with his new special "Heart box". Super adorable. Yesterday was such an emotional day but feels s little ligher today.
Also, Artie help her head up today!
Nice to see you, Chops!
Oh mama. I feel so much for you being so far away from everyone. Do make sure you let the nurses and mw etc know how you feel. Don't feel you have to carry the weight of the world on you.
We're not having a great time here with bigger at the minute. Even big has taken to copying him, snatching and hitting.
Morning girls...............not enough sleep. Hate getting up these dark mornings. Off to the first of two funerals this week, glum, at least its not raining atm.
Morning. One back to school today. Trouble isn't back at preschool until tomorrow. Alas!
That's tough, Trips. Hope the funerals go as smoothly as possible. Condolensenses to the families.
Sok, I wish mine were going to school! They don't start term until August
shoot me now. Luckily DH's job is paying for childcare until July.
Apollo is recovering wonderfully. He's now off the high vent and moved onto the normal vent with only one bout of steriods. He still has an innocent heart murmur and his heart and lungs are still weak - they say he may never be in the normal range but he's responding well and the pacemaker is doing what he should thankfully as he's pacemaker-dependant! Still irrationally scared to touch and talk to him though.
feel like a horrible mum.
I was petrified to love Gareth FWIW. So afraid of him - thought I would break him if I held him. BUT he didn't break and I quickly learnt to love him xx
Oh mama. I cannot imagine what you must be feeling right now. I echo shabs though. You can't break him even if you feel like the smallest touch could hurt. Talk to him if nothing else, let him know what his big sister is up to. Talk to the nurses and let them know how you feel. I'm sure they've seen it hundreds if times before. I was terrified of giving Jennifer the first bottle I gave her. She felt so small and was so bundled up. And was bigger than Apollo. And I was worried that she wouldn't know me. To be fair, she was fed such small amounts so regularly her first few days I don't think she cared who fed her as long as it came. 21 months later and I have the biggest limpet I've ever known. I swear she's making up for lost time in a very late fashion! She was only in scubu 5 days!
Thinking about it all now - some 32 years later my Mum must have worried about both boys - just like I was doing. She used to spend hours singing 'Two little boys had two little toys......' to them, and just touching them while they were in their moses baskets.
I bumped into the surgeon who did Apollo's surgery this evening - he's doing a 48 hour shift! Holy crap! I asked to sit with him and if it would be okay if I asked him a few questions now that I feel calmer and able to take things in. I bought him a coffee and he said something that stuck with me, "touch is a basic need even for the smallest of babies." So after DH kicking my butt over the phone, I kissed Apollo and said hi. Who knew that would send me into a cryfest. A much needed cryfest. I can't hold him yet but they say I can next week. Still hesitant to to more than stroke and hold his hand but I feel slightly better.
I'm glad I talk to you ladies and know someone else understands x
Just keep talking to him and touching him as much as you can do. Gareth weighed 4lbs 1 ounce at birth (38 weeks) he was sent home two weeks later from the heart ward at our local childrens hospital. By then he weighed just 3lbs 15ounces despite my milk and formula.
He fought so very hard to stay with us. Shrugged off chest infections etc but he couldnt fight anymore. I always think now that thanks to Gareth and many other children like him that babies born now with heart problems survive because of what surgeons learnt from my precious lad. I am so happy for you that your little fighter has been born in an era when so much progress has been made and where babies/children survive and live a normal life.
I hope A goes from strength to strength. xx
Shabbs........such a heartfelt reply, even now I can feel your pain still. Gareths life however short brought you love and never to be forgotten memories, however sad. It is very hard, yes probably if Gareth was born now his chance of survival would be high, and that is so hard to accept. Apollo has been on such a high rollercoaster since birth, he`s still riding Mama, just let him know your there beside him. xx
Shabs ((((hugs))))) to you, I know its so hard, but Trips is right, they learned so much that Gareth made a big impact on the world in the short time he was with us. If it wasnt for the brave children and mums like you in the past, my 2 definitely would not be here, as I had ground breaking laser surgery to correct my T2TTS.
Mama - You really needed a cry and that talk with the surgeon for you emotional well being, now you need to pass on to Apollo the fact you are there by your touch and voice. Keep going love, it will be more than worth it inthr end.
Trips - condolences for the families of the deceased, I know you are a great friend to so many people, but it is hard when you lose people, especially so close together.
My 2 returned to school today, and I am seing J's form tutor tomorrow to discuss how we can help him in the future with his friendship issue's and also how we can try and get him to be more organised.
He had 8 negative behaviour points in his last 3 weeks of school for not doing homework and forgetting to bring in books/work, or basic equipment to his various classes, despite me -nagging- reminding him about it every day!French is worst, he hates his French teacher with avengence, and, having met her, tbh, I can see where he is coming from
Soks - sorry, meant to add a ((hug)) for you too, Im sure things will get better again when you brood get back to a normal routine,, certainly it will help with Bigger, he needs the routine to ground him a bit.
Shabs, I'll be forever indebit to your little boy and many like him who, in a way, helped my little boy. Though it saddens me that their spark had to join the stars for those breakthroughs to be made. I'll make sure to treasure my little boy to the moon and back. Apollo weighs just under 3lbs 15oz now, he's come along way from his birth weight of 1lb 9oz. Very proud
I hated my French teacher, especially when I moved up to a "higher" French class. I adored my German classes however haha.
Evening. Bit of lighthearted amusement for you all. It was our first ww meeting since the 18th December. Wednesday weigh in so obviously missed 2 weeks. Out of the 20ish who were weighed today, we lost a grand total of 4lb. We put on 52lb. Our leader is glad she doesn't get paid according to pounds lost!
Soks I dare not even near the scales, and doesnt help that I probably exceeded my alcohol units by a huge amount over the past 3 weeks as well!
Spoke to both J's form tutor and head of year. They said they were going to get in touch with me anyway, as they are having to put him on report for a couple of weeks due to amount of negative behaviour points he had got, it will be awake up call for him and he is going to very upset tomorrow As for his social issues, they agree there is a problem, and it is in the msin part due to his immaturity, They are going to give him more responsibility in class, and try to encourage him to in other ways too. I hope he doesn't think that me going to see them has caused the report, I am pretending that I know nothing about it tonight.
My lovely DIL Emma goes in hospital tomorrow to have her gall bladder removed. Dan has time off and Lew is going into school as normal. Hope everything goes well for her she has been having massive problems for a long time.
Bubby - I have eaten my own body weight (and thats a considerable amount) in bloody chocolate and sweet stuff this Xmas - I dont even like sweet stuff
I seem to be eating my weight in breadsticks and garlic dip. I swear vampires in 5 mile radius would drop down ill! <<currently munching on them as we speak!>>
Hope your DIL's op goes well, Shabs!
Bubs, I hope the school play more of a part in helping him at school. I think the responsibilty thing would be good thing to try. A finds it difficult to make friends she prefers to play by herself and finds it stressful when made to interact with others.
Shabs - Hope all goes well for Em tomorrow.
I'm starting to wonder at times about J. In a lot of ways he is very like DH, and has some definate "aspie" traits, but I also wonder if this is 'learned' not inate behaviour.
Em too? Shabs two of my nieces have just had the same op, one is 24 and the other is 33, strange isn`t it? Better get some shut eye....zz zzz zzz
Sending you much love and hope MM xxx
Morning All, nice to see you Ruby x
My BIL is currently doing the 5hour journey with my kids to see me. Cannot wait to see them and give them big hugs. Going to take them to see the Wall and spoil them
Apollo is holding strong and stubborn
Thanks for the hugs. Bigger went back to preschool yesterday. He's still screeching from the rooftops and quite aggressive. But hopefully he will settle down. He's looking forward to our holiday as he remembers it from last year. Though is unsure about the pool. We've bought him a little wetsuit so hopefully he won't be as cold this time.
My twin reins arrived today and I'm so looking forward to trying them out. They like holding my hand and walking so I'm hoping we'll get on better with these than the regular ones I've got. They'll certainly be fun to try out next week!!
My twins love the reins but according to my BIL Dieter has gone back to wanting to lie in the stroller. Hope you have success with yours!
BIL dropped kids off at the hospital this morning so I'm going to surprise him and meet him for coffee instead and let him meet Artie
DH just informed me that our next child will be called
Mr Mistoffelees and it's nonnegotiable. I knew his love of musicals would come back to haunt me when I married him...
Well although it was sad today, it was lovely to see so many family members I haven`t seen for years, especially my cousin Marilyn who flew over from Australia for her Dads funeral. We haven`t see each other for almost 50 years, scary...........yet we knew each other instantly. A bittersweet day. xx
Today is a good day, Apollo is being weaned off the sedative today so here's to hoping he doesn't fight against the tube!
Artie rolled over from her back to her stomach, today! For the past couple of days she's been rolling stomach to back but today was the time she's done it the other way. So proud. She's even making contact She's kicking the "premature" status' butt!
Apollo is no longer fighting his tube so he doesn't need to be sedated again until he needs scans etc and this morning he opened his eyes for the first time since his op and it's such a relief to him aware. Onwards and upwards
DH is taking the DC swimming today while Artie & I go stroller shopping!
Apollo has hit the 4lb mark! Such a massive milestone for him! The staff are very pleased and have increased his feeds in hopes that he will continue to improve. So happy!
Oh mama that is good news. So glad to hear that go Apollo!
Well my twin reins arrived the other day. They are soooooo much easier than regular reins. Even if it was funny that the babies insist on going in opposite directions. And easier again getting them back in the car. I just clipped big to the school railings so he didn't wander off while I sorted his sister
We go on holiday Monday
Morning girls xx
Great news about Apollo x
Fantastic news Mama
Well I am cream crackered, kitchen is ready for the fitter/electrician to start tomorrow, camping stove and microwave and kettle are in situ on my windowsill in the sitting room, its going to be fun over the next two weeks...........agghhhhhh.
Lots of takeaways coming up!
Glad Apollo is doing well MM
Holiday Soks? Where you off to?
What's your new kitchen like Trips?
Morning ladies! X
Enjoy your holiday Sok!
What design you settled for, Trips?
Filled in two more school applications today just gotta send them off. So we have the one we want and 3 as back up!
Miss my kids so much! Think I may ask PIL to bring them to Berlin for a week and have them stay too, of course I'd pay for hotel. But I don't wanna upset their routine more than I have to especially A. Should I or should I deal with daily skype chats & phone callS?
Any plans today ladies? Artie & I will spend the morning at a baby book club before spending the afternoon with Apollo
My 5 year old has become obsessed with Chris Hatfield (reading Chris' book to Apollo) according to my FIL. He keeps wanting to watch Space videos and take Space pictures. I apparently have over a dozen Space drawings for Apollo and Artie. He's also demanding a Space room and that we read him only Space stories... all within a day and all because he watched a youtube video of Chris in Space. I love him so much, he's so carefree and just a happy little boy! #proudmama
Hi ladies. just popping in before i make lunchboxes then off to bed.
Mama - great news about your little man, and, sorry, once the space obsession kicks in, that it! My M still adores his space theamed room at 13yrs!!
Trips - nice you could catch up with family, even ifbit was for such a sad event. It seems to be that way, doesn't it, you seem to catchbup at big family events, in your 20-30s its weddings, then christening s, but now it seems to be funerals
I see Chops has won heself a ski trip, so she will be jetting off again soon
I had my 1st physio session today to try and release the tendon and nerve in my ankle, ouch! painful, I was glad when she said to leave it for a couple of weeks to settle down before the next session.
