D'ya ever wonder why we ALWAYS miss the 1,000 message thingeymebob???

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<<shuffles across to a new thread>>

<<runs the hoover round the shag pile>> <<polishes frantically>> <<wonders what the weird smell is and remembers she still cant find her Faliraki flip flops>>

Chopstheduck Fri 03-May-13 09:14:19

I didn't notice it was getting full neither!

thanks for starting new one smile

LOL think I have added an extra 'a' to the D'y ever bit - oh stuff it - not changing it now!!! grin

rubyrubyruby Fri 03-May-13 09:26:14

Now you see - if FG was here she would be hassling you about that extra 'a' Shabs.

That's if she was here of course. <<looks around>> <<dangles carrot>>

<<whistles innocently>>

LOL Well the 'a' is staying until the Frumpster makes an appearance......

<<dangles a second carrott>>

MultipleMama Fri 03-May-13 12:07:17

Did I miss it too?! Darn!

Just popped in to have a look around the new thread... it needs a cake table, I think! Haha.

At the hospital at moment but I'll be back maybe this evening when I know more. Enjoy your day lovlies smile

Sokmonsta Fri 03-May-13 13:51:30

<lays out glasses and nibbles on mama's cake table, pours ice cold champagne, schloer for the non-drinkers before putting feet up and surveying the thread>

MultipleMama Fri 03-May-13 15:06:46

Still at the hospital - they're concerned about T1's size and could only find a faint heartbeat, so I'm booked for another scan at 4pm. Fingers crossed.

Chopstheduck Fri 03-May-13 18:13:24

Aww will be keeping everything crossed for you xxx

Sokmonsta Fri 03-May-13 19:46:29

Fingers crossed mama. X

MultipleMama Fri 03-May-13 20:53:20

I can't think straight at the minute and I'm emotional so going to make this short.

T1 has low amniotic fluid and at high risk of m/c - the said a proper name but I wasn't really listening. T1 has a strong heartbeat but took a while to find. I'm on IV and oral hydration, so they can check T1's kidneys or something in the morning. That's all I know and all I can explain without crying.

I guess I'll know more tomorrow. I need sleep.

Chopstheduck Fri 03-May-13 21:11:42

Oh no sad everything crossed for both your babies to pull through this, do get some rest. Xxx

Sokmonsta Fri 03-May-13 21:22:57

sad Oligohydramnios. Jennifer had very low/borderline low amniotic fluid but quite late on, from about 29 weeks until they arrived I was on weekly 'shall we/shan't we deliver' scans. Amniotic fluid can increase apparently if you get plenty to drink and can rest.

MultipleMama Fri 03-May-13 23:26:21

That's the word.

I'm on fluids and bed rest and they're keeping me until Tuesday when I hit 10 weeks for monitoring. I miss my kids and Dh.

Going to try and fall back asleep, night everyone.

Morning girls xx

Hope they soon get you sorted out and home Multi. x

Sokmonsta Sat 04-May-13 11:39:08

Morning ladies.

Morning mama. Hope your stay isn't too frustrating. And you are getting some sleep instead of being poked every half an hour!

Have packed eldest off to neighbours for the day (they asked if she could go and play). Off into town soon to buy new glasses for me, see if alterations can be made to a new suit for Dh and a stroll around generally.

Jennifer and Joshua are coming along nicely. Joshua has started getting brave and when you stand him and let go, he's started taking those very wobbly, almost throwing himself, couple of steps towards us whilst giggling. Of course Jennifer cannot be outdone and today, after weeks and weeks of trying, she has finally managed to PULL HERSELF TO STANDING. Sorry for the shouting but we're thrilled! I popped her in the cot for a nap, went to fetch Joshua and by the time I'd got back upstairs, she was standing there grinning at me with her bum sticking right out. Of course it didn't last long before she slipped and bumped her head, but she has done it twice more since so WOO HOO! Of course, this now means she could potentially reach the higher bookshelves to destroy books.

MultipleMama Sat 04-May-13 12:58:55

That's wonderful news sok, I bet you're so proud of both of them.

They surprisingly left me alone, only waking me to change drip bag.

Had a scan at 10am, T1 is looking healthy and haven't found any defects so that's good news. AF had increased enough to get a good scan. T2 is also healthy with a good normal level.

Plan is to keep in until Tuesday - taking me off IV tonight, on an oral routine of 2 litres every 3 hours with daily scans to check for changes. Then if T1 has increased, I can go home on bed rest with oral hydration and weekly scans. Once I hit 12 weeks they'll decide what to do next.

Got a visit from the kids this morning which made me happy, also did a lot of pumping to take home.

Onwards and upwards.

triplets Sat 04-May-13 15:14:05

Found you allsmile Mama you must must rest, every opportunity you can, must be very worrying for you. xx
Well dk is home, very very grumpy, two ghastly drains hanging off of him, nurse been out to check. He has to go back to the hospital next Thurs to see the consultant and have them removed. He was soooooo horrible y/day I told him if he continued to be unkind to me I would not look after him, I would take myself off for the w/end. Wish I could, all three kids are away until Mon. I am bored and fed up!

MultipleMama Sat 04-May-13 16:34:17

4pm scan showed no change so just fluids and rest until tomorrow. Kids are visiting tomorrow so need plenty of energy. Going to try and nap. I'm resting, trips, promise.

Glad to hear your dh is home but his grumpiness towards you sucks!

triplets Sat 04-May-13 23:28:11

Thats very good news Mama......... a relief.
Well done to Jennifer a milestone to be proud of!
Can`t tell you how my day has been................my dear friend with dementia has had a fall and ended up in hospital, I spent 3 hours making calls................am very tired and wound up..........................and I am missing the kids..............surprised myself but I am. Just got a txt from dd on her way home from a concert in Portmouth, she is sooooooo excited coz the lead singer looked a her! Bless!! Sleep well................xx

Morning girls xx

Sorry to hear about your friend Triips - Dementia is a horrible, horrible thing.

Things at my parents have gone downhill. Mum is not coping at all well - Im not suprised to be honest. My brother rang Social services for them and asked what days they go and see them. Social Services have no record of my parents - they are supposed to organise daily carers sad Last time Dad was in hospital they sat with me and took down all their details for the SECOND time. They are coming to my parents house on Tuesday afternoon to assess them angry and IF they think they need it they will get daily help.

They dont realise that my sarcastic, at times nasty brother and myself will be sat waiting for them.

MultipleMama Sun 05-May-13 09:08:11

That's disgusting, shabs. How can they have no record? It's appalling. I hope you chew their asses out. Your parents deserve to be treated better and their concerns heard and noted. Fingers crossed it goes well.

Sorry about your friend, trips. Sending get well wishes her way.

I'm feeling more relaxed today and going with the flow. Kids are visiting soon and I hope dts are hungry. I miss bf! I can wait to see DH either and arrange things for when I come home. When you share a bed for years, it's unsettling and "wrong" to sleep alone.

Morning everyone!

MultipleMama Sun 05-May-13 16:43:21

Evening. Another boring day! If I drink any more water I'm gunna end up looking like flubber!

Scans show no change in T1's fluid but everything is still functioning like it should so they're thinking of putting me on a drip the day before I go home.

Was great to see the kids and bf. Ready for home, though!

rubyrubyruby Mon 06-May-13 07:09:20

I hope you get home soon MM x

Morning girls xx

rubyrubyruby Mon 06-May-13 08:02:29

Morning Shabs. Must be very tough for you at the moment xx hope you and your brother can sort something out love.

Thanks love xx

MultipleMama Mon 06-May-13 08:56:41

Morning, ladies. How is everyone? X

Sokmonsta Mon 06-May-13 10:21:40

Trips and Shabs, so sorry you are having a tough time at the moment. Fingers crossed its short lived and everyone is home and care is sorted soon. Shabs - it's awful that you have to keep on at people to get the right support but we found the same with my aunt (ms). Even now she is in a care home, we still have to get onto them for basic things like a hair cut or to change her catheter! Be cross with them. The impact will stick and they will remember that there are family involved so are less likely to let things slide. My aunt's care home admitted most families drop their relatives off and visit once a year if they're lucky so it was hard for them when we started asking questions such as 'what has aunt done this week' and so on. They weren't used to filling in their day books as no one looked at them!

Mama. I hope rest and fluids are still helping. Counting down the days until you escape! Hopefully it will continue with the sunny weather and you can rest in the garden while the dc roam.

It's a lovely sunny day here and I'm doing housework this morning. Hopefully off to a BBQ this afternoon though. If not I shall be out tidying the garden while the babies roam. Bigs are at nana and Grandad's for the day.

MultipleMama Mon 06-May-13 10:55:34

I escaped my hospital bed today, sat in canteen garden enjoying some normal food. Going on a drip at noon to give ne a "kickstart" when I go home tomorrow.

DF is staying in the spare room for a couple weeks to help while I'm on bed rest. I'm loving this weather!

Enjoy your day, everyone smile

Thank you Sok....its scary because my parents have always 'done' things for us. They were the ones that organised everything for us when Gareth & Matthew died....I didn't have the first clue what to do and they just 'did it.' At our local hospital A & E I was suprised to find that I know the sister there. She is an old 'playground' friend....her daughter was at the same primary school as my boys. She was amazing when Matt died.

Last time we were in A & E she came rushing round the corner organising everything and stopped dead in her tracks. She hugged me and we talked for a while - then she turned up in Dads cubicle. My Mum was so impressed that we knew each other grin she kept checking on Dad and gave us loads of great advice.

I have spoken to her about the Social worker situation and she is fuming on our behalf. She also said make sure both my brother and myself are there on Tuesday. Gave me great advice and said to contact her asap if I need any help with anything.

She looked at my Dad and said 'Oh my word you must be Matts grandad you are like 'peas in a pod' - you have got the same eyes.' My Dad grinned and said 'he was a belter - the light of my life - I miss him you know.'

<<sigh>> I HAVE TO GET A GRIP....<<repeats over and over to herself>> I REALLY DO HAVE TO GET A GRIP.

bubby64 Mon 06-May-13 21:41:27

Oh my God, off line for a few days and missed so much!!
Mama - fingers crossed yor fluid levels increase and everything is ok, and when you get home, do what your told and stick with the bed rest.
Shabs- That's disgusting about the SS referral, but doesn't surprise me, I had to kick up a huge fuss last year to get care started for my mum. Make sure you and bro are there and kick up a fuss. Give 'em hell girl!.
Trips- Glad Dh is home, sorry he is being a dk. Funny how you miss the kids, isn't it, you would think we would all be glad of the break, but I missed the boys like mad last time they were away for a vouple of days. Also sorry about your friend, dementia is a shit disease.angry
Soks- Go Jen! whoop whoop!! Now the fun begins again grin
Chops and Ruby - Hi smile <<waves madly>>
As for us, DH really pissed off as having trouble with the pontiac engine, and we missed going on our favorite classic car run yesterday. We went along to where they were on display at the end, all along the seafront at Felixstow. Beautiful afternoon and I caught the sun a bit.
I have bought M a cheap bike off EBay, to try and encourage him to exercise more, and am looking for one for J now, both their old bikes are now too small for them.
FiL came today and stayed for lunch, then took boys off to the cinema to see Iron Man 3 this afternoon, they got back at 7pm, and dh and I had some "us" time for the first time in ages.wink

triplets Mon 06-May-13 22:27:52

Evening ladies, feeling out of touch with you...............what a day it has been. Weather has been fab, I was fed up this morning so I took myself off for a peddle along the beach. I had forgotten it was the big Brocante on the green, hundreds of stalls selling everything from cakes to plants etc. Managed to buy nothing, though there was some nice chairs I liked, came home and dk was cross because th nurse hadn`t turned up. Then this pm my phone kept going, it was my friend from the hospital. It was sooo upsetting as she just was not talking sense poor thing. I asked her to let me speak to the nurse. She told me they were having a difficult time with her, she is in an orthopaedic ward, they can`t cope with her dementia. She said the SS are coming tomorrow to asess her and she might be sent home. She can`t weight bear for another 8 days, she really can`t look after herself. I hate to think of her going into a home but she needs 24 hour care, she isn`t safe on her own. Her bloody daughter wants shooting, she hasn`t even bothered to phone up and ask after her mother. Its such a sad situation. Shabs good luck tomorrow with SS, it shouldn`t have to be such a battle. Boys got home from the DOE w/end, smelly and shattered.........but they did it! Feel very proud of them! Right time to sleep, hope you get home tomorrow Mama...................night all xx

Second night struggling to sleep. Thanks for all your messages and help - I appreicate everybodys input so much xxx

Morning girls xx

Sokmonsta Tue 07-May-13 10:14:23


Shabba I hope you got some sleep.

Trips. Hope your friend gets the care she needs. You are being a better sister than her own by the sound of it. But they say you can't pick your family!

Mama - hope you escape today. Fingers crossed.

Good morning to chops and anyone else I've missed. Hope you are having lovely sunny days.

MultipleMama Tue 07-May-13 12:50:06

Afternoon everyone. I'm home and lounging in the garden while DF is planting flowers in DD's little space. I have 3 little ones covered in dirt and water. What a sight haha.

Sorry, I'm not replying individually, too tired. Hope you're getting some sleep Shabs and trips hope things improve with your friend!

Will be offline for a whole. Going to concentrate on sleeping and resting smile

triplets Tue 07-May-13 17:15:13

Glad you are home Mama, no fun being in hospital! Had a phone call from Ireland this morning, my friends daughter. She is not coming over. Poor poor Hella. Social Services are seeing her today, it is very sad. Shabs my lovely..........think of you often struggling through each day, wish there was more I could do xx

triplets Tue 07-May-13 22:53:48

Awfully quiet here..............can I tempt you with my homemade flapjacks......

Cheese scones might do the trick Trips grin

All I can say about today is......brother had to work.....my parents told Social Worker that they were doing fine and didnt need any help because their family were looking after them..........Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggghhhhh!! My Mum also told me 'I KNEW WHAT I WAS GOING TO SAY, YOU NEED TO STOP INTERFERING YOUNG LADY' because I said I would sort out their prescriptions shock.........brother has rung SW and said he has been conned by our parents!!!

Beyond tired but wide awake if that makes any sense xxx

triplets Tue 07-May-13 23:38:52

<<weighs out sr flour, butter and mature cheddar, looks for rolling pin.....uses empty gin bottle instead, pops in oven and sets timer for 15 mins>>

grin xx

Sokmonsta Wed 08-May-13 06:13:50

Morning. <snaffles cheese scone>

Oh Shabs!

triplets Wed 08-May-13 06:48:47

Morning all, birds are in full throttle which is what they`ll get if they keep waking me up at 5am!

Morning girls xx

Chopstheduck Wed 08-May-13 09:57:26

morning girls x

great to see you are back home mama.

<<thinks shabs really needed the gin rather than the scones!!>>

well done to your boys, Trips! My dts did their first cub camp last weekend and loved it. Came home with a ton of muddy clothes, and the washing machine packed in. Then the steam generator iron packed in! Repairman not til tomo for wash machine and iron prob delivered next week sometime. Great excuse to go clothes shopping...grin

triplets Wed 08-May-13 22:05:54

Where is everyone these days................awful quiet.......BOO grin

MultipleMama Wed 08-May-13 22:06:40

I was woken up at 9.30pm by DH dancing around the bedroom singing "I am the one and only" with DTS1 falling asleep on his shoulder and DTS2 sat in the cot staring. Both went down without feeding - first time ever!

About to have a mug of cocoa with DH before catching up on more zzz.

I'll have one of those flapjack if there's any left, trips!

Hope everyone is well smile xx

triplets Wed 08-May-13 22:16:51

Forgot to say SS did not show up at the hospital, what a surprise. They are now talking of moving her again, it could be to Deal hosp, or Herne Bay or Faversham....................nightmare for her.sad
DK has an apt at the same hosp she is in tomorrow so hopefully I`ll get to see her. He is being a right idiot, the drains had just about stopped draining over the w/end, as he starts to feel better he is up and pottering. So today one o the bottles has almost filled so I will be very surprised if they remove the drains tomorrow as he hopes. At 5pm he was in the garden moving plants, he slipped and just managed to stop himself ending up on the deck...................driving me insane!

triplets Wed 08-May-13 22:18:18

<<passes plate and is glad an extra batch was made today>>

SS are useless, the NHS (in our area) is crumbling and being stuck together with fookin' plasters....it is driving me insane - AND Im putting the entire blame for this on shiny faced cameron and Ian Dickhead Smith.....wether it is their faults or NOT. Was just going to apologise to everybody but decided not to!!!! We need a revolution...and I would be happy to front it with a massive banner!

Our local hospital - fantastic place are making 500 staff redundant - 20 of which are going to be doctors.....<<tries to stop the swearing>>. Have told my Dad that if they have a protest march against NHS cuts in our area me and him are going on it - even if I have to push him in a bleedin' wheelchair.................................<<and breathe>>

...........and,you know what my Dads reply was when I was ranting to him?


triplets Wed 08-May-13 23:04:07

<<Trips rummages in shed and finds soap box for Shabs >>

Oh ta love grin - Every last little thing is getting right on my 'Bernies' as the mighty Chellester calls them!!! I want to shout from the rooftops about everything.

<<takes another one of her 'stupid tablets' and tries to calm down>>

triplets Wed 08-May-13 23:23:21

<<Trips kneels to give Shabs a hug and to tell her how bloody proud of her she is >>

<<snotty cries>> Thanks Trips - cant remember the last time anybody said that to me......xxxxx

triplets Wed 08-May-13 23:47:45

We met through the saddest way............our boys have given us a special friendship for life.........very precious xxx

precious indeed my friend smile

Trips - where did we put our Faliraki tassels? <<snigger>>

rubyrubyruby Thu 09-May-13 00:03:51

I've got them!! blush

.... sorry, I borrowed them weeks ago.

OK rubester - now if you could just find my flip flops for me as well - thats me packed and ready!!! xx

rubyrubyruby Thu 09-May-13 06:48:24

<<searches under bed>>


Morning girls xx

LOL @ Rubester!! x

bubby64 Thu 09-May-13 22:48:25

Evening All
Shabs -(((hugs))) swear, scream and protest away, my love, do whatever you need to do.
Trips - your DH is being a bit of an idiot, and well done to your boys. Has Hellas daughter been in touch with either you or her yet?
Mama- lol at your dh, but you must continue to rest.
Rubes- nice to see you darling.
Chops and Soks- how are you both?
Bloody annoyed today, physio rang me at 10am, and said they were moving my 2.30 appointment to 11.30am. I said I couldn't get there for the new time as I had no transport until 1pm. They have now given me a new appointment for 2 weeks time!! Physio once a fortnight is bad enough, once a month is all but uselessangry
Now sitting here sufferIng with 2 farting dogs, my own fault as I gave them their worming tablets today.blush

Morning girls xx

Sokmonsta Fri 10-May-13 08:12:31

Morning. So, so tired. Zzz zzz zzz zzz.

Jennifer had a really, really bad night. Screaming an awful, ear piercingly agonising scream through the night. Every time it took a good half and hour or so to settle her back to sleep.

It's becoming a regular thing and I've noticed it's worse when she's had a day where she's been more active. We were putting it down to over tiredness but she still has 2, 2 hour naps during the day and eats really, really well so I'm not convinced. All I know is between her and then James getting up from 4 I'm bloody shattered and very, very grumpy today. And desperately trying not to be as its dh's weekend on this weekend so I've got no chance of a lie-in to give me a boost. Early night tonight methinks.

Sorry to be so self-centred as I know there are bigger worries here, and I do really feel for all of you and wish your worries would bugger off and leave you to enjoy your time with friends and family in peace.

Its Matts 21st remember day (anniversary) today....21 bloody years since I last saw him - hope he is causing havoc wherever he is.....just like he did here for almost 8 years. Miss you Matt - you crazy lad xx

rubyrubyruby Fri 10-May-13 10:32:11

Shabs flowers xxxxx

Sokmonsta Fri 10-May-13 13:40:08

Oh Shabs sad xxx

MultipleMama Fri 10-May-13 16:32:07

Massive hugs, Shabs flowers
sok, hope you manage to find a few hours sleep at least! I hope Jen settles, it's not nice not knowing what's causing it.
bubby I'm resting and sleeping, promise. I know how you feel, the NHS are annoying! Got my letter through for my eyes earliest appt (first avaliable) was 39 days! Phoned them up, explained and I'm in for 31st May instead. 39 days my ass!

It's only been a few days since I've been home and I'm getting restless, so I've decided to break out the sewing machine and finally get round to decorating the dc's jackets.

Chopstheduck Fri 10-May-13 17:39:16

Big hugs shabs xxxx flowers

wt a nightmare bubby!

Soks, I wonder if her joints are getting sore? Ds1 complains of sore joints at night sometimes because of his hypermobility and you mentioned it happens on active days.

Trips, hope ur dk and friend are both doing ok?

I am tired, and glad it is friday!

Sokmonsta Fri 10-May-13 20:12:54

I can't believe they've done that with your appt bubs. Get onto someone as its not going to help your recovery.

Actually, I've said I can't believe it but this was my experience today;

I had a letter moving Jennifer's 10.00 ophthalmology appointment to 11:30. So I rang to ask if they had changed Joshua's appointment on the same day - letters usually come in the same envelope as they are twins.

Joshua's appointment is at 9:45 and hasn't changed. Emily has one on the same day at 10:30 (booked in after the hospital gave me the wrong date and put me down as a non-antendee) and hasn't changed. Jennifer's 10:00 HAS changed to 11:30. They're 15 minute appointments. I've been told to take all 3 in at the same time. The mind boggles. Unless they have just theoretically moved Jennifer's appointment to accommodate Emily's.

The only other thing I can think of is Emily and Joshua's appointments are likely to be more complex that Jennifer's as I know Emily is due an eye test this time round. Joshua's is also more likely to be more involved as his eyes are worsening, but unless our optician has informed the hospital it's unlikely they already know, and he would have told me if he had done.

Sokmonsta Fri 10-May-13 20:15:53

Chops I wondered that too. So I asked my gp when I was there today. She put it down to over tiredness. But Jennifer still slept a good amount during the day, although was twitchy.

Tonight she has gone down ok. A few wails but if it is a joint thing, she has been less active today as she's been in the pushchair/car mostly from 8:30-2:00, then a little roaming time where she mostly laid on the floor and cushions playing with some soft toys. But she has been happy not doing anything if you follow me.

triplets Fri 10-May-13 23:12:38

Evening ladies...............Shabs <<<hug hug hug>> I looked on my calendar and saw it is today and just cannot get my head around 21 years. It will be 19 years for Matthew on the 2nd June sad Bloody awful painful years.
Sorry I was awol y/day........was soooooooo tired last night and felt abit low. Dk went back to the hosp y/day to be checked over by the surgeon. He is very very concerned with the amount of swelling around the surgery site, he thinks its one of two things, the repair has gone already or there is a large blood clot. So urgent scan to be arranged then God knows! He asked him if he has been resting and of course he lied. I am really fed up with his attitude, he wants to get back to normal but by rushing it he only sets himself back. We are supposed to be going to the IOW three weeks on Sunday...........supposed to besad Whilst we were at the hosp I popped along to see Hella, poor Hella. She is sooooo confused as to why she is there, its very sad. Still no sign of SS or her daughter. Well TGIF I am tired.......very tired. xx

Morning girls xx

MultipleMama Sat 11-May-13 15:05:54

<<walks around the thread handing out tissues, coffee, alcohol, and chocolate cake and gives everyone massive hugs flowers>>

If I get asked "where are you going" one more time I'm going to scream. Yes, I'm on bed rest but I am allowed to go to the bloody bathroom. DH has promised me to run me a bath a bubble bath and here's gunna but all the kids to bed. Bring on tonight!

triplets Sat 11-May-13 17:33:19

Being driven mad here, house full of teens one driving me insane to re-new his x-box membership. Dk very quiet today and has rested most of the day. Supper to cook then off to my friends for a reading with a medium, feel abit nervous but am sooo hoping for a sign.........will let you know. Dk annoyed thinks its all mumbo jumbo or I`ll be told something that will upset me. Shabs what do you think?

I have seen one particular local medium a couple of times. In my opinion he was about 90% right with what he told me - also things he couldnt possibly know. If it brings you comfort I cannot see the harm in it in any way. xx

Cheerymum Sat 11-May-13 19:59:45

Are new joiners permitted on these threads? Am 18+5 with MCDA twins, still trying to get my head round it ... Have a DD aged 2 already.

MultipleMama Sat 11-May-13 20:11:48

All mums and mums to be welcome! <<hands out welcome basket full off cookies, teas, ginger biscuits and cake!>>

I'm 10+4 with faternal twins, have 2 older dc and 7m MOMO boys smile


Cheerymum Sat 11-May-13 21:38:12

Thanks for the welcome (and the tea and cake!) OMG MM, two sets of twins so close together and two older ones? Hats off to you!!

MultipleMama Sat 11-May-13 21:46:05

Yup, I'm completely mad but my gosh they are all worth it smile

Sokmonsta Sat 11-May-13 21:49:40


<waves to cheerymum>
I've got a nearly 5yo Dd, nearly 3yo DS and 13mo girl/boy twins.

Shabs. Hope your weekend is being gentle to you.

Trips. How's Dh now? Hope he has got the message to slow down now.

Mama. I can't imagine how frustrating things are right now. Resting is one thing but enforced rest... Hope your little ones are being good.

Chops. Hey. Hope you are having a better weekend.

MultipleMama Sat 11-May-13 22:21:38

Hey sok, the twins are a little unsettled but the older dc have been DF's little helpers fetching me the blasted water I have to drink and keeping me company. Think I should do this more often lol wink

How are you?

shabs, chops, trips hope you're all okay xx

<<feeble wave>> Hangover from hell

bubby64 Sun 12-May-13 19:52:21

Shabs- thanks for your remember day.♡♡♡♡♡♡♡.
Trips- fingers crossed its a haematoma (blood clot) as that can be drained and if necessary the wound packed. Yes, understand completely about teenage son driving you mad re xbox membership.
Soks - Just like Chops son, Mike gets terrible back and joint pains due to the hypotonia if he has been very active, maybe try a little neurofen on those screaming nights.
Mama blush blush , I will stop nagging, promise!
Hi Cheery, All welcome here, my id boys are now 12yrs, but we go right across the range of ages here. I still remember how scared I was when I found out I was expecting my two. DH was bursting with pride, I burst into tearssmile
Hi Rubes. How are things going?
DH is now really upset and pissed off. It turns out that the problem with the Pontiac is a cracked cylinder headsad sad . He only did the engine rebuild last year. Its going to cost all the money I saved for a holiday to fix it, (if we can get the a matching 2nd hand head, it will save us some money, but finding one is the problem, we may have to fit a pairsad ) but if we don't fix it now, we let down 2 brides and 3 prom attendees who have booked the car for their special days, and I can't do that to them.sad
On the good news front, however, I got both boys replacement bikes cheap off ebay, as they had outgrown their old ones, and they are over the moon. They and a friend went for a 20mile bike ride today, no squabbling or fighting, just brotherly togetherness, what a change that has been.grin

triplets Sun 12-May-13 22:48:09

Good evening ladies and welcome to our newbie smile
Last night was amazing............I didn`t get any sign from Matthew or my Mum which I sooo wanted............but..............oh my Dad, my lovely Dad said he was so proud of me.........she described him to a t, said we played cards and scrabble together and other things, then she said she had a lady who had died from breast cancer which had spread to her lungs, very small and frail, she was showing her needlework, she was good at sewing, crocheting and had worked in a charity shop, she saw a budgie...................it was dk`s Mum!! She just couldn`t have made it all up, she was spot on, I also felt very cold when she spoke to me. She said I had a rod of iron in me, I had built a barrier around me to stop me getting hurt, that I did everything for everyone. She also said did I work with children, that I should work with children that have suffered a trauma, I would be very good at that. I went to bed feeling good, I know a lot of people don`t believe but how did she know? I just love to think my Dad was with mesmile

Perfect Trips - just perfect smile

Morning girls xx

rubyrubyruby Mon 13-May-13 08:19:20

Wow Trips!!! xxxx

Morning smile

Sokmonsta Mon 13-May-13 08:40:08

Morning lovelies.

Thanks bubs and chops. I've been giving Jen calpol. So tired I think I forgot nurofen would probably be better blush

Jen has also woken up with a rocketing temperature and rapid breathing this morning so all in she's having a rough few days. Mum reminded me that my sister used to do the agonising screaming thing to the point where she admits freely at the time, when the dr told her she was just neurotic and nothing was wrong - it was something all babies do, she could cheerfully have dashed my sister against a wall. As it happens my sister had a dislocated hip from a breech birth and ended up with repeat surgeries to fix it as she was nearly 2 when it was finally picked up on.

