Hi,
I am 8 weeks pregnant and would really like some advice from anyone in similar situations as me and my boyfriend.
We have been together for 3 years. He is sikh punjabi (born here).
We have told our families, my parents being supportive yet his mum (dad has passed away) has been totally out of order about it.
She has said that she wants to disown all of us and would not even go to her son's funeral if we have the baby because we are not engaged or married. I have known his mum for 2 years now and have been so close to her. She has not once tried or made any effort for me to meet relatives or progress anything it's only been down to my boyfriend.
I am really hurt because I used to see her everyday and go to the house. I understand in asian families the in laws control the family but when they have asked about me and my boyfriend she denies it or refuses to talk about it.
She then says because we are not married we are nothing in anyone's eyes when my boyfriend and I basically live together.
I am so hurt and my boyfriend is too, I know of girls with boys who are asian and even those that are muslim were even more accepting than this! I can't believe it.
There is no way I am having a termination or giving the baby up for adoption. I will bring my child up to have awareness of both backgrounds and would never deny them of anything but this has really hurt me and I can't believe there are people like this who exist.
I am not a stranger or a one night stand, I know the family very well. My boyfriend doesn't know half of it as ive never wanted to get involved or cause anything as most relatives are fine with me except few who have never met me always slate me racially.
I would like to hear of some advice or anyone who is in similar situations
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Lulu3108 · 01/12/2014 00:26
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