We are finally havingnour windows, patio doors, conservatory and guttering sortedbout in 2 weeks, I am having to take annual leave, but it will be worth it . I just hope that the weather doesn't conspire against us and things have to be postponed. Good excuse to get the boysvto tidy their rooms though, and we have promised them new beds after, they both want to get rid of their midi sleeper for something a little more grown up.
Trying to book a cheap holiday abroad for the summer hols, but it is all too expensive. The minimum costs would be about Â£1400 for a week for us, as now the boys are counted as adults. We just cant afford that, and we dare not take them during term time, as everyone recently got a letter saying that unless the family had to go away out of school holiday time, ie farming or military families, (which there are a lot of anyway at their school), the education authority is going to prosocute you, and that can be ip to a maximum of Â£250 per child, per week!
Oh well, looks like it may be a caravan holiday in merry old England again. So much for having a guaranteed sunshine holiday for my 50th!
I know what you mean Bubbs ,we are really now 5 adults, kids will b 16 on the 27th, are you looking at Aug? Try to find a cheap flight after the 20th prices lower usually by then. Try Palma 100`s of flights then look for an apt in somewhere like Puerto Pollensa, huge choice and good pric range...........my all time fav family holiday.
Well an exciting but noisy day..........my kitchen is now a shell, pic on my profile as it was y/day...........I`ll do one tomorrow as it looks now, then I`ll do an after one! So exciting ,thanks to my lovely Mum xxx
Morning girls xx
New kitchen sounds fantastic Trips. xx
Bubby - Majorca sounds a good idea - flights are cheaper and there are so many lovely places.
We are not going away this year. No savings left, cheapest flights coming in at around £400 each!! Dont want to leave my Mum & Dad either - their current state of health is very, very poor. xxx
Holidays will be impossible for us for awhile due to the rules most airways have i.e 2 adults per 2 children under a certain. Which is all of them. We can go if we bring my dad along (always do anyway).
Hope the kitchen goes as planned!!
Feel tired this morning even though Artie had a really good night and Apollo's alarms didn't go off once.
morning girls x
Did I hear my name?
Mama - fab to hear Apollo is doing so well. FWIW I'd prob leave the kids for now They probably need time to settle after the big move rather than upheaving them again. Hopefully it won't be too much longer xx
Bubby what about a caravan in Europe? Selectcamp are cheap, and you could get a ferry from Felixstowe and to somewhere like Amsterdam. We aren't planning anything for the summer this year neither yet. After last year, we can't afford a proper holiday, so will be making do with freebies and maybe a short break with just the twins as R and J always go away a bit in August.
Hope your ankle is feeling a bit better today!
Good luck with the new kitchen fitting, trips! I hated having ours done (two years ago, after a loo flooded the ground floor), but it will be worth it in the end.
Yep, I'm off skiing in Saas Fee hopefully! Still waiting atm for the vouchers to arrive from Switzerland then I should be able to go ahead and book it. It's half board in a 4* hotel, flights and ski pass included, so pretty much all paid for! Kids are NOT coming, though I won a stay in Yorkshire at Flamingo Land, and tickets to Alton Towers in separate competitions, so going to take all the kids away at half term in May.
happy holidays Soks! Where are you off to? Didn't know you were dieting! I put on 2lbs over Xmas which I was pretty pleased with. I did carry on with classes though, and even went for a run on Xmas day.
Fell off my bike on Fri and spent the day feeling very sorry for myself. Bruising is still coming out but less sore now, thank goodness! I hit my cheekbone, knee, ankle and elbow. Skidded on ice, bike went one way and I went the other! No more cycling in ice for me!
Mama, you are in Germany now - you can jsut drive down to Austria, or Switzerland, or Italy!
Chops, that is true. Never thought of it like that! Still thinking like a British person! We'd like to take the kids to Canada, Russia & Sweden. They're on the back burner. We have planned a trip to Austria next year which is a 5 hour drive minus rest stops.
We decided to the DC settle and not move them around. To say he's never really been on his own with the 4 DC for long periods of time, he's doing amazingly. Proud of my DH. So lucky to have him!
That sounds painful! I hope your injuries heal quickly! Hope your ankle feels better too, bubs!
Caravan around Europe sounds fun!
Whereabouts in Austria are you going? we did a week in Zell Am See, near Salzburg a few years ago - was one of our best holidays! Absolutely loved it.
We're going to Zillertal Arena (ski resort) heard good reviews about it and my dad has been too. It's really family friendly. And there's a few places that accomade 8 people And then we're taking them to Disneyland at Hallow's Eve (this year) - Well PIL & my dad are taking K and A
All ideas seem good, but we are a bit stuck with dates. i can take whenever I like off now, with my new contract, as my oppo and I don't have to cover each other any more, but when DH went to book his hols, only 2 days after they opened the calender, the night shift had got in first, and booked most of the hols already (he has to cover them ) He managed to book what will be the equivalent of 10 days beginning 31st July, and then 7 days from the 16th. I did say to him we could save up and wait to see what last minute deals are available, but, due to his AS he finds that too stressful, he has to have everything planned out! We are now looking at a static caravan in Devon or Cornwall for a week, going private hire as per usual, as you usually get a better price.
Ankle still quite bruised and sore, but hopefully it will eventually be worth it.
Trips - of your new kitchen,.
Mama, glad Apollo is behaving himself. I love Austria, I have had a couple of great holidays there.
Chops- I must start doing comps in earnest, glad you didn't injure youself too much, be careful out there.
Shabs- I know what you mean about your parents, I was reluctant last year because of my mum, must admit, now she is settled in her home, I feel a bit more relaxed about leaving her. It seems strange, but I am now sleeping better than I have for several years. I have decided that it is because I now know that I am not expected to drop everything and go over there to sort her out, day or night, whenever I get a telephone call.
I hope you manage to find a holiday, bubs, you deserve a break! My DH is just as anal about planning. He likes to think of every outcome and have back up plans in place - for example, our holiday next year; he's called and asked about newborns/PG women and nearest hospitals. When I asked him why his response was, "if my little swimmers are winners, we need to be ready."
I could strangle him. Our move to Germany was more than 10 spreadsheets/Word Docs worth of planning. Even budgets!
Apollo is being a little stubborn. He's refusing to come off the vent, so they will try again today. If not, they'll leave it to next week and try him with steriods, again. They think that because he was on since birth and only recently came off, he's gone back to relying on it again. His lungs are massively scarred and weak but his heart though weak is coping well with the changes
evening ladies, promised myself an early night so straight to bed in a min! Waste of time today, had to go to Canterbury hospital dental dept, in and out in les than 2 mins! Consultant should have x-rayed my mouth, instead he said if I was feeling ok, no need to come back to them, go back to my gp! Got home and my lovely neighbour banged on the door and gave us a homemade fish pie for our supper as we have no kitchen. Isn`t that kind? It was such a godsend after microwave meals! My kitchen units are arriving tomorrow
feeling bored.........anybody want a ?
I'll take that had a day of arguing with one of the consultants. He wants to do to a lumbar puncture without reasonable cause and just for the sake of ruling things out. Well, just in case isn't a good enough reason to stick a needle in my poorly son's back. He wasn't counting on the fact that I'm fluent in German and understood every bloody thing he said. All this started because Apollo has a fever, which his cardiologist thinks it'll pass and is nothing serious. So annoyed.
Oh Mama, what a terrible time you are having, so upsetting, I really feel for you. xx
Just go home from the cinema, a rare treat. Saw The Railway Man, Colin Firth an Nicole Kidman. Not the sort of film you can say you enjoy, it upset me, awful war!
Glad to get out as me and dk have truly been getting on each others nerves all day, I really snapped at him at 7pm, coldn`t get out of here quick enough. Now feeling a tad guilty as its his b/day tomorrow.....
night all xx
Had a good vent with DH over the phone and spent time playing with Artie, so had time to calm down and reflect, my answer is still no, and he finally accepted that. He's not even Apollo's Neurologist - just a stand in, as he's been in board meetings all day.
Tomorrow is a brand new day, I'm taking Artie swimming for the first time to a baby class. Very nervous and germ wary!
Hope your DK has a lovely birthday xx
Morning girls xx
Happy Birthday to your beloved Trips
Mamma - stick to your guns.
Artie is a proper water baby. She seems to really love it. She loves floating on her back. Never known her so calm! She hates baths though...
Missing DH like mad! The skype Chats aren't enough. I just wanna hug him and snuggle him while reading our books
Very tired, very grumpy, very fed up..............its been one of those days......
Morning. Just thought I'd pop in and say hi before catching up on all the goings on.
Had a lovely break. Now back to reality!
grumpiness wearing off...............though had a rant this morning with dd, resulting in me removing her posters from her wardrobe after repeated warnings.....................she doesn`t know yet.............
Glad you had a nice break Soks
Wassup Trips? - how's that kitchen coming along?
Hope everyone's ok xx
Mama - Glad you stuck to your guns, and happy Artie loves swimming, my 2 were at their calmest in water, and still love it.
Trips - Happy birthday to your not quite so darling hubby. Neighbour was lovely bringing you the pie, and hope your (d?)d doesn't kick up too much stink over the posters. I want to see the railway man, but in 2 minds, as my unvle was onebof the "builders", and he suffered all his life from the treatment he recieved at the hands of the Japanese. We saw The Hunger Games -Catching Fire last week, much closer representation of the book, very good film if you like the books.
Soks - glad you had a nice break, you deserve it.
With DBinLs help, we finally got rid of the last of the burned/melted rubbish in our garden all around and inside the conservatory completely, and got the foundation of DHs shed set out, so, hopefully we can finish putting it together tomorrow. Boys have cleared Js room enough to allow the window fitters in there, the dinning room, bathroom and our bedroom is cleared so they can get to those windows.Now just waiting for them to arrive on Wednesday to get everything finally done. Can't wait to have my lovely new conservatory and windows, and no more water dripping down from melted guttering. If all goes well, they should finish the whole job by the next Tuesday.
Hi Shabs and Chops, hope you are having a good weekend
Oh,and Hi Ruby, nice to see you
I'm glad I stuck to my guns, his fever went down after an increase in his morphine (something to do with his tube??). He's healing so well and they say I can have my first hold on Wednesday! I can officially say I am over my sad spout and that I know enjoy holding his hand and talking to him until I'm blue in the face.
There's this nurse on the ward and he always tickles Artie as he walks by (she's usually in bouncer or on play mat) and she just stares at him
almost like that baby whos scared of sneezes. It's bloody hilarious. She now makes serious eye contact and constantly rolls over. Today, I put her down change Apollo, I then hear her starting to stress, I look down and she had literally rolled off the mat and got stuck with her head and leg stuck under the chair!
Glad you have everything almost sorted, Bubs!!
People always ask how identical the boys are so I've uploaded a picture, it's only up for a couple of days so it's there if you want to see them
Hi . Spent the day helping DH put together his new shed (mind you, its more like a garage, its so big!)
It has been like playing with a giant meccano set, as its metal frame with plastic inserts. M helped as well, while J was moving his bedroom furniture around to get it away from the window. Between this, I cooked a full beef roast, as we had a joint left over in the freezer from Christmas. After we finished eating, I left half the joint on the side in the kitchen, wrapped in foil, and DH forgot, and shut the dogs in the kitchen, hey presto, 3 very fat and satisfied dogs and tin foil all over the kitchen floor
Sounds like fun, Bubs!
Artie was signed off from the Pulmonolgist this morning, so no more appointments for her for awhile.
I've seen everything I can in Berlin and I am bored. I'm so thankful for my family who have been sending me stuff to put in the parent's room or I'd be sick of these four walls too.
