Hello ladies,
Sorry if what follows is too much of a rant / TMI/ just all about me but I am just so devastated and not sure at all what to do except to turn to you for help/advice ...
I had a MC on Xmas day, would have been 7.5 weeks. Midwife managed to extract the pregnancy sac at the hospital and I got sent home. The little bean had probably died earlier on as she said it didn't look like a 7 week pregnancy. I had a MC in September, at 5.5 weeks. The first one came as a surprise, and was unprepared so had no idea how to pee on a stick etc. after 3 test kits of faint positive lines, I MCed.
First time was horrible but this time is devastating. I thought I did everything right - took folic acid, stopped drinking, eating sushi, stopped eating eggs sunny side up, stopped pilates classes, stopped running, cancelled skiing holiday, rested a lot, went to bed early, even abstained from sex.
Now I feel just empty and a complete failure. Sure, books, websites and well meaning medical personnel & relatives keep telling me its just bad luck and there's nothing I could have done. Nothing will be done until I have another MC. Not sure I can go through this again. It doesn't help that everybody I know seem to be getting pregnant with ease ( I know at some level this is a very stupid immature thing to say, but just found out that 2 friends are pregnant at first try )
Where should I start my research on causes of miscarriage? Should I be contacting private doctors at this stage? Is there likely to be something wrong with me? To the many ladies here who have gone through even more MCs, how do you find the strength to keep up hope?
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2nd MC on Xmas Day - what to do?
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northlondonchoclover · 27/12/2009 13:40
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