Has anyone had 3 miscarriages in a row and then had a successful pregnancy?

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Jemimapuddleduk Wed 11-Apr-12 17:52:57

Hello we are dealing with our third miscarriage in 14 months after ttc number 1 for over 2 years. I am feeling pretty devastated at the minute and trying to boost my mood by hearing some success stories.
Each miscarriage has been different (first one at 7 weeks and happened naturally, second was a missed miscarriage dealt with at 11 weeks but didn't grow much past 6 weeks and this last one is a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks, stopped growing a week a go). This last time we saw a strong heartbeat at 6 weeks and then 7 weeks and were told this was a good sign of success.
We had the miscarriage tests after the second mc and no problems found. The fertility clinic we are under are suggesting steroids, high dose folic acid, and some drug thinning injections (along with progesterone which I had this time). Has anyone had success with these meds? Is there anything I should push for or do? I havn't drunk, smoked, had caffeine, exercised or had sex in either of the last 3 pregnancies. I don't know what else I can do to improve our chances and actually take home a real living baby!

Thank you

jammic Wed 11-Apr-12 17:59:22

Really sorry to hear of your experiences. You must be heartbroken. Whilst we didn't experience ant miscarriages, we struggled for a long time to get pregnant. During that time, I found Mel Davis' website/blog to be a real help. She blogs about infertility issues and has a list of other people's infertility blogs (the blogroll) - there are people listed on there who will have had similar experiences and might be able to help. The website is http://www.stirrup-queens.com/
Good luck xx

jammic Wed 11-Apr-12 18:01:28

And there are plenty of people on there who have had fertility issues and come out the other side with a healthy baby.

harrietlichman Wed 11-Apr-12 18:12:35

Hi Jemima - really sorry to hear your story. I have been a long time lurker/occasional poster on this board as I too am a recurrent m/c'er - having had three in a row over the last three years. At the moment I am 8 weeks pregnant, which is about as far as I have got with the other three, so am currently living on tenterhooks and terrified everytime I go to the loo. I have just been taking low dose aspirin (after researching it and reading about it on here) but not sure if it will help or not. I plucked up the nerve today to make a GP appointment for next week, which I am dreading, as on three occasions I have been given my midwife booking-in appointment and then had to call and cancel it, so have been putting it off. I don't know if this pg will progress or not right now, and I guess my story isn't massively useful to you, but just wanted you to know I completely understand where you are coming from. Good luck with whatevery happens next - I do think that this will definately be the last go for me, which in a way at least means I get closure of some sort, either way x

Jemimapuddleduk Wed 11-Apr-12 18:42:28

jammi thank you for that blog link, I will have a look at that. Dealing with fertility issues is totally draining and so isolating isn't it?
harriet I am sorry you have had multiple losses too, it's so hard to deal with and I think I will find it hard to enjoy any future pregnancies. The nurse today suggested trying aspirin as well next time round. I really wish you all the best for this 4th time round, do you have any early reassurance scans? I agree about the setting a cut off with the ttc, I said if I had a third mc I would call it a day as I found it so hard to get over the first 2. Right now I want to try again though. As we are also having fertility problems we have another 2 cycles IUI then 1 ivf cycle left through our local NHS fertility clinic, I think we will call it a day after that. We are both very open to adoption too, just want to give these other options ago. Again I wish you bucket loads of luck.

TheDowager Wed 11-Apr-12 18:47:16

I know someone who went 7 successive times for her 20 week scan and there was no heartbeat. Then she had two little girls one after the other.

Good luck.

harrietlichman Wed 11-Apr-12 19:23:02

No early scans - my appointment next week will be the first contact with anyone medical. I just felt that no scan would make a difference (though I know many people would have gone for one) and that I would let nature take its course and go with it. If I do make it to 12 weeks I will be dreading the scan, tbh, just because I am almost certain that it will be a missed mc, if I haven't visibly mc's beforehand. I honestly did just leave it to chance this time, no meds (other than the aspirin/pregnacare) no official ante-natal so far (though no alcohol/minimal caffeine, dietary precautions taken) as it's almost as if by not acknowledging it officially it will be ok. I know it's mad - it's a kind of self-preservation I think, so that I am prepared if/when I lose this one too. Other stories on here will give you (and me!) hope though - I will be watching out for a future happy post from you! Lots of luck to you xx

angelpantser Wed 11-Apr-12 19:39:09

My sympathies OP.