A new baby, came onto the ward this morning, she was born with her intestines (?) outside of her body. The mum is no where to been seen, I hope she's okay.
She would have had a C section Mama, probebly still recovering.
Thanks bubs. I think so too but I'm biased.
I never thought about that, still hope she's okay.
A calm, relaxed today. Apollo came off the ventilator and is now on CPAP. They have also hinted that if he continues to improve as he is doing, they will think about moving him from the incubator to a hot cot.
Hi there I thought I would come and say hello and say hope you all had a good new year. Its been so long since my first messages to the d'ya ever thread and thanks for the reassurance back then. Our babies are now 14 months!!are any of yours that age? I am back at work and we are fairly calm in our houuse ! Touch wood. How is everyone? Do any of you have fog where you are today? Missed my train due to it as kept driving past the turning as couldn't see a thing. It waslike something out of the twilight zone! Xxx
Morning ladies. Hello Sassy. Mine are 21 months. So not far ahead. Busy bees though.
Mama. Glad Apollo is doing well again. And well done on standing your ground re the lumbar puncture. Bigger had one when he was seven weeks old (viral meningitis). Their description of what they had to do made me glad I wasn't allowed to be there (they said it would be too distressing).
Big and dot baby crease me up at the moment. Dot baby loved the swimming pool while away so am tracking down suitable baby swim group. She loved jumping up and down in the water, and terrified us attempting to throw herself off the ledge into the pool.
Hello, Sassy. Mine just turned 16 months are crazy active toddlers! I'm in Germany so no fog!
Sok, sounds like you had a brill time. I think she'd love the swimming groups. Must be easier on their muscles too
So the doctors were saying today
not to me, I just heard Apollo's name and started eaewigging. No shame. They were discussing his lung and blah blah blah, anyway... they are in talks of starting up bf again! all hush hush mind.
Morning girls xx
Great news Mamma
Had my first hold today. I blubbered like a baby! He's put on quite a bit of weight since I last held him and it shows I can now cup his little bottom in my hand!
Still can't see his little face due to the CPAP but it felt right to hold, even Artie settled down on my chest next to him. Onwards and upwards!
Hi Sassy, great to hear from you. Yes, bad freezing fog from Monday morning onwards here, I didnt go to choir last night, as DH was worried about me driving in it, I didnt take much pursuading.
Mama- great news!! as you say, onwards and upwards
Hi Shabs, Trips, Chops and Soks.....oh, that sounds like a reality tv programme
Well, its finally going ahead, electricity to consevatory disconnected today, access to all windows, doors etc cleared, plastic has been put down on carpets just in case, as I cant see the workmen removing their boots just to save my carpets... Roll on tomorrow...
Do you ever find yourself staring out the window at nothing in particular with nothing particular on your mind but come back to reality feeling out of sorts and emotional? I seem to be doing that a lot lately. I find myself thinking of what could of been and what ifs - earlier I wondered if I just had kids for the sake of having them followed by tears of guilt for thinking that. Stupid insecurities.
I feel so awful complaining about my life and my beautiful when people would kill to have alive happy children. Even my own brother. He and Petrov want children but their life is in Russian and Gay adoption is illegal and their sexuality might as well be over there. I'd carry a child for them if they could raise it together in Russia.
I should stop rambling and sleep. I should not be allowed use of a phone when sleep deprived! I'm gunna facepalm myself when I read this after I've slept!
MM - you are tired, you have so much going on emotionally and physically atm. Those thoughts are natural and normal.
I hope you are resting now
All will be well xxxxx
Mama you are on an emotional roller coaster at the moment so you are forgiven for any crazy, sleep deprived thoughts you may have. Good news about the bf. hope you get lots of snugly feeds soon.
Is it horrid that I looked forward to bigger going to nana and grandad's yesterday so I knew I'd get a decent nights sleep? Probably but apart from a 3am wake up call from Jennifer, with calpol and snuggles to settle her back down I slept really well.
Things are going slowly on the caf front. But our lovely hs coordinator has changed our plan from focussing on the twins to focussing on James. So we get the keep our volunteer a while longer. Plus she's said if the Hv team give us grief over setting up the promised caf, she did her training just before xmas so can do it for us if we want. I so love that woman!
Anyway, onwards and upwards today. Got to finish gathering my bits together for burns night celebrations with the rainbows. We're doing clootie dumplings instead of haggis as we thought that might be too much of an acquired taste for them. And making sporrans. All good fun
Hope you have good days ahead x
Mama- you need some sleep, deep breaths, cuddles from your DH and kids and more good news, and you will be fine. Everyone has feelings of guilt and insecurity when they have been in such a stressfull situation, I know I did ( and still do at times!)
Rubes- nice to see you xxx
Soks- I agree about the haggis, although DH and I like it, i was very surprised when we found M loved it too, not at all surprised that J turned his nose up at it tho .
mama, you are doing amazingly well, and you need to rest more! Agree it is all very normal to have these feelings.
Life has been pretty dull here really, nowt much to report at all!
hi Sassy, nice to see you again!
Love and hugs to everyone xx
Mama you have been through so much................you have shown your strength through out everything...........be kind to yourself and as we have all said.............and said to you..............REST!
Workmen all over the house, my ne range cooker is currently being installed so looks like my fist chicken will be cooked tonight! So loving the kitchen, should be finished tomorrow!
Oh Trips it sounds lovely....bet you cant wait for it to be finished x
Thanks, ladies. According DH I called him this morning rambling about stars! Still really tired but I don't know why, I could manage on less sleep at home. Here I feel like a zombie. Spoke to one of the nurses about and she's gunna request me some special tea that should help me sleep... German and their special teas... everything is cured by tea or breastmilk!
Enjoying more cuddles from Apollo today and managed to see his little face when they gave him breathing steriods. He's so beautiful.
Trips, I bet you cannot wait to try out your new kitchen! Seems things are coming along nicely. Have you a schedule when you want it finished by?
Sok - sounds like you have a lovely support team behind you. Hope everything continues to go well! Just hearing the word Dumplings have me craving some! I so miss English food!
How you doing Rubster? Hope all is well
Its way too warm in every hospital - I used to sit there with my twins....just a little night light on, boiling hot and hardly anyone moving around. My head used to loll forwards all the time. I struggle now to go and see people in hospital - and they dont even have that 'hospital smell' now. Its a dreadful time especially when it is your child.
Oh God, the warmth! We can't open windows because of drafts and the slim chance we make the baby cold. I have a fan but the noise drives me crazy so I don't use it.
I hate hospitals, I have since I was child. When I was little I needed 6 teeth out, it took 2 doctors to put "magic cream" on my hand, both parents to catch, I defiantly but my slippers on wrong feet & nightie on inside out. Then it took 6 of them to hold me down and 2 bouts of anesephetic to put me under. Also have a fear of operations so Apollo's op was pure hell on me.
What I want most is a comfy bed and English chocolate!
Trips - range sounds great, so envious of that, but.....I have new windows!! This is despite the rain falling in buckets half way through the day, just after they had taken out my patio doors leaving a gaping great hole for the rain to come in. That rain had now turned to sleet, so I don't know about whether they will come tomorrow to do the sofitts and guttering. Oh, and I had forgotten how much the wind whistles around my ill- fitting back door now the conservatory has been taken down
Pm an address and I'll send you some chocolate mama. I regularly send a friend who emigrated to nz twirls
Clootie dumpling was yummy scrummy. Never had it before and I'm not a fan of fruit cake but this was something else! Dh reckons I could ice that instead of fruit cake at Xmas and we'd all enjoy Xmas cake.
Bigger currently screaming head off for me while dh tries to settle him for bed - he didn't want dh earlier so I cleaned his teeth and did his wash. Then he decided he didn't want me because I said it was bed time. So after 30 minutes of him screaming for daddy, dh took over. At which point he starts screaming for me!! Aargh! On the plus side, dot baby is sleeping through it. She's been a busy bee pinching the soft magnets from my mums fridge today every time they were put back and our backs were turned. Cheeky monkey!
Glad you got to see apollo's little face today mama. It's horrid right now but it will all be worth it in the end.
I have chocolate at home... in Frankfurt. My dad is gunna start sending some over! Right now, I'm making do with German Choc which isn't so bad but thank you!
Some more positive news; we're starting to reastablish bf tomorrow morning!
Hope bigger settles down okay for you. Dot sounds like a little trooper!
just thought I would pop in and say hi. 19 wks with id twins and haven't got a clue what im doing Hope your all well.
Welcome to you, did you bring cake?
Seriously congratulations, it is exciting! Do you have other children? Please come in, take a seat, heres a I am sure some of the others will be along soon
Girls......................I am desolate az zee French say................my new range is kaput..................ignition not working.............phoned Rangemaster only to be told an engineer will ring us in 48 hours! Gone off it now!! Oh mon dieu............
Sorry I ate the cake while typing, chocolate cake was very nice. I'll try harder next time. I have 3 others, dd 9 dd 5 and ds 3, still have the odd (daily) moment of panic and have loads of random questions that keep popping into my head at stupid times of the night
Welcome, slightlyinsane. Your username is pretty accurate discription of us multiple mums! I have ID (MCMA) twins myself. Two gorgeous 16 month old boys How are you finding the PG?
Oh, that sucks, Trips! Don't you just hate customer service? I don't know why an engineer needs 2 days before contacting you! I hope you sort it out and enjoy your range!
Morning all...........wide awake before 6am............grrrr, lovely thick frost out there...........kettle on, who want a ?
? Yes please Trips
Thanks god you still have a kettle
I'll have a ! Was up at 5am with Artie, she managed to sleep 4 hours straight last night. Never been so thankful. The tea they gave me for sleeping was vile I was too polite to spit it out, it worked though...
Waiting on Doctors' round and then Apollo will have his first oral feed since the op! V. Excited
Hope you have a beautiful day, ladies!
Hello slightly insane. I've got a 5yo, 3yo and then 21month old b/g twins. Welcome to the madhouse
Hoping all goes well with Apollo and his feed today Mama.
Big two are at school today so it's twinny fun day here. How many times do you think i'll be putting the DVDs back on the shelf?
Morning. <<sweeps cake crumbs off the sofa and gets out the hoover and runs it round the shagpile>> As you can tell, I'm in full cleaning mode atm, as i had to have such a cleanup before the window fitters arrived, i may as well finish the spring clean!
Welcome Slightly, my id boys sre now 13yr olds and in full 'Kevin' mode.
Soks - sounds as if you had a ball eith your brownies. Hope you got all kids off to bed ok in the end.
Trips- How disappointing, and as for the call back, thats not good enough! I must admit, I would be phoning them again, threatening bad publicity unless they sort it asap!
Soffit and guttering man arrived at 8am, and has now almost finished. Wish the conservatory people could vome today whilst the weather is ok.
Bubs - Do you want to clean my house?! Everything is still in boxes. My MIL offered to help but she accidently went into one of the bedroom boxes... has refused to help unbox ever since. To be fair, she shouldn't have been snooping in the bedroom and it's boxes!
Apollo was a little slow this morning but around 10am he had his first feed and has been feeding almost every 1.5 hours for around 15 minutes! So proud. Did my first tandem feed with them, today too
Evening all......................kitchen finished except for glass splashback and of course the cooker is still not working, no is there any sign of Rangemaster. Fitter didn`t go until 6.30pm, dust is everywhere, big clean up w/end coming up. Next decision is what colour to paint the walls?
Teal's a good colour or orange?! I'm so bad at decorating!
Are noon. Congrats on the tandem feed mama. Hope it's going well still.
