Hello,
My partner is Pakistani and we have a beautiful two-year old son. We have no bigger issues except that he is the oldest son and he feels responsible for his parents. This means that he wants us, and excepts from me, to live with his parents. He is just about to bring them to Britain.
On many occassions I have tried to talk to him and explain him why I can't live with them. I tried to explain him that I can't even live with my family and would not expect from him to live with them either. It is really nothing personal, but it is just how I am and how I was raised. I am also very independent and I don't have to rely on him financially.
This is getting sometimes so bad and I am so depressed. We have even talked about separation, but then I worry that he will go for the custody over child.
I suggested that he should talk to them and explain them the situation, but he doesn't even want to hear about it, because they allegedly wouldn't understand, and this is how they were brought up. I don't agree with this because they are both reasonable people, and personally I really have nothing against them. What hurts me the most is that they don't know what is happening between us, and how much this issue makes our relationship to deterriorate! Because of his attitude I fear I am developing a really strong hatred towards them, and even though this is not right, I can't help myself! Even when I think of them coming I get a very visible skin reaction. :(
How do I approach this issue? We have had some other issues as well, but we have sorted them out successfully.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
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quietus · 01/04/2013 16:59
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