Happy stories please!

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Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 08:35:10

Thought some of the recent mc ladies might like to hear some positive stories so I'm starting this thread.

If you or someone you know got your happy ending please share on here.

I need something to keep me hoping and trying!!!

XXX

LouisaJF Fri 13-Jun-14 08:41:08

I had a MMC at 11 weeks and my world fell apart. I knew the only way I would feel better was to get pregnant again despite friends and family telling me to give myself time.

Two months later I was pregnant again. I know have a two year old son and an 11 week old son and they are perfect. I still grieve for the little one I never had but I see it as the price I had to pay for my two perfect little boys.

Hope that helps x

greedygal Fri 13-Jun-14 08:49:59

After having tried for a 2nd DC for 11 months, I had a MMC at 11.5 weeks. Devastated and panicky because at 38 . . . tick tock tick tock.

I fell pregnant during my very next cycle and have my 2nd DC who is 20 months & my family is complete : )

All the best Xxx

TinyTear Fri 13-Jun-14 08:50:24

I have a semi happy story...

Had 3 MCs in 2010, but then the recurrent miscarriage tests at St Mary's came back normal, and then I had a successful pregnancy and have now a 2.4yo who is perfect in every way (yes, even the tantrums)

Semi happy because I have had 2 more mcs after having her so I am going for further investigations (NK cells) but I wonder if my body will only allow me to have a perfect child and I have my one...

bakingtins Fri 13-Jun-14 08:58:03

Currently nursing my 3 week old daughter, born after 4 MC in total and 3 in a row, it's mainly thanks to Mumsnet that I didn't lose the plot totally and that I accessed the treatment I needed to carry to term. I don't want to worry anyone, the vast majority of women who suffer a MC will be fine in their next pregnancy, but even for the 1% who recurrently miscarry, there is hope. smile

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 09:17:25

So good to hear happy stories!

Louisa, congrats on your two boys. So good to hear things can and do work out.

Tinytear, so sorry for all your losses. Please don't give up, you've had one healthy pregnancy so there is still lots of reasons to have hope.

Bakingtins, thanks so much for posting on here. You were on of the first people I spoke to on here after my second mc and I'm grateful to you for being kind.

Greedygal, I'm 34 and really worry time is running out but your happy story at 38 gives me a lot of hope!

Xxx

jerryfudd Fri 13-Jun-14 09:25:19

I suffered an ectopic with my first pregnancy and lost a tube also. Few years of trying and following tests referred for ivf. First try successful resulting in twins. When they were one I found out I was pregnant naturally. None went to 3 within 2 years!

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 09:54:19

Oh wow!!! Sounds like you have your hands full now then hehe. Congrats smile xxx

jerryfudd Fri 13-Jun-14 14:20:32

Thanks. Yes we do but wouldn't change it (although am done at 3)

I had four miscarriages before getting treatment (aspirin and clexane injections) which allowed me to go on to have two wonderful DSs. Other health issues mean that there will be no more, but I am forever grateful for my two boys. I know at times I found it hard to believe that this would ever be the case so hope this story helps - and good luck for the future!

RaisinGirls Fri 13-Jun-14 14:31:38

I suffered a MMC last April after trying to conceive for over three years. It's no exaggeration to say my life totally fell apart. I was 38 and felt I was too old to get pregnant again. However I am writing this now as I am feeding my six week old baby gringringrin. I worried throughout the pregnancy but she is a beautiful healthy happy baby girl. I still grieve for the baby I lost and I will never forget that baby and my little girl will always grow up knowing about her big brother or big sister. What I've learned is never to give up hope. Hope got me through some very dark days that and the TTC after MC thread

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 15:24:47

DWR, so lovely to hear you went on to have your babies! Must have been awful suffering so many mcs and I'm sorry for those loses. I'm so glad they could help you though. Did you see Prof Q?

Raisin, congrats on your baby girl. You must want to pinch yourself to make sure it's real after all you'd been through.

I've been on holiday for two weeks and have run out of tasks / money so think there's been too much time on my hands today. I want to keep hope that I'll get my baby but it's so very hard after 5 years of infertility and 2 mcs.

