Morning lovely ladies, Shabs ...........you are such a star xx Just going to start making phone calls to se if I can get anywhere today, first port of call is Deal Hospital where I am hoping the vascular team who had her admitted to hospital 4 weeks ago will be able to advise. Just can`t sleep for endlessly thinking about her and what I can try to do. Another dreary day here weather wise, kids in bed still, H in and out of the loo, thats something that doesn`t improve! Shabs posting Lews card this morning hope it gets to you in time .xx
Trips - good idea to phone. Get names of everyone you speak to and follow up with email if poss. I always think people respond better when you ask for their name and you then know who to ask for when you call back to politely check on progress.
Hi All, finally had time to get back on line, and found you all again. Trips - Everyone is right about being pushy- just keep phoning them until they get fed up- my friend actually went and sat in her consultants clinic and kept pestering them when she was getting no answers, however- you may find that there is no real solution if she is not fit for surgery. Chops - glad you are all over the puking, pity about the wedding, is there no way you can get someone to look after the kids? Shabs- I'm sure it will be "alright on the night" but what a shock for Dan and Em, Our friends had something similar last year, but it was the venue which went bust, not someone doing a runner - suddenly all these expensive booked and paid for weddings had no venue, food, music, nothing! Rubes - nice to see you. News here - course was good, well worth going to, came home to a house that looked like a bomb had gone off, and a mile high washing pile - Jubilee weekend- street party sunday a complete washout- everyone got too cold and wet and went home about 2pm- but my cake came 2nd in competition! DH pontiac still has not got engine back in- he is v pissed off with bloke supposed to be doing it, and taking his frustration out on me and kids, so we are avoiding him as much as possible at the moment. will miss another show Sunday, but forcast says heavy rain, so we wont miss much. Going away again on yet another course up on London next week, go up Wed night, back Friday night. Obviously my boss has a training budget she has got to spend very quickly, havent been anywhere for 2 yrs, now 2 in 3 weeks!!
Hi Bubs..........what an exciting life you lead Well quite a day. Phoned to speak to the vascular nurse who was the one who had mum admitted into hospital exactly 4 weeks ago today. He is on holiday. Spoke to his secretary to find out if any appointments as promised had been made for mum to see him. No. Then I got a call from Social Services, mums care manager and I told her my huge concerns and what exactly had been going on. She immediately said Mum must come home, was very concerned to hear how her leg had deteriorated etc. Most of the equipment mum will need is already in place at home, but she suggested getting a hoist as well. She also is setting up a care package of two carers in three times a day. Then I went over to see Mum with my brother, found her in her bed, she had had a very bad night with pain in that foot. She said she rang and range the alarm and no one came for almost 2 hours. Eventualy one of the young male nurses came and called a nurse, mum said she told them to get a doctor as she couldn`t stand the pain. This was at 6am just turned, the doctor (the homes local one) turned up at 11am! He just looked at the foot and gave them a prescription for some stronger pain killers and some antibiotics. It would also appear the the swab result we have been awaiting on has gone astray.............so two new swabs were taken today. I left her at 6pm and the new prescription had not turned up. So, good and bad news, hopefully once the rest of the equipment comes we can get her home, back under our excellent district nurses. Its all so horrible.
Morning Shabs, morning girls...............yes it must be awful for you to watch Shabs, there is an old girl in the home with vascula dementia, so sad to listen to her, she was a GP. I almost dread what today is going to bring, everything seems to change from day to day. Off to Dover this morning with H who has an appt to get his belt fitted for the hernias, only waited 7 weeks for it, it was of course an urgent referral! Kids all got eye tests this pm, so another exciting day!!
Shabbs - Wish Lew a very happy birthday from you cyber friends over in Suffolk, he will have no idea who we are, but best wishes and a are going his way Trips- Yes, v v exciting life here, Friday is meant to be my day off, so at least its 12hhrs overtime- they wont give me anything towards the extra childcare needed tho! So sorry about what is happening to your mum you need to speak to the care home manager and put in an official complaint, they have to investigate and give a reply, if you are not happy with that reply, you can take it a step futher with the licencing Authority. I must admit, I have done agency work in quite a few care homes, and many leave a lot to be desired when it comes to basic nursing care, often because the pay is so poor, they havent got either enough staff, and the staff that are there are either young and inexperienced, or from abroad and have some language problems. I have already said if my mum finally goes into a home, I have a very long list of "she goes there over my dead body" places, but social services think it will be cheaper to have her stay at her own place with 24hr a day care than go into a specialist home anyway! !
