stuck in cervix and unbearable pain
I suppose I just want to get this out somewhere. I knew I was going to miscarry last week and started bleeding a little Monday/Tuesday at about 10 weeks. Started bleeding more heavily with strong pains on Tuesday and had a scan Thursday morning. Was unable to sleep Tuesday or Wednesday night as the pain was very intense, in waves of about 5-10 minute intervals. Even with co-codamol.
Had the scan and was told that the sac was low and would be passed soon. Went home.
About 2 hours later I was screaming in absolute agony at the pains I was suffering. Was also going into shock because the pain was that intense. My DP called the EPU who could hear me screaming and told him to ring an ambulance.
They were fantastic and arrived very quickly but of course it seemed to take forever! Gas and air had no effect on the pain. I eventually was given morphine which lessened the pain between waves of still intense agony, then more morphine. 20ml later I was not feeling pain between waves but still feeling intense pain during contractions.
*A&E did not want to accept me because I was not a priority*.
Apparently miscarriage is not life-threatening and should be managed at home.
The fantastic ambulance men had a shouting match to get me admitted. I had a +15cm diameter sac completely full and unbroken stuck in the cervix which had to be removed, and my blood pressure was 45/25 and oxygen at 70%
Sorry this is so long but peoples reactions are making me feel that miscarriage should be dealt with a stiff upper lip and a couple of paracetamol and that I must just have a really low pain threshold.
Poor, poor you!
What an awful experience!
The hostpital were really out of order not to want to accept you.
I suppose I want to say yes I know other colleagues had just 2 days off work from their miscarriages but I feel that I will need a bit more than that as what I had was not the usual experience.
Is that justified?
I havent even started to deal with the emotional stuff still in shock from the amount of pain!
I'm sorry that is really rubbish.
Poor you and @ the hospital.
so sorry for your loss and that it was so painful and managed without sensitivity.
I've had two MMC and at no time did I have a stiff upper lip and only paracetamol!
I've found these MN threads to be a great source of comfort and shared experience as well as the misscarriage association
Take your time, wishing you all the best in your recovery and for the future.
Yes, it is very justified.
You have been through something quite horendous. I hope you can recover from this soon, but don't try to rush it, you need time to get your head around what's happend, and to recover physically, as well as dealing with your grief.
Absolutely justified to take more time and many people do.
For me, the first time I had a week off, returned to work, realised I was not ready and had a further week.
The second time was a little 'easier' (for want of a better word) but I still had a week of (while waiting for an ERPC and then a couple of days after).
So it was them being unreasonable not me being attention seeking? I dont know what to think but I know what I felt was totally unbearable and I honestly thought I was dying when I went into shock and dropped my blood pressure and my heart starting being irregular.
I was joking with one of the men, as you do when trying to distract yourself, (betting chocolate on what my blood pressure would be etc) and he asked if I would mind screaming in their waiting room for bit! The other ambulance man then said that they would take me to the next town if necessary .
Thank you Lynette and Minimarmite. To go into detested therapy-speak I do feel more validated now! (Ugh cant believe I said that! ;) )
EXACTLY the same thing happened to me after i had an ectopic preg (basically they zap you with a bit of chemo and the products come away as per miscarriage).
i genuinely thought i was going to have a heart attack and was going into shock, my dh found me passed out on the floor of the bathroom, pale green in colour and bleeding. he called an ambulance and my bp was unbelievably low (for me, because normally it's unbelievably high).
the hospital in my case were very sympathetic, gave me some pain relief and kept me in overnight to keep an eye on the bp thing.
make no mistake, i'm not any sort of a wimp, i'm the ooops i just chopped off my finger type, but it was horrific, that pain.
i'm so sorry to hear that your pregnancy is ending, it's a sad time, so much to take in, physically and emotionally. peace and strength.
So so sorry you went through this. I hop you make a quick recovery.
Oh god, this sounds awful, you poor thing. Please take things really easy - don't rush back into normal life, it's a major shock to your body and you need to time to get better.