Sokmonsta Mon 13-May-13 09:01:26

Trips - I'm glad you had a lovely session with the medium. I've often thought about seeing one myself but without knowing why id want to. I think it goes back to a gypsy woman giving my mum two cushion covers, one for my sister and one for me. Mum didn't tell us until after we had picked the one we wanted - one was cream and other white, beautiful hand crocheted works - that not only had she not told the woman she had 2 daughters, but also the woman had specifically given the cream one for the eldest and white for the youngest. Which was exactly as we had picked them.

bubby64 Mon 13-May-13 14:15:32

Trips- No, I don't think you are silly at all, as I have attended a sprititualust church on and off for years, and have had very personal messages from my dad and my gran in the past. The message from my dad was so off the wall, but so correct that i never for one moment doubted it was real.The medium didn't know from Adam, and I was new to the church at the time, so they couldnt have known either.

I think I need to go back to school for some maths tuition, as I was trying to help James with negative equations last night, and I think I confused the poor boy more.blush blush. Mind you, God knows when he will ever use this in "real life"hmm

However, I was astonished with the fact they don't teach children about their own country's modern history, I was watching a film about the abdication of Edward VIII, and neither boy knew anything about it!
They teach up to Victoria, but, apart from WW1 & WW2, nothing at all about 20th C history.

Can anybody help?

Just about to renew passports. Tom is 16 the day we tavel. Rang passport office (0300 number so bloody expensive)

Me: We have to renew our passports and I am unsure of wether to do an adult or a child application - my child is currently 15 but will be 16 the day we travel.

Passport fool: Ohhhhh just hang on a few moments while I try to find the correct information.

<<listens to classical music for FIVE minutes>>

Passport fool: From what I can gather you will need to apply 2 weeks before you go.....if someone is 16 in two weeks time you can apply then?

Me: BUT what if the passport doesnt come through in time?


Me: BUT probably is not going to be great is it??

PF: Well you could pay for premium service which will deliver it asap.

Me: It would work out cheaper for us to get the train to Liverpool and wait for it in their passport office.

PF: Well you will have to make an appointment - you cant just turn up.

Arrrrrgggggggggggghhhhhhh she kept me listening to the music for another 10 minutes until I put the phone down.

ANYBODY ANY EXPERIENCE OF CHILD/ADULT PASSPORT??? May start a thread off on MN if nobody knows. Rang our travel agents - they dont know......the Post office said they are not sure so look on the passport offices website....why do they presume I haven't already done that??

MultipleMama Mon 13-May-13 17:35:45

Evening everyone.

bubby You can nag at me all you like but DH is driving me crazy, I turn 12 weeks next week so I'm hoping things have improved and I can get off blasted bed rest and take my dc to the park!

I'll definitely be giving DH the homework task, he took physics and algebra in University. I'll stick with their English homework haha.

In school, I learnt about the Great Depression and the Holocaust, The black plague but very little about the monarchy.

And history was my favourite hope to go to University and do history when dc are older.

Trips I don't think you're silly, I've never had the guts to go see one - I don't believe in that stuff - my mum did, I guess I'm scared of being wrong.

sok Hope little Jen gets better and settles flowers

bubby64 Mon 13-May-13 22:46:44

Shabs- your best option may be to mske an appointment at yhe passport office, at least you will ensure you get his passport in time to travel. They have an email enquiry service, maybe you should send them an email to that, as at leadt you will have a written reply you can take in with you and use as evidence of their answer to your question. From hard earned past experience I don't trust any government department to admit they have given the wrong thing anymore over the phone.

triplets Mon 13-May-13 23:10:51

Shabs you have my full sympathy! You have also just reminded me I need to post mine off again! I told you they retd all three of the kids application? They said I needed to get the photos countersigned, I hadn`t as it said in their booklet if the child is still recognizeable there is no need. They sent three new forms but not my photos back, I was told they are now the property of HM government and will stay in there files forever! I had paid £18 for the three sets, got them done in a shop not a booth. Turned out to be a blessing as when I went back and told them what had happened and I would have to bring the kids down and start again they looked them up on their pc and printed off another set each and only charged me for one! Go them countersigned but forgot to post them!! Be interested how you get on!


Thanks Bubby - Ive gone way past caring now!!!!! What a mithering day!!! Comforting to know there is a passport office in Manchester now.

I do, however, know the question I need to ask......Its only taken me about 10 hours to realise it!!!!!!!

'If I renew my 15 year old sons passport this week so that it is still a childs passport will it be legal to use on the day we travel when he will be 16?'

There you go...simple question...but bet it wont be a simple piggin' answer!!

triplets Mon 13-May-13 23:18:39

Surely its got to be Shabs, his pp will expire in 2018. I have just forked out £138 plus photos and postage for theirs it will last them until 2018 when they`ll be 20. I hope that's the way it works hmm

rubyrubyruby Tue 14-May-13 05:38:18

Shabs - you need a child passport and it will be valid for 5 years.
You can apply for an adult one if your child will turn16 before its issued but you will need it before then x

Morning girls xx

Thanks for the advice - what you have said makes much more sense than what the passport woman told me - she had no idea what I meant!!

MultipleMama Tue 14-May-13 07:42:47

Damn, that reminds me I need to get the twins their passports and EHIC cards.

No idea how we're going manage 6 kids on a flight to Russia... <challenge accepted>

Sokmonsta Tue 14-May-13 18:30:17


<sits in corner gibbering until the dc go to bed and give me some peace. Reminds self to stop shouting at them and they might stop shouting back!>

triplets Tue 14-May-13 19:20:29

jumps in to offer vast childcare experience travelling with multiples, always fancied Russia...........Omar Shariff.......Dr Zhivago...ahh smile

bubby64 Tue 14-May-13 19:45:32

Mama- travelling with 2 is bad enough, <<sits gibbering in corner>> travelling with 6 you need a gold medal, either that or a one way ticket to the looney bin
Shabs - just double check, but the others are probebly right.
Trips- just make sure you send in the photo's within the 2 weeks of the signature date, or they will return them again!

Sad day here - our Mollycat (moomoo) got hit and killed by a car travelling at god knows what speed past our house this morning, (certainly not 30mph.)They didn't stop, but the lady following did, and took the time to knock at our door, as she had seen Molly come out of or driveway.She had been killed outright, it was probebly so quick she didn't even feel much, which is a blessing.
Michael is so upset, as she was really his cat more than anyone elses. We have buried her in the garden, she just looked like she was asleepsad sad sad
I feel bad, as I had chucked her off my bed 1/2hr before, saying to her "go and get some exercise, you lazy thing" If I had left her there, she would still be with us. sad

Sokmonsta Tue 14-May-13 20:09:52

<emerges from corner and slinks off to bed>

Having a very bad evening here. Dc are all fine now and settled in bed but I proper lost my temper and could cry at hurting my biggest baby girl. She's ok now but it's scared me how quickly I went to lash out. sad

Think I might need another trip to dr before my next appointment as I can't keep feeling like this and the anger is only getting worse.

Visited my parents today. They looked well as silly as I know that is BUT they did. Dad said to me 'just come and look in the fridge!!'

Yesterday he said to Mum that he fancied fishermans pie. He had noticed in the local shop they had one that he liked. He told Mum to get him 4 of them and they could freeze them and he could have one whenever he wanted.

He said to me 'Open the fridge' - my Mum was shouting from the living room 'I hope you two are not taking the mickey out of me!!'

Dad said 'OK so I ask for four fishermans pies, go on love just open the fridge door and see what the daft old bat has brought.'

I opened the door and she had four massive bags of 'FISHERMANS FRIENDS' - why she had put them in the fridge I have no idea LOL LOL LOL

Dad looked at me, tutted and walked back into the living room. ROFL

triplets Tue 14-May-13 23:01:51

Oh Bubby that is so sad, I am so sorry. We lost Ollie last year like that, and we still have our Molly his sister, you poor things. xx
Soky hope you are feeling ok, I know you are beating yourself up, we all lash out at times and regret it, you are probably very tired. xx
Shabs rofl that is soooooooo funny, handy if they get a cough!! Well dk off for his scan tomorrow, fingers x`d the surgery hasn`t come undone. My lovely friend Hella has now been moved to Deal hospital which makes it easier for us all to visit, not good for her though all this change, poor thing. Wish they would hurry up and get my mouth sorted, its worrying me having such a hard lump on my gum, anyone here had an apecectomy?

rubyrubyruby Wed 15-May-13 03:15:42

Soks - it's very, very hard having little people around you all the time. Everyone, and i mean everyone feels and behaves like that sometimes despite how cool, calm and collected they may seem to the outside world. The d'y ever threads have been running for years with posters coming and going and still lurking but we have all posted similar posts to yours at some point.
Go easy on yourself xxx

Bubby - so sorry love. It's hard to lose a pet, especially in those circumstances. Hope you are ok.

grin at fishermans friends pie.

Chopstheduck Wed 15-May-13 07:15:57

Morning girls

Don't beat yourself up too badly soks, like trips said, we've all been there. {{{hugs}}}

So sorry to hear of your loss Bubby sad

Travelling with 6?? <<faints>> You are a braver woman than me! I'm really looking forward to this year just having two for a change.

gringrin at the fisherman's friends!

Passports are a nightmare, I think dd's will be due when she is 15 too, so annoying that will have to get another 5 year jobby rather than a 10 year.

Just back from dropping dh to the station, it is 4C outside!! In MAY! So fed up with this weather. I want the kids back out and about again, I want to be outside with them! On the plus side though cold and wet is great for running!

MultipleMama Wed 15-May-13 07:52:16

We'll be going next Christmas to visit my Grandparents who haven't seen any of their GC in person yet and I get to spent it with my brother. DF is coming too so more adult hands to help. Think it's an 8 hour flight too! Yikes!

Okay, going back to sleep after bf and DF is up. Will reply properly later! X

rubyrubyruby Wed 15-May-13 08:48:31

Good luck with that MM grin

I'm look forward to travelling with mine now - they carry all the stuff and I just carry paperwork and passports,

Sokmonsta Wed 15-May-13 10:28:40

And now I'm bawling for poor Mollycat and giggling at Shab's dad. At the same time. I'm a hysterical mess!

Am feeling slightly reassured that its not just me. And beautiful cuddles from biggest this morning as she was so excited about going on her school trip. I think hope she has forgotten about last night in her excitement at going to to sea life centre, hoping to play pirates on the wooden ship in the play area and seeing the giant turtle and seals again (we went the day I screwed up her first day of school).

Jennifer is really suffering today with her throat. Am plying her with fridge cold water, ice cream and calpol. Poor sausage just wants to sleep or be held, or be cuddles to sleep. Joshua is quite happily making a break for the stairs every time I forget to close the bottom stair gate. It's a great game for him, giggling the whole way as he scrambles up the stairs before I catch him. Am seriously going to have to show him how to get safely down again, just in case.

bubby64 Wed 15-May-13 13:32:29

Soks- glad your dd is looking forward to her day out. The others are right, we have all been there, and its especially hard as Jen is not well.
Trips - hope you get your mouth sorted soon, and I'm glad dh has got his scan organised, and that your friend Hella is nearer home now.
Mama- Sounds as if you will have a good time, and it helps a lot to have the extra adult hands.
Shabs- LOVE the fishermans friends tale grin grin - the carer and i were searching for the teacaddy at mums yesterday, we found it in the freezer, the carer said she wondered if mum had fancied some iced tea!!grin
Chops/Ruby - I agree, travelling is so much easier when they are old enough to pull along their own luggage. wink

Boys obviously still upset about Molls this morning, but I said try not to mention it too much at school, as kids can be cruel. Sure enough, I get a txt from J saying M had told others on the bus, and now they were upsetting him with stupid jokes. sad angry when will they learn to listen to mesad

Hiya - had no bloody internet connection till a few minutes ago

Rang Virginmedia, told them to get their bums to my house asap LOL - they did and engineer says its the wireless router we were using. Told him I couldnt afford to buy a new one so he has fitted me, free of charge, a hub ? Had no idea what that was but its a modem and router all in one. Its rather posh but I will still talk to you all grin <<waves like the Queen>>

MultipleMama Wed 15-May-13 16:32:34

Trips - Haha. You're welcome to sneak in our suitcases!
Bubby - I hope we have a good time, I can't wait to show the kids around Russia and buy those cute Russian hats for them! Sorry, to hear about your cat. We had to put ours down when I was 16 as someone ran her over and her back legs and spine were broken. I was heartbroken. <<gives your boys massive hugs>>
Shabs - Oh, that's funny! Made me chuckle. We have the VirginMedia hub, looks like a space thing if you ask me! <<waves back with flags!>>
Soks - <<hands sok tissues>> We all have days like that. I've shouted at DS and I felt like the worst parent ever but I bribed him with a trip to the park and 1:1 time. Hope Jenn gets better, hate hearing that LOs are sick sad

Need some advice, ladies. Work called and apparently it's getting busy and they've asked if I could come back in July instead of Sept (they've mentioned it before but was just a suggestion, now they're asking).

I would be going back part-time. 20h per week/4 days. Mon - Thurs. 9pm - 2pm.

I can rearrange DF's days so he has all 4 Mons/Thurs instead of Fridays so it's not changing their routine much, but it means I'll have to hire a childminder/babysitter for Tues/Weds to look after DTS & DD for 5 hours. I'll be there in the morning to do DS's school run/drop DD off and be home in time to pick DS up at 2.30pm (work is a 20 min drive) and hopefully around the time DTS wake up from nap time.

However, I'm nervous about having someone besides family look after dc - I'm not very trusting. Qualifications don't impress me as they could be smart but horrible with children. I know I can interview and watch them with dc but I'm nervous about leaving them alone as I've never done it before. I'll have to do it sometime when I do return to work. Any tips/advice?

This situation is just an if as it depends on T1 and if they're fluid increases enough to not pose a risk after 1st trimester.

Sorry for long post!!!

bubby64 Wed 15-May-13 17:10:00

Mama - the real question is, will you be eell enough to go back to work with your present pregnancy? I must admit, I was very like uou, as ehen youg, my 2 had complex mefical needs, and I really fidnt trust anyone else to look after them. Is there any way to eork from home, or fo fleci hours around DH and DF?

bubby64 Wed 15-May-13 17:12:27

This bloody pad, the keyboard is small, note to self, proof read posts before sending!
yes, I meant flexi hours and home working around your family support.

MultipleMama Wed 15-May-13 17:36:25

I've told work it all depends on what the Doctor and midwife think but they've already said I shouldn't even be thinking of returning until I hit my 2nd trimester, so this is still a 'what if' situation.

Dh works 8am - 5pm Monday to Friday, DF can work from home but not all the time, hence only having them 2-3 x a week depending on his work load.

They mainly need me through the week (I'm a dog handler in security) and I don't want to give up family weekends as it's only time DH and I can spend family time together.

DH laughed and said I should install secret cameras until I trust them... he was joking but I actually considered it, how crazy is that?

Morning girls xx

rubyrubyruby Thu 16-May-13 08:56:23

Morning smile
The sun is shining here -- for the moment--

rubyrubyruby Thu 16-May-13 08:56:50

Bah - you know what I meant grin

triplets Thu 16-May-13 09:00:03

Morning ladies, nice catch up with your messages, I too couldn`t get an internet connection y/day, seems ok now. Went to hosp for dks scan y/day it is a blood clot. This pm we go to the hosp he had the surgery done to see what they say. The break on the IOW a week on Sun is fading into the distance, think we will lose our money. Just can`t plan anything, so frustrating........grrrr. Had a sleepless night, worrying about dk, about IOW and about dd who went to Brighton with friends last night to a concert. She stayed over at friends house, I have txt her three times to see if she is ok, nothing! Kids and dks!!

MultipleMama Thu 16-May-13 15:06:35

Afternoon, ladies. How are we all?

I'm not feeling as tired today, so spent the morning colouring with the kids and dts2 has started to try and pull himself up - hasn't succeeded yet.

bubby64 Thu 16-May-13 15:30:25

Afternoon All. Sunny day here, hope it lasts through to Saturday, as we have the local Agricultural Show, and the boys and I are due to be helping in the Young Farmers tent, setting up Friday night before they all get to go to the ajacent Fair, they have free tickets for £5 worth of rides, which I will top up.
DH has found some 2nd hand cylinder heads, but they are in Hounslow 2hrs+ away, so DH has to drive there and back Saturday, so cant do the show.sad

MultipleMama Thu 16-May-13 16:11:09

Have fun at the show bubby, I love going to fairs and markets, I'm hoping the sunny weather stays so I can relax in the garden with dc.

Question: Is a picnic considered bed rest, if I'm sat on a blanket doing nothing but scoffing my face in the park? Please say yes, lol

triplets Thu 16-May-13 23:02:07

YES MM it is! Right went to the hosp and saw the consultant who was abit vague and in a hurry! Basically he wants the clot to drain naturally, so some will come out of the drain and some will be absorbed back into the body. Poor dk really screamed when they put a new suture into the drain site, no anaesthetic................ouch! He also wants act scan doing before Thurs when we go back to see him. If the drain has to stay in after that then we won`t be able to go to the IOW sad Sooooo fed up with hospitals, do feel for dk this op has been worse than any of his cancer ones. Night all xx

Morning girls xx

Oh Trips that sounds so painful. I hope he is soon feeling much better and you can get your holiday xx

Sokmonsta Fri 17-May-13 10:29:46

Morning ladies.

Thank you all for your kind words the other day. I still feel pretty crap but working in being a better mummy again.

So far this has been sitting, having cuddles and listening to Emily who was troubled about one of her friends after their school trip - she had a brilliant time, everything was her favourite. But it was soured a little by a friend who didn't want to be partnered with her and spent the day pulling at Emily's coat and pinching her whenever she thought she could get away with it. Thankfully their teachers were on the ball but unfortunately in a bid not to give this girl her own way, they stayed partnered.

I made James angry birds buns to take to school and the twins have been happily crawling around while being chased - it's a great game!

Trips. I do hope you get to the iow. I'm sure you could do with the break and you've certainly had a difficult time lately. Change of scene and all that.

Shabs. I'm still chuckling at the fisherman's friends in the fridge. I know it's not that funny but you show your parents have such spirit when you write about them and I'm sure you are a chip off their block.

Mama - do you work for a private security firm or the likes of HMP? I'd be concerned with the night work more than the actual job. But concede it may well be less busy at night than days. I'd also be worried about going back earlier than I was intending to and having a problematic pregnancy. I guess if you go back when you intended to, you'd have a better idea of how the babies were progressing. Fingers tightly crossed for you.

Right. Off to bake some more cakes ready for the big twos birthday party in Sunday. Don't think I'll get away with them sharing a party next year.

triplets Fri 17-May-13 21:40:38

Evening ladies, already in my bed. 2 glasses of wine and I`ve had it! Another change of bedding again for dk ,that's the 3rd lot this week, I thought it would be better after they put the stitch in, but still leaking. It was abit sad y/day, James said he feels his Dad has been ill all his (James) life sad I am soooooo tired TGIF. xx

MultipleMama Fri 17-May-13 22:58:15

Trips - That's heartbreaking to hear. Although one morning is "forever" for my 4 year old. Hope he gets better soon, and you can take a breather!

Sok - I work for HMR. I'll be working 9am - 2pm only 20h a week. I've got until the 8th July to decide as they want me to start 22nd July (I'd be nearly 21 weeks pregnant then) ultimately it's up to my consultant and whether I feel okay & babies okay.

Morning girls xx

Oh Trips I think this is the only disadvantage of having children when we are older. Remember when you sent me a birth congratulations card when I had Tom? On the back of the envelope it said 'not one, not two BUT three!!' We were both so lucky to get our 'late' babies but our health is sometimes a drawback. I hope things soon brighten up for you and DK xxx

Sokmonsta Sat 18-May-13 10:38:43

Doh mama! For some reason I read it as 9pm! <checks shiny new glasses to make sure they're hers>

Oh trips! Poor you and dh. Fingers crossed this is all over soon.

Today's mission is to pick up Joshua's new glasses. After bending them twice in one week, the third time they snapped! And buying all the food and drink for tomorrow. Last night dh and I spent the evening making pin the patch on the pirate, treasure hunt and filling party bags. 40 children! What have I done!

I've also got to ice the cake I baked yesterday and ensure there's food suitable for my allergic and intolerant niece plus an intolerant party goer. Thankfully one will cover the other. Am thinking plenty of fruit and meat which don't have breadcrumbs (ie chicken and a particular sausage) might go down well.

MultipleMama Sat 18-May-13 14:30:30

Sok - where were you for dd's birthday! You could have done my cake and bags!

I baked a banana and blueberry cake this morning, and attempting my fondant skills for Tuesday when we surprise DF it's twins by cake smile

Dts1 is really clingy today so we're cuddled up on sofa while DH and DF have taken the others swimming. It's moments like these that remind me of times when we just had ds1 and the quietness of the house when he slept.

Hope everyone is having a good day.

Sokmonsta Sat 18-May-13 17:56:45

Ha ha mama. Just popped on to let you know I'm banned for future birthdays. Dh's stress levels can't take it and he'd rather outsource all the work. (I'm still going to bake their cake though. It's the one thing which is really important to me.)

MultipleMama Sat 18-May-13 19:48:35

Sok - Damn. Haha, I'm good at cupcakes but melted chocolate is my limit on cake decoration. So I'm out of my limit with decoration. However I love feeling proud when I've accomplished the cakes smile

Good luck with the party!! x

triplets Sat 18-May-13 23:42:17

<<Trips rushes in, trips over shag pile and splatters noodles from left over Chinese.....wonders why she bothered to cook for ungrateful teens and wishes she hadn`t drunk so much to drown her sorrows......doesn`t dare to open her fortune cookie >>

MultipleMama Sun 19-May-13 00:21:10

<<Orders trips to sit on sofa, fetches her a mug of coffee, then cleans up noddles before joining her on sofa with her own mug and lends an ear for ranting>>

Unable to sleep, cramps are back and dts1 is refusing to settle, won't take breast, bottle, fights to stay awake and keeps waking dts2 up, I'm starting to think he's teething but refuses to let you put anything near his mouth. <<chants "I will not lose my temper">>

triplets Sun 19-May-13 00:30:31

Poor you MM send them here, I`ve still got a cot or three!! Hope things settle and you get some sleep, I am still listening to three noisy boys next door, sleep overs!!

rubyrubyruby Sun 19-May-13 04:36:42

You are having sleepovers too Trips!

Hope the birthday party goes well Soks smile

MM - try not to think about work atm. I know it's hard when you are sitting around but I'm glad you are able to bake cakes do a bit more now.

I can't sleep - too much wine/too little food and I have that racy heart thing going on. Probably menopause grin

triplets Sun 19-May-13 08:42:35

Goodmorning.............Rubester hope you are still sleeping, I know that awful feeling only too well, not that mine is alcohol induced wink .I am the only one awake, been raining but the sun is trying to come out. Feeling pretty despondant about our trip to the IOW, should be going a week today, its not fair is it? All the ops he`s had for cancer and he`s bounced back, a routine hernia op and he gets a blood clot, still draining after three weeks. I feel I would rather cancel it now, but dk says I am being negative. I need a break!

rubyrubyruby Sun 19-May-13 09:04:23

Don't cancel now Trips xx

triplets Sun 19-May-13 09:08:26

d`ya think so Rubes? Did you get anymore sleep? Where is Shabster?

triplets Sun 19-May-13 09:10:08

smilesmilesmileHAPPY BIRTHDAY TO THE SOKLETSsmilesmilesmile

rubyrubyruby Sun 19-May-13 09:35:39

What would be gained by cancelling now? Will you get your money or some of it back?

Morning girls xx

Happy Birthday Soklets smile

No, dont cancel yet Trips <<crosses everything she has>>

MultipleMama Sun 19-May-13 10:38:49

What a night! Dts1 finally passed out 5am in the co-sleeper after he finally managed to take the teething dummy and refusing to let anyone but my comfort him. However during the process he woke dts2 4 friggin times and DD twice. He is currently passed out on my chest and I'm ready to konk out too but promised DS we could hand paint.

Don't cancel Trips! <fingers crossed!>

Happy birthday Soklets! [Smile]

DH says the same, ruby, so I've marked it on the calender and decided not to think or decide until mid June.

rubyrubyruby Sun 19-May-13 16:03:53

I'm sure I wished the soklets Happy Birthday a few weeks ago confused
It's your older two, sharing a party isn't it Soks?

Happy Birthday anyway x

triplets Sun 19-May-13 22:43:08

Evening ladies.......got 5 hours sleep last night, little sods, have worked non stop all day inc gardening, and had row with dd. All I asked her to do was tidy her room, I warned her if she didn`t I would remove a row of her posters. There isn`t a patch of wall, ceiling or cupboard to be seen for potters. She has just sat on her bed all day, listening to music, I asked her to help me change my bed, kingsize duvets are hard work, you should have heard her! By 5pm no sign of her room being done, I lost it and tore down one poster.............omg she was hysterical. I said she had been warned, she was to clean up and then she could come down and do some ironing for me.............she did..........in a fashion but that was ok. Then the doorbell went and it was her bf, I heard her tell her that I had ripped all her posters and was making her do all the work! The boys today were given their clean bedding and told from now on they change their own beds, why should I struggle with bunk beds? They did it no fuss. Am I being too hard? All I know is I feel like Cinderella atm, doing everything for everyone and I`m tired. No change with dk, drain still draining same amount sad

triplets Sun 19-May-13 22:43:47

potters grin

bubby64 Sun 19-May-13 23:07:19

Hi All
Happy birthday elder Sokletssmile smile, I remember the large parties well, We used to hire a village hall, and a bouncy castle, and leave them all to it, oh, apart from the year we hired a hall and asked everyone to bring a scooter, bike or ride on, that was an easy one, there was no preperation apart from setting out a few cones and obstacles for them to all tide around, mayhem, but all the kids enjoyed it!. I also always made cake, and most years i didnt do traditional party food, just sausages, chips and beans, and jelly and icecream. Easy!grin It was always the party bags that took the time, but, in the end, I had it down to such a fine art, some of the other mums paid me to do theirs, it didn't earn much, but it was another little job that bought in a few penniesgrin
Trips - don't cancel, its only a weekend, and, if necessary, can you ask if you can take some dressings snd do it yourself?
Mama- glad you have put the eork decision on the backburner gor a few weeks, hope your little one improves a bit, teehing is such a horrid time for both them and you!
Hi Rubes and Shabs.

Well, what a weekend we have had!
We had a real problem on Friday, one of the yr11 boys on the bus, who has been bullying both boys since they started High School, decided it would be funny to throw stones at them as the got off. 1 stone hit J so hard on the back of the head, it cut it open, and, like all scalp wounds, he bleed like a stuck pig! The lady from the village shop helped him and bought him home, and we had to take him to the Drs to get it glued. I decided enough was enough, the school obviously couldn't stop this problem, even though they had tried, so I called the police and reported it.sad The police were brilliant, they said it was common assult, by 5pm they had already spoken to the school and got the back history from them, and, luckily, the incident was caught on the shops cctv, so they have invited the little git down the station for formal interview. I just hope this is the end of the matter, as the boy concerned is now apparently pissing himself! (sorry for crudeness, but he deserves this!)

Anyway, they still went to the funfair friday night, despite my misgivings, and had a good time, and then the Show was real success Saturday, their Young Farmers club won best display tent, and also they won tug of war competition, and Bertie won "cutest puppy" luckily they don't know him very wellgrin grin

To cap it all, DH has managed to get the parts to fix the Pontiac, at half the price he was expecting to pay! They were still £400, but they don't need any additional work, so can be put straight on, which has saved us about £500 on our original quotes. We drove to Norwich to fetch them today <<the fact we didn't have to drive across half the country to get them was another bonus>> and they will be fitted this week. It means will be fixed in time for all the booked engagements, phew!!wink

And if you have got this far on this monster post, well done, have a wine

triplets Sun 19-May-13 23:25:22

slurp wine thanks Bubbsgrin
We are going to the IOW for 5 nights Bubbs, he wouldn`t be able to go because of the drain, there is no way you can hide it. Fingers x`d it stops by Thurs. x

triplets Sun 19-May-13 23:26:29

Kids can be so cruel, well done!

bubby64 Mon 20-May-13 00:07:36

Trips- my 2 change their sheets and pillowcases on their high sleepers, as I cannot manage it any more, I do help them with the duvet covers, because the always seem to get in a muddle doing those. Mind you, if they didn't, they would be sleeping on stripped beds, as I do that bit so they haven't really got a choice, they still moan every timewink
And getting them to tidy their rooms and put away clean clothes is a nightmarish constant battle!
Fingers crossed for the holiday, I hope you can still get there. I take it you couldn't get travel insurance because of his previous medical historysad

Chopstheduck Mon 20-May-13 06:17:03

morning girls

great news on the pontiac, bubby! That school incident sounds horrible though, hope the boys are ok and the other little sod has learned his lesson.

happy birthday to the soklets, hope the party went ok!