Thanks again lovely ladies for being kind. I'm so thankful I plucked up the courage to join this forum! X

Catlover, no I was seen at the Southern General in Glasgow

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 21:00:47

Ah too far for me to try from the midlands then hehe!

squizita Fri 13-Jun-14 21:09:12

Not quite at the end of the journey but at 27 weeks after recurrent MC, tests and treatment (clexane). A relatively simple solution after several years of sadness.
Hope those who read this thread either never get to testing as they'll succeed before, or experience the "yes we can fix that" moment.

crazyboots Fri 13-Jun-14 21:19:17

2 MMC, 3 gorgeous DC. Time is most definitely not running out at 34. My first pregnancy was at 35 and last at 41.

Good luck.

Rummikub Fri 13-Jun-14 21:24:44

I had a mmc at 13 weeks. Devastated doesnt describe it. I was lucky to be pregnant 4 months later. She is an absolute joy.

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 21:25:55

Squizita, that's great news! Well done on getting to 27 weeks!!! Do you mind sharing what the treatment is for and how the problem was found? I'm always pushing for more tests. My FC is fed up of me asking so many questions but hey ho smile

Crazyboots, thanks for sharing your story and congrats. Mine were mmcs too. So hard to get your head around isn't it?! I hope at 41 I have three babies too. So so broody at the moment.

XX

Best1sWest Fri 13-Jun-14 21:31:20

3 MMC after 4 years of TTC. On the due date of my first MMC I found out I was pregnant again and went on to have a healthy and beautiful DD followed by a DS after another 4 years of TTC.

crazyboots Fri 13-Jun-14 21:32:44

Oh Catlover you sound very lovely and any dc will be very lucky to have you as their mum!

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 21:36:03

Rummikub, sorry to hear of your mc but so glad you went on to have a baby smile

Your words "devastated doesn't even cover it" sums it up for me too. How did you get through that time? I'm doing my best to cope but after a holiday and short break from think about it I feel like I'm falling apart again. House just feels so empty with no dc.

After my first mc in January family and close friends sent flowers and really kept an eye on me but the second one has been met with total silence. I feel like people expect me to just get on with it even though it was only five weeks or so ago. I worry I'm not handling things as well as I should be. XX

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 21:39:27

Thanks Crazyboots! So many lovely ladies on here and I include you in that. Really appreciate women who've had dc coming on here and sharing their story.

Best, wow what a journey you've been on. I'm sorry for your lows but so thankful for your highs. Congrats on your two dc.

These stories do give me hope. I just have to stay positive! XX

squizita Fri 13-Jun-14 21:39:52

Hugh's syndrome... Apparently 1/3 of recurrent losses are caused by it... St Marys have the most sensitive equipment for tests.

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 21:42:24

Never heard of that, sorry there is so much I don't know.,Is that an autoimmune problem or a genetic problem? Is it a blood test? X

crazyboots Fri 13-Jun-14 21:43:55

Its very hard Catlover, you just have to be very kind to yourself and remember its not tangible to other people, unless they've been through it and an awful lot of people don't know what to say as everyone responds very differently. For example, I desperately didn't want to talk/discuss/acknowledge it with anyone until sometime after, I was so focused on getting pregnant again, both times fortunately I became pregnant within a couple of cycles. Anecdotally this seems to be time of fertility (had tried for a year before one of my MMC and then fell pregnant immediately after).

clairewitchproject Fri 13-Jun-14 21:46:28

I had a m/c between DC2 and 3 and then 3 m/c in a row between DC3 and 4, all between 6 and 9 weeks. In my case, it was caused by very low vitamin D and was sorted by a 'rescue' dose and then weekly vitamins. Dc4 was the only one of my 8 pgs with no 1st trimester bleeding. Low vit D is very common and easily fixed so one to ask for checks for IMO!

Myfanwyprice Fri 13-Jun-14 21:47:08

I had a mc in 2005, but fell again 3 months later and ds was the very happy result.

Decided to ttc when he was 10 months old, went to my gp that summer because I kept getting positive tests and then would start bleeding, that happened 3 months in a row, all early mc's; was advised to give my body and mind a rest and went back on the pill for 6 months.

Started ttc again but without success, found out after some tests that a large cyst meant that I wasn't ovulating, was very lucky to fall for dd on my first cycle of clomid; my planned 2 year age gap ended up being 4 years, but feel very lucky to have come out the other side.

Just want to give hugs and hope to everyone on that journey.

