I am 44yrs old, have 2 girls aged 10 and 11yrs and found out I was pregnant 16th March this year. This pregnancy was neither planned nor wanted at that stage. I panicked and was angry that myself and my husband had been so stupid and had put ourselves in this situation at our age. We should have known better!! We talked about our options, termination being the one that seemed to come out top as we reasoned that we were too old to have another baby, our lives were settling down again as the girls were now older etc etc. However, following an appointment at the clinic we knew that a termination was not for us and that perhaps another baby would be a good thing for our family and would lead us into another part of our lives, an adventure was how we looked upon it. I was well but worried as I kept looking at the internet for information about pregnancy in the "older woman" and things did not seem to be pointing in that much of a positive direction. Our families when we told them were supportive and excited as were we. However 2 weeks ago as I was approaching 10 weeks I started to get a brown discharge, not very heavy and had no pain or any other syptoms that a miscarriage could be coming. I had a scan and was told that either my dates were wrong or that I was indeed in the early stages of miscarriage. I knew deep down what was about to happen but tried to stay positive. My other 2 pregnancies had no problems so I wasn't sure what to expect. I started to miscarry in the early hours of last Monday and the bleeding seems to have stopped (as early as the Friday afternoon) and I am now back to normal. However, it continues on as we are all disappointed and sad about this other change in direction. Do we now just go back to how things were before I found out I was pregnant or do we go forward and try for a baby to carry on our adventure. This has opened a whole can of worms and emotions that I thought were long finished with many years ago. I am not the sort of person to coo over babies and hanker afetr a big family, I am happy with my 2 lovely girls. But now, we are in a postion to make this choice (given the fact that it may be possible to have another baby at my age). Am interested to hear if anyone else has been in this situation and what the outcome was. Some days it feels like torture.
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LunaticFringe ·
04/05/2010 10:57
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