Anyone want to come and tidy/decorate mine? I've a fetching banana splat on the lounge wall! It'll come off with some magic eraser though.
How is the range? Ours 'broke' the day before we went away. Miraculously it's working again. Very weird.
DH is letting the kids get away with murder. My BIL send me a video via email of Dom and the bathroom floor covered in White stuff and denying that he had been playing with the baby cream. I also received a video the twins sliding down the stairs on their stomach followed by DH in pillow case with A on his lap! I was also sent another video of DH sliding Dieter across the wooden floor and crashing into a pile of empty stacked up bottles...
Wish I was there! It looks like fun but I can just imagine the state of my house!
Still broke and I am sooooooo with the so called customer service with Rangemaster.Brand new, phoned them 4pm Thurs and they said an engineer would ring us within 48hours .....nothing. I phoned back at 1.15pm today and got an automated reply that their office hours on Sat was 8-1pm!! Anyway, spent the day cleaning cleaning cleaning, the dust got everywhere, every knife, fork, spoon has had to be washed. Now to start filling up my new cupboards....................I am in lurve with my new kitchen!! Will put photos on!
K has built, with BIL's help, a rocket ship out of cardboard boxes for Apollo, and called it Apollo 11 after the famous moon landing. I don't think I could be anymore proud of my kids, especially K seeing as he's old enough to understand and pick up certain things. I just want to give him a big wet sloppy kiss to his cheek!
Today has been pretty good. No dramas. They messed with his temperatures all day and for the first time since birth he has managed to consistently hold his core temp, his incubator temp is set at the lowest for him to see how he fairs overnight and if no problems, he will be moved officially to his giraffe bed tomorrow! Then on Monday/Tuesday (depending on how he fairs with the temp situation) Apollo will be weaned onto High Flow... hopefully!
Trips, messy builders are the worst! The customer service is shocking and I would either threaten to lodge a complaint or make on. They shouldn't make promises or time frames if they cannot follow through! <<offers Trips and .
Can't wait to see what it looks like, I admit I am quite nosey!
grrrr thats 2 nights running it won`t post my photo, how do I contact MN?
Fantastic news Mama, what a little soldier you have there, a born fighter!
If you scroll right to bottom of page, they have their menu bar and they have a "contact us" link.
I was having trouble trying to post of Apollo, but since I couldn't do it, I've decided to save it for when he comes home to post
It's gorgeous, Trips! What kind of Range is it?
What about ggreen? I have strange taste in paint colours...
Its a Rangemaster Proffessional plus...............if only it would work
Very envious of your range! It will be lovely once it is sorted. I get so frustrated with my shitty little hob.
great news mama, he is doing sooo well! Can't wait to see pics.
took ds1 to the rugby yesterday, near the end was a right storm - the game had to be abandoned because parts of the stadium were getting blown down!
Have finally had an appointment through for ds1's asd assessment. Just need to break it to him now! I'm kinda torn really - hoping they will decide his difficulties aren't severe enough to be worth adding a firm asd dx to his list, but then if he DID get it, it would be there for if he needs more support in the future. Scary!
Morning girls xx
Your kitchen looks so lovely Trips xx
I have seen a gorgeous burgandy rangemaster but we just bought a bright red Bertazzoni Professional range for the new house.
Chops, I hope the appointment goes well. At least you'll know one way or another and have some peace of mind
Apollo has been in his new bed for 2 hours and he's doing great, that being said he is on a radiant warmer but he's settling down just perfectly fine
Apollo has done extremely well, today. He is happily settled into his radiant warmer, I have so much access to him, it's great. Though I am more weary of germs! As he has done well today and is maintaining a good temperature, tomorrow they are going to start weaning him onto High Flow!!
Any news on your range, Trips?
No , no news Mama, an irate phone will be delivered at 9am!
So glad to hear Apollos daily improvements
Well in just over an hour will have three 16yr olds, where has the time gone? I wish their big brother was here to see and know them.................everything is bitter sweet. All the new experiences ahead, I should have already been through this stage of a childs life........feel weird tonight.
Sleep...........I need sleep...............kale nits Shabs xxx
Happy Birthday Trips Triplets....Oh my word my friend I remember you sending me a card to welcome my Toms arrival.....that was in the July....on the back of the envelope you wrote....'NOT ONE, NOT TWO BUT THREE!!!!!
We have walked down so many sad roads...we have supported each other and laughed and cried.
BUT just think that today we have four 16 year olds between us We carry on pinning on our smiles and looking forwards to our futures - through ill health, sadness, bereavement, happiness, joy and frustration - I reckon that the pair of us are strong owd birds
Happy birthday to the Triplets! They can now get married, vote, and play the lottery not all in one day mind!
Wish I could sleep but Apollo has decided to be extremely fussy, today. Every time I put him down he screams. Just wish I could bring him into the bed with me and Artie. Oh well.
Happy birthday triplets. Here's and s for you trips.
Just to return you somewhat to the younger days here is an exchange between bigger and myself at 3am!
Gotta love 3am conversations with the boy;
Bigger: am I nearly 4?
Bigger: and after I'm 4 will I be 5?
Bigger: I don't want to be 5
Me: what do you want to be?
Bigger: I want to be 6
Me: ... I'll see what I can do.
Poor sausage was most upset at the thought of being 5. Currently snuggled up on a pile of pillows, covered with a blanket and muttering in 100's to himself?!?!
Happy birthday to the trio! XX
Soks, love that! So cute x
Off to toddler group with dot baby this morning. She's got to walk to school today as dh has gone off with the single pushchair in his car and wouldn't answer his phone even though I rang repeatedly as he drove out the top of the road
Then to see Children's centre people about bigger. Oh joys!
Apollo is on Vapotherm!!!! They gave him steroids yesterday just give him that extra push and it worked! He struggled slightly at first but I think that's because it's prongs and he's not sucking in air like he did with the CPAP, but now he's doing really well, it's only when he's sleeping that he desats.
It was also confirmed that he has serve BPD which really, really sucks but we kind of expected it with the amount of oxygen and machines he's been on, we're just grateful he's had no other long lasting effects but they say it's very likely that he'll be come on oxygen.
How did your day pan out Soks? I think your bigger is adorable. K cannot wait to be six because he wants a big boy car seat haha.
Whats BPD Mamma? Just googled it and all I could find was Boston Police Department
What sites are you looking at...
It stands for Bronchopulmonary Dysplasia some people call it chronic lung disease.
Just put the initials in that you put on here
I get Borderline Personality Disorder...
Evening girls..............thank you all for the birthday wishes I think they enjoyed their day in their own way. Opened cards before school, home to cakes, opened their presents from us, more cards, then my brother came round and stayed for tea with us, went home at 9pm escorted by the boys. Felt sorry for Becca as her best friend couldn`t come, so she actually sat at the table for over 30 mins with us..............unheard of normally!
So now in bed, I couldn`t wait to get up here as I woke up this morning with a raging sore throat and feel like I am going to be ill. 16...........seems impossible........................night all xx
Sorry I've not been around earlier today.
Belated Happy birthday to the Trio, Trips. Sounds like you needed rather than them! Your kitchen is lovely, and I've sent a private message about Microsoft Word.
Mama- thats brillient, mike was diagnosed with BDP when he was little, but tbh, he only really notices it if his hayfever is bad, or if he gets a chesty cold, then he has to use his turbohaler, but otherwise he is fine. My 2 both came home on oxygen and ng tube top up feeds, it is a bit of a pain, especially if you go out (I used to put the cylinder in the basket under the buggy), but it was certainly easier than I thought it would be, and even more so now with the newer lightweight cylinders.
Hi everyone else<<<waves>>>
Oh, and consevatory 1/2 built I hadn't realised how cold the rooms with the damaged windows had become until now, can't belive the difference they have made.
Apollo seems to be coming on in leaps and bounds now! Hopefully the BPD will be manageable.
Kitchen is gorgeous, trips! Hope the cold doesn't come to anything. Dissolve some turmeric in hot water and add honey, lemon and ginger. Will cure anything
I did not want to get up today. Zzzzzz!
Morning girls from a cold, wet, windy miserable Bolton!!! If you could be a snot donor and if anybody needed snot I am your woman!! As my Nan used to say 'I feel like
shit poo on a stick!!'
Shabs - hope your cold clears up soon.
I have had trouble sleeping, so staying ip to the early hours instead, but it finally caughtbup with mr this morning, I just really strughled to wake up. boys got themselves their packed lunches and off to school this morning, DH fed animals and off to work, whilst I struggled to wake up enough for builders arriving at 8.30.
We are in a bit of a dilemma, boys have been offered a 10 day school trip to the Ardeche in South of France next year, but it works out at Â£800 each plus spending money, Â£100 deposit each needed by 2nd week of Feb. Yes, it will be the trip of a lifetime, yes, they desperately want to go, but it would mean no family holiday for the next 2 yrs, and my 50th birthday going completely unmarked, as we would be paying Â£100 per month towards the cost. I am really thinking we canmot afford to send them I spoke to 3 other mums of twins in their year, and we all feel it is too expensive for us all to manage, so we are going to get together with the mum's of the other 3 sets, and speak to the school to see if there is any chance of a cost reduction, but, even then at least 3 of us think we will have to tell our kids no.
I don't think you should feel bad bubby.
I've always explained to mine how expensive school trips are and the fact that it would mean going without a family holiday and they have always chosen the family holiday over a school trip. £1600 would easily get you all a week in France on a keycamp style thing! Your boys do scouts don't they? Mine have been away with extra curricular groups instead as they seem to be so much cheaper.
It is worth speaking to the school though, we've managed to get discounts since we are partly dependent on benefits with ds1 and everything. Ours also offered spreading the payments over a longer period of time too.
senior school here want £450 for a week in a property in Wales that the school actually owns. We're doing girls/boys brigade instead - £220 for the week!
Belated happy birthday to the trio Trips, and a belated happy giving birth day to you! xxx
What Chops?!?! That's absurd. We went to centre parcs for less than that!
Hi there Charleymouse
Still no phone call from Rangemaster, brand new range, not working, phoned them last Thurs and again y/day! Service today I terrible.
I desperately need to lose weight, desperately.
So why have I just sat up in bed and eaten a whole pkt of Belgian chocolate covered peanuts..................well I have had them since Christmas............feeble excuse........
Morning girls x
aww trips! Think though of all the protein in those nuts
Have you thought of couch to 5k? I'm almost evangelical about it, it changed my life! Off to the gym this morning for body pump and body attack. Sprinted against my boys on their scooters yesterday and WON! There is nothing like beating your 8 year old in a race - the awe on his face!
Afternoon Girlies. We have told the boys, they did offer us a pay monthly scheme, but with the 2 of them its still 100 a month from March til next May. We spoke to the school, and they couldn't do much of a reduction, so it really is a no go. 4 out of the 7 sets of twins are not going because we can't afford it, 2 are looking into it, and 1 is having help from grandparents to pay.
Trips - Please dont feel too bad, whatever weight you are, you still have your health. Start kicking up a fuss with rangemaster, say you will be going to consumer advice services, and contacting someone like Jeremy Vine or someone.
Chops -Well done! I wish I could walk fast let alone beat a 8yr old on the scooter!
Today has been crazy. I have never as much paperwork in my life for one small baby. It's a God job I love the little 'roid baby because my wrist is killing me!
Today, A's team confirmed and signed off on his transfer and our local hospital have confirmed there is a bed waiting for him!! They are 100% confident that he his well enough and stable enough to make the journey on Friday where he'll be put on SCBU!! Happy and so proud!!