Rummikub Fri 13-Jun-14 21:51:47

Catlover, I planted some flowers in memory and found a special place to remember my baby. It does hurt. I still remember now. Be kind to yourself through this. It's hard, really hard. Sometimes impossible. It does get easier to bear. thanks

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 22:04:52

Rummikub, that's a really beautiful way to mark it. I have a spot where I Iay flowers by the lake at the park where we got married but I haven't been able to face going back since my second mc. I think I will pluck up the courage and do that next week, might help.

Crazy boots, thanks for being kind. Yes you're right it is hard for people to understand and it is just getting through each day right now. I know things will get better in time.

Claire, that's really interesting and I'll ask my GP to test me for that. I love sunshine so would be surprised if it's that hehe.

I'm being tested for thrombophilia, autoimmune, kyptogenetics and thyroid, just waiting for results. Also had testosterone tests but they were all 'normal' so it's not pcos.

Myfan, I'm so sorry they made you wait so long with no explanation and I'm sorry for your losses. Pleased to hear you had a good outcome. I bet your ds loves being big brother even if the age gap is bigger than you'd planned.

XxX

Rummikub Fri 13-Jun-14 22:07:03

Yes go, remember and cry. It's ok to do that.

Catlover2014 Fri 13-Jun-14 22:15:15

Thank you I will do smile x

JBrd Sat 14-Jun-14 08:42:50

Thank you all for sharing your happy stories. After 4 mcs, I am starting to loose hope, but maybe it will still happen for me, too.

allisgood1 Sat 14-Jun-14 08:56:53

I had 1mmc at 8 weeks with my first pregnancy. Was told to wait 3 months, then got pregnant with DD (no complications). Got pregnant again and had a mmc at 6 weeks. Had retained "products" so had to have an emergency ERPC about 2 weeks after my first ERPC. Then waited 3 months, got pregnant again and again had a mmc at 7 weeks. Had ERPC. About 4 weeks later and no period, had a positive test but knew I wasn't pregnant. Had to have ANOTHER ERPC for ANOTHER retained "products". Pretty much gave up then but fell pregnant with DD2 and had an uncomplicated pregnancy (I did take progesterone and baby aspirin for this). Then out of the blue fell pregnant and am currently 28 weeks with DD3!

Catlover2014 Sat 14-Jun-14 10:03:56

Jbrd, im so very sorry for what you've been through. Know we've chatted on here before sad

How are you doing? Are ttc at the moment? I hit rock bottom yesterday but I'm trying to pick myself up today. Do you have terrible days? We have to believe that things will get better one day don't we?!

Allisgood, so sorry to hear what you went through but massive congrats on your 2dcs and baby on the way. Must keep the faith that those who've suffered mc can have a good outcome one day too!

X

squizita Sat 14-Jun-14 10:33:15

Hugh's syndrome is one of the 'sticky blood' disorders (one of the most common) so is picked up by 2 or 3 blood tests over 3 months. If you are getting blood tests I would assume most people would test for it as it is such a common cause of repeat miscarriage.
St Marys Paddington have the national centre in terms of testing and often pick it up in cases where local hospitals' equipment haven't, but in my case it was pretty obvious from the placentas.
Thankfully even in the most obvious cases it's aspirin + clexane during pregnancy giving a 65-75% success rate (so over 90% of those women have a baby on 1st or 2nd attempt after diagnosis if all else is well), and for some women, a heart aspirin a day when not pregnant. smile

Catlover2014 Sat 14-Jun-14 11:24:26

Thanks for letting me know!

I'm not having any repeat blood tests but they have already suggested that I take mini asprin if I get another BFP. No mention of clexane though.

I'll ask my consultant about it when I see him. From experience I'm not expecting to get much sense though haha!

X

clairewitchproject Sat 14-Jun-14 18:14:04

Yes I have heard post-mc is a fertile time. I never had problems getting pg, but both my younger children were conceived on the cycle immediately following a mc ( no bleed in between). I heard it is something to do with elevated progesterone post mc left over from the pregnancy,uteing somewhat protective. But it could be complete rubbish.

clairewitchproject Sat 14-Jun-14 18:15:13

Uteing? Should say 'being'.?

Catlover2014 Sat 14-Jun-14 21:58:28

Yes I've heard that too. My second pregnancy was straight after the first after 5 years of ttc but then I mc'd both times. Can't try now until I get blood test results back. Hope we don't lose baby making momentum! X

squizita Sat 14-Jun-14 22:15:06

Maybe they'll only bother doing the 2nd if there first shows signs of it? Do ask!

