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ScampiMummy · 30/06/2014 10:24

One of my DTS has started sinking his jaws into the other DTS on a worryingly regular basis. At first it was only when he wanted what the other was playing with, but recently I've seen it when he gets angry about anything (often nothing to do with the poor other DTS who first becomes aware of his brother's anger when he gets a tiny set of teeth 'fall' into him). Its breaking my heart to see the bitee getting chewed on, but the biter doesn't seem to be at all phased when I try and let him know its not acceptable! In fact he seems to think its very funny when I shout 'Noooooo!'. They're 15 months btw.
Does anyone have any advice on how to handle this. A 10 match ban is not an option.....

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Twicethehugs · 02/07/2014 18:15

Hi, mine are 17 months. I try to give the one that was bitten the attention. I think I've got better at knowing times they're more likely to bite each other e.g. When tired and wanting the same thing or my attention so I can sometimes stop it before it happens and redirect her. It still happens though, I think mostly it's frustration rather than wanting to hurt the other one. Good luck!

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ScampiMummy · 14/07/2014 20:44

Thanks Twicethehugs. Since I posted this I have noticed I'm getting a bit better at predicting and preventing it, which helps. There has been another significant development in that bitee has starting biting too! In a perverse way I'm pleased about this, as at least it means that he is standing up for himself. The reality, however, is that the problem has just doubled. I will try to pile the attention on the victim and see how that works, but I worry that the perpetrator will not be too bothered about this and thus not learn the lesson I intend...... Have you found that ignoring is having the desired affect or is prevention the real key?

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Twicethehugs · 16/07/2014 19:32

It's probably good the bitee is standing up for himself but I see the problem all too well! I think prevention is best when I can but in reality it's not always possible. If I can make sure they have things to keep them busy and give them both lots of attention when they're tired and cranky it means less biting. I also think it's got less as they've developed a bit with age. However, they do bite in frustration which is mostly when they both want the same thing. A lot of kids go through a biting stage, I'm relieved mine haven't bitten others at nursery so far!

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