After being ill all week with a cold that really got me down last week I then woke up on Thursday with stomach pains. By the evening they were so bad that I went to the local walk-in clinic and they were going to give me anti-biotics so pregnancy tested me as we had been trying for a few months. The nurse gave me the good news that I was pregnant and sent me home with a (free!) pack of anti-biotics.
I was so excited to be pregnant and the news was a little bit of joy after feeling awful all week. I'd had my period on 22/2 before so estimated I was 8dpo.
However that night the pain in my abdomen got worse and I fainted twice as I headed to the toilet. So we phoned NHS direct and they sent an ambulance round. They took me to A&E (on morphine) where I had to wait 4 hours for a doctor to see me. She was convinced it was an ectopic pregnancy but I couldn't understand how when the baby was so small. Then it was off to acute gynae ultrasound where they confirmed that there wasn't a baby in my uterus, but that my fallopian tube had burst.
Then it was off to have some very emergency surgery - I'd lost a liter of blood by then. They took away my left fallopian tube and the baby. Back on the ward they explained that I was actually about 8 weeks pregnant. I'd had my period because the baby was not in my uterus, but had been pregnant all the while.
I came home yesterday and am finally on my own. My family have been amazing don't get me wrong but it is nice to have some space.
This afternoon I've realised that I feel like I have lost a lot in the last few days. The litre of blood I wasn't that attached to. The fallopian tube is not that big a problem. But the baby I have such a whirl of feelings about.
I feel sad that I didn't know it was there - that it was doing what it was supposed to; growing, developing and everything and I didn't know. And it wasn't the baby's fault that it was in the wrong place - it didn't know. I wish I'd known about it - I could have celebrated it more. I also feel sad that it's gone so now I'll never know it. Something lived in me for 8 weeks and now is gone. Is it strange to mourn something that I didn't know was there until it was too late?
The other thing I've lost is my co-sleeping and breastfeeding with my DS1. 3 nights away and it would be silly to start again - particularly as if he were to accidentally kick me in the night it would hurt so much. I worry that he thinks I'm detached from him, and that it's his fault - where as there is nothing I'd love more but I know it isn't sensible. He's a clever boy and I know he knows that there has been something going on but at 19 months he is to young to understand.
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Ectopic Pregnancy - LONG
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nickymorris · 22/03/2010 17:38
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