It took nearly 5 years of ttc to conceive DD1 and then I had three MCs between DD1 and DD2 - all at 6-7 weeks. I remember dreading going to the loo.

DD1 is 18 on Friday and DD2 will shortly be 13 so I don't know if treatment and care for "vulnerable" pregnancies is any different now. When I found out I was pregnant with DD2 my consultant prescribed HCG injections (I think they were weekly). BTW I also have a 5 year old DS.

Wishing you all the best.

Filofax Wed 11-Apr-12 19:45:10

Hi, yes I did well kind of. I had one mc then an ectopic followed by two more mcs then a baby! Then another baby! Very hard isolating time of my life. Did have a few chromosome tests and was about to take part in a study at a hospital in Liverpool but then fell pregnant. Difficult to hear there maybe nothing actually wrong but no success. I wish you well really, I remember feeling crucified when people would ask when I was going to have a baby, not realising how difficult a question that was. Xx

Pancakeflipper Wed 11-Apr-12 19:47:36

My sympathies too OP. My close friend had 4 miscarriages then had a boy. She then had 5 miscarriages and 8 yrs after her first child was born she had a girl.

She did go for tests but they never found anything wrong.

Wishing you lots of luck.

Jemima - I'm so sorry to hear what you've gone through. Miscarriage is just utter shit, and can take away your control and confidence in your body.
I had three losses in a row before DD1. It's been followed by DD1 and DD2, and I'm cautiously expecting no. 3. We never found a reason. I've taken prophylactic aspirin, progesterone, prednisolone and folic acid for my daughters, and for the first pregnancy I also had HCG injections. I really really hope your 'sticky one' is just round the corner. xx

Sorry, I seem to have counted DD1 twice blush

Jemimapuddleduk Wed 11-Apr-12 19:50:13

angel and filofaxer thank you so much for sharing your stories and positive outcomes, it really does help and makes me think there is light at the end of this dark tunnel! I am so glad that it worked out well for you both but sorry about your journey getting there.

harriet I totally understand with the concept of self preservation. I hope this time the scan is happy news for you. I hope to hear a success story from you too. Thanks for sharing your story xxx

Jemimapuddleduk Wed 11-Apr-12 19:55:44

Wow some more positive stories thank you! This has helped take my mind off the dreaded Erpc tomorrow.
frozen wishing you all the best for your third.
I am going to ask my consultant about the HCG injections as that wasn't mentioned today in the big list of things to try next time.

jammic Wed 11-Apr-12 20:19:16

It's so incredibly isolating but there are so many others out there going thru similar things. The online fertility community is a great place to find support to get thru. And there are so many success stories - it took us 3 years and 3 ivfs to get our little boy.

My heart goes out to you. I hope so much next time is your time. Xx

booboomonster Wed 11-Apr-12 21:22:54

Dear Jemima, so sorry you are having such a hard time of it. Just wanted to add that a good friend of mine had 4 mc in a row, then 2 healthy babies without any problems. She was monitored very carefully with frequent scans, but apart from that no other changes. If they have not found anything wrong, then you have a very good chance. Wishing you loads of luck.

I had DS1 (easily, no problems) then 3 first trimester miscarriages over about a year, then DS2 (conceived easily, no concerns during the pregnancy). I had all of the blood tests on offer after my MCs and nothing was found (didn't have any invasive tests). I was convinced that there was something wrong, but in retrospect it may just have been "one of those things". The only thing I did differently before getting pg with DS2 was to take a break from TTC - we left it 6 months from the last MC.

