Oh my, there's 2!

(42 Posts)
Rootvegetables Wed 22-Jan-14 15:05:17

I wasn't sure of my dates so had a scan this morning and there's 2 babies, I'm 10 weeks 4 days along, there's so much to think about. My first thing is which hospital to have my care through, does anyone know anything about kings or lewisham as both are easy for us, oh my!

MrChow Wed 05-Feb-14 00:28:22

So pleased for you OP. How exciting.

I had a missed miscarriage last week so ended up having surgery. It felt like a double blow losing 2. I felt elated when I found out there were 2, and I hope I'm lucky enough to have another baby in the future - twins again would be amazing.

Good luck to you smile

Linguaphile Wed 05-Feb-14 00:18:09

Ah, so glad for you! I had scared myself silly after reading up on vanishing twin syndrome when I was pregnant last year, so I remember the relief of seeing two heartbeats and healthy babies at the scan. It's amazing how quickly you go from the shock of it being two to the protectiveness of 'of course there are two!' Hope the sickness lets up soon... mine lasted quite a while (22 weeks), but I don't think that's the norm!

Chuddy3 Tue 04-Feb-14 20:37:27

That's great news!! Now you can relax and enjoy the next part of your pregnancy! X

Rootvegetables Tue 04-Feb-14 20:10:27

Hello all, I had my scan today and all was well! They are in there moving around happy and growing, such a relief! I love that you are all so positive and I really do feel like it's magical to have 2, plus my wonderful ds, I'm really happy everything went well, I'm ready to embrace the twinness!

homeworkmakesmemad Sun 02-Feb-14 02:54:46

Nothing to add re: hospitals as I had my twins in Scotland, but just wanted to pass on my congratulations! I have identical twin girls who are now 3 1/2 as well as a 6 year old dd and an almost 9 year old ds. Life is amazingly fun - busy yes, but so much fun! You have to be super organised with twins, but allow life to be a little chaotic at times and roll with it.

I second the comments about not letting the negativity get you down - that's always my advice to people expecting twins - you will hear so much negativity and you just have to ignore it. I heard a lot of it from other twin mums too who liked to make out that their lives were so much harder than anyone else's and really everyone should feel sorry for them and make allowances for them - nonsense. Life is what you make of it. There are plenty of people who have a harder time parenting than those with multiples, and you need to focus on the positives. Life is busy and yes, some things are harder with 2, but if you keep thinking everything will be hard then it will be, if you have a positive attitude you can cope with anything.

The only other thing I would say to you is to find out what type of twins you are having and keep an open mind about whether they are identical or not. My girls were DCDA (2 sacs, 2 placentas) and we were told repeatedly that they weren't identical. Eventually at about 30w we were told that they COULD be identical, but it was highly unlikely. We had DNA testing done when they were 5 months old and they are definitely identical. I have heard so many people being told their twins couldn't be identical because they were in separate sacs and it's simply not true.

My girls were born at 35+1 - spontaneous rupture of waters - both breech and ended up having an EMCS due to the fact they were breech and labour was a bit crazy (nothing to do with having twins, I had crazy labours with my other two too), and twin 1's heart rate dropped too low. They were 4lb,6oz and 4lb,10oz, but both lost over 25% of their birth weight in the first 5 days and went down to 3.5lbs each. One twin was taken straight from theatre to NNU due to a problem with her breathing and sepsis. 36hrs in an incubator with antibiotics and she was back on the ward with me and her sister. On day 5 they were both readmitted to NNU due to weight loss and were tube fed until they regained weight, maintained their temps and had enough energy to feed themselves. They came home at 15days old.

andadietcoke Sun 02-Feb-14 01:47:21

root unfortunately you will get more negativity, even after they're here. I've had "twins? Oh, bad luck", "don't envy you" (a lot), and lot of "are the nights horrendous?". People just don't seem to engage the brain before opening their mouth, and you have to get a bit thick skinned about it. However, for every stupid, thoughtless person, there are ten lining up behind them to tell you how beautiful your babies are, how jealous they are, how genuinely thrilled they are for you, how awesomely you're doing, how you've made their day, that you look like you're coping marvellously, that you deserve a medal. These are the people that will, completely unknowingly, get you through the day sometimes when you're at your lowest and just need to get out of the house. They will be complete strangers, and their words will affect you so profoundly that the negative nonsense that other people sprout becomes water off your back. Because you are, in fact, very lucky, you are coping wonderfully, and you are awesome. grin

bubby64 Sun 02-Feb-14 01:36:57

Welcome to the world of multiples!! Ok, mine are teenagers now, but when I was pregnant all those years ago, I did have some problems, and, although in East Anglia I was referred to Kings, with back-up from Cambridge. Kings is a specialist centre for multiples is absolutely brilliant, so I would go there like a shot if they will take you. Good luck, and, by the way, your initial reaction was just like mine, and is apparently the normgrin grin grin

kentDee Thu 30-Jan-14 12:18:36

Many congratulations. I bet you are still in shock. I had triplets at the Pruh and they were fantastic up there. I had check ups and scans at kings though every 2 weeks up until a week before my babies arrived!
Please feel free to pm me any questions about both hospitals as I spent most of my life between both places last year!

Good luck and take care xx

AdoraBell Tue 28-Jan-14 11:33:50

Root just keep thinking of 20 tiny toes To play withgrin.