Catlover2014 Sat 14-Jun-14 23:11:54

I will do thank you smile

Hope all you ladies are coping with the World Cup. I'm sadly bored of it already!!!

Sisi13 Sun 15-Jun-14 09:48:58

I had a mc about 3 years ago we were devastated as I was 38 and thought I may never get pregnant again. Well I did 6 months later and after a wonderfully uneventful pregnancy our beautiful dd arrived. She is now 17 months old and playing in the park with dh as I type.
I hope everyone wishing for their happy endings get theirs.

Catlover2014 Sun 15-Jun-14 10:12:19

Thanks for sharing Sisi. Sorry for your loss but congrats on your dd. It gives me such heart when I hear of post 35 success stories!!! X

Kasterborous Sun 15-Jun-14 23:16:57

We had six miscarriages over four years. Then five years after the first miscarriage and my seventh pregnancy our gorgeous daughter was born, four months before I turned 40.

Catlover2014 Sun 15-Jun-14 23:32:52

Kaster, I'm so sorry for all those losses. I can't imagine how hard that must have been but well done for being strong and coming through it. So happy to hear you have dd after all that! Maybe I should keep on trying for a while longer

Thank you for sharing smile xxx

weegiemum Sun 15-Jun-14 23:42:27

I had 2 early miscarriages at c. 9&10 weeks before dd1 was born.

Then another loss at 13 weeks, but conceived ds straight away and he's exactly 2 years younger than dd1.

Dd2 was a complete surprise as I had a mirena.

They're now lolloping, hormonal, football obsessed bunches of pre-teen and teenager-hood!

Catlover2014 Mon 16-Jun-14 06:41:40

Weegie, thank you for sharing your story. Sorry for hear of your mcs but big congrats on your lovely teenagers! Gives me some hope after all we've been through. Xxx

escorpion Mon 16-Jun-14 16:25:04

Congratulations for all the lovely stories. Gives us all a bit of hope. Special congrats to bakingtins she has been helpful to me during my two MC. thanks And good luck to all of us on this journey!

ShoeWhore Mon 16-Jun-14 16:37:32

I had 2 mcs about 6 months apart. I found the first one very hard but the second was absolutely devastating. I was so scared and distraught and felt very alone in it all (dh was lovely but friends didn't seem to understand, I was the first to get pg)

6 months later I got pg for a 3rd time and had my lovely ds, textbook pg. 2 years later I got pg again, had a bit of a scare at about 11 weeks but otherwise easy pg and had ds2. When ds2 was 11 months old I gave birth to ds3 - that pg was so easy I didn't even know I was pg for 8 weeks blush

My big boy is nearly 10 now.

Gentle hugs to anyone going through this. flowers It's so painful, I know. I hope you all get your own happy endings very soon.

Catlover2014 Mon 16-Jun-14 19:50:54

Escorpian, what's your situation? Sorry if we have spoken on here before, I find it hard to remember names! You're right Bakingtins is a reminder to us all that it could go well. Hope that I too can come on here to support those who are going through this in the future.

Shoe, congrats on your children! All that hardship and loss and then all those healthy pregnancies, what a journey!

Thanks for sharing your feelings at the time too. I often feel like my friends and family think I should just be at peace with what's happened but that's really not possible for me right now. Some days I just want to curl up under my duvet and cry sad

XxX

escorpion Mon 16-Jun-14 20:36:03

Catlover Well I have had 2MC about 6 months apart in 2013, am going to start ttc soon but going to a fertility specialist to see if we can rule anything out first or if they can give us any advice. I am so scared to begin trying again as I don´t want to go through another MC. I have thyroid issues and anaemia but not sure if they have anything to do with my losses. Both biopsies did not show anything unusual. I am not in the UK by the way which has made things difficult being away from family. Sending you all my hugs and positive vibes for all us gals wanting to be mummies x

s88 Mon 16-Jun-14 20:39:32

I had a mmc at 9 weeks last year . It was my second pregnancy as I have a dd.

It was by far the worst thing I have experienced in my life. nothing has crushed me like that did.