Hi Bubs...........I think really caring, well run homes are indeed few and far between. I am surrounded by them where I live, there are 5 within a 5 min walk, and all have their problems. Its a hard one as I think its going to be very hard on everyone to look after her at home, but......she is deteriorating where she is, both physically and mentally, in just over two weeks. My gut feeling is she should be in hospital for a few days in an intravenous drip of AB`s, I am terrified of this new infection getting a hold. The home want her to stay, say they can treat her, I have no confidence in them at all. I think we just need to get her home, get the DN in and let her decide whether this infection can be treated without going back into hospital. Todays other not so good news is about dh. He got a call from the Mac nurse today to say they had got the histology report on the tumour he had removed 3 weeks ago.The consultant removed 25% of his lung to make sure they had got it all this time. The histology shows that the tissue contains cancer cells right up to the margin, meaning that it is likely there are cells in the remaining lung. The team at Kings are going to look at all the results again, we go back to the onc in two weeks time for the outcome. It is likely he will be put back onto chemo He is very upset and worried, I am trying to remain and keep him positive but we both were convinced that because they had removed such a large margin that nothing nasty was left behind. What next?? Kale Nits xx
I know it sounds trivial with all the thing happening to you all, but I have just has the mother of all fights with M. All I asked him to do was tidy his room and put his washing away! Ended up with me smacking him hard on the leg after he had 1)broken his bedroom doorhandle, 2) thrown a £1coin at me and it hit me in the eye, 3)hit his brother and I so hard he left bruises, 4) bit me, 5)took out all his clothes and threw them in a big heap down the bottom of the stairs!! Finally calmed down when he saw me filming him in full rant, and doing a comentry about how he was behaving, and threatened to send it to his class teacher. She thinks the sun shines out of his backside, and would never believe what he can get like unless she saw it for herself! Now drinking the only alchohol in the house (Baileys!) R is away doing his car where else, and I am left to cope whilst also trying to work yet again!
Oh dear Bubby..........I don`t blame you, they are little sods these days. We all know they have far more than we ever did, most want for nothing, yet ask them to do something for you? No.I can never ever remember speaking to my parents the way these three speak to me, it all seems to boil down to respect I think. One of mine told their Dad 24 hours after he came out of hospital that he wished he didn`t have to have old parents!!! Well he has, and they gave him a life!! Went to see Mum this pm, she was very sleepy when we got there but perked up after a while. I took my hair tongs etc and did her hair for her which cheered her up. Dh is still very down about his news, he got a letter from the onc today asking him to go and see her next Thurs Rebecca wore contact lens for the first time today, she looked stunning. Have agreed to 10 pairs a month for social days and glasses for school, just can`t afford more. The optician said anyway that at 14 she wouldn`t recommend her wearing them all the time. So thats it.............another day in paradise
Lovely of you to do your Mum hair Trips. I wear contacts - have the monthly disposables.
bubby - we have a rule on this thread that nothing's trivial if it upsets us. We all have our ups and downs and this is the place to offload. It's horrid when things 'kick off' and it affects the whole family - I hate it.
Just back from Chelles - relatively sober We raided her daughters bedroom and found fantastic bright pink weights...her daughter is 22 and almost 6ft tall with an amazing figure. Chelle put on, over her clothes, a new bra and pants set she got - bright pink with white polka dots on. I rolled my pants up to my knees and we did a keep fit class for my Tom and her Morgan! They DID NOT appreciate our efforts - in fact at one point I thought they may both vomit!!
Bubby Im so sorry you have had an awful day. Trips I feel your frustration with the kids....being an older mum is not all that these celebrities make it out to be. Its bloody hard work. I know being a mum of any age is very hard work but an older mum is also very, very frustrating.
<<whispers>> about 8 weeks to Dans wedding and to Greece!!!!!!!!!! OPA!!
Morning all, last chance of a lie in before school starts and up with the squawking crows.............suppose you would like some breakfast? <<Trips opens fridge, takes out kippers, cold spuds and baked beans, takes skips thru cook book to get inspiration>>