"Products" stuck in cervix and unbearable pain

[UnderneathTheStream]

I suppose I just want to get this out somewhere. I ?knew? I was going to miscarry last week and started bleeding a little Monday/Tuesday at about 10 weeks. Started bleeding more heavily with strong pains on Tuesday and had a scan Thursday morning. Was unable to sleep Tuesday or Wednesday night as the pain was very intense, in waves of about 5-10 minute intervals. Even with co-codamol.
Had the scan and was told that the sac was low and would be passed soon. Went home.
About 2 hours later I was screaming in absolute agony at the pains I was suffering. Was also going into shock because the pain was that intense. My DP called the EPU who could hear me screaming and told him to ring an ambulance.
They were fantastic and arrived very quickly ? but of course it seemed to take forever! Gas and air had no effect on the pain. I eventually was given morphine ? which lessened the pain between waves of still intense agony, then more morphine. 20ml later I was not feeling pain between waves but still feeling intense pain during contractions.
A&E did not want to accept me because I was not a priority.
Apparently miscarriage is not life-threatening and should be managed at home.
The fantastic ambulance men had a shouting match to get me admitted. I had a +15cm diameter sac completely full and unbroken stuck in the cervix which had to be removed, and my blood pressure was 45/25 and oxygen at 70%
Sorry this is so long but peoples? reactions are making me feel that miscarriage should be dealt with a stiff upper lip and a couple of paracetamol and that I must just have a really low pain threshold.

[LynetteScavo]

Poor, poor you!

What an awful experience!

The hostpital were really out of order not to want to accept you.

[UnderneathTheStream]

I suppose I want to say ?yes I know other colleagues had just 2 days off work from their miscarriages but I feel that I will need a bit more than that as what I had was not the usual experience?.
Is that justified?
I haven?t even started to deal with the emotional stuff ? still in shock from the amount of pain!

[Comewhinewithme]

I'm sorry that is really rubbish.

Poor you and @ the hospital.

[MiniMarmite]

UnderneathTheStream
so sorry for your loss and that it was so painful and managed without sensitivity.

I've had two MMC and at no time did I have a stiff upper lip and only paracetamol!

I've found these MN threads to be a great source of comfort and shared experience as well as the misscarriage association

Take your time, wishing you all the best in your recovery and for the future.

[LynetteScavo]

Yes, it is very justified.

You have been through something quite horendous. I hope you can recover from this soon, but don't try to rush it, you need time to get your head around what's happend, and to recover physically, as well as dealing with your grief.

[MiniMarmite]

Absolutely justified to take more time and many people do.

For me, the first time I had a week off, returned to work, realised I was not ready and had a further week.

The second time was a little 'easier' (for want of a better word) but I still had a week of (while waiting for an ERPC and then a couple of days after).

[UnderneathTheStream]

So it was them being unreasonable not me being attention seeking? I don?t know what to think but I know what I felt was totally unbearable and I honestly thought I was dying when I went into shock and dropped my blood pressure and my heart starting being irregular.

I was joking with one of the men, as you do when trying to distract yourself, (betting chocolate on what my blood pressure would be etc) and he asked if I would mind screaming in their waiting room for bit! The other ambulance man then said that they would take me to the next town if necessary?.

[UnderneathTheStream]

Thank you Lynette and Minimarmite. To go into detested therapy-speak I do feel more validated now! (Ugh can?t believe I said that! ;) )

[AitchTwoOhOneOh]

EXACTLY the same thing happened to me after i had an ectopic preg (basically they zap you with a bit of chemo and the products come away as per miscarriage).

i genuinely thought i was going to have a heart attack and was going into shock, my dh found me passed out on the floor of the bathroom, pale green in colour and bleeding. he called an ambulance and my bp was unbelievably low (for me, because normally it's unbelievably high).

the hospital in my case were very sympathetic, gave me some pain relief and kept me in overnight to keep an eye on the bp thing.

make no mistake, i'm not any sort of a wimp, i'm the ooops i just chopped off my finger type, but it was horrific, that pain.

i'm so sorry to hear that your pregnancy is ending, it's a sad time, so much to take in, physically and emotionally. peace and strength.

[sh77]

So so sorry you went through this. I hop you make a quick recovery.

