The royal baby handholding thread

(61 Posts)
Tricycletops Mon 22-Jul-13 10:14:24

I'm sure I'm not the only one struggling to cope with the constant baby talk today - come and rant away... I am hiding behind my well-known republicanism but I've just been called miserable for not being as excited as my colleagues. sad

Bezza2508 Mon 22-Jul-13 11:34:38

I'm with you. Going in for an ERPC tomorrow and its the last thing I want to hear about!

Tricycletops Mon 22-Jul-13 12:00:12

Really sorry to hear that Bezza. I hope everything goes as well as possible for you tomorrow.

Daisybell1 Mon 22-Jul-13 12:46:30

can I join please? mc 2 was due now so I'm finding this very tough sad

<unpacks pile of scones, jam and cream>

anyone else want to join me in a comfort eating cream tea?

Daisybell1 Mon 22-Jul-13 12:47:04

so sorry for your loss bezza - will be thinking of you tomorrow.

Tricycletops Mon 22-Jul-13 13:06:25

Oh Daisy I'm sorry - that must be really hard for you.

kjh5 Mon 22-Jul-13 13:08:59

I'm with you Tricycle and Daisy - flowers mc was two weeks ago (I was 6 wks gone), been coping ok but feeling really down the last 48 hours... DH just sent me messages asking if I am excited about the royal baby... erm does he not remember the devastation of the past 14 days? What makes him think I want to drown myself in baby news? I know he thinks he is being helpful but its difficult enough seeing preg friends on FB. I'm about to bake a massive cake and I won't feel guilty about how many slices I eat! Thoughts are with you both

kjh5 Mon 22-Jul-13 13:11:05

So sorry for you Bezza thinking of you... hope there is someone you can cry to about this? It feels awful at the time but just allowing yourself to be upset helps I find. Sending you hugs x

Helish Mon 22-Jul-13 13:15:23

Can i take a spot please. I was due last week but mc on Xmas Eve (best Xmas ever!) and have spent this weekend with the realisation that our first round of ivf has failed. The constant royal bump watch has been hard enough to cope with, but the realisation that it's going to be wall to wall coverage for the next week has hit pretty hard.

Think it's time to crack open the gin smile

ArkadyRose Mon 22-Jul-13 13:16:12

Daisybell1 I was due today too - lost it at 12 weeks in Feb, straight after losing one in Sept last year. I couldn't help thinking "It's not fair, that should be me."

I'm not in quite the same position as you guys but something about this coverage just makes me want to cry and cry. A colleague is also wittering on and on about her plans for an all-natural birth and I've just had enough today.

My thoughts are with you all, especially bezza.

50degreesintheshade Mon 22-Jul-13 13:23:11

Can I join please?
I am so sick of the royal baby watch, I need to go and live in a cave to escape!
This morning I received my first testing kit from charring cross hospital as I'm just getting my head around having a molar pregnancy. Then bam......Kate's in labour on the news! Crap timing I know.
Anyone for pimms?

Bakingtins Mon 22-Jul-13 13:32:03

I'll join too. Kate's pregnancy was announced soon after I lost a baby in September 2012, and I've lost another 2 since then sad. I have tried to avoid all news of her pregnancy as far as possible but it's not possible at the moment. I wish her well, but I wish everyone would stop talking about it. To be fair, probably she wishes everyone would leave her alone too!
Hugs for everyone that is finding it tough.

CountryMama Mon 22-Jul-13 13:38:51

I am thinking of you ladies. X

lucidlady Mon 22-Jul-13 14:21:54

Hello can I join you? Going through MMC just now (baby died at 6 weeks) and I am just furious with the world today. Hoping all goes well for Kate, but at the same time I am so envious and sad.

AngelsWithSilverWings Mon 22-Jul-13 14:38:04

I've been thinking about my friend today. She would have been due around now to have a long awaited second and I know she was thoughtful about the royal baby and how it would make her feel.

It's her DDs birthday today too and I'm not sure if that makes it better or not. I haven't asked how she is as I don't want to upset her.