Fantastic news Mama! things will be so much better when you are near to DH and rest of kids
I can't wait to sleep in my own bed and I cannot wait for DH to spend time with the twins at the weekend! I've missed them so much!
Bubs, that price is shocking! [Shock] Do schools think parents are loaded of something. If it's education it should be free!
Great news, mama, hope that means you will get a little more rest too, I don't know how you are still going!
I was looking for something on the school website yesterday and came across a ski trip - only nearly £1500 a child. They take them to the US, absurd!
DH family have backtracked on their offer to have the dts , so it looks like dd will be going ski-ing with me instead! Not quite the same as going with her peers (not that any of her friends can afford it either) but I'm sure she will make friends in ski school, and it will be fabulous mum & daughter time!
Morning girls xx
Great news Mamma
Prices these days make my purse shrivel up!
Chops, I bet you'll have a great time together. I can't wait to do things like that with my girls
Informed DH who told his family that Apollo is being transfered. Wish I hadn't now as my MIL has "insisted" that she is meeting her new Grandchildren . And according to the phone call I received this morning she's gone and told half her neighborhood that she is! Without even asking me or DH! So, gunna place a my lovely MIL and tell her back off and that family business stays family business until we give the okay. Now, I'm gunna act like the wicked DIL because I'm not allowing her to see Apollo otherwise everyone and their aunt would bloody want to come and I'm not ready for visitors or the questions. I want him home and healthy first. I love her to bits but she can be overbearing and very judging. Especially over parenting styles and DH.
On a positive note Apollo has hit the 5lbs mark!!!
Wish my MIL would stop playing the bloody injuried party! And now she's "deeply upset" because I told her she couldn't have Artie for the day. We're not even in Frankfurt yet! Banging my head against the wall would be less painful.
Thankfully, FIL understands and was lovely to talk to so he is going to talk to her for me. Families, eh?
Mama - glad at least FiL can understand where you are coming from, I can't belive MiL can't understand that it would be totally wrong to seperate Artie from you and Apollo at this stage in their little lives!
Chops, have nice mother and daughter time skiing.
I have felt really unwell since waking at 3am needing to vomit. Hot and cold, shivers, nausea, headache and general feeling yuk. Had to phone in sick to work today, DH said I really must have felt bad, as normally try to go in no matter what, as feel guilty after having so much time off with my ankle. Have now managed to keep down tea and toast, so I might go in tomorrow as its only a 1/2 day.
aww bubby hope you do feel a bit better soon, that sounds nasty. Hopefully it is just one of those quick 24 hour things.
Morning girls xx
Hope you are feeling much better very soon Bubbs x
Get well soon, bubs!
A is getting prept for transfer as we speak and DH has managed to wrangle the day off work to meet us! Such a good day.
I'm so happy. I missed DH so much, it was great to hug him and smell the familiar scent of his shower gel. I refuse to let go of his hand! Won't be seeing the kids until later, they're out with SiL so I can't wait to surprise them! Apollo is doing great and has now officially upgraded to SCBU. He's still on a radiant warmer and high flow plus meds but he's doing so so well!
Also, I think Artie is wanting to crawl! I know she's prem and only 8w adj but I swear she is. She has mastered rolling over and has good head control. Yesterday, she started bending her legs kinda like the army crawl. She's doing it again, today. I don't know if it's a phase or what but it definetly looks like she's trying to kick/push (?) Her legs.
Thanks for good wishes, didn't manage to keep toast down for long so off again today. Feeling yuk.
Mama - So happy for you. And wow, well done to Artie
My MiL may be an overbearing, old-fashioned PITA but she's been a God send. She's looked over the children, took them places, and spoiled them rotten! We talked over coffee so she could meet Artie and hold her but I explained why I wanted Artie close and why I didn't want Apollo to have visitors, she apologized and spent the whole hour ignoring me and cooing over Artie!
She and FiL have potty trained the twins!!!! DH and MiL wanted to surprise me, so imagine my surprise when Dom showed mama how to go potty!! The twins just wear cloth pull ups on a night - haven't mastered that yet! My babies are growing up!
Bubbs........you and me both! Awful night, sore throat, headache and now trotting back and forth to the loo..............was fine y/day!! So having a very lazy day as I feel washed out! Hope you are feeling better! Quiet on here.........................
Trips - hope you recover soon too.
Finally started to feel better yesterday evening, but still very tired, trying to wake up this morning was like swimming through treacle, you would think I had overdosed on sleeping pills! Now J has a headache, feels tired and TBH, looks even paler than normal, and DH has also given in, gone to bed with paracetamol, strepsils extra strength and a large glass of water!
Aww hope you all feel better soon!
Our house is just chaos. Trying to organise some form of routine is getting me nowhere!
Dieter has weirdly starting German all the time! DH said he's been doing it about two weeks now... when I asked him a question, K piped up and said, "silly mama, De German now!" I have a sneaky suspicion that DH has reverted back to speaking German all the time and De has picked up on it.
Oh and A's care team have figured out why he's so stressed and restless. Turns out his hypersensitive so he's in a dim lit cubicle with miminum noise, he's fed more often and they've changed his sheet to softer hypo allegtic - and I can tell it has a made quite a difference. He's sleeping easier and less cranky
throat is sorer and sorer................hate being unwell
<<runs around the thread like Sheldon Cooper spraying dettol everywhere! Then makes soup for everyone!>>
Trips - I got the anaesthetic spray stuff in the end, only thing that worked.
Mama- I think uou have caught your DH out , glad Apollo is more settled, nice that they have figured it out at last.
J gave in and went to bed at 7pm, very early for him as he's usually a dirty stop-up if given the chance.
Good afternoon ladies, the sun is shining...............I repeat....the is shining!
But my throat is very sore
Morning.........had the worst night ever, bloody throat
But its sunny
Currently having morning snuggles with Apollo and Artie, later they are going to put Artie in with Apollo so they can have some sibling time
Hope you all feel better soon! x
Am I crazy to even think this? DH thinks it's doable and affordable but I'm still undecided, and I don't know if it's really what she wants...
DD has told us she wants to ballet and we have thought about her doing ballet or another activity to boost her confidence, she's really shy and barely manages to talk to others at nursery mainly due to her seperation anxiety. Thing is the ballet classes are in Hamburg (no classes for her age group anywhere near us) and start up in September. It would require flying to Hamburg and back. The lessons are once a week, for an hour. Worth it or completely crazy?
Morning girls x
Crazy, mama. Even if it is doable with your schedule now, it's not going to work long term. It would be better to find something local where she can make friends too. Ballet can always wait a bit.
Is there anything like a theatre group? That did wonders with my dts. Mine always howled at nursery, for a good year at least. Made me feel horrible. They grew out of it though, and now are so confident and outgoing. Will talk to anyone and everyone, and we are thinking of sending them off to camp for a week in the summer.
Morning girls xx
IMO totally barking mad Mamma
Mama, that's just nuts! Is there nothing at all closer? How old is she as I'd recommend seeing if the guiding movement is in your area but they start around 5 for rainbows.
Yeah thought so. Woke up this morning and was "yeah that's not gunna happen". I think it was just the idea of finding a class for her age group after her turning down everything else. Completely insane. There's nothing close that she wants to do. There is a gymnastic club which would benefit her if she still wants to do ballet but that's more expensive and you pay for a term not by hour. We'll just keeping looking, never realised what a PITA it would be!
Time for my morning nap with Artie and Apollo
MM - that's crazy.
Honestly - she's only 3.
Is everyone ok?
I'm having a mammoth sort out here - I have a list of things to do as long as my arm.
Yeah, I know but boredom has driven me to the most ridiculous ideas and notions!
Woo hoo! Despite ongoing issues, work have today out an immense (but still not what it should be) amount of money in my bank account. So I've celebrated by purchasing a steam cleaner. Living the highlife!
Oh Soks that sounds wonderful - enjoy your spending - I am a touch envious LOL xxx
Mama glad your move went well. I had a scan and appointment yesterday and am still baffled and highly amused that at 21 wks the consultant thought the topic of conversation should be about contraception????? I have no idea how she new that was soooooo high on my priority list right now
Glad you have some great news, Sok!
Slightly- 21wks and carrying twins, Yep, you should really be concerned about birth control atm, What planet is the consultant from, mind you, she hasn't met Mama! <<waves innocently in mama"s direction>>
Mama- glad you have agreed the idea for ballet was absolutely barking mad
Soks - great news about work finally giving in and paying out, they gave you a really hard time just when you didnt need it.
Trips- hope your throat is improving. Dh now has it, he is off work today, feeling very unwell,
and he is regretting saying that I was being a wuss about it, and J (who had it from Fri over weekend, went back to school today) was skiving! Guess we are having the last laugh!
Chops, Shabs, hope you are ok.
Bubby, you do make me chuckle! We've decided to wait until the school year to decided because I'm fed up of looking and her throwing a tantrum haha. Birth control? I have no idea what that word means Breastfeeding was also a crappy birth control for us, even though I was doing everything to make it effective!
Slightly, At 21 weeks the only thing I was thinking of was food and sleeping! Hope your scan went well
Hope you lovely ladies are well
Also forgot to add, we received a letter this morning asking us if we'd like to attend the opening day of one of the schools we applied the DC to. Quite excited
Throat no better, such a pita , almost a week now. Its really starting to blow a hoolie out there, I know he`s 16 now but every night I pray it won`t rain for Thomas when he does his paper round, I can see him going down the road with his bag in the dark and I want to go out and help him...............see I am a good mother really
Completly lost it with the boys this afternoon They are making a model for school using papiermache (sp), I had told them to go in the (new) conservatory, which has tiled floors, and use the pasting table to put the boards on. I came home to them using the oak dining-room table, with no covering on it, throwing the mix at each other, and pva glue/water mix dripping on to my new carpet!I had only just got the room sorted after the fire damage. I went ballistic, screaming and shouting at the,m I completely lost control. . I said to DH he could sort their tea, whilst they washed everything down and used hot soapy water to clean the carpet, and I went early to my choir practice, just to get away from them.
I would have gone balistic at them too! I hope they managed to get the glue out of the carpet! That stuff is a pain to get off when dry.
I went for a run with the dog when kids were in bed because I needed some fresh. I think I'm quite fit; I play hockey, walk almost everywhere and I like mountain biking. Yeah, ran around the block once and almost collapsed trying to catch my breath while dog just sat there and had this look in his eyes that was mocking me. Well, that threw my fitness level out the window. Told DH and evil man laughed!
I need sleep. Apollo has a sleep study tomorrow along and ECG and Echo.
hmm typed a post and it disappeared.
lol, mama! You prob need to build it up gradually, even if you are quite fit doing other things. It took me a few months to get to running a 5k.
I have a cold Feel like shite, burning throat. Always seem to get a cold in Feb for some reason!
Bubby, I would have been furious too, hope it cleaned up ok
Bubs I would have done the same. Hope they're repentant and the carpet survived.
Our bigger is the best contraception anyone could wish for. I can loan him out for free for ooooooh a month or three mama ;)
Chops, I have learnt my lesson. Gunna ask to borrow SiL's jogger for Artie so I can build up and if I don't want to continue I can just give it her back haha
Sok, I couldn't possibly borrow your lovely boy, I would probably want to keep him .
Just heard about the weather reports in UK. Hope you're all okay and aren't in the warning areas!
Apollo has been one miserable, cranky baby boy today, I think it's due to the shot they gave him this morning
Morning girls xx
Just lots of rain, grey skies and very windy here......in other words a typical day in Lancashire!!
