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spending time with one!

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dicko1 · 31/03/2015 10:25

I have a three year old son and 6 month old girls triplets. I lve them all to bits and enjoy my crazy life however i do worry sometimes that i never get to spend enough time with each child individually. when my son was the girls age we used to spend mornings cuddled up in bed or on the sofa of doing swimming and things. I just cant do that with the girls and do worry there missing out. I also find it very difficult to spend any alone time with my son as he is at preschool when the girls nap. I spend a special day with him once a month but again worry he feels left out now.

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neversleepagain · 31/03/2015 14:32

I have twin girls, 30 months old. I take one out alone with me each Sunday to swimming. They love the one on one time and I have noticed a significant difference in our relationships since I started doing this 6 months ago. After swimming we go for cake to Costa.

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Love51 · 31/03/2015 14:39

It will be hard in the early days - and 6 months is still early days! I obviously don't know your routine but is there a way your son can get 10 minutes with you in the evening if the babies are asleep? Or even before your OH goes to work? (assuming a lot there I realise!) If its regular time every day he will know that he will get your attention at that time which should help him feel secure.

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RedCrayons · 31/03/2015 14:56

Triplets and a toddler! I'm surprised you can remember your own name! I've 'only' got twins but have always struggled with this. When they were little we used to take one each and do something separately. Even if it was just a trip to the shop. If we were all out together I would always speak to them separately 'can you see the train,DT1?' 'Can you see the train, DT2?' Rather than 'boys look at the train'. At mealtimes we talk about our day and they are not allowed to talk over each other (tricky as they are in the same class at school and do essentially the same thing)

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dicko1 · 31/03/2015 16:38

Unfortunately the babies dont see daddy during the week he leaves early morning and gets back when they are in bed. My son does see daddy so i dont have a look in at that point hes all for his dad and dad puts him to bed while i make tea. These working hours also mean during the week we dont all sit down at the table together. The swimming is a good idea and i will definately look into that for my son some time woth me x