Twins Club 5! All welcome! :-)

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mandasand Mon 24-Sep-12 00:35:44

Hello! I was a relative newcomer to the last Twins Club thread. I thought I should start a new thread as the last one I filled up with a bit of chatter towards the end. The last thread was really useful to learn from others also carrying multiples and to get the benefit of recent 'graduates' (when they had a minute between sleeping and feeding newborns!)

I'm 37 and 16+5 with twins. I live in Oxfordshire with DH and these are our first children!

Be lovely to get some chatter going on the thread so please come and introduce yourselves :-)

Dildals Thu 18-Apr-13 15:42:29

blending extremely good point on insurance! I checked and they don't cover any pregnancies >18 wks if they are the result of fertility treatment and/or multiples! Bit harsh!

It sounds like I could travel, physically, but I am not going to travel without insurance, that would just be daft. I could potentially look in to private cover, but the trip isn't THAT important!

Thanks for your replies ladies!

Cheeka Wed 17-Apr-13 20:45:47

I went to Florida the day after my 20wk scangrin although I did feel tired, looking back it was relatively easy compared to the last few weeks of my pregnancy. Just take plenty of rests...

Blending Wed 17-Apr-13 20:32:19

Oh and I would take confirmation that I was 20 weeks pregnant as I was nearly refused boarding on my return flight from Amsterdam when I was pregnant with DD and I was only 28 weeks- Apparently I looked 36+ to the staff on the gate!

Blending Wed 17-Apr-13 20:27:47

Well I felt huge at 20 weeks, but I did get a spurt of energy around that time. I would be wary about having to manage any luggage though. How long would it be for?

If its business class I'm sure you'll be fine, although it will be hard to refuse the nice wines and pates that they normally offer!

Make sure you get insurence that covers pregnancy related issues, as most exclude it.

Later on than 20 weeks though you might just be a a tiny bit uncomfortable but you can't fly after 32 weeks with most airlines when you are having twins anyway so a moot point!

andadietcoke Wed 17-Apr-13 17:20:10

I'm coming up to 20w and went to Cyprus at 18w. I stayed hydrated and in the shade and was fine once I'd acclimatised. It was a 5 hour flight which isn't far off what you'd be doing - if you're flying Emirates you'll have leg rests etc but asking for a bulkhead seat might be a good idea so you can get about more easily (unless you're flying business or first of course!).

Dildals Wed 17-Apr-13 14:04:35

Hi, Question time. I have a work trip that I need to plan to Dubai (hot). I will be 20 wks with twins at that point. I can move from aircon to aircon, that shouldn't be a problem. Travel will be business class, so pretty smooth. There's only a 3 hr time difference so that's OK too.

My boss doesn't want me to go, because she thinks I should just lie down in cotton wool.

Am I being silly to go on this trip? Or is the bump/tiredness still pretty manageable at 20wks?

Your view is appreciated!

shaydealmost4 Thu 11-Apr-13 15:58:59

Oh and dcda twins x

shaydealmost4 Thu 11-Apr-13 15:58:20

I know after my 20 week scan I will have 1 every 4 weeks and have to go for a consultation every time and hopefully I will be able to have a natural birth then as both of my previous were fine, am a bit gutted I probably won't be able to have a water birth cause I loved that 😊x x

Dildals Thu 11-Apr-13 15:30:51

Shay I am 13 weeks too, but I found out earlier, I walked aroudn in a daze for 2.5 days but I am alright now. It's our first PG though, bit different!

blending I read about Home Start, and am definitely going to call them too closer to the time! I will be rallying up all the help I can get!
I am really keen to find a twin midwife, although there is a twin clinic at my hospital there is no MW that specialises in twins, well, not that I have found. Also I do get the impression that hospitals will push for a CS rather than natural, which is a shame because the experience on how to deliver twins naturally is disappearing that way!

Blending Thu 11-Apr-13 14:34:27

It took us a while to get our heads around it...not sure we have got over the shock yet grin Dh particulary didn't take it too well, but hes is now looking forward to it...almost!

What type of twins do you know?