<<waves to rubes>> We finally did book Alcatraz a few days ago, I thought we'd done it, but we're going later than you and booking just opened. Night tour, and sat down with the kids at the weekend and watched Escape from Alcatraz with them. Can't wait! grin Oh, and I'm still running - started a half marathon training plan!

Trips, fingers crossed for the drain being sorted before the weekend. Rebecca needs a kick up the bum! I don't know how true it is, but as a child I was never allowed to cover my whole wall in posters because of it being a fire risk, which would kind of make sense. So mine are only allowed a limited amount. Mine change their own beds too, though dd mostly does the duvets for them.

We spent three hours on Sat sorting out the boys room though, clearing out outgrown toys. Shay's glasses appeared from under the bed that had been missing for a month or so! It's a triple, with a trundle so I'm not sure how they were still in one piece! I've even labelled the drawers so that they don't keep putting their laundry away in the wrong drawers - it is sparkling now!

Morning girls xx Toms last 'proper' week at borstal school!! Prom on Friday (whatever happened to 'end of school' disco in the school hall?) then back into school for a couple of hours a day for revision classes...last exam is second week in June!

Dont know how he has got through his High school life....it has been, at times, traumatic - and that is not being 'over the top' in any way!

As the final part of his Btec Music Tom is performing in a concert tonight at school. In the schools own theatre aptly named 'Peter Kay theatre!!!!'

A few weeks ago the thought of doing it was making him cry BUT his Music teacher talked to him about it. He started off singing Olly Murs songs but his voice has 'broken' so much he is now on Johnny Cash songs LOL. Teacher has sat with him for a week helping him chose songs he is comfortable with. Something about his voice going down 5 'something or others' . He is now excited about tonight and is singing the main part of this song with a few of the other kids doing the chorus.

he had the headphones on last night practicing and it sounds amazing

Sokmonsta Mon 20-May-13 10:24:50

<emerges from pile of wrapping paper, cards and straws, staggers to kettle for a cuppa tea>

triplets Mon 20-May-13 10:35:21

Well done Soks, bet they had a lovely timesmile No change here, dk just the same, grrrrrv it is soooo frustrating, 4 weeks this Frid since the op and he`s still draining. He accuses me of being negative about going away but I get so scared of things going wrong.............like now. I am not sure if the ins comp will pay out as this is not a cancer op, but you bet they will relate it to one!

bubby64 Mon 20-May-13 10:47:14

Chops- do you rent yourself out to clear and organise boys rooms??wink Enjoy the Alcatraz tour, I hear the night ones are quite spooky.
Shabs- Good luck to Tom in the concertsmile James is also in his first concert today- his form picked him to play guitar in the schools "battle of the bands" - he was 'bricking it' this morning!

I just hope everything was ok on the bus today, I assume it was, as I haven't had a text or phone call.

Chopstheduck Mon 20-May-13 11:46:05

<<<sees bubby's post and runs a mile>>

Good luck to Tomster and James in their concerts.

Some nerves is a good thing you know. Unlike my eldest son who will get on stage at the drop of a hat and LOVES everyone looking at him, and the more shocking the act, the better. He was getting dressed for the school disco Friday, and came down in surprisingly normal clothes. I was a little confused, then realized he looked rather podgy. Lifted his top up and underneath was his fecking pink pig costume and ballet wings!!

Though, actually this was his first ever disco, a massive achievement for him as he could never manage it before. The dark and noise, and flashing lights were unbearable due to sensory issues. smile

bubby64 Mon 20-May-13 20:14:10

Chops- thanks for the good wishes, James did very well, according to Mike and friends, apparently, he managed to get through the whole thing with his eyes almost shut!
I noticed that the boys involved in the stone throwing were met off the bus by their mums, I wonder if this was part of what the police have requested. I will find out tomorrow, as we have to go down the station to be informed of progress.

triplets Mon 20-May-13 22:34:05

Well.............had a phone call from the Mac nurse today, now even more despondant. Dk blood result is ok, his blood count is on the up. Bad news is the size of the clot from the ultra sound last Weds, its massive and she says it is very doubtful that it will finish draining this week! She also said he has been made an apt for a ct scan next Mon (Bank Holiday) at 12.45pm. We were supposed to be on the IOW then............I nearly criedsad Five long years of anguish and upsets, after all we have already been through. I know I am feeling myself, but I am soooooo worn out with it all.............just want something nice to happen. Feel sorry for the dks too as they keep asking if we are still going away, the house feels as though there is a big black cloud over it.

<<quickly hides under the shag pile before Shabs comes in with her wet kipper>>

triplets Mon 20-May-13 22:35:55

blush I am not feeling myself! Sorry for myself !blush

triplets Mon 20-May-13 22:53:15

and why have my child tax credits dropped by £40 a month!!!

Oh Trips - once again I wish we lived close by to each other. xx

Today (Tuesday) is one year since Estars little lad died sad She said (on Facebook) that they are going to spend the day doing his favourite things - they are going to wear something yellow (his favourite colour) eat Chinese food and play Board games smile. Part of me cant believe its been a year and the other part of me feels like its been about 30 years since he lost his fight xxxx

Sorry its not working. Think that it must be private to only FB friends of the lady who added it. x

Morning girls xx

Chopstheduck Tue 21-May-13 07:07:28

Bubby that is good!

Trips, how crap sad My tax credits have dropped too, no idea why. Must be a tory cut I guess.

Shabs, this should work. I can;t believe it's been a year, come round so quick. I love the idea though of a Daniel day! I've lit a candle.

Thanks Chops xx

MultipleMama Tue 21-May-13 09:45:54

Shit, that sucks, trips.

I have my dating scan today and I'm a bundle of nerves, desperately hoping for good news. They told me not to rule out the worst at my last scan. I just want to see 2 alive babies on the screen.

DH has took morning off work so we can take ds1 and dts1 with us while DF looks after others.

Fingers crossed I can come off bed rest!!

bubby64 Tue 21-May-13 12:03:10

Chops/Trips - my tax credits have also dropped, so now I am no longer getting anything! Its a combination of a drop in what you can claim for, how much you earn before you claim, and a cut in the rate, from what I can make out.sad
Good luck Mama - I have my fingers crossed for you and your babies.
Trips - it does look as if the holiday is in dire jeopardy, I am so sorry, Is there any chance at all of you going with the kids, and H staying either at home or with another relative? I know its a drastic solution, but is it a possibility at all ??
Shabs- re Estars son, I cant belive its been a year! Also, how did Tom do last night?
Soks- how are you today?

MultipleMama Tue 21-May-13 13:23:40

I'm home and baking ready to surprise DF it's twins.

My scan is good news. T2 is dated at 12w and T1 is dated at 11+1w but according to the scan and tests T1 developing as well as T2 and T1 is growing just slower and AF has risen slightly.

T1 still to be monitored for miscarriage risk. I am no longer on bed rest and hydration routine just light activities and to keep my fluids up.

T2 was sucking their thumb and had hiccups. Can't stop staring at the scan photo smile

Chopstheduck Tue 21-May-13 13:49:20

aww thats brilliant news grin

bubby64 Tue 21-May-13 21:19:13

Wonderful news Mama!!

Good news on the police front- the boys involved have admitted all guilt, and we have a "community resolution order" which basically means we will get a written letter of apology from the boys involved, and they have been warned that they should be polite and behave like "normal decent polite human beings" towards the boys, both at school, on the bus and at all other times. I am happy with this, i didn't want them to have a criminal record, I just wanted my sons left alone. The policeman said one thing stood out to him when he took statements, and that was when M said "I saw the boys behind him, and thought "Oh no, we're in big do do "(sic) and he ran to hide!" The PC said this one sentance summed up their whole view of these older boys, and they shouldnt have to have that sort of reaction.angry

5andnomore Tue 21-May-13 21:20:08

Estar I can't believe a year has passed already. We wore yellow, played a board game and ate chinese (well I did, dcs aren't keen so I ate enough for all of us). Sending love to you from all in the piximon family.

All is well here. Dts growing fast. Ds3 even quicker. I have finally got fed up with MN not allowing me access through my phone. Created a new account and like magic it works. hmm I now have no excuse not to pop in more often. Shabs I need a round up.

triplets Tue 21-May-13 23:14:44

smilesmilesmilesmilePIXIsmilesmilesmile How lovely to have you back!
<<Trips wheels out trolley laden with LDC, monster munch and wine, hoovers shag pile and sprays Febreze>>

triplets Tue 21-May-13 23:16:48

Multiplemama I love scan photos, I was scanned weekly from week 28 got an album full of them! Such lovely news!

Morning girls xx

Chopstheduck Wed 22-May-13 07:48:38

Morning girls

that;s great, bubby!

PIXI!!! Lovely to see you back grin

I have to cook for 10 ppl on sunday, evening meal. Only thing is - no spices, nothing 'forrin and something that isn't going to take hours in the kitchen. WTF am I going to do? A selection of curries, rice and roti would have been so easy!

Pixi - good to see you my owd mucker <<grabs Pixi and donkey scrubs her>>

Toms concerts went well. BUT he is beyond tired today. Monday and Tuesday he was in school from 8.30 to 3.30 and then straight into rehearsals for the performances. Didnt get home till 9pm both nights. His music teacher told me they have all passed their Btec so he is delighted. He was also struggling with English hmm has never, ever struggled in that subject. I met up with his teacher and realised why!!! I would never rubbish her to him but she is very odd, shouty and sarcastic. She said he would not get a C in her subject because he daydreamed. Monday she made him re-sit his Mock exam????? She was annoyed to tell him he had got a B in it and was just a few marks off an A. He was bordering on gloating when she told him LOL. He is now determined to get the A when they do the GCSE.

Got to get him shoes, shirt and tie today to go with his suit. <<opens her purse and watches the moths fly out>>

MultipleMama Wed 22-May-13 10:19:45

Thanks everyone.

I know trips - already started my baby journal with bump and scan photos, I'll be scanned every 2 weeks until 20w and be monitored.

Shabs you must be so proud!

Bubby glad the police have actually done something. If its one thing I can't stand it's bullying.

Rather you than me chops! I could just eat a vegetable curry <craving>

Hi pixi nice to meet talk to you, glad your dc are well smile

Dts1 is a lot better today no thanks to his poor gums!

Surprised DF yesterday with "twins" news. Went brilliantly, he was gobsmacked but happy however dd has picked up the phrase "oh fuck" again. Thanks, dad!

Oh and the cake was lovely smile

Sokmonsta Wed 22-May-13 11:26:34

Morning. Back properly later. Just taking a break from packing Emily up for her week away with nanny, grandad and eldest 2 cousins. Is it a bit PA to send her with vosene shampoo etc since my sister hasn't been able to keep on top of nits and Emily has been lucky so far?

MultipleMama Wed 22-May-13 16:04:12

I used to love Vosene. The smell always reminds me of my Grandma, she used to was my hair with it when I was little.

Sokmonsta Wed 22-May-13 16:30:24

Normly I use a tea tree oil and faff with hairspray and stuff. But is a lot to ask my parents to do on holiday just to placate me ;)

Anyway, one successful shopping trip. New clothes and a pair of trainers for Emily. But cross about the trainers as I only wanted plimsoll/doodles type things. Clarks didn't have any I liked in her size - only one pair suitable but were black with neon patterns on them confusedand I don't have time to get to our usual outlet store. Thought I'd try the supermarkets instead. Bloody places! All the shoes in Emily's size for girls (bearing in mind she is only very nearly 5) are either those silly thin sandle strap things, no substance to them at all. Or slip on plimsolls. They go from a size 10 with strap (perfect style) to a size 11 slip on! I've ended up coming away with plain blue boys lace ups. And even then not really the ones I would have chosen but they will be ideal. I honestly didn't think it would be so hard to get girls size 11's with either a strap or laces. But it seems she has big feet for her young age as older girls "don't run and play about like the younger ones do" to his credit the guy in Sainsbury's agreed that it was silly to suddenly imply if you are a shoe size 11+ girl you shouldn't be running and playing about.

But she has some lovely new outfits. Which means I can cull her very limited, mismatched wardrobe of getting too small clothes into lovely new summer wear. All thanks to m&s vouchers smile

Twins are grouchy today. And the bugs are winding them up even more by hurtling up and down the hall. Cannot wait until bedtime.

MultipleMama Wed 22-May-13 19:29:37

I have this nit business to come. I shudder at the thought. DD has beautiful curls and the thought of having bugs in her hair make me sad. Urgh, I can remember having that stuff that stunk for days on my head in school sad

I so want to go shopping and spoil the kids... I may go drive up on Friday when DF has them.

bubby64 Wed 22-May-13 19:40:30

Hi Soks- I used to get the teatree and mint shampoo and conditioner from Boots for my two to stop the dreaded bugs getting hold. How stupid about the shoes, but its nice you have got some nice outfits. That is the one big thing I missed out on with boys, buying lovely girlie clothes.

Boys have got new glasses today and they look good, again, I paid the extra £10 each to get 'designer' frames, to ensure they wear themwink, Dentist was this evening, as suspected, they haven't been cleaning their teeth well enough, and have to go back in just 3 monthssad , I had a quiet word with the dentist, and asked him to really have a go at them, as they dont listen to DH and me. He really laid it on thick about how poor their oral hygiene has become, and how they are at high risk of cavities and their teeth falling out due to gum disease, I hope he has scared them into cleaning their teeth properly. blush

Sokmonsta Wed 22-May-13 21:41:43

Mm - my Jennifer has gorgeous curls too. Nitty gritty comb will be your friend.

MultipleMama Wed 22-May-13 21:53:20

Sok - I'll have to invest in one of those soon! I hope she doesn't loose her curls as she gets older like I did.

Sokmonsta Wed 22-May-13 22:43:08

I had the same curls when I was a tot. Until my mum grew my hair out ready for school. Now straighteners are my weapon against the frizzies. Need to see if I can get Jen trimmed again soon.

Both babies went down a treat tonight. Barely a peep out of them, and nothing which needed attending too.

Morning girls xxx

Sokmonsta Thu 23-May-13 07:50:53


Lovely sunny day so far. They cancelled school sports day yesterday as its supposed to rain all day!

Sokmonsta Thu 23-May-13 11:36:07

<gazes out of window at pouring rain and drags elf back to loft>

triplets Thu 23-May-13 12:52:25

Good afternoon ladies, just off to the hospital again...........really praying they are going to offer to do something, 4 weeks with a drain in your stomach! I had a long talk with the Mac nurse this morning, told her this is getting us both down. She was going to see if they could get a scan done today as we are there rather than go back again on Monday. Fingers x`d.
Had to top watching the news about the Woolwich murder, makes you feel sick inside doesn`t it? Poor poor man.

bubby64 Thu 23-May-13 15:27:09

Chucking it down here, and sooooooo coldsad
Trips - hope they can sort it out and let you get off on your break.
And yes, I agree about the Woolwich horror, I still have my doubts as to whether they should have let those pictures and film of them ranting be shown, they got all the publicity they desired.angry sad

I saw my works Occupational Health Physician today, I start back at work next week on 1/2 days, I can do the offices and surgery, but I will not be allowed on the factory floor as yet as still on crutches.

MultipleMama Thu 23-May-13 20:06:32

They should never have shown those pictures and video. They gave them exactly what they wanted. Can you imagine his parents seeing that video, then getting the call that it's their child?! Some things shouldn't be shown. To allow it is disgusting.

Trips - hope they sort it out!

Tired has hell today, kids have been hyper today. DTS1 is back to his normal self and his constantly attached to the breast. I think he's making up for lost feeds.

Busy day tomorrow for dc so glad today wore them out! smile

triplets Thu 23-May-13 23:22:48

Hi...........spent 4 hours at the hosp today, after m ranting to the Mac nurse they really pulled out all the stops. We spent an hour with the consultant and learnt a lot more. They have put dk under the care now of an out of hospital care team instead of the district nurse who really has not been able to give him the care he needs. As it stands we do have to go back on Mon for a ct scan, they will then review he blood loss, if it has slowed down they have suggested taking out the drain and using a stoma bag instead. They seem certain I will do the same thing but make life easier and would enable us to go away, just losing one day. I am 50/50 if we should get our hopes up, the last thing he wants is a problem whilst away. My head is going round and round, but all this seems so minor in comparison to that lovely young man who lost his life yesterday. When I see his picture today I cried, my James wants to be a drummer in the forces, it is all too awful for words. sad

Hope you manage to get away Trips.

My head is spinning along with yours love!! Tom leaves school tomorrow then back after half term to do his GCSE's - think his last day of exams is June 17th.

Terrible events yesterday - so scary - thinking about the family of the soldier who was killed.....no death so sad as that of a child - no matter how old that child is. No parent should ever have to bury their child xxx

Been to bed once and got up again, cant soddin' sleep sad

rubyrubyruby Fri 24-May-13 06:54:53

Hope you managed to get some sleep Shabs - it's a big day for our boys today xxxx

I remember us talking about them both starting secondary.

Morning girls xx

Managed about 2 hours Rubester - shock I do indeed remember us talking about them starting high school - seems like yesterday.

Toms friend is talking about having a party tomorrow night - says they should camp out in the woods next to his house - bet you any money Tom wont be doing that!!!!!!!!!! <<evil cackle>> It was almost on the tip of my tongue to say they could all come here, then I slapped myself across the face and came to my senses!

rubyrubyruby Fri 24-May-13 07:46:02

smile DS has a party tonight, tomorrow and Sunday!
DTS are out tonight too and DH away.

I'm going down the pub with DS1 - it's funny how things come around grin

Sokmonsta Fri 24-May-13 08:03:19


I've been avoiding any tv other than recorded programmes from Christmas!

I did shed a few tears for the poor young man and the family he has left behind. It seems so acute when I think his son is not much younger than my own James.

I also have an intense loathing for all the pictures being spread across the tv and social media of the man with his bloodied hands. I wish I had never seen that picture as now I can't unsee it. It did however highlight a few friends whose opinions are just a little too extreme for my liking. Here's hoping we don't have another summer of rioting and looting. Bad behaviour isn't justified by someone else's.

I also worry for my children that what sort of world have I chosen to bring them in to.

Trips, I do hope all goes to the hospital's plan and you do get away. I'm sure a few days further away from everything will help recharge your batteries.

Bubs - glad to hear you're gobbling about more.

Sokmonsta Fri 24-May-13 08:08:44

Ruby and Shabs - hope the exams are going well. I remember the dread I had for mine and yet that seems so long ago now. Dh's eldest niece is doing her gcse's this year. And it's only 3 years, maybe less, until my eldest niece does hers. I remember her as a teeny screaming baby. I was at FE college myself at the time. Now here I am with 4!

Funnily I saw one of the guys I used to go drinking with on saturday when I was out with friends. In those days I was single, carefree and certainly no children. We worked out it was probably a decade since we'd last seen each other. His two children are obviously much older. And he was shocked to learn not only had I got married, but had 4 children, including twins. Neither of us see many of the original group as life has taken us all in different directions.

Toms last GCSE is something like June 17th. They have to just go in for revision classes and the actual exams. Told him he has to go to revision classes because he is useless at revising at home!!

Chopstheduck Fri 24-May-13 09:37:19

Morning girls x

Hope the exam revising is going well, and hope you got on ok at the hosp, trips?

mama, make sure you get some rest!!!

Those pictures were awful, I agree, they should never have been shown. I really feel for the parents. There is always a risk being in the forces, but his death was so senseless. sad

I went pole dancing last night grin A friend on the MFP website does it and it looked so amazing, I wanted to give it a go, so I went for it! Learned some basic spins. It is an amazing workout, really great for toning and building strength - I can't wait to go again!

MultipleMama Fri 24-May-13 09:53:17

I cried a little last night too just quiet little sobs while laid in bed, DH put his arms around me, kissed my cheek and rubbed my back and told me it was okay to cry. Damn hormones and sick, vile people! That image will be stuck in my head.

It makes me wonder too; that video/photo could trigger a shoulder who has PTSD - I'm reading Jake Wood's Among You book.

Chops - That sounds like fun, I wouldn't mind giving that ago. I always wondered about it but I could never climb rope in gym class so I'd be screwed on a pole! Haha.

Sok - I worry about that myself. What kind of world are we creating for our children? It makes me sad.

I am DC and DH/DF free, so I am dressed and waiting on my friend to come pick me up and we're going shopping! I can now officially buy baby clothes!

Chopstheduck Fri 24-May-13 10:52:45

I've never been able to climb a rope neither, I did ok! You should try it, it is so much fun!

have fun shopping!

MultipleMama Fri 24-May-13 17:16:49

Chops - I'll look into it when I've had the bumps smile

Back from shopping, was great to be child free and not constantly worried that I'd lost one in a shop (although I did turn around a few times to tell them to not wonder off!)

I spent so much money - I went to treat myself and spent more on the dc bloody typical. I got a few rock onsies and rompers for new arrivals - I couldn't help myself, my friend squealed when she realised. Put everything away just in time for DF to arrive with dc and DH home from work.

How's everyone's day been?

bubby64 Fri 24-May-13 20:04:00

I have refused to watch either any video or look at any pictures. I have decided I am not going to give those evil bastards what they want.angry My nephew is in the forces, he is 19. I see his face when I think of that poor lad.sad

Mama- glad you enjoyed the shopping.
Chops - pole dancing - you are so brave!
Rubes/Shabs - Good luck to your boys in the coming exams.
Soks - I am watching recorded stuff and anytime programmes too.
Trips- a stoma bag is easiervto vooe with (and conceal) than the drain, I hope you can get away.

I have given in and put the heating back on. Its our local beer festival this weekend, we usually go, but I hate sitting there and feeling cold, so I hope it gets a little warmer and dryerconfused

MultipleMama Fri 24-May-13 20:42:39

I turn it over every time it comes on, first time I saw was by accident was tidying up and had it on TV.

It came on at 6pm today while I was in the kitchen, my 4 year old asked me if that mama lost her baby because she was crying and holding a teddy. Seriously? On before watershed, how bloody stupid are they?

Ready for bed myself but I promised DH we'd have quality time and watch a movie. It's seeing things like that that make me appreciate how fucking lucky I am that DH comes home from work safe.

triplets Sat 25-May-13 06:38:04

Goodmorning girls, Sat and I am wide eyed at 5.45am..............useless!! What a storm we had at midnight last night, I have never heard such rain and there was hail in it! Got the nurse coming at 8am anyway, no rest for the wicked as they say!

Morning girls xx

What is that yellow 'ball' in the sky??? shock just googled to find out and its called SUNSHINE!!

MultipleMama Sat 25-May-13 14:30:47

Are you telling me England has sunshine?! Alert the media! It's about bloody time!

Enjoyed a lovely morning at park, now DH has invited everyone round for a BBQ and to spread the PG news. DC are happily playing in shorts and t-shirt- I have my kids in shorts for the time in a year! However dts1 has decided he'd rather nap in boba on DF.

Just sorted out the garage - I have so much unused baby products and gifts that I hope I get round to using. Even after selling one I still have a Tiny Love 3-in-1 Rocker and swings. I think a carboot is in order next year!

Hope everyone is enjoying the weather!

bubby64 Sat 25-May-13 16:09:47

Yeehhh- we have sunshine too, but still a bit chilly. We are going to give the beer festival a go tonight, I will wrap up in many layers, as I hate being cold, they have plenty of shelter, but no heaters.
Have a good bank holiday werkend folks.

Sokmonsta Sat 25-May-13 22:21:47

Hmm. My post didn't post. Oh well.

Hope everyone had a lovely day. We packed Emily off on holiday with nanny and grandad this morning. She was so excited waiting for them, watching out of the letterbox for their arrival.

Dropped dh off in town and then took James and the twins for an impromptu picnic in the park after some shopping.

This afternoon was a birthday party for one of James' friends, followed by a leaving party for the family.

Tonight I've packed up the car ready for the carboot tomorrow and now tucked up in bed waiting for the zzzz's to arrive.

Sokmonsta Sat 25-May-13 22:22:14

Enjoy the beer fest bubs.

triplets Sat 25-May-13 22:46:39

All sound busy! I have been franticly washing, cleaning car, tidying garden incase we get away on Mon after the hosp visit and scan. Dk came to Sainsburys with me this pm, he won`t admit it but he was tired. 2dcs have been in their rooms all day plugged in and the other has been playing at the bandstand. There was a classic car show near the beach today and loads of entertainment. Night all xx

MultipleMama Sat 25-May-13 23:11:06

All dc were worn out by the time 6pm came around so I skipped bath and put them straight in bed, even dts are fast on, just dream fed them so hopefully they'll sleep a bit longer tonight.

Goodnight everyone.

MultipleMama Sun 26-May-13 07:25:15

Morning ladies.

DH has surprised me with tickets to the zoo, which is lovely and awesome but now I have to spend the morning getting 2 excited dc dressed and fed before their head explodes and then dress dts1 who have suddenly decided they hate being carried.

Wish me luck!

Morning girls xx

rubyrubyruby Sun 26-May-13 08:16:48

Morning x

MultipleMama Sun 26-May-13 18:13:54

Evening ladies.

The zoo was a massive success, DS1 is still happily chatting to anyone who listen about the Lions and Elephants.

Dts loved the Monkeys, holding them close to the enclosure they'd laugh so loudly when the Monkeys made any noise or waved their arms. Freakin' adorable.

DH is doing bath time so I can sunbathe and relax before the sun goes.

Hope you had a lovely day, ladies.

bubby64 Sun 26-May-13 21:03:29

Hi All. Glad you had a nice day at the zoo Mama, anf you had a nice picnic Soks. Yes, we had a nice evening at the beer fest, it continues all the holiday weekend, with lots of live bands, so we may pop down again tomorrow after the village fete. We all went swimming today, and i managed to go in as well, which pleased the boys immensly. It has been a lovely day.
Trips - fingers crossed for tomorrow, one of the reasons we went swimming was because I was determined to unplug hoth the boys and dh from their various devices and get them out having some exercise.

rubyrubyruby Sun 26-May-13 22:01:42

I really hope you manage to get away Trips.

Bubby - the beer festival sounds great and thank goodness the weather has been better.

We used to have a zoo season ticket when mine were younger MM.

I think we may go out for lunch tomorrow. I've been working soooo hard what with work and getting the house ready for sale and DH had been out of the country a lot so a day off will be good.

Sokmonsta Mon 27-May-13 07:30:58

Morning. Glad the beer fest and zoo were big hits.

Fingers crossed trips for escaping (today?) to the iow.

I'm awake and pissed off already as dh's alarm went off at 6, waking me and the twins. He's still snoring and I'm dealing with 2 grumpy twins. Am hoping I perk up soon as it is so not going to be a good day if I don't.

Morning girls xx

MultipleMama Mon 27-May-13 10:07:48

Morning sok, I know how that feels especially DH forgets to turn it off on a weekend and it goes off at 5am. Hope your day improves! smile

Ruby We take them now and again, if we took them more often it wouldn't be as special - well that's my excuse! Lol

My dts are waterbabies, you can take them if you like, bubby! Lol

What another lovely day. DH and I are planning to take the kids for a pub lunch then heading a for a lovely walk.

rubyrubyruby Mon 27-May-13 10:10:54

MM - I live walking distance from a Zoo so it was definitely worth it for us! We used to just pop up for half an hour sometimes and visit our favourites and use the play area.

MultipleMama Mon 27-May-13 13:36:56

We live just over half an hour away by car, but we hate using the car and rarely use it. We'd rather walk everywhere.

Oh, crap! How have not realised that DS is off for a week?! I think I still have baby brain. Thank God DH mentioned it or I would have took him to school tomorrow!... Now to find where I put his term sheet....

Sokmonsta Tue 28-May-13 09:11:37


My biggest girl turns 5 today. And enjoying a lovely holiday with nanny, grandad and 2 cousins. I rang earlier so we could sing happy birthday. It's weird not having her at home but she is having a brilliant time.

I'm still not impressed with dh but for other reasons. I'm trying to budget better but he keeps buying things on eBay and I'm paying for them as Both eBay and PayPal account are in my name. It's fine and normally it wouldn't be a problem, but we're so close to the end of the month and its been an expensive one too with new tyres for my car and two birthdays. Plus I need to mot and tax my car. I'm supposed to be going to a friends today. It's a bloody good job I did the carboot as it put fuel in my car.

<sigh> I'm going to have to sit him down and have a chat, tell him he can't keep buying me new clothes because he thinks I'll like them (true, I do. But then I feel obliged to pay for his other stuff). We're generally very sharing but I'm conscious that we're just entering the realms of me being a sahm and not having that wage coming in so I don't want him to end up resenting spending on me and not having money for him.