Morning ladies. Grey day here today, and windy. River is raised but not near enough to flood us so no worries there.
Picked up dh's new car yesterday (new to us). So he's happy but gutted I got to drive it first. And he's home feeling sorry for himself today. I know he is genuinely ill as he's been plodding in to work for days and last night when he was umming and ahhing about going in and coming home at lunch time, I ordered him to stay home instead and rest. And he didn't argue! So he's currently tucked up on the sofa while James reads Thomas to him!
Evening ladies..........thinking of my lovely Mum today on her birthday, I miss her very much..............
Its lashing it down here, has been since 11am, no sign of it clearing and my poor ds has to be out at 6.30am to do his paper round. Throat is at long last getting better, it really was painful. Need some sun now to cheer us all up..................some hope!
Literally slept the day away DH called the unit to speak to me and asked why I hadn't picked up the DC from his mum's and why wasn't I answering the phone. Turns out I fell asleep in Apollo's room while he and Artie were passed out in the cot. - For 4 hours! The nurse had to wake me up Didn't leave the hospital until 4pm, DH picked up the DC after work for me. I got in, made dinner and then passed out with Artie again. Only just woke up, DH fed Artie with the cup for me. Now, I can't fall back asleep...
Oh and Apollo is on low flow!!!
Happy Birthday Trips Mum
Both my parents are 'knocking on heavens door.' Way beyond sad....and dont anyone tell me there is a God. IF there was he would not let my parents suffer like they are doing. I am trying to help in every way I can but it is like stopping a flood with a very small hankie.
For my Mum & Dad
Shabs, to watch a parent suffer is something a child of any age should see. I watched my mama fight a losing battle with Cancer, everyday she got worse, everyday I lost a part of who she used to be. In the end, she became so weak that she did not have the energy to say my name or hug me. After watching someone suffer for so long the good memories are slowly replaced by ones you wish you could forget. Shabs, I truely hope your parents find some peace among this life and they're blessed to have caring daughter like you.
I need my bed...
Oh mama. Sounds like Apollo is doing great. You obviously needed the sleep!
Shabs. There's nothing I can say that will take any of your pain away. So I'm afraid I shall just have to offer you great big and very un-mn hugs so you know you are all in my thoughts.
Morning girls xx
Sorry for my drunken rant last night and thank you for your support - it means a lot xx
aww shabs, rant away!
DS1's asd assessment today, eeek! Really don't know what I am hoping for. A dx will mean it's easier for him to access services when he needs them, but then it's also a label which might have ramifications he doesn't need to be dealing with. Aaargh! At least should get an answer one way or another.
In the past we were told he was too severe for Aspergers and he was PDD-NOS, then we were told his notes said ASD. Then a second paed said, nah, none of those. So it's been up in the air for years!
Hope the assessment goes well, Chops!
How are the rest of you lovely ladies?
I've felt quite refreshed today. Enjoyed a lovely walk with the DC before dropping them off to my BiL who is taking them to the muesum. I am currently settled into a double bed with my book in lamp lit room while the A-team sleep the world away.
Next week the supply company is coming round to talk about the o2 concentrator and who to use and look after it and the when the hospital has given us a release date they will come install it! one step closer!
and after 2 hours in clinic, the answer is...
<sigh> It's a scoring system and he didn't quite have enough points for a dx there and then. But he is borderline, has def concerns still, and a strong history so they want to see old reports and speak to his school with a view to dx in a few weeks.
Evening all......wish I could cast a magic spell and put everything right for you all, so many worries on here. I have felt in a niggly mood all day to do with relatives (not mine).......but I am not going to dwell on it, life is too short! <<well I might dwell just abit longer>>
I bet that's frustrating, Chops! Let's hope something comes of it in a few weeks!
Apollo's allergy reports came back (they did all kinds of testing in case his hypersensivity was due to something else) and he is not only allergic to Iburofen but latex too so we've told to watch for certain food allergies when he's older.
Ladies do you know where I can find proper hypoallegtic bedding and/or baby clothes? The doctor suggested we try that too...
Hi there ladies.
Mama- positive vibes that they are talking about making prep for Apollo to go home, can't help with hypoallergenic stuff, sorry, but there is bound to be a forum on Mnet where they can help.
Shabs - I know what you are feeling, as I have it with mum every day, so rant away. I have faith, but it does get shaky at times, so I do understand where you are coming from. I have spent the last few days back and forth to her as she wasnt eating, finally, when I went in during my lunch break yesterday, she asked me to take her to the loo, and it turns out she was constipated. Afte that, she ate her meal with gusto. Really thinking surely they nursing home staff should have been monitoring things and realised what was wrong.
Trips - Dont dwell too much if you can help it.
Chops - How frustrating for you all! I know it is very hard puting any finger on anything within the autistic spectrum, but at least they will keep him on assessment as they know there is something there, if not what.
Flooding here quite bad, I am wondering how Rubes is, as it is slightly worse towards where she lives. I had to try different ways to get to work this morning, got there following route number 3!
Then I got a call from High school this afternoon, J had had an accident, and could I collect him and take him to A+E! He had tripped, and caught his foot on a post whilst falling, and it was swelling beautifully by the time I got there. 4hrs in A+E later, he has fractured 2 small bones in his foot, bad enough to need tubigrip and crutches, but they dont think it was bad enough to need a caste. Now he is home, dosed up o soluble co-codamol (A+E Dr said he thought he needed a bit more than just paracetamol) and I am absolutely knackered. Yesterday i got home from work and was so tired I fell asleep in the chair still wearing coat, work clothes, the lot! DH got tea, but I was too tired to eat that, so went to bed at 7pm, and slept through. Going to bed now, and, hopefully, can sleep in til about 10am, then got to go over to see FiL, he lives not far from where the gas explosion was the other day.
Oh, and forgot to add, just another thing adding to the stres here, Jazz cat came in Wednesday limping badly and with hind leg very swollen, took her to vet, and they say she also has broken bones in her paw, again, luckily not bad enough to need anything other than rest and pain relief, isnt it strange how J has done almost exactly the same thing!
Hi Bubbs, oh dear poor you.............just saw it in FB about J. Trials and tribulations of life! I am wide awake, worrying about something silly really, its lashing it down outside, blowing a real gale, poor Thomas will be up at 6.30am to do his paper round poor kid........might get up and do it with him. Just feeling restless and fed up with life atm. On top of everything my lovely brother with the heart problems has been told this week the new stent they put in is not working. He had a triple by-pass three years ago, he found out last summer it has failed, so all they could do was stent his 4th artery which was then 40% blocked. That's failed too, so he has been told there is nothing more they can do other than try to control the pain. He is 63 and so lovely it breaks my heart. He lives alone, has two daughters, one lives nr Birmingham and although the other one lives here she is so full of her own life she never helps him, even when he`s asked for it. Right will see if reading sends me off to sleep..................
what a strange coincidence! Hope both J and the cat are better soon, bubby xx
I was looking back through all of ds1's reports - it's been 7 years since we first started investigating the whole thing. They were lovely at least, and hopefully it will mean he will get more support, regardless of the outcome wrt diagnosis.
Trips, I am sorry to hear about your brother
I've already been up an hour - bloody cold! It seemed to be getting better yesterday and now gone downhill again!
We've been quite lucky with the rain really. Only some flooding. The road to dd's school keeps getting cut off, but I guess the buses must be taking an alternative route, as she has been getting there ok. I am very thankful atm that we live at the top of a hill miles from any rivers.
That reminds me - I am very proud of dt1 - he has been selected to represent the school in three more cross country races across the county - providing the floods clear enough from the courses.
Oh chops! I am sending the most huggiest of hugs. I can't remember how old your J is but I remember you telling me all that time ago when I joined your thread that it must be in the name! We are only at the start of our journey at the moment and it's comparatively shorter than yours as mine is younger. I can't imagine how we would be if bigger was older.
After dh lost his temper with the HV team we finally have a date for a caf (fsp I think they are now). And I've started taking bigger to an additional needs group. Plus we got a letter that gave us an actual appointment the other day, rather than 'on the waiting list, to be contacted in due course'. I danced around the house!
Mama - I know I/my niece were advised to avoid bananas due to latex allery. Not a problem for me as I really don't like them but my poor niece gets most upset if we mention the B word. So they're bendy fruit when she's around.
Plenty of rain where we are. Is it rubes that's nearish me? I can't remember. Possibly not as we're not too bad here. The usually areas are flooded and the rivers are high. But the town river hasn't got as high as it did a few weeks ago - was touching the bottom of the bridge. And risking going over newly raised flood defences. Thankfully we are nowhere near all that.
Morning girls xx
Trips - so sorry to hear about your brothers health problems. xx
Soks, it's funny actually, I was chatting to someone on another site (fitness related) yesterday and she has a J with issues too! Thank you for the hugs. It is starting to feel like a bit of light at the end of the tunnel at least, will be nice to have an end to the constant trying to diagnose him. I mean, really, you would think his list of conditions is long enough already!
good luck with the caf! It does sound like things will move a lot quicker for you, which is brilliant. I think my J would have been sorted a long time ago had his first paed not retired.
Trips- sorry to hear about your brother, is really so sad.
Soks-glad you are a little further forward with the assessment for your son.
Gales and rain continue, glad we live at the yop of a hill!
Went to see FiL today, and the smell of urine hit us as soon as we opened the door. He is obviously incontinent, and has no sense of smell. The only thing to get the house sorted would be to pull all the carpets up, as they are beyond shampooing. DH and his brothers have all offered to help, but he wont accept that there is a problem. His neighbours will start complaining soon
Help! Need to send an email, jut gone into Hotmail an it wont let me. says looks as though someone is trying to use your account, then it asks me to verify by put in in the last 4 digits of my phone number then they will send me a code. put the number in but it won`t accept them, what an I do.................help
Morning.............hopefully sorted my problem, very windy outside but at last is stopped raining!
Afternoon. Trips, glad you sorted it. Horrible weather here, wind and rain continues.
Somehow, the extension lead to our chest freezer had got turned off sometime in the past day, so its all defrosted Luckily, it was 3/4 empty, as it needs to be moved back into the conservatory. Lunch here consisted of a mound of fishfingers, chips peas and sweetcorn, I have cooked up the mince and sausages to re-freeze as meals, and had to throw out somevother stuff, but, hopefully haven't losst too much moneys worth.
2nd defrosted food meal - Chinese pork ribs, curly fries(bought for an occasional treat for DC) chicken goujons and peas, I have made spag bol and chicken curry and frozen them, and also cooked the gammon. Thats saved most of the things that were in the freezer!
My son is one major stress pot! However it was lovely showing him the outside world
Hope everyone is having a lovely day.
You got to take Apollo on a stroll? Out out or inside out? Fingers crossed he will be home with you soon.
Inside out and a little out out. They wanted to test him in situations to see how he handles everything. He's not discharge for the day but a nurse accompanied us on a stroll around the hospital making notes etc and showing me how to adjust his levels etc. Turns out he hates any kind of loudish noise and bright lights including sunlight - he becomes so stressed his levels need adjusting and he needed a nebulizer as his screams flared up his BPD and asthma. He is much calmer outside and the nurse thinks he must like the breeze/wind on his skin, he's fasinated by the birds though! I even let him hold a leaf all though every instinct wanted to get him away from the germs!!
I can take him for another walk later without the nurse, I just have to keep a note of everything - hopefully we can take him home on day release soon
Oh how wonderful mama! Do you think in part it's because Apollo has spent so much time in such a very small environment? The big wide world is suddenly very scary. Even if it is only the corridor outside the nicu.