Does your hospital have Twin clinics? I go every 4 weeks and have a scan and see the twin midwife, so thats a positive that we get to see them more often than singletons. Its perfectly possible for most people to aim for a natural birth, as long as the baby who is due to come out first(known as the presenting twin) isn't breech and you havent had any previous complications etc

Theres is lots of support and information, even just reading back over the twin club threads has been useful, and organisations like T.A.M.B.A https://www.tamba.org.uk/ (Twins And Mutiple Births Associaction have useful information on their site, and can put you in contact with local groups.

Take a deep breath, and relax, just think twice the newborn snuggles!

shaydealmost4 Thu 11-Apr-13 13:44:47

I'm almost 13 weeks so I only found out 2 days ago it was a Hugh shock, I'm not looking forward to all the extra discomfort I had it bad enough with my other 2, do u know if its possible to have them naturally x thanks

Blending Thu 11-Apr-13 13:13:13

Butterfly I'm not really coping...but I've had some great advice on the pregnancy board on ideas of how manage a little better.

Hi Shay, how far along are you?

Err not in a position to give advice yet, but I have just been on the phone to Home Start and they are sending someone out to visit, with a view to having someone pop in a couple of times a week to be an extra pair of hands.

They provide help to multiple birth familys, and I was a little bit worried about contacting them, thinking as both DH and myself work so don't get any benefits but they were great on the phone and said its about support, not means tested or for families in crises.

I realised that with a toddler and 2 x newborn I'm going to need some help especially as I'm finding it hard already!

Other avenues I'm going to explore further are the local college for Nursery/Nanny students who need placements, again they can place someone with you for work experience a term at a time if you have twins. They cant be left alone with the babies but you can pop for a shower, make a brew, or grab some lunch whilst there is a spare pair of hands in the house!

Unfortunately Fortunately my family all work, so no support there except for my Mum and she had a stroke whilst I was pregnant with DD, so whilst she would be great not practical.

DH is Dutch, and whilst very willing his family are all in the Netherlands, so any help means they need to stay here which brings all sorts of other issues! ( Don't want SIL here whilst I've got leaky boobs, bleeding all over the place,hormonal as hell, tryinging to establish breastfeeding and still feeling like I should be hospitable etc etc etc) And it would only be short term help anyway, for a few weeks or so.

Sorry I've waffled on again!

shaydealmost4 Thu 11-Apr-13 11:53:23

Hiya I have just found out I'm expecting twins but I already have a 5 & 2 year old so I am slightly terrified, any advice on how to cope, thanks x

butterflyexperience Thu 11-Apr-13 07:09:12

Yes to getting hot at night, especially my feet!
It's as if I want to stick them into snow to cool them down. And my boobs!

It's so hard being pregnant with a 2 year old to look after as they are so young and still need attention

Do you have any help blending? Is your toddler in preschool or nursery at all?

Interesting that another is being induced at 37 weeks too...

Blending Wed 10-Apr-13 22:27:07

I'm booked in for 37 weeks too, but with previous medical problems, they wont risk me going any later.

I agree amazing to even get that far with the BF. I am promising myself I will be practical and not beat myself up, just because I managed before, this time it will be more difficult.

I'm a bit fed up now. I don't want to say anything that would jinx it like I want them out soon ...but the next 7 weeks can't go quick enough for me! (if I get that far... fingers and legs crossed!)

Struggling with my 2 yo now and losing more mobilty by the day, although some days are better than others.

Anyone else boiling hot at night?

butterflyexperience Wed 10-Apr-13 18:12:35

Thanks cheeka.
I may ask if I can go in at 37 weeks too...

Ebf one baby is hard enough let alone 2 so the fact that you have done several weeks is amazing!!

Cheeka Wed 10-Apr-13 18:07:59

Hi butterfly-i was booked in for 37 weeks because my hospital's policy is to induce twins at 37wks..
I'm still ebf the twins but I'll be honest, it's becoming a real struggle and I'm going to post soon on here detailing my woes and asking for advice...i keep willing myself to get through the next couple of weeks...

butterflyexperience Wed 10-Apr-13 11:30:32

Hi all

I'm now 26 weeks and feeling big! My back hurts with all the weight and my bump has dropped really low.
I'm now getting excited as we get closer and I'm being told the babies are doing well smile

Blending - how exciting 30 weeks!! How are you feeling about the impending arrivals?

Cheeka - lovely birth story thank you for sharing smile any reason why you had elcs at 37 weeks? I only ask as I've been told I'm too have mine at 38 weeks.
Think your amazing for bf I really want to but am nervous about the constant feeding and the sleep deprevation

Blending Mon 08-Apr-13 13:35:37

Thanks for comming back and updating!