I'm interested in trying a 'no spend' month, where essentially ill pay for bills and groceries but avoid buying anything else. Even if I can manage a week I will be happy!

Happy Birthday Soklet - have a lovely birthday xx

I spent the entire day yesterday at two different local hospitals with my Mum.....they thought she had had a stroke even though I kept telling them she was drunk hmm she ended up discharging herself after waiting for 5 yes 5 fookin' hours for a bed!!!!

My SIL and Brother are divorcing after 30 years of marriage. SIL had the fab idea on Saturday of going down to tell my parents....Mum has been crying ever since...I WILL hunt down my SIL and I cannot promise that I will keep my temper!!

<<climbs back into her padded cell and ignores Lewis knocking on the door>>

MultipleMama Tue 28-May-13 10:57:03

Happy birthday soklet! x

sok We're in a no spending month; well supposed to be. DH went to a carboot on Sunday Morning and came back with a Micralite supa and a combi twin pushchair. Thank God they were cheap or I would have kicked his ass.

We had to sell loads of stuff to afford the Donkey and then we just bought a new bed for DS1 so money is tight. I've been looking online at all these ways to save money, so gunna put them into practice this week - hopefully.

Luckily, I have no birthdays until September as there's only 9 days between DS1 and DTS' birthdays.

MultipleMama Tue 28-May-13 10:58:54

shabs That sucks and I think for her to do that to your parents is horrible and completely disrespectful. There's no need to rub it in their face.

Also, it's okay to lose your temper sometimes ;)

Thing is Mama I very rarely lose my temper but when I do everybody runs for the hills wink he is back from holiday this morning and is having a second meeting with the Social worker and my parents.....the first one was between me and everybody else. He says I wasn't forceful enough and I should have talked over our parents and got them help even if they didn't want it.

Maybe he is right and I am wrong BUT I am me and he is whoever the hell he is!! I took one look at my Mums eyes - pleading with me, silently, to reject all the help. As she said 'I am still the wife and mother in this house and I can still manage'

He also told the current carers that there was only his son and dil who would be helping while he was on holiday. Ahhhh well let him think he is right - I know what I do and have done this week.

MultipleMama Tue 28-May-13 12:11:16

You can only be forceful so much before. You can't make someone listen or take help no matter how many times you tell them. And forcing help on some does more harm than good and it isn't as easy as it looks.

If he thinks you should have talked it over more than why doesn't he do it, instead of placing what looks like blame on your shoulders.

You know you've done what you can, so screw him ;)


bubby64 Tue 28-May-13 20:23:57

Happy birthday to soklet.
Soks/Mama -A No spending month, or even week, would be a non starter in this household, there always seems to be something which needs replacing or getting for some reason.blush
Shabs - Your db sounds so much like mine when it comes to care gor our parents. We daughters do all the running around and practical things whlst they "grandstand" , bluster and demand people listen to them as they think they know best, but they don't actually do anything effective. Tell him to go take a running jump! Also, your SiL was thinking only of herself, "oh look at poor me, getting divorced after all that time married". She obviously was too self absorbed to think of the implications to your parents of her announcement.

If I have missed a message on here just ignore my next sentance!!

Trips is missing grin Wonder if she got away on holiday? x

Morning girls xx

Chopstheduck Wed 29-May-13 07:23:38

I was wondering that! She has gone very quiet!

I was away for the weekend, seeing family. Felt quite low yesterday, coming back and being stuck in with the kids on my own again and the rain all day. But the sun is shining again today!

MultipleMama Wed 29-May-13 12:32:13

I hope she's managed to get away!

Chops - hope you're feeling okay! I always seem to be stuck in house even though I manage to take them out.

Afternoon, ladies. I turned 13 weeks yesterday, my 2nd trimesters is just around the corner and I'm praying T1 holds on even longer and is improving.

DD is at creche until 2pm so it's just me and my boys smile

Sokmonsta Wed 29-May-13 16:08:12

I have a poorly Jen Jen glued to me today. When she lets me put her down, she just lays on the floor staring at me with her big puppy-dog eyes hmm

Sokmonsta Wed 29-May-13 16:11:04

Oh, and the no spend month has already gone to pot as car is booked in for service next week. Needs new ball joint (showed up as advisory on mot), and the mot guy told me my tailgate trim was loose. Which promptly came away in my hand when I went to put the pushchair in the boot. Needs fixing as its the bit which holds the handle to lift it. Oh well. Beans on toast for a month it is.

Sokmonsta Wed 29-May-13 16:11:40

Happy 13 weeks mama. Here's hoping for an extra sticky t1.

MultipleMama Wed 29-May-13 16:29:31

Our family car is due a service next month, so we're grasping at thin air to save up. Our previous car constantly used to brake down all the time, we dubbed it "the bank" as we kept putting money into it.

Nothing wrong with a bit of beans on toast, although it would go better with grated cheese on top!

Thanks Sok smile

Sokmonsta Wed 29-May-13 17:58:42

Mmmm. Beans on toast and cheese. Am thinking that might have to be breakfast tomorrow now.

MultipleMama Thu 30-May-13 07:47:55

About to serve up beans, toast and cheese. DTS are having their first cheese cubes and banana. Hope they like them!

triplets Thu 30-May-13 08:35:23

Goodmorning girls smile yes we are here and its lovely apart from the weather, rained Tues, partly y/day and its raining today and we come home tomorrow! We spent 3 hours at the hospital on Mon, they did take out the drain and fixed the bag, so those of you who will remember "Gladys" is back! It seems to be working, still draining after 5 weeks! The consultant said he would look at the scan on Tues and ring dh on his mobile but we haven`t heard anything. My poor brother has had his heart surg delayed, should have been tomorrow, its now next Tues which at least means I can go up with him. Kids are behaving, dh is ok though finding it tiring though he won`t admit it. I am the only one up as usual, we are going to Osbourne House today and hoping to see the sun later! Shabs, poor Mum, was she really drunk?grin

Sokmonsta Thu 30-May-13 09:27:41

Yay trips! So glad you got away,even if the weather hasn't been great (fwiw it's been raining here since Tuesday too)


Mm - haven't had breakfast yet! Am planning it as brunch now.

Still have a poorly Jennifer. Only drs appt I could get is 4pm. They wouldn't even let her be seen at my earlier appt. so I've decided to ask my gp anyway, and if it means I have to remake my own appt , well Jen is my priority right now. Her temp went down to 93f last night and is now 101 again this morning. No wonder she's being a cling on as I can only imagine that's making her feel wretched.

So glad you managed to get away Trips - grin @ the return of 'Gladys' ....... and YES Trips she was as nissed as a pewt!!! <<hangs head in shame and makes appt for Mum at AA>>

MultipleMama Thu 30-May-13 11:02:22

Glad you managed to get away, Trips even if the weather is somewhat miserable!

Sok - I would have stayed in bed but dd was stood at her baby gate crying apparently she had another nightmare.

I hope Jen gets better, and it's ridiculous that they wouldn't give you an emergency appointment especially if she has a fever. She's luckily to have a concerned mama like you.

MultipleMama Thu 30-May-13 15:43:06

Question ladies.

What do you think of this wallpaper as a feature wall for the new nursery? The walls will be a pale green and the furniture white.


This wallpaper? Walls would be a light brown with white furniture.

Sokmonsta Fri 31-May-13 02:08:55

I like both <realises she's no help there>

But would go with the polar bears and green walls as opposed to brown as I think it would be more nursery like <thinks could get away with green on the rainy one though>

Jennifer showing no obvious infection so taking urine sample in tomorrow. Her temp is currently showing at 91.6. I have checked my thermometer on myself and its working fine so think its going to be another appt tomorrow. She's not long settled into sleep.

Morning girls xx

I like the bears Mama!!

DH has the most horrendous cough - Doc says its his asthma but I just gave up on trying to sleep - he has coughed every few minutes since about 1am.

rubyrubyruby Fri 31-May-13 05:43:12

Ah you're up at last!

Morning x

rubyrubyruby Fri 31-May-13 05:44:50

Glad you got away trips.

Hope you are feeling a bit brighter Chops - I think the sun may shine today smile

Sokmonsta Fri 31-May-13 07:16:52

Morning <buries head back under duvet and prays James isn't too full of beans today>

Chopstheduck Fri 31-May-13 07:21:18


And the sun is on it's way grin I need to emigrate, I feel so much better when the sun comes out.

How is Jennifer, soks?

Blimey Shabs, that was an early start - I think you were up before me!

I'm looking forward to the weekend, should be able to get some bbqs in, and tomorrow I'm taking dd to the AllStarz party in Reading, and to meet Amelia Lily. It will be a nice birthday treat for her, prob get food out somewhere - she will be 13 in a fortnight - I will be a mum to a teenager shock

MultipleMama Fri 31-May-13 08:43:31

I love the polar bears and DH loves the raining one. We've bought samples of each and have them stuck on the wall. I love the idea of green walls, I'll try the rainy and green together.

I have the hospital today for my eyes, luckily it's Friday and kids are with their GP, so my cousin is coming with me as I have to put with blurry vision. Wonderful.

Hoping everyone enjoys the weekend, and that Jen gets better! x

MultipleMama Fri 31-May-13 14:36:24

I have scarring on my eyes from possible tramua but nothing serious.

Sokmonsta Fri 31-May-13 16:31:15

Jen still poorly bun bun hmm 3 hours waiting her to wee so I could take a sample in. I plied her with water and milk, and tickled her in those 3 very long hours. Surgery not phoned so doesn't look like their initial dip test showed anything.

MultipleMama Fri 31-May-13 17:21:03

Aww give her massive hugs from me. I really hope she gets better, little one deserves to be well and enjoying the sunshine not ill sad

I can't seem to cuddle my two today, DF just dropped them and they're off crawling in the garden.. heading straight for the dirt. Lovely.

According to DF DD had a night terror during an unexpected nap, and she's totally quiet so DF has offered to spend calm time with her upstairs until DH gets in.

DS just keeps wanting to look at my bump - he even wanted to paint on it for babies, it was funny but maybe I'll let him when the bump is bigger lol

Everyone, enjoy their day?

Sokmonsta Fri 31-May-13 20:59:27

Massive hugs given. Jen settled to bed reasonably well. Just long enough for me to eat my tea. Brought her back down and wrapped her in a blanket for snuggles as she was so chilly. Eventually got Jennifer back to sleep and in her cot but can't find the bloody thermometer. I know she's ill. All I don't know is whether to call ooh tomorrow as Monday is a long way away right now. Oh heck this parenting lark is so hard.

MultipleMama Fri 31-May-13 21:30:44

Have you tried the NHS helpline, sok?

DS1 had a fever when he was about a year old, and the doctor put it down to teething (he was late teething) but I took him to the A&E and refused to leave unless he was seen, turns out he has ear infections in both ears, again and one had to have ear tubes in both.

If you can, get up to A&E and cause a fuss if they won't get you in on an emergency appointment on Monday.

Just heard dts1 waking... and so it begins.

triplets Fri 31-May-13 23:54:49

<<Trips trundles in with trolley laden with fresh crab sandwiches from Ventnor, garlics delights rom the Garlic Farm and IOW cider for Shabs>>
I cannot tell you how relieved I am to be home, not cos I wasn`t enjoying the IOW, but today was sooooo scary and stressful. For the last 2 days dh has not been right, washed out and really struggling to eat. The drive home from Portsmouth was a nightmare, took us 5 hours instead of 3, bloody M25! Halfway we stopped for a late lunch and when dh got out of the car his shirt was red with blood. I assumed the bag had leaked, but no, blood was coming out of the scar, very quickly. We were in such a state, place was packed as he tried to get to the toilets. He was nearly 30 mins in there, I had to send the boys in to find him, I had visions of him lying on the floor. He managed to clean himself up and had to fix a second bag over the new site. I phoned the hospital for advice and they are sending a nurse out tomorrow morning. H also got a phone call y/dy from the consultant with the ct result they did on Mon. He is happy that the actual surgery to repair the hernia is still ok, but the blood clot that has been draining for 5 weeks is still very large. He said he was worried because it showed part of it is solid and that could cause severe infection. He wants him to go to the hosp next Tues to see him and he is going to put him on long term low dose antibiotics. It just seems to go on and on, I really feel so sorry for him. Sorry to hear Jennifer is poorly, hope tomorrow finds our patients feeling better! My dd is furious with me, I have somehow managed to leave a drawer full of her clothes in he apartment we rented, God knows how but there you go! Her beloved Bring me the Horizon t shirt amongst it.........she packs her own next time! Oh its nice to be back here amongst my friends........... xx

Morning girls xx

Oh my Gawd Trips - I bet you were worried sick.

Glad you had a good break though - just wish DH's health was better.


MultipleMama Sat 01-Jun-13 09:27:02

Morning ladies.

Trips She likes Bring Me The Horizon? Oh dear Lord haha. I lived in the same hometown as the lead singer, Oli. Lovely guy bit of a twat ;)

Let's hope these antibiotics are gunna work, so DH can get better. Glad you still managed to have a nice break.

triplets Sat 01-Jun-13 16:56:41

<<stumbles in and pours largegin cup of tea>> Just back from spending 4 hours with dh in A&E, he now has cellulitis! Next??

bubby64 Sat 01-Jun-13 17:01:07

Hi All, Trips, glad you got away, but what a scare on the way home! Have they not suggested a surgical evacuation of the wound? Depending on the depth, it may be able to do it under a local.
Soks- sorry about Jen, I agree with Shabs, you can take her to the A+E if she gets worse, I also did this with James when he was small, our GP kept saying he would be ok, and he just didn't improve, I decided to go with my mothers intuition that things really werent right and went to A+E, and they found he had such bad ear infections they kept him in for a night on iv antibiotics!
Chops - sunshine here too, has been a lovely couple of days.
My news - I started back at work Thursday, I am doing 1/2 days 3 times a week to start, then gradually increasing up to normal hours. I had a quiet morning, except for the 367 emails in my inbox! Why do people still send you mail, even tjough they know you are away, and even have a out of office message saying you will be away for an extended period.
Also, James had his pre-op assessment yesterday, and has his op on Tuesday. just as i start back , Typical!! J is gutted, as his 1st karate grading was meant to be Friday, and R is taking 1/2 day off on Wed and Thurs so we can cover the need for him to be with an adult for the 48hrs post-op.
Also, finally got the Catalina back, so we can fulfil the wedding and prom bookings, phew!!

bubby64 Sat 01-Jun-13 17:13:04

Oh, and forgot to say, those of you who here 18 months ago may remember I was upset as my friend and neighbour was moving 200 miles away, she didn't want to go, but as her partner did, she reluctantly moved. Well, she rang me last night, she and the kids hated it so much, she has persuaded partner to move back, she is moving to a village only 4 miles away in 6 weeks time! Mike is also over the moon as he and her daughter used to be best friends, and she will be going to his school. Her 10yr old twins are also happy as they will be going back to their old school.

triplets Sat 01-Jun-13 22:49:47

Hi............am having a really bad time. Just snapped at dh which was unfair. I was half asleep on the sofa and he shouted me to help him, he was standing outside the loo with blood all over his shirt and the floor. He told me to clear it up, so I grabbed some baby wipes and as I was wiping it he bawled at me to go and get him another "bag". I just lost it and said I had only one pair of bloody hands. He then stormed off upstairs just as the boys and their friend were coming down, so they saw everything. He eventually came down and said another hole has opened up, that's three. What the hell is going on? The hospital at home nurse will be here at 8am........thank God.
Tomorrow is the 2nd June, hate hate hate that date. 19 years since I last saw my beautiful boy.................God I miss him. xxxxxxx

MultipleMama Sat 01-Jun-13 23:02:22

bubby - Wonderful news about your friend, just the type of good news you need to cheer you up.

Trips - I bet it feels never ending! Hope things are sorted out! sad

I had really, really bad cramping last night and a fever, no bleeding and thought I was miscarrying and made DH take me to A&E and call our consultant, I've been in hospital since 2am this morning. They called it a threatened miscarriage. T1's fluid is low which could be the cause but have no answers for me. I've had test after test and I'm fine, my temp is down and I'm no longer cramping, I've had 5 scans and all show twins are growing and are healthy (except T1 being on the small side). I'm to be kept in for the week on constant fluids and an IV. Basically; they're doing all they can but whatever happens, happens.

I'm stuck in bed next a woman who does not shut up and is still on the bloody phone. The woman across from me is snoring. This is not a stress free environment, and I won't get my own room until tomorrow. Only thing keeping me sane is texting DH.

DF is staying at ours and working from there to help and DH is taking a week of unpaid leave off work - which we so don't need right now. I hate being away from my kids and I hate sleeping alone, why can't I be on bed rest at home and be stuck with an IV there sad. RANT OVER HAHA.

Sokmonsta Sat 01-Jun-13 23:03:41

Oh trips! You are having a shit time and it couldn't have come at a worse time by the sound of it. I hate to say it but would dh be better off back in hospital where they can sort him out properly instead of patching him up and sending him on his way. The cellulitis is shitty and possibly creating more holes. From what I remember the tissue eats itself. Very basic description but my dad has permanent issues with his leg after leaving cellulitis poorly treated for far, far too many months.

We too spent 4 hours at the hospital with Jen. NHS direct sent us up to a&e after a purple rash spread alarmingly rapidly across her body this afternoon. Thankfully it was red rather than purple by the time we for there (I think it was purple because she was cold to touch), so appears to be that old standby of 'viral rash/infection' but the poor sausage is still so out of it and grumpy. She wants to be held all the time, but only wants me to hold her for any length of time. I can't leave the room without her howling to be snuggled on me again. Been told to ring and ask for an appt with ooh if she gets worse as they will access the children's dr quicker than waiting in a&e. if not, got to take her back to our gp Monday if no better.

I've tucked her in her cot wrapped in a fleece blanket and her duvet as she's still so chilly. It seems to have worked for now as I got her from my lap to cot with barely a murmer.

Sokmonsta Sat 01-Jun-13 23:07:44

Mama - hugs to you too. I hope you get your own room soon (waterworks maybe?) , shout at the bloody woman on her phone to shut the fuck up as its disturbing you and everyone else or butt in with unwanted opinion? Might annoy her enough to get the message. When I had Emily, the woman in the next bed would take phone calls at 1am. I get that she had been there a long time, but that was still inconsiderate. Texts are one thing. One sided conversations are completely another.

MultipleMama Sat 01-Jun-13 23:22:59

I've already complained to the nurse who had a word with her and she said, "I'll be 5 minutes" half an hour ago... I've asked her politely to either go out the room and talk or turn it off because I'm exhausted, she nodded then completely ignored me.

Now she's opened the window because she's "warm". I don't care that she's 36 weeks... I will drop kick her. DH is dead set on talking to her tomorrow - and he's stubborn so I'm dreading it.

The woman who's room I'm having isn't being discharged until tomorrow. I've already tried waterworks and was just given pity looks.

Gunna try and sleep and ignore her.

Hope Jen gets better, sok, at least you have an idea of what's up with her instead of waiting for those stupid GP appointments.

triplets Sat 01-Jun-13 23:35:07

Oh Mama and Soks so sorry for you both too. What a time we are having. Mama you always come across as being so calm and accepting of situations, it must be so worrying. And for you Soky, I really really hope they sort your darling little girl out very soon. xxxx

Sokmonsta Sat 01-Jun-13 23:39:01


Nick her charger when she does eventually go to sleep/toilet. or snap the lead and feign ignorance when she realises it won't work. Bloody ignorant cow.

I'm all for being able to keep in touch with people and those phone cards are so expensive. But a teeny bit of consideration goes a long way. Your dh shouldn't have to have a word, the mw should but clearly they don't like the woman. Is there a senior staff member who would confiscate her phone?

MultipleMama Sat 01-Jun-13 23:46:43

I'm one of those who are happy to put on a front to hide how scared I am but when alone like this with difficult people it's testing and I just can't switch off my mind.

She doesn't know a thing that's wrong and it's not her fault that she's oblivious to the worry and panic I'm feeling but I just... I'm feeling resentful and envious of her perfect pregnancy and I just want to take it out on her and it's not fair. I want DH here and I want to sleep.

What a state we all are, eh? We need rocking chairs and alcohol and some bloody good news!

MultipleMama Sat 01-Jun-13 23:55:06

... I may have had a little fit.

She laughed loudly on the phone, and I screamed at her to shut the fuck up. The nurse came running in - it's amazing how they come running when you're screaming but don't bloody answer your call button.

I called her a rude, ignorant plonker and the next time she picks up that phone it'll be out the window. Nurse wasn't impressed but I don't give a shit.

I got told not to disturb others and she was finally told to get off her phone. Maybe now I can sleep.

DH is sending me pictures of sleeping dc so I can having something to keep me sane for the rest of the night.

Trips - my dear, dear RL friend. Thinking about your precious boy today......and thinking about you and DH. No matter how we try to stick on a plaster - no matter how much we try to control our grief IT DOES NOT SUBSIDE. I wish we lived closer...I wish we could get pi**ed together and exchange memories of our sons. Nobody (unless they sadly witness the death of their child) gets it - thank God that they dont to be honest. My DH bought me a massive bunch of white scented lillies this week....they are just starting to flower. I will dedicate them to your precious Matthew and my Matt & Gareth.

MultipleMama Sun 02-Jun-13 01:45:34

Shabs, Trips - I haven't got a clue what to say. I've never been in that situation and I pray I never do. I don't know much about your situations (I hate that word seems insensitive but I can't find a more appropriate word) only passing comments about the loss of your sons, something no mother should go though. I'm sending you both my thoughts, especially you, Trips, today.

rubyrubyruby Sun 02-Jun-13 04:43:59

Thinking of you at this unearthly hour my lovely multiple friends xxx

Sokmonsta Sun 02-Jun-13 06:44:10

Oh mama. I cannot believe you got told not to disturb others when she was on her phone. But glad it worked. I know she does not know what you are going through right now and vice versa so I can only assume she wrapped herself up in a bubble of ignorance. Hope you are soon in your own room.

Trips - sending you warmest wishes for the gentlest of days today.

triplets Sun 02-Jun-13 07:29:39

Goodmorning......thank you my friends, esp you Shabs yo who has walked this road with me for 19 years. Unbelievable, 19 years and yet I only have to close my eyes to relive the screaming nightmare of that day. I will go to the cemetery this morning, we have the nurse coming at 8am. xx

Morning girls xx

Hope that everybody who is in hospital is soon 'on the mend' and soon home. I hate hospitals.

Sending my love Trips xxx

MultipleMama Sun 02-Jun-13 10:27:58

Trips - I hope today is gentle if not kind to you.

Had more cramping this morning but nothing like those yesterday morning. Had a scan at 9am. T1 fluid hasn't increased enough but their heart beat is healthy and shows no signs on kidney/organ problems. T2 is happily chilling in their sac with not a care in the world haha.

Chopstheduck Sun 02-Jun-13 15:25:55

hello girls x x

Busy busy weekend!

thinking of you today trips, will light a candle later in memory of your beautiful boy xx

hope Jen and mama are both on the mend soon, and trip's dh. Maybe we should move the shagpile into the hosp! Do hope eveyrone recovers soon x

rubyrubyruby Sun 02-Jun-13 19:29:42

I shall light a candle for your precious Matthew again this evening Trips - I hope the day has been kind to you xxxxxx

MM - please rest xx

MultipleMama Sun 02-Jun-13 21:20:16

Evening ladies.

Trips - thought about you today and gave my boys extra kisses.

Managed to fall asleep around 4am was woken up at 9am to be moved to my new room which is lovely and quiet! Had visits from family & even a phone call from my brother in Russia.

Had 2 more scans both showed no increase of fluid around T1 but they still have a strong heartbeat and was sucking their thumb and T2 had hiccups again.

I've stuck my scan photos on the wall facing the bed so when I'm feeling scared or worried, I just look at them and thank whoever that I'm still carrying them both.

Sokmonsta Sun 02-Jun-13 22:58:17

I'm glad you have your own room now mama. Fingers tightly crossed for you.

I was going to post to say Jen seemed so much better this morning, as is so often the way. But her spark didn't last and by the time we'd had lunch in Sainsbury's and were about to start shopping, she was screaming. Absolutely ear piercing. Didn't want her dummy, to be picked up, to be out down... I ended up carrying her round the supermarket as she did eventually settle enough to snuggle on my shoulder. Jen slept all the way home, had tea, milk and went to bed with barely a murmur. When I checked on her earlier she was back to boiling hot and sweaty clammy.

Both the bigs played up something rotten while we were out. Their table manners went to pot, their behaviour was appalling and the result is the trip to the farm I had planned for tomorrow is now not happening. I'm so upset as we don't often get out for the day and this is a rare week day where we are all together. It would have been lovely as the majority of schools go back tomorrow. Although I have told dh we WILL be taking them to the park as being cooped up in the house all day will send all of us batty. It's not as much of a treat as it would have been but it will be better than snapping and snarling at each other.

triplets Sun 02-Jun-13 23:10:03

Evening girls, thank you all for your kindness..............these "days" become unreal. I did cry at the cemetery, its seeing their names. I now have Matthew, Mum and Dad, you feel as though you have a part of you missing, gone with them.........if that makes any sense. Dh went to bed this afternoon so I took myself off to see a friend and her three batty dogs.........did me the world of good. Dh has had a slightly better day, only was major leak and the redness has started to fade. Kids are back to school tomorrow and tomorrow my brother goes up to London for his heart surgery. Brighter days are hopefully ahead. xx

Sending my love to your brother Trips and best wishes for better health for him.

Tom starts his GCSE's properly tomorrow. We have spent the day revising History.....a subject that we both love. Have googled endlessly and 'introduced' him to Aneurin Bevan and Miners unions grin His last GCSE is June 17th and then he is 'free' till September when hopefully his results will mean a 2 year place at college.

Im too tired to go to sleep if that makes any sense at all xxx

bubby64 Mon 03-Jun-13 00:44:52

Prayers going out to you, Trips, on this awful anniversary, and for your DH, hope he is helped by the nurse in the morning.
Mama- Also prayers for you, your little ones and all your family. Keep looking at those scans if it helps you cope with the stress. So glad you have your own room now and can rest tonight.
Soks- Also prayers gor you and little Jen, the biggies were probably reacting to the general stressful situation, I hope you have a nice day in the park.
Hi Shabs, Chops and Ruby <<<waves >>>

J getting a bit stressed about his op on Tuesday, he came down this evening saying he had a bad dream about the operation. it was nice in one way, as he actually wanted to have a proper cuddle, which he would normally avoidwink Mind you, I think some of it is trying to wrangle tomorrow off, he keeps trying as he said he can't see the point in only going in for one day this week grin

bubby64 Mon 03-Jun-13 00:45:53

Oh, and good luck wishes going out to your brother from here too Trips.xxxx

bubby64 Mon 03-Jun-13 00:50:23

Finally - All the best to both Shabs and Rubys households in the up coming exams, I'm dure your kids will fo you, and themselves, proud. After all, they have wonderful mums encoraging them and cheering them from the sidelines smile

Sokmonsta Mon 03-Jun-13 05:55:59

Morning. X

Morning girls xx

Awake long before the alarm - as usual.

rubyrubyruby Mon 03-Jun-13 07:04:39

I hope Jen is better today Soks x

Bubby - the op is tomorrow? I hope it goes well x

History in this house this afternoon too Shabs. I'm the only one on the school run this morning !

Chopstheduck Mon 03-Jun-13 07:08:25

Morning girls!

Good luck to tomster and ruby's exam student!

Glad to hear dh feeling a little better, and that your day passed relatively well, trips.

Bubby, that sounds so sweet, and it jsut what one of mine would do! Prob is angling for the day off! Hope his op does go well.

Poor Jen, hope she gets through this soon, it really is dragging on! Hope you do enjoy today. I'd say that sort of thing, then never be able to follow through with it. I'm sure though it's us mums that look forward to these days out more than the kids do really!

Mine are back to school today, and the sun is shining. I have a knee injury atm, so no running for at least another day or two, but will probably get out on my bike somewhere.

MultipleMama Mon 03-Jun-13 08:40:11

Morning ladies.

Wish I could be out enjoying the lovely weather but alas I'm stuck in here waiting for my consultant to tell me today's plans. DH is bringing me some home cooked meals!

Sok - Your poor baby girl! I really hope she gets better soon.

Bubby - Good luck with his op! Hope it all goes well.

Trips - Hope your brother's op goes well! Here's to better days!

And good luck to all those LOs sitting exams!