You did well with the leaf on apollos first trip out. I think even I would be screaming inside about germs in your situation. And I'm notoriously lax about germy things and children.
I think some of it, yes. Since he was born he's only been around certain noises and even people speaking weren't loud or close enough to cause him distress. And for the majority of the time, he had his incubator covered due to the lights but I think some of it is due to being surrounded by new things and overwhelming him. With his eyes covered he's calmer but it's the noise that sets him off the most even rattles set him off screaming.
I've told myself to relax a bit on the germ thing, because I know I'll freak out over everything and we both need to be ready to move from a sterile clean hospital and back into home life full of messy DC and a dog!
Well done Mama and Apollo. I'm sure your DH is very proud of you both. I suppose you couls add little ear defender type pads under his hat to try and muffle sounds a bit when you are out and about, it might help.
As for the germie type things, he hads got to start being exposed to some sooner or later, might as well be now whilst he is still being closely scrutinised at the hospital.
That's amazing Mama
Have done something to my back, was watching tv tonight and heard something crunch, been very uncomfortable ever since. Feeling very tired tonight................so as Shabs would say...Kale Nits ! xx
Bubs, that's what the ear doctor (I can't remember their proper name!) Suggested so he's going to look into ordering us some baby ones. He passed his stress test, only just though. We will be allowed to take him home on day release Wednesday!
Talked to a lady today who had her baby's name rejected by the registar office... so glad I named them in the UK. Crazy laws but I can understand why they have the laws.
DH is very happy and is starting to feel involved again which makes me extremely happy
Hope your back feels better soon, Trips!
Kale Nits Trips
My Greek friends even say that now!!! Tasoola said to me 'I like your friend, she is crazy.....she say to me Kale Nits and I know what she means so maybe I am crazy as well!!'
Kale Nits is better than Kale Nikta anyway
Mamma - Tom went to school with two cousins.....they were called Pearl & Polly (their last name was Pepper) it still makes Tom LOL when he remembers them!!!! I know a bloke who is a Manchester City fan.
When his son was born his wife said 'Dont you dare call him all the names off the City team.' He registered him as Michael Colin Francis Casey. (After Mike Summerbe, Colin Bell and Francis Lee) she said that was OK until they had to write down the babies intials and they obviously say MCFC. LOL LOL LOL
That's hilarious, Shabs! . This lady wanted to name her daughter Goldie Bear after the children's story...
About to go cuddle with DH in front of the fire while ge reads to me
Slipped on the NICU and went down on my ass. Artie's head bounced a bit in carrier but while I'm freaking out she's squealing with a smile... what is it with my kids are stairs?!
Whoops mama! No harm done to either of you I hope.
Bust day here. Twins grumpy so having their second sleep of the day. Bigger is hell bent on tormenting me - throwing toilet rolls and Lego bricks everywhere. He doesn't want to do anything I suggest so I'm trying to give him some space and do some cleaning/tidying in the kitchen.
No harm done, just a bruised buttocks and pride! A nurse was passing on the stairs and helped me up and checked Artie over for me. Very kind of her.
DH is trying to do extra hours today and Thursday, Friday (so basically doing 3 12 hour shifts) so he can have tomorrow off to be here for Apollo's day release. Also, looking into hiring another weekend housekeeper.
Aww hope little grumpies cheer up soon! xx
Oh Mama hope you are not hurt........phew!
My back has been very stiff and sore all day, no sympathy here though, you know........"I`ll do the kids tea, don`t you go lifting that basket of washing............
Watched the prog tonight about the tiny poorly babies, amazing how they survive, watching the poor parents trying to be brave was heart breaking, thought of you Mama.
It has rained and rained again today, the local fields are flooded and I hear the M2 is closed because of a large sink hole, never heard of them before and now that's two in a week!
Feeling tired, kids just being sent up so its time to say Kale Nits! xx
I can't seem to watch any baby programs at the minute and still haven't looked at Apollo's early days pictures however DH and I plan to have a look through all 700+ to see which one we'll post for you lovely ladies
Apollo is all set for release tomorrow at 9am. The supply company is making a visit on Thursday to install and set up everything! Also had a serious chat with Apollo's cardiologist and it's very likely that he will need heart surgery when he's older due to a leaky valve. <<sigh>>. Otherwise all positive news!
Shabs, I will ship over DH to you! He gives amazing massages! He gave me them when I suffered back pain during PG. His hands are miracle workers! Or maybe I'm just biased!
Morning ladies. Super excited for you today Mama! <<throws out banners and balloons>>
Thanks ladies! He's napping in his own little cot downstair. Best thing since monkey nuts! I cannot stop staring at him.
When DH pulled up in the car everything felt surreal - I was scared about putting him in the car seat! I came home to cake made by DH and banners made DC. They are in awe of him and keep going over to the cot to stare at him. Ds1 has assigned himself his keeper; anyone who goes near the cot he says "sush, Halo sleeping!" However he hates when Apollo screams because it's loud!
Today is not going how I wanted it to... Had a brilliant morning, Apollo was doing so well until about 1.30pm when he started screaming - nothing would settle him, had to give him a nebulizer which helped for all of 30 minutes before he started screaming again, his breathing became labored and he was turning a bit blue. Called the SBCU and was told to bring him straight back to the ward or call for an amublance. We decided to go to the ward - he is now on cpap
After talking to us and the timeline matching up turns out he had a severe reaction to some perfumed shower wash I used and caused a massive asthma attack. We've been told to avoid all perfumes scented candles/air freshener/shampoos! Basically anything fragranced that could come in close contact with him.
Hoping to switch back to low flow either today or tomorrow... sigh.
They believe he may have a perfume intolerance which with his sensitivity to all his senses has just basically clashed and caused a flare up ofvl his BPD which was made worse by his screaming and triggering an attack. A combinaton of everything making a dimino affect.
I have never experienced rain like we had here an hour ago, it was like waterfall over our windows, what on earth is happening to us? Winds forecast up to 90 mile per hour and much more rain
Oh mama . It's such a balancing act, trying to show Apollo his normal home life. And then having to take into account that anything and everything may upset his sensitivities. Hugs.
Rain is currently horizontal here! Watching the one show flood special. Glad we live in a relatively well drained area. But hoping the farmers see sense soon and start dredging their ditches and that middle level dredge the rivers thoroughly.
Mama - how scary for you, at least he is settled again now, amother thing to avoid when you get home, but better to find out now rather than later.
Trips - hope your back is better soon.
Soks terrible winds and rain here too. I had a call from M this afternoon, a tree got blown over just in ront of the school bus, and they told all 30 kids to get off and walk the last 2 miles home in the pouring rain and wind, along quite dangerous country road with no footpath, even J with his crutches! Luckily, some, like M, had their phones and phoned parents, but reception in that area is notoriously bad. Several of us mums ran a shuttle service to the village, all the time flashing and waving to oncoming drivers to slow down, as there were still kids walking on the road, as well as the downed tree. I lodged a complaint with the transport providers, they should have kept them on the bus until safe transport was arranged.
It didnt help it was also getting dark, and the school unigorm is all navy blue
He's back on low-flow, thank God, and back to his old self. We'll try again Friday and hopefully we can have him home ALL day. DH and I have decided to have huge clear out. The baby/children products are all organic fragrance free anyway, so DH and I just need to watch what we use and change what household products we use to fragrance free. We've just gone with the theory, "change everything to be on the safe side", which means we now have to put in place visiting rules. Such a PITA, but I want him home!
Hope everyone back in England, is staying safe. My friend in Barnsley says the wind is almost gale force, it's mad. It's been raining over here too.
Morning ladies, morning Shabs!
The supply came this morning so now my house is full tubing! All the people who need to be notified about oxgyen in house/car have been notified. It's starting to feel scary now!
I was also given a date; on the 18th of this month, Apollo will be officially coming home!!!!
Hope you ladies have a lovely day and hope the weather isn't too awful!
A told DH she wants a big bed like her brother, so DH has taken off the front bars to put it in cot bed mode. My baby is growing up, it's not fair! I don't like it. Also K has been in a foul mood all day so I'm expecting a bedtime tantrum. This should be fun
On the way to the way to the hospital. Apollo is unable to settle. He's been fed/changed/rocked but he isn't calming for them and has been at it for nearly 2 hours and are calling me as a last resort. I'm actually quite furious, I'm his mother I shouldn't bloody be his last resort nor should he be left for hours upset. I should have been called when their efforts did not work. Heartbreaking that my son is upset so gunna stay overnight and cuddle him loads!
My Gareth had times when he was very, very 'fussy.' He would get very hot and sweaty and then pass out. I dont know if that is the norm with babies with heart problems. I have woken up sat on the floor in the bedroom leaning on the wall - me freezing cold and Gareth still very hot but settled lying in my arms. Its a hard road but medicine has advanced beyond recognition in the last 30 odd years.
Shabs, A gets pretty hot too, if he's swaddled or wrapped in a blanket or coat, he gets sweaty and flushes and feels hot but you take his temp and he's fine. Yet he hates being cold - he sleeps in a hat, mittens, socks because once those go cold he fusses.
He's happily passed out now on my chest, tried to move him to cot but he started to fuss and tense. So shuffled down on my back and I'm in the process of very slowly moving him off me to the bed so I can use the loo!
Night ladies xx
Morning rain rain and more rain........just woke Thomas up for his paper round poor kid. So sick of it now. Mama hope A has had a good night. x
Mama, hope you and Apollo had a settled night.
Morning girls xxx
First day of college half term holidays here - Think Tom will sleep for the week. He has worked so hard since September last year.
Shabs, I bet he's looking forward to sleeping all week!
Weather is decent enough here but still not venturingo out!
Apollo is home and napping with twins. He's been really fussy today but no problems a part from adjusting to different sounds and lights. After having it out with the staff this morning, I'll be staying over again in case his fussiness continues overnight. I don't want a repeat.
Artie looks super intrigued by her brother but tries to eat his tubing or pull it. My hands are full!
Morning girls, keep waking up early knowing Thomas has to be up for his paper round! Blowing a gale out there again poor kid! Whats everyone up to for half term, we have no plans except James is off to Portsmouth on Mon to spend 5 days with the Royal Marines School of Music. Should be very exciting for him. Scary thought for me that the boys may be leaving home this Sept, they are hard work but God I would miss them................ ok Thomas is up going to try to go back to sleep! xx
Morning Trips, hope Thomas is staying safe out there. You're just a lovely mum getting up with him
Apollo was up every bloody hour last night. Constant crying and feeding, he wouldn't settle at all, everything was setting him off, finally managed to get him to sleep for a solid 2 hours at 3am only for Artie to wake him up by having a tantrum when she couldn't sit up. I am completely exhausted and I have months of this to come!
Any plans today? X
Trips, I dont envy anyone having to get up early in the recent weather.
My 2 are already in 1/2term mode, still not dressed and glued to their computers at 3pm today when DH and I got home with the shopping. I made M get dressed and come out with DH and me with the dogs, J couldnt as his foot is still sore. Returned with 3 very muddy dogs as all the fields are so saturated, so they are shut in the kitchen atm to dry off a bit.
Now finished making a Korma ready for a girlie night out round a friends house with a "bring a dish" evening.These are usually a little rowdy as there are about 8 of us who meet every 2 months or so with plenty of good homemade food and lots of wine and laughter.I dont have to drive as my teetotal friend is giving me a lift
DH has ordered me a new promise ring!! Isn't it gorgeous?! I have a wedding ring but I don't wear it as I'm scared of losing it!
