Did you do anything to remember your baby by?

[onlygirl]

Iknow this is something you won't ever forget but i don't know what to do. Did you do anything?

[CMOTdibbler]

I have a necklace with what should have been the birth stones of my babies on it, and a little silver heart with footprints.

[spongebrainbigpants]

We lost twins at 7 wks, and I have a ring with two different colours of gold twisted together to remember them by. We also lost another baby six months later and we paid for a tree in the Fertility Forest to remember all three of them by.

Sorry for your loss.

[barbie1]

see my profile... i had a star tattoo on my wrist, it had a lovely meaning behind it when i googled it and so i thought it was very apt. Sorry for your loss.

[Habbibu]

Bought a Japanese maple to plant in the garden for dd1 = keep meaning to make necklace like CMOT for dd1 and the other little one we lost. We also have a special day every year for dd1's birthday.

[VJay]

I wear a ring on my little finger, it's just plain and simple to remember my 2 lost lo's. Sorry for your loss.

[clareanna]

I have a silver a necklace with letter charms on - one for me, my DH and DS and a star charm for my lost baby. I wanted something to remember the family I have, and never forget the one I lost. Maybe one day I'll be able to add another initial to it rather than another star.
sorry for your loss

[northlondonchoclover]

Will be getting a white rose plant to remember the 2 beans lost

[cece]

A birdbath to put into the garden outside my kitchen window. I like to watch the birds playing in it.

[Allthe8s]

Have my DD2s (mc @21 weeks) initial on my pandora bracelet and I am going to buy another charm for the bean I just lost (mmc 7 weeks).

[Lubyloo]

I just had my fourth pregnancy loss. DH bought me a cherub bead for my charm bracelet to remember them.

[nickschick]

We bought a stone fairy for our garden (i collect fairies).

sorryx

[kissmummy]

i bought five tiny white teddies for all five of my lost babies which i keep wrapped up in soft material in a drawer. I take them out when i feel sad about the miscarriages. I'd like a piece of jewellery but don't feel the 'story' is over yet - we are still trying for more children i may have a lot more miscarriages to come.

[sh77]

My baby passed away shortly after her birth at term. I have wanted to do something in her name. I am hoping to use my academic skills (just finished my PhD) to do medical research into health outcomes of sick babies. Never thought of it before she died. I had planned to carry on in my current area of research, which is totally unrelated. The perfect post has just come up and I am applying for it. Really hope I get it. With my recent MMC, I haven't done anything yet.

[neolara]

I gave a contribution to Oxfam to train a midwife in the developing world. I wanted some good to come from our distress. I also planted a very pretty bush which flowers at around the time the babies would have been born.

[Quattrocento]

No, nothing.

I hope it helps everyone else to do something though.

Just wanted to post to demonstrate that nothing is a valid response.

[Allthe8s]

I also held 3 coffee mornings to raise money for Tommy's the Baby Charity. I plan to more coffee mornings throughout the year, and will probably always hold one on DD2s birthday. So far just by drinking tea and having a biscuit we have raised almost £250

If you feel that you would like to do something for Tommy's have a look at their website. You can also set up a Memorial page. Tommy's

[BooPen]

my dp has a small black flower tattoo for each of our little ones. sadly there are four.
I am sorry for everyone's losses.

[MerlinsBeard]

I plant flowers every year on the date I mc (I don't garden) and I buy fresh flowers on what should be her (?) birthday. I now have a tatto with 4 stars on, one for each of my children (3 x DS and mc) Dh also bought me a heart locket this year because he ducked up royally with the flowers I planted.

I did nothing for a long time and realised that I needed to do something to be able to grieve properly x

[AllwaysDoingSomething]

We plan to do something to more permanent to remember the identical twin we lost. We bought 2 little polar bear decorations at Christmas, one for each twin. Haven't decided / seen my more permanent memorial yet, but looking for one that I feel is right is helping me overcome the loss.

[OtterInaSkoda]

What Quattrocento said.

[peanutpie]

I buy tiny baby clothes like a t-shirt or something. I keep them in bed with me, carry them round whatever I need. I give them a cuddle when I feel really sad.

Then after a while....I can put them into my cupboard and look at them periodically.

I've also had little services at my church.

Before my first miscarriage I would have believed that 'I wasn't this sort of person to need services and momentos'. However I have found them hugely helpful. Turns out I was super wrong about myself.

[TheFallenMadonna]

Nothing special for me either. But DH was unable to consider the boy's name we had in mind when it came to the next baby, which surprised me a bit. He was more affected than I was I think. I am quite detached in early pregnancy, whereas DH never thought anything would go wrong.

[Limelight]

We lost identical twin boys. Without my knowledge DH spoke to the publishers of 'the Broons' (which is a very old Scottish cartoon strip) and they sent us a beautiful picture of the Broons twins which is now framed and on our wall. The twins are happy, naughty, mischevious characters in the cartoon and so that's how we like to remember them.

Getting 'The Broons' / 'Oor Wullie' annual at Christmas is a bit of a tradition on my side of the family so DH was being very clever! I wept when I opened the envelope.

Incidently the publishers did it all for free and we had a really nice letter from them. The kindness of strangers!

[sunburntats]

no me neither.

I have had 5 mcs.
My first i will always remember because it was so significant and made the biggest impression.

Just wanted to move on from each of them.