I can't sleep and thought I would ask you lovely ladies for your opinion. I am wondering if I'm surrounded by very thoughtful family and friends or is the world full of thoughtless people and I'm just very lucky not to know them.
My problem is I've just had a tiff with my sister-in-law and her husband. I have produced the first two grandchildren in my husbands family and we had them Christened. I asked his sister and husband to be godparents to our son and his only other sister to be a Godmother to our daughter. I felt a little guilty asking my husbands immediate family who live in Bristol (where we also live) to go to Scotland for the Christening. But they managed to fly up and back in the day. A few months ago I invited all my husbands family - parents sisters aunts uncles cousins etc round for a buffet and drinks so they could all meet the new arrivals rather than invite them to a Christening they couldn't make.
The Christening was a great success and we were overwhelmed with the guests generosity with everyone giving the babies a present each. But today my husbands sister and husband came round with a present for their Godson. I immediately asked where was my daughters present and was met with blank stares and the response that as Godparents they thought they just needed to buy for their Godson. I pointed out that she was the Aunt to both children and I would have expected her to have bought each child a gift. The sister in-law got very upset saying she didn't know she had made a mistake! Her husband made a bigger mistake of mentioning the cost of travelling to the Christening and buying two presents etc. This was a red rag to a bull as we spent a fortune sending my husband to attend their wedding in Turkey when the twins were only 5 weeks old. My husbands family are odd and not good at giving to others but I never thought I would have to point out to an Aunt that giving only one child a gift was completely thoughtless.
I mentioned the problem to a couple of people and they said they would just have accepted the gift and bitched about her behind her back and would never have confronted them. Over the past 5 years I've kept my mouth shut when my inlaws have done some bizarre thoughtless acts but I've decided that if they were directed at my children they would be left in no doubt that I find their actions offensive. We are out for dinner with the sister and her husband on Friday so I'm sure this will be water under the bridge.
I was wondering if there are lots of thoughtless sister-in-laws/people out there or are they thankfully few and far between. Or is it me, am I in the wrong for believing what they did was thoughtless and for pointing it out
Comments good or bad gratefully received.
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evansg01 · 20/11/2008 03:48
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