However, after about 3 months we decided to try again and caught straight away and now we have our beautiful ds !

whydoIhavetodoeverything Mon 16-Jun-14 20:58:27

When I was 36 I had a mmc, was absolutely devastated, 12 months later I had (naturally conceived) twins. Don't give up, I still grieve my little baby but you're still young in fertility terms x x

LairyPoppins Mon 16-Jun-14 21:01:55

1 ectopic, 5 mc's before 12 weeks.

Had fertility treatment and twins at 35 (2 boys)

Now at 39 am 33 weeks pregnant with DS3 (surprise baby)!

Very best of luck xxx

Catlover2014 Mon 16-Jun-14 21:11:15

Escopian, sorry to hear that sad I imagine it must be really hard living abroad. I hope they help you to get some answers. I believe thyroid can increase risk of mc so it may be worth checking that out with the doctors.

S88 why, I'm so happy you had good outcomes after the difficult times! These are stories the ttc girls need to hear so thank you for sharing smile

Lairy, I admire anyone who can pull themselves back and keep trying. Congrats on your second healthy pregnancy. I've considered IVF but I'm scared I won't cope if it fails. I know I have some time yet, just scared because so much time has gone by without any success.

Fingers crossed that all the ladies on here get there healthy pregnancies and babies soon.

Hugs to you all

XxX

forago Mon 16-Jun-14 21:19:09

hi cat lover, really feel for you, it is so hard when you're in the middle of it. I had a mc at 8 weeks with my first pg after over a year of trying and was gutted (was Christmas bloody eve). I then got pregnant about 4y later with my 9y old and have now got 3 dc.

My sister has been trying for about 3 years and had 3 mmc. she is now 25 weeks pregnant.

My good friend had her first DC the same time as me. she then spent 5y trying to have another one and had 4 mmc, she now also has 3dc!

hopefully you will be looking back like this in 10y time. they both credit steroid and aspirin treatment for their successful pgs.

forago Mon 16-Jun-14 21:20:06

4 months sorry not 4 years

scarletoconnor Mon 16-Jun-14 22:06:44

I had a mmc in 2010. I can't explain why but I knew from the second I got my bfp I was going to miscarry. I did at 7 weeks.

I then got pregnant with my gorgeous Ds who is now 2. I had a bleed lasting 3 days the day I got my bfp. I was so worried it would end in tears but at 8 weeks I saw my beautiful baby on a scan monitor and cried my eyes out.

I ended up reacting badly to pregnancy hormones and went into renal failure. Some doctors tried to make me have an abortion for medical reasons I refused.

I had a traumatic birth and ended up on ICU but my beautiful boy made it all worthwhile.

I got pregnant again before he was 1 but lost the baby quite late in the second trimester (On Christmas Day ) I later found out that the hospital had severely damaged my cervix through negligent treatment when I had ds. They didn't tell me at the time in case I sought damages.angry

I got pregnant again 2 months later. I had to have my cervix stitched to prevent late miscarriage again. I went into premature labour a couple of times and finally had my gorgeous dd at 39 weeks by c section.

Due to how much damage I received at the first hospital when I had ds at my uterus ruptured during 2nd labour I almost bled to death (I needed resuscitation )and I can't have any more dc but my 2 dc are my little miracles and I couldn't be happier.

When you're in the thick of the situation its awful you feel like It will never happen for you. It physically hurts to hear of others having babies, not because you're not happy for them because you are. It hurts because you never know if it will happen for you.

But Miscarriage is so common, so common in fact research suggests the miscarriage figures are much higher than currently recorded 1in4 because people miscarry before they realise they are pregnant.

Anyone who is going through mc and ttc atm I'm so sorry if It has happened to you. I wish you luck with the future. One fact I clung to was that most statistics show that most women (about 70%) go on to have a baby within 3-4 months of their original due date. That got me through the early days with my Ds and Dd.

