Racism/bullying in school

[Mamaka]

Sorry if any of the following terms offend anyone, these are the terms my dh uses at home. Anyway...

My dc are mixed race. Dd has just started school. There is one other girl in her class who is black and the 2 have become good friends. We have had the friend and friend's older sister over to play a few times. The sister likes to come and hang out with me in the kitchen while the little ones play.

This morning the sister told me that she is one of 2 black girls in her class and there is another girl who thinks it's funny to call them by each other's names cos they "look the same". She said it really annoys her. I was caught off guard and didn't know what to say and then she changed the subject. I thought this was awful. If they were adults it would be racism. As they are children and I don't think children can have racist intentions as such, it is ignorance and bullying and needs dealing with.

If this were my own child I would go into school and speak to the teacher and ask them to deal with it appropriately, ie through education and not punishment. I might also try to befriend the other mum and talk about it with her. As it's not my child I'm struggling to know what is appropriate (I have poor boundaries in all aspects of life and am working on them!)

Should I tell the mum of the girl who told me? Or would this be breaking her confidence? Should I tell school? Should I tell the girl to tell school/mum?

[MohammedLover]

I would let her mum know the situation.