Chuddy3 Tue 28-Jan-14 10:28:58

That's great rootveg. My sickness lasted until about 13 weeks and then felt really good until last few days (30 weeks) when I'm now starting to feel a big more tired. Keep up the positivity. I know what you mean about people's reactions. My husband has 2 brothers and them an their wives seem to always centre on the negatives. I know they don't mean to be unkind or anything but it does get a bit boring. Yes it will be hard but I wouldn't change it for the world. Like you I have been excited yet anxious throughout the pregnancy but as time draws near their arrival, excitement has definitely overtaken anxiety xx

Rootvegetables Tue 28-Jan-14 10:01:40

I'm now 11.5 weeks and very attached to the idea of twins now the news has settled, I have had double the sickness, double the belly but now also double the anxiety, hoping desperately all is okay at the scan next week. It's lovely you are all so positive about it, most people have reacted with shock which I understand but I'm trying to say something positive back now.

AdoraBell Fri 24-Jan-14 16:37:26

Yes, very Lucky. It's always felt special To me in a way that I can't quite define. I have no point of referente as I only have my DTs, but it's still very special To have had them together iyswim.

Chuddy3 Fri 24-Jan-14 13:49:12

Haha agreed! It's amazing how many people do focus on the hard part but I have to say the closer I get to them arriving the more excited I get. We are lucky ladies! X

AdoraBell Fri 24-Jan-14 01:57:18

I'm glad you are feelling excited. If people start making comments about double trouble and stupid things like that just remember that you will have 20 tiny toes To tickle, How cool is thatgrin

Chuddy3 Thu 23-Jan-14 17:52:55

Those are great weights. My last 2 children were 6lbs and 5 lbs 9 ozs, so I seem to have small babies but the twins are measuring on track so far. Thanks a lot for your advice. Feeling fairly relaxed so just taking it week by week. Exciting, if not slightly scary :-)) xx

AdoraBell Thu 23-Jan-14 12:20:41

In my head I have the weights in métrico, so one was 2.5 kilos (5lb 8 -ish) and 44cm, the other was 2.4 kilos (5lb 4-ish) 43cm. which was a damb site bigger than my own birth weight at full termwink

Try not To worry about them arriving a little early. I was told that twins often arrive early and mostly without complicaciones.

Just relax, follow the advice you Get from which ever medical person you are in contact with (sorry, I don't know the proccess for caring pregnant women in UK) and try To enjoy your pregnancy. smile

Chuddy3 Thu 23-Jan-14 12:05:13

Wow! That is my concern, that they really could come anytime. People keep asking me my due date. My reply is always technically 5th April but most likely anytime in March! Can I ask how much they weighed?

AdoraBell Wed 22-Jan-14 22:50:17

Chuddy, I saw my obstetricion in the afternoon, she examined me and said I was Nowhere near ready and would likey Go full term, told DH he could travél abroad the next day and not To worry about anything. They arrived the next afternoon, luckily before DH's flight was Due To leavegrin.

I had a dull ache like period pain all night which I Failed To realise was my cervix dilating, and then felt nauseas in the morning. DH said I looked dreafull, having Spent the previously 35 weeks telling me how stunning I looked pregnant. And the bump felt solid, like rock, even though I wasn't feeling any contracciones.

The week before I had an overwhelmng desire To bake, but didn't want To actually eat cakes. It was so strong that I waddled walked in 45 degrees with 98% humidity To buy cake tins so that I could bake cakes that no one really wanted.

Linguaphile Wed 22-Jan-14 22:37:25

Aww, congrats! I remember the day I found out, almost exactly a year ago today. You'll get used to the idea in no time--by Monday, the thought of having just one baby will seem incomplete. smile Don't let anyone scare you about the difficulties, expense, etc--being a twin mum is fab!

andadietcoke Wed 22-Jan-14 22:34:12

Congratulations! Mine are 5 months next week. I became mildly obsessed with vanishing twin syndrome because I had an early scan at 7w due to a bleed. Ended up having a private scan at 10w because I was so convinced it would all go wrong. It didn't and I carried them to my ELCS date at 38+0 - 5lb5 and 7lb13 (DCDA girls).

Enjoy your pregnancy and try not to worry (or google) too much.

Rootvegetables Wed 22-Jan-14 22:28:28

You are all so helpful, it's been a funny old day! I'm loving hearing about all your happy pregnancy experiences and the joy of twins when they arrive it's very soothing. Il continue down the kings path and see what happens,it dawned on me earlier that as they induce you early I could be having two yes two babies in 5 months ish, well done to you all, sounds like you're doing great, I'm resolving to get more sleep and drink more water from this day onwards so night all!

Slebmum Wed 22-Jan-14 21:51:34

Congratulations!!

All the nuchal testing for LBB is done at kings or Sidcup now I think. I was under PRUH, 12 week scan at Kings and then because my two were MCDA I was scanned every two weeks at Kings with antenatal at PRUH. I went on to develop TTTS and was treated at Kings. They were outstanding.

I was then transferred back to PRUH as the TTTS had effectively been cured and I have to say the sonographers and consultants did not fill me with confidence, they knew nothing about TTTS and multiples in general.

In the end I had my girls in Ashford as PRUH SCBU doesn't take under 32 weekers and none of the London Nicu units had space.

Did they tell you what sort of twins you are expecting? I would push for Kings if you can, afraid I don't know anything about Lewisham.

Congratulations again!

Chuddy3 Wed 22-Jan-14 21:16:48

Oh and how much did each twin weigh? Thanks. Sorry rootveg, don't mean to sabotage your post x

Chuddy3 Wed 22-Jan-14 21:14:13

Hi Adorabell, can I ask if there were any warning signs or did you just go into labour at 35 weeks?

AdoraBell Wed 22-Jan-14 21:05:13

Mine pregnancy was also smooth, other than morning sickness, carried úntil 35 weeks.

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