How you have a lovely night, bubs! xx
Golly Bubbs can I come to the next one, sounds fun! I am already in bed,9pm and I have had enough! Just packed Thomas a large packed lunch for tomorrow, after his paper round he is going airsofting in a wood near Dover, being picked up at 8am! He just asked if he can have scrambled eggs and coffee before he goes, so guess who won`t be getting a lie in tomorrow? Dd has just annoyed me, doesn`t seem to take much these days, I bought a soft drink for Thomas to take tomorrow and she`s taken it out of the fridge. She lied and said she hadn`t and its quite plainly on her shelf. We just can`t seem to get on, if I show any interest in her work etc she barely answers me, never ever sits with us downstairs, her diet is awful, I made Chinese tonight, all homemade, she wasted it. She won`t eat traditional English food, her idea of hell is a roast dinner. She is I suppose going through another "stage" but I am finding it stressful. Imagine if had had three girls!!!
Mama..................gorgeous isn`t the word I would use ....... its scary..............very scary...........now a nice sparkly diamond.....
Really? I love it! But then again I'm weird... even my wedding ring is black but it does have pink sapphires!
I should be sleeping as the A-team are sleeping-ish (Apollo is making noises and moving a little too much for a sleeping baby!) but I'm gunna proof read a few screen writes for some extra cash.
Bubs, can I come too?! I miss having girls to natter with, and I miss gossip! Haha.
I don't have to cook, today! Heading round to MiL for dinner and for lunch is sandwhiches!
Morning, awake early as usual. Thomas is charging around, done his paper round and off air softing in 10 mins! Weather looks promising, blue sky and calm Half term and no plans apart from James going off tomorrow. Mama.....not weird just different!
Morning girls xx
Lew stayed overnight - and woke up at 5.30am - anybody got any matchsticks so I can keep my eyes open?
DH, FiL & BiL have taken all 6 (my 4 & BiL's 2 ds') swimming for the morning and then are taking them to a playground. Good luck to them! Me and Artie are going back to bed once she's nursed for a lovely lie in!
Hope Thomas has fun today! And James tomorrow!
<passes matchsticks round>. Envious of you mama. Dh is working this weekend. Today my grandma is 94 years old. We are off out as a family to celebrate with her. Should be the usual amount if chaos with my 4, my sister's 3. My parents, an aunt and grandma. Pass the loudhailer!
That nap was lovely! I feel well rested. Called SCBU and Apollo has been quiet all day as he's hardly been disturbed except for feeds and changes. Will heading up tonight to stay as he's being discharge until Tuesday afternoon.
I'm ready for that Sunday dinner!
Mama- the ring is certainly...different! I take it you are into all the gothic stuff.
Trips, hope both yor boys have a good time, can give no advise about your dd though, but it all sounds very familiar from what my friends with teenage girls have said. Just hang on to the thought that she will grow out of it eventually.
Shabs, since I didn't crawl in the door til 2am, having consumed a fair amount of wine, then got woken up at 7am by the oncall phone, you can definitely pass those matchsticks over! Very good evening though, we ended up playing this stupid boardgame called "3 in 30seconds" in which our answers got more outlandish as the evening went on and the empties acumulated.
Dh laughed and called me a druken idiot when I had trouble getting my key in the front door!
Not really, but I love skulls and anything different. But I do love gothic like jewellry. However my style of clothing runs along the lines of skinny jeans and band t-shirt, with the odd fake leather jacket .
K has upset his grandparents, quite hilarious really. I blame my dad for sending the YT video for C4's olympic advert!
Naughty bubs! Glad you had a great time!
Woke up from a nap a bit ago, which was lovely but sent me into panic mode as I hadn't fed Artie since 6pm, so just asked DH if she'd been fussing at all, his response; "yes, she fuss in her sleep, but that was an hour ago. You were exhausted so I just manouvered you a little and put her on the boob. She fed, now asleep better. Now I sleep." Then he turned over and went back to sleep! I should feel violated or angry but I honestly just relieved so I can go back to sleep!
Haven't seen Apollo today at all and I miss him! X
Mama. The ring is lovely but not something I'd have, if that makes sense. Bless your dh too. I actually think that's quite sweet of him to 'feed' Artie when you were so tired. He's a sweetheart to let you sleep even if it does mean you've missed seeing Apollo. A rested mummy is better for mummy, dh and dc! I remember when I had my oldest, in the mw first home visit I was asleep after being up all night feeding. Dh very capably sorted biggest with the mw, made the mw and I a cup of tea then came and woke me up so they could do my checks.
Grandma's birthday celebrations went well. Food wasn't great but edible and we had great fun teasing grandma. Not all of it went above her head so she gave as good as she got and I've some lovely photos.
This morning, I do feel so much better, GPs are coming to collect DC at 9am and DH will pick them up after work. The boys slept amazingly well last night and managed to sing them to sleep instead of making up the cups of milk so I hope this is the start of dropping through the night feeds. I have told DH he can pop them on the boob whenever he wants if he doesn't want to wake or if I don't wake up!
Glad the birthday was a hit! xx
Morning girls xx
My daughter would think that ring is amazing, mama!
Hi, Chops! She has good taste your dd!
Artie and are currently enjoying a morning at the local park. She loved being in the sling when I was on the swings. Acting like a big kid
Morning, Shabs xx
We have a discharge time! He will be discharged at 3pm tomorrow!
Cannot pick him up today until 1pm due to Doctor's round and quiet time. We have to go back to the hospital in the morning which is pretty silly but we have to fill out more forms and get his files and meds, then they want him hooked up to monitors until he's discharged.
Excited!!! DH says he will come straight from work on Tomorrow to take us home.
Discharged discharged mama or discharged on home visits? I do hope it's the former. Then you can get to know him better on your own territory and hopefully Apollo will be much more settled in his home environment. Plus it will be a lots less stressful for you all with the backwards and forwards travel.
Dot baby had all her curls cut off today in a brutal haircut. She did need it, and I did tell my hairdresser to be brutal as she was sitting so beautifully for her. So now we have cropped wavy hair. Still looks cute and we're hoping her hair may thicken up now. Despite having masses, her hair is so much finer than biggest's was at the same age.
Discharged discharged as he will officially be coming home! He's coming home with a crap load of stuff and my brain is full of information that personally, half went over my head! It'll be amazing to have him home and just in time for my birthday next week! best early present ever!
Apollo is currently fast asleep in just a gdiaper and swaddle on DH sucking on his shoulder. For some strange and weird reason every single one of our DC have used DH's wrist, shoulder, neck and chest as a pacifier...
I daren't cut of A's curls, I love them too much! She has it trimmed but I'd cry if they ever disappear. I'm dreading the day she's old enough to know what straightners are!
Evening ladies, what wonderful news Mama, no more hiccups!
Well a lot has happened since we last met!
At 12.10am whilst in slumber (feeling poetic) I was awakened by the carbon monoxide detector in our sitting room going off. Dh got up and switched it off, we have had this happen periodically since we`ve had the log burner put in there. He put it back on the shelf and opened a window and it didn`t go back off, see we went back to bed. At 02.10am the second detector in our airing cupboard next to my bedroom went off, boy did it. It woke all of us up and really made me jump, I tried to turn it off but it wouldn`t stop. Felt panicky, 2 alarms to me meant carbon monoxide , went into kids and woke them up and opened their windows. We couldn`t stop the alarm, so I called 999.Operator asked which service and I said I didn`t know it was my c/m detector but we were all ok. She repeated which service and I replied the same answer, she then said she couldn`t put me through to anybody unless I chose a service. So I said fire service as they install these things free of charge. Fire service answer, take my details then tell me it is nothing to do with them, I must immediately phone my gas company. Alarm now screeching for 20 mins! Phone gas comp and its an automated reply, press 1 to change my payments/press 2 to arrange a service etc.....so now feeling very panicky I press nothing and hold. A human answers, takes details, tells us to turn off main gas supply and open window in all rooms, then says they need to come out and will do so in the next 2 hours So I send dh back to bed, check kids all fast asleep and I sit on the sofa with the curtains open to await engineer, dh needed to try to sleep as he was taking James down to Portsmouth at 8.30am. At 4.14am safety engineer arrives, ask me lots of questions, dh comes back down and engineer wants access to our meter. After 20 mins he can`t access it enough as its in my front porch shed, so he closes us down, cuts off our gas! Tells us we must take out our tumble dryer and most of our shelving and they will send another engineer out in the morning, checks we are all ok and leaves. I eventually get back into bed at 5am but cannot sleep, thinking how lucky we were, thank god for a detector! Alarm goes off at 6.45am goes down to find dh laying table for b/fast, he then says he needs to be home when the engineers return so could I take James! 40 mins later we are all ready drive out of the estate and a British Gas van pulls up at our house. So I tell him dh is dropping us at the station and will be back in 10 mins, he says the emergency service asked him to come out to look at our appliances because we have had a c/m leak, but if we like he can leave it until tomorrow! Noooooo I say we have been disconnected, no gas, so he says he will wait. So I meet up with another lad at the station whose mum contacted me and asked if her lad cold travel with us. So at 8.30am feeling completely blitzed we set off. James was very quiet most of the way I can imagine how nervous he must have been feeling. We had to make two changes and eventually arrived in Brighton at 12.20pm where I left them after putting them on the train to Southampton, no time for long goodbyes as my own train back left in 3 mins! Felt so strange pulling out of the station leaving him there, but I didn`t cry! Finally got back home at 4.30pm, exhausted! The news here was emergency services could find no fault with the appliances so are saying its coming from the wood burner. British Gas came out and reconnected us and charged up £50, they checked our loft where our flue pipe is and said we had a tile missing in the roof which could be affecting our ventilation, also said we should up date our 17 yr old boiler! So dh has asked for a quote and a home visit on Thurs, I can`t believe boilers only last 16/17 years!! So that's been my day, oh also Thomas bombards me the minute I get home, his Hudl he had for Christmas is broken, it won`t charge..................excuse me......."SCREAM".......
Then at 9pm James phones sounding very grown up to says its going fine........................and I wanted to bawl my eyes out........what a day! Oh yes on top of all that there was a security scare, suspect package delivered to HMS Collingwood today............where James is staying!!! Hoping for a good nights sleep! xxx
Holy crap, Trips! I'm worn out just reading that! I'm so glad that you're all okay and that James got their safety and it was false suspect package!!!
Apollo has yet to settle down, put him down at 6pm and hooked him up to his SATs machine, then he woke up at 7.15pm, nursed, woke up at 8.45pm screaming refusing to latch, so DH took him 30 minutes later managed to sing and rock him to sleep, the work at 9.50pm which he fell asleep during his feed, woke up again around 11pm fed again, and it is 12.15am and he screaming his little heart out, he won't latch, in fact he doesn't want me, so once again DH has him... I would have gone to sleep but low and behold Artie woke up... along with Dieter so I'm entertaining myself online while tandem feeding!
Bring on tomorrow!! x
oh my word Trips - piggin' 'ell!!!
DH is currently singing this song to Dieter, Artie & Apollo. His voice is so beautiful. I just wanna capture this moment. Dieter is close to drifting off but he's not quite there yet
As promised, a photo of Apollo . You'll need to enter a password; which is "monkeys" to view it. Tried on here but kept getting the stupid error thing.
OH Mama.........so so tiny............bless him, so amazing he has come a long way in his little life already. So very happy for you all xx
So this is what 4 screaming children sound like .
Hope you ladies had a good day
Oh mama. Apollo is such a beauty. Hope you're not having too disturbed a night!!
Aww, lovely picture, can't believe how small he was!
Is it really only Wednesday??? <sob>