Help with a play date with a Bangladeshi family

[mixedmamameansbusiness]

I have mixed heritage and DH's heritage is actually Bangladeshi.

DS2 is having a hard time socially in reception but has made friends with a Bangladedhi boy and would like to play outside of school. I approached his mum this morning and she doesn't have particularly good English and said she would ask his dad.

DH thinks it would be more likely to happen if they knew we were also a part Bsngladeshi household. But also we have a language barrier etc so am wondering how we can encourage the friendship outside if school without making anyone feel awkward.

I hope I have explained properly and don't sound like a ridiculous person, but DS2 just really can't settle with the other boys and really likes him.

[willyoulistentome]

Maybe she didn't understand what you wanted, and the Dad speaks better English.

My best friend at school was Bangladeshi. We did play dates all the time. Her mum didn;t speak a word of English, so it all went through her Dad. That was secondary age though, and they were the only Bengladeshi family in our otherwise all pretty much white Catholic girls school so they had clearly already made a choice to mix with non Bangladeshis.

[mixedmamameansbusiness]

I see your point. I will see what happens, perhaps DS could point her out to DH when he does drop off and he can explain.

There are a lot of Bangladeshis at our scho so I am sure we can work through the language issues.

My best friend was Pakistani and similarly there was language barrier with her family but we are still best friends, although most play dates tended to be at hers which is fine DS2 just wants to spend more time with this boy.

[SavoyCabbage]

Would your dh be able to talk to her, even just a bit so she knows.

[mixedmamameansbusiness]

That's what I am thinking Savoy, it might make it easier also maybe if I see if we can just go to the park after school or something rather than a play date.

I will wait and see what happens then take it from there.

[SavoyCabbage]

I've written letters to parents who don't speak English before now! And party invitations, translated. You could also ask the child to ask his mum if they would like to go to the park one day. I've done that too!