All the year 11's at Toms borstal school have to go in every day!!!! They do whatever exams they have to do and use the other school periods to do 'super learning???' He is glad to go in because he says he cant revise at home. So the uniform is back on......if it lasts until the 17th June (last exam) he will be very lucky!! Noticed this morning that his school jumper is very thin on the elbows grin

triplets Mon 03-Jun-13 09:51:30

Good luck with all exams, my boys are both sitting part one of their double science gcse on Weds! Dh ratty with me this morning so popping out for an hour to see my brother before he goes off. Loads of housework to catch up on, rather be out in the sun! Hope little Jen is feeling better today, good luck for J`s op tomorrow, soon be over. xx

MultipleMama Mon 03-Jun-13 18:51:59

Today's scans showed some increase of fluid and T1 is now measuring 13+2 weeks. Still on IV and oral, and once again on bed rest. Having more blood tests tomorrow and another 2 scans. Tomorrow I turn 14 weeks and enter my 2nd trimester. So relieved.

MultipleMama Mon 03-Jun-13 21:06:13

Just found out a friend died... RIP Mick sad

rubyrubyruby Mon 03-Jun-13 21:34:00

I'm sorry MM sad
Excuse my ignorance, but is increased fluid a good thing?

I hope your brother was ok Trips x

MultipleMama Mon 03-Jun-13 22:33:15

Ruby - Thank you, such a shock. He recently found out he had a heart condition from birth. It finally caught up with him sad

Yes, increased fluid is a good thing. I have Oligohydramnios with T1. x

triplets Mon 03-Jun-13 23:18:28

Hi all................very sorry to hear about your friend Mama, do you know what the condition was? He must have been young? Very relieved for your wee twin 1 smile
My brother has his op tomorrow Rubes, he went up today to stay o/night as he has to report to the ward at 8am tomorrow. Originally I was going to go up with him to keep him company but impossible the way things are here. We have been snapping at each other all day, and had a big fall out an hour ago. Apparently the boys subs for ATC have not been collected for 2 years and we owe them £500!!! When I asked dh he said he noticed they hadn`t gone out of his account and just thought they were being kind to us because of his illness!! I am sooo angry with him for not doing something about it and I begrudge having to pay it out of Mums money she left me. He would kill me if he knew I had told you this, but I need to rant!! Please tell me things are going to get better soon?

MultipleMama Tue 04-Jun-13 00:41:47

Trips - He had a hole in his heart, heart murmur and something to do with his blood clotting, I think. He had been in and out of hospital with it for the past month or so. He was only 35 and had a 2yo ds.

I'm relieved too smile

Did DH think not to check why money wasn't being taken out? Oh dear. It's awful that you have to pay it with you mum's money when it could have been avoided so easily. Everyone needs to rant every now and then and talk to someone who isn't involved in the situation. I'd like to tell you I know it gets easier but I'd be lying to even myself.

Good luck to your brother tomorrow. Fingers crossed!

Morning girls xx

Sometimes its a good job we live so many miles apart Trips angry Men are, at times, pathetically useless.

Chopstheduck Tue 04-Jun-13 07:37:26

Morning girls x

Why on earth didn't the ATC say something sooner too, though, Trips?! I'd be pretty annoyed at them too for letting it go so long.

MM, glad t1 is doing better, and very sorry for your loss. xx

Another glorious day here! I cycled to Windsor yesterday (only about 7.5 miles away from me) packed my lunch and a book and sat by the river in the sun. It was lovely!

dd has an exam today. She is only year 8 - I'm sure there was never this much testing when we were at school. Apparently they should end up with a GCSE grade D at the end of the year - though not entirely sure what the purpose of that is?! It's all so complicated these days. Spanish today, and French the day after her birthday.

Chopstheduck Tue 04-Jun-13 07:39:55

and they don't seem to teach them anything USEFUL neither. We went to a spanish market in London the other week, my spanish is very rusty, but she was clueless! The stallholders were from Barcelona and had very little english. And in home economics she spent a whole term learning how to make PIZZA fgs! And they still didn't even make it properly.

What do they teach in schools these days?

<<feels old!>>

AND the English teacher at Toms school calls COMPREHENSION - reading and writing - or something equally as stupid. All through parents night I kept saying 'Oh you mean COMPREHENSION???' Tom kept kicking me under the table grin

triplets Tue 04-Jun-13 09:20:56

Morning, off for another hospital appt...........seem to live there! here is the sun we have been promised. I am going to withdraw half the money we owe and pay it tonight. Then going to get dh to set up DD to pay the rest off monthly. Yes I am equally cross with the ATC, it looks though as though someone has been fiddling the books down there!

Sokmonsta Tue 04-Jun-13 13:24:34

Phew! Jen seems to have burnt whatever bug it was out of her system over night. I checked her around 10ish and she was soaked through sweaty, red all over and burning up. So stripped her down and let her go back to sleep. Opened the window next to her cot a little. This morning I got up and she was still asleep but felt normal temperature. By the time I got out of the shower she was standing in her cot squeaking at me. And has been perfectly chipper since. She's had a lovely nap and we've even danced while I was putting clothes away. Fingers crossed.

Will be back again later as taking Joshua for his plastic surgery appt in a little while. His little squishy ear will be no more soon.

MultipleMama Tue 04-Jun-13 16:10:27

Trips - I know the feeling recently, I should ask DH bring in a proper mattress and blanket and just go all out! Hope you gt the ATC sorted.

Sok - That's great news! I hope she is getting better. I bet she just needed to sweat that fever off. Hope the appt goes well for Josh smile

Spent half the day in the hospital garden with DH & DC and now my arms and face are covered in heat rashes. Damn sensitive skin.

Had more tests done; turns out my iron levels have dropped from 10.5 to 8.1 so I'm being put on iron tablets. I've only ever suffered with anemia outside my pregnancies so this is a new experience.

T1's fluid hasn't changed since yesterday, so being on this IV drips seems bloody pointless and I'm fed up of constantly needing the toilet especially when I want to nap.

The woman who I screamed at came by this afternoon. Apparently she overheard a nurse discussing my situation with the consultant and came to apologise and came barring chocolate as a bribe. I'm too worried to be petty so we sat and talked until DH arrived.

Sokmonsta Tue 04-Jun-13 20:34:14

Well we have had a good day. Even if we did end up leaving the hospital at 5 and getting caught in the early rush hour traffic. Our neighbours picked Emily up from school and we didn't pick her up until bed time, so we owe them hugely.

Jennifer has been great all day, only throwing a strop for dh during the hospital appointment and again when it came to putting her in the car seat.

Emily on the other hand, walked in the house and saw some Wellies we were given for Joshua by another neighbour. Demanded to know why James had new Wellies and she never got given anything.

So I quietly reminded her that she had just had been on holiday with Nanny and Grandad while we had stayed home, that she had lovely days out and that she had bought lots of things. Also that she had just had her birthday and lots of presents from her friends (she really has been spoilt). Then told her she was going straight to bed. At which she burst into tears.

We have had a kiss and a cuddle, plus a little chat. I know it's mostly down to having had late nights and busy days. Plus she started swimming at school today. But I'm left wondering how long it's going to take to get my usual little girl back (please don't tell me it will be when she leaves home).

Joshua is going to have an appointment sent through in the next few months to have his ear tidied up. In the grand scheme of things it is nothing much, but knowing how cruel children can and already have been...

Just to recap, when he was born, he had what appeared to be a skin tag coming down from the lobe of his ear. Maternity unit said in days gone by they would just have tied some cotton round it and let it drop off but now they couldn't and he would have to be referred for plastic surgery.

Plastic surgeon said it wasn't a tag but was actually part of his ear, in the womb they develop in blobs and join up. Just happens Joshua's ear didn't join up properly.

Originally they said they were going to cut and fold the tag so it joined up to the ear to create a similar sized lobe to his other one. But now we have decided they are just going to take it off. His ear will have a lovely curve, just a really small lobe on one side and the scar will be much less noticeable.

Mama, i'm glad you and the other woman had the chance to talk. Hoping that fluids and rest helps again. I can't imagine the worry you are going through as my low fluids (also twin 1) were from about 29 weeks so all they worried about was whether to deliver early or not. In the end they didn't as Jen's fluids did replenish enough to keep me at the limit.

Trips, hope you have had an improved day. I am still reeling at the atc not collecting subs for 2 years and not contacting you sooner. Speechless!

Sokmonsta Tue 04-Jun-13 20:36:42

Shabs and Ruby, hope the exams are going well. It seems so long ago I was waiting for my results in the post. Oh wait...

Chops, hope J's op went well.

So far so good Sok. grin Tom has about 8 GCSE's left to sit.....

rubyrubyruby Tue 04-Jun-13 21:34:42

Thanks Soks. He has finished for this week so spent the evening around his mates house in the hot tub!

rubyrubyruby Tue 04-Jun-13 21:36:06

We had people view our house this evening. It's very weird showing strangers around your home!

MultipleMama Tue 04-Jun-13 21:44:55

Sok - That sounds like a cool story to tell him when he's older. Hope the procedure goes well. Kids can be mean and cruel and genuinely curious to the point of being blunt.

Even though she annoys me (she doesn't want to work when she gets dole money for free #rage); it was nice to have a conversation that wasn't with passing nurses.

I'm frightened I'm going to lose T1, and it doesn't help when my MW tells me not to dismiss stillbirth/IUGR or brings up that I may not carry full term. She's a brilliant MW but she's blunt and medical so unlike my consultant. I feel I'm pulled in so many directions; happy that I'm having twins or preparing for first. I'm even starting to hesitate telling people it's twins incase T1 doesn't make it and I feel so guilty.

triplets Tue 04-Jun-13 22:56:15

Mama........all will be well, you have come this far and have a little survivor in there. xx
So glad Jen is over her long lasting bug, isn`t it amazing how swiftly they bounce back?
My boys sit their first science gcse tomorrow, J has revised loads but T hasn`t!!
There is very good news! My lovely brothers op has been successful, they have been able to put a stent into a main artery and immediately watched it working smile He will be home tomorrow.
Now the not so good news. The consultant kept us waiting over 90 mins today, then when he did turn up he never took us out of the waiting room, even examined dh there! H is now scaring dh with talk of severe blood poisoning being possible, he went of to speak to a colleague for a second opinion. They have decided to wait until the 13th, dh has to be at the hospital by 8am, if no improvement they will do surgery that day to remove the clot. Dh is really really upset, told him he was very fed up with hospitals and surgery etc. Trouble is I can see this dragging on for weeks, his stomach is still distended and he is still draining, bloody pain. Just when you are feeling miffed with life a txt message came through at 7pm from two of my really best friends who live in Deal to say they are at the O2 watching Rod Stewart envy

Amazing, wonderful news about your brother Trips - so thrilled for him AND you. Not great about DH though xxxx

triplets Tue 04-Jun-13 23:24:56

Thanks Shabs, I am very relieved, he is still at risk as that one out of 4 working but they say its enough. Going to tidy up for him tomorrow before he comes home smile

Morning girls xx

bubby64 Wed 05-Jun-13 09:25:10

Good Morning.
Trips- Good news about your DB, sorry things not going so well eith your DH. Good luck vibes also going out to your boys for their exams.
Soks- Glad Jen is now ok, and that Josh's ear will sorted in such a good way. I'm sure Emily will be fine, it has been a very stressful, busy time for you, and though she has lots of attention from her GPs, its not the same as 'mum time' in her eyes. I'm sure she will settle again soon.
Chops- sounds like you had a nice day in Winsor, hope everything ok with your lot.
Shabs- how is Tom coping, and how are your dad and mum?
Ruby - having a viewing suddenly makes moving 'real', doesn't it? Also good exam luck wishes winging its way to your household.
James's op went well, it was a bit more complicated than they 1st thought, so it took longer to do, and he was last on the list, he didn't go down until 3.30, and got back at 6, so we didn't leave for home until 8pm.
Very annoyed with DH, as I had asked him twice to get new bottles of ibuprofen and paracetamol in ready for discharge, as he was in town, I even texted him to remind him, and he forgot! I had to rush out again as soon as I got J home to the nearest 24hr supermarket, which is 7 miles away to get someangry angry . He had slso forgotten to get the blow up mattress ready (J has a high sleeper).I should have done it myself, but he had asked how he could help!

bubby64 Wed 05-Jun-13 09:32:01

Mama- I just read back my post, and realised I hadnt put in my hood wishes for you! I am sending out keep on going vibes to your little fighter, if hes anything like his mum, he will be fine!
Glad you had a talk with the phone woman, but was a bit shock that she was able to overhear that conversation, that info should have been confidential!

Sokmonsta Wed 05-Jun-13 14:34:53

Afternoon ladies.

<trundles in scones, tea, coffee and generous slices of chocolate cake. As well as a stash of chocolate with jelly beans and popping candy>

Dashes out to rescue Joshua from the top of the coffee table. Again!

<<crawls back into the padded cell and vows to never come out>>

Been with my parents for 6 hours today - carers, nurses and the 'boss of funding' Mums mobile hairdresser turned up in the middle of the meeting and her 'meals on wheels' as well. Dad doesn't have to pay for his care but Mum may have to angry

As I got onto the bus near my house, something snapped in my calf. Felt like an elastic band being 'pinged' I am in piggin' agony. My Mum thought it was hysterical that I struggled getting up the steps at the front of their house. hmm

........and where was Dave Boy Wonder?? (brother) well he had to stay in at his new house for a furniture delivery including a new bed for him and his verrrrrrrrrrrry young girlfriend <<stifles a small scream and rocks in the cell>>

MultipleMama Wed 05-Jun-13 15:00:08

So glad to hear things are going well for everyone but sorry about your DH's Trips sending my best wishes!

How are you, Shabs?

Bubby - So great to hear his op went well. I have to remind DH a few times to do something relating to housework haha.

Thank you, trying to stay positive. Had another scan this morning and his fluid has gone up further. Enough so that they got a real good look at his system. As for the woman, I talked to my consultant and he was miffed and annoyed as he and a nurse were only outside my door. He also spoke to the head nurse for me about it.

DH brought dts in this morning in some shorts... only to realise they were 3-6mo trousers #facepalm Amazingly they fit them lovely around the waist. I'm dreading what he's dressed DD in haha.

I'm homesick and dc sick. I miss tucking my kids in and I'm annoyed as I missed dts2 standing on his own, DH recorded but it's not the same sad but so proud :D

MultipleMama Wed 05-Jun-13 15:08:01

Shabs - sounds like you've strained your muscle or snapped your achilles tendon. I'd get it looked at if isn't better in a couple days.

Seems you've had a busy day! Glad your dad's care is free but same about your mum's.

Your brother is a plonker! He should be with you xx

Sokmonsta Wed 05-Jun-13 16:17:46

<pops in to wonder if anyone would like a spare child or 4. I think the house may be about to fall down and I've locked myself in the bathroom to regain some sanity>

MultipleMama Wed 05-Jun-13 16:59:04

Sok - Send them to my DH, I swear he's a child whisperer. DH only has to give DS a look and he behaves, and for some reason every child he holds falls asleep! However our dts seem immune to his charm :-D

Trips - think we are going to have to dust our holiday nipple tassles off grin - for our new ladies on this thread me and Trips had an amazing virtual holiday on the island of Rhodes a few years ago grin

From nowhere, today, my Mum said 'Oh if we get some money or win the lottery tonight Harry we are going to Crackyfacky (Faliraki) with our Shabbs!!' The thought of me trawling round Crackyfacky (she really thought thats what it was called) with my parents drove me back into the padded cell. She said 'I would love to meet all your friends but I would end up crying because they are so kind to you.'

Life is such a crock isin't it? Wish we had taken them many years ago when we first started going. They would love the hot sunshine and the friendly Greek people. xxx

triplets Wed 05-Jun-13 22:40:01

<<blows dust off of passport, finds flip flops and sarong, old bottle of Ambre Solaire oil, raids book shelf for "get by in Greek" and plays Demis Roussous to get in the mood after watching Shirley Valentine for the 14th time>>

LOL - <<hunts for her Faliraki flip flops that have a faint smell of wee>> x

triplets Wed 05-Jun-13 23:14:49

<<packs Febreze>>

Morning girls xx

MultipleMama Thu 06-Jun-13 11:12:27

Trips, Shabs - Sounds crazy but lovely! What I wouldn't do for a holiday right now. Sun, sea and you know the other ;)

Another day stuck in this room. However I got to see dts2 stand on his own and T1 & 2 are in good healthsmile

Think I may have to revert to using their initials soon all this dts and T1 business is starting to confuse me haha.

bubby64 Thu 06-Jun-13 23:40:06

Evening All
Shabs- please have your leg looked at, if you have snapped the tendon, the quicker the repair, the shorter and better the recovery.
Doesn't seem fair about uour mum, nbut we are in the same position, db has wifked out that if her care is maintained at the current rate, dhe will be broke by September, so much for the so called "savings allowance" of £14,000 that they say you can keep and care still provided fof free, its a a joke!
Trips- Love the thought of your virtual holiday.grin
Soks- breath deep and seek refuge in the loowhenever you need to darling, its vey hard wit 4 little ones.
Mama, glad things are going well with the pregnancy and with your other LOs, fingers crossed you will be home again soon.

Annoyed with DH this afternoon. I went to work today and he was looking after James, who is so bruised and swollen down below he is walking around reminding me of the song "John Wayne is big leggy" and supposed to be on regular overlapping pain relief of paracetamol and ibuprofen so he can keep mobile. R proudly told me he had only given the poor 10mls calpol all day, as he was " a tough 12yr old, who didn't need more!" I promptly dosed him up properly and felt like kickin dh hard in the meat and 2 veg, then denying him oain relief !!angry angry

bubby64 Thu 06-Jun-13 23:41:58

excuse miss spellings, on ipod with tiny keypad!!

Thanks Bubby. My Mam gave me some of her Ibropfroen (that is certainly not how you spell it) gel and I have covered my calf with it. The pain relief is amazing.

I am afraid that any health problems I have are caused by the fact that I am very, very overweight. Was going to put a sad emoticon but then thought better of it....you know what? I have buried 2 of my 4 precious sons.....my hubby is, for the moment, on DLA following an horrendous accident at work AND we are totally skint. We save all year for our holidays in Greece. I need to kick myself up the bum to be honest.


MultipleMama Fri 07-Jun-13 06:19:20

Morning ladies.

I'll reply when I'm more awake right now I'm barely typing this. The sound of bloody birds woke me!

Sokmonsta Fri 07-Jun-13 08:12:15

Morning ladies.

Bubs, your poor James sad
Shabs, you are allowed to have a hmm. Just because you've been through so much doesn't mean you have to suck up the smaller stuff. I'm loving the idea of a virtual holiday right now. Virtually anywhere wink

Mama - birdsong is lovely, but not when you want to sleep! Hope you have a restful day and the twinlets continue to do well. Remind me how old your big twins are?

Chops, trips. Hello <waves>

I emerged from the toilet eventually!

In laws are taking Emily and James for the night tonight as its dh's weekend on. I'm still in two minds whether to let them go as they have both been so horrible, it will be a treat for them (they get thoroughly spoilt). But am trying to see it as a break we all need, knowing I will just spend the weekend shouting at them despite best intentions. Then it will be a fresh start again on Sunday, where my parents have offered to entertain us for the day. Even mum was shocked at James' behaviour yesterday as he kicked her and bit me! <tells self firmly this is just a blip caused by routine going to pot>

rubyrubyruby Fri 07-Jun-13 08:16:10

Shabs - get your leg looked at. Please don't assume snh problems are because of your weight x

Glad the op went ok bubby but DH? WTF are these men like eh? No need for pain or 'toughing it out'

MM - I really feel for you stuck in hospital. It must be so frustrating.

I'm off to a MNers party on Saturday including an MN sleepover! grin such fun!

rubyrubyruby Fri 07-Jun-13 08:17:31

Oh - hi Soks. Xpost

Oh poo - woke up with the alarm but went back to bloody sleep!!

Tom is up, dressed and out the door grin

So he has managed to carry on his 'record' of never being late for school - right through from nursery to the end of High school.

Morning girls xx

rubyrubyruby Fri 07-Jun-13 08:34:04

Hope he hasn't got a morning exam Shabs!

DS has been home for the past 3 days. I came home from work to find bikes on the front lawn and 4 teens crammed in his room. I chucked them all out quick as we has house viewers due at any moment!

No exams today Rubester - History 'Super learning' for the entire day - he is thrilled to bits hmm. He just texted me in his break and said 'Dont know what all the panic was about, I was here with 10 minutes to spare AND there are only about 5 of us who are in out of 200!!'

Why would you allow your kids to stay off when they are doing revision for GCSE's in school?? I dont get that at all.

Now Im hunting for Lews birthday pressie - he is 5 tomorrow!! He always wants something that is really hard to track down AND very expensive - little sod!! I am going to put the money in his card very soon - trawling through Argos, Toys R Us etc etc websites!

MultipleMama Fri 07-Jun-13 09:13:28

Shabs - not all problems are weight related and you deserve to have a good moan. Hope your leg feels better!

Bubby - Men are such plonkers at times. What's painful to a 12yo may not be painful to an adult male so he can't "tough it up".

Soks - Managed to get an hours sleep before the nurse woke to give me the jug of water O have drink within an hour. <glares at nurse's retreating back>. Dts will be 10 months on Sunday :D Take advantage of the peace! Even though I miss them like mad, it's nice to relax.

Ruby - V. Frustrating. Earliest I will be out of here is Tuesday (if fluid doesn't decrease). But they've said whenever I go home. I'll be on bed rest until 20 weeks. Oh the joy.

Has anyone seen the video on youtube of those two men being sitmulated (can't spell today) like they're in labor? One guy turns to his wife and says, "don't laugh at me!" During a 'contraction'. Hilarious

MultipleMama Fri 07-Jun-13 12:40:43

Worst mum ever right here! <waves>

Sok - DTS are 9 months (38w) on Wednesday. I have know friggin idea where I got Sunday and 10mo from. Well, this was embarrassing! Haha.

MultipleMama Fri 07-Jun-13 20:44:48

Just a little update: T1 fluids are still the same, and T2 is oblivious in their own little sac growing happily with yet more hiccups. So good news.

bubby64 Fri 07-Jun-13 21:08:48

Shabs- please font blame your weight, I am overweight too, but things happen to anyone, no matter what their weight. I hope you gound Lews gift, and well done to Tom and his positive attitude to learning.
Mama - its called "pregnancy brain" plus stress and worry. I hope you stivk to the bedrest instructions <<wagging finger just like my mum used too>>
Ruby- hope the viewing went well, teenagers apart.
Soks - let them go, its a break for you too
Hi Chops.
James feeling better today. Getting ready for Young Farmers Rally tomorrow afternoon. we have built and decorated a kite, made a peashooter, carved veg into the shape of a crocodile, collected snails for snail racing, got clothes ready for going on the float (decorated last weekend in Hoe Down theme, and even got out water guns and water balloons for the inevitable water fight! phew!!!
James is under strict instructions not to do anything strenuous.

MultipleMama Fri 07-Jun-13 22:58:10

Bubby - I promise <sighs dramatically like a child wink >. Totally pregnancy brain! DH skyped me with the dc earlier. Totally made my day!

I hope you have fun! It sounds like fun, I'd love to attend something like that. Trying to keep J from doing strenuous will be tough haha.

triplets Fri 07-Jun-13 23:59:19

<<sits in bed with tissues stuffed up nostrils, sneezing, sore throat........bed looks like chemist, paracetamol, strepsils, olbas oil and tissues...........and nuts>>

Shabs booked our flights today, me and thee are off on Sun, my flight arrives an hour before yours, I will be wearing leopard print maxi dress and manky flip flops........and name badge "Triplets" kindly got for me by Rubester......can`t waitsmile

<<observes her 'cutting it fookin' fine passport photo's and sobs>> <<wonders who the bloody hell sat in Max Speillmans and posed for the horrible, old, ugly photos>>

Tom went out at about 2pm with his friend from school and got in at about 11.45pm tonight......he has just worked out that he has walked 15 miles grin - oh the joy of being almost 16 years old!!

triplets Sat 08-Jun-13 01:42:14

<<throws duvet off, opens window and wipes brow.........still good practise for Faliraki>>

snorris Sat 08-Jun-13 01:49:54

is it ok if I just sit in the corner here? I'm waiting for dd1 to come home from a night out. I text her 1/2 an hour ago & she said she was just leaving but isn't back yet.
Apologies to those who don't know who I am - I am an absentee multiple mum in need of a little tlc at the moment. sad

snorris Sat 08-Jun-13 02:09:46

She's just got back smile

Sokmonsta Sat 08-Jun-13 03:47:07

<waves to snorris, hopes she's sleeping now dd is back>

Morning ladies!!

MM - I often forget which child I'm speaking to and don't have baby brain to blame anymore. For some reason I thought your twins were older than mine hence asking. So cute that one is standing now <fond memories>

Had a good day until I picked the bigs up from school!! My car was in the garage unexpectedly still when I needed to get them. As I'd spent the day tootling round town with the twins in the trailer on my bike, I then had to borrow mum's car to get back to school on time. All good so far, until I got all the children out and left the doors/windows open while I re-loaded ready to go to Nana and Grandad's - spoke to mil and she said they wanted to have them, it would give us all some breathing space and as it happens I have a hair appt I'd forgotten about.

Anyway, James decides to get back in the car and play with buttons and switches. Turns lights/radio/hazards on. I turn them off, load car with dc, go to start car. Nothing. Sweet FA. Sit there and swear. Try again, still nothing. Ring MIL to say will be late over, unload, call AA out (very grateful for my 'personal' cover). Swear again! I let Emily play out the front on her bike, put twins down for a nap as they are beyond cranky after not napping the rest of the day. James is not allowed to play out! he comes to see me and asks if I'm "not very proud of [him] mummy" at which point my heart just breaks for him. I was still cross but such words from a 3yo.

Anyway, turns out the battery is only just keeping just over half the capacity it should so not entirely James' fault but had he not turned everything on, it would have been fine. Packed them off to il's once dh got home so I didn't have to wake babies (who slept right through until 9, had a bottle and went back to sleep again!)

Think I'm going to have a fight on my hands over James with my dad.

Clearly my parents have been talking following me saying the other day it was suggested I pop along to a SN group with him (mum came over for a cuppa as I couldn't make our lunch date). Dad was telling me I need to get him seen to, that he's too demanding, violent, how he thought dh might be burying his head in the sand. Have corrected him on that one. Dh has long been saying he thinks James needs more help than we could give him. I'm the one who tries to say he needs his routines/middle child/first son and so on. And I so thought we'd cracked it since Easter. Maybe my expectations got too high. Pretty pissed anyway given that my dad (at 60) displays a lot of similar behaviour to James (3) so pot, kettle, black sprang to mind.

Anyway, dh is off work most of this week so we're making a plan of action to tackle this once and for all!

rubyrubyruby Sat 08-Jun-13 05:21:41

That was a late one snorris - hope you are ok xx

You know we are here if you need us smile

MultipleMama Sat 08-Jun-13 07:54:16

Sok - I do love this stage, they're so adorable. Baby brain is a really good excuse ;)

Sounds like you had a hectic day! I don't think your expectations are high. He's 3 yo like you said. I hope things improve for your LO xx

<Wistfully watches Shabs and Trips get ready for their hopes. Tells them not to forget the sun scream/carrot cream!>

Gotta have more tests today and only having one scan - well according to the nurse, don't see my consultant until 9am. DH are popping up with dc later then he's taking them for hike with the dog. Told him to use the quad buggy as DS1 tires easily.

Just to note; gunna start using initials now. It seems easier.
DS1 - K
DD - A
DTS1 - DO (same initial as twin)


Morning girls xx

Snorris its good to have you back - have been thinking about you xxx

rubyrubyruby Sat 08-Jun-13 08:08:36

Soks - I read your post in the night and do have some thoughts on it but I'm on my phone atm and long posts are difficult.

triplets Sat 08-Jun-13 10:53:41

Oh Snorris...........we have been thinking of you, please stay awhile. xx

Shabs, might have to cancel our trip............not only choked up with a head cold but got a sickness bug as well..............feeling ghastly. sad

triplets Sat 08-Jun-13 12:16:49

smile smile smile Happy Birthday to our darling Lewis......5 today smile smile smile

Thank you Trips grin He just called on the way to his Bowling party!!! He has made a decision that he doesn't like Man City anymore and he is going to be a Man United fan - the little bugger!! grin

He came in, ran up to me and said 'Well Andma what do you reckon to my posh shirt (One of Dans friends had bought him a Man U shirt) I pretended to be sick and he thought it was hysterical. I told him he needed a sky blue Man City shirt on and he said 'No Andma this red shirt matches my hair!!'

MultipleMama Sat 08-Jun-13 17:51:09

Aww shabsn, so adorable!!