Another story (not mine) I had one friend who ttc for 11 years then got pregnant with twins, decided to try again had 2 miscarriages thought it wouldn't happen again and then got pregnant again. She had her dc and got pregnant (surprise pregnancy) when her 3rd dc was about 5weeks old. She tried for 11 years then had 4 babies in 3 years grin

Miracle babies do happen otherwise there would be no posts on this thread

thedevilsavocado Mon 16-Jun-14 22:17:41

After having DD at age 33 I had a mmc at 9w then another at 11w which turned out to be a partial molar pregnancy. Had to wait a year before ttc then had another miscarriage at 8 weeks. Got pregnant again but had several episodes of heavy bleeding and scans showed two sacs but one was empty. Thankfully the other baby was born safely when I was 38 and is my much loved and hoped for DS, now 5. I will never forget what a sad time it was and never stop being grateful that I have my two DCs x

Catlover2014 Tue 17-Jun-14 07:12:13

Thanks again ladies for sharing ur stories and congrats on your bambinos! I can't believe how much people have been through and I know the pain of losing a baby never goes away completely.

Feeling very emotional today at my two lost pregnancies and that I still can't start ttc until I get my blood test results. Really hope it's not too much longer, feels like I'm always waiting sad

XxX

I had 2 mmc in 2009 followed by a late loss of my darling boy in 2010. I was induced and had to deliver him. I thought my heart would never mend. Tests were done but it was found that we were just unlucky. No reason for losing him.
A few months later I found I was pregnant. I was obviously terrified about how it was going to go. I had lots of consultant appointments and extra scans to check baby.
A month early, after premature rupture of membranes. My beautiful dd was born, a year to the day after losing her brother. In fact, their times of birth were 10mins apart. I like to think she is a gift to us from her brother.
When it became apparent she was going to share his birthday, I was quite upset. This was his day. Now I think it is a good thing. It has turned a day destined to be filled with sadness into a celebration.
Dd1 has just this week become a big sister. Dd2 was born last week. She is just as feisty and gorgeous as her big sister. Time will tell if she will be as funny and cheeky too!
I finally feel my family is complete. I couldn't be happier.
Hang in there if you have suffered recurrent losses. It can happen my little snuggly baby and bouncing toddler are proof of that.

Catlover2014 Tue 17-Jun-14 11:43:02

Drama, I have just shed a tear for your little boy sad

I'm so sorry for that awful loss and your two mmc as well. I can't imagine how hard that third pregnancy must have been but I'm so glad your DS was ok. And now you have another one too hehe smile

You have given me hope and fight again. Thank you so much for your kind words xxx

weegiemum Tue 17-Jun-14 11:51:27

Something else I'd like to say (at home today with 10yo dd2 with dental infection) is that really, the pain of miscarriage can fade. I grieved horribly after my first 2.

My dc are 14, 12 and 10, and my mc were before the eldest and in between the first two. I honestly feel no pain any more, just a bit of wistfulness when I think about it. And sometimes I don't think about it for weeks.

I can see it's harder if you don't have dc, and I don't presume to comment in that situation. But life has gone on for me.

Catlover2014 Tue 17-Jun-14 16:29:56

Thanks Weegie, I hope you're right about the pain fading. Just found out about a colleague having become a dad this morning and had to sit and cry in the toilets at work.

Feel so sorry for my husband for choosing me when it turned out I didn't work. X

bakingtins Tue 17-Jun-14 18:02:09

Oi! less of that talk, catlover this is not your fault and I bet your DH would never think such a thing. The day I found out my little embies were perfect and it was definitely something wrong with me that meant I kept losing them was my lowest point. But it still wasn't "my fault" any more than it would be if my kidneys were faulty, or I had dodgy digestion or one leg shorter than the other. If there is something amiss,chances are there is also a treatment that can tip the balance in your favour. Chin up, look how many success stories you have in response to your post. No reason you won't have a happy ending of your own soon.

ruthsmumkath Tue 17-Jun-14 18:48:13

After 3mc (2 natural at 11 and 7 wks and one mmc at 11 weeks) - after aspirin and progesterone (aspirin until 36 wks and progesterone until 26 wks) I finally got my gorgeous dc4 2 weeks ago. I didn't believe I would get to finish my family and we are all so delighted with him!

Catlover2014 Tue 17-Jun-14 22:39:44

Bakingtins, I know you're right and I am trying to see the bright side. Just a bleak day I suppose?! Cried my eyes out today and I don't want to feel this sad anymore.

Ruths, thanks for sharing. Sorry for your difficult and sad times but great you got your babies!! Asprin has been recommended if I get another BFP (already on progesterone) so watch this space smile

XxX

kaisak Wed 18-Jun-14 10:57:18

I promised myself that when I would have my baby safely in my arms, I would post to one of these blogs and support other women going through the same despair that I had to go through.

