When to start maternity leave - pregnant with twins(45 Posts)
Hi all, my work have asked me about writing my letter to confirm pregnancy and when I wish to start my maternity leave. I know I need to get this in 15 weeks before my due date and as I am only 16+3 I still have a bit of time. However, before we found out we are expecting twins I planned to work to 38 weeks and then go on leave. I have now read (and been informed by my consultant) that they will probably arrive between 37-38 weeks (although I know some people carry to 40+ even with twins)
So my question is how do I know when to start my maternity leave? I work a 10-30 min car drive from work (depending on traffic) and do a desk job so the work itself isn't demanding or strenuous. But realistically how am I going to feel in myself and need to just stop? I'm worried I am going to be massive as although I have only put on about 8lbs I look like my cousins pg wife who is 24 weeks (I was a size 14/16 when I fell so am aware that some of my bump is the padding I already had )
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
I was put on strict bed rest when I was 25 weeks pregnant, and not expecting it at all. I even remember asking m obgyn if we could stay travel for Xmas (answer was no, bed rest means bed rest!). It's good to have a plan, but twin pregnancies are very challenging as you (will) know, so be ready for any abrupt change in plans. My id boys were born at 35 +5, weighting 2.56kg each, so the bed rest was def worth!!
Oh and hesto... What a whirlwind. Thinking of you. There is a poster on here called Rowan who went through the laser surgery and her twins were fine and safely made it to 30 something weeks... Might be worth dropping her a pm or something.
I only have 4 days left! Finishing this Fri at 33+6... I'm ready now, although home is less relaxing as I have a 2.9 year old! Then 3 weeks annual leave and mat leave starts the day before my c section at 37+3.....
I worked until 34+3. I drive 40 mins to work and sit at a desk all day, so although I wasn't particularly comfortable, it was manageable. I've now got three weeks of annual leave and mat pay starts at 38w as I'm hoping to have had the babies by then.
Week 35 was much harder work - I'd imagine weeks 36 and 37 won't be any easier, so I'm glad I stopped when I did.
I stopped at 30 weeks but my job did involve a very long commute on public transport. Just as well I finished early as my two arrived at 33 weeks!
Hi all, sorry for the slow response!
I was scanned again first thing on Friday morning and we then spoke to a lovely consultant (all good things people said about the staff at Kings proved completely true by the way!) who confirmed that one of the twins isnt growing as quickly as the other and it looked like they had TTTS. We were pretty frightened but the consultant explained that we qualified for laser surgery to sever the blood vessels that the twins were sharing, and that we could have it straight away. We knew this was fairly high risk but the alternative was to wait and watch things get progressively worse, so it was a no-brainer really. The staff were all very reassuring; we went for a little walk and then were seen for the surgery later in the morning.
It was amazing to be able to watch the consultant working on the babies from the inside; he severed 7 blood vessels through the amniotic sack of the largest twin and then drained some of the fluid from that sack. It was all over pretty quickly and then we just had to wait a few hours before they could scan me again to check whether the babies were ok. Theyre still holding on in there with pretty normal heartbeats, so well be going back next week to check their heart beats again and see whether the smaller twin has started to catch up. On a plus note, Im less tight and uncomfortable now some of the fluids been drained!
Were not out of the woods yet and the twins will continue to be monitored on a weekly or fortnightly basis for the rest of the pregnancy, but it feels like weve moved quickly in the right direction. I cant believe how fast all this has happened; Im in a total whirlwind of shock and uncertainty, but my OH has been wonderful, as have lots of other family and friends, and its lovely to be able to come on here and decompress too. Thank you for all the good wishes!
Finally finished work on 30 July at 5pm, babies born by induction (planned) on 31st! Was actually fine and basically meant I was paid up until my delivery date meaning I can have longer off work. Was 37 plus 3 weeks. Babies now 10 days old and wonderful, very cute and munchable. Everyone said how awful and hard work it would be, had such low expectations that so far its not been too bad. Obviously not long into it, and very tired from night feeds, but no more so that with my singular babies 1 and 2. Managing to dual breast feed. Good luck everyone x
Hesto, how did today's appointment go?
Hi all - I'm still here! I'm 32+6 today (with DCDA) and have one more week at work - yay!!! ELCS is booked for 37+3....
Hesto - I cannot believe they missed twins at the dating scan!!!!! Did you not have a later one at 12/13 weeks for Downs screening? We found out at the 12 week dating scan and were in shock for weeks (total surprise - we already have a DD!).
Hi RobotHamster and Franykins!
It's all been a bit mad to be honest, I've posted this on the December due dates thread already, but would appreciate some feedback from other mums-of-twins-to-be as well.
We found out yesterday at our 20 week scan. How far along are you guys?