Having been through a miscarriage myself ( after 8 years of TTC) I know that sinking feeling on hearing other people's pregnancy and birth news only too well.

Conina Mon 22-Jul-13 14:48:57

Mc2 would be due now. I also mc just before Christmas - the weekend mc1 was due. Mc3 was two months ago. Trapped in never ending cycle of mc, conception, edds and whenever I say anything to dp he just cringes. Today is also our anniversary.

I will certainly partake of scones, cake and gin.

I know I'll want to cry too when they announce it and I have no idea exactly what I'll be crying for. Ridiculous aren't I...

Apileofballyhoo Mon 22-Jul-13 14:59:27

With you all. MC happened in Jan and baby would've been due this week. I'm so sad.

Daisybell1 Mon 22-Jul-13 15:06:13

Massive hugs and hand holding all round.

I've got a counselling appt in 20mins - I hope there's plenty of tissues as I think I'm going to need them this time...

Bezza2508 Mon 22-Jul-13 15:14:50

It's so sad to see how many people have been through a loss. I am very tearful today and very nervous of what is ahead of me tomorrow (even though the logical part of me knows that the emotional part of this is going to be far worse than the ERPC could ever be).

I don't want to feel jealous of other people's bumps or babies but it is very hard not to be at the moment.

ArkadyRose Mon 22-Jul-13 18:01:56

DD3 just had an after-school playdate at her best friend's house, and the grandmother had BBC News 24 on. Non-stop Royal baby this, Royal baby that. I had to excuse myself and just go sit in the garden with the girls; I couldn't handle it. sad

Daisybell1 Mon 22-Jul-13 18:44:32

Massive hugs Arkady, its just relentless isn't it?

Daisybell1 Mon 22-Jul-13 18:48:20

Bezza - please don't be scared of the ERPC. I've had two - the first was absolutely fine, the second I felt like I'd been hit by a bus. The difference between the two? Oramorph.

Make sure they write on your notes that you can have this - its very good for both physical and emotional pain. They didn't let me have it the second time and I felt far worse.

Otherwise, the anaesthetists were particularly lovely. The first held my hand as I went under promising it would all be ok, and the second was happy to joke about whether white wine counted as a clear liquid or not, and therefore could be drunk before the op. It sounds silly now but I was desperate for something to lighten the mood.

Take care

Tricycletops Mon 22-Jul-13 19:04:46

Daisy the anaesthetist I had was also lovely. I think they must work on their random small talk skills!

Oh Arkady, that must've been rubbish sad

(Do I recognise your name from The Ladies Loos, back when I had a livejournal?)

I need to stop looking. I don't know why I insist on doing it to myself!

GherkinsAreAce Mon 22-Jul-13 19:09:32

Can I join you ladies? I am so sorry about all your losses sad

I had my mc in 2010 and was actually treated in the Lindo Wing, including having my ERPC there. So it holds very sad memories for me and I am not finding it very easy seeing lots of pictures of the front door and celebratory comments.

ArkadyRose Mon 22-Jul-13 19:55:34

Daisybell1 I am so very glad we don't have a TV at home! I'd been so carefully avoiding the news all day and then there it was, non-stop on the TV. And it was absolutely roasting in the garden - 30C even in the shade. I managed about half an hour then made my excuses and took DD home.

CommanderShepherd Hah, spotted! Yes, guilty as charged, though I left about 3 years ago or thereabouts. (Do I spy a Mass Effect fan perchance?)

I'm the same ladies - I had a miscarriage in Feb and June and on top of the royal baby news I just logged onto Facebook and the first 2 posts are 12 week scan pics - feeling sad as I should be 12 weeks with the pregnancy I lost in June :-( x

Daisybell1 Mon 22-Jul-13 21:36:50

More hugs all round, pimms or sloe gin on offer.