I had 2 miscarriages in a row before the birth of my gorgeous son, now 5 1/2 months old. I was reading online about success stories after each miscarriage and it really helped. There are so many women out there who have had 1 or 2 miscarriages in a row and a lucky 3rd pregnancy. Just keep on believing and it will happen. I know how hard it is, but don't give up trying because in the end you will succeed and having your own baby will be the best gift in the world.

Good luck to you Catlover smile

Trooperslane Wed 18-Jun-14 11:04:14

2 miscarriages in 7 months.

One on my birthday and the other Xmas Eve. confused

2 more years of trying - nothing.

2 years of ivf/icsi and dd the result.

Finally, my wee miracle is here.

Catlover2014 Wed 18-Jun-14 14:46:44

Kaisak, thanks so much for sharing your story. I can't believe what some of us women have to go through and I am sorry for the pain you must have felt. So glad you got your little bab in the end though. Hope to be posting a good story on here myself one day smile

Troopers, sounds like you went through a lot to get your baby. It must have been such a hard fight.

Do you mind me asking how many rounds of IVF you went through? I'm tempted to try IVF but I can't access it on NHS because I've mc'd and where I live they won't pay if you've conceived in last three years. The IVF road is so expensive and we're just not that well off.

XXX

Trooperslane Wed 18-Jun-14 20:18:08

No problem Cat.

We did 2 ivf and 2 icsi. Unexplained infertility. We went for icsi in the end because statistically we were likely to get an additional embryo, which from memory we did.

We got slightly better results each time until dd decided she'd like to grow in my tummy.

Coincidentally it was when I felt calmest and most in control that it worked. (Though it wrecks my head when people say relax, it'll happen then. Oh really - if only it were so feckin easy!!)

We paid for it all ourselves - I have NO idea where we got that money from - weird things happened like randomly getting an £1800 tax rebate and hitting bonus in work for the first time in years.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for all the ladies who've lost babies. It's nearly impossible to bear.

anotherbitofcake Wed 18-Jun-14 21:06:55

2 mc - one at 7 wks one at 5. Both early but I was devastated. I didn't realise how common mc was but I still felt like maybe there was something wrong with me. Didn't help that friends all around me got preg first time trying.
Now I have a gorgeous 5 mo. Third time lucky.
I wish miscarriage was talked about more.
To be fair my dr and hospital were lovely. They sent me for early scan third time round to see if a heartbeat was present and were v supportive.

Annietheacrobat Wed 18-Jun-14 21:18:28

Hi Cat

I had 3MCs between DD1 and DD2. All before 8 weeks. I was referred to local recurrent MC team. No cause identified (though didn't get to the stage of NK testing etc). Advised to take low dose aspirin until 12 weeks.

Took it with pregnancy 5. Big bleeds at 6+3 and 10 weeks. Immediately thought the worse but amazingly the pregnancy continued. I stopped the aspirin though.

DD2 will be 11 months tomorrow and is an absolute joy. I really didn't think I'd ever have another child.

Big thanks to all on the mosh pit thread who helped me through some really dark and scary days.

Catlover2014 Thu 19-Jun-14 07:02:10

Trooper, that must have been such a difficult time for you. I'm sorry that you had to go through so much but it clearly was worth it in the end!!!

Another, sorry for you losses but congrats on your baby. You're right people don't talk about it enough. Miscarriage and (even more so) infertility are subjects you're expected to be silent about. I've found that silence very hard, no one at work ever asks how I am anymore.

Annie, you had such a hard time sad Glad you got there in the end though. If I ever get another BFP I have to take aspirin. Just dread what I feel is the inevitable mc #3.

Thanks again all for sharing. I'm trying to think positive. Xxxx

Annietheacrobat Thu 19-Jun-14 08:50:51

Cat - I really hope you get your 'happy ending' too.

jimijack Thu 19-Jun-14 09:18:05

Hi there.
I had 2 mcs then after 3 years had my son.

Then had 5 more mcs over a 7 year period.
Gave up as I was 42.

Went & got the pill from my gp after the 7th MC.
Waited for my period which didn't arrive. I thought I had retained products from my miscarriage as I felt so unwell & no period so nipped to epau to check.