The babies are both on the small side but, more concerning is that are looking rather different to each other at the moment. Theyre sharing one placenta, but are in separate sacks and one of them has less amniotic fluid than the other, so theres a risk of Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome. Weve got an appointment with a specialist at Kings tomorrow to investigate further and discuss options. Having said that, the fact that I havent had any adverse symptoms so far, and that both of them have reasonably strong heart beats bodes well. stay positive stay positive stay positive
I had my dating scan at 8 weeks and there was no mention of more than one baby at that point. Since then I feel like Ive been growing at a rate of knots but otherwise havent had any particularly unexpected symptoms. Not that I really knew what to expect with my first! Theres a large part of me that is feeling really indignant and wondering how on earth they could miss a second life in there with current ultrasound technology, but Im trying really hard to focus on the here and now rather than getting uptight about that.
Im not quite sure how Im feeling at the moment simultaneously elated and terrified I think! We were totally unprepared for the shock and had been rather blasé about the whole thing up to now, not really worrying about anything major and thinking about lovely things like whether to find out the gender and names etc. This feels like another level... TWO BABIES?!
Ah.. xpost. Didn't see original date of the thread
As far as I know (and have read it several times on here) you can always pull the start of mat leave forward from your agreed date, if you feel the need, but you can't do ittthe other way round (e.g. you couldn't tell them you're intending to leave at 34 weeks, and then decide to stay on and leave a bit later)
Planning on working from home from 34 weeks sounds like a good plan - I bet you won't fit behind the steering wheel after that anyway
Oh and meant to say I have decided to take maternity leave from 35 weeks, with a weeks annual leave on the front Feel relived now I have made the decision and can't wait! Only 10 more weeks at work
Congratulations hetsto completely understand how your feeling. How long have you known and how far gone are you?
I have come to terms with it now and can't wait, although I do still have moments where my head goes 'oh god its twins!' in a shocked way.
I love feeling them move now and have a good idea who is who
Is there anyone else still around who's pregnant with twins? ...We just found out and are still reeling a bit!
Well done everyone!! I'm now 31 weeks, still working full time, 10/11 hour days, then DD (2.9) and housework when I get home.... 3 weeks to go, then c section booked for 37+3... Phew. Keep telling myself that when the twins arrive I won't be 8 months pregnant with two very awkwardly positioned twins and I won't be out of the house for 11 hours, so it might not be so bad....
36 weeks, have had enough, but due to heatwave. 3 more days to go!
33 and a half weeks, still going strong working, first day working from home today, was lush! Actually did lots of work (amazing what you get done when no distractions) with the extra reassurance that I am still being paid.
My plan is to tell work I will come into the office until 34 weeks, then hopefully they will let me do 2 weeks working from home, then I can take a week annual leave and officially start maternity leave at 37. Working form home really means doing nothing haha, they won't know. Then if the babies come earlier than that I'll just have to start leave when they arrive.
Beachesandbuckets - that's really good news! I'm at 30 wks and still feeling pretty good. I expected to be in pieces by now. 20 minute commute to the office for me. I'm coping by taking holidays so I only have to do 3 day weeks. I'll be leaving at 32 weeks, taking 3 wks of AL, then starting mat leave from 35 wks (5th August). My brain is mush though! How useful I am in the office is a whole different story!
Just to update, now 32 weeks plus, and still going strong at work although have conceded and asked for special parking space near to my office babies both weighing 5lb so whoppers but managing to do 8ish til 5pm including management.
I finished at 31 weeks and I was done in. Very different from carrying singletons. I went to 36 with my first. I honestly would allow a bit more time before the end. Assuming you collect holidays during your mat leave you will probably find you are quite happy with the length of mat leave you have after the twins are born, but those last weeks at work can be a real struggle.
I'm 28 weeks and will be going at 33 weeks (technically starting leave at 34 as I've got a week of AL to use). I feel pretty good, and my part-time work is only a 5-minute walk away (turns out the London property prices are worth it when you're pregnant!), so I'm in a good situation. It is starting to get uncomfortable sitting at a desk for long periods, though! I think I'll definitely be ready to leave by 33 weeks.
I felt really good I'd say till about 30-32 weeks. The last few weeks were quite hellish. I was ill a lot, I couldn't drive anymore (bump too big!) and I had gestational diabetes, didn't sleep a lot either for a few weeks. It felt like forever, but I don't think it was that long! My babies were born at 37+1 (C-section) and were quite big. I'd had a pregnancy before which was totally fine, so it's hard to predict based on a singleton pregnancy.
The driving would concern me the most. I am 5'4 and had a HUGE bump, so my legs just couldn't get to the pedals! If you are taller you may be ok. And it does depend on the car. Sit in the car and see how much space you have.
Always worth a try BlueberryHill
That's promising beachesandbuckets This is now plan depending how I feel. I just want maximum time with bubbas after they are born, as I'm sure everyone does. I want maximise income as well, rather worried DP won't be able to have paternity leave due to finances, just hoping they will at least let him 'work' from home or pay him full for the 2 weeks. Just have to see what happens I guess.
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