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Feistybird · 07/11/2005 10:21

for this, but here goes.

My DD2 (3) were queueing in a shop the other day when a black woman passed us and DD2 said to me 'There's a chocolate lady mummy'.

I was horrified and really shocked, we live in a City in the West Midlands fgs, so it's hardly the first black person she's ever seen. I have no idea where this expression came from. It's not one I've ever heard, let alone used.

I had a little talk to her about this, and I'm hoping that's the end of it. But I wondered (just in case she ever says it again, within earshot of the person this time) what on earth would I say? How would I explain it?

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Tickle · 07/11/2005 10:34

I would say 3 is still a very observational age, where children say what they think! My children have embarrassed me with various remarks, including - 'look at that lady with enormous boobies' (regarding an extremely top heavy older lady)

But I usually just explain that everybody is different in lots of ways, but we don't have to shout it out in the checkout queue I don't think it makes a difference whether it's skin colour, body shape, height, hair style, whatever... we just have to guide the children to be more tactful as they get older!

LadyTophamHatt · 07/11/2005 10:42

I just say "Well, wouldn't it really really boring if we were all the same? we'd all look the same and we wouldn't know who was who"

Feistybird · 07/11/2005 10:43

lol at enormous boobies!

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Feistybird · 07/11/2005 10:44

Good one LadyTopham.

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moondog · 07/11/2005 10:44

Hmmmm,feeling is that we're all so paranoid of being racist that we daren't even point out obvious (and interesting) differences.

I would have smiled and said
'Yes,she is a lovely colour isn't she?!'

Gem754 · 07/11/2005 10:51

All kids do this. My parents love telling me how (at the top of my voice) I made the following observations:

"Daddy - that womans black!"

and

"Daddy, why's that man wearing a skirt?" (not a kilt, this was about a transvestite at the cinema)

Dad just said "Yes darling, she is." and "Because he wants too."

Although it's embarressing it is normal andpeople should realise that.

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