I actually feel better now its happened. I know there's a lifetime of photos to come, but at least this bits out the way now.

escorpion Tue 23-Jul-13 00:17:45

Will also join?? Started bleeding like a period today, so looks like this is miscarriage number two. First one was in February. Last thing I want to see on the news sad

Daisybell1 Tue 23-Jul-13 07:07:45

Holding esorpion's hand.

Have changed my mind on my last night's post. Its still shite sad

GherkinsAreAce Tue 23-Jul-13 07:15:03

Hugs to everyone. Very sorry to hear about all your losses sad

50degreesintheshade Tue 23-Jul-13 08:18:03

Hugs to everyone this morning.
Going for my first blood test today to send to charring cross :-(
I know how you feel mummytothearkbuilder, I too should have been 12 weeks xx

Bakingtins Tue 23-Jul-13 09:46:30

Escorpion I am so sorry to hear that.

Silverfoxballs Tue 23-Jul-13 09:49:04

It's a long time since my loss so the pain has eased though the sadness remains, I can remember not even being able to walk down the nappy aisle in Tesco.

Love to all.

Pawprint Tue 23-Jul-13 15:28:46

Holding your hands. My m/cd were long ago but I can't stand all this feverish excitement.

I also can't stick Carole Middleton and her cheesy grin.

Huffpot Tue 23-Jul-13 17:39:55

Can I join in too? I lost my baby at 18 weeks pregnant and my due date is Saturday so being flooded with the baby is not going to help sad

katatonic Tue 23-Jul-13 19:52:23

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Pawprint Tue 23-Jul-13 20:52:02

I'm hoping that now the child has been presented to the world and it's wife (and when we get the announcement of the name) the furore will die down.

Thinking of all of those grieving the loss of a much wanted baby. Also thinking of those coping with infertility.

I remember when Princess Beatrice was born and there was the same silliness. Who could have predicted how her mother's great popularity at that time would change to worldwide condemnation?

When Prince William was born, my mum said he looked like a boiled egg.

Irishmammybread Tue 23-Jul-13 20:54:20

Can I join in too? I know how you all feel.
I've had 4 MC since last year and think I'm coping ok most of the time but sometimes the grief and sense of loss all comes flooding back and it feels as raw as it did at the time. I watched Kate and William come out on the steps with the baby and seeing that little hand and tiny fingers fluttering from under the blanket did it for me, I couldn't stop the tears that came.
I wish them well but wish we had a little bundle of our own to hold too.
Love to everyone who's gone through a loss. x

50degreesintheshade Tue 23-Jul-13 21:19:49

Had a totally crap day :-(
When I saw those tiny fingers the tears just started.
The photo of a friends 12 week scan on Facebook was just too much to bear.
A bottle of wine and a bag of caramel nibbles later the tears have stopped.
I can't wait for my husband to get here tomorrow so I can have a good cry and a cuddle.
Here's hoping we all have a better day tomorrow xx

Tricycletops Tue 23-Jul-13 21:45:32

katatonic the republican button has been my friend too.

I'm so sorry you're all going through this, but it's comforting to feel less alone in not enjoying the hooha.

Weaselicious Tue 23-Jul-13 21:50:01

Hugs to you all. Had an ectopic three months ago and have only just gone back to work. So many pregnancies announced in the five days I've been back - work and on FB - and though I'm happy for them all (and Will & Kate) there have been a LOT of tears.

Nadalsballs Tue 23-Jul-13 21:56:11

Sending hugs and positive thoughts to you all. I had mmc and erpc about two years ago now. My close friend had her baby at the same time it was all happening. It was awful.

I have a lovely DD now and all of the ladies I shared a thread with at the time have also since had DCs or are expecting, so I'm sure it'll be you soon.

Sending lots of luck x

Pawprint Tue 23-Jul-13 22:10:06

It's hard because the whole world is happy and celebrating. The fuss is absurd, really.

My worst point was shortly after miscarriage no. 4 and five friends announced their pregnancies within a week. Ugh.