[MrsWednesday]

Oh god, this sounds awful, you poor thing. Please take things really easy - don't rush back into normal life, it's a major shock to your body and you need to time to get better.

I had a 'natural' miscarriage at 12 weeks and it was the most physically shocking thing that has ever happened to me. I also ended up collapsed on the floor through blood loss, rushed to hospital in an ambulance etc. It was a horrifying experience.

Would definitely recommend that you take things really easy, drink loads of water (I had v bad headaches through dehydration because of blood loss) and eating iron-rich foods, tonics etc.

I'm very sorry it's happened to you.

[UnderneathTheStream]

I wondered why I was getting headaches! Thankyou

[Allthe8s]

OMFG UnderneathTheStream you were on the August thread? I am so so sorry to hear what you have been though that is just terrible! I am sorry to also ready of all you other ladies terrible experiences, it's just a harrowing thing to go through. Big hugs to you all ((((())))))) UnderneathTheStream you were certainly not being attention seeking! It is disgusting that we are expected to manage alone and are not considered a priority!!!!!! I think more should be done to prepare us for what possibly might happen or we might see and we should be offered much more support and pain relief. Not just told get some ibuprofen and you will probably experience heavy bleeding and it will be painful!

I am in the process of sitting and waiting out a natural miscarriage after having been told on Friday after mmc was confirmed that I can't have ERPC as I have a medical condition so would have to be done as an in patient and so I am not a priority (which to some extent I can understand physically BUT mentally it clearly doesn't matter that I had a late mc last year (20+5) so have already had to deliver a dead baby, almost died in the process followed by counselling for months!) It makes me so bloody angry, I was also told don't worry it will be nothing like before! (sorry a little self indulgent there)

When you are up to it although it may be hard write a letter of complaint to your hospital regarding your experience. It is just so totally unacceptable that you were not given priority! I was under the care of 2 hospitals when I mc last year and I complained big time about the first hospital as I received horrific care. My complaint was dealt with and investigated.....whether anything has changed I don't know I as I have vowed NEVER to step back into that place ever again and have changed hospitals.

Echo what MrsWednesday says about taking it easy, eating iron rich foods etc If you like spinach I have a great spinach soup recipe which will give you a boost.

Hugs to all you ladies. You are so brave. x

[ArizonaBarker]

You poor, poor thing.

I am so sorry you are going through this.

The same thing happened to me about 5 years ago.

Thought i was going to die I was bleeding so much and in such incredible pain. Luckily for me, the hospital staff were extremely caring and compassionate (in A&E anyway!)

For me, the pain was actually worse than labour.

Please take care of yourself.

[UnderneathTheStream]

allthe8s and AB Sorry you had bad experiences as well. Medical staff should be more aware! ? yes I thought I was going to die from the pain alone ? let alone the blood loss! Once I got past the A&E reception the doctors I saw were all fantastic, however some nurses still seemed to have the opinion I shouldn?t be taking up a bed ?just for a miscarriage? ?I actually overheard that!
Well maybe if I?d had the type of miscarriage they'd said I was going to have I wouldn?t need an effing bed.
Tried to walk to the end of the road today (not far) ? and had to sit down on a wall and rest twice!
I don?t think I?ll be back teaching, on my feet all day, this week?..

[UnderneathTheStream]

allthe8s I?m really very sorry for you ? I had a mmc previously ? the wait is awful mentally. I really hope you are ok through this.

xx

[WestYorkshireGirl]

UnderneathTheStream. I am very sorry to hear about your experience. I MC'd 9 days a go (day of 12 week scan) and whilst not as traumatic as what you went through, I have had 6 days off. I have another scan on Mon and then will go back on Tues = 7 days off. You should take as long as you need. It's a very personal thing.

I found that it took all my time to focus on the physical side for a few days and then the emotional stuff kicked in a few days later.

I have been taking an iron supplement called Floradix which I think has really helped me to feel as well as can be expected.

I really hope you start to feel better soon. There's a few of us who have been supporting each other over the last week so there's always someone to 'talk to'.

[littletortie]

I MC'd 18 months ago and ended up having 3 weeks off work- I haemorrhaged, had retained products which the hospital manually removed from my cervix TWICE and a massive very painful infection- I also dealt with people who thought I was 'milking it'.Very annoying- I symapthise.

