I am considering giving up feeding dt1 (ds3) as I am finding feeding him so unenjoyable, stressful and he just doesn't seem satisfied. He's now waking several times in the night, when he was going through to at least 4 or 5 before christmas. He's also feeding for longer and longer, up to an hour for nearly every feed now without actually seeming happy and satisfied with it, just fussing and coming off and looking very hungry! He feeds about 7 times over 24 hours, although this includes at least 8oz of formula, sometimes more at 5am when I've been up for hours feeding him and he's still not happy.
He was diagnosed with reflux about 3 weeks ago and the gaviscon has reduced his fussing and vomiting quite a lot, he does seem somewhat happier. But all in all his feeding is making me unhappy, and it's ruling the rest of the family by default - everything revolves around him at the moment and dd (dt2) not really getting much of a look-in. I also spend so much time dealing with him that neither twin is getting fun time and my other 2 ds's (5 & 2) are being ignored a lot too. The whole family is suffering and I'm not sure that breastfeeding him is worth this as I get no joy from doing it for him (I do with dd,it's lovely).
I fear I have brought this upon myself by supplementing from day one and using more formula lately in an effort to just get through the days and nights without screaming/collapsing/developing pnd. He seems to have got used to the bottle and the way formula fills him up, can this be right? I've done everything wrong really, they both have bottles, dummies and I use nipple shields because I have flat nipples and nothing brings them out.
His sister is still v.happy bfeeding and has none of these issues, I really enjoy feeding her and wouldn't want to stop. But feeling very guilty about 'choosing' one twin over the other. I also think it would be easier to just bf both rather than bf one and bottle feed another, but I'm kind of at the end of my rope with this, I just want some peace and some sleep. I was coping quite well with everything (4 children under 5!) until he started waking in the night a lot and I feel as though he is starving although he is putting on weight, has wet nappies etc.
Could anyone help me sort through the issues here, please?
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accessorizequeen · 24/01/2009 21:34
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