Scan results showed that there's no change in fluid, so putting me back on IV as it's still not at the measurement they hoped it would be from the fluids I've been having. Saying that, they're happy that T1 is showing signs of development.

triplets Sat 08-Jun-13 20:29:39

Back in my bed, been sick most of the day, streaming cold............aint life grand??

MultipleMama Sat 08-Jun-13 22:06:14

Aww hope you get better soon, Trips. <scurries round with tissues, homemade lemon and ginger tea, and Vicks!>

Morning girls xx

Sokmonsta Sun 09-Jun-13 08:28:07

Morning lovelies.

Thank you Ruby.

Trips, hope you are feeling better today <plonks slab of choccy cake alongside the Vicks and lemsip>

MultipleMama Sun 09-Jun-13 20:31:26

Evening ladies.

I'm sick of being told mixed messages. Was told yesterday T1 is developing well under the circumstances yet my midwife is concerned that T1 will have IUGR and should think about an early c-section. Which I'm against until necessary. I want a natural birth if possible. DH and Consultant agree with me.

I just don't want to think about anything this early and my MW is just stressing me out with senarios. <sigh> I want to go home and enjoy my PG!

bubby64 Sun 09-Jun-13 20:45:50

Welcome back snorris, hope everything was ok with dd, drop in anytime you likesmile
Trips - oh, poor you, hope you feel better soon, is it too much to hope that dh and kids are looking after you for a change?hmm
Shabs- sounds to me like the kid has his priorities the wrong way round, fashion over loyalty to his Andma!grin grin .
Mama - sounds like grandmothers, footsteps, 2 forward, one back. But you'll get there eventually. wink
Soks - TBH, he sounds a bit like a typical 3yr old boy seeking attention from his poor, tired, overworked and very busy mum to me, but I'm not there to observe first hand. confused
Ruby - hang in there girl, read away and chip in when able, how did the viewing go?
Chops - you ok out there mate?

Rally went really well, although it was overcast, and downright chilly towards the evening. James won with his kite, both in design and flight, Mike came 3rd with his veg carving of a crocodile, in the snail racing they came 2nd and 4th respectively, and the float won 1st place! (preens herself as her animal cartoons were commented upon by judgesgrin ) It all ended in a (very coldblush ) massive water fight, which included 2 other clubs using pumps and water bowsers (just not cricket, don't-cha-know), and to top it all, our club came overall 1st place and won the cup!! Not bad for a club that was only formed last year, and has the youngest overall membership! Good time had by all.grin grin grin
Pics on facebook if you want to have a look. If you you want to take a peek and arn't already FB 'friends' with me, PM me and I'll add you on.

triplets Sun 09-Jun-13 22:37:15

Wowwwwwwwww Bubs, what a clever lot you are, well donesmile

Mama always go with a mothers instinct, you know what you are doing.

Sickness gone thank goodness just full of cold, er..........did someone say is someone looking after me?? Got dd to make us some scones today for lunch..........omg to watch her rubbing in the butter......she was almost holding her nose in disgust, and her face when she got flour on her t shirt!!

When is this weather going to buck up, I can count on one hand the number of really nice days we have had this year. Still got our log fire on, its freezing, north easterly wind...........18 weeks until Autumn and I am still waiting for Spring!!

Morning girls. xx

Today starts the last week of Toms high school life. He has 9 GCSE's to do - last one next Monday....wish us luck, think its going to be a stressful week!!

Bubbs - sounds like you all had a great day xxx

triplets Mon 10-Jun-13 08:33:21

All the luck in the world Tomster, I am sure you will do well!
My boys have a science gcse on Thurs, they will be lucky to scrape through with the crap year they have had at that school. Still sneezy!

Sokmonsta Mon 10-Jun-13 12:43:57


Chopstheduck Mon 10-Jun-13 16:45:46

Good luck Tomster!! And to trips' boys. xx

Hope you are on the mend, trips and was very pleased to hear about your brother. Hope dh is ok? x

Glad the rally went well, that all sounds fab, will go check out the pics now, bubby! How is James?

Multiplemama, is it worth asking for a second opinion from another consultant? Scans can be so tricky! When my dts were due to be born, I had to scream the place down for a c-section cos the consultant thought they were head down, and I thought they were breech. (They were breech). They were also far smaller than they thought they were going to be. I do hope things settle down for you too, and you can relax and enjoy the rest of the pg.

LOL @ Lew with the red tshirt matching his hair! DS1 defected to chelsea a few years ago, much to his grandad's disappointment.

Aww soks! I think if you do have any concerns, it won't hurt to get them checked out. What you said about thinking you had cracked it rang bells with me, cos sometimes ds1 can be fine for weeks, and then things happen again which aren't quite typical! The up and down of it all can be quite deceptive. Try to ignore your dad though, hopefully you will get that good chat with your dh and see where to go from there.

I feel for you over the car too - dt1 locked the keys IN the car last week. Didn't bother telling me neither, til I was about to leave to pick dh from the train station <sigh> Had to leave the kids at home, belt up on my bike to get the keys from dh, then come back and get the car!

shabs how is your leg? That sounded quite sore, and I hope you got it checked out?

I made the most of the sun last week and was barely home. Knee still put out, but managed a slow run today.

I've been having problems with ds1. He got in trouble a few weeks ago for stealing stuff from the kitchen, loose change from my bedroom, money from the money boxes. Then last week I got a text from the mum of his bf - he had stolen £20 from their kitchen. <sigh>

I'm at a bit of a loss with him tbh. J doesn't have a lot of friends as it is, and he has really upset his friend. I've heavily punished him for it, and we had a long chat about the seriousness of it all, but I'm not convinced I've got through to him. He says he took it through jealousy and he wanted the money for sweets. I don't let them have many sweets, though they always either have a snack when they get home or a pudding after dinner. He certainly isn't going hungry. confusedsad

bubby64 Mon 10-Jun-13 20:23:04

Hi Chops - My J had a brief " borrowing" period earlier this year, sad he was picking up money around the house, dinner money from the pot and money from my purse. He was buying sweets from the shop to share with his friends, and he said it was because we didnt give him enough pocket money! We give them £4 per week, but also give extra whenever we go anywhere, for instance, we gave them an extra £5 each at the fete. He got grounded and we got his uncle, who is a police officer to put the fear of God into him! Hope you sort it out soon.
Shabs/Trips - Good luck to all the kids involved with examssmile

<<<waves at Mama, Soks and Ruby>>>

James is doing well, due back to school Wednesday, which can't come soon enough as far as I'm concerned! He is still a bit bruised and sore, but it wasn't helped by riding his bike yesterday after express instructions not too!

rubyrubyruby Mon 10-Jun-13 23:26:38

soks let me start by saying that I have no experience of SN.
Any 3 year old can be difficult and demanding, they can be unreasonable and violent. He has a lot going on in his world and is probably having to fight for attention. This is not your fault, it's just the way things are.

There is a saying that 'a child often needs our love most, when they deserve it least'. My DS3 was very difficult and I found empathy very effective. You aren't giving in to him, you are just loving him and telling him that you understand why he is cross or frustrated. So you are empathising with his feelings but not condoning the behaviour. This really worked or us.

As far as you DF is concerned please consider how emotional involved he is in this situation. As much as he obviously loves his grandson, you are his daughter, and he will be trying to protect you. Listen to him, consider his opinion as objectively as possible and then do what you think is right.

Morning girls xx

MultipleMama Tue 11-Jun-13 13:03:33

Afternoon ladies. Still in hospital and looks like I won't be leaving this week.

Yesterday morning around 4am I had chest pains, headache and felt dizzy and totally weak. They monitored me and while waiting for my results I went ghastly pale and fainted. Turns out despite taking the iron tablets and changing my diet my hb levels have dropped from 8.1 to 6.4.

They've checked my kidneys and they're fine.

I feel exhausted, the walk to the bathroom nearly killed me; I was out of breath. It was a struggle to breastfeed the twins this morning.

They've decided that because of the risks of harming the babies; I've got to have a iron IV and they're giving me B12 (whatever that is!)

They've asked if I want 3-5 sessions or just one. What the hell is the difference? So annoyed and tired and peeved off.

Good news; Unborn babies are doing fine and T1 levels have increased.

Sorry for long post but just fed up, everything is just going wrong. chops, I got the 2nd opinion and he said as the twins are doing fine and I'm being monitored there's no reason why I can't have a natural birth and I don't have to decide now.

Thanks, trips

bubby - Feels like 7 steps back and 1 step forward haha.

Hope exams went well for their little offsprings!

Hope things soon improve for you Mama - nothing worse than being pregnant and stuck in hospital....I was taken in 18 days before I had my twin boys - had pre eclampsia - it was the longest 18 days of my life.

Rubster & Trips - you were both right regarding the child or adult passport thingeymebob. Just spent about an hour in the Post Office getting our renewal passport forms checked. Tom can travel for the full 5 years on his renewal child passport! You both knew more than the bloody Passport Office!! LOL xx

<<small rant>> Two hundred and 17 quid for 2 adult and one child passport - robbin' sods!!! Even Dick Turpin wore a mask!!!

217 quid for three tiny books with ugly pictures in them grin

Thats 5 nights drinks at the hotel for the three of us with a pizza chucked in for supper!!

triplets Tue 11-Jun-13 23:17:52

Evening all............tried to get dk to be sensible and pack a bag just incase they insist on him staying in for more surgery tomorrow......in th end I left him to it! Have to be at the hosp around 8.30am, its a 35 min drive..................watch this space!
Mama..........think you need a <<<hug>>> what patience you have x
Passports are a pain in the bum..........what I wouldn`t give to feel the un on my back.
Rubes I found our itinery for our last road trip, must say it was bloody amazing.....................I would do it all again tomorrow, the best holiday of my life.........................so far.

triplets Tue 11-Jun-13 23:18:55

the "un" ?

Morning girls xx

rubyrubyruby Wed 12-Jun-13 08:04:09

Morning Shabs xxx

Sokmonsta Wed 12-Jun-13 09:36:46

Morning ladies.

Thanks for all your thoughts on James. It's given me plenty to chew over and I'll be back later with further thoughts/update.

Mama - b12 is vitamin b12. I think it helps your body absorb iron. Sorry to hear you're having a rough time and are still in the hospital.

bubby64 Wed 12-Jun-13 13:29:25

Afternoon All
Trips - hope all goes well with dh today, I would have packed the bag anyway despite his protests!
Shabs- We have to renew Rich and the kids passports, waiting until we book a holiday abroad next year, and hope that his mum stays well in the meanwhile so we don't have to go out to Spain. I am determined we are going to have a holiday in the sun next year!!
Soks/mama (((((hugs ))))) to you both.

bubby64 Wed 12-Jun-13 13:35:55

Mama - the vit b12 injections they were speaking about, they usually give 4 to 6 injections every 2-3 days to build up the store, then a "depot" injection every 3 months after to kerp the "store" topped up. They may be talking about giving you an initial depot injectin to start with.

bubby64 Wed 12-Jun-13 21:15:12

J came home from 1st day back at school complaining of severe pain from his wound. I looked at it, and it has a rip-roaring infection!sad . Immediate call to Drs, they saw it and have put him on strong ABs after taking a swab, and are going to re-check it tomorrow sad sad . I feel realy guilty as I had re-dressed it yesterday morning, and, although very bruised, it had shown no real signs of infection then, but how did I miss this brewing ?blush
Needless to say, he is now off school againsad

triplets Wed 12-Jun-13 23:01:41

Evening ladies.............arrived at hospital to be told our appt is tomorrow, was furious and said the consultant phoned both of us up last Weds and changed it to today. So the consultant we were due to see was in theatre! Anyway they got a message to him and he was able to come up and see us. He has decided not to re-open and clean out, he is happy things are progressing naturally, albeit slowly. He is keeping him on high dose antibiotics until it stops draining, could be weeks. So on we go! I now have a vile cold sore in my nose, its very painful, what a picture of loveliness I am grin

Bloody NHS Trips.....what a crock of shite (pardon my French)

I feel about a hundred years old, have black marks around my eyes and am knackered. Apart from that everything is fine grin

rubyrubyruby Thu 13-Jun-13 06:24:54

Oh bubby - poor J sad
These things can flare up quickly and absolutely not your fault but I can understand why you feel bad.
Hope he is ok.

It was good you got to see the consultant Trips and didn't have to go back.

Hang on in there MM!

I'm feeling quite stressed as I have sooooo much on. Lots of work, holiday arrangements and house move <<argh>>

rubyrubyruby Thu 13-Jun-13 06:25:50

<<chucks Shabs the dregs of an old eye gel>>

triplets Thu 13-Jun-13 08:40:43

<<sits with bag over head to disguise the cold sore up her nose>>

Morning girls <<yawn>> I think a vampire would sleep more than I do at night!!

<<peeps under the bag to inspect Trips cold sore>> Very impressed my friend grin I almost typed coleslaw though. <<throws cold water on her face to wake herself up>>

Sokmonsta Thu 13-Jun-13 10:10:31

<chucks snuggly king-sized duvets all round, suggests getting back in bed as its one of those days>

triplets Thu 13-Jun-13 22:32:49

I feel a right mess, had an attack of vertigo this afternoon to top it all, made me feel very sick. Boys "say" exam was easy...........they had better be right! Hope J is ok..........Mama how yer doing? Shabs got some spare bags if you need one grin

triplets Fri 14-Jun-13 06:40:52

Goodmorning............just tried to get up and the room is spinning, not what I need! I didn`t touch a drop last night I swear!

Morning girls xx

Trips that sounds awful.....hope you soon feel much better.

Tom has just two GCSE's left to do - both Maths....one today and the last one on Monday. I thought it was about 10am when I woke up and he has to be in school by 8.15...........it was only 6.22 but I read the clock on my phone as 8.22!!! I feel sick now!! hmm

bubby64 Fri 14-Jun-13 13:35:14

Afternoon All
Trips and Shabs - hope you both feeling better.
Ruby- you sound very stressed, so try and take a little "me" time too
Mama - keep on hanging in there, it seems like a long time to stop in hospital, but in the grand scheme of things, its a drop in the ocean vompared to what you will gain in the end (((hugs))
Hiya Chopssmile

James's wound looks a lot better today, the combination of antibiotics seems to be working well, its still oozing, but no where near as much as before.

We had the boys parents evening last night, what a stressful experience! The teachers were all based in different areas of the school, and the boys had booked 5 minute appointments with the ones we wanted to see. In a very sensible approach <<amazed emoticon! >> they had organised their appointments so they were not supposed to clash, however, every 5 minute appointment over-ran, and it was a real scramble getting between themconfused In the end, we had to split up to get everyone in.
Despite everything that has gone on, both are doing well and meeting or exceeding their targets, James is going to be moved into top set in maths as he has exceeded his target and got a 6c, and the biggest surprise was that Mike's s artwork, especially in clay, is so good he is reaching the highest mark for the subject in the whole year, a 7b . He was never really able to show this ability at Primary, so it was a huge but fantastic shockgrin grin

Sokmonsta Fri 14-Jun-13 21:31:37

Evening ladies.

Bubs - glad the parents evening went well and that your James' wound is getting better.

Shabs - bless you! Hope you are feeling a little more rested today.

Trips - hope you are feeling better. Or safely tucked up in bed being waited on hand and foot.

Mama - here's hoping you are not going too stir crazy and twinlets are still doing well. I second bubs' hang in there.

Chops & ruby. Hope you are both well.

Sorry to hijack thread for non-twin but James...

I was talking to another mum at my twin group Wednesday. There were only the two of us there and she has met James during Easter half term. She too has a James who, like mine, is middle child and attributes much of the problems they have to this. She said her eldest makes sure they get time with patents, the twins naturally take up a lot of time as they are so much younger. So the one in the middle gets overlooked.

I also spoke to preschool about James. Mainly to find out how he was doing and partly to raise a couple of concerns about things he has said about some of the other children and hitting. They have said because he is still at the younger end of their age range, only just turning 3, they won't worry about him yet. But if they can't start getting him to focus on one activity until it is completed, they would think about strategies then. I was quite relieved as he has been very unwilling to go into preschool again, but is fine 5 minutes after I have left and runs to me when I go to pick him up.

I was intending to pop along to the sn group today just to ask their opinion but alas it was not meant to be when another car clipped my mirror and we spent an age sorting that out. A sign maybe?

I'm trying to give him more attention, to stop what I'm doing so he can see I do think what he has to say is important, rather than telling him to go and play. But when he's waking at 4am this morning, 5:30, 5:00 last few days, getting into bed with us and then bouncing all over me. I'm afraid my patience is limited.

We have also upped the ante on house hunting. We saw a perfect house, affordable even. But the landlord hasn't got back to us and it has now been taken off rightmove. It would have been ideal - literally across from a park, masses of solace there for the dc to run around. 4 bedrooms! So instead we have put ourselves on the council housing list. We are rock bottom right now.

Sokmonsta Sat 15-Jun-13 07:03:29

Morning. I'm getting a lie-in <faints with shock>. The children are still asleep! Well, apart from James. But he has only been up since half 6 and is watching cbeebies on the iPad.

Morning girls xx

triplets Sat 15-Jun-13 10:57:19

Morning...........still feeling the same, its a real pain. The dizziness is awful, head full of catarrh............fed up! Dh has sprung another leak, his own fault as he went of to his allotment y/day, God knows what he was doing. He just won`t learn to let his body heal. Men!! Cloudy and windy..............I sooooo love the Summer hmm

bubby64 Sat 15-Jun-13 16:38:07

Trips - hope you feel better tomorrow, your H is his own worst enemy, isnt hesad
Soks - I hope you get some reassurance about James.

Well, broke again after paying yet another bill for the Catalina, which I feel was not essential at the moment, and I have still got my car ( which is enssential! !) to get MOT and tax. sad I know for a fact it needs at least 2 new tyres, and I am very worried about a noise coming from the drivers side front wheel, hope its a ball joint, and not the drive shaft! I know DH could fix either, but its the time and parts we have to pay forsad sad DH has his priorities wrongangry I am working this weekend, and experiancing massive stress just to keep us afloat, and I am looking at taking a 4th job to pay for his hobby!
I am fed up with adking J and M to tidy up after themselves, and had a bit of a meltfown over the state of the house, it looks like a bomb has hit it, dirty crockery and cutlery left everywhere, dirty (and clean) clothes dropped on the floor, surfaces covered in general crap and rubbish, I am really pissed off as I only cleared and cleaned through yesterdaysad angry
Massive thunder storms here, cold and damp. I guess summer is over, or did it ever really start??confused

I just rang my parents. Mum answered. I said 'Will you ask Dad what he would really, really love for Fathers Day because I am struggling to find him something.'

Dad answered....

'The only thing that I would love for Fathers Day is an amazing daughter called Shabbs....Oh hang on a minute I already got my wish come true.' sad <<sniff>>

He isin't usually very sloppy with me but that made me cry xx

triplets Sat 15-Jun-13 22:07:33

Sob.........aw Shabs how lovely is he ? I took a yellow rose to the cemetery today for my Dad, as soon as we parked and I saw my Mums name on the stone I just wanted to bawl. Dad, Matthew and Mum........all together and I miss them all. xx

In bed by 7.30pm after row with dh over dd. Because I don`t feel well I bought curry and bits from Tesco, cost a fortune. One son disappeared to a friends for the night, told dh but not me, other son ate half of what I gave him and dd who said she was starving picked at it and wasted everything. Dh who suggested curry had a tiny helping...............she just picked and then after 5 mins said "can I go"? Dh said yes. I said I was fed up wasting time and money on food, so he had a real go at me. Shabs...........sorry but a 4 letter word came out shock So I came to bed as I get to the stage I don`t want to be in the same room as them. When you have been married for almost 35 years and cooked 3 meals a day you get a bit peed orf!!

triplets Sat 15-Jun-13 22:09:29

Annnnd to top it all she is in her room now eating cereal, thinks I can`t hear her angry

triplets Sat 15-Jun-13 22:11:39

Bubbs you sound as fed up as me have a <<hug>> and a glass of wine xx

OH FOR FUCKS SAKE TRIPS.....sorry I had to shout it out loud. I wish I could change things for you but I cant. I want to come to your house and shout and swear. Holding you close my friend. Yellow roses?? Oh my word I had them in my wedding boquet and in my Gareth & Matts funeral flowers. They are beautiful flowers.

I love you my dear friend xxx

Sokmonsta Sun 16-Jun-13 07:30:49

Aw Shabs. That is so sweet. Your dad is such a great man.

Trips. Hope things are better for you today and you get some apologies.

Mama. Thinking of you. Hoping radio silence is just because you are getting plenty of rest and the twinlets are cooking well.

Bubs. Keep a clean set of crockery for you and leave the others to it? In your situation I'd love to do that but realistically I wouldn't. Am I going to have all this to come? Clothes get scooped up and washed again in this house! Dh was not impressed when he was looking for his jeans and realised they were in the machine. My reasoning was they were in the floor with his dirty socks so assumed they needed washing. If he doesn't bother using the wash basket my next line of attack will be to fold all his clothes up and put them away (even if they are dirty). Since he's complained about the jeans being wearable and he would have put them out if they needed washing.

Chops & ruby. Morning smile

Morning girls xx

triplets Sun 16-Jun-13 07:55:21

Goodmorning girls.............Shabs, you are such a dear and special friend, you understand only too well. xx
Well at least there is a hint of brightness out there, hoping when I get up this awful dizziness has gone, feel like getting out. What plans does everyone have for today?

bubby64 Sun 16-Jun-13 09:50:59

Trips - I had yellow rose too, and they were in my dads funeral flowers - bitter sweet memories of them here too.
Shabs- what a lovely dad you havesmile
Soks - I have already done the washing thingblush . I once refused to pick up or wash any clothes that were dropped on the floor, it ended with all three men saying they had no underwear or socks, and I told them if they wanted things washing, to put it in one of 3, yes, 3! laundry baskets in the house, or wash it themselves. It ended with both boys putting on individual washes of less than 1/2 a load on a full hot wash each, and I decided I couldn't continue to afford that!!confused
We all went out to a pig racing and BBQ event last night (not real pigs btw, but little battery operated onesgrin ) and really enjoyed it. Then it all went pearshaped. We came home and the boys started fighting and rowing (overtired and over excited), them hurting each other and R shouting at both them for fighting, and me for not being able to stop themsad sad This all resulted in me losing it as well and saying a few home truths about the way i am feeling lately. The atmosphere this morning you could cut with a knife, I am the "bad guy" in everyone elses books.sad

bubby64 Sun 16-Jun-13 11:09:54

Update!! Boys went down shop and came home with "I'm sorry" gifts for me sour cherries, my fav!) and fathers day + I'm sorry gifts for DH, all bought with own moneysmile . DH has apologized and said he hadn't realised what an arse he was being towards me, and peace is restored in bubby household!grin grin grin grin

triplets Sun 16-Jun-13 12:46:30

Good Bubbs because its not fair. All very quiet here, gifts given and kids scarper, looks like its a wander down the road to the annual dog and horse show for me, its in the grounds of Walmer Castle so its quite nice.

rubyrubyruby Sun 16-Jun-13 17:26:20

Bubby smile glad you are feeling appreciated at last.

We had a day out yesterday so have been at home today apart from a bike ride and a run.

Massive lunch and I really need to drag myself out with the dog. I also have about 4 million forms to fill in.

triplets Sun 16-Jun-13 22:28:42

Hi all.........dog and horse show was great fun, dogs tangled up everywhere and over sexed horses!!!!!!! blush
Dh had a very quiet day, not feeling well but won`t admit it.
Shabs you around.............I need a song playing for me.........Clifford T Ward........Gaye............reminds me of someone long ago........er not the one I married blush

rubyrubyruby Sun 16-Jun-13 22:42:40
triplets Sun 16-Jun-13 23:28:47

Can`t get it to play Rubes...........never mind.......no good thinking of the past.......Kale Nits as Shabs would say xx

Couldnt get the link to work Rubester.....that could possibly mean I am rubbish on the computer grin

triplets Sun 16-Jun-13 23:36:06

I`m back.................Shabs.........its made my toes tingle with very happy memories of the hot summer of 76.........wish I could turn back the clock just for that one night.................I miss being young sad

That was a long, hot Summer - I hate getting older as well Trips - would love to be 17 again just for a few weeks - knowing what I know now though LOL x

MultipleMama Sun 16-Jun-13 23:56:51

<<shuffles back on to the thread>>

Hello, ladies.

This week has been exhausting. My arms and hands are covered in bruises from being bloody poked every second of the day.

I was hooked up to an Iron IV for 5 hours yesterday, because for the past few days I've had trouble staying awake and even fell asleep a few times when bf the twins and/or expressing.

I had an a B12 injection on Friday, and have to have another in 4 months.

Thursday T1's fluids were extremely low and the doctors told me to prepare for the worst because T1's heartbeat was very faint and they said his system was looking good - today I found out that T1's fluids have increased and heartbeat is strong.

They put it down to me being ill but hoping these injections and meds are helping both me and twinlets.

T2 is healthy as a fiddle and I'm feeling butterflies on my right side where they are.

Completely wiped out and my immune system is gone and I'm full of cold and ready to conk out.

Hope everyone is okay and sorry I've been sucky and not replied to everyone xx

Morning girls xx

Toms last exam and the end of his High school 'career' grin This is the only one that he is nervous about. Cant remember the name they give it but it means Advanced Maths.

Chopstheduck Mon 17-Jun-13 12:12:46

hope you are having a better day, multiple mama, such a rollercoaster for you!

good luck Tom! What will you be doing to celebrate, shabs?

Bubby, sounds like a good outcome, maybe being frank with them all was what was needed!

It was a fairly quite father's day for us. Too broke to do much, but cooked up an Indian feast and had a nice family meal. DD turned 13 and ds1 11 so it was a triple celebration! Can't believe i am now mum to a teenager - eeek!

I've had my mum and dad constantly on the phone over the weekend, my dad called in tears very early sat morning cos he had been caught out lying again and my mum is totally sick of it. Then the phone was being passed back and forth between them and I feel like the piggy in the middle! <sigh> I think things will blow over eventually, but god knows how much more my mum will take of it all.

Ds1 hasn't stolen since the last time afaik, and I really hope he has learned his lesson. He has totally destroyed the friendship with the boy involved though. The money has been returned and I've spoken to the lad involved since, but at the weekend he wrote on Jack's facebook wall something along the lines of 'happy birthday you dickhead, hope you get nothing.' I deleted it before Jack saw it. They had been friends since starting school together, seems such a shame.

Stuck in today as Jack has diarrhea again <sigh>

We go to Faliraki on his 16th birthday in July so he says he is saving his celebrations till then grin

He has though managed to wangle £20 off me to watch his beloved WWE 'pay per view' - which means since midnight last night we will be watching the piggin' wrestling every three hours <<yawn>> its ok if John Cena <<drools>> is wrestling BUT other than that its a pile of poo!!!!

triplets Mon 17-Jun-13 14:34:28

<<staggers in from the allotment..............lettuce anyone?>>
Went up with dk this morning to keep an eye on him as he now has another area leaking!! On my hands and knees for almost 4 hours just weeding.............no noise except for the birds, very peaceful. I can see Matthew and Mum and Dads headstones from there, that makes me sad. Oh I do hope the forecast is right for tomorrow might be 28 degreessmile
Mama what a time you are having..............poor you xx

MultipleMama Mon 17-Jun-13 15:06:09

shabs Wrestling is on?! Damn it all to hell. I must remind DH to buy and record it for me. John Cena is a lovely sight for my eyes, those muscles and the way he speaks <<sigh>> but I wouldn't mind a bit of CM Punk either, us edgers should stick together haha.

Trips - I've had to bribe the nurses to let me "decorate" the room, because I'm that bored haha.

Sokmonsta Mon 17-Jun-13 17:20:18

Oh mama! We don't mind you not replying (but do worry lol). You are having a horrid time so I hope some decoration in your room helps cheer you a little.

I bought a little bay tree today, half the price in aldi than I'd pay in a garden centre so hoping not to kill this one! Am itching to spend some decent time on my veg patch but the tip that is the house keeps nudging things in my way. I got my cucumbers and courgettes from dad planted though. Just need to lift some more bulbs and wait for another lot to die back and then my veg patch is mine! All mine!

Twins are doing great. Joshua keeps trying to take those tentative first steps. And then decides crawling is easier. They're working together to drive me potty and take books off the book shelf. Jennifer has started blowing bubbles again so spends her days soaked under her chin, even with regular bib changes.

MultipleMama Mon 17-Jun-13 22:34:30

Sok - Thank you. I miss my garden and messing with my veggies, I can't even have flowers in my room because they could make me ill. You know, you're ill when they start wearing masks around you so you don't catch anything.

I remember that stage, I remember thinking it's time to baby proof everything haha.