MabelMay Wed 24-Jul-13 03:46:23

Hey all - I'd also like to join. I've tuned out of all news for the next few days - can't bear it.
I mc'd a few months ago at 6 week and got pregnant immediately afterwards (in May). Went in for an early scan yesterday for what I thought was a 8.5 week old baby and found out the baby died around 5-6 weeks. So that's two MCs in 5 months. Feel so sad - 48 hours ago the world seemed a very different place - my hearts go out to all of you too.

Bakingtins Wed 24-Jul-13 07:02:24

V sorry Mabel. I was going to suggest Mumsnet needs a republican button too. I had a bad day with it all yesterday, even though I'm trying to avoid it the RB is everywhere.

Daisybell1 Wed 24-Jul-13 12:05:58

I'm so sorry Mabel, and yes, I agree with a republican button. Shall I be brave and start an HQ thread?

Daisybell1 Wed 24-Jul-13 12:22:19

I've been brave...


Daisybell1 Wed 24-Jul-13 12:23:05

Massive hugs Baking. I found yesterday bad too sad

CamomileHoneyVanilla Wed 24-Jul-13 12:28:12

Can I join in. Miscarried on Monday, confirmed yesterday. Second mc in six months. Feeling utterly shite.

I'm sorry to all you guys for your losses too. flowers all round.

Tricycletops Wed 24-Jul-13 13:58:40

Thanks Daisy. I've posted on your thread.

Camomile and Mabel, I'm so sorry. Thinking about you.

Daisybell1 Wed 24-Jul-13 16:52:57

Camomile, so sorry to see you here. I know what you're going through - I've lost three in a year. It is completely and totally shite. There's no other way of describing it. hugs.

I may have got a tinsy bit stroppy in the 'Republican button' thread [embarrassed]

Daisybell1 Wed 24-Jul-13 16:53:13

sorry, that should be blush

Secretswitch Wed 24-Jul-13 16:55:47

Love and hugs to you all. So difficult to have constant reminders off loss sad

MabelMay Wed 24-Jul-13 17:14:46

Daisy - I think you were right to get stroppy in the other thread. The initial MN response was way too glib and jokey - not appropriate. You gave them food for thought and at least that's something.

Camomile I'm in pretty much the same boat as you (2 mcs in last 6 months - found out on Monday this one, at 8.5 weeks, has not progressed). I'm so sorry for your loss.

Feel worse today - probably because initially I was in shock. Now that it's sinking in, having to confront the fact that all those plans for the next 8 months were for naught.

Holding everyone else's hand who's going through similar and feeling crappy. xx

TeaAndANatter Wed 24-Jul-13 19:31:47

Feeling very sorry for myself. Husband and I had decided to call the baby-that-wasn't-to-be George, and put a forget me not post on the MC Association meadow last month. Now I am surrounded by baby news, and the name 'George' everywhere presumably for the next few days. It feels like some horrible surreal joke - could this be feeling more painful right now, I know, let's put royal baby news everywhere! Still coping at work, I know, we'll call it George.

Sorry x

Pawprint Wed 24-Jul-13 21:04:48

Sorry about that Tea.

A girl I worked with was due the same day I would have been and I had to put up with seeing her growing bump over the next six months.

CamomileHoneyVanilla Wed 24-Jul-13 22:04:42

Oh Tea, that just takes the complete piss doesn't it. Really feel for you. Lots of hugs and sympathy.

Shite shite shite. It's not fair <stomps about> I'd quite like a good cry. Instead I just feel really low.

Lots of hugs to everyone going through a difficult time too. We'll get there, just taking a more harrowing route.

Daisybell1 Wed 24-Jul-13 22:18:01

Oh buggery bollocks Tea, I'm so sorry, that's so crap sad

Thinking of you and your little George x

Nobhead Wed 24-Jul-13 23:17:02

Been struggling this past week too. I MC'd my girl at 19 weeks in Feb and would have been due last week. Seeing that little baby all wrapped up and how happy Will and Kate looked just hit me again. I want my baby girl here wrapped up in my arms. Hopefully the media will STFU about it now.

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