[Hellofreckles]

Omg this literally happened to me yesterday! Started at 620am had emergency surgery at 530pm! Was medically induced on Tuesday nothing but light bleeding happened till yesterday.
The meds did nothing as you said. I was hardly bleeding - it was all stuck, was low like yours, only time I bled was during an exam and they pulled some tissue away I then covered the bed in a pool of blood that had been accumulating! Horrif HORRIFIC day, I was by myself as I’m new to the uk and no friends or family and my partner was at work. I’m so effing sorry a&e treated you like that! Morphine did next to nothing as you said! I came googling to see if what I went through others had. Was such a nightmare, it took the grief I had of losing the baby to being so grateful it was finally out and now I’m struggling at processing that it’s gone.

[Leahmaree]

The same thing happened to me today, thankfully it did end up passing on it’s own but was caught on the way through. The pain was horrendous, nothing could of prepared me for what I was going to go through. Heart rate was also 45 and went into shock numerous times. I hope from this experience I can one day help someone else

[Claireneild1]

Hi all I'm new to this stuff but in need of some help/ advise and might sound to forward but best I can write to expain
I recently had a misscarage at 12 weeks. I went for a scan as I was bleeding and there was nothing there I was expecting twins. One came out at home and had to to the hospital a week later because I developed an infectio ( that's when they told me I was having twins) and ones stuck inside the cervix. Anyways they give me tablets to try and let it come out that way had a examaations and they said I need a opp but a few days after they said I was fine it should pass itself but it's hurting really bad and still hasn't passed I'm so worried and uncomfy with the pains and everything and the hospital ain't doin anything about it. Any advise please

[KT1611]

Just reading all of your messages and my god I’m so sorry you’ve all had to go through this. I’m reading this post after going through the exact same thing and after all my
Googling and trying to get more information I came across this. Why is this not spoken about more to prepare woman? I found out our baby had no heartbeat at a private scan at 8 weeks 2.5 weeks ago on a Friday, I had to wait until the Tuesday to be seen and scanned by the NHS to confirm everything. They then made me wait another week to see if I started bleeding which I didn’t. So I went back the following Tuesday for medication to get things going. I had two days of horrendous pain and bleeding out huge clots, a few days of a normal period where I thought ok good this must be over with by now, but oh no! How wrong was I! 6 days later I’m screaming out in pain, being sick, passing clots and blood every ten minutes and ended up going to the hospital at 2am. The EPU team were brilliant I must say but I ended up being so ill and in so much agony that the doctor there and then opened my cervix and pulled out the pregnancy tissue which was stuck in my
Cervix. I instantly felt a relief and the pain went. Just at home resting now with a lot of heavy bleeding. Back to the hospital on Friday to make sure it’s all gone. It’s probably been the most distressing time of my life and I just think we should have A. More information about this available and B. I wish I’d had the option for a straight D&C. I hope all you Mummas above are now well and are ok. I hope you got the support and care you need xxx

[Cornflake24]

@UnderneathTheStream I had this too I was throwing up and even passing out due to the pain being so intense. I thought I was dying as I had never heard of this no one warned me! Did make me question how I'd cope with labour. Thankfully A&E took me in as I think I was annoying the others waiting and I quickly got transfered to maternity triage where I got put in a labour suite so my husband could stay. I can truly say the emotional didnt hit my until the miscarriage was over. I think the pain and discomfort were a distraction. I ended up seeing a counsellor and it really helped. I started miscarrying in July and finally got a neg test late Aug so I'm currently waiting to pee on a stick and praying I'm pregnant again!

[KT1611]

@ UnderneathTheStream I have everything crossed for you that you get the result you want.
I can really sympathise with you with all you went through. I also felt like I was dying! And likewise it made me wonder if I could even go through labour now.
I wish more people would share their stories so we are more prepared for this sort of thing.
I feel like I haven’t dealt with losing the baby yet either. I guess that will come once we have our final scan tomorrow to make sure everything has gone...
lots of love xxx

[Cornflake24]

@KT1611 I had an MVA where they removed tissue under local and still ended up going through a miscarriage, getting an infection and my cervix being blocked. I dont think there is any safe way. If you need someone to talk to im happy to share my experiences