I had a 'natural' miscarriage at 12 weeks and it was the most physically shocking thing that has ever happened to me. I also ended up collapsed on the floor through blood loss, rushed to hospital in an ambulance etc. It was a horrifying experience.
Would definitely recommend that you take things really easy, drink loads of water (I had v bad headaches through dehydration because of blood loss) and eating iron-rich foods, tonics etc.
I'm very sorry it's happened to you.
I wondered why I was getting headaches! Thankyou
OMFG UnderneathTheStream you were on the August thread? I am so so sorry to hear what you have been though that is just terrible! I am sorry to also ready of all you other ladies terrible experiences, it's just a harrowing thing to go through. Big hugs to you all ((((())))))) UnderneathTheStream you were certainly not being attention seeking! It is disgusting that we are expected to manage alone and are not considered a priority!!!!!! I think more should be done to prepare us for what possibly might happen or we might see and we should be offered much more support and pain relief. Not just told get some ibuprofen and you will probably experience heavy bleeding and it will be painful!
I am in the process of sitting and waiting out a natural miscarriage after having been told on Friday after mmc was confirmed that I can't have ERPC as I have a medical condition so would have to be done as an in patient and so I am not a priority (which to some extent I can understand physically BUT mentally it clearly doesn't matter that I had a late mc last year (20+5) so have already had to deliver a dead baby, almost died in the process followed by counselling for months!) It makes me so bloody angry, I was also told don't worry it will be nothing like before! (sorry a little self indulgent there)
When you are up to it although it may be hard write a letter of complaint to your hospital regarding your experience. It is just so totally unacceptable that you were not given priority! I was under the care of 2 hospitals when I mc last year and I complained big time about the first hospital as I received horrific care. My complaint was dealt with and investigated.....whether anything has changed I don't know I as I have vowed NEVER to step back into that place ever again and have changed hospitals.
Echo what MrsWednesday says about taking it easy, eating iron rich foods etc If you like spinach I have a great spinach soup recipe which will give you a boost.
Hugs to all you ladies. You are so brave. x
You poor, poor thing.
I am so sorry you are going through this.
The same thing happened to me about 5 years ago.
Thought i was going to die I was bleeding so much and in such incredible pain. Luckily for me, the hospital staff were extremely caring and compassionate (in A&E anyway!)
For me, the pain was actually worse than labour.
Please take care of yourself.
allthe8s and AB Sorry you had bad experiences as well. Medical staff should be more aware! yes I thought I was going to die from the pain alone let alone the blood loss! Once I got past the A&E reception the doctors I saw were all fantastic, however some nurses still seemed to have the opinion I shouldnt be taking up a bed just for a miscarriage I actually overheard that!
Well maybe if Id had the type of miscarriage they'd said I was going to have I wouldnt need an effing bed.
Tried to walk to the end of the road today (not far) and had to sit down on a wall and rest twice!
I dont think Ill be back teaching, on my feet all day, this week ..
allthe8s Im really very sorry for you I had a mmc previously the wait is awful mentally. I really hope you are ok through this.
UnderneathTheStream. I am very sorry to hear about your experience. I MC'd 9 days a go (day of 12 week scan) and whilst not as traumatic as what you went through, I have had 6 days off. I have another scan on Mon and then will go back on Tues = 7 days off. You should take as long as you need. It's a very personal thing.
I found that it took all my time to focus on the physical side for a few days and then the emotional stuff kicked in a few days later.
I have been taking an iron supplement called Floradix which I think has really helped me to feel as well as can be expected.
I really hope you start to feel better soon. There's a few of us who have been supporting each other over the last week so there's always someone to 'talk to'.
I MC'd 18 months ago and ended up having 3 weeks off work- I haemorrhaged, had retained products which the hospital manually removed from my cervix TWICE and a massive very painful infection- I also dealt with people who thought I was 'milking it'.Very annoying- I symapthise.
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