Fed up doesn't cover it, I'm loosing my mobility, but the bump support band has been a bit of a god send, and really makes all the difference.

I'm now 30 weeks, and its all becoming a reality! I need to pull my socks up as I am not organised enough, I've got most bits for the hospital bags (ELCS bag for me, and baby bag for hospital stay)they just need throwing together, and DH is so laid back he is horizontal. His attitude is that if they arrived tomorrow, nothing would fit them anyway so he'd have to go and get other stuff anyway! I guess thats because with DD I ended up in hospital for weeks due to a Pullmonary Embolism, Pneumonia and Cardio Myopathy, so he just used to pop out for supplies as we needed them.

The amount of people who have been horrified when I said I was going to BF has surprised me, I successfully BF DD until 9 months, and the idea of double bottles, sterilising, and all the faffing that goes with it fills me with dread. I'm no super women, more of a slob, so its great to hear that it can work out, as I do understand that I will feel like Daisy the cow for the first few months, but hopefully I will reap the benefits later (Sod all the good it does 'em I want and instant supply on tap, at the right tempreture 24 hours a day, without all the messing about!)

I am prepared though, if it doesnt work out though to not beat myself up too much!

I have been signed off work, but officially start my holidays on Wednesday as I need to take them this holiday year, with ML starting on the 20th May, which is 9 days before I'm booked in for the section.

Sorry for such a long post!

Cheeka Mon 08-Apr-13 11:38:25

Hi there-I thought I'd be brave and post my birth story because I found them to be so useful and inspiring when pregnant with my twins...my beautiful twins are now 3weeks and 3 days...
I had an ELCS at 37 weeks exactly. DT1 was breech and had been so for weeks (my PFB DS was also breech so this was to be my second CS) everything on the day went smoothly, the medical staff were lovely and it was very relaxing though I was really nervous...DT1 came out squawking and she weighed 5lb 7, followed by DT2 who was also squawking grin He weighed 5lb 12. Because there were two, one baby got whisked away to another room for the initial tests-apgar etc. I was initially concerned but they reassured me that it was because of space issues! It was such a lovely moment when they were both handed to mesmileI did specify skin to skin but because I had to be patched up, I only got to see them briefly and then my DH disappeared off with the twins.i did get skin to skin after theatre and i managed to get them latched on briefly. Recovery post op was fine-hardly felt pain as I was topped up with painkillers, I would say I felt better this time round compared to my first CS recovery...what was noticeable (and still is) I felt heaps better - physically - AFTER the twins came out, I think I was really struggling in the last few weeks of my pregnancy. After recovery, I was put in a side room (1 bed) which made such a huge difference to being on a ward. Perks of having twins!!I stayed in hospital for 4 nights, they wanted to keep an eye on DT1's feeding and weight gain because she was just under 2.5kg. There was an issue with her blood sugars so she was being tested before each feed, every 3-4 hrs which wasn't much fun as they had to take a pinprick of blood from her heel each time sad i was also instructed to give her formula top ups after each bf.envythe twins started to develop jaundice during my stay but they deemed it was at ok levels when they discharged me. I am currently ebf the twins. It's going well but I have the usual doubts - have I got enough milk, is the latch ok, have they got wind or colic confusedsad...they were both cluster feeding with a vengeance last night, which I found really tough as I had to tandem feed them all night. They did have mini breaks-falling back exhausted and milk stained on my bf pillow grin-but it was pretty much full on.i'm finding the nights to be really tough. They sleep all day - broken up by feeds but at night they get really grizzly, can't settle despite looking exhausted...they cry quite a bit which makes me stress because my DS (2yr 3mth) gets disturbed by them. I've resorted to camping out in the living room to keep the noise to a minimum..My DH helps out but once poor DS is up, I send him off and then I struggle with the twins for the rest of the night. Im not getting much sleep, I snatch moments - nodding off over the twins as they bf on my pillow-or on the rare occasions they fall deeply asleep, I lay them in the crib and flop on the sofa for 1-2hrs.but in the main as I settle one, the other wakes up! But to end on a positive note, they are so lovely and cute and I'm very proud of them....smileapologies for badly written post-typing on my phone...

mandasand Wed 20-Mar-13 18:01:39

Welcome to those expecting twins! Exciting!