Chops - How are you? x

Been told I'll be here until I'm 18 weeks then be allowed home on bed rest and go back to 2 weekly scans, then hopefully if I improve and twinlets do, go back to 4 weekly scans.

bubby64 Mon 17-Jun-13 23:22:17

mama- time goes so slowly in hospital, doesn't it. Hope the decorating goes well smile
chops - hope this thing with your parents blows over, I remember what its like to be in your position as piggy in the middle. Happy birthday to the 2 elder choplets.
Shabs- its a huge milestone, isn't it, your child last day at school.
Soks- Glad thevteins srd foing well, and you sound a lot happier in your post.

Our news, well, J's wound is looking better, its stopping oozing, but its gaping a bit. The school are not happy about him going on the camp next week with it as it is, as the dressings will need doing. They are not supposed to touch any child, especially in such a "sensitive" areasad . I have spoken with the nurse at the surgery, and she has ordered in some waterproof dressings, and if I have to drive the 25miles to the camp each day to redress the wound i'll do so, as its not fair to have him miss itsad sad sad sad sad sad

triplets Mon 17-Jun-13 23:52:22

Aww Bubby what a wonderful Mum you are. Hope he makes it smile
My dh is still struggling with his health, we have a "hospital at home team" who visit 4 times a week to do dressings/obs/bloods etc. He now has 3 bags stuck on his tummy to drain the blood from the clot, plus 2 small dressings...........its a complete nightmare, almost 8 weeks since the op. Night night everyone xx

Morning girls xx

bubby64 Tue 18-Jun-13 08:55:02

Trips- no, I'm not wonderful at allblush blush I just couldn't stand the thought of his constant moaning and upset if he was at home, and all his friends and brother were at camp, he would be an absolute nightmareblushconfused grin Not to mention the waste of the £180 it has cost me to get him there, I know that most of it would be refunded, but when!

MultipleMama Tue 18-Jun-13 11:47:22

Bubby - I hope he gets to go for your sake and his. I'd bet he'd be miserable if he had to stay him and won't that be fun for you! Haha. Glad his wound is doing better smile

Trips - Sounds like you have a mad house! 8 weeks is a long time to be dealing with the same problem. Hope things really do get better.

Shabs - Morning.

Met a woman from SCBU today in the social area. She has a little girl who was born 6 weeks early but is doing well. We got talking about breastfeeding etc and after thinking about it and getting DH's opinion I've decided to donate breast milk to her LO (with her approval) as she is unable. Talked to my consultant and the head nurse on SCBU and they see no problem providing I have a blood test and everything checks out and wait until my cold clears up.

Feeling a little ill but awake enough to move around a little so my muscles don't seize up and sat in a wheelchair.

Hope everyone is having a good day.

Chopstheduck Tue 18-Jun-13 12:29:05

that is a lovely thing to do, mm!

i think you are a bit wonderful too bubby, I'd not want to drive 25 miles round every day! Fingers crossed it does heal soon though so he can go without any problems.

that sounds lovely shabs, I bet it will be one hell of a holiday this year, sounds like he needs it!

I'll have some lettuce trips! I've not grown anyrhing this year, though I do have some onions and potatoes popping up from last year. I guess I must have missed some when digging over. I love home grown veg but once we go away chances are it will all die, so it's simply not worth it.

I ordered some stuff from debenhams and it;s got to go back - it's all too big grin It's weird, I've not lost weight in about a month, but I'm still shrinking, must be building muscle. My pole fitness course starts on Thursday, I'm really looking forward to it.

Better go call my mum now and see how she is <sigh> I think my dad is the worst one to deal with really, very melodramatic and at the weekend didnt even want to open his father's day cards which I thought was a bit mean.

Morning girls xx

Tom is finally having a haircut today. I tied it into a pony tail last night to prove a point....the pony tail was about 4 inches long!!! hmm He does suit long hair much more than short BUT its being cut today to something more managable.

Sokmonsta Wed 19-Jun-13 10:36:03

And today's award for most irresponsible parent goes to...

Emily and James left the bathroom step by the front door so the twins managed an escape. Didn't even realise as I was upstairs. My neighbour knocked to bring them back! The twins thought it a mischievous adventure though. Could have been so much worse but another twin proofing needed methinks. Chain stays permanently on door!

Oh mama! Sorry you're missing your garden, but such a lovely idea about the bm.

Bubs, hope ds gets to go on trip and you don't have to do the drive.

shock Awww Sok!!! Little buggers loves!! I bet your heart was in your mouth when the neighbour brought them back.

My two used to have dummy pinching moments LOL. Would lie them side by side to change them and it was always my 'little 'un' Gareth who did it. He used to wave his arm around and catch Dans dummy in his fingers and put it straight in his mouth!!!

MultipleMama Wed 19-Jun-13 13:29:03

Oh crackers, sok! I bet your heart was going a mile a minute! Little heart attacks they are!

Guys, I have some big news my beautiful baby boy, Domeczek (dts2), took his first steps last night!!! DH managed to record a bit of it and sent me it and when they visited today he took a few more. He's growing too fast!

Sokmonsta Wed 19-Jun-13 22:16:22

Oh mama! Congratulations on a walking twin.

My day got better. Went to the supermarket to pick up milk and bits straight from school, so had all 4 dc in the car. Twin trolleys in this store are kept right at the front so I parked (nowhere near the trolleys unfortunately) and went to get one. As I'm walking back across the front of the store, granted it could have looked like I was going in, a woman pulls up sharp and tells me I've left my child in the car. Told her actually I'd left 4 and stalked off. Cow watched me to make sure I went back to the car.

MultipleMama Wed 19-Jun-13 22:26:11

Thanks, Sok. So proud.

What a cheek that woman had! She should have kept her mouth shut before jumping to conclusions. I would have just been sarcastic and said, "it's okay. I left the window open a little." And walked off haha.

Talked to my consultant and booked us in for a 20w 3d scan and gender reveal (if possible).

triplets Wed 19-Jun-13 23:04:26

Evening ladies.............feeling abit queasy, don`t know why.......def not pregnant..........ha ha! Dh still having problems, just no sign of this clot draining away, almost 8 weeks since surgery. Mama hope they are really looking after you, we would visit if we could, are you "norf - sarf or somewhere in the middle? Must be one of us near............we`d be bound to cheer you up, I would bring my twin sister Shabs grin

grin I reckon Darn Sarf Trips.....there's only me up in t'Norff. xx

I am sat here with my gob wide open breathing in and out - my nose is not blocked up at all but I cant breathe through it.....<<shakes head at her mental state>> Im having to sleep with the edge of my thumb in my mouth cause I feel like if I close my mouth I will stop breathing!!!!

<<waits for the men in white coats to throw her in the padded cell>>

triplets Wed 19-Jun-13 23:59:03

Shabs............are you feeling abit panicky...........I feel I could easily have a panic attack if I`m not careful............feel weird......that's why I`m on here to try and take my mind off of it. Hope you are ok?? xx

Yes I think so Trips. I keep telling myself I take two tablets every day - one is a beta blocker and one makes me wee which helps with blood pressure!!! A dieuritic, deuritic, dieur....oh a bloody water tablet. The beta blockers especially, according to my GP, should help to elimate panic attacks.

Keep finding myself with my shoulders around my ears and breathing really weird - kind of panting!!!

Think I need to get a new straight jacket to be honest. I am officially getting on my own nerves!!

triplets Thu 20-Jun-13 00:10:49

Oh I do the shoulders thing, weird isn`t it. You need your holiday, how many sleeps to go? smile

LOL this is the first year I havent done 'the sleeps' thing....its errrrrr 34 sleeps till Falibleedinraki!!! and I cant wait!!!

triplets Thu 20-Jun-13 00:18:02

Well get up them wooden stairs then it will be one less grin kale nits xx

PMSL at what my Mam calls Faliraki......CRACKERFACKY - sounds very 18-30 holidays word!!!

Night love - hope you get more sleep than I know I will xxxx

Morning girls xx

triplets Thu 20-Jun-13 08:44:10

feel like a zombie..........tried to sleep, still awake at 12.45am.........sleep..........1.30am ambulance outside, goes into home opposite...........15 mins later crew, care worker and elderly lady (walking) go to ambulance (all laughing and joking). Sleep.........2.45am two foxes screaming and fighting in my garden (throws can of deodorant)........sleep..........4am Molly (my cat) is meowing in the garden below my window (throws hairspray)......sleep...4.45am ambulance brings lady back (all laughing and she walks unaided)..............sleep......alarm goes off at 6.30am! Dk just asked me if I feel like doing some weeding at the allotment this morning confused

Chopstheduck Thu 20-Jun-13 10:05:45

hope you are feelign better today shabs x

lol @ trips! I'm guessing he slept through all this?

I'm jsut back from a 4 mile run, it is soo hot and muggy out. It was forecast for rain, and not a drop. I look like a sweaty beetroot - kinda like this angry but damper! grin

Had to get out early too before all the drunken louts gridlock the roads. I hate Royal Ascot - I swear they must have pimms on their cornflakes before even arriving. I went out Tues at nearly 10pm they were still racing their ferraris and r8s on the roads. GO HOME!!

MultipleMama Thu 20-Jun-13 11:07:42

Haha, I'm down sarf but I grew in d'North (barnsley) if tha knows wha am tranna say. My accent is still very thick ;)

I'm doing good, feeling better. I have proper food and my little room is decorated with finger paintings, love notes (some for adult eyes only) and scan photos haha.

Hope you two feel better!!

Chops - Wish I could start running again! Damn boy racers , even if some are grown men!

LOL its weird but I never, ever imagined you being from up t'Norff Mama....no idea why! Now Trips could never be from up t'Norff - she even swears in a lovely posh accent grin BUT her DH has relatives in the Norff - not far from us, so I reckon he is letting the side down grin

MultipleMama Thu 20-Jun-13 12:06:13

Aye, only moved when I was 16. Everyone says I'm hard to understand some times because I talk too fast and miss out words which DH calls lazy talk haha.

Haha, now I want to hear her swear! LOL. Totally letting the side down wink

Sokmonsta Thu 20-Jun-13 20:40:09

Evening lovely ladies.

My two smallest mischief makers have been keeping me busy. They bigger two have kept me even busier!

Went to my mum's for lunch. Jennifer crawled behind her chair (where the cats used to escape to for p&q) and got stuck! It was funny but i did feel obliged to rescue her instead if getting the camera. No other grandchild has ever done that. Although I guess it could be because the twins will be the only ones to not really know cats at Nanny's house.

Jennifer then found the playground which is Dad's desk. And the screwdriver, tin of rattley things and paperwork made great toys. Well if he insists on just dumping stuff there...

Joshua keeps trying to take those first wobbly steps. But every time we think he's going to actually do it he grins, drops to his knees and scrambles across instead.

Emily went on a narrow boat ride with rainbows today, thoroughly enjoyed herself despite some fears about falling in/boat sinking/not liking it.

James. Well. He's been a little shit. I hate saying that, and I've been trying so hard today to give him some attention as I know that's what he wants. But he has repaid that by pushing the twins over, lying on top of them and stopping them from moving, making them both squeal like stuck pigs, smacking them. Hitting them over the head with a toy and snatching toys off them. All at the same and separate times. Then I got a text saying the children's centre woman wants to go and see him in his preschool environment and the nursery nurse who works with our hv team wants to do a follow up.

bubby64 Thu 20-Jun-13 21:47:40

Hi All. Soks- that's it, I am convinced it the name wink I was told when I was picking names by an ex health visitor friend that almost every "James" she knew was a handful, and not to pick that name, well, i obviously ignored her and now, well I am paying the penalty, and so are yougrin grin grin. Mama- take notewink

Trips/Shabs- it must be something in the air, I feel stressed up to my eyebrows and can't sleep either, also having difficulty in eating (unless its chocolate!), haven't finished a proper meal in daysblush

Chops- You are foing ever so well with the gitness campaign.smile

My James can go to camp if he and Mike change the dressings between them, teachers want nothing to do with it as he has to take his pants down (child protection issues angry) His wound is finally healing, he has been put on a further 5 days of ABs just to be on the safe side. The surgery have provided us with waterproof dressings for both wounds as they eill be doing watersports in the sea. I was talking to the OH Dr at work, as he lives near where the camp is, and he has said if the the boys have any problems with the dressings, to give him a call, and he will ask his wife, an ex practice nurse, to pop over and help them, what a diamond she is grin grin .
For the camps insurance purposes, i had to get a letter from the GP to say what he can and can't do, its mostly things using a safety harness he can't take part in. The gp secretary said if she typed the letter it would cost us £21shock The doctor said "that's ridiculous" and wrote it by hand herself, bless hersmile

triplets Thu 20-Jun-13 22:10:46

Mama which part of the sarf?? See I am sarf near the sea...........I can see FRANCE on a clear day, lovely castle down the road where the Q Mother used to stay............dead posh innitgrin Like Shabs I can`t imagine you with a northern accent..............why did I think you were Russian? Glad James can go to camp, would be such a shame for him to miss out. As for the name I must say my James is really such a kind sweet boy............no trouble out of the three..............whereas every Thomas I know.......and also every Rebecca............. hmm
Felt really rough again tonight, sore throat, two weeks now I`ve had this thing........
Never seen a 3d scan hope you will share it with us Mama, very exciting.........do you want to know the sex? I never did with my trio, but I got what I wished, a girl and two boys smile
Hope the bloody foxes stay home tonight!

MultipleMama Thu 20-Jun-13 23:36:20

I live in Greater London so not proper sarf. So posh, Trips but I bet the view is lovely! My father is Russian but I was born in England, so no awesome accent! What is weird is how K (ds1) seems to be picking up DH's German accent.

I'll think about the scan photo. I'm private when it comes to my kids and DH is scarily protective about what we put on internet about them. But I'm sure a quick view won't hurt ;)

I'm too impatient to wait for both to find out sex and DH likes to organise so he wants to know too.

Glad J gets to go camping! You both deserve a break and what a lovely thing for the nurse to offer!

Glad Emily enjoyed herself and the twins seemed to have fun too! Sorry to hear about James' behaviour must be hard to watch and not knowing why he's doing it xx

Thanks for the name warning haha! We have names picked out!

Morning girls xx

Sokmonsta Fri 21-Jun-13 07:48:33

Morning ladies.

<Vows to start calling James by his middle name>

MultipleMama Fri 21-Jun-13 19:33:00

Evening ladies.

T1 is improving each day and I have a sneaky feeling it's a girl but DH think's it's a boy, but we both think T2 is a boy. We've even placed a bet; he wins I buy him rainbow drops, if I win he buys me peanut brittle!

Sokmonsta Sat 22-Jun-13 05:01:24

That is good news, must be such a relief for you mama. Hope you're not going too potty in the hospital.

rubyrubyruby Sat 22-Jun-13 05:13:38

Morning Soks smile <<yawn>>

Morning girls <<tries not to move her head in case the cider apple juice sloshes about>> xx

Sokmonsta Sat 22-Jun-13 10:33:45

Yawn indeedy ruby. Don't think it'd take you lovely lot long to work out who was responsible for me being awake at that ungodly hour.

Y'know I always used to be good at early mornings. It was our agreement that dh would do the night shift and I'd get up in the morning as he's a night owl and I am so very definitely not. But lately we're both suffering an immense lack of sleep. Worse than when any of the dc were babies!

triplets Sat 22-Jun-13 12:14:45

Afternnoon............save me some peanut brittle Mama I have an undying passion for it smile
Dh and boys gone off to a local airshow (dh begrudgingly) its peeing it down and blowing a gale!
Dd`s friend just arrived for the day, they are going to have a chilling out day, movies, popcorn etc...........I had hoped to have her to myself, a little bonding and was going to take her shopping for a new swimsuit as I have just got a cancellation for Center Parcs next w/end as they have the Mon off as a training day.............which is a joke as all the blardy teachers are leaving! So............what shall I do with myself all day..........suggestions please by email grin

oooggs Sat 22-Jun-13 18:43:45

Sorry been absent for a while felt the need to pop by and show my support for snorris - thinking of you all x

MultipleMama Sat 22-Jun-13 22:19:06

Trips - Share? Peanut Brittle? That's a tough decision! Do I share and be nice or eat it all?! I guess I can share if I win. ;)

I haven't been to an airshow in years, I loved them especially doing the helicopter ride. The days I have for myself (which are very rare these days due to bf) I full on pamper myself and boringly curl up with a book by the fire.

sok - I hope you manage to find some sleep! I'm sleeping too much and wake like a zombie!

T1 was kicking wildly today during the scan, which is great news as before they didn't have much room. T2 was sucking their thumb and doing this weird thumping thing with their leg.

My iron levels are increasing slowly, same as my hb levels. Still feeling exhausted but feel more awake, my cold I'd disappearing. Everything is going well and I so can't wait to go home in just over a week!

How is everyone, today? (Sorry if I missed anyone out, I can't see the previous page)

bubby64 Sat 22-Jun-13 22:41:03

oooggs!!!!! <<<waves madly>>> nice to see you!!
Soks - has everything settled fown a bit with James, and is Josh managing those steps yet?
Mama - congrats on your walking little one, and also the news T2 is doing better, how nice if its another boy/girl set.
Trips- hope you got your swimsuit, a break at center parks sounds great, the teachers here have a pd day Friday, so at least the hoys will have a 3 day weekend to revover from camp.
Shabs- hope the headache is a little better.wink
Rucksacks packed ready for Monday (just to make sure they don't wear the clothes they need!)
DH has hurt his back at work, zonked on a mix of diazepam, naproxen and co-codamol, his manager said he is not going to pay him for being off, even though he hurt it doing a job for himsad GP has said its disgraceful, and we ought to threaten him with a claim and see what happens. Our luck doesn't seem to be getting any better, I am starting to wonder if we have been cursed by an evil gypsy or somethingblush
The good news is my best friend moves on Monday, it will be great having her only 10 minutes away againgrin grin

MultipleMama Sun 23-Jun-13 08:16:39

Thanks bubby, I'm so glad they're doing well. Gives me hope that I can birth them naturally. My first set were ID (MoMo) boys so I'd love it if this time is boy/girl.

Hope your boys have fun on their trip! Shame about your DH though, hope those pills are helping!

Morning girls xx

Good to see you Ooooogs xx

blush too many o's and not enough g's - sorry love xx

MultipleMama Sun 23-Jun-13 19:53:44

Which name goes better with Aubrey Greta (dd); Izabella Riley or Elizaveta Grace?

We have the boy names settled, why is choosing girl names so hard?!

rubyrubyruby Sun 23-Jun-13 19:58:05

Izabella Riley

I love that one

MultipleMama Sun 23-Jun-13 20:38:44

Ruby - I love that one too, everyone does except DH (he prefers the latter) so gotta try and persuade him somehow!

triplets Sun 23-Jun-13 22:42:30

Very weary tonight, foolishly offered to do some weeding at the allotment this pm, grabbed a handful of weeds to find they had nettles in them.............agghhh!
Still headachey and croaky, over two weeks now..........need some sunshine to cheer me up, today we had on/off rain...........never known such a bad Spring/Summer. Lovely names Mama, so unusual smile

MultipleMama Mon 24-Jun-13 06:12:18

Morning ladies.

Trips - Rather you than me, I hate planning anything nevermind for someone else! Props. Thank you, all my dc have DH's heritage (German) in their name and we agreed this time we'd go with my heritage (Russian).

Hope you feel better soon!

Sokmonsta Mon 24-Jun-13 07:25:53

Morning ladies smile

Morning girls xx

Just got up shock have been dreaming about me and DH going trying to get IVF treatment so we can have another baby <<wets herself with fear>> I am way beyond tired this morning!!

triplets Mon 24-Jun-13 11:54:44

SHABS....shock....<<phones man in white coat>>

Woke up in a cold sweat Trips grin The doctor was talking about how they would like try for me to have a multiple pregnancy - <<hides in the padded cell>> woke up trying to think of what I would call boy triplets PMSL.....because we all know there is no point in me picking out girls names hmm

Mama - I like the Izabella name as well...my lovely Grandma was called that but everybody called her Bella x

MultipleMama Mon 24-Jun-13 14:45:09

Shabs - I didn't like it at first but it's really grew on me over the past weeks. DH loves Grace but I hate it. However he did choose Riley so I think I'm winning him over!

Triplets not twins then Shabs? I'd love to experience triplets but after
2 sets of twins I'd think I'd be too overwhelmed! Haha.

Chopstheduck Mon 24-Jun-13 17:42:29

I'm gonna buck the trend and say I prefer Elizaveta Grace, so pretty, and a little more unusual. Both lovely names though.

ran four miles, walked 3, and cycled 13 today - Zzzzzzzz!

Hope your dh is feeling a bit better, bubby!

MultipleMama Mon 24-Jun-13 17:44:42

Shabs - I didn't like it at first but it's really grew on me over the past weeks. DH loves Grace but I hate it. However he did choose Riley so I think I'm winning him over!

Triplets not twins then Shabs? I'd love to experience triplets but after
2 sets of twins I'd think I'd be too overwhelmed! Haha.

MultipleMama Mon 24-Jun-13 17:45:51

Shabs - I didn't like it at first but it's really grew on me over the past weeks. DH loves Grace but I hate it. However he did choose Riley so I think I'm winning him over!

Triplets not twins then Shabs? I'd love to experience triplets but after
2 sets of twins I'd think I'd be too overwhelmed! Haha.

MultipleMama Mon 24-Jun-13 17:47:33

Shabs - I didn't like it at first but it's really grew on me over the past weeks. DH loves Grace but I hate it. However he did choose Riley so I think I'm winning him over!

Triplets not twins then Shabs? I'd love to experience triplets but after
2 sets of twins I'd think I'd be too overwhelmed! Haha.

MultipleMama Mon 24-Jun-13 17:48:58

Shabs - I didn't like it at first but it's really grew on me over the past weeks. DH loves Grace but I hate it. However he did choose Riley so I think I'm winning him over!

Triplets not twins then Shabs? I'd love to experience triplets but after
2 sets of twins I'd think I'd be too overwhelmed! Haha.

bubby64 Mon 24-Jun-13 22:13:02

Mama - you've got a case of the repeatsgrin grin grin grin
I like the Isavella Grace personally.
Trips- I hate those young nettles, the're viscous!
Shabs- What a nightmare!!! triplets (sorry tripsgrin grin )
Chops - you are making me tired just reading about your exercise routineblush

Boys are at camp - they just rang me, saying its very dark in the tentssmile James wants to fo the activities which need safety harnesses, which will press on the wound site. He wants me to talk to the teachers and let him do those things, saying he feels ok, I don't know what to do really. I might say to them let him try and see how he feels.
House is very quite, and has remained tidy after I blitzed it yesterday eveningsmile

MultipleMama Mon 24-Jun-13 22:29:26

Damn bloody internet refreshing my pages! Throws laptop in a hissy fit. So annoying.

DH finally agreed!! but only because I may have bribed my four year old to keeping telling VaVa how nice Izabella was grin

Our two main names(depending on gender reveal) are; Boy - Sevastyan Izaak, and Izabella Riley. Names will be split if same sex twins with new middle names.

Bubby- You could let him try just the harness on and if he shows even the slightest wince not to let him do it then maybe he's at least tried it. Bless him.

Good news; as I'm almost 100% cold free and my levels are slowly rising they say I can go home hopefully before this Thursday. Yay.

triplets Tue 25-Jun-13 00:04:43

Sob sob sob.......pass the tissues...........just watched Long Lost Families on I-player........sob sob sob...........

MultipleMama Tue 25-Jun-13 00:11:45

Not you as well, Trips! I blubbered like a baby watching the father/daughter reunion. I love happy endings!

Same here Trips - so very touching. Even Tom was wiping a tear away watching it!

Morning girls xx

Sokmonsta Tue 25-Jun-13 08:13:13

Morning. My pit last night didn't post! It misled me! Will catch up in a bit.

MultipleMama Tue 25-Jun-13 12:38:51

Afternoon ladies. I am 17 weeks today and already feeling butterflies - no hiding my bump now! Lol.

I expressed milk for the mama in SCBU today. She's asked me if I want to see the LO at visiting time. Should I say yes? I want to but I'm scared that seeing ill babies would upset me.

Sokmonsta Tue 25-Jun-13 16:16:19

I'd say yes. From the pov that you will get to see the baby you are helping. I know it's upsetting but mum obviously thinks very highly of you and the help you are giving as ordinarily they wouldn't let you in.

I remember the day Scbu told me They wanted to send Joshua to me from Scbu onto post natal. I completely panicked! I begged them not to (I was a wreck and they have me an hour's notice). I begged that they keep the twins together as it was important to me they not be separated. In the end I gave myself a shake and said if they could keep him until after lunch, I'd fetch him over when dh arrived.

When I went back after visiting to see Jennifer, and took Joshua with me, I was pleasantly pleased to see an old school friend's baby occupying 'his' space. Because they'd moved Joshua out, they'd been able to move her baby out of nicu. It gave her hope that her little girl was going to be ok. We've since stayed in touch as the babies birthdays are only a few days apart. It's crazy to see how her 31 weeker is huge now compared to the twins.

Sokmonsta Tue 25-Jun-13 16:17:25

Trips - have you considered turning the allotment into a wildlife haven? No worrying about the nettles then.

Sokmonsta Tue 25-Jun-13 16:22:12

Work worries here today. Am going to be disabled off by the look of it due to my pnd being a severe underlying medical condition. My boss is/was coming out tomorrow to disclose my ohp report and stupidly I agreed before i got hold of the union for some attending support. Now the union rep can't make it unless boss gets him relieved from duty. Which he's refusing to do, says I've had plenty of time to organise it.

Have sent a polite but blunt email saying I've only had since Friday and in hindsight I should not have agreed to the meeting without confirming representation, but I didn't want to be seen as obstructive given my boss had not contacted me on our agreed day/time.

I don't care whether they sack me or whatever. I'm not going back whatever happens. But he's just so damn persistent I can see him turning up tomorrow regardless. Union have to me I don't have to let him in. I think I might go out for the afternoon to avoid the confrontation though, especially as I have told him 3 times now I cannot do it. The guy emailed me, then as soon as the email came through (I'd not read it as was driving), he rang my mobile. 4 times one after the other. C'mon, take the hint that I couldn't answer the phone after at least the second time.

MultipleMama Tue 25-Jun-13 17:15:15

I said yes and went to see the LO. She's so adorable and bigger than what I expected she looks just a bit smaller than the twins who were born at 37+3!

I got to say hello and was there when they gave her milk through the feeding tube. I've told the mama I'll express as much as I can for her but to let me know via text when she's popping home for shower and sleep so I can express and send her off with some milk to pop in freezer.

I think I have a new friend. We text and swap baby/toddler updates. We also moan and gossip. When I come for my scan in about 3 weeks, her baby may be going home!

Seeing all those babies needing special care did upset me but it was nice to see that every baby had someone there talking to them or holding their hand. Very moving.

Sok - I think that's stalkerish behavior. There's no need for him to be calling you over and over if you don't answer. That's harassment if you ask me. He's an idiot. Stick to your guns and fuck him and his lousy attitude towards you.

Sokmonsta Tue 25-Jun-13 19:20:06

Had a reply via email, 10 minutes before the end of shift so no chance of getting hold of union after (a deliberate act methinks). Boss is insistent that he will be coming out and spouting bollocks about contractual obligations. Even though this is so he can show me a report I already have a copy of.

Obviously I tried unsuccessfully to get hold of union. They will get the message first thing. In the meantime, dh has said if I don't want to go out to avoid possible confrontation, I shouldn't have to. And has arranged for a friend to be with me. He's one of these lovely gents who doesn't suffer fools gladly and won't be polite in telling them if needed. So I needn't worry about feeling intimidated, and if the message isn't being heard from me, he is quite happy to tell my boss to fuck off.

MultipleMama Tue 25-Jun-13 22:05:00

My DH is like that. He has no problem giving someone what for if they're upsetting someone he cares about. Very alpha male about it haha.

Hope things get sorted out!

Unable to sleep tonight. I miss DH I've haven't slept alone in 5 years. I hate it not having him here. God I'm so sappy and sad tonight.

triplets Tue 25-Jun-13 22:22:12

and I`m a blubbering wreck, just watched another Long Lost Families..........so sad and so happy at the same time.........
Mama it won`t be much longer, you have been so patient, you will soon be home. xx

MultipleMama Tue 25-Jun-13 22:45:36

Trips - programs like that always make me cry. You watching the last series of it? I could never understand giving up my baby just being away from them cripples me. Those poor mothers!

I'm patient on the outside but inside I'm an impatient git who's so close to signing herself out, out of stubbornness. Haha.

Morning girls xx

Hope it gets sorted soon Sok. xx

rubyrubyruby Wed 26-Jun-13 07:00:37

How can you watch programmes that make you cry!