I'm so sorry that you are going through this, it's a heartbreaking situation to be in and even though I now have a happy healthy one year old I have not forgotten how difficult that period in my life was.

Jules125 Sun 15-Apr-12 14:14:52

I'm so sorry.

I had 3 losses (a stillbirth at 26 weeks due to pre-eclampsia, a MMC and then early MC) before I conceived my wonderful living DD (totally normal pregnancy).

So yes, I know how painful this is but there is definitely still hope

Rose50 Sun 15-Apr-12 16:49:34

I feel your pain but wanted to let you hear another success story. I had 3 recurrent first trimester miscarriages in 2005. I then had all the tests but no reason was found. At the time I wanted to find a reason as I felt that at least I would have an answer as to why this was happening to me. I felt so helpless and powerless to do anything to help my situation. I read an article about acupuncture helping women with various fertility issues and so wanting to do something to try to help my situation I started acupuncture in May 2006. My acupuncturist was very honest with me and told me he had not treated anyone for recurrent miscarriage before but had treated others who had struggled to conceive or who were going through IVF. I conceived again in September, but started to bleed at 7 weeks. Fearing the worst I had a scan at the EPU and to my absolute surprise and delight there was a heartbeat (I had never seen a heartbeat on a scan before). My beautiful, clever, funny daughter will be 5 next month and I since went on to have dd2 in 2010 without any further miscarriages. Whenever I find out someone has miscarried or a miscarriage is portayed on TV it brings it all back to me. I wish you luck and send you positive thoughts

Jemimapuddleduk Sun 15-Apr-12 16:55:04

jules, Rose, booboo and nearly, thank you all for giving me some hope.
Feeling very sad today and that has helped me a little. I need to get my positivity back and think onwards and upwards.
X

jus3351 Tue 17-Apr-12 23:06:19

Very sorry to hear what you're going through, I know how you must be feeling and it's a really horrid and very uncertain time, however there is a lot of hope.

I have had 9 miscarriages but now have 3 beautiful children, all conceived naturally and all born healthy. I'm now 42, however when I was experiencing the first miscarriages I was in my late 20s and was very deflated indeed and was at the point of considering adoption as really couldn't see us being able to have our own children. It was very frustrating when there is no problem getting pregnant but didn't have any idea what could possibly be going wrong time and time again. Each pregnancy ended between 6-8 weeks. I finally went to see Professor Lesley Regan at St Mary's Hospital in Paddington, London. She is an expert on recurrent miscarriages. She carried out blood tests on both myself and my husband and tests revealed two things: I had a chromosome disorder which was resulting in early miscarriage (further tests showed it was inherited from my father although he was perfectly normal and I couldn't have ever known this otherwise) and secondly I had anti-phosphilipid syndrome which is quite common and basically means that during pregnancy the blood thickens making it difficult for the blood supply to flow freely through the placenta and was given 75mg aspirin once daily and heparin which I had to inject each day from wk6 to wk32 to thin the blood. I kept telling myself to carry on and don't give up.

I don't know if this will be of any help to you but try to stay positive, I wish you the very best of luck, sure everything will work out just fine for you xx

jus3351 Tue 17-Apr-12 23:22:04

You'll find info on Professor Regan here:

www1.imperial.ac.uk/medicine/people/l.regan/

She knows everything there is to know about recurrent miscarriages. It wasn't very expensive to see her and worth every penny. xx

SofiaAmes Tue 17-Apr-12 23:25:36

I have a good friend who had 5 miscarriages before giving birth at 38 to a beautiful healthy boy (who is now 11).

Springforward Tue 17-Apr-12 23:29:02

A friend of mine had two mcs then DC1, then 3 mcs, then DC2.

adoremyfamily Tue 17-Apr-12 23:29:10

I had 3 successive mc and then 2 beautiful dd without any problems. Eldest dd almost 30 so am aware medical opinions change but I was told to take folic acid before getting pg, which I did. It was also routine to give women internals I felt my mc always followed an internal so refused during next 2 pg.

I know its hard but try to be positive.

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