I'm re-posting this update-with-questions from another twins thread:

Seems ages since I've posted. Twins are 5 weeks today and chunky little monkeys. Both over 8lbs now. Compared with others I don't think they are bad at the whole sleeping thing, probably because they got into a reasonable feed/sleep routine before we left hospital. Trying to maintain that, but it's often thrown out when we have house guests wanting to prod and dandle them when they should be sleeping. That said, they have been more grizzly over the past week. Both v. snuffly and DTD (does this mean darling twin daughter?) producing pea-green snots. MW signed them off today and thinks DTS (darling twin son?!) has oral thrush, which could explain his grizzliness.

Anyway, I was back in hospital last week for a D&C for retained placenta - boo! Still bleeding, still crampy, and nervous about coming off antibiotics as when I did last time that's when I started to bleed and clot really heavily, resulting in being whisked off to hospital in rather dramatic fashion early one morning. FX for me!

Any advice on tandem feeding with formula? (Gave up expressing / stimulating paltry milk supply.) I have tried propping them up in a big sausage cushion turned into a circle, but I suspect there ends up being more milk in the muslins that in the babies! I wonder if 5 weeks is too early to try this trick? Maybe it's too early anyhow - when I break to wind one, the other either cries or falls asleep, etc and we all get out of sync.

Also would love advice / others' experience with having lost stomach muscles. They were about 6-8 inches apart post-birth and the inner workings of my intestines were magnificently on display! Thankfully, I'm now at about 4-5 inches and my intestines are more hidden away. Got a tubigrip and am trying to 'hold in' belly a lot, on advice of hospital physio. And got a physio who is also pilates teacher coming over for 1:1 session tomorrow (terrified both babies will be screaming at once - yikes!) Sorry for big, me-me-me post!

twintrimum Sun 17-Mar-13 19:58:29

Hi All, I've just signed up today and found this thread. I'm at 15+3 with (IVF)twins. Due in September but they will be here one way or another by august. Reading the stories of your new arrivals is getting me excited about it all. I have felt terrible all the way through - Dildals I am so jealous of you. I've had sore boobs since the first week, I've been sick most days for the last 10 weeks. I have had more energy and less nausea since I got into the second trimester but I still feel pretty terrible. I am really looking forward to my 20 week scan in about a month's time. I love it when my DH can come along and see them for himself, he seems so excited too and I love that - it makes all the sickness worthwhile :-)

Dildals Wed 13-Mar-13 10:24:40

Hi, Gardenpixie helpfully pointed me towards this thread. I am 9 weeks + a couple of days with (IVF) twins. Absolutely gobsmacked in the beginning but really excited now. Still nervous of things going wrong so am keeping fingers crossed till the 12 wk scan. In the mean time I will be lurking here and gleaning tips!

I was really surprised to find out it was twins, because I don't feel that pregnant at all. Had a bit of low level nausea & sore boobs in the beginning, but now I feel fine, maybe a bit more tired than usual, but nothing that I would notice if I didn't know I was preggers. Am I just one of the 'lucky ones'? Or perhaps it is still around the corner? Did any of you have v little symptoms?

andadietcoke Tue 12-Mar-13 17:17:15

Hello! Been lurking for a little while, but thought I'd say hi. I'm expecting DCDA twins in September and have had a second go at my scan today after they couldn't get EDD or NT measurements on Friday.

Round 2 went slightly better, but one twin is measuring about 10 days behind the other. BigTwin was stretched out though, and LittleTwin a bit curled up, so I don't know how much I should be worrying (I worry about everything). Has anyone experienced the same or similar? BigTwin was measured at 14+0 when I'm fairly sure I'm only 13+4, and LittleTwin at (I think) about 12+3.

mandasand Thu 28-Feb-13 08:55:45

Thank you, garden and digestives! We're amazed with our gorgeous little bundles!

Health Visitor came yesterday and weighed them, and their weights are fab now - clearly we're doing something right! Attached to the pump right now, with breakfast and tinternet. I find I don't get anything coming through till 15 mins in, and then it takes another 15 mins or so till I can (and not always) reach 10mls across both boobs. Hopefully the Domeridone will help but I've got a couple of days of antibiotics to finish first, then I can start!

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