Hope you manage to escape MM.

Soks - hope all goes ok for you today. I'm glad you have support.

This is my last full week of work before our summer of excitement! Just a couple of odd days/mornings next week.

MultipleMama Wed 26-Jun-13 09:50:13

Good morning, ladies.

Ruby - I hope so too.
Sok - Good luck for today!

I expressed about 18oz this morning, and have boobs full haha.

It's my father's birthday, today. I'm glad I bought his present early before I was in hospital. My father is the best. He stood by me when I got pregnant at 17, he raised me after my mama died despite his grief and pain. He always told me how proud he was of me. He never failed to tell me he loved me despite his hesitance to talk of feelings (Russian trait). I wouldn't be where I am today without him; he's my inspiration and I love him so much. Happy Birthday, Father!

bubby64 Wed 26-Jun-13 10:18:13

Soks- if its a long standing illness you would be protected under the Disability Discrimination Act. You therefore do not have to see your boss without representation and would be in your rights to send him packing and even bring a case for harassment. Are they sending any one from OH dept with your boss? they should do that as well fir your protection. Hope you sort it.
Mama- its lovely donating BM, isn't it, I did it after I had the boys as I was like daisy the cow, producing absolutely loads, and the boys were only on 5ml an hr at that point, I already had lots frozen, so was well able to spare some, 2babes benifitted, I am still in touch with 1 mum, but not the other. Fingers crossed for getting out this week.
Trips/Shabs/Ruby - trying to catch up with programme s on iplayer, so expect to be in tears myself today.wink

bubby64 Wed 26-Jun-13 10:19:29

Happy Birthday to Mamas wonderful dadgrin grin grin grin

Sokmonsta Wed 26-Jun-13 14:03:21

Wow mama! 18oz :D (I'm in awe. I was happy expressing 6oz when the twins were on 3oz each.

The general result of the report is work need to consider me as disabled as the pnd has been present over a year, and I had a period before with ds1.

There would have been a woman from hr attending as note taker, but she would have been there for my manager rather than me. But that's fair enough and I wouldn't expect otherwise.

This morning I got cc'd into an email from my rep to manager saying I was entitled to have a union rep present if I wished, that the contractual obligation is to maintain contact only, and that telephone and electronic contact counts therefore he cannot force a visit. And he's to contact rep if he wishes to discuss the matter further.

I have also received a phonecall from manager today. He wanted me to explain myself and wouldn't simply accept I want my union rep there because I need their support (I don't understand the process this far in) as its getting quite intense. He just kept on and on trying to get me to give in, or at least that's how I felt. So I ended up telling him I felt he was badgering me and that if he continued I'd end the call. Well he didn't get the hint so after taking him twice more, I hung up. Then burst into tears. It's exhausting! I now have a horrid headache but at least James is content to snuggle up to me right now and the babies are going down for a nap shortly.

Have emailed both rep and dh. Dh wants me to ring him but right now i'll just end up crying more. I cried at bloody doc mcstuffins ffs.

At least so far this afternoon manager hasn't had the idiocy to turn up. Although quite what he thought the phonecall would achieve I don't know.

Chopstheduck Wed 26-Jun-13 16:08:25

soks I haven't worked in years and it is all over my head, but it sounds horrendous and I do hope you get it sorted out soon xx

great going, mama! I used to be like that, I could express 2 and half bottles easily and I thought about donating. I think it is brilliant that you actually did it. The odd thing that put me off in the end, is because i was expressing more than I needed, I tried freezing it, but it always smelled off after defrosting. It just seemed to go off really quickly and then the dts wouldnt drink it. Was very strange!

I tried watching that Long Lost families. I found it quite hard to understand the emotions considering the people had never met each other before? I guess it is one of those things that are hard to understand if you haven't experienced it. It was lovely to see them so happy at being reunited though.

The sun is actually shining here today, it is lovely out and I've been makign the most of it. The racecourse is being put back to normal and I could get out there to run again today.

MultipleMama Wed 26-Jun-13 19:58:28

Sok - I don't even get sore boobs if I don't express. I must have super boobs or something. It's been the same when I was breastfeeding eldest two. I just seems to keep on supplying haha.

Twins usually have 12oz plus bf per day and night but since I've been in hospital I've been expressing 30oz per twin per day. Urgh! Haha.

Chops - I usually just express once in the morning and store in fridge to use at lunch and tea. So weird expressing more than once!

T1's levels have dropped, again but they've done all they can. It's basically up to me to rest & drink and T1 to continue to grew and improve. Little fighter!

However because of this and their "it's upto you" attitude I can go home on Friday. Best rest for a week plus scan, and then light activities until 20+3 week scan.

Morning girls xx

triplets Thu 27-Jun-13 09:00:54

Morning, packing this morning for CP, hospital this pm!
Rubes and Chops when do you both go, you must be getting soooo excited smile

MultipleMama Thu 27-Jun-13 09:02:13

GOOD MORNING, THE MUMSNET FAMILY! <said in Ty Pennington's voice>... I've been watching too much Extreme makeover Home Edition on my laptop.

triplets Thu 27-Jun-13 09:02:33

Shabs, as you seem later getting up does that mean Tomster is home, once they do they gcse exams is that them finished? Just thinking of my three home next year!! How is our Harry Shabs? x

triplets Thu 27-Jun-13 09:03:54

Morning Mama do you have to undecorated your room before you leave tomorrow? Bet you are looking forward to be home smile

Chopstheduck Thu 27-Jun-13 09:17:06

Morning girls.

30th July, trips, the day before my 35th birthday grin Sat down at the weekend with dh pouring over the guide books and worked out our itinerary. The DTs are getting very excited and dd (although looking forward to her trips) is feeling a bit miffed blush Have promised to go to Japantown in LA though and bring her back heaps of anime/manga stuff. She really wants a bento box though, and I might surprise her with one for her pack up when she goes away with the girl's brigade.

They set off a few days before we go. ds1 is actually camping in a tent for the first time this year, rather than a private room. WIll be interesting given his disabilities but he is ecstatic and can't wait!

Did anyone watch the tightrope walker cross the grand canyon? We'd been telling the dts for days that we will be doing that when we go. grin DT2 was rather deflated when he heard on the TV that they will be removing it after the stunt! DT2 missed that bit and was looking rather green when watching it and we had to come clean!

Chopstheduck Thu 27-Jun-13 09:17:58

dt1 was the one that went green. I really should jsut stick to using their names!

MultipleMama Thu 27-Jun-13 09:43:14

Trips - Yep. The nurses have found me a plastic box that I can put the pictures, letters and scans in. Can't wait to sort them out at home.

DH phoned me this morning; K's ear infections have come back so he's off school today and tomorrow. He wants me and has thrown a full blown tantrum which has set off A wanting to see mama. So today, I will be bombarded with all 4 dc.

I don't think DH has ever been so happy to return to work on Monday haha.

Hope everyone is well x

Trips - in our area they finish school when they have done their last exam....dont know if its the same everywhere though.

My Dad is about the same. Has lost a lot of weight though. He has been sitting in the back garden and sunbathing so he is very tanned.

MultipleMama Thu 27-Jun-13 17:03:05

Evening ladies.

Right now, I have a passed out cranky 4 year old on my stomach clinging to me. DH brought them to visit at 2pm and K hasn't left. I'm really surprised the nurses haven't said anything or complained. DH is coming at 6 to collect him.

I go home tomorrow afternoon with other 21 scan photos! Can't wait to cuddle dc and start bf fully!

bubby64 Thu 27-Jun-13 20:38:15

Chops/Rubes - getting greener with envy by the dayenvy envy
Shabs- Glad H is managing to enjoy this bit of good weather.
Mama- you'll be so glad to get home, and the family will be glad to have you back. grin wink
Trips - hope everything went well at hospital.

Boys got home this evening, they had a really good time, and it sounds as if they did some very exciting thingsgrin grin , they are very tired, a bit grubby, very brown (backs of necks got burned as they forgot to put sunscreen thereblush ), also, Mikes lips are really sore, a mix of salt air, water and sunshine, I can't belive none of the teachers got him some lipsalveangry
They have been home a few hours and the house already looks like a bombs hit it, after bring tidy for 4 daysgrin First lot of clothes in washer, pre wash definitely requiredwink

MultipleMama Thu 27-Jun-13 21:11:56

Bubby - Those peaceful, tidy days sure do go by fast! Even if they had no lipsalve you'd think they'd at least put him on some vaseline to help. Pfft. Glad they enjoyed themselves thought, back to normal life now!

I'll be glad to be going home but DH is thrilled, his words were and I quote unquote "thank fuck" haha. I'm sure I'll be coming back to chaos but secretly I'm looking forward to it. I'm fed up of sterile environments and quietness.

DH picked up K who screamed his way out the hospital, even went as far as holding his breath before screaming again. DH called me at half 8 and K had only just cried himself to sleep on DH's lap. K has ear tubes in both ears but they don't seem to be lessening the pain, poor thing.

triplets Thu 27-Jun-13 23:29:29

Evening ladies............theres a buzz on here tonight, must be talk of holidays...........Bubbs add me envy...........I would give anything to be doing a road trip in the States. Yes I watched the walk across the Grand Canyon, it freaked me out, still don`t know how he did it, when he kneeled and got up again shock. Obviously has a real faith, it was amazing. The GC is awesome..........in every sense of the word. We first went with Matthew in August 91, stayed 3 nights there. We arrived in the village at 7pm, driven from Scottsdale, long hot drive. We were advised to wait until sunrise before we saw the canyon for the first time, so headed off to find our cabin, food.............deep fried chicken.......and bed. We set our alarm for 5.30am but were woken at 5am by the room shaking, a small earthquake!! Lasted no more than about 20 seconds, really weird experience. Walked along the path and there it was..........words just cannot describe it............I am not ashamed to say it made me cry. The colours of the rock as the sun came up, my lovely boy................oh I`ll never forget it. Our second visit was with T/R and J in 2007, our last trip........sob.....we stayed in Williams on route 66 in The Red Garter Saloon, so exciting. Took the steam train to the canyon from there, 2 hours of fun.........kids loved the train! We only spent 6 hours there which was a shame but my God it was hot! Happy happy days.
Not such a happy day today...............saw two consultants at the hospital today, dh has another infection! They prodded and probed and are talking about surgery as a very last resort to get rid of this blood clot. They both told us this could go on for a few more months yet. I asked about going on holiday, meaning a proper holiday abroad and was told it would not be a good idea, too risky as things are. Is it to be selfcatering in Blighty forever?

<<Trips rips off GB sticker from trolley>>

Morning girls xx

Oh lovely memories Trips x

OK so my day today consists of the following......trip to my parents doctors to hopefully pick up a prescription for mum - she has had psoraisis for many years and her carers rang me yesterday to tell me she has it on her scalp hmm...wanted to say to them 'Oh has she, fancy me not knowing that she has had psoraisis for the past 40 years. I had to stop myself from being sarcastic!!! They are not allowed to ring the doctors on her behalf.....for Gawds sake!! Then down to parents house to find out 'how' or 'why' Mum thinks that Dad only has 8 painkillers left when DH took a box of 100 on Wednesday afternoon. The painkillers will be somewhere in the house - I HOPE!!

My brother has moved (with his girlfriend!!!!!) about a 45 minute drive from where he used to live with his wife of 30 years so I now get to do everything and Im the only one in the family without a car!!!

I would do it in a heartbeat but his 'selfishness' with everything drives me round the bend.

OK <<kicks herself up the bum>> lets begin 'another day in paradise' xx

rubyrubyruby Fri 28-Jun-13 09:44:41

Oh Shabs xxxxxxx sad

Trips - Happy memories. I love hearing your stories, you really bring them to life.

MM - home YAY!!!!!

Bubby - glad the boys had a good time.

Soks - hope you sort out your work issues

We are off on the 17th grin

triplets Fri 28-Jun-13 09:55:29

and we are off to CP now.............missing you already grin

Chopstheduck Fri 28-Jun-13 11:08:21

Have fun trips! We're planning to get there for sunrise too smile

sounds like they had a great time Bubby!

I am shattered, didn't get to bed til midnight, which is very late for me - was out pole dancing grin, and I keep having weird dreams at night and don't feel rested. Think will give my run a miss for today, but still have to go shopping, cook and have a friend round for tea. Zzzzz!

MultipleMama Fri 28-Jun-13 12:49:24

Home to a cranky 4 year old who is once against passed out on my stomach. DH said he woke constantly last night asking for me. So, he's exhausted and doped up on nurofen and calpol.

However dd drew me a lovely picture to welcome me home. Can't wait to surprise her by being home when she's back from creche.

Dts attacked my boobs, so I'm smothered by children and I love it! smile

DH is a saint and is being my waiter for the day.

Well my Mam was right!!!! The pharmacy had only given DH her tablets - so had to go back from Mums to near my house and get Dads....then they forgot the most important tablets so DH has gone back again to get them. I only just got in and have 'hammered' my daily bus ticket grin

Going to lie down in a dark room now.

Chopstheduck Fri 28-Jun-13 16:59:43

aw that sounds lovely, mama!

grin @ shabs!

MultipleMama Sat 29-Jun-13 04:22:40

All I want to do is sleep uninterrupted for at least 4 hours sleep. If not K complaining his ears hurt and waking up for cuddles, it's a night terror from A or twins wanting feeding. I've resorted to sharing the bed just to sleep.

Hope tomorrow is an improvement!

Night xx - sorry for moody early morning rant! Haha.

Morning girls xx

MultipleMama Sat 29-Jun-13 18:21:39

Evening ladies!

Shabs - sounds like you gad a busy day! I bet the drivers know you by name now! Hope you had a chance to relax.

Chops - hoped you managed to get some sleep!

DH let me lie in until 11am only nudging me half awake to feed the twins. K is running a fever and has refused to move from his rocking chair in the playroom. Hope we can sweat it out tonight.

How's everyone's day been?

Morning girls xx

MultipleMama Sun 30-Jun-13 21:46:51

Seems I'm never out of god damn hospital only this time on PED ward with K. His fever spiked to 104 so I'm staying overnight with him then both home in the morning. Urgh.

Sokmonsta Sun 30-Jun-13 22:55:10

Evenings ladies. Not having a great time here at the moment (my mh) so lurking but not posting.

So glad you are home mama.

MultipleMama Sun 30-Jun-13 23:16:50

Want some Irish coffee, sok? Unable to sleep myself in this crappy fold out, so lurking and browsing.

Morning girls xx

rubyrubyruby Mon 01-Jul-13 07:01:50

Morning x

MultipleMama Mon 01-Jul-13 07:40:30

Morning already? <grumbles and hides back under duvet>

Sokmonsta Mon 01-Jul-13 09:15:52

Sorry mama. I missed your post saying you were in with K. Those put me up beds aren't the greatest from what I can remember, and then you get disturbed every time they come to check on little one.

Hope you get home again today.

MultipleMama Mon 01-Jul-13 16:45:06

Between him waking and them disturbing me; I didn't get much sleep but we're home. He's gotta have antibiotics for a week - 3/day. Luckily he's too tired to tantrum and is fast asleep on the sofa.

DH started back at work this afternoon, but we've had to hire a friend to help with kids while I'm on bed rest. Luckily the kids know her and didn't cause any unnecessary stress.

How's everyone been today?

bubby64 Mon 01-Jul-13 20:45:24

Glad your home Mama, and that k is on the mend.
Soks- just lurk if you don't feel like posting, we don't mindwink

weekend has been a mix of good and crap here.
good is J and Dh both passed their red belt in karate, and M has asked if he can join to get fit, i was a little worried how J would react, but he seems to welcome it. Also, we had a great day Saturday at the primary school community fete (how come my boys have left the school and I am still roped in to helpconfused )
Bad news is the car failed its MOT(i kept saying to dh there was a problem but he kept saying it would passangry ), and I am stuck again without my own transport, I had to be taken in to work an hr early and left an hr late, and I won't get paid overtime, also, we are now in a situation of open hostility with our neighbours, who threw a brick at little Bertie in our garden injuring him, as they said he was barking at them, and we called the police and RSPCA and they have had a warning about their behaviour, but they are now being even nastier than they were beforesad sad . And finally, my ankle is swelling up big time, and hurting like hell, so really fed up.sad

MultipleMama Mon 01-Jul-13 22:04:32

Congrats to J and Dh on passing!

Nothing skints you more than a bloody car.

Nothing I hate more than assholes hurting animals as a dog handler and owner it makes my blood boil. A dog barks for many reasons and should never be discouraged, they may have been winding him up and Bertie saw it as a threat. You did the right thing calling police and RSPCA.

I hope you're resting that ankle as well and taking care of yourself.

DH and I have somehow managed to end up with all 4 dc in bed with us. Also, Di (dts1) took his first wobbly steps tonight!

triplets Mon 01-Jul-13 22:55:07

Well did yer miss me? Glad to hear you are home and back into the thick of things Mama,smile Bubbs, do watch that ankle, slow down......
guess who had a nice time t CP.............ME for a change! Weather was hot, lodge spanking new, and had a lovely meal out on Sat night at the Italian smile Dk is now dh or being nice all weekend, never saw the boys they just took off, only dd didn`t join in...........so I left her to it. Did me the world of good, shame its all over! Now got to face Weds, my Mums first a/v and having my gum cut open at the hospital................aghhh. x

MultipleMama Tue 02-Jul-13 01:56:06

We did! Glad to hear you had a lovely time. Seems like you needed that break before dealing with the world. What I wouldn't do for a break, I feel older than 23!

I've somehow ended up breast feeding K during feeding the twins. Last time he asked for "baby milk" was when he was ill in hospital back 2011. Okay, bed time. Night!

Glad to have you back Trips!

Chopstheduck Tue 02-Jul-13 07:22:43

glad you had a good time trips! Does your dd generally get a bit pushed out with the boys then? I have that problem as they get older, the three boys get together and play football and dd ends up at a loose end. Though dd usually makes friends with peers on holiday so finds girlfriends to hang around.

bubby, how horrible! Is Bertie ok? And do rest your ankle.

We have a neighbour whose dog bark incessantly. It drives me nuts, they get sick of it and just put it outside and we have to listen to it. Even in the middle of the night. I'd be more inclined to throw the brick at them though, not the dog - everytime he barks they start shrieking at him which just encourages him, or throw him outside and ignore him so he is sitting barking at the door. It's hardly the poor dogs fault. All dogs barks sometimes though!! Sounds like they were tormenting him. sad

Hope the car gets fixed soon.

Mama how do you do it all! I hope you are still resting! I only fed mine til 6 months, then I was desperate for my boobs back, I really admire those who do carry on longer term!

Shabs, you ok there? How was your weekend?

I've been enjoying the sun, had a family kickabout at the park, lots of bbqs, msotly been chilling. Pulled a stomach muscle while pole dancing blushgrin

Morning girls xx

Glad you had a good time Trips smile

bubby64 Tue 02-Jul-13 09:55:58

Trips- glad you had a good time, teensge girls often need to mooch off by themselves, I know I did. Good luck with the tooth/gum probs on Wednesday.
Mama- at leadt you all managed yo have some peaceful time, well done for those 1st stepsgrin
Chops, he was barking because they were using the hedgetrimmer on the hedge between our houses, and leaning over the fence whilst doing it. Neither dog are "barky" as such, and if something does set them off, we will bring them in, as its not fair.
He had a cut above his eye and a nasty one down his ear, but they are healing well.
Hi Ruby, Soks and Shabs << waves>>

MultipleMama Tue 02-Jul-13 16:58:08

Chops - How do I do it? A lot of luck and a lot of mess ups! Breastfeeding is like 2nd nature now but I'm still reeling over the fact that I may be breast feeding 4 in December. My eldest two self weaned at 2. I promise I am resting, we even have a friend who's a cleaner & babysitter so we're paying her to help this week.

Shabs - Evening!

Bubby - It was lovely and peaceful. I would love a trip away just me and DH but I hate leaving my kids, when K was first born he wasn't out of my sight until he turned 1 as I ebf with no bottles. Thank you, so proud but so far he hasn't tried again - he stands thinks about it then decides crawling is quicker haha.

Hope Bertie recovers well!

K goes back to school tomorrow and I am not looking forward to the upcoming "I'm ill" tantrum.

triplets Tue 02-Jul-13 23:27:26

Here I am late as usual............catching up with mountains of washing, got soaked going to he cemetery today and still got a sore foot! I am not looking forward to my hosp apt tomorrow, tomorrow will be the first a/v of losing my lovely Mum in the same hospital............lots of bad and sad memories.
Chaos outside here tonight, emergency ambulance just left the home opposite, foxes screaming and a rescue helicopter flying over!
Night night all xx

Sokmonsta Wed 03-Jul-13 07:44:45

Morning ladies.

Morning x

MultipleMama Wed 03-Jul-13 14:10:27

Afternoon ladies.

Wandered into the new nursery today just to pick up a few catalogues so I could start looking online. It seems DH had decorated the whole (yet small) room with the paint and polar bear paper we chose. I love him! Now I can concentrate on furniture.

The room is roughly this size. I need two smallish cot beds. Any recommendations?

Sokmonsta Wed 03-Jul-13 19:42:05

Hi mama. we have this cot one side comes off so you can use it as a bed when they get bigger.

I couldn't see how big your room is but we have one of these, a second slightly smaller cot and a 'bunk' bed in the dc's room. The two cots are in an L shape. And one also runs along side the bunk bed.

bubby64 Wed 03-Jul-13 20:05:38

Chaos in village for the past 2 days as had TOWNIE filming here!
Lots of stops for photo shoots with the local kids, when I asked the boys if they wanted to go and get one taken, they both shuddered and said "no way mum, they all have too much make-up and glow in the dark white teeth!" Oh dear.......grin grin grin

MultipleMama Wed 03-Jul-13 21:25:23

Sok - I am in love with the STUVA range. DH loves it too. We love love the white/green colours! Now to budget.

Bubby - Did you want your photo taken?! grin

As predicted DS1 had one hell of a tantrum this morning. I feel awful sending him off to school with his antibiotics but I can only do so much in my state.

Made some fudge and brownies today with A - she loved it.

triplets Wed 03-Jul-13 23:26:22

Grrrrrrrr got all syked up for the surgery to my mouth and they didn`t do it! Said the proceedure would take longer than anticipated so would have to make another appt, I waited 5 months for this one! Really missed my Mum today, felt weird being In the same hospital she died in sad

bubby64 Thu 04-Jul-13 00:10:19

mama - no thanks, they all look like artificial barbie and ken dollsgrin
hope k feels better soon. I bet he loved the brownies.
Trips - what a letdown!! sad angry Have they given uou a revised date yet for the surgery?
Mike had his OPA today (has yearly checkups due to hypotonia and lung probs) he has almost full lung function now, the upper left lobe has grown almost right down filling the cavity, so thats brilliant. He continues to need physio support for the hypotonia, especially his central core muscles, but when he mentioned starting karate, his consultant was very enthusiastic about it. He has also grown 4cm and lost 1kg, so all is goodgrin .
Rich is ginally working on my car, I think he is getting as fed up as me sharing a car again, so its finally spurring him onwink

MultipleMama Thu 04-Jul-13 01:57:50

Bubby - I can't stand those programs; if you can call them that! :D

I hope he does too, hasn't woken up at all tonight, so far. I'm assuming the antibiotics are working. He loved the brownies, I told him if he goes to school he can have one in his lunch box.

Trips - Are they sending you a letter out with new appt or do you have to phone and make a new one? Total crap that they messed you about like that today. I can't step into a hospital without thinking of my mama, always brings a dull ache to my chest. flowers

Morning girls xx

Thats rubbish Trips - hope it is soon sorted out. Thought about you and your lovely Mum. xx

I took my parents on the bus to our local town yesterday hmm was an interesting experience. Got off the bus and Dad refused to cross at the 'safe crossing' instead me and mum linked him and walked across the very busy road expecting people to stop.....thankfully they did. He is a swine!!!! Then I polietly got told to 'bog off home!!!' LOL. Thank God that my bus came before they came back to cross the same road. He was organising Mum and birthday cards.

Today, 16 years ago, was Toms due date - he did however arrive on the 24th July.......apparantly, even though I was almost 41 I didnt know my dates hmm - he almost arrived wearing his school uniform LOL

Chopstheduck Thu 04-Jul-13 07:25:56

LOL @ almost arrived in his school uniform!

That is a nightmare trips, hope you get it sorted soon.

What fab news bubby! M must be really chuffed too! I considered karate for J actually, but decided it wouldn't be a good idea as he can barely stand up without falling over. It was recommended by the OT too, it must be great for strengthening.

I am knackered! Summer term is the worst for rushing about, kids needing to be in different places. Only good thing is it stops me eating too much and I might shift those final few pounds before holiday!

My parents GP finally visited them - supposed to do this once per month and when I chased up why he wasn't visiting he lied and said he didn't know they were ill!!!!

He has changed my Dads tablets - pharmacy are delivering them today but need to take the old ones back with them. Rang Mum and told her....she wrote it all down on a post it note. She just rang me again and said

'Where did I put that post it note and what did it say?'

'Dont know where the note is Mum but it said.....and repeated the conversation.'

<<Mum goes into the hall with the phone and catches sight of herself in the mirror>>

'Dont worry love....I found the note its stuck on my forehead!!!'

I have nearly wet myself laughing....she is also laughing and said 'glad you find me so amusing you cheeky bugger' 'I will leave that note on my head so I don't lose it!!!'

<<rocks in the corner while noting it is still not even 11 oclock>>

MultipleMama Thu 04-Jul-13 14:04:34

Afternoon ladies.

I'm feeling exhausted and low. Worked phone for my final decision and I decline their offer to start work. I feel like absolute crap. I feel guilty for feeling a little resentful. I even cried on the phone to DH who was lovely and reminded me that I can't do it all as much as I would like to be able to. He's right of course but I friggin' hate doing nothing.

On a happier note; I can now say DO is an official walker and DI has decided to copy his brother and is taking a few steps more and more.

triplets Thu 04-Jul-13 23:00:55

grinChrist Shabs you crack me up......almost arrived in his school uniform grin
Bubby that's reat news about Mike, very good indeed. Mama how can you think of going to work...........you are going to exhaust yourself!
I have to wait for another appt in the post, they said at least 4 months!! Right racket going on at the back of us atm, the house is rented to a family from Lithuania, all bloody 200 of them, that's what it sounds like! When Janet rented the house she said "its a grandmother, her daughter and her little girl". Then six thousand "aunts" moved in and their various fellas............they sit out in the garden all weathers carrying on. The boys sleep at the back and I have had to lose their window because of the noise, its boiling in there. If it carries on past midnight I am going out to them, mind you they are the ones who scraped our car.......in the car park!
Chops and Rubes, hope you have got some factor 50 for your trip, boy is it hot out there! Last time we went through Death Valley it was 45*, I love that placesmile

triplets Thu 04-Jul-13 23:02:14

why is my keypad missing out letters?

MultipleMama Thu 04-Jul-13 23:34:31

Trips - I know DH said the same thing. I love my job, it's all I wanted to do and I miss it. I haven't worked in over a year and as much as I love raising my kids, it's not the same but I know deep down these little unborns come first always.

I used to live next to people like that. Never quiet and always had bloody visitors!

Shabs - You're a real hoot! smile

Chops & Ruby - Enjoy yourselves!

DH wants to try and move twins to their own nursery but they're still breastfeeding every 2-4 hours a night and I'm not ready. Urgh.

triplets Fri 05-Jul-13 00:04:28

Now there are 8 adults on a trampoline screaming their heads off angry

MultipleMama Fri 05-Jul-13 00:22:54

Tries to keep a straight face... that's kind of something I would do with friends/family but really inconsiderate at this time of night when kids are sleeping.

DD had a night terror woke up screaming over monitor. DH is with her so deal with twins who have decided to wake up hungry.

Morning girls xx

Chopstheduck Fri 05-Jul-13 07:15:13

Morning girls!

I'm already burnt from last weekend, trips! blush I have a very unsexy scaly and peeling cleavage atm! Bit nervous about death valley tbh, with temps exceeding 50 I'm worrying a tyre is going to burst or something! Def doing extremes this year, -16 or whatever it was in Montréal and now they saying it could beat records there this year!

We had/have tickets to KÀ too. Did anyone see the news about the acrobat who fell? Poor woman and family. sad No idea if it still will be running and even if it does, will be rather odd watching that final scene now.

I look like I've done a few rounds with Mike Tyson - I am black and blue from pole dancing! grin Was fab though, progressing now to actually building a routine.

Our noisy neighbours of late are the bloody private school on the corner. They have a PA system that broadcasts to the whole of North Ascot. It was sports day Monday and yesterday some dodgy music for hours, I don't know if it was a play, or a summer concert or what it was! At least it doesn't go on late though.