Never wrote any dates down, I stopped all that after mc number 4 I think. No point.
I was 7 weeks pregnant.
I established that when I started to miscarry this one I should just go to a&e for surgical intervention.
Anyway, nothing happened.
I went for weekly scans and at nearly 43 years old I had a section & have my boy.

All of my mcs happened in hospital because I needed morphine & gas & air.
I had investigators in a specialist unit which were all normal.
Told it was my age & egg quality in all probability.

I cannot believe that I have 2 boys. I cannot believe that I have 2 healthy children. I look at them in utter wonder. Where on earth have you come from I ask them.

They are 11 & 16 months now.
Amazed every day.

Foxtrot7459 Thu 19-Jun-14 10:14:38

catlover thanks for starting this amazing thread - it's inspirational to read these happy stories at what is a really shit time. I just hope this thread stays active and I get to share my positive story when it happens.

A big thank you to all those who have posted xx

Catlover2014 Thu 19-Jun-14 13:05:17

Thank you xxx

Catlover2014 Thu 19-Jun-14 16:40:33

Jimijack, what an incredible journey you've been on. Firstly I have to say I am so so sorry for all the babies you have lost. I cannot imagine how hard it must have been for you and the grief you must have felt. Did you take counselling or did you manage to stay strong for DH and DC1?

Foxtrot, I agree it is amazing to hear these stories and it just surely give us hope that things can work out for us too one day. So hard to stay strong sometimes though isn't it?!

Thanks to everyone who has helped this thread. I am carrying these happy ending stories with me!!! XX

jimijack Thu 19-Jun-14 17:15:55

Funny but I became hardened to it.
I just thought "oh no, not again" and got on with it.

Wasn't strong, wasn't anything, just got on with it. Had a cry, raged a bit about how shit it was but I believe that everything happens for a reason.

Now its like it happened to someone else.
Didn't get counselling, not necessary tbh. I don't feel sad or traumatised or horrified now.
It's done & I have SO many better things to concentrate on now.

Every aspect at the time was horrific. My treatment in hospital surrounding me finding out each time, the actual physical act of miscarrying, the whole investigation into the cause of the miscarriage and the pointless attempt at trying to prevent miscarriage. The aftercare and the lack of understanding.

It's something that I will never have to experience again, so I come on here and offer advice from my experience in the hope that it helps someone. I had no one.

Kasterborous Thu 19-Jun-14 18:23:16

jimijack what a happy story, in the end. I can relate to you thinking about how you would 'deal' with your latest miscarriage. Me and DH had started doing slimming world for a month when I found out I was pregnant for the seventh time. My initial reaction - once I stopped crying - was to be really pi***d off that I wouldn't lose any more weight and just miscarry within the next six weeks, I was angry. Then nine months later our daughter was born, I couldn't believe it. I remember the fear of finding blood every time I went to the toilet for the entire nine months.

For all those of you on here who are still going through hell, I really hope you have a happy ending.

I could have done with a thread like this at the times I miscarried Catlover please try and keep hoping, I know how very hard that can be at times.

Catlover2014 Thu 19-Jun-14 20:21:18

Thanks for sharing Jimijack. It does help to hear from you. You must be a very strong person and the way you have come through it is impressive.

I really wish I was stronger and feel as though I should be better after so many years of infertility, it's not exactly new. Hopefully time will mend my broken heart.

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Catlover2014 Thu 19-Jun-14 20:22:42

Thanks kaster and congrats on your baby. Fingers crossed us girls who are ttc get sticky beans soon! X

Igggi Tue 24-Jun-14 23:09:52

Quite a common pattern with women who are diagnosed with high NKC - had one dc, then started the cycle of early miscarriages and had four within a year and a half. I threw money we didn't have at it, tried every treatment going, and had ds2 in my early 40s.
Life is very good now smile but I could still list the due dates of every baby who didn't make it. It's a hard road, and I wish everyone could get their happy ending.

Catlover2014 Wed 25-Jun-14 17:39:57

Igggi that's great to hear. I haven't started NK tests yet but if I do have a third miscarriage I will ask my GP to refer me to see Prof Q to rule that one out.

I'm going to go back on my fertility drugs and will start TTC after my next period. Really anxious as I feel worried I will miscarry again but I know it's something I have to go through if I want that baby in my arms one day.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how I might get extra scans / help if I do get a BFP? At the moment im being offered one at 8 weeks and another at 12. I don't feel that's enought tbh.

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